Issue # 26  - April 2006

Welcome to the LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.

 

Feature of the Month -  Crystal Senter Brown

 

Cover Model of the Month - Karen Devereaux - April Cover Model

 

Raqui's Spot - Big Women are we a Fetish?

 

Russell's Review - Comedian Carlos Mencia

 

Jay's Spot - BBW Artist JNESS

 

Papi's Peace - I am Fat

 

Good 4 U Food - Samurai Swordfish by Xander

 

Guest Spot - Chasing Dreams by Vicki Logan

 

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds from our readers.  Submit your Find.

 

Product of the Month -  Products for People of Size

 

Ask Raqui - Send Raqui your questions.  Get some advice from one Big person to another.

 

Events & Pictures - L.I.C. Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events, See what we are doing in the community.

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

 

Crystal Senter Brown

Singer/Poet

 
Crystal Senter Brown

     Smooth, not exactly soft, real but not harsh.  The sound of this lady had me actually lay back to listen.  Almost water like in the vibe.

Maybe I am a little bias, in one of her poetic vibrations I heard LARGE IN CHARGE. Yet I have never met this woman and she has never met me.  But it is a oneness that larger framed women have.  We read and live each others thoughts.

She looks like all women, sounds like all women, feels and expresses herself for all Larger Framed women.  She embodies us and expresses for us.

She is Crystal - Delicate as, shining brightly as, captivating as, CRYSTAL!   - Raqui

www.crystalsenterbrown.com

                                   

Interview with Crystal Senter Brown

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name (Real and Stage)?

Crystal Senter Brown, same as stage.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

Morristown, TN- But I live in Chicopee, MA now and have for the past 11 years

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you consider yourself a BBW or a SSBBW?

BBW.  I am happily married to Corey, we’re celebrating our 6th anniversary in Oct.

 

LargeInCharge.com: If your a person of size, were you a child and teen of size; or did you gain as an adult?

I gained 100 pounds with my pregnancy- I was actually a cheerleader from age 6- 18!

 

LargeInCharge.com: If your a person of size, Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Always.  They love me for who I am...size 22 and all!  My dad is a bass player, preacher and funeral home director and my Mom is an artist www.janicetreecesenter.com 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Have you always shown an interest in writing and performing?

I've been performing since I was 6 years old.

 

LargeInCharge.com: How old were you when you began to write and what did you write?

I was 10 when I started writing poetry...it was because my Mom exposed me to poetry at a young age and I just loved it!

 

LargeInCharge.com: How old were you began to perform your work?

I performed poems by Langston Hughes and Maya Angelou when I was 6.  I performed my OWN poetry at age 20 at Soul Café in Springfield, MA

 

LargeInCharge.com: If your a person of size, Do you incorporate Size material in your writing and performances?

Absolutely!  If you visit my site at www.crystalsenterbrown.com you can download my spoken word piece "Chunk" Free!  I also have a great song called Large and Lovely on my new cd MOJO.  Big girls everywhere LOVE THAT SONG!

 

LargeInCharge.com: Was it easy or hard to start performing your work?

Easy as pie (pun intended!)  I have always had exceptional confidence, thanks to my mother Janice Treece Senter and I think that shows in my performances.  Even skinny girls love my work!

 

LargeInCharge.com: When did you reach professional status; how old were you and how long had you been performing?

I was 26 when I really started to notice that people recognized me and I was starting to book more shows...I released my 1st acapella cd "Bees are admired" when I was 26.

 

LargeInCharge.com: How did you start with performing, do you only perform your own work or do you also perform the work of others?

I actually prefer to perform with a band- a great group from Springfield, MA.  Jarreau Pitts on keys (he actually produced my MOJO cd), Trevor Pitts on drums and Heshima on bass.  All three played on my Easybreezybeautifulcoloredgirl cd.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you ever perform with others?

Yes, the band whenever I can.. and I love doing all female showcases!

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us which writers and poets you admire?

Lucille Clifton, Maya Angelou, Nikki Giovanni, Wally Lamb,

 

LargeInCharge.com: What inspires you the most when you’re writing and performing?

Seeing people in the audience having an "AHA!" moment as if to say "Hey I wear a size 22 too!  Hey I've had a man cheat on me!  Hey, I'm in LOVE, and my man is GREAT!" all of the above...and actually being able to see young girls who never thought they could do what I do- and it inspires them to try

 

LargeInCharge.com: If your a person of size, Is it harder to get into the business because of size?

I think it can be if you dont have confidence...you dont have to always focus on being a big girl- focus on being a GOOD PERFORMER..if you have talent, nothing else will matter.

 

LargeInCharge.com: If your a person of size, How does your size help or not help you communicate to your audience?

My size helps tremendously.  Most of the girls at my show are a size 14 or larger, and they are sick and tired of seeing nothing but skinny girls on tv, videos, on stage, etc,  They're happy to see someone of size doin her thing!

 

LargeInCharge.com: Who is your manager?

Joe Senter in Nashville, TN (he's also my brother)

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you work for an agency?

No but I have my own publishing company called "Senterbrown Publishing".  Ive published a childrens book and I'm currently working on publishing a book of collected poems written by teen girls.

 

LargeInCharge.com: How can someone book you for a show or appearance?

They can email bookings@crystalsenterbrown.com or call 413-594-5949

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you have a website?

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about some of the places you have performed at?

UMASS, Amherst College, Women Who Jam www.womenwhojam.com, Jimmy's Uptown Cafe (NYC), Cadavez (DC), Savannahs (Springfield, MA), Gumbolive www.gumbolive.com, Ladyfest East (Brooklyn), NABFEME Music conference (Canada),

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us if you have been featured in any magazines or on any shows?

 One of my poems was featured in VIBE magazine, and my cd has been reviewed on Just Soul.net, and many other online magazines.  I was one of 12 girls chosen for the Unsigned Magazine Compilation CD.

 

LargeInCharge.com: How did you feel the first time you performed; what did you perform?

I was 6.  There were 3,000 people there. I was dressed in an African outfit, and no shoes.  I performed “The Negro Mother” by Langston Hughes.  We took a chartered bus to get to the event, and I felt like a star!

 

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say to other inspiring writers and performers?

1.     Write everyday.  Even if its only 1 line, keep writing  Most of us think we dont have time, but     everyone has 10 minutes to write. 

2.      Support other performers/ writers in your area.  Go to open mics, see what other folks are doing.

3.      If you are part of a show, dont leave after your performance.  That is just rude.

4.      Find your feature and play it up.  For me its my hair and my breasts.  SO at every show you'll see lots of cleavage and lots of hair!  :-)

 

 

LargeInCharge.com: What should a new comer to the scene do to get a following?

