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Welcome to Large In Charge Magazine           

 Issue #50 - May 2008

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of LIC

 

Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui

Super Sized Sounds  ~ SUPERSIZED SPANISHFLY LYNX

From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander

 

Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue

 

More than a Teddy Bear  ~ James Nealon

 

Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham

 

DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News

 

WHY, OH WHY  ~ Erin Thompson


Guest Spot - Shelly Willer

 

CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month

Plus Size Women

Hit The Tyra Banks Show

Plus Sized Women on Tyra

 

It has been the buzz about the wonderful Plus Sized Women who appeared on Tyra April 25th, 2008.

 

Yet this show was CONTROVERSIAL some don't see it positive and so many do. 

 

Give it a look and give us some feed back.

 

Guest: Gem & Eddie, Queen Raqui aka our founder, Ms. Stacie, Mercedes and Trina.

 

Read Raqui's views about her experience in this issue in Raqui's Spot.

Raqui

 

VIDEOS

Trailer for the Tyra Show - Refresh if you want to view again

 

 

Getting Make Up Done for The Tyra Show

 

 

 

Watch the April 25th 2008 Episode of The Tyra Show

 

 
 

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Cover Model of the Month

Stephanie Ripa

 

Interview

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
Stephanie Ripa AKA the PLUS SIZE BARBIE

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?
I am from Vineland, NJ but currently reside in Mays Landing, NJ

LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?
I am 23 years old, 5'6", Italian; I am a single mother of two beautiful boys 6 months and 3 years old.

LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?
Later in life, I was skinny as a child but as I grow up I started gaining weight.

LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?
I gained weight during my 1st pregnancy. After I had my son I just didn't lose the weight. I was really upset that I was no longer a size 7 and wanted so bad to look how I use too.

LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?
I saw so many beautiful people on largeincharge.com and thought one day that will be me. So I submitted my pictures to you.

LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?
It was extremely hard to except my self; I thought I was so ugly. I took a personal Journey to discover who I was on the inside and then started to love what I saw on the outside. One day I woke up feeling like a new woman and I said “how can anyone love me if I don’t love myself” I embraced my new body and loved me for me. It took a while to be confident and comfortable in my own skin. Now I am not only confident but for the first time ever I feel like I have control of my own life.

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?
Yes. My family is amazing and they are so supportive of what I do. They think of me as an advocate for plus size women and love that I have enough courage to get my curvy self in front of a camera. My friends are all skinny but they love me just the way I am, they are also amazing women that give me so much strength to pursue my dreams.


LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
My children inspire me the most. There the reason why I put on the make up, do my hair, and snap on the pictures.

LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary job?
I work 8-4 Monday thru Friday as a secretary in a general contractor’s office. Then the rest of the time my job title is “MOMMY”.

LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?
It’s a family owned business. So when a position opened up my Aunt gave me a call.

LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?
Well I work for family so its pretty easy to be accepted by them.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?
Larger people are less likely to get hired, promoted, we get paid less, and are the 1st ones out during layoffs. This HAS to change. Big is beautiful and they perceive us as stupid, lazy, & unhealthy. Women suffer the greatest unfairness in the work force; we don’t have to weigh very much for employment discrimination to kick in. We deserve the same treatment as everyone else.

LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?
Right now it is still a little weak but definitely improving. I’m so tired of seeing curtains for dresses and blankets for shirts. Who actually wears that stuff? Just because I am a size sixteen doesn’t mean I can’t be fashionable. Gave me fashion!


LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?
I actually see it changing before my eyes. Great things are happening for plus size women. Gwen DeVoe is doing amazing things for plus size women. I recently went to one of her open calls and there were so many beautiful plus size women. Monif C. has such a great clothing line out. Her convertible dresses fit so well and are very fashionable. Torrid is one of my favorite stores to shop, the store was built for me. I would like to see more of this going on. We need more wide heels & dress shoes. I would love to see more fashionable plus clothing lines and stores in the next year. And one day I would love to have my own clothing line.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?
I think a lot more opportunities would open for plus size men and women. It would show America that you don’t have to be size zero to be beautiful and model.

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.
Torrid, monif C, Macy’s are the main stores I shop at but I’ll shop any where that I can find great clothes that fit.

LargeInCharge.com: Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.
Moisturize. It’s so important to moisturize before applying makeup if you have dry skin. If you don’t moisturize your face will look flaking and cakey, that’s not a good look.

LargeInCharge.com: Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?
As a plus model it is so important to bring shape wear with because you never know what outfit your going to wear. If your makeup and hair are being done on set come with a clean face and hair. If not, come already done up. And please practice your facial expressions in the mirror.
 

LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?
A lot has changed but still not enough. The modeling industry has more recognition for plus models. More agency represent plus size models. A lot still has to be changed and accepted.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?
We will have agency that only accept beautiful curvy women.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.
I want to be represented by a great agency, be in a national ad campaign, & movies/shows. Eventually design and own a plus clothing line. I have many more goals and hopefully will achieve most of them.

LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.
I rarely feel bad about my size. I know I am a curvy woman and confident about it. But after my first photo shoot I was looking thru the pictures with my 2 year old son. When he saw my pictures come up he said “awww mommy you look so beautiful”. He made me cry.


LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?
Of course. My two boys, every day I wake up they motivate me to better to do more, get my name and face known. Yes there is a man in my life (not a boyfriend or husband) that also encourages me to do it bigger and better.


LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?
Go for it. If you want to model then model, who is going to stop you? People told me I was to fat to model and I am doing it. I’ve heard harsh words from people but that didn’t stop me, it only encouraged me to do more. Call me a cow… Thanks I am a C.O.W confident, overweight women. Moo


LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you admire?
Gwen DeVoe, she is doing amazing things for plus size women. She gives plus models so many opportunities to advance or start their career. She inspires me not only as a plus size model but as a woman. She is so FABOULOUS and hope one day I can work for her.
 

