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 Issue #48 - March 2008

MARCH COVER

 

 

Feature of the Month - Isabel Garcia Platform Domestic Violence

Cover Model of the Month - Ms. NY Plus America 2008

Raqui's Spot -  Domestic Violence and Plus Sized People

Super Sized Sounds  ~ SUPERSIZED SPANISHFLY LYNX

From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food -
Bangin' Potato Zoop ~ Xander

 

Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue

 

More than a Teddy Bear  ~ James Nealon

 

Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham

 

DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News

 

WHY, OH WHY  ~ Erin Thompson


Guest Spot - Shelly Willer

 

CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess! Get It Off your Chest!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style. Submit a Find!

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


FREE RAFFLE - Enter to win our next prize!

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Isabel Garcia

    

     It was December 9th, 2007 and I was a honoree at the Curversity Curvey Awards.  Before awards were given out a lovely woman spoke.  Her name is Isable Garcia.

     I came to learn that this amazing woman who was now the reigning Ms. New York Plus America for 2008. Came from a life that included Domestic Violence.  In fact that is her platform.

     I cried openly while she told her story of abuse and how her boyfriend at the time shot her in the head.  During her story words of encouragement was shouted out for her to continue as you can imagine wetness dropped from her eyes and many people were deeply affected by her story. 

     Men and Women alike wiped tears from there faces as she told about over coming the terror of Domestic Violence, and  then was able to now move forward and have enough confidence to enter plus sized beauty pageants.  How wonderful she now is an activist for Domestic Violence and Plus Sized people.  When she finish speaking and walked away to thunderous applause I hugged her. For I also know what it is like to be a survivor.

Let me Introduce you to this amazing woman Isabel Garcia

                                                                                  Raqui

 

 

Interview

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

 

Isabel Garcia

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

 

I a Native New Yorker born and Raised in Brooklyn now live in Glendale NY.

LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

 

I am 38 years old 5'7 my Nationality is Puerto Rican I am Married with no children

LargeInCharge.com: You are a model and pageant winner am I correct?

 

Yes I am.

 

LargeInCharge.com: You are also our Cover Model of the Month how do you feel about that?

 

I Feel so Blessed and so excited that i was able to grace the cover of such a Positive Magazine.

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your Modeling experience.

 

I have had so many great experiences I will say it is not easy it takes a lot of hard work and dedication there are ups and there are downs but it has been one of the most positive points in my life besides the MPA Pageant


LargeInCharge.com: How many pageants have you entered?

 

This was my first pageant ever.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your current title.

 

I am Currently Ms New York Plus America 2008. I have the Honor of representing our Great State of New York In the National Competition in Dallas Texas.


LargeInCharge.com: How was your experience with the pageant?

 

My Experience so Far has been Great it is such a Positive experience You get a chance to meet such great and positive people.

 

LargeInCharge.com: For those of us that don't know much about pageants, what does it mean when a contestant speaks about her Platform?

 

A Platform is a cause we believe in something we take a stand for believe in and bring awareness to for example. Domestic Violence, Cancer ,Child Abuse etc.

LargeInCharge.com: What is your Platform and why do you feel so strongly about the subject?

 

My Platform is Domestic Violence. I feel very strongly about my Platform because I myself am a Domestic Violence Survivor.


LargeInCharge.com: Many people think that Domestic Violence is something that is done only to the small and weak, what are the real statics.

 

Domestic Violence touches everyone and anyone regardless of age race or gender violence has no preference. The statistics are one in three women will experience Violence.


LargeInCharge.com: Some people believe the victim deserves what they get. Choose the wrong mate and you get what you asked for. What do you think?

 

I Disagree I think No one ever deserves to be Abused Regardless of what the circumstances may be


LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about men who suffer from Domestic Violence?

 

I Sympathize with them because I know what it is to be involved in a Domestic Violence Relationship and the fact that it is a man really doesn't make a difference It does not matter if is a man or woman we are all humans and no one no one deserves to go through such a Terrible thing as Domestic Violence.


LargeInCharge.com: Is there help out there for the men who want to change?

 

Yes There is Help. There are many resources for men who are willing to change and truly want help here I will list some resources in which they can look into. www.mrcforchange.org  they offer anti violence programs for men, men centers, men's gatherings etc. also www.fccservices.org/dvap.htm  www.vawnet.org/category/main_doc  

LargeInCharge.com: What can women who find themselves victims do to stop the violence?

 

The best Advice I can give is Please Get Help here are some resource they can look into. www.oneinthreewomen.com , www.WOMEN-IN-NEED.ORG,  WWW.NYAWC.ORGwww.dahmw.org 

Hot lines = 1-888-888-7702 , 1-800-799-7233


LargeInCharge.com: Many women feel they cant get out, never recover, what would you say to them?

 

I would say never say never us as women are stronger than we give our self credit for Believe in yourself and know you can never ever let anyone steal your joy Love yourself first and everything else will fall into place we can Accomplish anything we set our minds to anything!

LargeInCharge.com: I understand that you yourself were a victim of Domestic Violence is this true?

 

Yes this is True.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Would you share your story with us?

 

Yes I would be more than happy to share my story. When I was 23 I was Brutally abused by my ex-boyfriend I suffered tremendous abuse at this mans hands he verbally, Mentally, and physically abused me. the last thing this cowardly man did was try to take my Life away. He picked up a 38 Magnum put me in a head lock and said these words I AM GOING TO KILL YOU YOU F------ B---- pointed the gun at my head and shot me. He left me there to Die! It is Only by the Grace of God I am alive and able to tell my story.
 

LargeInCharge.com: You are so brave to share this story. What gave you the courage to stop this terrible cycle.

 

I was tired of being abused of getting hit everyday being told I was nothing I was worthless that no one loved me or cared about me so I made a decision in my mind that I was going to get out I had to get out.


LargeInCharge.com: What do you hope to accomplish for others who have been or are victims of Domestic Violence?

 

I hope to help each and everyone that has been or is going trough Domestic Violence I want to let them know you are not alone I want to be their Voice This is why i want to bring as much awareness I am able to to This is an epidemic that is taking over our nation but not only here in the US but all over the world I want them to see there are people that care they do have a VOICE. I AM THE PERFECT EXAMPLE THERE IS LIFE AFTER THE VIOLENCE LOOK AT ME I DID IT SO CAN YOU! DO NOT LET ANYONE OR ANYTHING ROB YOU OF YOUR DREAMS.
 

LargeInCharge.com: How can others support you and your platform?

 

They can support me and my Platform by spreading the word Stop Domestic Violence !as well as by making donations to the different domestic violence organizations and educating your self on Domestic Violence.

LargeInCharge.com: How can victims get help?

 

Victims can get help by calling the national hot lines they can also speak I can not stress this enough Please speak out don't stay silent there is help there are programs which help women to get through the trauma.

LargeInCharge.com: How can people get information about Domestic Violence?

 

You can get information through the Internet as well as the websites I mention in this Interview

 

LargeInCharge.com: If you could say one final thing to your abuser and to all abusers out there in this world, What would it be?

 

Stop the Vicious Cycle Please get Help Domestic Violence Hurts everyone!


 

 
 

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Cover Model of the Month

Isabel Garcia

Ms. NY Plus America 2008

 

 

Interview

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

 

Isabel Garcia-Rivera

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

 

I am Of Puerto Rican decent but born and raised in Brooklyn NY


LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

 

I am 38 yrs old 5'7 size 18/20 I am married no Children.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

 

I was a Big child

 

LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up as a large child?

 

While growing up I was a Happy child at times but it became really real when i started school and other children made fun of me because of my size.


LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

 

I decided to enter the LargeInCharge model search because i saw it as an avenue to spread the word that BIG IS BEAUTIFUL you do not need to be a size 2 to be sexy beautify and confident .Beauty comes in all shapes and sizes it is time the world realizes we are here to STAY WE ARE LARGE AND IN CHARGE!


LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

 

At first I will be honest it was hard dealing with people everyday who ridiculed you because of the way you look they don't see beyond the size factor they are to wrapped up in how you look to even bother to see the real person behind the weight.


LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

 

I do and for that i am truly Thankful.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

 

What inspires me most in life is seeing other beautiful Plus size confident individuals Being proud of who they are accomplishing things others think we are not capable of.


LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary job?

 

I am a Special Education professional.

 

LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?

 

My passion is helping people I decided to do this because I Love children and I wanted to be an essential part of helping to mold the minds of our future generations with the proper Education.
 

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?

 

I have to say yes I do and i am Thankful for that as well.


LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

 

I have to say it has gotten much better these past couple of years. But still it is not up to part it is not where it should be just yet.


LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

 

I wish to see more designer's take on the plus size market and use more plus size models in every avenue of the plus size industry.
 

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

 

I think we would take over the world. and that's the way it should be. If you take a close look we are the norm but society does not want to accept that fact instead they choose to put us to the side. For them it is easier to ignore than to accept the reality.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

 

I buy my clothing at Macy's ,JC Penny, and Lane Bryant.

 

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

 

Bare Minerals. that is the best thing anyone has ever invented.


LargeInCharge.com: Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?

 

For a successful photo shoot i would say just relax be yourself and have fun! Be prepared for anything and everything Things never go exactly as planned.


LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?

 

I see some changes. People are more open to accepting us, The clothing market definitely has gotten much better than it has been in the past and we are more in the media.


LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

 

I believe 5 years from now will be right up there where what society calls the Norm.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

 

My goals as far as modeling is concerned are to just show everyone that beauty is beauty no matter what size, color creed you are, beauty should just be recognized for Beauty. I want to help spread the word about size acceptance educate our young women to know it is ok to love yourself for who you are love your self first and everything else will fall right into place. I would love to create a plus size clothing line for all my beautiful plus size sisters that is a project I am holding dear to my heart. I would love to see it become a reality .that is my main Goal. As well as to create a program that will cater to plus size women who have gone through Domestic Abuse.


LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

 

Yes it was the day I took a good look in the mirror after being Abused and I looked at my self right there and said I love me This is who I am and will be forever I am Beautiful in spite of what anyone says I love Me


LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

 

Oh most definitely. My Grandmother and Husband these 2 people are the ones whom i can say saved my Life.

 

LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

 

I would say if it it really something they have a passion for and really want to do go for it. Don't let any one stop you from your dreams don't let anyone dictate what you can or can't do live your life the way you were meant to.
 

LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you admire?

 

Wow there are so many i can thank for paving the way. But i have to Thank MO NIQUE , Queen Latifa and my Friend Raqui.
 

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.

 

Fabulous

 

 

Thanks for reading about our

Cover Model of the Month

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Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality.

 

     For the past 4 years moving into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.   Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Domestic Violence and Plus Sized People

 

     Domestic Violence it is a subject that many women and men don't understand because so many cultures are brought up with it as a daily part of life. How many of us have been raised in a home in which people put each other down. Hurt each other, cursed each other, hit each other. It seems almost normal.

     There was a time when women actually believed that a man putting them in their place (so to speak) was a way of showing love. That when he didn't allow you to do what you wanted and kept you to himself it was a way of proving that he didn't want to share you and it was ok. Some women would be upset if their man didn't discipline them. In fact in many places around the world this is still a belief. Here in America it is still a big problem.

     Now we see what Domestic Violence does to women and men who suffer from it. We teach our children not to hurt each other and that hitting is not acceptable. At least some of us do.

     Their is a myth that I wanted to talk about today. Many believe that a woman of a big size could not possibly be abused. But today I am going to say I am a Domestic Violence survivor. I went through multiple relationships where Domestic Violence was a daily occurrence. I have been a big tall women all of my life. In fact in every relationship in which I was abused I was the bigger person in weight and height. But still I was a victim.

     Domestic Violence is a mental thing. When someone takes control of your mind with words they can over come you no matter what size you are. When someone threatens you and beats you even if you can whip their butt. You are in a position where you are too scared to fight back and you just want the persons approval. Especially if you were brought up to be nice, calm and even tempered.

While I don't like to use this as an example I cant think of another one more fitting than a Dog:

     A dog... your family pet wants your approval, most dogs even if they are not your personal pet are looking for love and approval. A dog can hurt you... they can bite the hell out of you, and jump up and rip your neck out. But because of the control you have over them mentally they stay in their place. Even if you beat them and mistreat them. They will hang there heads and wag their tail trying to get your approval again.

     That is how those who abuse others keep their victims. Like a dog, they treat you like an animal and keep you in your place like one. You become their little toy, their little pet who they do what they want with. Only they don't respect you and love you like a devoted pet owner. They watch carefully and find their prey, those hungry for attention, those with low self confidence, those who are looking very hard to please others, those who are in need, those who are willing to accept anything and anyone. Just like bullies on the play ground they are able to look at individuals and pick and test those they believe they can control.

     Domestic Violence is something I saw as a child growing up. My first relationship was a Domestic Violence situation, and almost every relationship after that for 15 years was a Domestic Violence situation... I sure could pick em. Only when I broke my own cycle and figured out what to do to take control and not give it, was I able to finally break free. I was mentally and emotionally abused, beaten, raped, I was physiologically controlled, physically controlled, and I had a gun put to my head more than once. A knife to my neck once and threaten with one a few times. I suffered through beatings that made my body black and bruises that were always in locations no one could see. I suffered through it during my pregnancy.

Each of the men who did what they did to me used different tactics:
 

  • They tried to sell me a story and make me feel oh so sorry for him because he had it so bad.

  • Another tried the I cant live with out you tactic actually acting as though he would kill himself and then beat me because if it.

  • Then there was the YOU ARE ALWAYS WRONG along with a slap.

  • And the starvation method taking everything from you, including food, clothing, money, and more.

  • Control through religion, acting as though they are god and using god against you.

  • The Voodoo hoo doo method scaring you into believing they can do things and never be found out.

  • The physiological analysis but don't be to smart because you will be beaten.

  • Mommy issues and women issues that make you feel so bad and try to prove your not like the others.

  • Deprivation, not giving you the emotional, mental, spiritual support you need and ask for and if you don't get with their program sex and many other things will be denied from you. Along with a good whuppin of fists and words.

 

 

     My stories are long and there are so many, I spent years overcoming and running from one bad relationship to another trying to find someone who wouldn't abuse me. But then I realized that I kept allowing men into my life that were abusers because that is what I knew as a child that is what I saw growing up and it is what was around me.

     Each person is responsible for breaking their cycle. Women and Men a like and if your children sees abuse they will pick abusers. If your children are not educated about Domestic Violence, they will never realize what it is and know that is it wrong. No one has to settle for being mistreated.

     Here is some facts for you about Domestic Violence. And here is one fact that is not on the records. Out of quite a few thousand Plus Sized women over the years that I have spoken to 90% of them have been in a domestic violence situation or has lived with seeing domestic Violence as a child. That is something to think about.


Statistics of Battered Women: Courtesy of www.asafeplaceforhelp.org

7% of women (3.9 million) are physically abused by their partners, and 37% (20.7 million) are verbally or emotionally abused.

Every 9 seconds a woman is physically abused by her husband.

95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women.

30% of women presenting with injuries to the emergency department had injuries caused by battering.

From 7% to 26% of pregnant women are abused.

42% of murdered women are killed by their intimate partners.

Within the last year, 7% of American women (3.9 million) who are married or living with someone as a couple were physically abused, and 37% (20.7 million) were verbally or emotionally abused by their spouse or partner. (The Commonwealth Fund, N.Y. 1991)

Every 9 seconds a woman is physically abused by her husband. (The Commonwealth Fund, N.Y. 1991)

The U.S. Department of Justice estimates that 95% of assaults on spouses or ex-spouses are committed by men against women. (Assessing Violent Couples, H. Douglas, Families in Society, 11/91)

Domestic violence is a repetitive in nature: about 1 in 5 women victimized by their spouse or ex-spouse reported that they had been a victim of a series of at least 3 assaults in the last 6 months. (Bureau of Justice Statistics, 10/93)

30% of Women presenting with injuries to the emergency department were identified as having injuries caused by battering. (American Journal of Public Health, 1/89)

Pregnancy is a risk factor. Several studies indicate a range of incidence from 17% to 26% of pregnant women. (Public Health Nursing, 9/87)

42% of murdered women are killed by their intimate partners. (FBI's 88-91 Uniform Crime Reports)



If you would like more information about A Safe Place and the programs we provide, please call us at 847-731-7165 or email us at info@asafeplaceforhelp.org


YOUR RELATIONSHIP: Courtesy of www.ndvh.org

Does your partner:
Embarrass you with put-downs?

Look at you or act in ways that scare you?


Control what you do, who you see or talk to or where you go?

Stop you from seeing your friends or family members?

Take your money or Social Security check, make you ask for money or refuse to give you money?

Make all of the decisions?

Tell you that you’re a bad parent or threaten to take away or hurt your children?

Prevent you from working or attending school?

Act like the abuse is no big deal, it’s your fault, or even deny doing it?

