From Sonya Bennett
It’s So Hard to Say Good-Bye….
This title reminds me of the Boyz to Men song of the same name and can
apply to a couple of things for this article: saying good-bye to the LIC
Online Magazine, saying good-bye to pounds and the aftermath of that joy
(restoring your wardrobe, removing skin out and the whole
Though this is not a sad-song-singing moment for Large In Charge as an
entity, when I learned this leg of the BBW Online Empowerment Body is
ceasing after 10 years of laughs, information and personal experiences;
I had to chime in. It’s been five years since I had the Gastric Bypass
Weight Loss Surgery. Shortly after this magnanimous decision in my life,
I had the pleasure of being invited to share my thoughts and successes
as I shrunk almost 190 pounds becoming no-so-large and more-in-charge of
my life! Like my sister, Angie, I
also suffered from serious health problems which -- though it didn’t
appear to be the case at the time – paused my life. Existing in a size
30/32 clothing size, CPAP-dependent sleep apnea, medication-controlled
Type II Diabetes and cholesterol and, finally, a peripheral neuropathy
that stemmed from the Diabetes and threatened to take my foot; I still
traveled, dated, partied and enjoyed life!
It wasn’t until after the weight loss, though, that I successfully had a
strong, healthy baby at the age of 41, have been released from all
medications and am wearing clothing sizes between 12 and 14. As with
anything, there are up and down sides to this life-changing procedure:
hanging skin, learning to accept B-12 shots (I was never
insulin-dependent and have always hated shots!), low-iron which borders
on anemia and, and finally, changing my social environment.
Solutions: July 10, 2014, I had 15 pounds of back-pulling abdominal skin
removed (also known as my ‘apron’). In the near future, I will have the
skin removed that drags down my breasts and will try different methods
to tone my arms which I affectionately refer to as my ‘wings’. Though
B-12 shots – or any shot – are unpleasant, they supersede insulin shots
or other medicinal injections. I’m not thrilled with a gaggle of daily
pills: a multivitamin, iron, biotin for my hair and vitamin D once a
week; however, they replace my Metformin and Januvia (Diabetes) and
When you want to receive different, you have to do different.
All-you-can-eats and dining out socially have diminished significantly
as I’ve grown tired of ‘doggy bags’ that I eat for days later. Being a
new mother, (side note: often when your health improves, sexually-active
women are blessed with pregnancy, even in your 40s ) my partying days
have all but gone away and being integral in broadening the BBW Party
atmosphere in the Detroit Metro area, I miss my group, The Detroit Divas
and the in-state and out-of-state functions that we would host and
I will never regret having the Gastric Bypass and I will
always appreciate venues such as this and the LIC Radio Show that allow
people to ask questions and give feedback about semi-taboo subjects such
as weight loss surgery. In closing, a sincere gracias, staff and LIC-ers
(lol) for the smiles, tears and jeers on a 10-year platform that can
never be duplicated or replaced! Farewell for now….
From Angie Bee
This is it! I Got My Life Back!
Sometimes when you are starting a road trip, you focus on the long road
ahead of you. Your GPS tells you how many miles you have ahead of you to
travel, it tells you how many minutes it will take you to arrive and
sometimes you even see a long and winding road ahead. It seems like the
journey will take SO much out of you just to begin and there are times
when some folks don't even start because they can't seem to face the
In these past three years, my sister Sonya and I have contributed to
this publication on the topic of "getting our lives back after gastric
bypass surgery. This has been a long and winding road for us: we both
have been healed from chronic illnesses, we have had joys and setbacks,
our family has grown with the birth of my beloved niece Sandra and my
marriage to my anointed husband and now this chapter of our lives is
coming to an end.