1.      Perform at local functions. Dont expect to be paid if you're just starting out.

2.     Try to get one of your songs played on the local radio.

3.     Don’t have a big ego- there is ALWAYS someone who may be better than you…J

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where will you be appearing next?

 My calender is on www.crystalsenterbrown.com but I always appear at Gumbo Live on the 3rd Friday of each month www.gumbolive.com.  I have been nominated for an Urban Music Award and I will be at the awards ceremony on April 15 at the Berklee School of Music in Boston.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?

I’d like to have my own talk show- or entertainment show.  I’d also like to try my hand at radio. I want to retire at 45 and open a performance school in my hometown.  I’d also like to see the world and spend some time in Venice. 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Give us one word that you can say best represents your work?

Real

 

LargeInCharge.com: How much have you evolved as a writer and performer since those early days as a youth?

I know who I am now, I don’t try to be anyone else.  I don’t try to please everyone either.  I perform free at events for causes I am passionate about such as Diabetes, Cancer, and teen girls.  I write from my heart and I write for women everywhere from a size 4 – 44.  I believe you should love who you are!

 

LargeInCharge.com: How can the readers at www.largeincharge.com help support you?

Visit my site www.crystalsenterbrown.com, Support me by purchasing my cd MOJO, come out to some of my shows.  Send me an email anytime! crystal@crystalsenterbrown.com

 
 

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Cover Model of the Month

April 2006 Cover Model

Karen Devereaux

 

Interview with Karen Devereaux

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name? 

 

My name is Karen Devereaux and let me begin by saying that I am honored to have been chosen as a cover model.  With this interview, I hope to provide and inside look into my life as a woman of color, a plus size model and social activist against size discrimination.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

 

I’m originally from Chicago—a city rich with diversity and renowned for its architectural beauty.  I grew up in the Grand Boulevard Community which was home to many great musical legends.  About two years ago, I relocated to Atlanta.  Although Chicago is and always will be one of my most favorite cities, I longed for an opportunity to branch out and to further explore my artistic talents.  Over the years, Atlanta has made great strides and continues to propel itself to bigger and better things.  In fact, someone once described Atlanta to me as the “Hollywood of the South”.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

 

In terms physical characteristics, I am 5’10”, African-American and Hispanic and a dress size 26/28.  I am also single with no children.  In recent months, I have begun to take better care of myself.  I am attempting to eat healthier, I’m walking a bit more and I’ve developed an exercise regime—working to create a healthier me.  Many may not realize it, but heart disease is the number one killer of women; and when you think about it, that’s very alarming.  I plan to stay around for a very long time, so developing a healthier lifestyle is definitely placing me on the right track.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

 

I’ve been plus size my entire life.  In the beginning, it was very difficult to deal with.  I was always a very bright child with a thirst for knowledge, however, when you don’t fit into a particular mold (one created by society), people can be very cruel.  I was very self-conscious as a child.  I never doubted myself intellectually; however I always second-guessed myself physically.   After a while, the comments didn’t bother as much because I threw myself into my studies.  Expressing myself creatively (whether through writing, music etc.), was always an escape for me.  Today, I’m more confident and self assured.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

 

Honestly, I really related to the name of the organization: LARGE IN CHARGE!  Yes, I am a large woman, and there’s no denying that.  But, I am also in charge as well.  I live a great life, I travel extensively around the world and I am surrounded by positive and supportive people that share many of the same ideals that I do. 

 

Additionally, I entered the model search because I applaud the organization on a job well done.  I think there should be more exposure to the plus size community.  Industry leaders are beginning to realize that there is a great deal of talent in our community.  They’ve begun to realize that beauty, intelligence and talent defies any dress or pants size.  True, it’s long overdue, but it’s better late than never.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you have any experience in modeling? 

 

 If so tell us about what you have done.  Actually, I do.  I began modeling in my late teens when still residing in Chicago.  As I began develop more physically, the assignments came in less and less.  I’ve done hair shows, spokes modeling, fashion shows, pageants…you name, I’ve done it.  I’m always looking for ways of reinventing myself and honing my craft.  Ultimately, I’m looking to sign with an agent so hopefully that will transpire in the near future.

 

LargeInCharge.com: It takes a lot of confidence to model...  What has given you the confidence you have?

 

My confidence, first and foremost, comes from my Lord, Jesus Christ.  I know that I am nothing without him.  He has truly given me the courage to do and be the very best because I know that I deserve the very best.  I’ll be the first to admit, whenever I take part in something new, I’m a bag of nerves!!  I just really have to pray that I am giving the client what he wants while staying true to myself.  After that, I just relax and do what I know I’m capable of doing.  And this type of approach extends to whatever I’m doing because you never get a second chance to make a first impression.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

 

Initially, yes.  Now, I am definitely more confident about who I am—and it took years of hard work to get there.  I’m looking forward to the day when my size will no longer be an issue.  It goes back to what Dr. King said; judge me on the content of my character, not based on the color of my skin or what I look like for that matter.  I think as I have gained a bit more exposure, I have broken down some of the stereotypical barriers that surround our community.  And I face those stereotypes and challenges head on. 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends

 

Absolutely!  My friends and family accept me for who I am and love me unconditionally.  There biggest concern is to remain as healthy as positive because of the number of risks associated with be larger than average.  Thus far, I have not had any serious medical conditions.  I don’t take that for granted because things can change at any point.  But, again they are very supportive.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

 

I am inspired by so many people that it’s difficult to pin point any one particular person.  For one, I’m constantly inspired by people that overcome adversity.  I’m inspired by people that have gone against the grain, in an effort of making a change.  I’m inspired by the people that tell me I’m wasting my time.  I’m inspired by those that believe in me and support my efforts.  For me, inspiration is something that comes from a number of avenues—whether directly or indirectly.  But, no matter where it comes from or in what form, I always embrace it with open arms and use it as fuel to inspire others.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary job?

 

Currently, I work as an Insurance Underwriter for a great firm in Atlanta.  I’ve been with the organization a little more than a year and I’m enjoying every minute of it.  I work with a great group of professionals and for an awesome manager, Carol Rodgers. 

 

Carol understands my mission in the industry and supports me in any and every way that she can.  I have never worked for someone as supportive and as flexible as she is.  Without her flexibility, I would have missed out on a number of opportunities.  So Carol, if I have not thanked you enough, please allow me to thank you publicly, because you truly are a diamond in the rough!

