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Issue #2 / April 2004
Welcome to the Large In Charge Newsletter
In this Issue of L.I.C
Large In Charge Featured Person
Big Connections CT founder Juanita Sanford
March 13, 2004
It was Saturday afternoon when we walked into the Westin Stamford Hotel located in Stamford Connecticut. Jay (Co-owner of largeincharge.com) and I both agreed it was just as the site promised. The staff was courteous, the atmosphere was elegant, and we were both happy. Next on my list, room inspection. From the moment I entered you can say, I was pleased. The extra plush beds, with 5 pillows each was more than comfortable. Our room being a double was not cramped. The standard bath room would be pleasing to any BBW, SSBBW, or BHM. I could spread my arms out, turn in a circle and not touch a wall. Tasteful black and white prints of Connecticut where placed in the rooms with information about each location. The Television was large, and you had the options of watching regular TV, purchasing Nintendo game time or purchasing a movie. Internet access is available for $10 dollars unlimited, and all of the furniture was of good quality and fashion. One large chair was in the corner, while another smaller chair was by a huge desk. The view from our room was pleasing to the eye as daylight filtered in. My favorite feature was the small wheeling table hidden under the desk. We had our dinner and snack party on that table, from one of the many delivery menus that are located at the front desk.
We knew Juanita picked a proper place for her BBW events when we walked into this establishment. Wherever steps were located there was also a ramp. Most of the seats in the lobby were wide and sturdy. The elevators were not a far walk from the front desk. On the second floor right by the elevator is where the Recreation facilities where located. There was a swimming pool, Jacuzzi, Weight room with lounge, plus a tennis court. You can say this hotel was definitely stacked with positives.
Now let’s talk about the Club. Inside the hotel was Juanita’s spot, “The Labyrinth Room”. My first thought was “WOW, this place is big.” When entering the club that are a few chairs, I saw a few people gathered and chatting. To the left was a large section with tables and chairs. I would say at least 20 tables were all equipped with chairs that had no armrests. Each table sat 8-12 people, and at all the tables were small bowls of snacks. Over to the right was a long bar with seats. The drinks were not watered down and for a surprise, they were a decent price. The bar overlooked the dance floor, which is accessible from a walk way right down in-between the bar and seating area. The dance floor was a good size and the music (which was off the hook) was heard through the whole club area.
I noticed a lot of people talking and smiling. It was shocking, since most parties I’ve been to have grumpy or bored looking persons sitting around. I’ve never really felt that the people at other parties were approachable. But this party was different, even though I didn’t know anyone there, I found people saying hello to me. I was able to approach females and males alike with out any problems. It was a mixed crowd, ages varied from 20’s to 50’s, mostly in the 20- 30’s age range. Racially there was a nice mix and everyone got along, people seemed to be quite friendly. It made me think that anyone who came to this party probably could sit down and have a conversation with at least 50% of the people in attendance. There were no fights or complications. I even helped out by dancing with another girl for the DJ as a birthday present. Overall it was the type of atmosphere that I can see myself attending regularly. Outside the Labyrinth room some people sat and had conversation on nearby chairs or in the expansive lobby. After the party was over, goodbyes were exchanged. Hope to see you again was something I heard over and over. Not only by Juanita and her friends, but by other people who I happened to have conversations with, or just an exchange of smiles and a few words. I sat on a coffee table in the lobby long after most people left, talking to a couple and a few other remaining party goers. Long after the party was over, I was still having fun joking and laughing. I didn’t get to my room until 5:30 am. Jay and I both agreed that the party was better than any we have attended so far.
Raqui of Large In Charge
JUANITA’S BIG CONNECTIONS FROM JAY
This is to all the FA’s in the New York City, and surrounding areas. If you have never been to a Big Connection’s party, you are really missing a good one! I can’t front on NYC because it’s my home, but for real, we don’t have anything comparing to Juanita’s events that jump off in CT. New Yorker’s might say that we have nice BBW/BHM clubs, but this place is a beautiful club and hotel rolled into one. It reminds me of a BBW get away, a retreat, or mini resort. The night was really all that and a bag of chips! Honestly, The DJ was impressive. All I can say is “we partied like it was his birthday” and it guess what it was!
From a males point of view, when you have big & beautiful women, a nice party, and nice attitudes from the people, that’s alright! But when you add that to the atmosphere at that hotel, it was perfect! That place is really fly. The hottest thing about the club, is that it goes down on a slant leading to the DJ set up. The DJ was located center stage, with the dance floor right in front. There is also a standing/seating balcony over looking the dance floor opposite the DJ. The price of everything was reasonable. The overall cost and distance to CT. is worth the trip for sure. I plan to continue supporting these events and encourage the entire LargeInCharge crew to put this spot on your calendar.
If I had to rate the entire trip, 1 out of 10, I would give that overnight event a BIG #8. The hotel was luxurious, the service was professional, the food was delicious, all prices were reasonable, the club was kicking, and the women were adorable. The two points off is due to the hotel transportation who claimed that they would pick us up from the Metro train station free of charge (but had problems) and the swimming pool that was the bomb! But was connected to the “out of order” hot tub with no water in it. (that was bootleg!) Otherwise, all was good!
