Join the LargeInCharge Mailing List - Click Here                   Issue #23 - January 2006


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In this Issue of L.I.C

Featured Person - LargeInCharge Cover Model Search. 12 Models... 12 Covers... It could be YOU!

Raqui's Spot - New Years Resolutions


Guest Spot - A entry from our Writing Contest

Fashion Furious - NEW EDITION TO OUR MAGAZINE. Fashion Finds from our readers. Submit your Find.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui & Jay - Send us your questions, we always answer. Back by popular demand!

Events & Pictures - L.I.C. Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events, See what we are doing in the community.

L.I.C. FREE RAFFLE - Win a copy of The Fat Girl's Guide to Life! by Wendy Shanker


Feature of the Month

Monthly Feature

LargeInCharge Cover Model Search

12 Models... 12 Covers... It could be YOU!


Want to be a LargeInCharge Cover Model?

     It has been almost two years since LargeInCharge opened its online doors to the Big World.  We started with 740 readers March 2004.  We have built up to over 70,000 readers a month.  We have continuously given the Big World article after article.  Fashion tips and clothing companies.   Hot events and self esteem advice. Interesting information and cool products.  We have changed, grown and become better.


     Now with March coming and our second year anniversary almost here.  We are launching a new campaign.

LargeInCharge is looking for cover models for the 2006-2007 issues.


     Online Magazine's are the big hype now doing better than physical paper magazines.  Any successful magazine must have an online presence.  Now LargeInCharge is leading the way.


     Being a LargeInCharge cover model can be a great add on to your comp card or resume.  It can also be a feather in the cap of aspiring models.  So many beautiful and handsome big men and women who are not professional models can now be featured where they will be appreciated.  NO MORE SIZE 20 or 2XL ONLY MODELS.  AGE DOESN'T MATTER.  NO MORE FETISH ONLY PICTURES. We like them professional and in all sizes INCLUDING SUPER SIZED.  There are no limits with us.





What to Send In to be a LargeInCharge Cover Model?


Send In the following - You must have one of each

  • One or more Head shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire
  • One or more Full body shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire

Type of pictures

  • Digital or scanned pictures only
  • Pictures must be of one person, no group shots.
  • Pictures of Big Males and Females only.
  • Pictures must be clear with no watermarks.
  • Pictures cannot be smaller than 5x7.
  • Pictures must be tasteful and fully clothed - Swimsuit and tasteful lingerie is allowed.
  • Nude is not allowed unless it is artistic.  No private areas shown.

Picture Categories - You can send in pictures for any of the below categories

  • Winter - Winter wear, coats etc. and Seasonal type of clothing, costumes and colors.  Winter backgrounds scenes
  • Spring - Spring wear, sweaters etc. bright, airy, wind blown. Spring backgrounds scenes
  • Summer - Swimsuits, wraps, summer dresses. Summer background scenes
  • Fall - Fall colors and sweaters.  Earthy natural settings. Fall Colors.
  • Ethnic - Ethnic prints and colors.  Ethnic combinations of fabric and prints.  Jewelry
  • Business - Suite and tie. City backgrounds
  • Sporty - Sports clothing of all types. participating in sports. Jogging, walking, basketball, football, Skating. Etc
  • Exercise - In exercise outfits, gym scene etc.
  • Gothic - Gothic clothing and costumes etc.

Solid backgrounds are also acceptable in all categories.  You can send in as many pictures of you in different categories as you desire.


When you send in your pictures include the following information:







Email address:

Contact phone number:



and the BELOW statement : 


By submitting my pictures to the Cover Model Search. I am allowing to use my images as they see fit.  I reserve rights to my pictures.  YOUR NAME HERE


What will I receive if I am picked

  • You will receive a 8x10 printed copy of our Monthly Cover in which your featured.
  • You will receive a free Comp Card made just for your professional use by UberRussmanDesigns
  • Depending on your area you will attend your local BBW party/event with a friend where you will represent as our monthly Cover Model.
  • You will be interviewed for the Month you appear as our Cover Model and remain in our database.
  • You will be entered in our Yearly Cover Model contest to win Cash and or Prizes at the end of the year.


Ready to Enter?

Send your information to


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Raqui's Spot

Raqui's Spot

From a Female's Point of View

This month's subject:


Now you can check out Raqui's Blog with reviews and recommendations for places to go. As she travels she will give you the info on what is best for Big Sized people.  Plus you can take a quick view of her life!  She has also been giving the info. on internet bullshit!  And Bullshit in General.

Raqui's Yahoo 360 Page - with Recommendations

Raqui's BlogSpot Page - Hear it like you like it

Raqui's My Space Page - Step Into My World!


New Years Resolutions

     Talking to many friends and associates, I have found that New Years is scary to many.  People are thinking about failure.  Thinking about the horrible year they had.  Thinking about the many negative things they think will repeat.  I hear the many negative comments and I see depression.  What happen to the hope of a New Year?


