Congratulations to Ray Grier from Port Townsend WA for winning the Candle Set from Mickey Made!

Issue # 29  - July 2006

Welcome to the Large In Charge Newsletter


In this Issue of L.I.C


Feature of the Month -  Alicia Mitchell - Miss Full Figured USA


Cover Model of the Month -  California's Own - Shyly


Raqui's Spot - The Fat and the Skinny


Russell's Review - Diane Amos - The Pine Sol Lady


Jay's Spot - BBW Sports - Female Footballer


Papi's Peace - How to Mack Part II - The Actual Application


Good 4 U Food - Beef and Broccoli Stroganoff - by Xander


Guest Spot - All new Plus Sized Book!


Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds from our readers.  Submit your Find.


Product of the Month -  Products for People of Size


Ask Raqui - Send Raqui your questions.  Get some advice from one Big person to another.


FREE RAFFLE - New Plus Sized Book - "A Breath Floats By"


Events & Pictures - L.I.C. Delivers Info. on the hottest BBW events, See what we are doing in the community.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!


Feature of the Month

Alicia Mitchell

Miss Full Figured USA


Miss Full Figured USA


    Miss Alicia Mitchell at 22 years of age has accomplished so much as far as a model and plus sized woman.  She has shown herself to be an example for others of what determination can get you.


She is her own manager, Alicia determines her own destiny.  She has even bigger plans coming and we all want to be front and center to see what comes next.


     Most of you might know her because she was a one of the 10 beautiful plus sized women in Monique's 2005 Phat Chance Beauty Pageant.  She was part of Television History being in the first televised Plus Sized beauty pageant.  She makes history with every moves she makes. 


Let me introduce you to Alicia Mitchell - Raqui

Pictures of Alicia Mitchell


Interview with Alicia Mitchell What is your name (Real and nick)?

My name is Alicia Mitchell My nick name is PoundKake ( I like Cake Alot!!!!) Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am originally from Newark NJ but currently I reside in Irvington, NJ Do you consider yourself a BBW or a SSBBW?

I would consider Myself a SSBBW because I am not you average size Plus size women. Can you please tell us your stats?  Height, weight,
size,nationality, marital status, age, interests, children?

My Height 5'7 I love to wear spike heels so that puts me to 5'9
My weight is ENOUGH FOR YOU TO LOVE !!!!!!
and I wear a size 22-26 I am African American and I am single, sexy, and
free very independent 22 years of age . My interest are Plus size modeling ,
Fashion and my religion, music and dancing. Tell us about your Pageant Titles?

My current pageant title is Ms. Full Figured USA 2006 which it's truly an honor to be a Queen for Plus size women. Were you a child or teen of size; or did you gain as an adult?

As a child I was always chunky girl when it came to my teen years I became a big girl and now I am a SSBBW so pretty much I've been Plus size and proud of it !!!! Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Well first I had to find acceptance in myself before anyone else could. But my friends and family have always accepted me for who I am. My Family and Friends help keep my strong. When did you realize that Pageants would be your passion?

I like pageants but fashion is more of my passion . I have been doing fashion all my life so with doing fashion shows in stuff I got involved doing pageants working behind the scenes. How old were you when you began to enter pageants?

I began to do pageants when I was 17 that was in high school When did your win your first title and what was it?

I won my first pageant title in high school as Miss Freshman How did it feel to win?

It felt really good to win especially being a freshman in high school. How hard has it been to be a plus sized woman entering pageants, have you ever felt rejected?

I would say entering fashion shows is much harder to do then Pageants. I really never had a problem with entering pageants. But fashion Shows yes!!!! I've felt rejected plenty of times but that just added fuel to my Fire !!!! Was it easy or hard to start entering pageants? What are the other ladies like, did you make friends, was it a fierce competition?

Like every pageant competition is always FIERCE!!!!! But I can say I got along with everybody I've also made some really good friends too. when doing a pageant i always try to have a positive attitude all the time which really helps out a lot. Tell us how you get your clothing for the pageants?