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.
Phenomenal

 

Thanks for reading about our

Cover Model of the Month

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Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Raqui on Tyra


         
The Tyra Show, It was an experience.  When I saw an email in my mail box from a Tyra Show producer I was a bit wary.  I wondered what kind of show would it be.  I am quite picky about my appearances.  Things haven't always gone the way it was supposed to and I didn't want to just be know as QUEEN RAQUI the 6'4 600lb squasher.  Mind you I am not ashamed of my Queen Raqui work.  But to the rest of the world it will be seen as a big joke.  I want to be seen for everything I do.  My writing, my size activist work, my online magazine, my poetry.  I do so many things and I want to be seen as a whole not just some fat woman who sits on people.

     After talking to producers and be assured that they wanted me to be featured for my work with Queen Raqui and my LargeInCharge Magazine.  I decided to take the plunge, this is national English television.  This could open more doors for me and I would obviously get some attention.  But most importantly will I get the right attention?  Will LargeInCharge be mentioned?  Will people want to know me as more than just the Fat woman who makes some extra cash sitting on people?

     With a little difficulty the show was set and I was going to be on a majority of the show.  I was quite happy and proud that I was found this interesting.  I was able to walk out on the Tyra Run Way and strut my stuff. I was loving the audience and it was a great feeling.  I was actually a surprise to fellow guest who made an appearance before, on the Tyra Show.  Her name is Gem and she started squashing her husband (Eddie) in private and they both enjoyed it.  She said I am her inspiration, that because or me she is able to be squash her husband, and also be proud of herself. Gem is  a follower of LargeInCharge (My online magazine for Size Acceptance and Empowerment) and she said that it has helped her realize her beauty.  I was so touched, while yes I am told often how important my online magazine is, to hear it on National Television was an experience I felt deeply. Even when the woman who was the complete opposite of me (Yael - A VERY SMALL VERY SLIM 88 pound) woman tried to bash me from the audience and say I was fat and unhealthy. I had a come back for her.  My favorite part is a something I say very often.  "I AM FIVE TIMES MORE HUMAN, I DESERVE FIVE TIMES THE RESPECT!"  Because in truth if my Humanity could be counted in pounds I was literally Five times her size!

     After the show aired I had mixed feelings. I was of course featured mostly for my Queen Raqui work but I was supposed to be able to mention my online magazine www.LargeInCharge.com I was repeatedly told by producers to say the name of both my sites. While yes I was aired as saying I am a size activist, and the fact that I had an online magazine was mentioned through out the show.  I felt a bit hurt and dismayed that they cut out when I said the URL of my site. I also noticed that in the Special Thanks section, www.LargeInCharge.com was not displayed when I was told it would. Other women who came on the show (Ms. Stacie, Mercedes, Trina) also have sites and no mention of their sites were on the show. ( I have had the confirmation of at least one other women that her site was said in taping but not on the show).  It leaves my mind to wander over other Tyra Shows I have seen in the past.  I remember one especially because a Ex Pimp who had a stable of High Class Call Girls was on a show not so long ago.  And while his site was bleeped many a time until he cooperated with the show.  At the end his new website which is a dating website was mentioned.  My heart hardened a bit thinking about that, if an EX PIMP got his new Dating Website URL mentioned on the Tyra Show, why couldn't they mention www.LargeInCharge.com .  LargeInCharge is a FREE ONLINE MAGAZINE it empowers women and men to live their lives.  It has helped thousands of people over the years.  Is my LargeInCharge site not as worthy as an EX PIMPS dating site? *SIGH*

     Still I believe I was shown for who I am and all the Ladies were showcased in a positive light.  I was a bit down about not meeting Tyra Banks herself.  While yes I can imagine she is quite the busy woman, and after a long day of taping shows she must have wanted to just run to her dressing room, and get ready to go home.  I wish I could have met her and said hello, even take a picture with her.  She asked me questions during the show, and shook our hands during the closing of the show then she left promptly, I don't blame her.  But I wish she would have had a bit of time to greet us.  I really would have liked to tell her that her work with teen girls and body image is really an important one that I appreciate.  That I hope she continues to have Plus Sized people on her shows and giving us some kind of voice.  Though I wonder what the voice will be.  That if she ever needed a big woman to speak to large framed girls I would be happy to help.  To let her know that yes I am more than Queen Raqui and I am here to show the world that large women are doing big things and I don't mean just with our bodies. 

     It left me with a bitter sweet feeling and while I can understand why she probably didn't have time.  A small part of me wonders if it was just because we were not important enough guests.  I am sure if we were music artists or actors, much more time would have been taken.  While we are not famous according to the rest of the world.  In the BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) Community in our own world we are similar to the Brittany Spears of Hollywood.  We are known and everyone knows our names.  It makes me wonder and I guess I might never really know why we couldn't say Hello to Tyra.  We may not be the most important people in the world to some.  But we are people.  I can't say we were treated badly in fact things went well.  Over all I have to say I am ok with this experience but still feeling a little bitter.

Raqui

 

 

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Raqui's My Space Page

Raqui's Yahoo 360 Page

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Super Sized Sounds

with

Lynx

     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.

 

      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was PHENOMENAL....in less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.

 

     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.

 

     WANT TO SUBMIT YOUR VOICE FOR REVIEW? See Below

Artist of the Month

 

     My people, mi gente…I have some exciting news to share with all my loyal readers. I am now a part of the blacktino.net family. WWW.BLACKTINO.NET is a website dedicated to empowering building ethnic unity among all communities of color. I will be their new entertainment reporter. Please come by and show Blacktino some love and look out for my article Monday May 5th, el cinco de mayo. And now back to Supersize Sounds.