     I think the best thing about New Years is that you can make a new start.  You can stop in your tracks and change.  You can decide to do something or not.  You can set a goal or make a promise.  You can do something for yourself or others.  New Years is a chance to change direction.  Time to learn from the mistakes you have made. It is a time for hope.


     When I asked my BBW associates about there New Year's Resolutions. I hear a common phrase,


I am going to lose weight... not like last year. I am going to lose the weight... then I will be a better person. 


I then ask, do you believe losing weight will really make you a better person?  What is wrong with the person you are now?


Well I will be skinnier.


How does that make you a better person?  What does your weight have to do with who you are?


     I didn't receive many answers back.  It made me sad that so many men and women are valuing there worth by there weight... in a negative way.  Why should I take it as a compliment when someone says. "You look like you lost weight."   Personally it took a lot of good food to make all these curves.  I am proud and I am not trying to lose weight.  Instantly people think if your Fat you must be trying to lose weight.


    But this has nothing to do with weight.  It has to do with confidence and the false belief that you are better if you become what others want you to be.  This is about not realizing your worth as the person you are.  Weight or anything else will not make you a better person.  This is about valuing yourself by what you look like or appear to be.  Instead of your actions.


     When I think about New Years and Hope and Resolutions.  I think about changing for the better.  Will losing weight make you a better if the inside is exactly the same?  There are many wonderful and not so wonderful BBW and BHM people who think that life will just fall into place when they lose some pounds.


     You will not be a better mother or father.  You will not be a better friend.  You will not be smarter, or prettier, or any of the other things you might think.  If you have a bad attitude and treat people like shit.   Losing weight sure isn't going to fix that. 


     Losing weight is a personal choice every big person has to make.  I cant encourage anyone in either direction.  I am not saying to stay fat.  I am saying if for years your resolution has been to lose weight and your not successful, you either don't want to lose weight, or your feeling so bad about yourself that you cant make the push. 


     Maybe it is time to evaluate what you really want as far as happiness.  What really makes you the person you are other than weight.  When you feel good about who you are and what your doing.  Losing weight for health reasons or any other reason is much easier.  You have the security and confidence it takes to go for what you want.  Helping yourself from the inside out really makes a big difference.


     You just have to make a choice.  What would you rather work on.  You or the shell you carry.  Personally I rather make over my soul because that is what I will be remembered for.


HAPPY NEW YEARS - Blessings to you all.


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   Guest Spot

Large In Charge Guest Spot

We want to hear and see your talents!


One of our favorite parts of the newsletter.  The Guest Spot is for our readers to submit there talents to be viewed.  We want to see all you wonderful supporters making moves of your own.  If you write poetry, short stories, commentaries, or just thoughts in general, please submit them to us.  If your a designer we want to see pictures of your clothing.   We would love to include your talents in our newsletter.  We hope you take an active part in the L.I.C. newsletter. Send in your article, poetry, comments to -

NOTE: The Opinion of the writer is not always the opinion of The Large in Charge Staff.  We support the Right to all views.  We do not Condemn or Approve writing based on our personal thoughts.  We approve writing based on if the subject is a concern for the BBW / SSBBW / BHM Community.  Thank you for your writing and please send in those articles!  - The Large in Charge Staff

An entry from our Writing Contest


You keep doing what you're doing...

you'll keep getting what you're getting.

by  Jessa Moore

     I hate the line "It doesn't matter what you look like on the outside, its what's on the inside that counts"... why do people say that? Are they afraid that all BBW's are so body conscience- do they expect that we are unhappy with the way we are?

     Some people just don't understand that big can be beautiful. I feel beautiful. I love my curves, I love my shape, I love my look. It goes beyond a pretty face. When I run my hands on my body with my eyes closed I love what I feel. My soft plush skin, my luscious body. I love my shape. That's what people need to do. They need to release their prejudice, they need to let go of that "media image" and just close their eyes and run their hands over their body. It doesn't have to be a sexual thing, in fact, it's more of a therapeutic self love.

     I'm a size 20, I've always been a big girl, I was a size 14 in high school, and yes, I did feel self conscience. I was fully developed at 13 and had the sexual energy that a woman would have mid life. I was picked on because of my size- I always thought it was because I was in fact fat, but I realized it was other people's inadequacy. I intimated a lot of people. I was never ashamed of what I looked like, I always took my time to look nice, I worked out, I did my hair and my makeup- people just didn't know how to take me in. I used to see the world through rose colored glasses, but you learn as time goes on, that our society can be really cruel. People didn't know how to be with me, because they thought I was fat, and they thought that I thought I was fat. Friends were always gentle with me- when they showed off their tummies, they'd apologize to me- if they wore little bikinis they'd blush and excuse themselves. They tried to be cautious as if I was jealous I couldn't fit into a size 4. And as if they felt sorry for me because they thought I wished I could.

