MARCH 2006   ISSUE # 25

Welcome to the LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.

 

Feature of the Month -  Views of Fat Acceptance

 

Cover Model of the Month -  Teresa Steel - March Cover Model

 

Raqui's Spot - Car Shopping for the Big of Body

 

Russell's Review - Review of Queen Latifah in Last Holiday

 

Jay's Spot - Big Biker Girls of Arizona

 

Papi's Peace -  Introduction to our New Big Male Writer

 

Guest Spot - Big Boobie Art

 

Good 4 U Food - Introducing Xander the Food Dude.  Our new Good 4 U Food writer and recipe guide

 

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds from our readers.  Submit your Find.

 

Product of the Month -  Products for People of Size

 

Ask Raqui - Send Raqui your questions.  Get some advice from one Big person to another.

 

Events & Pictures - L.I.C. Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events, See what we are doing in the community.

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

 

Feature of the Month

This months Subject:

Views of Fat Acceptance

 

Views of Fat Acceptance

     I spent some time searching through some article's this past month.  Here in the US we are trying hard, striving to accept ourselves because of societies view of Fat People. Many of us feel as though we are hitting a brick wall every time.

 

     According to Candice Choi (Associated Press) in one of her recent articles.  People are more accepting of the big boned.  Big People are also more accepting of them themselves.  Some still want to lose some weight but less are looking to be ideal.  More people are trying to be healthy, instead of trying to hit a so called perfect number.  

 

     You see more large people on TV and movies.  Recently I was very excited to see Queen Aishah (Big Sized Comedian) doing a Verizon commercial.  Still because being overweight is look down upon.  I would like to know who made this imaginary weight limit.  No matter what strives we are taking, total acceptance by society is out of our reach.

A survey finds America's attitudes toward overweight people are shifting from rejection toward acceptance. Over a 20-year period, the percentage of Americans who said they find overweight people less attractive steadily dropped from 55 percent to 24 percent, the market research firm NPD Group found.

With about two-thirds of U.S. adults overweight, Americans seem more accepting of heavier body types, researchers say. The NPD survey of 1,900 people representative of the U.S. population also found other more relaxed attitudes about weight and diet.

While body image remains a constant obsession, the national preoccupation with being thin has waned since the late 1980s and early 1990s, said the NPD's Harry Balzer.

Researchers at Cornell also found that negative attitudes about obesity persist.

The NPD study results may simply be a sign of "resignation from overweight people," Brownell said, noting that it's likely a majority of survey respondents are overweight.

The survey, to be published in February in the journal Rationality and Society, also found obese boys and girls were half as likely to date as normal weight kids.

     Mean while half way across the earth. There are women who have the job of taking young children and stuffing them full of food.  Preparing them for marriage.  Large Fat women are seen as a status symbol of perfection, wealth and the ideal body for bearing children.  It is the only with America's influence are the younger men now wanting slimmer women, and the women no long want to be fat.

   I do not condone stuffing children with food until they cry.  Forcing them against there wills, and punishing them for not eating until they are sick.   No one should force anyone to be fat or thin.  Be who you are.  My point here is that this shows how powerful America is.  Even our society is influencing generations worth of tradition in other countries.

 IN MAURITANIA - A generation ago, over a third of women in the country were force-fed as children - Mauritania is one of the few African countries where, on average, girls receive more food than boys.

Now only around one in 10 girls are treated this way. The treatment has its roots in fat being seen as a sign of wealth - if a girl was thin she was considered poor, and would not be respected

 

Fat women are traditionally seen as more desirable. Obesity is so revered among Mauritania's white Moor Arab population that the young girls are sometimes force-fed to obtain a weight the government has described as "life-threatening".

 

When they are small they don't understand, but when they grow up they are fat and beautiful.

Fatematou - 'Fat farm' manager

"Traditionally a fat wife was a symbol of wealth. Now we've got another vision, another criteria for beauty.

"We're fed up of fat women here," said 19-year-old shop owner Yusuf.

"Always fat women! Now we want thin women.

"In Mauritania if a woman really wants to get married I think she should stay thin. If she gets fat it's not good.

"Some girls have asked me whether they should get fat or stay thin. I tell them if you want to find a man, a European or a Mauritanian, stay thin, it's better for you. But some blokes still like them fat."

IN NIGERIA In areas of Nigeria, brides-to-be are sent to "fattening houses" so that they may look plump, and thus beautiful, on their wedding day.

 

While Africans still prefer women to be fleshier than they do in the West, young girls here are increasingly concerned with being thin. The more exposed we are to western media, the more we buy into it."

 

It's definitely having an impact," says Lerato Moloi, a successful model in South Africa and former Face of Africa finalist who was dropped by New York agency Elite for allegedly being too fat.

 
Young girls in Africa are increasingly concerned with being thin - the more exposed we are to western media, the more we buy into it. - Lerato Moloi South African model

 

 

     What does this boil down to?  When will we be accepted as people in a larger package?  What do we do in the meantime?   All we can do is accept ourselves,  be good examples as people.  Be proud of our accomplishments and not our waist lines, whether they are big or small.

 

     Acceptance starts at home.  If we woke up tomorrow and society was behind us full force.  There are many of us who still would not be happy.  Because they are not happy with themselves.  Think about all the small women who complain constantly and society is on their side!

 

Raqui

Article Links

Study: Overweight People Gaining Acceptance

By: Candice Choi  - Associated Press

 

Mauritania's 'wife-fattening' farm

By Pascale Harter - BBC, Mauritania

 

In the eye of the beholder?

By Clare Murphy - BBC News Online

 
 
 
 

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Cover Model of the Month

March Cover Model

Teresa Steel

 

 

 

 

 

Interview with Teresa Steel

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

Teresa Lyn Steel

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I was born in Oklahoma but I was only there for a few months.  My father was a minister so we moved to Texas then Louisiana where I was given a brother in each state. New Orleans is where I call home although I lived in San Antonio for five and a half years. I've been here in New York for a year and a half now. I now live in Manhattan on the upper west side in a beautiful apartment with two great apartment mates.  Living here is amazing everyone should live here in Manhattan at least a few months there is nothing like it!

LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)? 

 I am old enough to know better yet still young enough to question authority. I'm 5'3 and a size 18. My nationality is something I am quite proud of. My father's family is Chickasaw and Chickamauga Indian and my mother’s family is Scottish, Irish and Houma Indian. I am single with no children which means I love to spoil my niece-Alexis, nephew-Freedom and best friend’s son-Kaden as much as possible.

LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I wasn't an obese child but I was always bigger than the "normal kids".  I blossomed early growing up so when the other girls in school hadn't started maturing…well let’s just say I had done enough for 3 other girls and myself! My weight picked up when I was in junior high school.

LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up as a large child?

My parents were sure that my brothers and I had solid values, a supportive home life and a great sense of self respect. I wasn't picked on or called out because of my size and I think a lot of that had to do with the standing our family had in the community.

LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?

My weight gain was because of PCOS/Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome.  It's a disease that affects over 3 million women in the United States alone. Often misdiagnosed and misunderstood it affects women whose families have a history of diabetes. When I was diagnosed with PCOS in 1999 after my mom found an article in a women’s magazine and began to put the puzzle pieces together.  I was relieved I had a reason for the weight I'd gained because I eat healthy and do moderate exercise. Since my diagnosis I've gone from a size 26-28 to an 18, and I've maintained that loss while keeping my PCOS in balance with the proper medication for treatment. PCOS is a disease that can be treated and it is easy to live with once you know the facts.

LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search? 

I decided to enter because I read it monthly and I think it’s a wonderful way for plus size people to relate, share ideas, draw inspiration and be a community.

LargeInCharge.com: Do you have any experience in modeling?  If so tell us about what you have done.

I have done some modeling before with independent lines of cosmetics, salons, spas, designers, hair products and artists here in New York for shows and books.   I love fashion but since I'm 5'3 there will be no runways in my future.

LargeInCharge.com: It takes a lot of confidence to model...  What has given you the confidence you have?

My confidence is due to my mother and her family. It’s true what they say, "No one loves like a mother loves" and my mother is not only an inspiration but she’s my source of strength and encouragement. Also I'd have to say I've been blessed that I have friends in my life who are also encouraging, supportive and have never let me lose sight of or give up on my dreams.

LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

Nothing in life is easy and if it were I wouldn't value it.  I have struggled at times in my life and I know there will be times down the road where I will struggle again.  Hard times are a part of life for everyone regardless of someone's size.  I know I'll value those things that I fight to achieve and attain even more than if they were simply handed to me. Acceptance doesn't come from others, it comes from within. In college I found a quote by Eleanor Roosevelt which says, "You not only have the right to be an individual you have an obligation to be one." I took this to heart when I first read it and my friends will tell you it is who I am.

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

My true friends and family accept me for who I am not what I look like. I have some acquaintances who think I'm less of a person because I'm not 125 pounds but that is their issue to deal with not mine. It’s funny because back in college my sorority sisters were all curvy girls and there was no shortage of guys around us. We were the ones having full contact tackle mud football games against the boys, hosting parties and campus events. Without knowing it we showed who were truly were without it being an issue of size. It was just the girls of KTB being who they were.

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

Wow, you don't ask easy questions. What truly inspires me is my family and how they raised me. They raised me to love the things I feel passionate about, stand up for the things I think are being disrespected or beaten down and always be true to myself. My family is my inspiration.

LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary job?

I work for a marketing company in Manhattan. It's what brought me to NYC. I work with all sorts of businesses daily from real estate to fashion to finance to advertising agencies. I work directly with clients in their decision making on what is the right tool for their target audience.  I also do graphics, research, internet advertising and so on. I also do some outside sales. When I started things were lighter but the duties of the position broadened and now encompass so much more than I ever thought I'd be doing. I love the creativity of my job as it allows me to think WAY outside the box and be appreciated for another line of thought.

LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?

I got into marketing when I was working for a large hotel chain in college. Then when I was living in San Antonio, I worked for a photo studio and was given the opportunity to see what I could do with their advertising and marketing for the city. I loved it!  I have a degree in Communications and Art so it just seemed to come very naturally for me. The graphics work I do is something I've learned on my own. It’s still rough but the clients and the boss are happy so that’s what matters most!

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?

I have a wonderful boss who sees a person based on their abilities and talents. I've had previous employers who were less accepting but as I said before it’s really their issue to deal with not mine. My talents and abilities are truly what count in the work force.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

I see it like this…God created us in his image and we are all different whether its size, skin color, hair color, sexual orientation, religion or creed. We have to be more accepting of each other in work as well as life. Variety is, after all, the spice of life.

LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

The fashion industry I think is finally catching on that we aren't all a size 6 and that real women have CURVES! Ralph Lauren has one of the most classic, elegant, modern yet timeless lines around. Designers who are truly in the know are adjusting their designs to include real people who are a real size 18 or 28.

LargeInCharge.com: Where do you regular shop for your clothing?

WOW! Where don't I shop.......I have a fetish for great clothes, shoes, and handbags so I love living in Manhattan. I love the thrift and vintage stores in the Village but Filene's Basement is WONDERFUL, AMAZING, SIMPLY FABULOUS!  DSW (oh the shoes), Daphne's, Michelle’s of Long Island, the list can go on and on! Let us just say that I can shop!

LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I would love to see women with curves who have actually eaten a complete meal at least once in the last day. Having fashion magazine covers graced by anorexic movie, TV and music stars only tells young women and men that being skinny is the only acceptable way to look when the focus should be on being healthy.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

Plus size modeling is expanding. There are more working plus sized models today then there were 2 years ago.  There are plus size modeling agencies who are showing designers there are people of size who have money who will spend it if you will design for them. I think a lot of designers may be afraid to design for plus size people because they don't think we will buy the clothes. Oh boy, they are so wrong! Trust me, someone should show them my closet! I believe plus sized models are going to keep taking on the modeling world and showing a truer side of the world...we come in all shapes and sizes.