     Unfortunately I didn’t receive any submissions and so I decided to showcase the reaction of artists in the Hip Hop community concerning the “Not Guilty” verdict in the Sean Bell case. Hip Hop unifies and it is the culture that was created in the streets by people of color, children of immigrants to release our struggles through creativity in the form of rapping, dancing, Djaying and graffiti art.  Tensions are high but the people of New York along with community leaders and The Bell and Paultre family have decided to shut down the city and not patronize the malls, gas stations or stores Saturday May 3rd 2008. It is estimated that this will cost the city of New York 70 billion dollars. When you threaten the powers that be’s lifestyle they quickly pay attention and may possibly be ready to invoke change and implement laws that will ensure the safety of innocent civilian from officers and hold them accountable.

Enjoy!

You Tubes of the Month

 

 Jasiri X Dedication To Sean Bell-“ ENOUGH IS ENOUGH” **WARNING**

The Images Of Police Brutality in this video are very disturbing.

The Games Reacts On The Verdict

Joell Ortiz Streamz Of Consciousness

   
Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email articles@largeincharge.com and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

Thanks for reading

Super Sized Sounds with Lynx

articles@largeincharge.com

 

Lynx Cool Links

www.myspace.com/supersizespanishfly

www.myspace.com/somemorelynx

www.Extravagangstaradio.com

From the Plus Side

with

Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.

 

     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below

    

     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.

 

"Invisible" The Holy Chronicles

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck 

“Hey, wanna go to Marquette with me tonight?” she asks, over the phone.

            My first instinct is to decline, but I hesitate for some reason.  I know very well that “go to Marquette” is Holly-code for “go to Upfront & Company with me so I have someone to talk to when I’m not obscenely flirting with every man in sight, and so I have someone to drive me home when I’m so doped up on Vicodin and booze that I can hardly walk, much less drive.”

            I also know that Holly, at forty years old, is far beyond the age of such irresponsibility, and that she fully intends to leave her twelve-year-old daughter and her fourteen-year-old son to their own devices for at least the night, and possibly for the entire weekend.  And I know that Tom is probably sitting home alone right now, watching TV and trusting her when he has every reason not to.  But I do not decline.

            “Okay,” I say instead.

            I don’t know why I say okay.  I tell myself it is because I am afraid if I don’t go with her, she will drink too much, drive too fast, wind up dead.  But the truth is more than that, I think.  I, fat and overlooked and lonely and not at all wise to the ways of the world that exists in bars and clubs and bedrooms, crave excitement.  I am twenty-two years old and I feel like my life has not yet begun.  I crave late nights in smoky bars, house parties full of drunk people and fast music, early mornings on the beach watching the sunrise through an alcohol-induced haze.  I crave intimate conversations with, of all people, men!

            Holly, thin and fast and smooth and oozing sex, is my vehicle to that end.  I am using her just as much as she is using me, because she is somehow able to drag me out of myself and into her world, even if it is only as a casual observer.

            And so I dress my curves up as naked as I dare against the sultry AuTomt nighttime air and meet her at the coffee shop on Eighth and Main.  Tom, not home alone after all, is with her when she arrives, and I envision a repeat of nights out past, where he and I sit together at a table, nervously making small talk and pretending his girlfriend isn’t flittering around the bar and hitting on every other man in the place.  He doesn’t come with us, though.  Instead, he kisses her goodbye, thumps me on the shoulder, tells me to keep an eye on her, silently begs me not to let it happen again.  He watches through the window as we go outside and drive away in Holly’s car.

            Marquette is an hour away, but it’s worth it; we have to get out of town.  The smallness of our city is stifling us and we need excitement, new people, something new to look at.  This is what Holly tells me in a steady but rhythmless chatter that hardly lets me catch my breath as she drives, too fast, into the almost-sunset.  I think the real reason we are going to Marquette is that “we” have scared away most of the men in Escanaba with our desperate attempts to bed them so we can pretend that someone loves us (and by “we” I mean Holly, of course).  Whatever the reason, though, I don’t mind.  Marquette’s a little bigger, a little broader, a college town.  Maybe I will meet someone there who can ignore my fatness, discover my beauty, let me see, for just a moment, what it’s like to be Holly.  Without the pills and booze and immaturity, of course.

            When we get to Upfront, the streets are full of parked cars, taxis, beautiful people with sun-bronzed skin.  We are forced to park in the city parking lot two blocks away, at the bottom of a hill.  I am afraid that I won’t make it, walking up the hill.  I am not in good shape and I can’t walk as fast as Holly, and even if I do manage to keep up, I don’t want to walk into the bar all sweaty and red-faced and breathless.  But it’s okay, because I always forget that a steady diet of cheap beer and Vicodin, not to mention the beginning stages of anorexia, can take a toll on a person.  Holly is just as slow as I am in the damp heavy air.  I square my shoulders and stand tall, determined to appear as though I think I’m hot stuff, the sexiest woman around.  My tank top is cut low and tight, and if I can meet everyone’s eye, they might miss seeing the rest of me.  If all they notice is my chest and my eyes, I might be all right.

            There is a bouncer just inside the door.  He’s a big man, massive and muscled, but just a little soft, too.  And his eyes are sparkling even in the darkness of the crowded bar.  I don’t know exactly why, but I find myself smiling, pulling back my shoulders, thrusting out my chest.

            “Hey, there,” I say as I flash him my ID, hand him five bucks, and hold my hand out, palm down, to be marked so I’ll be allowed to order drinks that I won’t order anyway.  “Don’t just ex my hand,” I tell him.  I tip my chin downwards, look up into his eyes through my bangs, smile.  “I want somethin’ fun.  How ‘bout the Mona Lisa?”  I wink.  Am I flirting?  Is this how it’s done?  Maybe, maybe not, but I’m having a good time.

            “I can try,” he says, grinning.  “But the marker only shows up under black light.  Can’t really see what I’m doing.”