Extra Thanks and much success to Juanita and the Big Connection staff for all the fun and hospitality.
Interview with Juanita:
Raqui: Hello Juanita, I'm so glad to be here.
Juanita: Glad to have you here.
Raqui: My first question is, where are you from originally?
Juanita: I was born in Hartford Connecticut.
Raqui: Have you lived here your whole life?
Juanita: We lived in Florida, we lived in South American, My father is Columbian. So we lived there for a year, and um…Basically Connecticut.. So we were here, .. then Florida, .. then Columbia, …then back here. I have been here since I was 14. So that makes it 30 years.
Raqui: So, you know this area pretty well?
Juanita: Oh, yeah. Really well.
Raqui: Are you an only child, do you have siblings?
Juanita: No, I am the oldest. I have two sisters and one brother.
Raqui: Is your family a plus sized family or are they slim?
Juanita: Most of them.
Raqui: Most of them?
Juanita: Most of them, I am the biggest, but my aunt is pretty big. My grandmother was pretty big, my mom is about 220. So I am the biggest.
Raqui: Are they a size positive family?
Juanita: Now they are. But they were not always. Like when we were kids my father was horrible. When he was around he was truly horrible. But he left the family when I was 18. He was pretty horrible about the weight.
Raqui: Were you always a large woman or did you kind of grow into it?
Juanita: When I was 170 pounds, I was like 11 years old… right. And I was not as tall as I am now. I'm 5’5.. I thought I was the biggest, fattest, kid on earth. Because my father made me think I was…you know. And then from dieting, basically…. I got bigger and bigger and bigger. I did this whole binge…diet thing, and food was always a bad thing. If I ate I was bad, and so then I’d eat more. I gained 160 pounds in a year and a half when I wasn’t dieting. I wasn’t skinny like other people, I used to starve myself that is how I stayed at 170.
Raqui: Have you become accustomed to your weight?
Juanita: Oh yeah, I mean.. I have lost about 110 pounds now. I am about 420, the thing is… I am fine with myself. The only thing I am not fine with, is how my body feels, the pain from arthritis, things like that. And there is no guarantee that even if I was thin, I wouldn’t have it… but I accept myself totally.
Raqui: We all know you started the events called Big Connections. What made you decide to start holding these events and when did you start?
Juanita: I joined NAAFA in 1990. You know what that is right?
Raqui: Yes. ( NAAFA - National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance)
Juanita: And my husband and I would go to parties. I couldn’t believe it. I would say “oh my god!” “look at what she is wearing!” and I couldn’t believe it, there were big women who were actually ok with themselves... you know. Just a place where you felt comfortable. I used to be the Chair of the Connecticut chapter of NAAFA. I came to this hotel, it was a Sheridan then, and I saw this Club, I said “Oh God, this would be so good for parties”. I started it up with an affiliate first, but that didn’t work out. So then I started doing the parties on my own. It changed my life and the life of so many others. To come to place that’s positive, where they don’t feel uncomfortable, where they can dress sexy, if they want a lap dance they can have or give a lap dance. You know what I mean? It’s a comfortable place to be, where men appreciate and prefer big women. The skinny women, they don’t even look at.
Raqui: I see you have great following. At first was it hard to get people to come to the parties?
Juanita: Oh yeah, we used to be, like, thrilled if we have 50 people. You used to be sweating it to get 50 – 60 people. As the years went on and the word got out that the parties were fun. When I started on my own I had them once a month, now I have them twice a month. We have a pretty good crowd at this spot tonight; we have almost 200 people tonight. On average here in Stamford we have about that I say. Last party it was 270. Memorial Day it will be off the hook. We will have two day parties on holiday weekends, Memorial Day, Labor Day, New Year’s Eve weekend. That is when we have two day parties. We have them here in Stamford and White Plains.
Raqui: The environment you provide is a much different than other parties I have been to. What do you strive to attain when you pick a location for your party?
Juanita: First of all I want it to be handicap accessible. So it is all one level not 50 billion stairs, because some girls just can do them. I don’t think it is fair to have a party in a place where people have to do all those stairs. If I ever have a place that had stairs, if I had to have a place with stairs, if there was no other place. I would let people know this. To make them aware, in case there ability is affected. So people know when they come to my parties it is a place they can come to. I make sure the pools have the walk down stairs not the ladders. It is important, I know to me it is. I mean I am a SSBBW (Super Sized Big Beautiful Woman) and a lot of places aren’t good for SSBBW’s.
Raqui: I heard at one of your next parties you will have a vendor’s area, can’t you tell us more about that?
Juanita: Yeah um… all the weekend events. Memorial Day, Labor day weekends. We always have vendors on Sunday afternoon. So everyone who wants to come can sell there stuff. We have jewelry, clothing, lingerie and your going to be here with your stuff, whoever wants to come can come. They just buy there table.