Destroy your property or threaten to kill your pets?

Intimidate you with guns, knives or other weapons?

Shove you, slap you, choke you, or hit you?

Force you to try and drop charges?

Threaten to commit suicide?

Threaten to kill you?

If you answered 'yes' to even one of these questions,
you may be in an abusive relationship.
For support and more information please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or at TTY 1-800-787-3224.


ARE YOU AN ABUSER: Courtesy of www.ndvh.org

Not all men are abusive, how do you measure up?

Abuse Is:
Calling bad names or putting someone down
Shouting and cursing
Hitting, slapping and/or pushing
Making threats of any kind
Jealousy and suspicion
Keeping someone away from family and friends
Throwing things around the house

Domestic violence is a crime.
It destroys relationships and families.

It passes from generation to generation.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

If you abuse, you can choose to stop.
Call us at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or TTY 1-800-787-3223.

 
 

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Super Sized Sounds

with

Lynx

     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.

 

      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was PHENOMENAL....in less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.

 

     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.

 

     WANT TO SUBMIT YOUR VOICE FOR REVIEW? See Below

Artist of the Month

 

My people, mi gente…I am getting ready for Calle Ocho, for those of you who don’t know Calle Ocho is the biggest  traditional Latin street festival with over a million people filling the streets of Miami. They come together to celebrate their traditions, their culture, their music and their food. YUMMY!!I can’t wait.

I am so excited as this will be my first time going to Miami ever and I can’t wait to mix and mingle with my people and enjoy the festivities. Extravagangstaradio is going to be there to support and enjoy the scene and interview the many artists who are scheduled to perform such as Fat Joe, Pitbull and The Dey to name a few.

Thanks to my boy BIG RALPH (love ya Ralph..muah!)

Lynx and Big Ralph

 Who invited me to S.O.B’s , I was fortunate enough to catch THE DEY this past week and they were incredible. I was right in front of the stage acting a fool, dancing, hooping and hollering. I wasn’t alone- Shout out to Patty Dukes  for acting up with me, you should have seen us; we were a hot ghetto mess. Thanks for the flicks PATTY DUKES! dope Female MC check her out at www.pattydukes.com 

Lynx and Patty Dukes

The chemistry between the members Divine, Élan and Yeyo are what make this group so special. You can see that they really love what they do and each other. I got to hang out with them after the show and they were so down to earth and cool. They were excited to go check out the billboard of themselves in Times Square over by the MTV studios.  Check it out.

           The D of the DEY  - Divine   ~       The E of the DEY - Elan      ~     The Y of the DEY

 

 

He couldn't resist and you know I wanted to turn my face

It was there that I met an artist who had performed that night as well. The audience chanted his name as he stepped on to the stage and he immediately connected with them. They were singing the words to his songs. I found myself swaying and vibing with this brother and when I met him he was so humble and looked at me square in my eyes and asked me if I enjoyed the show, I said yes and he then asked me if I had a copy of his album. Sean “B” of Mum Mum Music (on his grind) had already made sure I had a copy. I let him know I wrote music reviews for Largeincharge and that I currently didn’t have any submissions and he pointed at his album in my hands and said “There You Go” and so here you go

My people, mi gente...allow me to introduce you to this month’s featured artist

 

Artist Review

 

MALVERDE

Album: La Leyenda Continua (The Legend Continues)

Genre: Latin/Hip Hop 

 

Jesus Malverde was born and raised in the small town of Coachella , California. The town’s population was made up of mostly Mexican farm workers and opportunities were par none.  But Malverde would immerse himself in to his studies and develop his craft. Education and poetry became his outlet and salvation. 

 

In Malverde’s early works he focused mainly on street life and the culture that surrounded him which in turn led him to question the system and his own people about action and consequence.  In 2004 he released his first album Mi Palabra (My Word) and he gained a huge following on the West Coast.

 

In 2007 he found himself collaborating with one of the most recognized, respected Rap legends of the West Coast -SNOPP DOG on the smash Spanglish track “Vato” and now with “La Leyenda Continua” he has created one of the most important influential Latin Hip Hop Albums of 2007.

 

My people, mi gente… you have no idea how refreshing it is for me to come across an artist in this entertainment industry who holds on to and believes in the morals , respect, honor, tradition and love for his culture instilled in him as a child. Artists who has love and deep respect for the women of the world.

 

“I am a gentleman; you will never hear me do a song where I will disrespect a woman. Women are our mothers, daughters, sisters, wifey’s and shorties. Women are beautiful creative nurturing creatures and without women we [men] would be nothing”

 

I asked Malverde if there was ever any person of size in his life who may have influenced him in any way.

 

“Oh yeah, my cousin Panchis, she used to baby-sit me when everyone had to work for the Harvest of the Grapes.  I never really looked at her size I just knew she was there and she cared for me with love, patience and humor. See, at the end of the day the negative associations we deal with as a society is something that shouldn’t make or break your confidence or self esteem; that comes from within. No one should ever depend on outside influences to determine their worth”

 

Any messages to the Big Beautiful Women who will be reading this article?

 

“Mira, lo que cuenta son las ganas en la vida (Look, what matters is your drive in life). Be as sexy as you want to be. Own yourself, embrace yourself and be comfortable in the skin you are in; now that’s sexy and appealing. So to all my big beautiful women stay sexy and remember MALVERDE loves you all!”

 

And I am sure once you hear Malverde’s music you will all love and embrace this wonderful cultural influential MC as he delivers content on attraction, love, happiness pride, honor, and struggle.  Maintaining the legacy of sharing his life experiences and enlightening a new generation of Latinos and Hip Hop heads around the world.  Speaking of the feelings and thoughts our people, in small towns, hoods and the suburbs- the messages are universal and that is where his appeal lies.

 

Yes, The Legend Continues as Malverde delivers raw intense lyrics with the swag of his Latin culture, riveting prolific and diverse emotions. Not to mention awesome funky Latin/hip hop/rockish production from his longtime producer Brett Bouldin and features by artists like Cypress Hills B-Real , Juan Barajas and Tiffany Wilson. Did I mention the Cd comes with the words in Spanish and English.? Well let me do this review in both languages.

 

 

Y AHORA QUE” saben la verdad “DIME LO QUE QUIERES” “SI TU SUPIERAS” esto no es “TIEMPO PERDIDO” es hora que “SONRIE   “MI AMOR”  “AQUI ESTAMOS” somos “HOMBRES PERSEGUIDOS” en “ESTE CAMINO” de la vida, y la vida lo debemos a esa mujer que ha sacrificado todo que se llama “MADRECITA” y es por eso que hay que tenerle pena a la que era mi Jezebel (ELLA ERA MI…..) Celebran mi gente y bailan “LA PACHANGA” y “OYE” la musica y sienten liberados.

 

 

TRANSLATION:

 

“SO NOW WHAT” you know the truth “TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT”  “IF YOU ONLY KNEW” this is not “WASTED TIME” it’s time to “SMILE”  “MY LOVE” “WE ARE HERE”, we are “HUNTED MEN” on “THIS PATH” of life, and our lives are owed to the woman who sacrificed all and her name is “MOTHER” that is why we must empathize with Jezebel…(SHE WAS MY…) Celebrate my people and dance “THE PACHANGA” and “LISTEN” to the music and feel free.

 

 

Visit Malverde’s myspace page @ www.myspace.com/malverde

 

 

 

CHECK OUT MALVERDE’s VIDEO for my favorite song on the album “She was my…” (Jezebel.)

****JEZEBEL****

   
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From the Plus Side

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Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.

 

     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below

    

     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.

 

Diamond in the Rough

Article by: Emily Smiltneck

Jason balled up his takeout bag and hurled it across the room into the trash can.  It hit the wall and bounced in, sending the room into a round of boisterous hooting and cheering.  The air was immediately filled with balls of garbage flying toward the trash can.  Amid the chaos, Jason turned to the man seated next to him.

            “So what the hell you guys do around here on weekends, anyway?”

            “Whaddya mean, whadda we do?”

            “I mean, what do you do?  First weekend since I got here that I ain’t still movin’ or unpackin’.  So now what?”

            “Do the same thing everyone does—watch football and get wasted, man.”

            “I’m down with that.  When and where?”

            “We’re watchin’ the game at Adam’s on Sunday.  Noon.  Bring a case a beer ‘n you’re in.”

            “I’ll be there.  What about the rest of the weekend?  Y’all just sit home on Saturday night?”

            “Hell, no.  We drink.  Or go to Little Larry’s.  Or go to Little Larry’s and watch football and drink.  That’s the way to roll.”