            “Go ahead.”  I wink again.  “I have faith in you.”  And so he does.  He could be drawing random lines on my hand, for all I know, because without a black light I can’t see his artwork any more than he can.  I make a mental note to ask a bartender, later, to flash a black light my way.  Holly asks for the Mona Lisa, too, but I was first, and the bouncer rewards me, not her, with an amused smile.  Tonight feels good, so far.  Better than I expected it to.

            We push our way through the bar and find an empty table near the dance floor.  I sit down to save it for us while Holly goes to get us drinks: a rum and diet Coke each, minus the rum in mine.  She’s gone for a long time and I suspect that she is chatting up some unsuspecting man and that she won’t be paying for our drinks herself.  Suits me just fine.  I sure can’t get a guy to buy me a drink, so I may as well take advantage.  After all, I’m the one who’s sitting at this table all alone, watching everyone around me dancing and laughing and chattering while I pretend, with a smile that feels too broad and bright, that I’m having fun, too.

            It’s easier when Holly finally returns, because even though the music is too loud for us to talk and I can’t think of much to say to her anyway, at least there’s someone across the table from me, and my drink gives me something to do with my hands.  The music is smooth and the atmosphere is cool and I begin to lose myself again.  Which is good.  I’m at my best when I’m lost.

            Then the band goes on break.  Pre-recorded music, much quieter than the real stuff, begins to play, and the dancers abandon the dance floor.  Holly gets up and wanders away without saying anything, presumably to get herself another drink.  With the band and Holly both gone, there’s nothing to focus my attention on.  My face starts to burn as I look around the room, trying not to seem lonely.  I toy with the idea of getting up to get myself a drink, but I haven’t finished the first one yet.  Besides, if I get up, we might lose our table, and then I’ll have nowhere to hide when Holly goes on the prowl.  I sit alone, bending my straw in a thousand places to keep myself busy, until it splits open at one of the creases.  I finish my drink, strawlessly.  I chew on the ice that is melting in the bottom of my glass.  I look at the people around me, people who fit in here, who know what to say and who to say it to and how to be a part of the crowd.  I am careful not to let them know I am studying them, though.  If they catch me, they’ll think I’m crazy, sitting alone in a bar and staring at everyone.  Or they will see me and know that I am fat and therefore alone and therefore lonely, and they will pity me.  I would rather they think I’m crazy.

........To be Continued Next Month   

   
   
 

Thanks for reading

From the Plus Side with Emily Smiltneck

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Emily's Cool Links

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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude

   

The Law of Expectation

by Xander The Food Dude

     It took me a while to decide what I wanted to write on this month, but it hit me like a bolt of lightning this morning.  Online I saw the headline “Fuel will probably hit $10/gal soon”.  At first I thought the required thought… OH GEEZ !  Then it hit me in another way, I got more than a little ticked off.  I have a friend who is a stock broker.  Not too long ago I asked him why at times they announce gas going up and it goes up in price for us overnight (if not hourly) and in other times it take a week for it to slowly edge up ?

      At the time he conveyed that it really has nothing to do with many things like:  Supply and demand are fine, availability is fine, we have plenty of sources for it, no one is threatening to destroy oil, the middle eastern oil still costs them the same amount per barrel (which for your information is about $3 a barrel cost to the Saudi’s).  He said it is not the cause of the oil companies.  So pretty much I asked is it the fault of the government, to which he replied the government has no role in pricing of fuel.  Ok, I’m thinking that pretty much rules out anyone I wanted to blame.  So who the heck is to blame, man.  He told me of the stock exchange in Chicago, in which stock speculators are, and have been driving the cost of fuel up artificially for the last couple of years.  He said they have been pushing it and will continue to push it as long as they can.  Let’s go back to our supply chain.  Yes, whoever is providing oil is making BILLIONS more than usual.  YES, Oil companies are making BILLIONS more than usual.  And, unfortunately those BILLIONS come from us, so we’re spending BILLIONS more than usual.

     The speculation of future values are driven heavily if not completely on two factors fear of shortage, or fear of surplus.  I know you’re thinking “fear of surplus” ?  Surplus is good for consumers, bad for suppliers.  Let’s use this explanation, the more available a commodity, or the larger the supply, the less the drive to acquire it, so you can’t get as high a price for it.  The more limited the supply the greater the desire to have it, so the more money you can get for it.  Think of past trendy things, cabbage patch kids, tickle me Elmo, PSP, PSP2, etc etc whose limited availability opened up markets for leaches to buy at a reasonable cost and resell on Ebay to the tune of economic rape of consumers.

     This brings us to speculators who are making so much money who would want to stop.  Oil producing companies and gas companies, while not responsible, are not complaining because they make so much more money, and they can honestly say, It’s not us…. It’s them !!

     So who gives the speculators such power…. Easily put… our fear.  Now my thought is that there are hundreds if not thousands of reporters across the world whose primary form of income comes from taking the role of “Chicken Little”  screaming to the world that the sky is falling because all they do is report how gas will cost more and more soon.  In the average consumer we take this as being some level of fact so we accept it as truth and create the law of expectation.  As a brief definition of the law, it basically says this… IF you EXPECT bad things to happen, BAD things will happen, IF however you EXPECT, good things to happen, good things will happen.  In making their contrived guesses about the future cost of fuel, these ignorant “guardians of truth” become unwitting and mindless zombies who stupidly play a role in creating the news they are supposed to be reporting.  In other word when it hits $10 a gallon, tell me then, until then why don’t you quit getting on your evil empire horse and send out a real story.

     I think if we had a hundred or so reporters that sent out this story on Monday “Gas should be $1.50 a gallon soon”, it may not make it to $1.50 by Friday the chances are that the price would start dropping, because we expect it.  While you say this sounds ridiculous, that is the only reason the price rises now with the report that someone in Iran has an upset stomach and they may not be able to report to work at an oil plant even though they play no role in oil production.