I bought something's and the other garments such as my gown I made that. Have you ever modeled and for who?

Yes !!!! I started Plus size modeling before I even being to think about doing pageants. I have modeled for so many people. Big, Bold, Beautiful Women, Ms Full Figured USA Fashion show, DeVoe Signature, Mo'Nique, Harvey Star Washington and much more. Plus some of my own garments. Have you made any appearances, are you a spokes model etc?

I have made plenty appearances as a spokes model for and also as a Full Figured Beauty Queen What should women plus sized women who want to enter pageants prepare for?

Ladies , When entering pageants always have a open heart and a open mind. Prepare your self for interacting with a lot of different people. And the best advice that i could give is always keep a smile on your face and portray self -confidence all the time even when it gets rough. ( that helps
with everyday life too) Who is your manager?

I am my own manager right now. Do you work for an agency?

At this current time i do not work for an agency I like to do my own thing. How can someone book you for a show or appearance?

If someone would like to book my for a show to do Makeup Clothing etc They could just send an e-mail to Do you have a website?

My Website is under construction right now but when it's up Large in Charge  will be the first to know. Tell us about some of the places you have appeared at?

I have appeared at Fashion shows , Fashion week in New York, I have been a lot of place I can't remember them all. Tell us if you have been featured in any magazines or on any shows?

Well when i did Mo'Niques Fat Chance I was featured in jet magazine , Us weekly , and I also did a few other things before then also. What are your future goals?

My future goal is to become very successful in the plus size industry. Through my fashion I want to effect Plus size people in a positive way. Give us one word that you can say best represents your work?

one word that best describes my work is OUTSTANDING !!!! How much have you evolved as since those early days as a youth?

In my youth days i was always involved in fashion that's all I did. How can the readers at help support your career?

Just keep a look out for my clothing line I cater to men Women and teens it's going to be really hot !!!! Large in Charge will be the first to see it.


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Cover Model of the Month

Cover Model of the Month



Interview with Shyly What is your name?

I am known as Shyly when I model. People often tell me that it doesn’t seem to fit my personality, but it actually does. I am very shy with new people. Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am a California girl, born and bred in the northern part of the state. (Like, you know!) Despite brief stints in other states and countries, this will always be home. Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I’ll be 29 on May 4th, and if you’re making a gift list I like emeralds and sapphires and diamonds and…

Okay, all kidding aside I really will be 29 on May 4th, I am 5’4” on a good day, a size 28/30, and single with no children. (I’m the eldest of nine siblings, though, so it sometimes feels like I have some!) Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I have always felt large, but in retrospect I wasn’t more than plump for the majority of my life. It is only very recently that I would say I’ve become fat. Interestingly, it is also only recently that I have begun to accept and enjoy myself, and my life is a far better place to be now than it was when I was a self-loathing jock. Go figure. How did you feel growing up as a large child?

I hated it. I felt much larger than I actually was, and was painfully self-conscious most of the time. I was also a drama queen, but that’s unrelated. ;) What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

I like to support and participate in events that promote size positivity, which this does. Do you have any experience in modeling? If so tell us about what you have done.

I have been an art model for about two years now. I have been privileged to work with many world-class photographers and artists, and to see photographs of myself included in books and gallery shows, as well as a handful of documentaries relating to body size. While I am active within the size acceptance community, the bulk of my time is spent “out there,” talking about body issues with people who have never heard of size acceptance, and whose first introduction is seeing a photograph or a painting of my fat body. My website, The Beauty Curve ( is a tool that I use to reach out both to people of size, but also to the world at large, to encourage acceptance of body diversity. It takes a lot of confidence to model... What has given you the confidence you have?

A large part of it has been the modeling itself. The wonderful thing about being able to work with the caliber of artists that I do is that each time I see new pictures or drawings/paintings of myself, I am afforded the opportunity to see myself through someone else’s eyes. In doing so, I find beautiful things about myself that I never knew were there, and am given the opportunity to face things about myself that I dislike, and begin to work on accepting them.