            “Little Larry’s, huh?  That a bar?”

            “Better.  Girlie bar.  Hittin’ it up tomorrow if ya wanna show.”

            “Might see ya there, then.”

            A buzzer warned them that lunch hour was over.  Within seconds, the room was empty.

 

            Jason woke up and looked around him, confused.  He still hadn’t quite gotten used to his new apartment, and it always took him a few minutes to figure out where he was in the morning.  Especially today, because he had fallen asleep on the couch.  He had fallen asleep watching a crappy movie; now, cartoons played in its place.  He groped for the remote and shut the TV off, then sat up and stretched.  A few more boxes to unpack and he could spend his first weekend enjoying his new apartment.  Which was very, very quiet.

            He’d been staying with his brother’s family for a little over a year while he looked for a decent job.  Kids and toys and pets everywhere.  Now, he’d finally found what he was looking for and was out on his own again.  Left completely to his own devices.  And it felt good.

            With the day stretching out before him, he considered his options.  Wouldn’t take him very long to finish things up here, get the last of his things unpacked. After that, he could go to a movie, run to the mall, explore the neighborhood.  Maybe go find the guys from work at that place Ken had mentioned.

            Jason didn’t usually go for places like that.  Not that he wasn’t interested in dancing girls, of course.  He just didn’t usually find the girls in places like that very attractive.  Still, it was something to do, and he figured it was always a good idea to get in good with the guys you have to work with.  He turned on his cell phone and dialed Ken’s number for directions.

           

            Jason was dressed and waiting when Ken’s van pulled into his driveway.

            “Hey, thanks for the ride, man.”

            “No trouble.  Hop on in!  Now only one of us hasta be a good boy and cool it with the brewskis.”

            “Sweet deal.”  Jason opened the back door and got in.  He seemed to be a bit overdressed.  He had thrown on jeans and a suit coat over a t-shirt—his usual going-out uniform.  One of the other guys was wearing sweatpants and a stained t-shirt.  The others all had on jeans, but they were mostly dressed in holey sweatshirts and tattered flannel shirts.  They were obviously not headed to the kind of place he had assumed they were going to.”

            His suspicions were confirmed when Ken took the highway away from the city and they were still driving through the woods a half hour later.

            “Where the hell we going?”

            “Little Larry’s.  It’s out a ways.”

            “I see that.”  Finally, Ken threw on the turn signal and they pulled into a parking lot just off the highway.  The building it belonged to was made out of stone, dark wood, and light colored siding.  Not in any particular order.  It looked as if the building had been falling down for 30 years, and every time something fell off, they replaced it with a completely different kind of material.  Neon beer signs lit up the stained windows and a hand-written sign, marker on cardboard, was taped to the door announcing “Dansing Girls Tonite!”  Jason, having not been overly enthusiastic about the plan in the first place, started wondering what he had gotten himself into.

            “Here we are,” called out the guy in the front passenger seat.  “Little Larry’s.  Home of good beer, bad music, and nekkid girls!  Woooo!”  Jason figured the good beer might help, anyway.

            Inside, the place was packed.  Jason pushed his way through the crowd at the bar to order a pitcher of beer while the others went in search of seating.  The girl at the bar was heavily made up and it appeared that she hadn’t quite been able to wash all the hairspray of the 80s out of her hair.  Her breasts, encased in a black lacy bra, bulged dangerously out of a tight, white men’s undershirt that had a deep vee cut into the neck.  The few female patrons of the bar could have been her clones.

            Finally, beer pitcher in one hand, stack of plastic cups in the other, Jason backed away from the bar and craned his neck to find Ken’s crew.  He shoved his way through the crowd and finally found them seated at a table in the far corner of the bar.  There were no chairs left open, so Jason thumped the beer and cups down on the table and seated himself next to them.

            “Crowded place,” he commented, looking around.

            “Yeh.  Only place around here with dancin’ girls.  Ain’t legal, but no one’s gonna stop ‘em, way out here.”

            “Got that right.  Anyone who tries comes in, has a few beers, and don’t leave ‘til he got a girl on his arm at closing time.”

            Jason searched the crowd again.

            “Not too many girls around here.”

            “Not them girls.  The dancin’ girls.  If ya tip good, ya get picked.  They all take some lucky guy with ‘em.  There’s an old hotel out back an’ they each got a room there for a dressin’ room.  And whatever else.”

            “So the girls are—prostitutes?   Not just dancers?”

            “Eh, all these girls are whores.  But ya don’t gotta pay ‘em.  Jus’ give good tips while they’re on the floor and they take care o’ the rest.”

            Suddenly, music blared from speakers that were duct-taped onto the beams in the corners of the room.  It was bad music, and loud.  Most of the conversations in the room ceased.  And most of the heads in the room turned toward the stage that was against the far wall.  Obviously, the show was about to start.

            A woman dressed in showy red lingerie came out first.  She stood in the center of the stage, grasping a microphone firmly in both hands.

            “Thanks for coming out, boys,” she rasped in a sultry voice.  “And ladies.”

            The room burst into enthusiastic applause as, one by one, girls filed onto the stage.  The woman in red called out each of their names.  Jason watched without much interest.  They all looked the same to him.  Some were dressed in black, some in red, some in white.  There was a nurse and a student, lots of lingerie.  But they were all basically the same girl in different clothes with different colored hair.  And just when he was starting to wish he hadn’t come—the beer wasn’t really much better than the music, at least not before you had a few—the last girl to come onto the stage caught his attention.

            “And last, but definitely not least, heeeeeeeeeeere’s Diamond!”

            The girl who was taking her place on the stage was one of the most beautiful creatures Jason had ever seen.  Her white sequined thong was nestled firmly in the cleft of a large, dimpled rear.  Voluminous breasts spilled out of a matching bra.  The two together perfectly framed a rolling belly that Jason almost couldn’t take his eyes from.  Almost.  But white fishnet stockings clung to bountiful thighs that shook just a little with each step she took, and her rounded calves gave way to strong, thick ankles just above white-sequined, spike-heeled shoes.  Her tanned skin and long, wavy, chocolate colored hair made the sparkling whiteness that she wore seem to almost pop off of her body.  Jason took in a sharp breath.

            Maybe this night wouldn’t be a total waste after all.

 

            Each of the girls took the stage in turn; Jason watched each of them with only mild interest, a sense of anticipation building within him.  Each girl danced around the stage, winking at the men who hooted the loudest, slowing removing items of clothing one by one until they were totally exposed, then gyrating enticingly.  Just about every man in the place was on the edge of his seat or weak in the knees.  But Jason was waiting for Diamond.

            At last, after what seemed like hours and hours, the last of the string of identical dancing girls glided off the stage.  Jason slid off the table he was sitting on and pushed through the crowd until he was just a few feet back from the stage.  The blue clouds of cigarette smoke in the air gave everything an aura of dreaminess.   When Diamond strutted into the stage, the cloudy air seemed to part around her and she glowed like an angel.  With each step, her fleshy body shimmied just enough to make the white sequins she wore dance seductively.

            She swept along the front edge of the stage, reaching out to touch the hands of several men who were reaching toward her, then turned and sauntered to the pole in the center of the stage.  She grasped it firmly with one hand, wrapped a leg around it, and began to dance and move in a way that left Jason struggling for breath.

            He found himself straining toward the stage as if he could will himself into her arms.  Diamond wrapped a large leg tightly around the pole and leaned back away from the audience and one could just see her breasts bobbing enticingly over the softness of her belly as her arms stretched behind her back.  When she reached for the pole and pulled herself into a standing position, her breasts spilled majestically from her bra as it slid down her arms and was discarded.  Jason could feel his pants getting tighter as he watched her.  And that was just the beginning.

            Diamond dropped to her knees and crawled to the edge of the stage.  Her breasts swung pendulously as she crawled, shaking her hair at the crowd.  She spread her legs and undulated her hips, leaving no idea as to what she would be doing if she were straddling a man instead of a stage.  Slowly, she turned and shook her ass.  The men surrounding Jason faded from his reality; in his own private reality, he and Diamond were the only people in the room and every move she made was aimed at seducing him.  And it was working.

            She stretched her legs and stood, back toward Jason.  He could almost feel the softness of her ass, smell her skin, hear the beating of her heart.  He ached in anticipation as she slowly hooked her thumbs under the side of her thong and inched it over her mountainous rear, stopping every few seconds to glance backward over her shoulder.  Right at Jason.  If the room hadn’t been so chaotic, Jason would have worried that his state of arousal was noticeable.  The anonymity that the crowd gave him, though, let him give all of his attention to Diamond.  He held his breath as she finally pulled her thong down, wholly exposing the creamy, dimpled skin of her rear.  Jason found his fingers unintentionally stretching as if they were grasping her ass flesh.  He swallowed hard.