     We see oil providers as being evil for not increasing supply, but in actuality they are rather smart.  They earn all the extra money now, without responsibility.  They know as well as some others that this oil bubble (like the housing bubble) is finally going to burst causing the cost to plummet.  If the Saudis increase the amount in supply it would drive down the cost of oil in a huge way and they wouldn’t make as much money.  I’m not saying oil is going to be $1.50 a gallon again, maybe though, but it will be priced more reasonably then now.  So take this as a lesson for every facet of your lives.  The power of expectation is a real thing that can alter and change our lives in many ways.  Expect the good ….. get the good, expect the bad …. Well you then get high fuel costs.

     Next time you’re ready to admit defeat, or give up keep in mind that your mind can do more to help you achieve then you know.  In that same why, improperly used it can do more to help you fail than you know.

     So, until next time keep the power of expectation in mind…. Oh and by the way, “Gas should be $1 a gallon soon…..  spread the word…. Spread the expectation, let’s see what happens…  

 Xander

Xander's Recipe of the Month

Kickin’ Chik’n Pot Pie

 

 

INGREDIENTS

·   1 1/2 pounds skinless, boneless chicken breast meat

·   1 cup chicken broth

·   1/2 teaspoon salt

·   1/4 teaspoon ground black pepper

·   1 1/2 cups milk

·   3 tablespoons butter

·   1 onion, chopped

·   1 cup chopped celery

·   1/3 cup all-purpose flour

·   2 cups frozen mixed vegetables, thawed

·   1 tablespoon chopped fresh parsley

·   1/2 teaspoon dried thyme

·   1 (9 inch) pastry for a 9 inch single crust pie

·   1 egg, lightly beaten

DIRECTIONS

  1. In a large saucepan over medium high heat, combine the chicken meat, chicken broth, salt and pepper. Bring to a boil and reduce heat to low. Cover and let simmer for 30 minutes, or until chicken is no longer pink in the center and the juices run clear.
  2. Remove the chicken and let cool. Pour the remaining chicken broth mixture into a measuring cup. Let stand; spoon off fat. Add enough milk to the broth mixture to equal 2 1/2 cups. Cut chicken into 1/2 inch pieces.
  3. In the same pan, melt butter or margarine over medium heat. Add the onion and celery. Sauté, stirring, for 3 minutes. Stir in flour until well blended. Gradually stir in broth mixture. Simmer, stirring constantly, until the sauce thickens and boils. Add the chicken, vegetables, parsley and thyme. Pour mixture into a 1 1/2 quart deep casserole dish.
  4. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C).
  5. Roll out pastry 1 inch larger than the diameter of the casserole dish on a lightly floured surface. Cut slits in the pastry for venting air. Place pastry on top of casserole. Roll edges and cut away extra pastry; flute edges by pinching together. Re roll scraps to cut into decorative designs. Place on top of pastry. Brush pastry with beaten egg and bake in the preheated oven for 30 minutes or until the crust is golden brown and the filling is bubbling. Let cool for 10 minutes and serve. 
   
 

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Big Girls on the Red Carpet

   

Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.


She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!

   

RED CARPET EVENT JOHNNY V'S BIRTHDAY BASH!

Article by: Cher Rue 

     It was a happening Red carpet event March 21st Friday night at a favorite Hollywood nightclub called "Ritual". Hollywood Cure for Pain sponsored a birthday bash for VH1's Johnny V, cast member of Scott Baio is 46 and pregnant. Other sponsors were WVtv, and Face to Face entertainment. The red carpet started at 9:30 with celebrities making their way along the red carpet for all the photographers and videographers.

Celebrity guests included Johnny V., Christopher Atkins ( Blue Lagoon), Michael Copon (One Tree Hill),

     Kris Black, Dominico (VH1's that's Amore), Heather Chadwell (VH1's Rock of Love), Deedee Bigelow (actress), Fawn and Vincent Covello( singers-songwriters), Amanda Rushing (actress-singer),Eric Bayliss (Tila Tequila a shot of love),Willie Macc (BET Collage Hill),Leroy Mobley (Actor)Adeja Allen (Wild N Out) LTL Ent. Triflon (Music Hiphop Artist) Dyverse Ent. Records, Jesse Hart teen Idol.

     After singing Happy Birthday to Johnny V. the party moved into the VIP area of the club, where the celebrities drank and socialized with the birthday boy. A special live performance by emcee Ez which had the house rocking and a little dance on stage by the humorous Johnny V. Some dancing to the great tunes of the two guest DJ's at Club Status @ Ritual.

FOUNDATIONS INVOLVED

ABOUT HOLLYWOOD CURE FOR PAIN:

Celebrity movement to promote awareness of people who have chronic pain.

To Promote awareness for sufferers of chronic pain, and to find a cure to pain.  Our vision is a pain free world. Now it’s our hope that we pay attention to the small fiber and sensory neurons that evoke pain. What could be more important than finding a cure for pain.   www.hollywoodcureforpain.com

 

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More than a Teddy Bear

 

   

I am a big guy with a big heart.  My favorite thing in the world to do is to make others laugh.  It gives a sense of calm and peace to both people involved and there is nothing better than to walk up to that person later in th day and just see the smile on their face from the memory they have of what you did earlier. 

 

I am a family man as well.  I live in Montreal, Quebec with my wonderful wife Naomi and my two adorable children Connor and Brett.  They are the sun around which I revolve and without them my life would have more tragedy than comedy in it I guarantee.

 

I was raised in Southern California, Moved to New York, Moved to Kansas and then back to New York.  Follow me so far?  I have a perspective on the entire country I think, from the surfers in Los Angeles, to the Wheat Farmers in Kansas City to the Kodak Managers in Rochester.

 

I am sick and tired of mainstream media not allowing the plus-sized person, be they man or woman, to be represented fairly in the media.  You have wonderfully bright spots in the darkness, like our own Raqui, but the rest of the clouds have yet to be broken through and I hope I can help in that.