 

 

LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?

 

That’s a great question!  Ironically, I came into the industry with no prior insurance experience.  I have never had automobile insurance, a vehicle, a license nor do I know how to drive.  Most people would have slammed the door in my face but, Carol saw below the surface.  She saw that I had worked in the service industry, as a manager, for more than a decade—and that coupled with my desire to give the organization 100% of myself; warranted an invitation to join the firm. 

 

Today, I am doing quite well.  I am well respected and I have received multiple commendations for being productive, proactive, innovative, and for exceeding the standards set forth by the organization.  I am looking forward to taking on additional responsibilities as I cultivate a better understanding of the industry as a whole.

 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?

 

Again, absolutely!  In fact, it has never been an issue in the work force.  It’s one of the few places that encourages you to utilize your talents and rewards you for them.  If only the fashion industry could take on that approach, plus size models would be held in a much higher regard.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

 

Well, outside of the obvious (which is providing everyone with the same level of respect and opportunities) I think employers should offer seating of various sizes.  I know that may sound a bit out of the ordinary, but if you are a full figured person then you know exactly where I’m coming from. 

 

There’s nothing more uncomfortable than trying to sit eight hours in a chair that was ergonomically not built for a larger frame.  Corporations should be a bit more sensitive to this issue because we are not all a size 10.  Yes, it would cost a few pennies more to have these chairs in stock, but it can prevent embarrassing situations for full figured people, which could otherwise be avoided. 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where do you regular shop for your clothing?  Tell us some of the places you buy your clothes from.

 

Honestly, because I don’t drive, most of my shopping is done online.  The invention of the internet has been a lifesaver for me.  I can find what I want, when and I want while being selective about the items I choose to purchase.  My computer and I have a wonderful working relationship!

 

Some of my favorite stores are Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, The Avenue, Jessica London (catalog) and Roamans (catalog) just to name a few.  I truly am a shopaholic!  In fact, I purchase something almost EVERY day!!  Additionally, I seek out EBAY on a daily basis.  I have found so many great finds there you wouldn’t believe it.  My friends have nicknamed me Miss EBAY because I’m always on their site.  You guys should really check it out.  You’ll be amazed at all the treasures you’ll find!

 

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

 

I think it would be great to see.  I think that if plus size modeling for men and women became more of a social norm, people will begin to accept themselves more because they are seeing a more accurate reflection of themselves.  People will no longer feel compelled to subject themselves to extreme dieting measures but in turn will realistically work toward creating a healthier, fuller-figured individual.  It truly would be a great thing!

 

LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now.  What changes do you see?

 

I think socially we have made some strides for the better, be we are a long way from hitting the mark.  Unfortunately, we are all living in a society where people are image conscious and perfection driven.  And although I do not condone this type of thinking, it is what it is. 

 

I think the least people can do is accept the fact that there are differences and work toward embracing those difference positively.  Despite our size, we are human beings with the same feelings and emotions.  We are not asking for special privileges; however we are demanding that we be treated with respect and as equals.  We only want to be treated humanely—and that doesn’t cost anything.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

 

That’s very difficult to answer.  I hope that we have evolved into a more diversified community.  I’m waiting for the day when I’ll see a full figured woman (larger than a size 16) on the covers of Harper’s Bazaar, Vogue, Elle, etc.  Will we ever see the likes of that day?  Maybe not in my lifetime, but we can always hope for the best.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

 

Although I truly do love the warmth and southern hospitality that Atlanta has to offer, I realize that a move is inevitable.  Currently, I have my sights set on L.A. as I have made a few contacts there.  Ultimately, I am looking to go main stream and elevate to a point where I am a household name.  I realize that I’m years away from that point, however the beginning a great journey begins with one step.  This year has truly been that first step and I couldn’t be happier!

 

Thus far, 2006 has gotten off to a great start.  I’ve done a voice over for an English as a second language audio program, worked as an extra for an upcoming show coming out this fall on the TLC Network and worked with a great photographer while building my portfolio. Ultimately, I hoping to merge more into acting because it has always been a passion of mine. 

 

Additionally, I really want to work with several charitable organizations to give of my self as much as I can.  I truly enjoy working with children and teens.  They’re in such a formidable stage where they need as much encouragement and positive reinforcement as possible.  I think it’s our responsibility as adults to provide that support because it truly takes a village to raise a child. 

 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Give us a sentence that inspires you.

 

Each one, reach one.  That statement says it all so what more can I say?

 

LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

 

Breaking into the modeling industry is extremely difficult.  There are tons of beautiful girls out there all vying for the same opportunity.  So, you have to truly look inward and ask yourself is this something you really want to do--because it’s not all it’s cracked up to be.

 

If you’re sure that modeling is for you, then the first step is to do your research.  There are a number of great sites out there that will provide you with some sound advice about the industry.  Also, step back and assess yourself.  Do you know what your strong points are…your weaknesses?  What will set you apart from other girls in the industry?  Are you abreast of the ever change trends?  There are so many things to consider so really getting out there, doing your research and being prepared is the one of the best tools you’ll ever have.   

 

Additionally, I don’t recommend people spending a great deal of money on classes, headshots, composite/zed cards, etc.  If someone is asking you to pay them upfront to represent you, then nine times out of ten they are not reputable!  Again, they are not reputable!  Do your research and find an agency that has your best interest at heart.  When you make money, the make money so they will always do their best to find you work.  Just keep in mind, they only provide the leads; it’s up to you to land the assignment.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you admire?

 

I must say that I admire comedienne Monique the most.  I applaud her for being the first person to host and create a national, televised Plus Size Pageant.  I admire Monique because she does not conform to industry standards and does not apologize for being FABULOUS AND THICK!  Most importantly, she has provided the Plus Size Community with an opportunity to be heard—giving us a voice on broader scale. 

Monique’s success has allowed her to reach audiences, otherwise unreachable, and forced them to take notice of the plus size community.  She has helped many plus size women to realize just how beautiful they truly are—and repairing someone’s self-esteem is one of the greatest gifts you could ever give to them.  Monique truly is an inspiration and I would love to work with her.  So, if anyone can make this happen please contact me ASAP! 

 

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.

 

INSPIRATIONAL.  My goal in life is to make a difference and to live my life by example.  In doing so, I hope to inspire someone else to take a stand and make a difference as well.  I want to inspire people to do their very best and to be the very best.  If sharing my story inspires just one person, then I have made a difference—and that, first and foremost is my goal.

 

Again, Congratulations Karen we are please to have you as a member of the LargeInCharge Cover Model Family!