            When Diamond’s thong had joined her bra in the corner of the stage, she continued her beguiling dance.  Jason wished, more than anything, that he could be next to her, touching her, becoming a part of her.  It was all he could do to keep from joining her on stage.  His heart stopped as she faced him and ran her hands from her knees up over her entire body as she swayed rhythmically.  He groped frantically for his wallet and stepped forward to the edge of the stage to stuff a handful of bills into her tip jar.  As he backed away, she caught his eye.  She winked.  Jason found himself unable to walk, breathe, move.  He merely stared at her beautiful face.  She touched the most womanly part of herself, shook her long hair out around her, turned, and was gone.

            The room broke into applause as she peeked out from behind a curtain, blew a kiss to the crowd, and disappeared.  The sound brought Jason crashing back into reality.  He hurried back to Ken and the other guys and slid into a chair.  The conversation revolved around Diamond.

            “Man, did you see the tits and ass on that chick?” one of the guys was saying.

            “Yeah, kinda scary,” someone else replied.

            “No way, man.  Hot.  I’d do her,” Ken joined in.

            Jason wanted to stand up and ask them how they dared talk about her that way, as if she wasn’t even human or something.  He knew he couldn’t, though.  She was, after all, a stripper.  The angelic perception he had of her was nothing more than fantasy.  He kept his mouth closed.  He definitely agreed with Ken.  He wished more than anything he had wished for in a very long time that he would see Diamond come out into the crowd, search for him, place a hand on his shoulder.  Not likely to happen, but he wished it would.  Reluctantly, he forced himself to join the conversation around him.

            A half hour later, they were all finishing their beer and shrugging their way, some drunkenly, into their jackets and flannels.  Jason had pushed the thought of Diamond from his mind and was ready to go home and fantasize about her.  Next best thing to being with her.

            And then a hand landed firmly on his shoulder.  And a low, sexy voice caressed his ear.

            “Hey, there.  I was hoping you’d still be here.”

            His pulse quickened to the point of taking his breath away.  His blood suddenly seemed to be boiling in his veins.  He hardly dared look up.  But when he did, it really was Diamond standing behind him, dressed in tight black pants and a sparkling white sweater.  The place where her hand rested on his shoulder seemed to be the focal point of his whole being.

            “I—I’m here.”

            “Good.  Wanna get outta here and talk or somethin’?”  She slid her hand across the back of his neck and to the other shoulder, making all the hairs on his body stand on end.

            “Uh, sure.  Yeah.  Just a minute, gotta work somethin’ out.”  Jason stood up and jabbed a thumb into Ken’s side.  “Hey, dude.  It’s Diamond.”  He jerked his head toward the woman standing a few feet away.

            “Hell’s bells, it is!  What she want?”

            “Me—er, she wants to hang out.”

            “Well, hell, man, go for it!  Whatcha waitin’ for?”

            “We’re in the middle of nowhere, and we’re all here together.”

            “Ain’t no problem.  Hold up a sec.”  Ken disappeared for a few seconds, then returned, tossing a set of keys at Jason.  “Blue Intrepid, parked against the building.  We picked up an extra passenger.”  He grinned and Jason grinned back.

            “Thanks, man.  See ya tomorrow.”

            Jason dropped the keys in his pocket and returned to Diamond’s side.  He placed a shaking hand on her back, leaned in close so she could hear him. 

            “All right, I’m good to go.”

            “Follow me.”

 

            The contrast between the cool night air and the blood that boiled through Jason like hot lava only served to heighten his senses as he followed Diamond around the building and waited for her to unlock the door to her room.  Inside, the clothing rack was full of beautiful, sparkling lingerie.  The room was freshly painted but plain.  On the wall was a photo of Diamond with the other dancers, all dressed in street clothes and smiling broadly, arms over each other’s shoulders.  The only other thing decorating the room was a figurine of an angel sitting on the dresser, sparkling under the room’s only lamp.  Jason liked the idea of Diamond as a sweet, wholesome woman.  Of course, the fact that she was a stripper didn’t exactly turn him off.  Actually, the juxtaposition between the two sides of her turned him on that much more.

            “So tell me a little about yourself,” Diamond said, sitting down on one side of the bed.  She gestured for Jason to sit on the other side.

            “Well, I’m Jason.  New to town—well, to the area.  I live in town.”

            “Yeah.  Not exactly a town out here.”  Diamond laughed and the sound jolted Jason’s very being.  He wanted her, more than he had ever wanted any woman, and yet, he couldn’t deny that he was enjoying their banter, and the chance to just take in her beauty.

            “Work over at Naemon’s, in the sales department.  What about you, what do you do?  Other than this.”

            “I’m going to school.  Business degree.  I just come out here and work on weekends.  Pay’s not much, but the tips keep me going through the week.”

            “You’re paying for school just working weekends?  Wow.”

            “No.  I have scholarships for that.”

            “Impressive.  You know, I have to say—this is the most stimulating conversation I’ve had since I moved to town.”

            “You just gotta come to the right places, I guess.”  Diamond leaned across the bed, took Jason’s head in her hands, and kissed him deeply.  When she pulled back, the only sound in the room was rattling breath, his and hers.  “Do you want this?” she asked.  “Is this what you want, or do you just want the stimulating conversation?”

            “I like stimulation.  Of all kinds.  And I like you.”  Jason reached out and pulled Diamond to him again.  This time, he held her and kissed her deeply.  She slid his suit coat back over his shoulders and pushed it to the floor, then placed her palms on his chest.  He let the force of her hands on his chest push him back onto the bed but pulled her with him.  Their kissing grew more frantic.  Diamond’s weight on Jason was driving him crazy.  When he couldn’t wait any longer to feel the softness of her skin on his, he pushed her sweater up and over her head, leaving her in a satiny black bra.  He touched her breasts, luxuriating in the cool, slippery smoothness of the fabric stretched tight over her bosom.  Diamond moaned softly, then rolled away from Jason.

            “Hey, where you going?” he asked, sitting up breathlessly.

            “Just getting more comfortable.”  She slipped out of her pants to reveal silky black panties that were much more chaste than Jason had expected.  Which somehow caused his blood to race through his veins even more quickly than before.  He craved the feeling of her enveloping body encased in cool silkiness pressed against him.  He stood and quickly stripped down to his boxers, then took his place on the bed once more.

            Before he knew what was happening, Diamond was straddling his legs, leaning down over his chest, kissing him as if her very life depended on it.  Jason wrapped his arms around her and pulled her more fully onto him.  He felt like he might lose control of himself very soon, but he couldn’t stop touching her.  His breath was coming out in ragged gasps, and he could hear Diamond’s doing the same.  His hands chased each other all over her body, first down her back to play across her ass and then around to caress her breasts, where he delighted in the fact that her nipples hardened at his touch.  Diamond pressed her upper body against him, rubbing the soft material of her bra across his chest.

            “I want you,” Jason gasped.  “I need you.”

            In response, Diamond straightened and settled the warmest part of herself heavily against his midsection, then reached behind her to release herself from her bra.  Her breasts fell to her belly, creating an enticing wave of flesh that caused a particular part of Jason’s flesh to press against her insistently.  She moved her hips in tiny circles, grinding softly against him.  Then she leaned down, completely covering Jason’s body and bringing her mouth close to his ear.

            “I just want you to know I don’t do this every night,” she whispered.

            Jason couldn’t find the strength to speak, so he merely lifted his head and rubbed it against her cheek to acknowledge her words and then reached down to push her panties over her voluptuous hips.  But she wasn’t finished.

            “I’m serious.  I meet enough men at this job that I can afford to be choosy.  And I am.  I want you to know that this wasn’t an accident.  I chose you.  And I’m glad I did.”

            Jason still couldn’t respond with words, but his body was responding of its own accord.  Diamond did away with the need for words by pressing her lips to his, by sucking, nibbling, licking until he could hardly stand to be in his own skin anymore.  She read his body perfectly and lifted her hips so he could push aside the last remaining barriers between them.  The heat of her moist femininity against his most sensitive parts nearly drove him over the edge.  He blindly and mindlessly reached for the place where her legs met in a mound of softness, but he could hardly control the movement of his hand.