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

Filene's Basement, Michelle's of Long Island, Lane Bryant, Macy's, Kiyonna, Igili, B&Lu, Monifc, Daphne’s and Barney's.

LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now.  What changes do you see?

It’s a hard call to make. There have been advancements but then you still see stars with eating disorders on the covers of magazines, on bill boards, and on television. There will always be someone who isn't accepting of larger people. It’s up to us to be sure they see us as people not objects of size.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

I would hope that a person can be measured for their worth and not their weight.

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

I would like to be a face people see and think "Oh, that’s an attractive woman". Whether I do clothing lines or cosmetics I would like to be a face people see and recognize. In July, I will be in competing in the Miss Plus America Pageant representing Louisiana as Ms Louisiana Plus America.  Yes, I am planning to win but at the same time I want to be an example to my niece as well as other young girls. I want to show them that beauty comes in all sizes and shapes. There is an opportunity to do some modeling in conjunction with the pageant and I'd love that opportunity as well. (The pageant is in no way affiliated with the Miss America Pageant, the Mrs. America Pageant or the Miss America Teen Pageant.) I believe that with all the beauty pageants on television and in the news it is time plus size women were recognized as beauty queens and Miss Plus America is doing that on a national level with representatives from all over the United States as well as Puerto Rico. I’m honored to be apart of the organization as a representative of plus size, curvy chicks, voluptuous, round, thick,  big beautiful women everywhere!

 LargeInCharge.com: Give us a sentence that inspires you.

You not only have the right to be an individual you have an obligation to be one.--Eleanor Roosevelt

LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

Right after I moved here to Manhattan I was stopped in Penn Station on my way to work by a photographer. He asked me if I would be interested in doing some modeling work for him on a gallery project and book of photography. That show opened January 23 of this year to great success. I went to the opening night and was not only humbled by the photographer’s work but by how he showed his interpretation of me. It is a great thing to see yourself through someone else’s eyes.  At the show I saw that I wasn’t seen as a person of size I was just the girl in the photographs.

LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

There are a lot of people who keep me going........My mom Bobbie, my niece Alexis, my best friends Kristy and Wayne, David my heart, Nikki,  Lana, Tony,  my sorority sisters, my brothers, my new nephew --Freedom, Nick, Allen and the memories of my father, Memaw, PawPaw and grandparents Christian. Nothing can motivate a person more than showing people that you can become the best that you can be.

LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

Be ready to work, take criticism and keep you head up. It’s a rough business for anyone no matter their size but you can do whatever you want to if you put your mind to it.

LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you admire?

My Mom is who I admire the most. She showed me that when you can't stand you can kneel and that makes all the difference in the world.

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.

I can’t do it in one word but I can with three—Brash Southern Belle. Yes it sounds like an oxymoron but if you know me you know it fits perfectly.

 

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Thank you to Bigger and Better Thangs Entertainment for Being Teresa's Party Sponsor

   
 
 

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Raqui's Spot

This months Subject:

Car Shopping for the Large of Body

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Car Shopping for the Large of Body


    
I cannot even being to tell you how many e-mails, or instant messenger conversations, I have had in the past year.  I have found that there are many super sized people who are on the tall side.  Both men and women are having a very hard time finding a car they can fit into. 

 

     Because of my height and weight, (6'4 and 580lbs) many people have asked me what type of car I drive.   Sorry to say that I don't drive.  I cant fit into regular cars as a driver.  If I am a passenger I can fit into about any car.  But to be a driver who has to move my legs and feet around, sit behind a wheel, and be safe while doing it,  I have had no luck.   To learn to drive and get my license I need a car I can fit into.  I cant buy a car without a license.  I cant get my license with out the car. So how am I supposed to learn and drive if I cant get a vehicle I can work with.

 

     Many super sized people have cars that are like a death trap.  Squeezing into them and squeezing out.  If there should be an accident they wouldn't be able to get out.  You have to be realistic, the more weight the more wear and tear a car will experience.  If you life in an area with a lot of hills and bumpy roads this can cause problems.  Once your shocks start to give, the bottom will start to scrape.   If you and your friends  or family are big, the car is defiantly working hard for the ride.  I am not saying that a car cannot handle weight.  Most do with no problem.  I am not talking about the average BBW, I am talking about heavier people, super sized people.  After a few years, it just wont be able to work the way it used to.

 

     Now we have mini vans,  They are pretty good.  Some are decent on the leg room, but others don't do it for me.  The seats are a little on the narrow side and not very strong.   I know of a woman who had the driver's seat taken out and set back about 5-6 inches to accommodate her.  This is a good idea, although it is an added expense.  I personally have found that mini vans give on the shocks after a while.  They are a little to low to the ground and end up scraping before most cars do.  I don't believe it is the right vehicle for heavy weight.  Not on a regular basis.

 

    SUV's and Trucks are the best bet.  Mostly on the large side and best for carrying weight.  But this is where things become difficult.  Most SUV's and Trucks have HUGE dashboards,  Bad on the knees if your like me, big in the leg area.  The roomy seats of before are now replaced with smaller seats and big islands in the middle between the driver and passenger.  If you are wide in the butt and hip area,  your going to be uncomfortable.  My hips, thighs and knees are very wide.  So again I am trapped in a small situation.

 

     Through many years of looking at pictures and stats, days of jumping in and out of vehicles, and consulting with some car dealers.  I have found some useful information.  The year 2000 is when American manufactures of vehicles started the campaign of trying to compete with the foreign cars.  The look and style and adding the giant dashboards, panels, and islands to there vehicles.  To add all of these foreign looks room was sacrificed.   Seats made smaller, contours of the car made shorter, space for the legs narrower.   This all leads to a impressive looking Truck or SUV, but with out the room that many of us Big in body need.

 

     The foreign look is hot, it is all that, it is style.  Yes it is impressive to look at, until you try to fit your big butt into it.  Foreign vehicles are made in other countries like Japan & Germany.  Countries who cater to the small of frame.  Small, fast, compact seems to be there motto.  This has affected the way America builds vehicles.

 

     What should you look for in a vehicle?  What do you do when the standard built is to small for your frame?  The best vehicle for you would be a Truck, American made, in the year 1999.  I personally wouldn't go with a younger vehicle but if you find one in amazing condition go for it.