As an example, recently I was flown to Greece to work with two art photographers. One of them is convinced that I have some of the cutest feet he’s ever seen. They’re short, wide, fat, and usually a feature I try to hide. He wouldn’t let me, though, and almost every photograph he took includes my feet.

I was mortified at first, but after wrestling with the images for a few weeks, and being given the opportunity to look at something about myself that I don’t like I can begin to see how my feet are kind of cute and funny, and how they fit me perfectly. They’ll never win any awards, that’s for sure, but seeing these photographs has gone a long way toward helping me see my feet in a different light.

And that’s a good thing. Because really, there are more important things in life to worry about! Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

Certainly! It still is. This is a deeply ingrained prejudice, and battling it on either a personal or societal level is going to be consistently challenging. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

My mother is especially proud of me, but looking at family and friends as an entire group, it’s about 50/50. What would you say inspires you most in life?

The need to create, coupled with the cause of size acceptance. Whether I am modeling, photographing or writing I am interested in creating beauty that is inclusive, not exclusive. Do you find acceptance in the work force?

Yes, definitely. Several of my co-workers and I have had conversations about size issues, and a few know about my modeling and have come to art gallery openings to see some of the work. Most of them know that I am also a photographer who shoots plus models almost exclusively, and my advocacy has come up from time to time. It’s all just part of who I am, so the people I spend more time talking to learn these things about me and accept them. What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

It’s hard to say. While there are a handful of individuals out there doing amazing things, like Marilyn Wann on the political front and Mo’nique on the social, I don’t see a very cohesive movement afoot yet, despite size acceptance’s 35+ year history. I hope that in five years fat people will have banded together as a group and used the financial and political power that we have as a majority of the population to refuse to be treated as second-class citizens any longer. I would like to see changes in the medical field, in popular media, and in the general level of tolerance that currently exists for fat phobia. Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

I plan to continue building momentum and working with increasingly well known artists and photographers to bring imagery of fat beauty to a wider audience. The changes that we seek happen one person at a time, one dismantled prejudice at a time. The more people who see and experience fat positivity, the greater the impetus for change. Give us a sentence that inspires you.

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, but it may be necessary from time to time to give the stupid or misinformed beholder a black eye.” – Miss Piggy

That quote is my motto. One could say that for the most part, what I do with my modeling is, figuratively, giving the unprepared viewer a black eye. Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

The day Camryn Manheim won an Emmy for her role on “The Practice,” and she thrust that statue over her head (in a sleeveless gown, no less) and shouted, “This is for all the fat girls!” That was before I knew anything about size acceptance, and it was the first time I remember identifying with my size in a positive way. She made me want to cheer. (Okay, I’ll admit it, I DID cheer!) Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

There are two people on a consistent basis. Firstly my mother, whose response to finding out that my naked ass is all over the internet was, “I’m proud of you, baby girl. You have the courage of your convictions.”

Secondly my friend Laura, who is also a singer, painter, poet, photographer and size activist. She has created an incredibly personal and profound webpage about her journey as a fat woman that includes beautiful self-shot figure work, which you can see here: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

Figure out exactly what you want to pursue, what market you fit, and go for it! (There are details on how I became an art model in the FAQ section of my website for those who are interested in that arena: What plus size figure do you admire?

There are several, actually. In no particular order, and by no means an exhaustive list:

Mo’nique, who with her contest and upcoming movie is demanding that fat people be acknowledged and treated with respect;

Queen Latifah, who has consistently refused to compromise who she is;

Mia Tyler, who is proud of being a full figured model;

Tocarra, who as a very prominent plus size model in a straight size competition did a lot to make bigger girls feel proud;

Camryn Manheim, who has consistently worked to show that “fat” is not a four letter word;

Tyne Daly, who is one of the few working full figured actresses to build a career that has nothing to do with her weight;

Kathy Bates, who has gotten naked twice on the big screen in an industry that favors the young and slender;

Marilyn Wann, for being an activist who really changes laws and minds;

Big Moves and Big Burlesque, for showing that every size body can dance and be sexy;

Maya Angelou, for making a fuller figure look and sound damn good;

Aretha Franklin and Ella Fitzgerald for standing in the spotlight unashamed and singing their hearts out;

Dawn French, for building a comedic career that is based on being genuinely funny, and not on the size of her ass;

Amma, for changing the world one bountiful hug at a time. Describe yourself with one word.