 

I am a open man who loves to talk.  You want to ask me a question, go ahead.  You have an idea for something you want me to write?  Go ahead.  I don't mind posting my email (kaotiks@gmail.com) because I do not shy away from responding to people.  Plus, I have a really good spam filter.

 

Love and Respect to all.  James, by the way, they also call me Kaobear

   

As a Child... Part 2
with James Nealon

     There were about ten Catholic churches in the small town.  They would tower over me as I walked with their gorgeous neo-gothic architecture and there sweet incense laden open doors beckoning me to come into them and find there what they assumed I so desperately needed 

     It was walking by one of these buildings that I walked into, literally, a man who made me look small by comparison.  I tried to apologize but my manners had been a tad lax of late and he smiled, nodded his head in understanding and asked me to sit.

     He was puffing on this archaic cigar that was as long as my forearm and I looked from it to his face and saw the starched collar of the cloth and immediately sat up a little straighter.  My life may have been going nowhere, but my mother and father taught me to respect a man of the cloth.

     He saw my attempts at respect and calmed me down, threw his cigar to the gutter and motioned for me to follow him into the church behind him.  I had nowhere else to go so I followed him.  He still had said neither his name or anything else.

     I followed him to his church and walking behind I realized he was at least four inches taller than I was and more than a few inches wider. 

     We sat down in one of the pews away from the few people who were scattered within and talked.  Not about God or anything near it, he introduced himself as Shaemus McCoy, a priest with the church and told me that if I needed somewhere to go, somewhere to sit down during my travels the door was open twenty-four hours a day.

     I said I would think about it and we talked, and we talked long.  It was well after dark when he finally patted me on the arm and told me to go home to my mother.  I smiled, nodded and shuffled myself home.  I think about it now and he never mentioned the Church a single time, he was a man who saw a boy in despair and helped him.

     In the days and months to come he would talk to me every day.  He would help me with my drug and drinking problem and even helped me to shrug off, most of the time, the insults and abuses of those who I was afraid of at school.

     I will never forget Father McCoy.  As a plus sized man himself I know he had endured parts of what I did, I never asked and he volunteered, but during that time together, I knew.

     There is always someone who will listen to you, who will sit down with you and take a moment to care for the issues you have. 

Do not despair.

   
 

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Hot & Heavy Entertainment

   

     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.

   

Gabriel Iglesias - He’s funny, fabulous and fluffy!
with Stephanie Baham

 

     One afternoon I was watching Comedy Central and I discovered a new comedian whom I decided to call one of my favorites.  The name of his stand-up show was “Hot and Fluffy”.  He had on a big Hawaiian shirt, he told the craziest stories, and he’s a Big Handsome Man.  His name is Gabriel Iglesias and he’s as funny as he is fluffy!

     Gabriel hails from San Ysidro, CA and he’s the youngest of six children.  His family moved to Long Beach, CA when he was in the 5th grade.  Gabriel got his start in comedy by auditioning for his school’s talent show that year.  He was a hit and a comedic star was born.  Eleven years later, he got on stage as a professional and the rest is hot & fluffy history.

     Gabriel was a finalist in the 4th season of Comedy Central’s reality series, “Last Comic Standing.”  His stand-up comedy has been featured on shows such as “Jimmy Kimmel Live”, “The Tonight Show With Jay Leno”, “Good Morning America” and BET’s “Comic View”.

Most of his comedy comes from his real life experiences:

     "I get my material from things that happen every day," says Gabriel, using his 10-year high school reunion as an example. "I had too much to drink and I made an ass of myself. When they asked 'Who has been on TV?,' one of the girls handed me a mic. I said, 'I see three or four girls who turned me down in high school. But you know what? You girls got fat and now I drive a Hummer.' One of the girls tells me, 'You're fat too!' And I said, 'I was always fat. I kept my figure, why couldn't you?' It was the conversation of the night. I don't use writers. I use real life." – Gabriel Iglesias

     The way Gabriel presents a story is priceless.  He took a story about driving his new Volkswagen Beetle into the hood and turned in into one of the funniest things I’ve ever heard. And it’s not only the content of the stories that cracks me up…it’s his usage of funny voices, sounds effects and facial expressions.  The impressions he does of his friends, family and random people from his stories are simply hilarious.  Gabriel is a very animated & energetic comedian.  His style of storytelling just pulls you in and makes you feel like you were right there.  Right there laughing your ass off!

     What I also like about Gabriel is that his routines are fun, clean and positive.  He pokes some fun at his size, but keeps it uplifting and funny.  He tells stories about being a fluffy man at an amusement park, being pulled over with a box of donuts on his lap and how he got his nickname “Picachu.”  And he also reveals why he prefers wearing colorful Hawaiian shirts.

     If you want to hear the stories and find out about the Hawaiian shirts, then check your local listings right away.  His comedy special is going to air on Comedy Central in early May.  He’s currently on the “Hot & Fluffy Tour 2008.”  You can get information about his tour at www.hotandfluffy.com or www.gabrieliglesias.com.  You can also watch video clips of his stand-up routine on either website.  I guarantee you, he’ll make you laugh and make you proud to be fluffy!

   
 

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DID YOU KNOW?

National and International Plus Size News

 

     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.

   

Move over Mermaids the Manatees are taking the field
with Iolande Argent

 

     For those of you who haven’t heard (and even for those that have) the Florida Marlins are looking for some footloose fat men. Yes, you read that correctly, “fat men”. It seems that the National League team is creating an all-male; plus-size cheerleading squad will be dubbed the Manatees.

     A real manatee is a 1,200-pound mammal sometimes referred to as a “sea cow.” They are gentile creatures. They’re not very agile and often are caught in boat propellers. Bearing that in mind the Marlins want their “Manatees” to have the same dimensions, but with agility, that’s why they’re holding tryouts for the big men. 

     The team hopes to recruit seven to 10 tubby men to dance, cheer and jiggle during Friday and Saturday home games this season.  The men are judged on how well they dance a choreographed routine.