            “It’s okay.  I’m ready,” Diamond whispered in a throaty voice, heavy with desire.  She reached into a drawer next to the bed, removed a small package, and opened it.  She backed away to place its contents on his manhood, then bent to roll it down his length with her lips.  At that moment, it was almost over for Jason.  Almost.  He had gone months without a woman’s touch while he was living with his brother’s family and he was more than ready to join with this woman, the most beautiful he had ever even seen, much less touched.  Recognizing his need, and wanting to satisfy her own need as well, Diamond once again stretched herself over the length of his body, kissing her way to his lips once more. 

            Jason forced himself to pull his lips away from hers.  He was barely able to speak.

            “I need… now…”

            Silently, Diamond lifted her hips again and readied herself to receive him.  She placed her hands flat on his chest and let herself sink slowly onto him.  Together, they let out a whimper of pleasure, of anticipation.  They couldn’t remain still for long.  Soon, the rhythmic motion of Diamond’s body, the sensual weight of her flesh on his, the warm folds in which he was buried were all too much for Jason.  It seemed like no time at all before every muscle in his body tensed and then let go in a shuddering release.  Barely able to move, he rolled Diamond to the bed as he turned onto his side and rested an arm just below her beautiful breasts. 

            When his pulse had finally slowed and he had regained control of his voice, Jason lifted his head and let his gaze fall upon Diamond’s face.  Here eyes were closed and her lips parted slightly, her cheeks moving the tiniest bit each time she breathed.

            “Why?” he whispered.

            She opened her eyes and looked into his.

            “Why what?”

            “Why did you choose me?  Out of all the guys out here tonight, why me?”

            “I—I don’t know.  You just caught my attention.”

            “Was it because I gave you the biggest tip?”

            “What?  No.  Some of the girls work that way, but not me.  I told you, I’m choosy.  You were just different.  Classier.  More my style.”

            “I don’t do this often, you know.  I’m not the kinda guy that jumps in bed with a stripper every night.  But you are the most beautiful, incredible woman I’ve ever laid my eyes on.”

            “You don’t have to defend yourself, sexy.”

            “I mean it, though.  And I sure as hell never thought I’d find someone like you out here.  I didn’t even wanna come out last night, but I’m glad I did now.”

            “Me too.  I could tell you were different.  For one thing, you were wearing clean clothes.”  They both broke into soft laughter.  “But seriously, there’re not too many guys who show up out here who’d bother to whisper sweet nothings in my ear or call me beautiful.”

            “I bet there aren’t too many who’d bother to make sure you got your turn, either,” Jason said softly, and lifted his head to cover her breasts in soft kisses.  Her only response was a sharp exhalation as she clawed at the blankets on the bed.  Her legs parted as if by magic as he kissed and nibbled his way down her ample belly, massaging it lightly with the palms of his hands as he did.  And after what seemed like hours, days, years to both of them, he dipped his head to taste her sweetness at last.  He didn’t pull away until she had melted limply onto the bed, spent and sated.  Wrapped in one another’s arms, they drifted into the state of half-wakefulness that comes after man and woman have become one.

   
   
 

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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude

   

Make it your Own

by Xander The Food Dude

 

    I have a friend who is really good at making things out of other people’s work.  It’s that he prefers to take other people designs and modify them to present in other ways.  Most recently he “wrote a book”.  The contents were copied material rewritten from government document and studies that have no copyright.  He keeps telling me that it is the way to write a book, make a website, or do just about anything.  Take someone else's work and make it your own.

 

     I can’t say I haven’t done the same thing with recipies.  See a good idea and modifiy to my tastes.  So how are things different for me than my friend.  Most times I find what he does tasteless and ethically questionable.  But am I any different ??  How many times have you taken someone else’s ideas or work and passed it off as your own.  It is the same situation as I describe above.  Maybe, maybe not. 

 

     You see for me it comes down to something more than information.  A tfirst I thought it was because I thought my friend basically lacked creativity.  But in actuality it takes avast amount of creativity to take others work, re-work it, an pass it off as your own.  Maybe more disturbing to me is the way he seems so proud about it.  I think what I really think is that my friends lack originality.  Nothing he creates can truly be called his.  Nothing he creates can satisfy that inner drive to be unique.  He might be able to lie to himself and others but in the end what he done is simply copy someone else.

 

     I guess what I’m trying to say is in your cooking and in your work, in your lives, live it original.  Make what comes from you be part of you.  Whether the results of culinary experiments turn out to be good, bad, or ugly, take ownership of it.  It seems all too often we spend out time avoiding ownership of the things that go wrong.  But in reality, being responsible is great.  If you responsible for something going wrong, then you instrumental in fixing it and making things go right.  You are truly the master of your own destiny.

 

     Don’t let the day to day get you bogged down.  Constantly think about a better or new way to do something, but make it something that suits you.  Take back you decision making and ability to say no and yes when you want to.  Throw of the woulda, shoulda, coulda’s for the  done it, did it, finished it.  Don’t rely on the work of others to define your life.  Be new, be original, be steadfast in your convictions.  JUST MAKE IT YOUR OWN.  Life it, believe it, breath it, just make it your own.  The ultimate freedom comes from that which make you unique in the world.  The question is, do you have enough faith in what is inside of you to let the world see no matter what the outcome.

 

     I wish you all Godspeed and Good Luck.  Until Next Month remember to fill all your hungers.

Xander's Recipe of the Month

Bangin' Potato Zoop

 

 

Ingredients

  • 12 slices bacon
  • 2/3 cup margarine
  • 2/3 cup all-purpose flour
  • 7 cups milk
  • 4 large baked potatoes, peeled and cubed
  • 4 green onions, chopped
  • 1 1/4 cups shredded Cheddar cheese
  • 1 cup sour cream
  • 1 teaspoon salt
  • 1 teaspoon ground black pepper

 

  1. Place bacon in a large, deep skillet. Cook over medium heat until browned. Drain, crumble, and set aside.
  1. In a stock pot or Dutch oven, melt the margarine over medium heat. Whisk in flour until smooth. Gradually stir in milk, whisking constantly until thickened. Stir in potatoes and onions. Bring to a boil, stirring frequently.
  1. Reduce heat, and simmer 10 minutes. Mix in bacon, cheese, sour cream, salt, and pepper. Continue cooking, stirring frequently, until cheese is melted.
   
 

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By Xander the Food Dude

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Big Girls on the Red Carpet

   

Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.


She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!

   

                 

Hi this is your Hollywood reporter Cher Rue from the "Red Carpet".

I am showing mainstream that the "Big girls" can rock the red carpet!

Hollywood Prom 2008

January 31st

Hollywood Prom night celebrating the birthday of Brad Hoss and hosted by Dennis Haskins (Principal from Saved By the Bell). Last years Hollywood 2007 Prom featured guests such as Lauren Conrad (The Hills, Laguna Beach), Adriana Patridge, Justin Guarini (American Idol), Alex Boyd and Daniel Franco.

Celebrity guests at this years prom included Bobby Trendy, Phoebe Price, Johnny Venokur (Scott Baio is 45), Efren Ramirez, Lorielle New, Carlos Ramirez, Cher Rue, Eric Bayliss (Tila Tequila's A Shot of Love), Maurice Townsell/Valentino (Janice), Marcus Foy (Tila A Shot of Love, Maria Bernaldez (Janice), Amanda Rushing, Haley Bennett and actress Jamie McCall. This years prom saw nominations for prom queen of Holly from Sunset Tan, Adriana Patridge, Niki Ghazian and other peers. Where the prom king nominations included such notables as Jeff Bozz (Sunset Tan) and Freddy Fig. The event was held at the upscale and posh boulevard3 club (co-owned by one of the original founders of Sky Bar). Pageant designer Sherri Hill has designed for Miss USA 2007 Rachel Smith, Miss USA 2006 Tara Conner, Miss America 2007 Lauren Nelson, Miss America 2006 Jennifer Berry (several being crowned in her designs). Total Request Live host Susie Castillo received the Miss USA crown in a Sherri Hill gown. Ryan Cook was the prom king winner and Kendhal Beal the prom queen, beating out Perez Hilton.

The venue boulevard3 was packed with young cute Barbie doll girls, and handsome Ken's, who partied the night away. I was the only plus size lady there and to my surprise everyone was so warm and friendly and wanted to take photos with me on the red carpet. The event was a online voting for the king and queen of the prom, and the 10 top contestants were very sexy in their formal gowns and tuxedos. A live show of dancers top off the evening and it was so fun to see everyone dancing and having a great time.

I know that it is time for the plus size community to put on the sexy outfits, get their hair done, wear the glamorous make up and be on the red carpet!