Again, Congratulations Shyly we are please to have you as a member of the LargeInCharge Cover Model Family!


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Raqui's Spot

This months Subject:

The Fat and the Skinny


The Fat and the Skinny


     In this time and day we are beginning to see strong confident big people living life.  I look around and notice how many large bodies are around me.  All of them going about there business and accomplishing what they have to do.  With so many plus sized people in the world we still wonder why fat is not accepted.  Why is fat blamed for every problem we have.   If only I was smaller, skinnier, if I lost a few pounds.  Then everything would fall into place... right?


     I have found out a few interesting facts.  I happen to be with an great guy,  this man can eat all day long and never gain a pound.  WOW tell me more...  I hear you saying.  LOL  So he eats, and eats, and eats, and I begin to realize that he can eat way more than me and still be super slim.  How fortunate for him some of you may think.  But did you know that slim people are not happy with there bodies either?  They feel too slim, too skinny, constant words like "Eat more, eat more your so skinny!"  Terms like "We need to fatten you up."  They put a lot of pressure on someone,  makes them believe they are not good enough.  Makes them believe there bodies don't have enough substance.


     So someone is stealing the food from my plate saying I eat to much.   They then put it on my boyfriends plate saying he doesn't eat enough.  Mean while we both eat about the same amount though he usually eats more.  This could drive someone insane. I cant imagine that some people believe that if we gain or lose weight we will be perfect, instead of realizing we are perfect already.


     It comes down to confidence, if you believe your nothing and unworthy.  How will you ever build confidence.  Being aware that you are a special, wondrous, amazing being, as you are.  Being happy enough to understand that the only perfection is imperfection.  That crooked tooth, fat roll, funny walk, it is what gives you character.   The special way someone smiles at you.  The stupid jokes that are so corny they make you laugh.  The way the person you love, (regardless of being Fat or Skinny) feels in your arms.


     It is not your body that determines your happiness.  It is your mind that determines if you will allow yourself to be happy.    You just have to decide if your body (whether your fat or skinny) is going to make or break your life.  Or is your life worth living regardless if your body is satisfactory to others or not.



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Russell's Review

Big World Character Review

     My mission here at Large In Charge is to finally answer those questions that we may never even realize to ask. Characters that are often portrayed in movies, shows, cartoons, and everything else that portray anything relating to the BBW /BHM community. You ever wonder why there are no big people in the matrix. I mean what, Nobody eats there? They can't blame it the food. Or why we're always under some type of scrutiny whether we realize it or not. I'm here to finalize all answers and give you nothing but a honest accurate opinion about characters portrayed in such entities.

Diane Amos - The Pine Sol Lady


Diane Amos: 

     Ah the smell of lemon on a newly mopped floor with an ammonia agent called Pine Sol. Most of you know this smell. And almost all of you know who Diane Amos is...  maybe not by name but by looks. Many of you seen her as the “ Pine Sol “ Lady always cleaning the floor or showing someone Pine Sol. Either way,  Television would have subjected you to her already.

     Diane who is married. Has been in around 13 movies, Also was a winner contestant of a game show. You know something. I think that’s all there is about her. I mean everywhere I research they all say the same thing. She’s an actress, She’s a comedian, and a winner of a show. Can somebody please help me out over here and tell me what show she has won because I’m completely perplexed here. Well since there isn’t much to talk about her history. And achievements. Lets just get to the point is she a plus or minus in the BBW /BHM Community.