 

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Raqui's Spot

This month's subject:

Big Women are we a Fetish?

 

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Big Women are we a Fetish?

 

     In this day and age dating someone of size is often categorized as a fetish.  Someone might say they have a fetish for big butts, breast, bodies, bellies or what have you.  Other people will say,

 

"Oh he has a fetish for big girls".

 

     When did dating a big person become a fetish? What does fetish mean?

 

Fetish:

  • An object that is believed to have magical or spiritual powers, especially such an object associated with animistic or shamanistic religious practices.

  • An object of unreasonably excessive attention or reverence.

  • Something, such as a material object or a nonsexual part of the body, that arouses sexual desire and may become necessary for sexual gratification.

  • An abnormally obsessive preoccupation or attachment; a fixation.

  • An inanimate object or nonsexual body part that is regarded as endowed with magic or erotic qualities.

     I have a problem with some of these words.  Words like object, unreasonably, abnormally, inanimate object, nonsexual body part.  

 

     I may be a big person, but my body is not an object or unreasonable.  I may be bigger than most of the women in American, or even the world, and no I might not be what society had decided is normal.  But I am not ABNORMAL as if I were an alien.  As if I was defective, like an abnormal heart.  Big women are quite normal since we are now outnumbering the so called average, normal, ideal body type.   We are women with big bodies, with added fat, but not ABNORMAL. 

 

     Our bodies are not inanimate objects, we are living breathing and very much alive.  No matter what some may say, our bodies are very sexual.  Just because your fat doesn't mean your body parts are nonsexual.  We are not repulsive.  But are we a fetish?

 

     Usually when one thinks of fetish we think of leather, latex, shoes, spankings or even certain body parts. We think of some type of adult sensual or sexual encounter, domination even.  We usually think of things that are not considered average in someone's sexual life.

 

     I am wondering who set the standard of what is normal or average.  Since those of us who are fat are considered not normal, those who love and admire our bodies must have a fetish to want to be with us.  Again it is society stating that those of us who are big in body are so undesirable and abnormal we are considered a fetish.  No normal thinking person can look at us and see a sexy, beautiful, plump person.  Our rolls are seen as degusting flab, instead of secret valley's in which our naturally sweet sent lays, waiting for an eager nose to find.  Waiting for an eager hand to hold.

 

     But I sit here again and read more into the meaning of Fetish.  I see magical, spiritual, powers, reverence,  arouses sexual desire, necessary for sexual gratification.  I see more interesting words like; attachment, regarded, endowed with magic or erotic qualities.  Yes maybe this sounds like me!

 

     In times of old the largest women were seen as the mothers of the people.  Seen as spiritual life givers.  The bigger their bodies the more status the woman held, and so did her mate.  We were worshiped and revered.  Wide hips swaying were erotic enough to make men fall to there knees and provoke havoc.  Yes our bodies arouse sexual desire and most men who love big women cannot see themselves with anything less.  Yes for those who loves us it is NECESSARY to have the extra fat and bouncy goodness our frames hold.   So do these things make us a fetish?

 

     My belief is that a fetish is something a person may personally find weird.  Something they don't consider normal.  When you really think about it, if there are thousands of people out there who like the same exact thing, it doesn't sound very weird.  Sounds pretty normal to me.  But it is the mind of the person that tells them, this is different it is my fetish.

 

     I don't believe a type of person can be a fetish.  I believe if you feel you need to hide what you like from others.  Then it might be a fetish to you.

 

     A man who loves big women and dates, marries, lives with, and loves a big woman.  Wouldn't say, I have a fetish for big women.  That is his normal life.  It is a preference.  But a man who is ashamed of liking big women and hides it. Might spend hours, days and lots of money on the net looking at fat porn or related sites.  Meeting and hiding his fat girl friends from his family and associates. He wouldn't be able to say in public, "I like those big girls". That would be a fetish, when you have to lie and hide your inner desires.

 

    So are big women a fetish?  Well yes, no, and maybe.  We can be a fetish just like anyone else.  You can have a fetish for blondes, red heads, skinny girls with big boobs and no buts.  You can like teeny tiny women or ones that are so big they are immobile, Black, White, Asian, or Spanish.  The fetish is not in the look feel or weight of the woman.  It doesn't matter what you like or who you like.  A fetish is in the feelings behind the desire.  Weather you are out in the open or hiding in secret.  So when someone asks me if I consider myself a fetish.  I look at them and say.  It is all in the eyes of the beholder.  It is in the mind of the man. 

 

Raqui

 

ANNOUNCEMENT Raqui is the Spotlight for April in www.BBWPress.com  she also has wrote an article for BBW Press for the month of April 2006 called (The Plus Sized Bride)

 
 

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     My mission here at Large In Charge is to finally answer those questions that we may never even realize to ask. Characters that are often portrayed in movies, shows, cartoons, and everything else that portray anything relating to the BBW /BHM community. You ever wonder why there are no big people in the matrix. I mean what, No body eats there? They can't blame it the food. Or why we're always under some type of scrutiny whether we realize it or not. I'm here to finalize all answers and give you nothing but a honest accurate opinion about characters portrayed in such entities.

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Comedian Carlos Mencia

                     

The Comedian Carlos Mencia: 

     Ahhhhh Carlos Mencia, Star of  the hit show “Mind of Mencia” which currently air's on Comedy Central. Come to think of it. The show can be pretty touchy if your easily offended by stereotypical remarks. Since Mencia is a big guy. I just had to take the opportunity to review this hilarious comedian.

     Mencia touches everything from Gender orientation to Mexicans crossing the border. This guy will say something about anything and not think twice. Think of this, Bush wants to put up a wall to keep the immigrants out of the country, Now who is going to build it. I cannot answer that question but Carlos Mencia can and will.

     During his show, he has a lot of skits pertaining to stereotypical views, such as midgets, transgender, men, women, race, rich, poor, fat, skinny, and more. This show will have you laughing your ass off. And then you’ll be wondering what else he is going to say next, what race is he going to target next. Personally I think he is a genius when it comes to saying exactly what he thinks. And without directly attacking or offending any type of stereotypes or race.

     Now here comes the question. Is he a Big Plus or Big Minus for the BBW / BHM Community. To many people it will depend on how you take to all of his jokes and gestures. I think that he is a big plus for BBW / BHM Community for the simple fact that he does not use big people as targets for his ammunition. I mean many things that he do say. Is technically correct in many aspects. Its just that many people will not say it in public. However Mencia will say just about anything about everything. He do make some very interesting points that will just have you say. “you know that is true, I never thought about that” So everyone check out his show, and see what I’m talking about.