Raqui: What Future event do you have planed? do you have cruises, getaways?
Juanita: We do the cruises every year. I may try this place in Mexico that caters to big people, but it’s really expensive. I am going to see what Liberty Travel does, because I work for Liberty Travel. So we do one or two cruises a year, and we have a great time. I really like Norwegian because all the rooms have hand held showers and that is important for big girls. Usually in a group we have about 60 people, and everybody has a blast. The girls will come by themselves, and have a good time. They end up going meeting other people, and just have a good time. The room are pretty reasonable actually.
Raqui: What Future plans do you have for Big Connections?
Juanita: My dream would be…What I really want to do, is start a BBW resort with a club on it. We could have parties every week. It would be a bed and breakfast with kind of a twist. Clothing optional swimming and Jacuzzi. That’s what I really want to do. I got two more years with my son. My youngest is 16. After that, I would like to get financial backing, and be able to do something like that.
Raqui: That sounds wonderful. I have to thank you for doing this interview, and I hope everything works out for you. Thank you again.
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From a Female's Point of View
This month's subject: Internet Players
Email Raqui: firstname.lastname@example.org
This Months Subject: Internet Players
Profile of an Internet Player:
Name: Ira Bobby Patrick Toole Jr.
DOB: May 4,, 1971
Location: Sacramento California
Yahoo Name: itoole
AOL Name: email@example.com
His Game: He targets BBW's and SSBBW's. He is on numerous dating sites, and messages boards. I likes to view BBW and SSBBW porn or adult material. You can find him on those boards often. He often goes by the name Patrixx.
Ira heaps compliments on you and talks about his love for you and your beauty. He claims to fall in love with you and wants to marry you. He says he has bought a ring for you. He claims to have bought you a car to travel in when you go to see him. Sometimes he says he will send the vehicle to you. He shows the cars he claims to have on web cam.
He says he has a twin brother named Bobby, many sisters, and numerous family members in Louisiana, Texas, Atlanta, New York City and California. He says that he was suppose to be married but his fiancé died in a car accident. Sometimes she dies while pregnant with his child sometimes not.
Ira claims he has been in the reserves, is a US Marine, sometimes in Iraq sometimes not. A heavy equipment operator, that he works with children, is a construction worker, has a business as a tow truck driver, Is certified to drive for EMS, has sold drugs in his past and worked at Wal-Mart. It is unsure which he has or has not done. Ira often talks about his family and how some members cause him to not have a phone. He claims some members of his family hate, then other times they love him. He complains about having to help them all the time or he will say they never help him. These persons change from time to time. He talks about his Bingo playing Aunt and his father a lot.
He often says he will cook for you and clean and you will never have to do anything. He seems to have an aunt or family member everywhere. He disappears at times to come back saying he was either in jail, that his computer broke or he was in the hospital. He uses his associates at times for phone access.
Ira contacted me through the
Dating Tech Network. He gave me all forms of personal information to do a
check on him so I would know he was a safe person. With in a couple of
months he asked me to marry him and told me he had a ring. From that moment
I knew something was weird. I just couldn't see how any man can want to
marry a woman he has not met never the less know very well. He continues to
tell me about his Fiancé who died pregnant with his child in a car accident
on a Bridge in California, but later
When I did travel to his area for business, he never returned any calls I placed to his friends, these friends then gave me a home number to his place that he shares with his girlfriend. Or supposed ex girlfriend. It wasn't a surprise, I just wanted to see if he was really as foul as I thought. He proved he was. When I was contacted by the other lady about what he did to her I was shocked because while I knew he was a liar I didn't think he was a downright evil player. Guess I learned something, People can always be worse than ever thought possible.
Poems Patrick wrote me:
itoole: As I sit here
itoole: As I sit in the
window as you pass by
itoole (7:04:00 PM): I
thought If I bought you a 3500.00 dollar care you would see that I would
just spend money like that for just anyone
account is by,
This is for all the woman who's looking for love online, well I'm here to tell you that you can't trust these men. I met a man on here by the name of Ira bobby Patrick Toole Jr. and I fell for him the first time we spoke he was so sweet and kind and acted like he really cared.
Ira started off like he really loved me and that I was the only woman for him but I soon learned that it was all a lie. I met Ira last May on a dating site and we talked everyday until I fell in love with him. He promised me the moon and all but I never got nothing from him. Just broken promises and a heavy heart.
Ira asked me to marry him last year and I told him yes well that's when everything started. First he said he bought me a ring and then he said that he miss three payments on it so he lost it let him tell it the ring cost $4565.00 dollars it was 1 1/2 carat. So he said baby, I feel bad cause I lost your ring so I'm getting you another one. At this point in time I could cared less cause I knew he was lying. So he said he got me another one, yeah right. Before all this he said he was coming to see me, but he didn't have the money so I was stupid in love I felt sorry for him and I got him a credit card in his name. Do you know this piece of s--t ran the card to the max and never paid a dime on it. I told him the card was for him to come see me but he used it for everything but to come and see me. To this day I haven't seen him in person.