     Hmmmmm. Here’s a hard one here. I think that she can be actually both. I mean there’s a reason why. Well she can be a plus because she is an inspiring actress, comedian and a winning game contestant. I guess she’s accomplished many things in her life. She’s very nice to kids. She says that she’s gets her inspiration from examples from her mother. She could be a positive role model for us all.


     She’s can also bring a big negative impact on the BBW community as well because all that we always see her is cleaning people’s floor, or playing an extra in a movie as a waitress or some type of servant. A lot of people would say that she fits a stereotypical mammy who is fat, black and always cleaning or always serving somebody. Many people often refer to her as the current black Aunt Jemima of today. Or the most popular term. “SELL OUT”. This is going to be a tough one this month so I will not be making the choice if she’s a big plus or negative entity in the BBW / BHM Community. I will leave that up to you readers. Do you agree with me or disagree, Am I being harsh or am I speaking the truth?

This time the ball is in your court.

Thank you readers for all of your support. See you next month…

If you have any suggestions on who should I Review send in your suggestions.



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This months Subject:

BBW Sports - Female Footballer


BBW Sports - Female Footballer


     This month's Jay's Spot BBW Sports Tribute goes out to all the Women Tackle Football Teams. Women Sports has come along way! If your a FA and a sports fan.... (FA Prediction) keep your eye open for Faith Mitchell. She's doing Big Things...for starters she's a BBW, holding it down in the most roughest sport on planet earth. Her stats are impressive and her playing cards are better than the rest of them! I especially like the way she promotes herself pushing her name as well as awareness about sports on and offline.


Faith Mitchell Number: 99 Position:

Offensive Line, Defensive Line
Height: 5' 9"

Weight: 250
Hometown: Chicago, Illinois

(Women Football Links)




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Papi's Peace

This month's Article:

How to Mack Part II


How to Mack - Part II: The Actual Application

     mack n 1. one who is good with the opposite sex, usually a male. ("Jeff is such a mack. He gets all the girls.") -v 1. to attempt to attract; hit on. ("I macked to some females last night.")

     Last month I got you mentally prepared to become a social butterfly. I started laying the groundwork to have you become a self-confident, assertive, and positive thinking “Macaroni” or “Mack Man”, as my older brother Mark used to say (RIP). Now we are going to take the next step to enhance and season you into a “Macaroni with Cheese” (Thank you again, Mark!)

     In review of last month, we went over a few foundational points in the socialization (“Macking”) process.

• Remain true 2 yourself.
• Be Honest.
• What's the worst that can happen?
• If at first you don’t succeed, try, try again.
• Go after what U want.
• There are many different people in the world.
• Don't generalize.
• Step your game up.

     Now let’s apply these concepts and really dig into the “how to” of socialization.

     As I have said, the most important thing is your mental state. You must be positive. Optimistic. You must believe in yourself. If you cannot believe in you, how in the world can you expect someone else to? So, what types of things can you do to gain confidence? Well, you can reference my May article (The Skin I’m In) and find out some of the ways that helped me to feel good about myself. Besides that, start off with your outer appearance. They say don’t judge a book by the cover, but often times that is unrealistic. Especially in a social setting, you only get to make a first impression once. So the things you are able to control should be controlled fully and completely! Keep your hair and facial hair tight. Trimmed. Well-Kept. Take care of your hands, nails, skin. Put a little extra into the care of your clothes. Crisp creases. Be mindful of your shoes. Keep them shined and polished. Keep your gym shoes clean and scuff free. And never forget your laces, they are a dirt magnet. Invest in colognes and smell goods. These sound like common sense ideas to some, but to others they are revelations, believe it or not. Besides, little things do mean a lot. Life can be a game of inches. The smallest factor can change the results of various events. Why not give yourself an advantage whenever possible. Plus, when you look good, you feel good. When you step out of the door and you KNOW your outfit is sharp, and your shoes gleam, and your fade is tight, and you are smelling good . . . you feel like you can conquer the world!