     I've imagined the prospects of being thin and trim- but I don't think I could accept myself that way. This is my body. This is the vessel that carries my spirit. Why can't I feel beautiful on the inside and out? There's beauty in size. There's an essence that a lot of people cannot grasp. If you love yourself, ALL of yourself, then you'll find a peace not a lot of people are so lucky to find. I'm not self conscious now, I don't think I should be. I have no reasons to apologize and have no reasons for people to apologize to me. If anything I should say "I'm sorry" to those that haven't found themselves.

     I've had time to reflect, I've had time to think- I don't obsess over my body. I've improved who I am as a person by being fortunate enough to focus inward.

     I have not allowed anything in this life to hold me back. My size has never gotten in way of my dreams or my goals. I'm doing everything that I want to do. There is nothing that I cannot accomplish. I don't dream to fit into those bikinis my friends always used to wear, because I wear them. I have no shame, I do not hate how I look. I love everything about myself. My love goes beyond my outer shell, it's my inner spirit. It's my intelligence, my compassion, sincerity, I've honed crafts, I've perfected everything I wanted to. I have never let weight limit me in my life, it is no obstacle for me, there are no hurdles. It's a shame that this society can't go any further than what you look like. When you pass someone in the street and you see them, you can't see inside of them. You have no idea if they are a writer, a painter, a pianist, a parent. You can assume so many things, but that's as far as it goes. When I walk down the street I have no concern if people are judging me. I'm proud of who I am and WHAT I am. I'm proud of how far I've come in this life. I'm proud of the choices I've made, and the goals I've accomplished.

     BBW's embody more than the human spirit, but the heart and the soul. We're a breed all our own, and I'm grateful that everyone else out there that can relate has found that beautiful self love.

     You keep doing what you're'll keep getting what you're getting.


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Ask Raqui


Ask Raqui

Ask your Questions and We will answer!

Send your question to Raqui -

NOTE: The Opinion of Raqui  is just that. I do not claim to be professional or to solve your problems.  I can however give you a real answer that may help you out.

Ask Raqui

Q:  Raqui I heard you are a widow.  I recently lost my FiancÚ.  She was one of the most wonderful, beautiful women I have known.  I feel like I will never get over the loss and I am scared that even if I do.  No one will love me like she did.  I am a Very Big Man, I was lucky enough to find her.


Raqui: Lost.. I am very sorry that your going through such pain.  Mourning will take time and you never really get over it.  You will love her forever.  But I have found out that our heart is so marvelous.  You can love so many people strongly for so many different reasons.  You can love your FiancÚ forever and still have room to love another. Just give yourself time to see that.  Live life and continue, let time and tears pass.

     Being a Big Man will not stop others from loving you.  My mother told me once that when my husband died she didn't think I would ever find another man.  Yet every time I turned around she was amazed by the men who looked at me and wanted to pursue me.  There are many women who are looking for a big teddy to cuddle.  Just allow yourself the time to heal so that your available to love again.

Q:   I would like to stick with my resolution of trying to lose some weight but I don't want my man, who's an FA, to not find me attractive anymore...what do I do?

Sheila from Michigan
Raqui: Talk to you man,  If he is loving you only because your fat.  Then he is not LOVING YOU.  I know that as a big woman we want a man who loves all of us.  But if anything should arise and we need to lose weight or have lost weight the love shouldn't change.  That would apply to a skinny woman getting fat, or to any person getting into an accident.  True Love doesn't see weight it sees hearts and will appreciate you even a size smaller.

Q:  Hi I am a young guy.  I like big girls and I have never dated any.  I am ready to date the type of girls I like cause I'm tired of being with girls who are not all I want.  My question is, is sex with a bigger girl a lot different.  I want to be ready to make my girlfriend happy when I find one.  I am curious.

Ready 4 Big Girls

Raqui:  The difference is that everything is bigger and has more meat.  Big girls even the biggest have fulfilling sexual lives.  If your dealing with very big women just move the fat around a bit and remember to use a strong back LOL.

     For real relax and enjoy the women and when your ready explore and try different things with her body.  Love her in all ways and appreciate all she is.


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Fashion Furious

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:

Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type: Casual

Fashion Breakdown:

Navy, V-neck, one pocket, Cotton Tee from King Sized. $20.00


Stretch Light Blue Jeans from The Avenue. $44.95


Navy and white sneakers from New Balance. $40.00


Total cost for this outfit: $104.95





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Product of the Month

Large In Charge

Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to

Digital Electronic Scale by Scale-it

About the Product
Recommender:  Raqui
Name of Product:  Digital Electronic Scale by Scale-it

Type of Product: Scale that can weigh up to 1,000 pounds

Cost of Product: 169.00 US dollars

Where Product can be found: 

Why I like this Product:  I not only like this scale, I like that it is 
heavy duty and can weight the heaviest big person.  I like that 
this site has many other more affordable scales for those who
weigh less.  It may be a bit pricy but if you need to keep track of
your weight and you are quite heavy. This would be a good



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