Ira is nothing but a liar and a cheat and a user he prey on woman and make promises to them about love and marriage. But all he want is your money, sex tapes and what ever he can get from you. I'm in debt cause of him I have to pay for the card that he used and promised he would pay. When I did get the balance down a some he ran it up again. I've given him all together with the credit card over 2,780.00 dollars and I can kiss it good bye. Do you really think he is ever going to pay me back?
He's got a girlfriend that he lives with, but he's stead on the net looking for single woman asking them to be his wife. Ladies take it from me if you see a 6'8 bald man by the name of Patrick or Ira run as fast as you can. He say something one second and then can't remember what he told you. It hurt's so bad cause I'm a sick woman and he knew that and told me he would never hurt me, well he did that and more. We was suppose to get married on the 14th of this year. Told me that he just can't move just yet cause he have to sell his house that him and his ex used to share, that I believe they still share together.
I talked to his sister and told her that we was getting married and she told me she didn't know who I was and please don't believe nothing Ira says. His own sister said all he do is lie. She told me if I could stand for him to lie to me 24-7 then stay with him. I'm tired of the lies Ira told me that he lost his job in December and that he got arrested while at the bus stop to come up to see me. A woman who is supposed to be his sister called me and got off the phone really quick when I tried to question her, but dig it I talked to his other sister they are not the same person. She said he doesn't have a twin brother nor do he have anymore sister's every thing he said was a lie.
Now he owes me all this money says he can't hold a job, but next minute he's suppose to be a foreman at Hertzog making 14.32 an hour. He says he can't pay me back and he has the nerve to continue asking me for other things. Let Ira tell it he got three sisters and two brother and uncle that he work with and come to find out I called the uncle and he told me that he is not Ira's uncle. He said that Patrick tell people that and he said Patrick doesn't work for him or anyone else. Patrick doesn't like to work he says, when he asked him to come into work he never showed up. Is just going around on the net using women for money so he doesn't have to work?
Patrick once told me that he was going to jail and said the only way he won't go is if he pay for the warrant they had on him, I believed him and my sick mother sent him the money it was $175.00 plus the $25.00 to sent it he told her he will pay her back she haven't seen a dime of that money yet. When I ask him about it he gets mad. As if I am wrong for asking him about her money or mine for that matter. Ok ladies if you know him and fell for him here are the tell tell signs of his lies.
Since I helped Patrick out he called me one day and said baby I feel bad about all you have done for me, and I'm going to pay you back. I want to pay your credits cards off it's the least I can do for you since you have done all this for me. I mean look you got me a credit card my own family wouldn't do nothing like that for me. You sent me money when I needed, I would have gone to jail. I owe you my life and I'm going to pay you back everything I owe you. You gave me a reason to live with out you I would have took my life then I thought about you and I said it wasn't worth it. Believe me baby if you help me out I promise you I won't do you like the last one in your life. I'm going to do right by you, you can trust me. Ladies beware cause these are the sites that he loves so well.
Now I know
what kind of man he is. I want all the women to know stay away from Ira Bobby
Patrick Toole Jr. cause he's not good. Be careful when your on the
net. Some men are dangerous and will not be all they promised.
I've learned the hard way so don't fall in the trap I fell in his not worth
all the heartache and money trust me on that. Men if you find a woman
who is acting weird beware also. Their are women out here just like the men. So that's my story take
it serious please it's a matter of your money and your respect don't give
anyone anything unless you can be truly sure they are real, sometimes you
can never be sure. Until your face to face, be safe.
So What are the Warning Signs?
How not to get caught up
Thank you for Reading Raqui's Spot!
Would you like to give your comments?
Email Raqui: firstname.lastname@example.org
This Months Subject: BBW Dolls
Hispanic, Caucasian BBW Dolls
Big Beautiful Dolls Co-Owner and VP
Jay: WHO ARE THE FOUNDERS OF http://www.BigBeautifulDolls.com:?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Audrey Bell, Co-Founder & President and Georgette Taylor, Co-Founder & Vice President
Jay: DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELVES BBW’S?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Yes we both are.
Jay: HAVE YOU BEEN A BBW ALL YOUR LIFE?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: NO I have not been, I became a BBW after I had my second child...so I have been on both sides of the road...
Jay: WHERE WERE YOU RAISED AND WHAT WAS YOUR FAMILY LIFE LIKE?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Well I was raised in the South Bronx ( 138th Street bet Cypress and St. Ann's Avenue), from 6 until 25, then I left and moved to Brooklyn, then New Jersey, now Texas... go figure.. My family life was fun, I am the only girl and have 3 brothers...my dad left us when I was about 15, it was really hard on my mom, raising us alone. I found a job around 17 at Alexander's Department store on 59th Street and Lexington and I guess that changed my life, even though I always knew in my soul that there was more to the block that I lived on, that there was something else beyond that...when I traveled downtown and saw different people and different lifestyles, I guess you could say that was the start of my entrepreneurial journey, without me even knowing it. That job also gave me extra money to help my mom out. I became a single mom at 22 and raised my son with my family at home, until I was 25 and moved to Brooklyn, some of my friends got caught up in some of the bad scenes that were playing out on many of the streets in those days...but I was the fortunate one, I did not let that life consume me...so my life was like many, but unlike many....I love my Mom for taking care of our family and I love my brothers, for getting themselves together and so all in all we had good times as well as bad.