     Eventually, Papi is going to help you so that whether you are in the grocery store or the gas station, at the dentist office or at the bank, at work or at the DMZ, you will talk to ANYONE there with confidence and lil’ swagger. But, let’s start out in places known for socialization and in environments more geared for interaction. Now that you’re fresh dressed like a million bucks, where do you go? Well, of course you want to place yourself in situations that are geared for your success. If you cannot dance, why would you go to the newest and hottest dance club? If you are not too much of a drinker, why would you go to a bar or lounge that doesn’t have a dance floor? If you have a great voice, why don’t you scout out places that have karaoke nights? Don’t just show off your skills, flaunt them. Exploit them. Work your money maker!!! Are you good at pool? Darts? Cards? You see where I am going with this? Not only will you be in comfortable environments where you will be and feel successful, but you will be interacting with like-minded people that share at least ONE of your likes right off the bat.

     Please use this mode of thinking beyond just the club scene. Are you a good bowler? Join a bowling league. Do you like to read? Are you knowledgeable about literature? Spend some time at Borders. Love art? Know a little bit about Picasso? Maybe your trips to the art institute or the museum should be more frequent. Again the idea is to increase your comfort level and confidence, and choosing your environment properly can help tremendously.

     We are moving forward deliberately and at a steady pace, in case you are wondering why I haven’t given you any good “lines” or things of that nature. We are trying to develop YOU. The unique individual that is YOU. So we are looking inside of YOU to see what will work for YOU. The next step in this process is practice. Yes, practice. Just like any sport or vigorous activity, you don’t just jump in without warming up or practicing. Socialization is the same way. How do you practice, you ask? Simple. Go talk to someone. Now that you are in your place, in your comfort zone, doing something you have fun doing and something you are good at, strike up a conversation. The catch is, you have no agenda. You are not looking for sex. You are not trying to get a date. You are not trying to speak up on a phone number. You are just having conversation. Be genuine. Compliment her on something you find unique or attractive about her. You like her hair cut. She has pretty nails. Those shoes are fierce. Don’t be overbearing or obnoxious, just be easy. Engage in a little dialogue. Smile. Look into her eyes directly as you talk to her and she talks to you. If there is a group, greet all of the ladies. As you walk past smiling tell them to have a good time or they really look great tonight. It is really easier to converse when there is no pressure of expectations or “results”. During this period you are developing your approach. How receptive are people to how you speak and what you say to them. What works and doesn’t work in casual conversation probably will and won’t work when you are trying to meet someone.

     I think we have covered some more good ground this month and you have elevated your confidence to a level that is ready for the next step . . .

Find out what that is next month! Until then remember that Papi loves you.

That’s My Peace!


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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude



The Big "D"

     Truth is truth no matter who says it. Being a large fellow the possibility has always existed. The probability of it is high to occur given certain conditions. This week the doctor uttered his version of truth. “Xander, you officially have Diabetes. Can I interest you in a gastric bypass? He said with a smile that I swear looked more like a dollar sign than a smile. Thanks Doc, just jump right into my nightmare, the water’s warm. No thanks on the intrusive intervention into the internal caverns of my body, His dollar tree smile quickly melted into a rebellious, “Obviously, to have no respect for your body or care of your health!” How’s that for a show stopper. He just had to tell me on a Monday morning.

     Some of you are now replaying that moment in your head when it occurred to you. Others are getting back to worrying about when they may hear those words. Maybe you will, maybe you never will. It brings to light, for me, a moment when someone is told they have a smoking or other related illness that is all connected to choices and changes that must be made in our lives. For me, I always joked about the reason why I didn’t lose weight. I always said if I lost the extra weight I’d become one of those jerks who go around telling people how unhealthy they are. In short, my cool, my presence, and my mojo are all connected to my fat. Makes sense, that’s where all the flavor is. There are certain universal laws that cannot be denied, like gravity. Having spent the better part of the last two week in and out of hospitals and doctor’s office in their attempt to get the fated “sugar levels” down I can tell you that certain things have changed for me. I have more awareness of the significant nature of sugar in the body and it sometimes fatal affects. Even now as I write this, my first day back at the house, I can envision our ezine mistress, getting ready to kill me for being late on its submission.