 

Here is my top two picks:

 

    

Chevy Suburban - 1999- K1500 series                        Chevy Tahoe - 1999 - K1500 series  

 

     Recently I have been in both vehicles and i would easily drive either one with no problem.  These vehicles are big and roomy.  The Suburban is a bit smaller than the Tahoe.  You could lay down in them for sure.  If your a city dweller parking can be an issue.  But other wise these vehicles are exactly what I would look for.  I plan on getting a Tahoe soon.

 

     Now not everyone is built like me and I am sure many of you can fit into smaller vehicles.  But I have compiled some tips that you can go by to help you out.

 

Vehicle Tips

  • If your Big in the butt and hips - Look for small islands between the driver and passenger seat.

  • Big and thick in the thighs and knees - Look for a smaller dash board,  Preference for a straight dashboard,  not one that has a big radio console.

  • Long legs that get cramped -  Look for a small dash and a seat that goes way back.  You may have to set your seat back professionally.  SUV's and Trucks are best.

  • Tall with no head room - Seats that sit a little low, and a seat that goes back.  Look for vehicles that are full sized or bigger.

     When you do go to get that perfect vehicle ask the dealer to help you.  Tell them what your looking for so he can steer you in the right direction.  You will have to try out many many vehicles for the proper fit.  But when you find it, it will feel so good.

 

Raqui

 
 

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Russell's Review

Big World Character Review


     My mission here at Large In Charge is to finally answer those questions that we may never even realize to ask. Characters that are often portrayed in movies, shows, cartoons, and everything else that portray anything relating to the BBW /BHM community. You ever wonder why there are no big people in the matrix. I mean what, No body eats there? They can't blame it the food. Or why we're always under some type of scrutiny whether we realize it or not. I'm here to finalize all answers and give you nothing but a honest accurate opinion about characters portrayed in such entities.

QUEEN LATIFAH in the movie "LAST HOLIDAY"

Quick Synopsis:

     Queen Latifah plays a character name Georgia Byrd. A plus sized woman who lives as an ordinary everyday working female struggling to make ends meet. She has a crush on a co-worker played by LL Cool J. little does she know that he also has a crush on her.  She's a great cook and has some amazing goals for herself that she puts away in a special book.  But she never eats the meals she works so hard to prepare.  She shares them with a neighborhood boy and eats Lean Cuisine instead, sticking to her diet. Through an accident at work, she finds that she is terminally ill.  Her life is about to expire, and that's when an adventure starts.

Why I chose to review this character:

     In this movie, The character she plays is very inspiring in many ways and is not in anyway making the BBW / BHM community or its entities look negative. It shows that no matter how big or grim life may seem or just when everything is going absolutely wrong, there is always a brighter way.  When this character is faced with the reality, that she is going die in a couple of weeks. She finally eats what she wants, spends how much she wants, travels and much more. This is a big plus for the BBW / BHM community because, we are always under some type of scrutiny for eating something big, or wearing something small and this often stops us from achieving and completing many things in life. As well as decreasing self-esteem and self-worth. When she knows its time to go. You go out happy with no regrets. I'm not saying that you should only feel right doing what you wanna do in event that your dying. But this can help you realize that you should just forget many aspects of the common society driven community which thrives on what's hot, and what's on TV or radio. All of these weight lost ads and everything else that makes the average plus-sized person quiver. And just go with the flow and Do what you want. No matter what anyone says. Fulfill all of your hopes, dreams and endeavors. Because you only live once. Let your crush know you like them, Say how you really feel, enjoy your meals, travel as you please, and look good.

     This is the first time ever a Plus-size character had a decent love interest that was interested in her for her. Not because he feels sorry for her. In this movie, her character was not comic relief. Although it was kinda funny when LL cool J struggled to pick her up in a certain part of the movie. I have to say at least that is physically realistic in the real world. In the end they did not show that she needed to loose any weight. Her health nor weight was not an issue at all in this movie.  The reason she was told she was dying had nothing to do with weight or common diseases. Now that's something that is really positive for us.

     The last movie that tried to do this was Shallow Hal. A movie which showed us in such a horrible light. Falling through chairs and stools. The guy needed to be hypnotized and tricked into liking a super sized woman. It would have never happened if he was never hypnotized, But in "Last Holiday" The love interest like her for her no tricks involved and that is more realistic in today's world then ever before.

     If you have not seen this movie, Go out and rent it or buy it. I assure you that you will enjoy this movie for many reasons then just one. It's a big Plus for the BBW / BHM community. It takes size acceptance to another level.

 
 

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Jay's Spot

This months Subject:

Big Biker Babes of Arizona

 

Big Biker Babes of Arizona

 



     Last year I wrote a column about Big Girl Bikers featuring "Christine".  The article sparked interest from many readers around the world, who either are "of size" and ride bikes or just plain interested in learning how to ride.  The feedback was incredible! and it was one of the biggest ratings and request that I received in "Jay's Spot" so far. Women were writing in either thanking me for bringing up the topic, requesting publicity, or looking for riding lessons.  Then things took a turn and it got really interesting. The pic's started coming in... Big Chicks on Bikes... WOW! To all the True FA's.... AY... SSBBW's ride 4Wheelers too!

     I kinda stumbled on the topic....I was at a Bash at www.babsbbw.com saw a few Big Girls coming in the event with leather rider outfits and their helmets in their hands. I was like....That's what's UP!
That Shit was a turn on!
 

     They was Big...had the colors of their outfits matching the helmets...They was coming in the party so I never even seen their Bikes....but just based on their appearance I knew they was some Big Fat Bad Bike Riding MuthaF*&%*$... I really thought that was some cool shit! "Big Biker Chicks".

     So... the article got good hits and I decided to bring it back as a Reality Series and keep an update on the Haps in the Big World of Big Biker Chicks. In Reality... On the West Coast.