Jay: DOES YOUR FAMILY SUPPORT YOUR ENDEAVORS?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Yes they do...none of them have their own business, so I am the only entrepreneur in the family...they love our dolls, and they all talk about what I do to others, they are very supportive.
Jay: TELL US ABOUT YOUR COMPANY AND HOW IT BEGAN?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: The company began in 1999 when my partner (Audrey Bell) had this idea to make a plus size doll, she asked me because I did collect dolls and I realized there we none on the market, and we said, well why shouldn't there be...there a full-figured people out there and no doll to represent them. We had spend our time doing other people's businesses, such as MLM's like Primeria and various others, and at the time she approached me with this idea, she was trying to recruit me to do Primerica, which I had done a year and a half before meeting her...as you can see none of us was successful with that one...she shared her idea with me and Big Beautiful Dolls was born.
Jay: TELL US ABOUT YOUR PRODUCTS?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Our products are the first ever line of full-figured 12" ethnically diverse fashion dolls
Jay: WHAT MADE YOU COME UP WITH THE IDEA OF MAKING A BBW DOLL?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Audrey came up with the idea.
Jay: WHAT MAKES YOUR PRODUCTS DIFFERENT?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Our products are different because they represent the 68% of the women who are a size 14 and up, this product was never represented before in the fashion doll world... it is a history making product as well. It offers women and young girls something different on the shelves, other than the pencil thin dolls that they are used to seeing.
Jay: WHO DESIGNS THE DOLLS AND WHO MAKES THE CLOTHES?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: The dolls were sculpted from a picture of Audrey, the body was sketched by my brother-in-law, Lee Taylor and the clothes were designed by Audrey's cousin Dasha.
Jay: WHAT IS THE PROCESS FOR MAKING THE DOLLS (MOLDING ETC…)
BigBeautifulDolls.com: We researched and learned everything we needed to know about making a doll...from sculpting to manufacturing... to mold making...to shipping. You can read about the process in our book: How to Create Your Doll and Bring It to Market, which you can purchase on line...or contact me for consultation...it is a very long process and too long to mention in the interview.
Jay: WHAT HAS BEEN THE RESPONSE FROM THE BBW COMMUNITY?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: The response has been great, we have been added to numerous websites, have received emails from many BBW women who are very happy that someone finally added a new dimension to the doll world, and that represents them in a beautiful, elegant and classy way. We also have a huge following in with the doll collectible market. We have been featured in several magazines, Heart & Soul in 200', Dolls Magazine, Contemporary Doll, (both in 2002), Today's Black Woman in 2003 and recently in the Philadelphia Tribune Magazine, March 2004 and Blackamericaweb.com, March 2004 as well as discussed on the Tom Joyner Morning Show. We have also done other press (see more on our website: http://www.BigBeautifulDolls.com:/
Jay: IS YOUR PRODUCT GROWING RAPIDLY? DO YOU FILL INTERNATIONAL ORDERS?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: As with all small companies, we have been having growth, but not a rapid as we are about to. Our first dolls were shipped in 2002, and with their arrival, Dasia/African-American Doll was nominated for the 2002 Dolls Award of Excellence and kind of put us on the doll collectors map, which generated some sales...but of course market penetration depends on pr, marketing and exposure... all of which we have been working on.... we are looking forward to the Toy Fair 2005 to showcase some new dolls and products... Yes we have filled international orders, our dolls have been purchased from collectors in France, Spain and Canada.
Jay: HOW DO YOU PROMOTE YOUR DOLL?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Through our website: http://www.BigBeautifulDolls.com:/ and through the Doll Market in Greensboro, NC. They will also be in the Women's Museum Gift shop in Dallas, Texas as well as the African-American Museum Gift Shop in Dallas, Texas as well. They are also promoted through other BBW websites as well.
Jay: HAVE YOU EVER ATTENDED ANY TRADE SHOWS, EXPO’S, CONVENTIONS, OR BBW EVENTS
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Yes we have attended and do attend various doll shows, doll expos and we will be attending more BBW events, I have also done Doll Signings at several book stores as well as at BBW pageants.
Jay: GIVE US ONE WORD THAT BEST DESCRIBES YOUR PRODUCT?
Jay: ARE YOUR DOLLS COLLECTIBLES?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Yes they are, they are a limited to 2,500, they come hand numbered , with a Certificate of Authenticity as well as with a stand to display them as soon as they come into your home.