     I tell you this story to let you know where I’m at in my culinary development and how drastically it will affect my presentations to all of you in my time to come here with you. I consider the opportunity to present to each of a blessing that I have been granted. Considering the last two weeks I feel compelled to change some of the things I’ve been feeding you to conform to the healthier way of doing things. From now on, I want to include nutritional information about the dishes I’m offering. This will provide better ways to give you a more informed way to make decisions about what you put in your body. Food is a funny thing in that way. As I look back at my relationship with it shows me how it has changed my life on several occasions. This is but one more of them. Until the next time, may God Bless each and every one of you.

Diabetically yours,

Xander - The Food Dude

Xander's Recipe of the Month

Beef and Broccoli Stroganoff


1 pound frozen round steak, partially thawed
6 tablespoons all-purpose flour, divided
Cooking spray
1 tablespoon canola oil
1 clove garlic, minced
4 ounces fresh mushrooms, sliced
1 small onion, finely diced
2 tablespoons reduced-calorie margarine
1 tablespoon Worcestershire sauce
1/4 teaspoon black pepper
1/2 teaspoon dry dill weed
1 cube reduced-sodium beef bouillon dissolved in 1 1/2 cups warm water
1 cup fat-free sour cream
2 cups lightly steamed small broccoli florets
4 cups cooked cholesterol-free egg noodles (about 12 ounces dry)


     Remove fat from steak and slice meat across the grain into bite-size pieces. Place 3 tablespoons of flour in a large, zip-top plastic bag. Add meat and shake to coat. Spray a large nonstick skillet with cooking spray. Add oil and warm over medium heat. Add meat and brown on both sides. Stir in garlic, mushrooms, and onion; cook for 5 minutes. Add margarine and cook until melted. Stir in 2 tablespoons of flour until liquid forms a paste. Stir in Worcestershire sauce, pepper, dill weed, and bouillon dissolved in water. Continue cooking uncovered for 10 minutes, stirring frequently. Mix remaining 1 tablespoon of flour into the sour cream, then add to meat mixture. Cook for 5 minutes, stirring frequently, but do not boil. Toss in steamed broccoli. Place cooked noodles on a serving dish and top with meat mixture.

Yield: 8 servings
Preparation time: 20 minutes
Cooking time: 30 minutes
Yield: 8 servings Serving size: 1/8 of recipe
Per Serving:
Calories: 267
Carbohydrate: 32 g
Protein: 19 g
Fat: 7 g
Saturated fat: 2 g
Sodium: 190 mg


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Donated books for our Free Raffle


A Breath Floats By: An Illusion for the Soul

BBW Author Thayne Hudson

Size-enhanced ESSA Books

What’s Next? A Size-enhanced Chick Lit Romance

Edmonton, Alberta  (real::big)  May 26, 2006--

Big and beautiful author, Thayne Hudson’s chick lit novel, “A Breath Floats By: An Illusion for the Soul,” certainly declines a traditional romance role. Decisively, publisher of size-enhanced ESSA Books trademarked three large, lovely middle-age women on the cover of the early-June release.

Publisher Essa Adamms said, “The focus is light paranormal, this is visionary fiction, life missions, dreams, and reincarnation. And yes, ESSA Books women are bountiful with no apologies. But their size is not the story. Consequently, our novels speak to 40 million women over size fourteen, those statistics in North America alone. It’s past time,” says Adamms from the Great Lakes region, U.S.A.

In “A Breath Floats By,” abundantly proportioned women friends on the soul-buddy system encounter another life together where their friction and love proves eternal. Write in middle-aged romance… serious health issues.... and a heroine who balks at accomplishing her soul’s life mission. Now, you may never again view a coincidence in the same light. A keeper. “Stays with you long after,” says Bev LaBlanc, Novia Scotia.  