Big Biker Babes of Arizona

http://autos.groups.yahoo.com/group/BikerBabesofArizona

Interview with Big Biker Babes of Arizona

Jay of LargeInCharge:  STATE YOUR NAMES?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Valerie Shaw

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHERE WERE YOU BORN?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Oakland CA

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHERE DID YOU GROW UP?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Oregon

Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A BBW (BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMAN)?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Yes

Jay of LargeInCharge:  AND WERE YOU BIG ALL YOUR LIFE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  No, I was average when I was younger, I became heavy after I had children.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WERE YOU EVER DISCRIMINATED AGAINST BECAUSE OF YOUR SIZE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Discriminated against? I don’t believe so. Ridiculed, made fun of, insulted by other people, yes.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  OR DID SIZE NEVER MATTER IN YOUR LIFE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I have always associated with people who love me for who I am, not what size I wear. I could care less what the rest of the world thinks.

     I think it is ironic that there are so many single, skinny, pretty girls out there who can’t find true love and be as happy as I am. I think if they quit worrying about what size they wore and just be themselves they would be able to see past their little nose and find Mr. Right. But I won’t get started on that subject; we would be here all night.


Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHEN DID YOU START RIDING MOTORCYCLES?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  January of 2002

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT WAS YOUR FIRST BIKE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  A 1995 Harley Davidson Fat Boy, which I traded in after 8 months and now I have 2000 HD Road King.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT MADE YOU CREATE A GROUP FOR BBW RIDERS?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  It was actually just a way for us to communicate and coordinate rides and events and not bother the main bbw group with our hobby.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELVES ONE OF THE FIRST...IF NOT THE FIRST ALL BBW RIDER GROUP?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I have no idea what other groups are out there. I know there are a lot of big women that ride. I see them all the time.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  HOW LONG HAS YOUR GROUP BEEN ACTIVE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Since January of 2002

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT KIND OF THINGS DOES YOUR GROUP DO?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  We ride places around Arizona. We have gone to the River Run in Laughlin Nevada and the 4 corners rally in Colorado.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  HOW LONG DID IT TAKE FOR YOU TO LEARN TO RIDE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I had rode smaller bikes about 14 years before I got my first Harley. The other girls in the group took the Motorcycle riding course. I just got on and rode it down the road!

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT DO YOU MOST ENJOY ABOUT RIDING?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I like the freedom. I rode horses as a kid. I love the sound of a Harley, I like Jet noise, monster truck pulls etc.. I like the curves too!

Jay of LargeInCharge:  THE BIKER LIFESTYLE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I don’t live the biker lifestyle. From 8-5 Mon thru Friday I go to work in a skirt and heels. So getting on the bike on the weekend is a big switch.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO YOU RIDE AS A HOBBY, MAJOR MEANS OF TRANSPORTATION OR STRICTLY JUST FOR FUN?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Hobby

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT IS YOUR DREAM BIKE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  One that never needs to stop for gas.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  HOW DID THE GAS SHORTAGES CHANGED YOUR RIDING HABITS?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  None – I actually rode it to work during the gas shortage. The other girls at work thought I rode in a skirt and heels! (they are so gullible. They didn’t see the bag with my jeans and boots under my desk! Hahaha)

Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO YOU THINK ITS HARDER FOR BIG GIRL TO RIDE A BIKE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Not at all. Do you ask the same question to the big biker dudes?

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT IS THE MOST DIFFICULT PART OF RIDING IN YOUR OPINION?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Not getting hit by drivers who don’t pay attention. ( or turning the volume up on my MP3 player while doing 75 on the freeway. The trick is being able to ride with no hands!)

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT'S THE LONGEST DISTANCE YOU'VE RODE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  525 miles to Ignacio Colorado from Phoenix AZ

Jay of LargeInCharge:  HOW WAS THE EXPERIENCE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  It was great! Thank goodness for the comfy seat! (Mine and the one on the bike)

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHEN RIDING DISTANCE DO YOU PREFER TO "DRIVE" OR RIDE ON THE BACK?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I don’t ride the back seat anymore. I ‘drive’ my own.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  HAVE YOU EVER FELL OFF...AND HOW DID YOU HANDLE IT?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Fell off? How do you fall off of a motorcycle. If you go down it goes with you. I’ve set my bike down on the crash twice while parking and did the same with my husbands Ultra once when I was riding it. You feel kinda silly and embarrassed. Then you hope someone will help you pick it up. I was never injured.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  IS YOUR GROUP MOSTLY BBW / SBBW WOMEN?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Mostly bbw women and of course – the men who love us.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  ARE ALL YOUR MEN FA'S(FAT ADMIRERS)?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  All the men in the group are FA’s and most of them are connected to one of the women riders. There are a few single men and women in the group.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  TELL US ABOUT THE SKILLS SOME OF YOU LADIES HAVE?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Well you know the usual stuff, we cook, we sew, we shop, we manage multi million dollar companies.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WE HEAR ONE OF YOU IS A PHOTOGRAPHER?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  The photographer is one of the men who love us. Rob recently crashed his new Harley and is limping around looking for a new one.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT ARE SOME OF THE DO’S AND DON'TS IN RIDING FOR BEGINNERS?
 

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I would say


1. Don’t ride alone
2. Don’t ride to fast around corners (Rob)
3. WEAR A DAMN HELMET!!!!!
4. Learn from experienced riders
5. If you are afraid of the bike, get off and sell it!
6. Always pay attention to your surroundings
7. Ride like you are invisible, no one can see you and
every car around could potentially hit you.


Jay of LargeInCharge:  CAN YOU GIVE ANY ADVICE FOR ANY BBW READERS WHO WOULD LIKE TO LEARN HOW TO GET INTO BIKING?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  First of all, don’t do it just because your friends do, you think it will help you get a man or some other stupid reason. Do it because YOU want too. Ride because you long for the open road, the wind in your face and the freedom it gives you.  Then, take a Motorcycle training course. (I didn’t because I’m married to the best teacher there is!)


Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHICH BIKES ARE GOOD FOR SUPER SIZED PEOPLE WHO WOULD LIKE TO LEARN HOW TO RIDE? OTHER THAN HARLEY'S?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Any of them – each person’s taste and what is comfortable to them is different. For instance; my bike and my husbands have the same frame, motor and seat. He hates riding my bike and I don’t particularly care to ride his. The handlebars, highway pegs and foot pegs are set up differently on each bike to suit the owner’s preference. It doesn’t suit the other person’s preference.