     If selected for the Manatees the men won’t be paid. Instead they’ll get tickets to games they perform at, and the honor of dancing in front of crowds that have been smallest in major league baseball for the last two seasons.

     Now all this might seem strange to you but the Marlins aren’t the only pro sports team capitalizing on Americans’ expanding waistlines. The Matadors, a big-man dance troupe that’s entertained fans at Chicago Bulls basketball home games since 2003.

     The term cheerleaders might be an unfamiliar site in baseball; big men , on the other hand, are not.  Fans of the game have been cheering for big men like Babe Ruth and Kirby Puckett for years.

     Moreover, just for the fans that are not ready for “big male” dancers; the Marlins have the more traditional female cheerleaders called Mermaids too.

Play Ball!

   
 

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Why, Oh Why

    Erin says she grew up in a rural Texas town, the small town life atmosphere has always appealed to me and that is why I currently reside here. I have the city life girl burrowed deep within me though and sometimes she is able to escape to Dallas and have a good time. I was a very awkward child, and when ADD was not even understood, I had it, and spent a lot of time in the principals office. I grew up very much a tomboy. Once I hit 18, I set out on the world and started school. My major was to be journalism, then in 1999, tragedy hit me and I nearly died in a car accident. The outer wounds healed rather quickly leaving me with the inner scars I still deal with daily. I try to see each day as a new one and keep family and friends really close to my heart where they belong. I enjoy music and photography and my love for writing has stayed with me since I was a child. Now as a 29 year old woman, I spend most days still day dreaming and working hard to make them come true. I am currently in school full time and will complete my journalism degree with a minor in music. Pink is my absolute favorite color! I write poetry and am currently working on my first book about my life.

 

Erin was chosen because of her flair with words and her ability to find real day to day instances in which Plus Sized people say WHY, Oh, WHY.

   

Life

with Erin Thompson

    For some reason today I was extremely emotional, not to sure why, either...It was odd, like something bigger than me was at work. I tried to hold back the tears but everything was extremely real to me today. Why Oh Why do I get like this sometimes? It is like I see everything in the world through binoculars. I enjoy and it gives me a sense of sensitivity. I no longer see the world through rose colored glasses and am usually able to sum people up after one meeting, but lately I have found that I am very sensitive to those who are worse off in life than I am.

     In my ideal life, I work on a volunteer basis for PETA, I am a Goodwill Ambassador and I am traveling all over the world helping anyone and everyone I can. Then reality sets in and I realize my fantasy does not pay my car payment or my bills, so I have to continue to get up daily and go to work for a man who has a big heart but in all the wrong places and with all the wrong people. Do not get me wrong, I am extremely grateful for my job, but lately my morals have been tested with the attitudes I have to face daily. I have found that my faith is becoming a lot stronger because I have been turning to Him for a lot more than just prayer time.

     My attitude while improving daily has also become different and I am ok with the changes. Things that use to bother me really don't anymore and some things that did bother me before are getting worse. It is all part of me being on the brink of 30. I feel like sometimes we just need a simple encouragement to smile, get out of bed, be a better person, lift someone up, and change the world. I do believe that each person has equal opportunity to change the world in their own special way. Everyone is given a good heart to start with and it is what you do with that heart that matters. Whether, you are skinny, fat, short, tall, Asian, Black, White, Latino, YOU CAN CHANGE THE WORLD.

     I am becoming the person I think was always in me screaming to get out and you can be too! I am finding a lot of peace in the Bible. God has the most amazing way of making you feel better, he really does. He lifts you up when you are down! I have found that just being yourself, no matter what that is and just believing in that more than anything in the world and you will be successful in this life. You will have peace in your mind and in your heart. I know, most of you are saying, she is probably so emotional because she is about to start her period or something, but it is not true folks. I am REALLY finding that inner peace that a person needs to survive and I want you to find it to! I use to really feel fat all the time. It was like my whole existence was summed up because I was the fat girl. I am starting to more and more be comfortable with exactly who I am in this world. I am starting to live life the way it was intended to live, plus size or not. I am extremely confident that you all can do the same in your lives. Pick yourself up off the floor from the pity parties. Be who you are in this moment and like your mother always said, "Always hold the golden rule close to your heart." DO UNTO OTHERS AS YOU WOULD HAVE THEM DO UNTO YOU!

   
 

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Time to tell it like it is!

    

     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.

 

     You can send in a picture,  You can make a graphic,  You can just send in your written words.  You can do it anonymously and get something off your chest.  You can let everyone know who you are and liberate yourself.

 

     Hope you enjoy Confession!  Send in your own check the bottom of this page!

 

CONFESSIONS

 


 

I am a big  beautiful woman.

I am six feet one inches tall, and weigh 352 lbs.  

But why am I in love with a man that doesn’t appreciate me?

 

 

****CONFESSION*****

 

I used to love me just the way I am. 

He said he doesn't like "big girls".  Now he loves me. 

Now he wants to get married. 

Now I don't like me.  Now I want to change me.  I am a "big girl."

 

~Serena

 

 

****CONFESSION*****


 

I have been saying for forever that I am a strong BIG LADY!

When we broke up I wanted to die.

Now he came back and I am relieved.

Am I still strong? or is he my only weakness?

 

 

****CONFESSION*****


  
 

I had a friend who always said for years she will date any man big or small who meets all the requirements.

 

I have a good job, VERY GOOD, I am more than financially stable.  I am not lazy,  I have no children, I love children.

I volunteer in my community 8 hours a week.  I have never been to jail. 

I am educated but am still in touch with where I came from.

I am told often how handsome I am, I am a big man but I like to be active and take part in sports.

I am kind and generous to those who are kind to me.  I took care of my mother until she passed.

I will take care for my woman and my children.  I believe in quality time and romance.

I want to make love as often as she does and will work my hardest to please her.

I love women and respect them. 

I am open to going to church even though I am not affiliated with any religion right now.