Celebrating their first size-enhanced novel, ESSA Books has launched a reading contest for three winners from every 5,000 entries to receive a personal Ianardo BBW Art Gallery fine art portrait. Read and reap rewards.

“A Breath Floats By: An Illusion for the Soul” is available for $17.50 in paperback. See ESSA Books at to order, and for generous excerpts and contest information.  Publisher at  Author:  

Media information available from real::big marketing and public relations publicist, Heather Fairbairn.   Phone: 780.432.5424.



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NOTE: The Opinion of Raqui  is just that. I do not claim to be professional or to solve your problems.  I can however give you a real answer that may help you out.

Ask Raqui

Q:  Dear Raqui,  I am looking for a seat belt extender before i buy my car.  The dealership wasn't to helpful.  Can you help me?

"Looking to Buckle up"

Raqui:  I found a great site for you look under products of the month this month.  If the dealership wasn't to helpful I say they suck and move to another dealership.  If they cant help with a damn seat belt then they are not professional.

Q:   Hey Raqui, you often talk about being healthy and big.  How can a big person be healthy.  Isn't being fat a health problem.


Raqui: I am a very fat person as most people in normal society would see me.  Yet I don't have any health problems and I am in my early 30's.  I know many skinny persons with numerous health problems.  The fact is there is not one healthy problem that only fat people get.  The problem is that doctors and machines in hospitals are not equipped for the larger person.  But now they are starting to get with the program.  They realize that they will have to take care of the large in body.  It wouldn't be so hard to take care of big people if they have the equipment to do so.

     I believe eating properly going to the doctor and some exercise help a lot.  I am not perfect as far as eating healthy, I like candy and cake too.  But I try,  I don't eat fried food normally, I don't eat a lot of salt,  I try to herb it up.  I do try to push myself when I walk and move a little faster than i want to.  I stretch a lot at home.  I do know my weakness for candy and cake and try to not over do it.  I do indulge sometimes and I try to make good choices when I eat take out or fast food.


Q:  You are so beautiful. I wish I could have as much confidence in myself as you do in yourself. I know that I am a great person, but sometimes it seems to me like some people can't seem to look past my weight. Have you always had this much confidence or what does it take to get it?


Raqui:  Confidence was something I worked hard to keep.  No matter how people tried to put me down.  Society and strangers couldn't put me down but it was the people who were close to me (boyfriends) that hurt me the most and tore me down. 

     Once you figure out who affects you and how they affect you, then you can become strong and fight against those who can cause you harm.

     Over all you have to believe in yourself.  Don't see weight as who you are.  You are a person and live your life doing all the things that make you happy and proud.  If your not sure what those things are then it is time to begin to try and find out.  Your body is beautiful because it is unique and so is your personality.

Q:  Are there any good places online to purchase Plus Sized Jewelry?


Raqui:  I think i got a few nice links for you.  You can also email companies and find out if they make extenders for things like necklaces and bracelets.



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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

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Fashion Find by: Raqui 

Fashion Type: Swimsuit

Fashion Breakdown:

I picked this swimsuit as a Fashion favorite of mine for this issue. I like he print and the option of:


Swim Brief,

Lined Swim shorts

Swim Boyshorts (see on site) or

Chloroban Duo Shorts (see on site)


Sizes up to 6XL

Solid colors also available

For Pricing check out the site under Swim Separates.





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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to

Product of the Month


Seat Belt Extender - Cars

About the Product
About the Product
Recommender:  Raqui
Name of Product:  Seat Belt Extender

Type of Product: Car Safety

Cost of Product: depending on Style

Where Product can be found:  

Description: Extender to install in your vehicle so that those who are larger can buckle up.
Why I like this Product: Since vehicle seat belts are not built to meet the requirements of
the larger population.  We as drivers and passengers need to take our safety into our own
hands.  I like this product because it seems much safer than other snap on products.  Yes you
have to have it installed or you can install it yourself.  But it is worth it since seat belt's save lives.
     I really like that you can build your own belt on this site.



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