     I would strongly advise anyone looking for a bike to go and sit on as many different ones as possible. Make sure YOU ride it before you buy it. You need to know how it feels. Some bikes vibrate more than others; the front forks may be heavy and hard for you to control. That is why I had to get rid of my Fatboy after a few months, it rode like a jackhammer and I hated it. I did not test ride it. My husband rode it home for me the day we bought it and I rode it for the first time a few days later.



Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO ANY OF THE LADIES DO ANY TRICKS?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Yes, but if we told you who they were they could be arrested.
(hahahahaha) No, seriously, we are all safe riders and don’t do anything stupid while riding. I think the most daring thing we do is ride with no hands. I rode about 60 miles on I-40 with no hands leaning back on the duffle bags that were strapped on behind me. That was very comfortable!


Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHICH ONE OF YOU LADIES IS SERIOUSLY INTO "SPEED"?  WHAT'S THE FASTEST SPEED YOU'VE EVER BEEN UP TO?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  I’ve had mine up to 95 trying to catch up with the group. I decided it was pretty stupid and slowed down. I knew where they were going and if all else failed I can always find my way home. I didn’t have to ride alone for long though. As soon as they realized I wasn’t back there, they slowed and waited for me to catch up. We never leave anyone behind.

Jay of LargeInCharge:  DO YOU HAVE WEBSITES (E-GROUP / BLOGS)?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  Just the bbw biker babes group on yahoo

Jay of LargeInCharge:  WHAT COULD OUR READERS AT LARGEINCHARGE.COM DO TO HELP SUPPORT YOUR BIG GIRLS BIKERS GROUP?

Big Biker Babes of Arizona:  When driving, please watch for motorcycles before changing lanes or turning. Don’t follow too close and don’t cut us off in traffic. Honk and gives us a thumbs up!

 
 

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Papi's Peace

This months Subject:

Introduction to our Big Man Writer

 

Papi's Peace


    

Hello family!
     I would like 2 say that I feel privileged and honored 2 become a part of the Large In Charge team. I have 2 thank the hostess with the mostess, Miss Raqui 4 recognizing my talents and deeming me worthy to be a full fledged regular here at tha Big LIC. (I know I am new and all, but can I coin that phrase? Can I call our spot here the Big LIC?)

     At this point I am sure U R thinking 2 yourself, who is this dude? Well, listen close (read close) bcuz this may B the ONLY time U get the Government Name, the club name, the rap name, the high school nickname, the family nickname AND the grown folk nickname all in one place at one time. (I may B revealing 2 much right here, but I gotta earn my stripes and let U know that I plan 2 keep it REAL!!!)

     I am Joel Rancifer alias Rance aka Herbert aka Poppa Bear aka Papi aka Trance the MC. Shall I explain? Joel is my father’s name. Rancifer is my mother’s maiden name. Rance is short 4 Rancifer. Herbert is my club name (very unassuming and it makes the ladies laugh). I got the nickname Poppa Bear in High School Bcuz women said I look like a big cuddly teddy bear. I rolled out with that. In college I dated this chick that loved 2 call me Papi Chulo. I rolled out with that 2!! Finally, I rap under the name Trance the MC. But U can call me Papi.

Welcome 2 my Peace (Piece, get it?)

     So what is my column all about? Anything. Everything. Basically just a world view from the eyes of a Big Boy. I have so many varied talents, experiences, twists and turns in my life that I feel I can touch on MANY subjects with knowledge and conviction. My mother has told me since I was a child that she wanted me to be a Renaissance Man . . . I went 2 a private Montessori grammar school. I attended one of the biggest, academic, social, and athletic high schools in Chicago. I Spent 4 years of college in Ames, Iowa and 3 more on the south side of Chicago. I have been a nerd, a scholar, a jock, a BMOC, a virgin, a player, a “therapist”/advice columnist, a big brother, a DJ, a producer, a rapper, a poet, a writer, a graphic designer, a web master, a photographer, a promoter and marketing specialist, a manager of strippers, escorts, and other adult entertainers, a maker of gift baskets, an entrepreneur, a rebel/activist, a Christian, a diabetic, and an obese African-American Male.

     So I am either some kinda Jamaican James Bond MacGyver “Jack of all Trades” type, or a Theo Huxtable Jeff Spicoli “Master of None” type. You can make your own decision after U have gotten 2 know Papi. And if things go well, U will get 2 know me VERY well! I look 4ward 2 it.

     Let me sign off with my creed . . . motto . . . my Creedo. It is a line from one of my songs, 2 Big 4 My Britches, and it is kind of a synopsis of my look at life.

Bustin' out the game through the seams and the stitches.
Don't blame me, I'm 2 big 4 my britches.
Bigger than a couple, and larger than a few.
So don't bite off more than U can chew.

Papi

 
 

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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude

 

A Passion For Food

     I’ve been there, just like all of you.  I’ve been in that place where it seems no matter how hard you try to change the image of how your perceived it just doesn’t change.  In the beginning those changes in perception must begin with us.  The change from “unhealthy” to “healthy”, must first and foremost be and internal choice.  In this venue, we can begin to talk about how we nourish ourselves.

     For me, it began with a love of the details food and food preparation.  This is the rhythm and drive that began a multi-year ascension from apprentice to Chef and restaurant manager.  In those years, never so greatly was the impact of how food affected people felt by me.  By using techniques simple and easy, you can create an astonishing presentation.  This nourishes the customer’s body, but also your soul.  This was the driving force from my time in restaurants and now on a cooking show.  I have seldom felt the responsibility that I do in these last years as the need to nourish people’s bodies and soul through my work.