Mainstream is about to feel the plus size community showing we are beautiful at any size!
 

   
 

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More than a Teddy Bear

 

   

I am a big guy with a big heart.  My favorite thing in the world to do is to make others laugh.  It gives a sense of calm and peace to both people involved and there is nothing better than to walk up to that person later in th day and just see the smile on their face from the memory they have of what you did earlier. 

 

I am a family man as well.  I live in Montreal, Quebec with my wonderful wife Naomi and my two adorable children Connor and Brett.  They are the sun around which I revolve and without them my life would have more tragedy than comedy in it I guarantee.

 

I was raised in Southern California, Moved to New York, Moved to Kansas and then back to New York.  Follow me so far?  I have a perspective on the entire country I think, from the surfers in Los Angeles, to the Wheat Farmers in Kansas City to the Kodak Managers in Rochester.

 

I am sick and tired of mainstream media not allowing the plus-sized person, be they man or woman, to be represented fairly in the media.  You have wonderfully bright spots in the darkness, like our own Raqui, but the rest of the clouds have yet to be broken through and I hope I can help in that.

 

I am a open man who loves to talk.  You want to ask me a question, go ahead.  You have an idea for something you want me to write?  Go ahead.  I don't mind posting my email (kaotiks@gmail.com) because I do not shy away from responding to people.  Plus, I have a really good spam filter.

 

Love and Respect to all.  James, by the way, they also call me Kaobear

   

Graduation

Article by: James Nealon

 

     I have been a large man for the majority of my life. I have been through all the verbiage that people use to try and avoid calling you names. I have been big boned, husky, big for my age, etc... None of this really mattered to me until I reached that wonderful testing ground of human cruelty, High School. it was alright for the first couple of years because I was on the Football team and my size was "accepted" because it served a purpose for them.

     After my accident in my sophomore year however, I couldn't play anymore and I became a living example of shibboleth. I was stereotyped in such a way that by the beginning of my senior year of High School, even I had started to believe some of the lies that had been thrust at me by my peers.

     I would hide for hours on end, skipping classes and even the bus home, in the school library where I hoped and prayed that I would be found by no one except for the incredibly small and magnificent circle of friends that I had actually managed to acquire over those pain filled years.

     I wept when graduation came. Not for the loss of school spirit, not for the frightening prospect of being alone in the adult world for the first time. No I wept because I knew that for the entire ceremony I would need to be there, in front of all of their eyes while they slammed me with words that they would make sure that only I could hear and make faces that only I could see.

     Surely enough, the day donned and I sat there in a cap and gown of royal blue and yellow. My mother was In the stands weeping, both for her son who was graduating and for her husband who had died just weeks before and could not see this event that both of them had for a while never thought would come.

     I stood and walked down the line as I was supposed to and immediately I heard them whispering behind me like a bunch of serpents. "Hey Fat Boy" "Fat Ass Don't FALL" "Why is the Ground shaking". I had heard them over and over again and I could make them fall off my shoulders, but the pain would not leave my eyes. I wept then. Not for what they had done to me that day, I knew I would move on and beyond them soon.


     No, but because when my mother asked me why I was crying before I even got my diploma I had to lie to her and tell her it was because of my father.

   
 

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Hot & Heavy Entertainment

   

     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.

   

Have you called Jenny yet? Queen Latifah has...
with Stephanie Baham

 

 


One of my favorite actresses, Queen Latifah, has recently signed on to endorse Jenny Craig.

No....I'm not kidding.

According to People magazine, Scott Parker, Jenny Craig's vice president of marketing, said "We are thrilled to have Queen Latifah support our mission of improving health by taking her first step toward achieving a more healthful lifestyle."

Personally, I think the folks at Jenny Craig are thrilled to have a well-known and well-loved celebrity plug their boxes of frozen food.

I am a huge fan of Queen Latifah and I've always felt she was a great plus size role model. Her characters in Chicago, Hairspray, Beauty Shop and any other film she starred in looked great. Queen Latifah showed Hollywood that characters who were plus sized could be more then just comic relief or mediocore sidekicks.

Honestly....I just can't picture the character of Big Mama from Chicago as a size 6.

According to People magazine, Queen Latifah is not going to concentrate on dress size, but a healthier lifestyle. But Jenny Craig has already put a lot of emphasis on dress size & pounds lost. Are we supposed to forget about that as the Queen sits on the Jenny Craig throne? I certainly won't.

Remember the television sitcom Living Single? Queen Latifah was one of few actresses whose character did not have any ongoing size issues. There were no fat jokes or innuendos. She was a big woman with a big role and she carried it well.

Perhaps the Queen does have some health issues that she'd like to take care of. But I am saddened by the way she is going about it. I am saddened she has chosen to call Jenny. The media has enough anti-fat propaganda on the airwaves. Will the Queen be adding to it? Or is she going to change the way the media views people of size? I hope it's the latter. Otherwise, I'm going to throw a royal fit!

   
 

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DID YOU KNOW?

National and International Plus Size News

 

     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.

   

Because he's Bond...
with Iolande Argent

 

Whether he knows it or not hot and hunky-leading actor Pierce Brosnan has added some positive love towards the full-size female form. Recently photos of the former 007 Brosnan and his wife, Keely Shaye Smith on the beach in Hawaii, showing her quite ample bikini-clad body hit the media waves.

One thing is for certain, Smith, 43, is like most ordinary women, she is beautiful and definitely not a size 2.

Smith is a plus-size former soap opera star who looks more like down-to-earth Moneypenny, as opposed to Pussy Galore, Bond's 36-24-36 playmate in Goldfinger. Smith spent one season as Valerie Freeman on television's "General Hospital" in 1989. In the 1990s, she served as a correspondent on "Unsolved Mysteries." An avid gardener, she wrote a two-volume set on horticulture in 2000. The couple has been active in environmental causes.

In 2006, Smith was featured in Vogue magazine's annual "shape" issue, telling readers she was proud of her Rubenesque figure. Her husband, who played James Bond and was once called "the sexiest man alive," said he thought his wife was "stunning."

In the past Brosnan has been quoted as saying, "I found a great woman in Keely. Not if I searched a million times over would I find one as good."  Of the article in Vogue he said, "I love my wife's curves."

Smith herself is also proud of her womanly frame. "I never shy away from color or my curves," the beautiful, but zaftig Smith told the magazine. "I like to play up my neckline and shoulders. If a jacket is pulling in the bust, I might just move the button an inch. But I never hide in baggy clothing."

Irish-born Brosnan made his name in 1982 as the dashing detective in television's "Remington Steele." He was anointed the new James Bond in 1994 and played the womanizing role in four films: "Golden Eye," "Tomorrow Never Dies," "The World Is Not Enough" and "Die Another Day."

Brosnan married Smith in 2001 after his first wife, Australian actress Cassandra Harris, died of ovarian cancer. They have two children of their own -- ages 6 and 11 -- and three children from Brosnan's first marriage.

Others in the media world have added their positive comments about the photos/ InTouch Weekly senior editor S. Tia Brown for one.

"I think it's great that she is proud of her body," said S. Tia Brown. "To be in a photo in a bikini in your 40s and not be petite, speaks to her confidence. It takes even more courage because her husband is considered a sex symbol."
   
 

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Why, Oh Why

    Erin says she grew up in a rural Texas town, the small town life atmosphere has always appealed to me and that is why I currently reside here. I have the city life girl burrowed deep within me though and sometimes she is able to escape to Dallas and have a good time. I was a very awkward child, and when ADD was not even understood, I had it, and spent a lot of time in the principals office. I grew up very much a tomboy. Once I hit 18, I set out on the world and started school. My major was to be journalism, then in 1999, tragedy hit me and I nearly died in a car accident. The outer wounds healed rather quickly leaving me with the inner scars I still deal with daily. I try to see each day as a new one and keep family and friends really close to my heart where they belong. I enjoy music and photography and my love for writing has stayed with me since I was a child. Now as a 29 year old woman, I spend most days still day dreaming and working hard to make them come true. I am currently in school full time and will complete my journalism degree with a minor in music. Pink is my absolute favorite color! I write poetry and am currently working on my first book about my life.

 

Erin was chosen because of her flair with words and her ability to find real day to day instances in which Plus Sized people say WHY, Oh, WHY.

   

Clothing Options

with Erin Thompson

 

     I have always said to myself, why oh why are plus size clothes not more fashionable? I am a woman on the verge of thirty, and I still want to wear rock band t-shirts and polka dots. I have found that the clothes in the plus size stores are what you can put together and make fabulous! With new stores hitting the big time, such as Torrid, more hip and trendy fashions are being put out there for your plus size indie rock girl.