Jay: WHAT CAN WWW.LARGEINCHARGE.COM READERS DO TO HELP SUPPORT YOUR COMPANY?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Your readers can help support by, purchasing a doll, sharing their home with our dolls as well as sharing our story with others.. exposure about who we are a company that has produced the first ever full-figured fashion dolls that are so needed in today's society...it is about acceptance of who people are, the way they are. Our dolls and story are also about accomplishments, especially as an African-American Women owned doll company, it is also an important part of who we are. By purchasing a doll, they get something more valuable than the money they will spend for it.
We appreciate the purchase of a doll as well, but we really need to receive help from financial supporters, if anyone knows anyone who maybe looking for a company to help support financially, to help them to the next level as well as an opportunity to be part of a growing company, please contact me.. only serious investors please, so that I may discuss the details. We are at a stage where our company needs to continue to grow and with financial support this will help us to sustain and allow us to bring new big beautiful dolls to you. Again thank you...and I am happy to be part of your interviews, and continued success with your company.
I would also like to ask each and every one of your readers if they would help is in writing a letter to Oprah on our behalf, about how they would love to see our story on her show and our dolls as one of her favorite things...that would be very appreciated. They could also send me a copy to the letter they send via email or mail to: Georgette Taylor c/o Big Beautiful Dolls, Lake Dallas, TX 75065 or fax it to 940-497-9245 or email it to: georgette@BigBeautifulDolls.com:.
Jay: WHAT ADVICE DO YOU HAVE FOR INSPIRING BBW ENTREPRENEURS?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: My advice to aspiring BBW Entrepreneurs, is to have a passion for whatever it is you want to do, but to know that it is hard work...some days are tough, but if you have a passion and a belief in what you do, then even those days are marvelous.... and being in a partnership type of business, I always feel it is important to say to those entrepreneurs that have partners...each one of you have strengths in different areas, celebrate them and let them flourish in helping to create a wonderful company and don't be afraid to talk to each other...my partner and I have pulled each other up on many occasions, and I thank her for that, as she does me. At Big Beautiful Dolls our motto "Don't Let What You Weigh, Stand in your Way", to achieving any and all of your dreams... So go for it... believe it and know it, that success is already yours....
Jay: ARE THEIR ANY OTHER SIZE POSITIVE COMPANIES THAT YOU ADMIRE?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Yes one of my favorites is full-figured artist, Nigel Morgan who has a great company http://www.nigelmorganart.com/, his art work is wonderful, as he is., The Voluptuous Woman Company, and plususa.com.
Jay: WHAT ARE YOUR FUTURE GOALS?
BigBeautifulDolls.com: Our future goals are to offer three more dolls for the holiday season, to be at Toy Fair 2005 with a non-collectible younger line for younger girls to play with as well as introduce 2 new collectible dolls. To expand the wardrobe of our existing 3 dolls. To have our dolls Dasia, Dena and Dawn, be the frontrunners of the full-figured doll world.
Thank you for the interview, I wish your company much success as well...and look forward to hearing from all of your readers...
Georgette Taylor, Co-Founder & VP
Big Beautiful Dolls, Inc.
To all the fans of our site, I personally ask you to support this company by promoting and buying their products. This company caught my eye because it has history, creativity, very good products and the website is professional. Bronx Pride puts the icing on the cake! Much love to the BBD Staff. I wish you much success for the future and thanks for your honest comments.
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Q: Dear Raqui & Jay, I want to know what is a good way to talk about health & weight control without causing a problem? - glitta man
A: Hi glitta man, If you talking to a male friend, it might be easier than talking to your woman or female friend. Same sex talks always seem a bit more like, "Hey your my friend, and I am looking out for you". While opposite sex talks always seem like a blow to the ego. The feeling of not be attractive to the opposite sex comes into play. Either way be kind, Tell them you are happy with them as they are. But you have a few concerns, and would like to talk to them about it. I wouldn't start pulling in medical facts and so forth. Big people have heard the same thing over and over. I would go personal. What fears you have for them, that your concerned because you love them, and need them in your life. If they are happy the way they are, you should not try to make them change. You can let them know, if they want to change, your there to support them. Before this discussion, decide what you can actually do to help them, if they take you up on the offer. If you see you cant help them what is the point?
Good thing your talking about weight control and not loss. Forcing the weight loss issue is like an attack saying. "YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH! CHANGE!" Weight control says. "Hey your good the way you are so lets keep it like it is!"
Q: This question is for both of you, Do you hate how BBW's are automatically categorized as the sexual freaks in the world? A lot of men see BBW's and they think straight up..."She gonna give it up". I personally get tired of BBW's getting that stereotype - Supreme Knight
A: Dear Supreme Knight, Yes you can say I am quite tired of Big Women seen as easy. There are women in all shapes, races and sizes out there having sex for the hell of it. But when Big Women does it, it is because she cant get nothing better, or she is easy & hard up. Then men expect that every big women is like that. You don't see men saying the same thing about slim women. Why are we stereotyped?
Society has ingrained the thought, Fat is bad, Fat is imperfect, Fat is not good, Fat is ugly, Fat is not desirable, anyone who is Fat is not good unless they are cooking food or have their face on a pancake box. So since we are imperfect, if we have sex for fun it has to be because we cant get sex any other way!