     For us, the choice begins with the understanding that there is no such thing as “unhealthy” foods.  Food eaten to excess can always be construed as unhealthy.  We must make a collective and individual effort to let our choice define who we are as a person and as a people.  A philosopher once said, “show me what you eat and I will show you what you are”.  These are wise words.  Let take a moment then to figure out a way that our food selections can reflect they type of people we are, or the type of person we want to become.  For example, you might think, “I’m exciting, passionate, active, social, funny, happy, etc.”  Going to get a Big Mac doesn’t meet the standard you’ve set for yourself.  Thinking about a Big Mac, I don’t see any qualities about it that reveal those qualities above. 

     This month, I have for you a recipe that I am “passionate” about.  It is simplicity in design and full bodied in flavor.  In my experience most people who are passionate about their food, tend to also be passionate about living.  In the future editions, I hope to have included video segments showing the process of making the dishes in each month recipe offering.  Please remember I am always open to comments and questions.  I thank each of you for allowing me to spend this time each month with you.  Until next month, I present to you a passionate recipe.

Xander - The Food Dude

Xander's Recipe of the Month

Prawns of Passion

Description:

Buttery and garlicky with a rich tomato sauce. This recipe is sure to put your taste buds into overdrive! Sexy, sexy food! Serve with a green salad.

Ingredients:

·                     2 teaspoons light butter, divided

·                     4 teaspoons olive oil, divided

·                     2/3 medium head garlic, peeled and minced

·                     2/3 (28 ounce) can crushed tomatoes

·                     1-1/4 pounds prawns or shrimp- peeled, de-veined and butter-flied

·                     2/3 medium head garlic, peeled and minced

·                     2 tablespoons chopped fresh cilantro parsley

 

Directions

Melt 1 butter and 2 teaspoons olive oil in a saucepan over low heat. Add 1 minced head of garlic and sauté for 2 to 3 minutes until soft. Stir in the tomatoes and bring to a simmer. Continue cooking until reduced to a thick paste, about 30 to 45 minutes.   If you prefer you can use cornstarch or tomato paste to thicken faster.

In a separate saucepan, melt remaining 1 teaspoon butter, 2 teaspoons olive oil in a saucepan over low heat. Sauté remaining garlic for 2 to 3 minutes.

Toss prawns or shrimp in garlic butter sauce and place on a baking sheet. Broil until pink, do not overcook.

Spread the warm tomato mixture onto serving plates. Place prawns (shrimp)  on top of tomato sauce and sprinkle with chopped cilantro parsley.

This dish is so good and its worth the time.  The garlic and tomato work together with the shrimp to make the perfect balance of acid to base.  Add in the spiciness of the cilantro and you have a slice of heaven.

 
 

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Large In Charge Guest Spot

We want to hear and see your talents!

 

     One of our favorite parts of the newsletter.  The Guest Spot is for our readers to submit there talents to be viewed.  We want to see all you wonderful supporters making moves of your own.  If you write poetry, short stories, commentaries, or just thoughts in general, please submit them to us.  If your a designer we want to see pictures of your clothing.   We would love to include your talents in our newsletter.  We hope you take an active part in the L.I.C. newsletter. Send in your article, poetry, comments to - articles@largeincharge.com

NOTE: The Opinion of the writer is not always the opinion of The Large in Charge Staff.  We support the Right to all views.  We do not Condemn or Approve writing based on our personal thoughts.  We approve writing based on if the subject is a concern for the BBW / SSBBW / BHM Community.  Thank you for your writing and please send in those articles!  - The Large in Charge Staff

BBW Boobie Art

Di the BBW Boobie Artist - Click to View Thumb-nailed Boobie Art

 

Humming Birds

 

Untitled

 

Hatch

 

DragonFly

 

Duffus

 

 

 I am a BBW artist I use my breast as a paint brush the effect has been likened to floral abstract
about me I am a mum to 5children ,3 living and 2 girls who died neonatal deaths ...of my surviving kids my oldest 2 are now 22yrs (daughter Christy) and 24yrs(son Daniel) and the youngest is 9yrs old a son Tye who often helps me name my paintings ,with the imagination you would only expect from a child ..I am also a grandmother to 2yr old Lilly and married to hubby Gavin for 10yrs ..

     My breast are 38 DDD, at least that's the size on my bra's ..paintings can take anything from a day to a week to finish sometimes longer because I use so much paint that the drying process isn't a fast one ..I have a shower after each color change ..I also use canvas boards because paper is way too flimsy ...I use Acrylic paints as they are non toxic and wash off in water ...I apply the paint either directly to my breast or pour it on to the canvas and lean in to it and smear it over the canvas ...I think a lot of my paintings look like a abstract flower's ..they are colorful and really out there and so far its fun to do and not at all a chore....

     What's the use of painting with your breast and signing with your hand ? so I sign all my paintings with my nipple and the buyer is always welcome to a photo of me doing just that ..

     BBW Boobie Art would you believe it started with a dare lol ...I seen a lady selling similar breast paintings on eBay and I wrote to a friend in Sydney in the subject line was "if this thin lady can do this so could we".  I then wrote after all bigger is better and my boobs are defiantly bigger lol, my friend emailed me and said "go on I dare you !" so I took her up on it.  I bought several paints and 2 canvases I put up 2 auctions and started them at $10 cause I really didn't expect them to sell the first one sold for $20 the next for $26. I was far out ok I will do it again and they went up. The highest I sold for was $90. I also did a auction to raise money for breast cancer that one sold at $74.  The thing was the lady who won it was herself being treated for breast cancer she said to me she seen winning the auction as a positive omen and she now feels like she will beat her cancer.  I thought that was really lovely and have asked her to keep me up to date with her treatment. In the last few days I have been contacted by "Today Tonight" (a Aussie TV current affairs show) wanting to do a story on me and TA DA drum roll please Penthouse Magazine also wanting to do a story on me.  This Friday I had another live interview in S.Aus, ABC, Riverland radio.