 

     I love taking something off the rack and making it my own. I can be stylish with my hair pulled back and big hoop earrings, wear glitter eye shadow, roll down my car window, blast the radio, and rock out in the latest clothes just as easily as the non plus size girl can. From Tinkerbell underwear to wide width shoes, I feel completely comfortable with who I am in just about any ensemble--including my pajamas.

 

     The self-esteem issues I once had are being diminished every time I am able to find more and more plus size stores becoming stylish! I will no longer allow people to steal my joy with their harsh words and criticism, as I am who I want to be! The plus size clothing market may be lame at times, but take two solid colors and put them together and smile, because you too, can be a fashion icon!

   
 

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Time to tell it like it is!

    

     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.

 

     You can send in a picture,  You can make a graphic,  You can just send in your written words.  You can do it anonymously and get something off your chest.  You can let everyone know who you are and liberate yourself.

 

     Hope you enjoy Confession!  Send in your own check the bottom of this page!

 

CONFESSIONS



  
 

 realized that I am just as good as anyone else.

 

****CONFESSION*****

 

Sometimes you have to let go of things to move forward.  Finally I have.

 

 

****CONFESSION*****


 

I wonder when my day will come and if my love will accept me as I am.

 

 

****CONFESSION*****


  
 

She is moving to be with me.  I never dreamed this could be true. 

I am so happy to find someone who loves me as I am.


 

****CONFESSION*****

 


 

All my dreams have been crushed in one day.  Why am I such a fool.

 

 

****CONFESSION*****

 

 
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Send in your Confession NOW!

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Guest Writer of the Month

 

Shelley Willer

 

Who we are

"The Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women (DAHMW) was founded in October 2000. Since that time we have had thousands of calls come into the helpline from Maine and around the country. We are a unique organization in that we specialize in offering support and services to male victims of spousal and intimate partner violence. Though we specialize in this area, our support and services are not limited to helping abused men. We also help female victims in heterosexual and same-sex relationships and offer them the same support.

 

What is Domestic Violence

Domestic violence sometimes referred to as domestic abuse or intimate abuse occurs when a family member, partner or ex-partner attempts to physically or psychologically dominate another. Domestic violence often refers to violence between spouses, but can also include cohabitants and non-married intimate partners. The term "intimate partner violence" (IPV) is often used synonymously. Other terms include wife or husband beating, battering, "relationship violence", "domestic abuse", and "spousal abuse". Family violence is a broader definition, often used to include child abuse, elder abuse, and other violent acts between family members. Domestic violence occurs in all cultures; people of all races, ethnicities, religions, and classes can be perpetrators of domestic violence. Domestic violence is perpetrated by, and on, both men and women, and occurs in same-sex and opposite-sex relationships. Awareness and documentation of Domestic violence Domestic violence has many forms, including physical violence, sexual abuse, emotional abuse, intimidation, economic deprivation or threats of violence.

 

Signs of an abusive relationship

Signs of abuse can vary some things to look for are:

Physical: Are there signs of injury from hitting, punching, strangulation, kicking? Are there signs of damage to the home from objects thrown or destroyed “in anger”? Emotional/Psychological: Do you hear yelling? Are insults, threats, or degrading comments regularly used by one partner to the other? Power and Control: Is this a relationship where one partner has all the power and control? Is one partner kept from seeing friends or family? Is one partner extremely jealous about anything the other does or who they know? Is one partner overly possessive of the other? Does one partner control all aspects of family finance? Does one partner control what the other wears – how they act – where they can go – whether they can work?

 

What you should do if you are in an abusive relationship

Things you can do if you are in an abusive relationship Always keep a record of dates and times of incidents. Always report the violence to your doctor ensure that they record your injuries and all the details of the assault Always seek medical attention for any injuries - do not cover up the true cause. Always take legal advice. Do tell your family and friends what is happening to you. Do not be provoked into retaliating. Call our 24-hour line 1-888-7HELPLINE (888-743-5754) or web address www.dahmw.org.

 

How to help someone in an abusive relationship

Listen supportively and believe in what they are saying

Let them know that the abuse is not there fault

Let them know that they are not alone

Point out his/her strengths

Respect the decisions he/she makes

Help him/her develop a safety plan

Let him/her know that there are options

Offer options not directives

Research your local domestic violence programs to find out what services they offer

Give them our number 1-888-7HELPLINE (888-743-5754) or web address www.dahmw.org.

 

Facts

          Approx. 1.3 million women & 835,000 men physically assaulted or raped in the US yearly

          Of 11370 young adults reporting on 18761 heterosexual relationships -  24% of relationships had some violence -women were perpetrators in 70% of cases of nonreciprocal violence

          DOJ study in 2006 - 627,000 nonfatal IP victimizations reported – 151,000 (24%) were male victims

          84% of those were males abused by a female.

          Children were exposed to violence in 25% of the homes where males were victims

 

The Study

"The Men's Experiences with Partner Aggression Project” is a research study at Clark University in collaboration with the Survey Center at the University of Southern Maine, and the Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women (DAHMW).  This study is funded by the National Institute of Mental Health.
            The goal of the study is to better understand the experiences of men who are in relationships with women who use violence. Extensive research has shown that men are at risk for sustaining partner violence in their relationships, yet few studies have investigated their experiences, and there are few resources available to such men. By conducting this research project, we hope to provide much needed information on these men, their relationships, and their needs.
            If you are a man between the ages of 18 and 59 and have been physically assaulted at least one time in the last 12 months by a current or former intimate female partner you may be eligible to participate in this study. If interested in please call the DAHMW at 1-888-743-5754 or email
dahmwagency@gmail.com  If eligible you make take the survey online or by phone.  Your call or email will be kept strictly confidential and no personal identifying information will be required from you if you decide to participate in this study. You may also visit DAHMW's website at: www.dahmw.org or the project's website at: www.clarku.edu/faculty/dhines for more information. 

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Ask Raqui
Q:  Why is it so difficult to find a young BBW-Lover?  It seems like all the men interested in Plus Sized women are 35 and older. What's a 23 year old to do?
 
AJ
Raqui: That is something because I find that all the young men come after me.  I cant find a man my own age interested in me.  I am 33 years old and I get men from ages 15 to 30.  My Man now is 26 and I met him when he was 23 and I was 30.  But I have heard of this before.  I think the younger men are attracted to the older women and the older men are attracted to the younger women.  I would say your best bet is to find one you like and go to him instead of waiting for him to come to you.

Q:  I saw you perform your poetry, what is your price to perform?

Unknow

Raqui: Right now I haven't charged yet to perform. I want my traveling expenses at least handled.  So if your interested email me and we can work something out.

 

Q:   Are you going to Vegas Bash this year?  I hope so..

Unknown

Raqui:  I have been trying to get to Vegas Bash for 2 year now.  But because of financial reasons I couldn't make it.  If I am able to get my hands on enough money I will be there with bells on :)

Q:   What can I do to make my BBW lady believe i have no problem with her body.

 

Ray

Raqui:  Telling her over and over and touching her and talking, letting her know why you love each part.  It is a process your changing everything that she has been told and has learned.  She will get it with time.

 

 

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.

 

Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:  articles@largeincharge.com

Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  Intimates and Sleepwear

Description:  Get ready for Valentines day with some sexy sweet Lingerie in sizes up to 5xl weather you like it long or short you will find it here and even corsets up to size 50DDD.

Due to high demand I am leaving this one up another month.

 

Roman's - www.romans.com

 

 

   

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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies

 

    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

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Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product: Versa Bath Seat


Type of Product: Bath Seat

Cost of Product: $329.99

Where Product can be found: www.sears.com 

In the Health & Wellness > Bathroom Safety  Section

 

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Description: 
Fully adjustable, portable, lightweight shower seat is simple to install and designed to attach securely to the side of the bathtub. Seat rotates a full 90 to accommodate both left- and right-handed faucets and reduces the possibility of injury from lifting, pulling or the shifting of body weight into and out of the tub. Easy to clean and sanitize. Made of polypropylene. Weight capacity: 350 lb. Read about our Special Return Policy for important information.


Why I like this Product: I think this product because it is wide enough for big bottoms and holds someone up to 350lbs.  The best aspect is that you can apply and get a sears card and make payments on the item. Sears also has a protection program that I am sure plus sized people will appreciate.  You can have it shipped right to your hold or pick up at your nearest sears :)

 

 

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