If you had a bad day. He’ll cheer you up!..  As Carlos would say "Stop acting like a DEE DEE DEE".

Carlos Mencia Website: www.carlosmencia.com

Carlos Mencia - Comedy Central Site

 
     

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BBW Street Art Featuring

Artist JNESS

 

JNESS the Artist

 

 

www.scarletbbwart.com

Artist JNESS

 

     Being from The Bronx, I am somewhat influenced by the history of New York City "Graff".

LINK: www.at149st.com/hpart1.html

 

     Today in NYC, Graff has many positive attributes in HIP HOP Culture, headlining in many art galleries worldwide, including the Smithsonian's Institute.

LINK: www.tatscru.com/tats.html

     While searching online for "BBW ART History", I come across names such as, Peter Rubens (Born 1566), Fernando Botero (Born 1932), Pierre Renoir (Born 1841)

LINK: www.angelarose.com/Art/BBWart/

 

     The search made me wonder about the present biographies of FA Artist who are living right now....and on the rise in the Size Community. As a FA Tailor, I admire their skills. Most importantly, where will the history be documented for the street artists who pioneered BBW Art Work...for the streets? Online?

 

     So I had to seek out who I thought was The Best...The Greatest of Our Times...The One FA who did it better than the rest! That one Artist that caught my eye first...on some...next level...street shit! Two years ago... I'm at my friends house... an artist.. and I'm telling him about L.I.C. How I really need some hot Big Girl logo's so I can...have some fly BBW Art...I needed something.. off the hook! My friend is a lot younger than me, but he can draw his ass off!

 

     I knew he could give me the art I was looking for...but I had to give him some references...show him work of other BBW Artist...give ideas.

 

     While I was showing him, I figured.. I wanted his original portrayal...and decided to show him...a few SSBBW photographs instead. When I showed him the pictures...he grinned with a smile.. like a little tiny laugh... like ..."Jay on his Fat Girl Shit.. thing!" His Fat Girl Mag...thing.

 

     The typical....he gave me that...when the boys snap on you cause you like Fat Girls...(look). But he is much younger than me...so maybe it was his age...even though...my younger friend gives me mad respect...he still kinda chuckled a little....at the time.. I meant business... I needed some hot BBW Art.

 

     Immediately...I pulled out...like Fuck That!,,,I don't want you to draw this...I'm Good! It hit me, that even if he gave me the perfect art work...It still wasn't from the heart. I then realized, that only an artist like JNess and True FA's.... can draw....."Real" FA Street Art...

 

     Historically...A TRUE LEGEND...(TWO YEARS LATER....I BRING YOU.....) JNESS

More Art work by: JNESS - click the Thumbnails to view

                   

Interview with JNESS

STATE YOUR NAME / ART NAME?

Jean Ness aka JNESS

WHERE ARE YOU FROM?

Originally from Brooklyn, NY now I reside in South Jersey.

WHEN DID YOU FIRST REALIZE YOU HAD A LOVE FOR ART?

I realized it the first time my mom bought me a Batman Comic book.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR BACKGROUND, WHAT TYPE OF ART DID YOU START DRAWING FIRST?

I started out drawing Superheroes copying from comic books line for line stroke for stroke. Then I took my art to the next level drawing graffiti pieces and characters. I loved this rule-free medium. I went to the High School of Fashion Industries and majored in Fashion Illustration. Later on I studied Graphic Design at The School of Visual Arts. I have been a Graphic Designer professionally for 10 years.

WHEN DID YOU FIRST BEGAN DRAWING BBW ART AND WHY?

As a teen I badgered BBWs as a result of peer pressure and wanting to fit in. I drew BBWS because I admired their curves and soft lines. I never showed these drawings because my friends would have thought I was crazy.

There was a BBW named Angie who I made fun of everyday because of her size. I was secretly crazy about her. By the time I decided to step out in spite of my friends and admit how I felt, she hated me and the answer was loud "Hell NO!!!" From that point on I decided to stop trying to fit in and walk the path of FA honesty.

I said all this to say there was no better way to make my statement than through my art.

I am sure I caused Angie pain, I try to make up for it through my art. I hope she'll see my web site and feel good about herself, and forget the words of people who are like I used to be.

DO YOU CONSIDER YOURSELF A FA?

I am definitely an FA. I am a father of 5 married 15 years to a wonderful Boricua BBW.

HOW LONG HAVE YOU BEEN ACTIVELY DISPLAYING YOUR ART IN THE SIZE COMMUNITY?

I have been showing my brand of BBW Art on the internet for almost 5 years.

WHAT DO YOU CALL YOUR TYPE OF ART? EXPLAIN "YOUR STYLE" TO US?

My style is vector based, reality driven hip- hop inspired art. Or as my gallery visitors call it "cartoons", (LOL) which works fine for me. Back in the day, the characters (usually from comic strips) applied to a graffiti production separated the artist from the masses. So I make the BBW in a given artwork both the subject and the accent to the scene. My style is very clean, and rich in simplified detail.

IN MY OPINION, YOU'RE ONE OF THE FIRST TO PIONEER BLENDING STREET ART & BBW ART... AND YOU CHANGED THE GAME! YOUR ARTWORK RAISED THE BAR!

AFTER I SAW YOUR TAG...THEN OTHER ARTIST.. GRAPHIC DESIGNERS CAME WITH THE STREET GRAPHICS AND HOT LOGOS.

WHAT IS YOUR OPINION?

Thank you, I am very competitive, but love community. Each time I see some incredible production done by one of the other BBW artists on line, I smile because the focus on people of size gets restated, another stereotype is discombobulated, and the game gets up-ed a notch. Then I get the hip hop battle feeling I got in the A train Lay-up, in the cardboard paved cipher when I used to POP (break dance), or when it was my turn to spit a battle rhyme at the lunch room table.

I hit my black book and start plotting my next creation. I have to do better than the last piece I did. As Ice Cube said, "Once again it's on." Having a Hip Hop background gives me an edge, that combined with my graphic experience helps me create art that pushes the threshold.

NAME SOME OF THE OTHER ARTIST IN THE SIZE COMMUNITY.. THAT YOU ADMIRE? WHO GOT SKILLS?

Nigel Morgan is the undeniable master. Les Toil stays at the center of the battle arena destroying all challengers. Ianardo produces more BBW art per day than I hope to create in a lifetime, he is the art machine. CEEJAY is the Ninja, hitting you with something you never saw coming each time. JNESS is the junior BBW art warrior pulling up the rear volleying to become #5 in the line-up.