With this final issue of Large In Charge Magazine, it is with praise and
joy that I can proclaim: "I’VE GOT MY LIFE BACK!" The journey has been a
wonderful experience. I began by sharing with each of you the moment I
was scheduled for surgery. I recall sharing with you that my 80+ year
old grandmother was in town to cook all my Thanksgiving favorites and
then the surgeon's office called to tell me to begin my liquid diet! I
remember sharing with each of you how my daughter cautioned me about
"swimming in my clothes" and to not only purchase new clothes that fit
me properly but to now see myself as others see me: no longer a
380-pound, chronically-ill woman. I shared with you how my first
skin-removal procedure resulted in a near-death experience and medical
setbacks that lasted nearly a year later and I shared my joy with you as
Bartee and I married and merged our business and ministry as one.
Now Bartee helps me to produce a TV show featuring special guest
interviews that take place during our weekly surgical weight loss
support group! Life is good. My health is good. I'm really good. I think
about the years that I spent sick and overweight. I know that I was a
good-looking large woman and I was content to be lovely; all of the
women in my family were large, so I fit right in. I decided to have
gastric bypass surgery not to become a "Skinny-Minnie" but to be cured
from the diabetes, high blood pressure, obstructive sleep apnea, the
overactive bladder, the poor leg circulation and the diabetic nerve
pain. I am now healed from ALL of those issues! I’ve got my life back!
Along my journey I've met people that have decided against having
gastric bypass surgery. Have you heard (or made) any of these comments
before? - "I don't want the scars" - "I don't want to take
vitamins/pills for the rest of my life" - "Friends or Family say that I
can exercise and lose the weight on my own" - "My aunts, cousins,
husband – I know people who have gained all their weight back... yadda,
yadda, yadda" . With these outside influences and thoughts, so many have
contacted me and stated they never started their journey and that is a
shame. They looked ahead and saw the unknown, long and winding road and
decided to just sit still.
What would have happened if my sister and I had not begun our journey?
My niece may not have been born! I would have stopped the TOUR Ministry
that we have now because of chronic illnesses. My husband may not have
looked at me twice, much less married me and I would still be injecting
insulin and taking a dozen pills, three times a day.
WOW! Large in Charge Magazine existed for ten years and I was honored to
have been a part of it for nearly four of those years. I'm excited to
watch the radio show and the Facebook project grow and I look forward to
publishing my next book that is based upon these archived articles.
When I look at my life now... I am so happy and content! The BMI
calculator says that I am still obese with a 34.1 BMI but I'm thrilled
by my curves. I'm honored that the Lord has seen fit to give me strength
and grace and beauty and good health and now I can see myself the way
others see me... I am truly a Queen! This journey has been a blessing to
me and those around me. I was ordained to be an evangelist and the TOUR
has grown from 6 members to over 40. My children aren't stressed and
worried about my former suicidal tendencies and the counseling and
medication that I am on now for anxiety and PTSD appear to be working
well for me with limited side effects. My daughters even joined my hubby
and I in decorating our Christmas tree while singing Motown Christmas
jams! Praise the LORD! Life is good.
I got my life back and I am ready for what is to come next!
Follow me on Twitter @HHHotspot and watch our TV show episodes "Angie
BEE Presents" on
Order the books and check out the TOUR flyers and photos online at
Become my friend on Facebook at MeAngieBEE and come LIKE our TV show
Keep listening to our Holy Hip Hop radio show, now celebrating 8 years
on the air! Join the group page at
Invite the TOUR to come to your area for a weekend and experience the
Holy Hip Hop concert, the Moms-n-Ministry and the Dads-On-Duty workshops
and keep us in prayer as we launch the new "God, Me & You" workshop next
year. Evangelism has always been inside of me... now I am a stronger and
healthier temple of the Lord in order to do His will.
Stay in touch, stay on the path that God places you on and never forget
to give Him all the praise through the good and the bad. If it is the
Lord's will, we will meet again soon.
Much love and BEE Blessed "Da Queen Bee" Angie BEE
Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &
The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE
Syndicated Holy Hip Hop Radio Show
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