By the way what defines a freak? Is it how much sex your having, or what you do when you have it? You can be a sexual freak with morals, just because you like to be freaky doesn't mean your freaky with everyone. There is a big difference between letting that freak out in the privacy of a loving, caring, relationship with someone you trust. Then going out doing anything with anyone regardless of there past history or knowledge of their health.
Basically I want to say, there are tons of women who do what they want to do, but men need to be aware that not all women are the same. BBW's and SSBBW's are not easy or hard up, they choose how they conduct themselves. Many of us want something real, something more than just sex. Do not group us all into some kind of freak list. If a woman looks at you, and says she doesn't have sex like that, but she will go on a date with you, take it as a compliment. A lot of times if women are sexing you so easy, it is because they think your not worth keeping. Your an entertainment factor, not worth taking the time to get to know. Some think of men like a movie ticket. You get your ticket and see the show. Sometimes you stay, sometimes you leave. After the ticket is throw away, we review it, and tell all our friends about it. Most times you don't want to see the movie again.
Q: Raqui, Girl do you ever just go through phases of not eating then eating everything, shoot I do? - Lovin
A: Lovin, you are not alone in the phases game. Many large men and women go through times of eating little to none. Then seeming very hungry one day. Why? is a good question. Personally when I am on the go I tend to eat less because I feel lighter. I move better than when I am having meals. I tend to want to relax after a meal. I also don't think about food when I am on the go. Or I feel as though I don't have time or money to stop and eat. I also tend to eat more toward the beginning of the month. Why? It must be a mental thing. But I do feel more hungry. My hunger moods are not determined by my cash flow, or feminine reasons. Some people will eat more when they have more money. They're really times when I am more hungry than others. Maybe there are certain times when my body needs more food than others. I don't gain weight. I have maintained the same weight no matter what I eat as long as my activity level stays decent. If your concerned about your eating patterns, and can't figure out a mental or connecting reason, see your doctor. Maybe there is a physical reason. If your not gaining weight then I would think your probably ok. But I'm not a doctor so check that one out.
Q: Dear Raqui, What practical problems do BBW's and SSBBW's encounter in the home? - Richard
A: Dear Richard, I believe that would depend on where the woman lives. In many city areas, small rooms, steps, elevators, and bathrooms would be a big concern. While in other rural areas, houses are not built up, but out. Rooms and bathrooms are big, Tubs and showers are huge compared to city life. I would think space limits, and construction of furniture are also a big deal in any area. Finding the perfect surrounding is often difficult, but what each person considers perfect is different, so problems would be different.
Q: I have a
situation that comes in my life more than I would like it to, I would really
like your advice on the subject...Maybe other readers have gone through this
as well. I will meet someone online whether it be computer or phone and when
they ask me what I look like I freeze. Sometimes even when we meet on a BBW
line. My question is how do you tell someone who is really digging on your
personality, but hasn't seen you that you are a BBW or SSBBW? - Boom Boom
In the mean time, Girl be proud, say I'M A BIG OLE GIRL AND SAY IT LOUD! Why should you be ashamed. God doesn't make ugly, people do! Anyone who doesn't accept you as you are is not worth being worried over. Would you be ashamed to tell a person your race? I am pretty sure you wouldn't be hiding your race to talk to a certain person. Why are you hiding your weight. The best advice I can give you is to love and appreciate yourself, then show that off to everyone. When a man talks to you right off the bat, (right away) tell them your a Big girl and you don't have time to waste with someone who cant appreciate a woman with a big ole frame. Give him the option to tell you if he is down or not. If he cant get down you need to move on. Remember your the one selecting and rejecting, handle your business and do not accept anything less than you deserve. Someone who cares for you as you are. Find out quickly before getting in-depth with him, if he cant handle it your saving yourself time. Imagine talking for days, weeks, months, to a guy and then you find out he is not down with the frame. You could have missed mister wonderful while you chatted with the skinny Minnie lover. Your not going to go to the cereal section in the supermarket to find steak. Advertise properly and you have those looking for steak hear you sizzle!
Q: I really liked
your reviews on the BBW clothing from last month. It is very true, though on
the reverse end, I am short and everything fits me long and the things
that don't fit me long fit me tight. Is there anything you can suggest for
me to do? - Lissie
Try going around your area and see if they have any tailors or seamstresses. Ask them how much it would cost for alterations. Worst comes to worst go to the cleaners and ask. Your better off getting your things altered if you have to. You might be able to get some kind of discount if you go to them often.
Remember to get your measurements taken properly with another person helping you.
Q: Dear Raqui & Jay, I want too know what is a good way to talk about health & weight control without causing a problem? - glitta man
Now lets look at the reality of life itself, everyone has problems. So the question is, does the person want to lose weight? Or do you want them to lose weight? Next question is, everyone has personal problems, so ask yourself what is your problem that you need help with. I think some people want other people to lose weight, because they are caught up in societies negative views. Why do you want this person to lose weight? Is there a real health issue now that is affecting there life? Or are you trying to get them to lose weight for your own personal satisfaction? Are you taking care of your personal problems, to even be trying to help someone else with what you believe is their problems? What if they don't consider it a problem? There is a saying that goes, "Sweep your own porch before you sweep someone else's".