TELL US ABOUT YOUR WEBSITE?

Recently redesigning the website. I tried to make the visitor have a pleasant experience. I want people to feel that my work is professional because I am representing BBWs, it's important that they (society)know that this is not a fad. BBW/People of size are here to stay and deserve respect, no matter what you think. I always say I want my art to change the way the world thinks, one viewer at a time.

AND WHY THE NAME "SCARLETBBWART"?

Wow, I've never been asked that question before. The first BBW I ever dated, her name was Scarlet.

YOUR CUSTOM LOGO'S...ARE OFF THE HOOK!...WHEN YOU DRAW "BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMEN" DO YOU DRAW FROM PERSONAL PICTURES OR DO YOU SOMETIMES FREESTYLE YOUR ORIGINAL CHARACTERS?

I am always collecting pictures of BBWs online as reference points and pure inspiration. I use sketches, tear sheets from magazines, I take my own photos, I use anything that will help me achieve my goal. This is not abstract art, it's important that proportions are truthful and familiar to the eye.

IF A PERSON WANTED TO PURCHASE A CUSTOM DESIGN LOGO.. WHAT IS THE PROCESS?

I sign a design agreement with the client, which includes price, content requirements. Once legalities and finances are out of the way. I find the right music and begin doing research on the web that deals with the clients topic. I create sketches to get a feel for the message the logo needs to convey. Hopefully, after a few go arounds with the client, They choose a design ane sign off on it (approval)Once that is done I refine the design to a very clean vector based artwork, and deliver the finished product to the client.

CAN YOU NAME ANY SITES WHO YOU HAVE DESIGNED GRAPHICS/LOGOS FOR?

www.chadesigns.org  - website and logo/a fashion designers online showcase.

www.belle_noir.com  - Ezine for Big. Beautiful. You./ Cover art and headers.

WHAT FEEDBACK DO YOU GET FROM THE SIZE COMMUNITY ONLINE?

Feedback is very positive. Every now and then you get someone who misses the point, people complaining about how sexy my characters are. I don't create art that portrays BBWs in a negative way. I try to reflect the many sides of her (the bbw community as a whole) personalities and lifestyles.

DO YOU ATTEND ANY BBW/BHM EVENTS AND BASHES? AND DO YOU EVER DISPLAY YOUR WORK?

I need to attend more events. Time is just so short.

NAME A FEW OF YOUR ART PIECES THAT YOU MOST ADMIRE AND ENJOYED CREATING? WHICH ARE YOUR FAVORITES?

One of the pieces that I enjoyed illustrating the most was called, "Watchcase" it features a BBW and her love interest in the rain on there way to a formal engagement. I loved putting it together because I am a big fan of architecture, the building and intersection in the piece is located in Riverside, New Jersey. The building is actually called "Watchcase". The photo reference was shot by a fellow artist "ARTSKULL" of WWW.ARTSKULL.COM . I posed for the photo of the guy in the piece, my teenage son took the photo. The dress was inspired by a photo I found in a Yahoo Group.

Another favorite is "BBW CLEO", I took my time with that piece. I did a lot of research, all the artifacts are authentic. Lots of detail in that one. I found a photo with the pose, however the model wasn't BBW, she was barely thick. But through photo image editing I made her full figured and perfect. After preparing the photo reference, I drew the illustration.

Last but not least another favorite of mine is the portrait of "PLENTASUM". She is a very beautiful full figured model that I often use. She has a very exotic look. In this particular piece she is featured as a boxer. It was my tribute to the hard work she put in to finish school and earn her degree while raising her children. She is a testament to all BBWs who fight for success against all odds.

TELL US ABOUT THE FUTURE FOR YOU AND YOUR COMPANY?

My future dream for JNESS GRAPHICS is to be able to provide "paid" training for youth that are interested in learning computer graphics, illustration, digital photography, and web design. My vision is a fully operation ad agency that is affordably priced with 30% of the staff being seasoned professionals/mentors and 70% of staff being young people acquiring skills, and training that will qualify them for jobs when they graduate from high school and go on to college.

WHAT ADVICE CAN YOU GIVE TO FUTURE UP & COMING ARTIST IN THE BIG WORLD... SIZE SCENE?

Study and become a student of all the artists that came before you. Learn and get a good understanding of what the grain is, then go against the grain. Find your style, define your style. "Style is timeless, and fashion is only now" yes that is a Hall & Oates quote but it is true. Make sure that your brand of BBW art adds something to the positive scope the world will see BBWs and people of size through.

There are enough negative stereotypes out there, that's what our art is up against. I love when I show someone my art and they start off laughing because they expect another stereotype, but the smile dies when they notice the art pays homage and reflects respect to the full figured community.

WHAT CAN THE READERS AT LARGEINCHARGE.COM DO TO HELP SUPPORT YOUR BUSINESS?

Of course hiring me, or purchasing my art is always a big help. But, even more important. Take my images (as is) and post them to you homepages, display them on your websites, so that people will see the BBW illustrated and admired.

 
 

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This months Subject:

I am Fat

 

I am Fat

 

Fat

     Obese, corpulent, unnecessary excess

 

     These adjectives mean having an abundance and often an excess of flesh. Fat implies excessive weight and generally has negative connotations. Obese and corpulent imply gross overweight.

 

I am fat.

 

     Why does that word bother people? Why is it considered rude or mean? Why do Large people cringe at hearing that word? I am not big boned. I am not horizontally challenged. I am not differently weighted. I am not a person of mass.

 

I am fat.

 

     I KNOW I am fat, and it is ok. How did I reach this state of fat acceptance? As I thought about my life and my development, I realize that there was a turning point in my life. A point where I not only accepted being fat, but I relished in it.

     "I'm the one who wrote the book of romance. Come on and take a chance. You don't need a long look, all you need is a glance. If you want to be warm, in my arms you belong. You got a problem, Hev will solve them. Nothing can go wrong when . . . The overweight lover's in the house. The overweight lover's in the house."

 

     These words changed my life. They were spoken by Dwight Meyers. Heavy D. My hero. In 1987 he made the song "The Overweight Lover's in the House" and became the first urban celebrity to TRULY embrace his size. Heavy D was fat and proud. He made "Mr. Big Stuff". He was cool. He DANCED!!!!

     There were Large artists before Heavy D, but none had his savoir faire, his swagger, his confidence. Before Heavy D., Large artists were a spectacle, a mockery, and the objects of humor.