 

My other interviews are:

ABC Radio breakfast show live with David Iliffe on 10/19/05

I have appeared in Examiner newspaper (tas) (10/23/05)

I was also on SEA FM Hobart on Monday 10/24/05 live

I was in the Tasmanian Sunday News paper in a 2 page spread taking up pages 1 and 7

ABC Radio NW Western Australia interviewed by Sian Gard live on 12/15/05

I am also one the ABC's Art web page Articulate

NSW ABC Radio Newcastle live on the 12/19/05

British Forces Broadcasting Service in London live on The Hatch & Duffus show. on the 01/12/06

REM .FM in SPAIN interviewed live by Maurice Boland. on the 01/12/06

also soon in Penthouse Magazine and Australia's Picture magazine


View my profile and portfolio at Ebsqart

Get your own BBW Breast Paintings

View My ebay auctions

 

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Ask Raqui

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NOTE: The Opinion of Raqui  is just that. I do not claim to be professional or to solve your problems.  I can however give you a real answer that may help you out.

Ask Raqui

Q:  Raqui I heard for a while you were coming out with your own line of clothing.  Is this true?

Where's the Clothes?

RaquiI have been contemplating my own line of clothing for a couple of years now.  But coming out with a line is a hard thing to do with out backers etc.  I didn't have the funds, so my dream has been on the back burner.  With 2006 here I have come up with an idea to get a line of clothing out. But as with all good things you have to work with it and stir it around to see if it is feasible. 

     Believe me when I say, When Raqui of LargeIncharge.com comes out with her own line. EVERYONE will know about it. 

Q:   Girl I checked out your Raqui.com site.  How did you get to do all the stuff you do.  Your mad smart and talented.  How do you look for the work?

Wanna be like Raqui
Raqui: I am going to tell the truth, It all started when my husband passed away and I started www.QueenRaqui.com (My wrestling/Squashing Website)  I needed money and found a way to make it fast, in a way that didn't go against my morals.  Wrestling/Squashing can be a little sensual for the client but it is not sexual when I do it.

     I skyrocketed fast and my name grew in ways that took others years to reach.  I knew how to advertise and get myself known.  The fact that I am very uniquely built also helped.  Soon the interviews from magazines and other opportunities came in.  I took off with that.  I grabbed at every chance I could for modeling and other things.  I then created www.LargeInCharge.com to showcase others.  www.Raqui.com  soon came after to showcase my other talents so I am not seen as one dimensional.  I am also a people person, others remember me and since I work in the community at times and give to others. I have hooked up with some interesting organizations.  The fact that I create my own sites helped me a lot because I didn't have to hire designers.  I now create, run and manage quite a few sites for others. 

     It all started with the loss of my husband and a great desire.  I found a way to market myself and didn't stop there.  I don't plan to stop anytime soon.

Q:  Congratulations, I heard you have a man in your life now. To bad for me HAHAHAHA.  Seriously what does it take for a man to get close to you.  I remember your blog it was man bashing extreme.  I have to admit they deserved it though.  What type of man does it take to win the heart of a woman like Raqui?
 

Robert

Raqui:  Yes it is true, I now have a man in my life. I have been single a long time. Many of my friends said my standards were to high. That I hate all men. I never hated men, I love men in fact. But as I said many times in my blog, I love men, not boys in men's clothing. I want a man to treat me the way I would treat them.  With the Ultimate respect, love, compassion, and decency.


     I was never a big fan of meeting men online, it is a big NO NO for me. So when someone messaged me online one day, I was ready to rip them a new asshole if need be. But the conversation wasn't about how hot I was, or sexy, he used my name instead of sweetie. He showed me respect as a person. We had a lot in common as far as work skills, so from the get go I thought about a new business venture. When we decided to meet and talk shop. We ended up clicking and our first business meeting turned into a first date. Soon a relationship followed and now we are very much into every aspect of each others lives.
 

     To catch a woman like me, I would say. RESPECT is key, a message from a stranger to tell me I'm hot, ask for pictures, or web camming, does not impress me. It doesn't make me feel like a sexy, vibrant, intelligent woman. I know what I look like, I don't need your confirmation, a strangers thoughts means nothing to me. A true interest in me as a person is what I desire. Once a man is dating me, that is when the physical compliments come into play.

Q:  I have a serious crush on my best friend.  He is not into big girls from what I see.  But he flirts with me constantly and he holds me close a lot.  If he dated big girls before I would defiantly think he likes me from the way he acts.  But I am scared to ask him because I don't want to feel like a asshole if he says, no he isn't interested.  What do I do?

Confused

Raqui:  Confused, this can be hard, you probably want to get him to make a little statement in a easy manner so he can either move forward with a yes or express a no in a way that is not hurtful.

 

     The next time he cuddling with you or hugging you close, say "If I didn't know better I would think you like me as more than a friend... the way you hugging on me so hard."  Give him a smile and a little laugh.  If he likes you as more than a friend, he might say so, or just blush and stay quiet.  He only thinking of you as a friend he will probably make a little joke.

 

     But If I were you, I would be upfront. You deserve it, and if he like you then you can do something about it.  If not at least your pants can stay cool while you play huggie.   I would say "I think your starting to like me, you sure hug me like you do."  This will probably open conversation and you can easily just find out what is up.  Best way to do things is upfront. 

 
 

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.

 
Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

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Fashion Find by: Raqui 

Fashion Type: Casual Club Wear

Fashion Breakdown:

  • Pink Paisley Top - Fashion Bug - $29.99

  • Dark Blue Stretch Jeans - Avenue - $49.99

  • Sterling Silver & Pink Opal Earrings - $19.99

  • Sterling Silver & Pink Opal Pendant - $29.99

 

Total cost for this outfit: $130.00

 

 

   

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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies

 

    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to articles@largeincharge.com

 

Aveeno Skin Cream

About the Product
 
 
Recommender:  Lea
 
Name of Product:  Aveeno

Type of Product: Skin Cream/Lotion

Cost of Product: $5.00 - $7.00 depending on size

Where Product can be found: Local Drug Stores, Rite-Aid, CVS, Wal-mart, 
K-mart, Walgreens etc.

Why I like this Product: Winter is hard on my skin.  I could see the lines of my pores, my skin
dry and cracking.  I felt like that alligator on the skin cream commercial. No lotion has been 
able to last all day and keep my skin moisturized.  Since using Aveeno, I don't have these 
problems.  My skin doesn't itch anymore and I feel great.
 

 

 

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