Now if the person is coming to you, asking for your help, or constantly complaining about their weight or life style, then that's different. Since everyone is different you have to realize there are different ways to losing weight. In my experience with big woman and yo-yo dieting, I think the best solution is to learn about changing your metabolism. I have met a lot of big people who are very large and don't eat a lot. I also know of slim people who eat a lot and don't get big. So if you really want to help your friend, look in the mirror first and remind yourself that you have to help yourself before you help someone else. Another thing, if they do lose the weight will you find something else wrong with them to fix?
Funny Situation: I once met a SSBBW who wasn't feeling good so she went to the doctor. Every time she went to the doctor, he told her that it was her weight that made her feel the way she did. When she went back to the doctor again a second time again he said to lose weight. The third time she went the nurse told her the doctor died.
This question is for both of you, Do you hate how BBW's are automatically
categorized as the sexual freaks in the world? A lot of men see BBW's and
they think straight up..."She gonna give it up". I personally get tired of
BBW's getting that stereotype - Supreme Knight
The way I figure it, today’s Adult Big Women have the chance to travel to events and meet nice guys who adore them. What more can we ask for? While people are stereotyping just ignore them! Especially because the big women who “are” outright freaky and easy, they're doing their thing and aren't worrying about the stereotypes!
Advice: Surround yourself with people who like to do the things that you like to do.
The point I’m trying to make is that if a woman invest time that night to get dressed, looking good, smelling good, and there are men in a BBW Club, and the woman is actually attracted to a few guys, she has a choice. Either go home again, alone, with out “having one conversation” or make conversation!
In last months issue the woman stated that she goes to the club and yet not one man would sit down and talk to her. I personally have a sister and your sister is right about safety from guys who are looking for easy sex, if she’s not looking for that. But still, if she got all dolled up and didn't get not one conversation, at least with merely saying “hi” to a few guys at least can give her a chance to meet a nice guy and screen him the best she can. Or, what’s the use of going week after week, to a place where you’re a big woman and the guys like big women, and there are nice looking guys your attracted to…and nothing ever pops off? (happens) Ask a guy to Dance! Just be safe.
Advice: I have a younger sister and I wished her well when she went off to school. As an older brother, I had to accept her having her own life. She would be without me in the crowded class rooms and lunchroom hallways. One day she asked me what high school was like, and and I hoped she would know how to handle herself in school.
I couldn’t always be around to protect her. She asked me a 4th grade question, what should she do if she was in the lunch room if she wanted to meet a new high school friend (who is a girl)? I told her to approach the person and say hi and start a conversation, but be safe! And she asked me what if she saw a boy that she wanted to meet and I told her the same thing, approach the person and say hi and start a conversation. Just be safe!
Part of me is questioning your stating that you began with “a guy "who likes me for me”. Now your questioning whether if he likes you as you are, likes skinny women more, sexually attracted to you, or his physical dream?
Confusing part #2, "part of you thinks that he likes your personality”. Which part of you is that? I have to question if maybe he is a really nice guy treating you really nice, occasionally peeping at a skinny girl, come to find out you might be the over jealous type, for all I know! “from a man’s point of view”.
Last Puzzle…"I need to feel I am everything he ever wanted". If you really have a need for him to feel you are “everything he ever wanted” then only he can tell you what really pleases him. I can’t answer that one for you.
Advice: If you met him and you knew he had never been with a Big Woman before, than you had the chance to smell the coffee a little bit from the beginning. Just in case your not the one for him, try to find someone who likes you for you, sexually attracted to you, physically dreams about you and needs you to be his everything. Talk to your man ask him honestly and figure out the verdict!
Q: Dear Jay, I’m a SSBHM who likes SSBBW’s. I enjoy reading your site. I am from Tenn. I am a short guy and I weigh over 500 pounds. I have a question and need your advice as to how an SSBHMFA might can find SSBBW’s who like the bigger guys? - BigTenn
Large In Charge message board can personally help you by creating a poll for you. You can also send post to people who have similar interest and ask them to join in and help you find few SSBBW’s who likes your style. Post and tell the ladies more about yourself. I hook you up like that TV show where the guy had to choose between like 50 women on dates or something! Like right now, I give you the power to use The Large In Charge message board to just do your thing and find your Big Fat Honey Bun! You have the all out right to jump on our board and do an international SSBHM “Search for the ultimate SSBBW’s who luv them”…contest. You as the prize! That how you meet them! From a man’s point of view. Have some fun, Big Boy style Baby!
Advice: Hang out at some of the BBW / BHM events and meet some nice women. There are a lot of women who appreciate SSBHM’s at “Big World” events, message boards, dating services and BBW egroups.