 

Think Fat Boys, early Luther Vandross, early Jennifer Holliday. The Fat Boys were made to be buffoons on record and in movies. How many Luther Vandross jokes have circulated over the years, even after several instances of dramatic weight loss? There are many examples I could give, but I am sure it can be agreed that Large people in entertainment were seen differently.

                                              

     That was until Heavy D. He was a sex symbol. He rapped about getting ladies. He exuded confidence and bravado on the stage. Without Heavy D there would be no Biggie Smalls. Please believe that. Without Heavy D there would be no Queen Latifah. Heavy D kicked open the door for Large people all across Urban America. He opened the door for a 16-year old work in progress on the South Side of Chicago.

Is it a coincidence that shortly after the release of Overweight Lover that Papi: went to his 1st house party, joined the track team (shot put & discus), joined the football team, became popular, AND lost his virginity . . . all in less than a year? I oozed confidence. My self-concept changed. My size was no longer a burden, but an asset.

Big Boy, Big Man, Big Poppa, and Big Daddy were all compliments now. I chuckled at being called Fat Ass. "Yes, I am!" I would think as I laughed at a feeble attempt to offend me. Feeling good about me felt good. I liked the feeling and I kept it and still do to this day.

 

     Things came full circle with me through my youngest nephew. He calls me fat all the time. He plays my belly like a drum and tells me that I should play for the Bears because I am fat like most of them. I usually just laugh and tell him that he is right. This is a 180 degree turn from the early eighties, when my oldest nephew called me fat for the 1st time. We were in Walgreen’s drug store and he pointed at a Large man and said "He's fat like Uncle Rance". I was crushed and my brother, his father, told him that wasn't nice and to never say that again. Thinking back on that day, there was nothing wrong with what he said. It was true. He was being honest and accurate from his definition of the word. How could I be upset about that?

 

Fat

     The best or richest part, abounding in desirable elements, fertile or productive; rich, having an abundance or amplitude; well-stocked, yielding profit or plenty; lucrative or rewarding, prosperous; wealthy.

Living off the fat of the land. “It was a fine, green, fat landscape” (Robert Louis Stevenson). A fat larder. A fat promotion. Grew fat on illegal profits.

 

I am fat.

 

Now, how about the entire world reevaluates the word fat and redefines it in society?

 

Fat chance!

 
 

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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude

 

Elegance is Simplicity

     I think food can be a guide for us.  Sometimes the ways we see our food is the way we see our world.  There are those times when we look at basic food and try to figure out new ways to dress it up.  Now lets look at our lives.  There are times when we look at our lives and think we have to go through the paces to jazz it up.  I know what you’re thinking.  You’re asking yourself, as though you’re asking me, “What’s wrong with that?”

     Absolutely nothing.  I think we need to really start to understand from where we want change in our food and lives to come.  Am I trying to cause change out of boredom or dissatisfaction.  There's nothing wrong with that need.  The approach, however, is the thing I want us to start questioning.  As an example, let us take the humble, basic hot dog.  In my younger years I was a hot dog fanatic.  Breakfast, Lunch, Dinner, didn’t matter, a hot dog made a great meal.  Also, when I was younger I only wanted ketchup and mustard on it.  As I went into my teens, my taste buds progressed.  I have tried other condiments.  Each change or removal would give differences in taste and texture.  Now, most of the time, I eat them plain.

     Why did I share this with you?  Because our lives are not all that much different from the hot-dog in the story.  Over the year I a slowly grown to realize that as far as food goes, our life goes, that if you don’t start with a solid base, and additions to it are purely to cover up flaws.  Case in point, a really low quality hot dog.  You naturally pile on all the extras you can get.  You do this, not to enhance the flavor, but rather to cover it up.  I think that many times that’s what we do with our lives.  We try desperately to cover up what we perceive as flaws in our lives.  We overindulge, we hide in activities, and we overwork to avoid the truth.  We’re not happy with the base product.  The really great thing about that is that we can change it.  Our lives and food don’t have to be cluttered with unessential things.  Most times, if we really look at it the base product is usually great.  Then if we want, we can add things to enhance the experience.

     So the next time before you add that dollop of ketchup or mustard, before you put in those extra hours of work, or take on another activity you don’t have the time to complete.  Ask yourself is this to enhance or to cover up.

     This month I have got a very simple dish for you.  I came up with this about 11 years ago when I had some Swordfish I didn’t know what to do with.  Swordfish is an excellent product.  Easy to work with, store, and cook, it provides a vast array of things to do.  Perhaps the most common of these is Lemon-Pepper Swordfish.  The best thing about it is that it takes three ingredients and very little effort to create an elegant dish that can be used as a sandwich, a main course, or an appetizer.  I hope you enjoy.  God Bless.

Xander - The Food Dude

Xander's Recipe of the Month

Samurai Swordfish

Ingredients:

  • 2 slices of Swordfish (½ inch thick or less)

  • 2 cup Plum Wine

  • 2 Slices of Smoke Swiss

Instructions:

     Put the swordfish into a container.  A gallon zip lock back works really well for this.  Pour the two cups of Plum Wine into the back.  Arrange the back so the swordfish is complexly covered.  Let the fish marinate for up to 1 hour in the refrigerator.  Agitate in the container or bag to ensure coverage.

     You can bake the dish at 375 degrees for 10-15 minutes on each side.  Check occasionally for flakiness of the tissue.  This technique will test for doneness throughout the process.

     The ultimate way to make this is to grill the swordfish.  Use medium heat.  Cook for 10 minutes on each side to get really nice grill marks.  After you’ve turned the filet of Swordfish let it cook for another 8 or so minutes.  At the end of the cooking process top with the Smoked Swiss Cheese Slice.  You can use any cheese variety you would like.

     I would however suggest that you keep it a white color cheese.  (I.e. Mozzarella, Swiss, Provolone, etc)  The lower acid levels and smoothness really make for a great dish.

     Let the cheese melt for 2 minutes, take off the grill and serve.  Take two bites and email me in the morning.  The smoky favor from the cheese and the grilling combined with the smoothness, topped with the sweetness of the plum wine makes for a little filet from Heaven.  Clean, Simple, and Elegant, just the way life should be.

Until Next Time
 
 

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For AmaZe Magazine/Spring Issue 2006

 

Chasing Dreams

By Vicki Logan

 

     I wasn’t raised in poverty; I wasn’t a victim of a horrible crime.  As a matter of fact, I’m the average person out there leading a relatively normal life. So what’s so special about me?  You’ll see…

 

“You’re an overweight, middle-aged mom.  You won’t be going anywhere.”

 

     I seemed to hear that phrase over and over again at the beginning of my musical journey.  It seemed as though most people within the music industry felt that if I didn’t have the “image”, according to the major music industry players, then I didn’t have any talent.  I thought the music industry was about the music?

 

     I had dabbled with the piano for several years, but never took lessons or pursued anything, so I made up my own songs by ear because I couldn’t read regular sheet music.  People really seemed to like them so I thought to myself, “Why don’t you do something with this?”  Like most of us, self-doubt set in because I reacted to the media of the industry.  I didn’t fit the part.  My husband said, “So what!  It’s not about the media’s image, it’s about the people you touch with your music.”  And he was absolutely right.

 

     I decided to follow my dream and release a CD of original music.  Really, what was stopping me?  I did the research and found out where to record, who to work with, how to get the material pressed into a product, did the graphic design work, took some photos, hey…before I knew what happened, I had done it.  I had “Chasing Dreams”, my first full-length album.  I sent it out to a few radio stations and to some contests.  It was aired and I won a few.  It was a nice little ego boost.  Then I got my first record contract.

 

     I learned a ton from that contract during the next 2 years.  I realized that the music industry was changing drastically and that I needed to change with it to be able to accomplish growth as an artist and businessperson.  Being signed to the label didn’t allow me that luxury so I terminated my contract with them.

 

     My next CD “Finding My Way” was released in 2003 on my very own label and ended up on New Age Reporter’s Top 100 Albums of 2003 Chart for the year.  I had over 800 radio stations airing the music by now as well as licensing to several syndicated programs.  The Internet garnered me 2 #1 songs on AOL Radio for over 21 weeks and 6 weeks respectively.  My third CD “The Ride” did the same for 2004 and actually climbed a bit higher on the chart.  It also increased radio airplay to over 1000 stations worldwide.

 

     To my amazement, I dropped into yet another niche while pursuing my dream.  Moo-ed Music as we’ve begun to label it from a Pioneer Press article released in Minneapolis/St. Paul, MN.  Apparently, at one of the events I attended, some farmers liked the music and began to play it in their barns.  The cows enjoyed it so much that they produced more milk!  People ask if I’m offended.  Heck no!  If the farmers didn’t like it, well, the cows would never have had the chance to hear it!

 

     I could go on for more pages here, but the point to the story is that we must be true to ourselves.  We must follow our dreams and do the things we know we are capable of doing.  When we don’t do them, we allow misperceptions and stereotypes to rule our lives.  We feed into the system that keeps us down.  It doesn’t matter that we cannot please everyone in the world, but it does matter if we can help even just one.  I do what I do because I love it.  My reward is knowing that if I have inspired even just one person to do what it is they love; to have helped even one person overcome a bump in their life’s journey, I made a positive difference…and it wasn’t because of my weight, my looks; what I have or have not.  It was all because I am me.  If we could all just take that first step; believe in ourselves; be ourselves and help that one person, I wonder just how much we could change the world.

 

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Nancy

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Waiting to see my Wife
Raqui: It is hard to convince someone who is not confident to lay it all on the line.  In this case it is not you,  it is her.  She is worrying about the fact that she thinks she looks bad and you might feel the same.  And even if you don't she is not seeing it.

     To boost her confidence I would say to  talk her and tell her how much you like all the parts of her that society says are bad.  Belly, Folds, Rolls. Etc.  Show her that you love it and slowly she will open up.  Talking to her is a big deal.  Get playful.  Lay on her belly, kiss it through clothing, then try and slip down her pants a little and shirt up a little just to get a little piece of flesh you can kiss.  She might resist at first but tell her you just want to kiss her belly.  Start with little glimpses of flesh that you kiss.  As time progresses that glimpse will get bigger and bigger.  Find the things she enjoys and turn them into body positive play.  Body massage, hugs, laying on each other, leaning.  All can be part of positive body play.

Q:  Loving the New site, it looks great.  I have been a reader for a while now and I was wondering how are you able to keep all your issues so interesting.  You always have new talent or new things to talk about and people out there to interview.  How do you do it?
 

Tommy

Raqui:  Tommy, it is lots of dedication and research.  Sometimes people find LargeInCharge and submit there information.  I have even had readers send me information about a person.  But mostly it is a lot of research on the net to find new interesting subjects and people.  I am also thankful that I have great new writer's who volunteer there time and help with new great sections and articles.
Q:  I am a SSBBW who is looking for a dress for a wedding I have to go to.  I don't want to look like a tent. I want it to fit can you suggest a website to me.

Raqui:  I understand what you mean.  Here is a few websites that make things.  If this isn't what you want please check our resources in our menu. You might fine more interesting sites.

 

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.

 

Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:  articles@largeincharge.com

Fashion Find by: Martha 

Fashion Type: A Night Out

Fashion Breakdown:

  • Patchwork Baby Doll Top - Lane Bryant - $24.99

  • Tall Boot-cut Jeans - Avenue - $24.99

  • *SALE*
  • Brown Leather Woven Slides - Avenue - $19.99

 

Total cost for this outfit: $69.97

 

   

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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies

 

    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to articles@largeincharge.com

Product of the Month

            

Small Flat Bag/Leather Purse

About the Product
 
 
Recommender:  Raqui
 
Name of Product:  Small Flat Bag/Leather Purse

Type of Product: Bag/Purse

Cost of Product: $15.95

Where Product can be found: www.naturalreflections.com 

Description: This small bag, 4" x 6", is just the right size to hold a U.S. Passport. We sell 
many of them to the younger crowd, as they will hold a driver's license, some cash and 
some credit cards. The handle is a heavy braided nylon and is 48" long, the handle is 
adjustable by pulling excess handle into the inside of the bag and tying a knot. When 
you are happy with the length, you may cut off the extra. 
Compare with similar bags @ $20.00- $30.00 
 
Why I like this Product:  I like this bag because I am a woman who HATES BAGS. I don't like to
carry them and they get in the way. I don't carry much with me other than my wallet, some
chap stick and maybe a pen and paper.  This bag is leather, simple, goes with anything, and 
comes in Five Colors.  It is perfect for the spring and summer when you don't want to loaded
down with a heavy bag.  The best thing is that this company will make the string on the bag 
any length you want at no extra charge. I had my length made to 80 inches.  I have room on it
so I can make it hang high or low.  
 
     Another great thing about this company is they send there items very fast and guarantee
them.  I like the many  items they have. Here are some of the categories they have.
 
 
 

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