I like to cook though I could use some help in the kitchen.

I am not stuck up and I don't like to argue.

I own a home with land and want to get married in my own backyard

where I can build a gazebo for me and my wife

to sit under in our old age and remember when we got married.

 

When I asked my friend to date me she said NO!!!!

I asked her why and she couldn't come up with any reason.

She finally confessed it was because I was a Big Man.


 

****CONFESSION*****

 


Last month a young bbw woman asked

"Why is it so difficult to find a young BBW-Lover? 

It seems like all the men interested in Plus Sized women are 35 and older.

What's a 23 year old to do?"

So I ask why when I approach a young bbw woman they don't take me serious.

They think I am joking or want to use them.  I really just wanted a nice thick girlfriend.

I now date an older ssbbw and I want to marry her! I will ask her on Mothers Day!!!!

 

 

****CONFESSION*****

 

 
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Guest Writer of the Month

See Me Radiate... Hear Me Roar

A submission from our Writer's Search Applicant's

Written By: Katherine Luttrell

 

Looking back at my life, I have always been for the most part a “big” girl, even though I prefer the term of curvy confidant. I battled year after year with weight issues, being a size 24 my senior year and then a size 16 two years later when I got married the first time, then a size 20 after I had my daughter two more years later, then a lovely size 14 right before I had my second daughter then back to my current size of 20. I think about what kind of life it was always thinking I need to lose weight, I’ll never be loved as I am, and if only I was skinny, well let me tell you know, to heck with all that stress, I am X-large and in charge, of my own happy, healthy and curvy self. I finally came to terms with I was a beautiful person inside and out no matter what my dress size shown, I was the same lovable and likeable person whether I was at a size 14 or a size 24. I embrace the negativity of today’s society and their views on we, the plus size population and make a statement to counteract it, that not only am I plus size but I am beautiful, talented, and a successful real woman in my community. I radiate it right back in the face of all negativity that I should come in contact with. It is my dream and goal to make this statement, not only locally, but given the chance, nationally. I close this with a hello, my name is Kathy Luttrell, I am plus size, X-large and definitely in charge, see me radiate and hear me roar...

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     Any submissions maybe be used in the magazine as a guest article or other wise if you do not receive a position.  If you are picked for a position it will be used as a back up for your column in case of emergency.

 

I want to Apply for a Writers Position:

 

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Send in your Work to Appear in LargeInCharge

We love our guest writers, they help us to make LargeInCharge more personal and reader friendly place.  We bring the people words from there own peers.  If you always wanted to write but never knew what to do with your thoughts and opinions.  Send them in to us we love to feature you in our guest spot.

 

What type of entries do we accept?

  • Original Articles that have not been placed in publication.

  • Size Empowerment Stories

  • Discovery of Size Acceptance

  • Romance of Large Size

  • Poetry - at least 25 lines in length

  • Complaints about Society

  • Complaints about what is provided for Big People

  • Complaints about Health Care

  • Weight Loss Surgery Experiences

  • Dealing with Doctors

  • The Joy of being Big

  • Learning to Love yourself

  • etc.

How to Submit my Article for review?

  • Check your article for spelling and correct format, We do not edit articles.
  • Attach your article either in Word, Text Format, or in the Body of your email.
  • In your email send your Real Name, E-mail and Address (state, location).
  • Under your Name and Address include date, and the line. "I give www.largeincharge.com and there owners, permission to use my written article. I am submitting it for there use at their discretion."
  • Include a picture if you so wish in .jpg or .gif format and a brief description of yourself.
   

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Ask Raqui

Ask your Questions and We will answer!

Send your question to Raqui - articles@largeincharge.com

NOTE: The Opinion of Raqui  is just that. I do not claim to be professional or to solve your problems.  I can however give you a real answer that may help you out.

Ask Raqui
Q:  Raqui what is a bash. I keep hearing about them.
 
Denise
Raqui: Hey Denise, A Bash is a multi day event when people from a certain group get together.  In our case a BBW Bash.  There are many around the country and I am working on getting together Bash event information from those promoters who have been doing bashes at least 2-3 years in a row.

It is a great way to spend those vacation days.  :)

Q:  Raqui I hear your going to Vegas Bash is this true?  I would love to meet you there.

Bell

Raqui: yes I am going to Vegas Bash I am all booked and working on getting some new clothes so I can look good :) Here is the info. www.bbwnetwork.com

Q:   Raqui i love you girl, I saw you on Tyra and you were the best!  How was it and what was Tyra like.  I have to know!

 

Sharon

Raqui: Hi Sharon, I will give all the info through my Radio show called LargeInCharge Radio on the Blog Talk program.  You might miss the actually show if you didn't get my email in time but you can go listen to it because it will be same and posted, check out www.blogtalkradio.com/LargeInChargeRadio

Q:   What can I do to make my BBW lady believe i have no problem with her body.   I asked this last month.  I don't know what to do I keep trying and all she does is cry.

 

Ray

Raqui:  I know it is hard Ray, I know your worried.  Maybe going with her to a therapist will help.  But if she resists just keep letting her know how much you love her in all ways.  It is going to take longer than a month to convince her.  Don't push to hard because that only hurts take time and let it slip ever now and then how you admire her.  You don't want her crying all the time.  She might be crying because she really wants to believe.  She might also have a depression problem from past issues so seeking professional help might be the way to go.

Last months answer:

Telling her over and over and touching her and talking, letting her know why you love each part.  It is a process your changing everything that she has been told and has learned.  She will get it with time.

 

 

 

Thank you for Reading Ask Raqui

Please send thoughts, comments and questions to

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Large In Charge

Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.

 

Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:  articles@largeincharge.com

Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  Swim wear and Cover Ups and Clothing

Description:  This wonderful site has been around for years and still provides some of the best in Plus Sized Clothing.  Custom made if necessary and high quality.  It is worth the money when you have a item that is long lasting and perfect in its fit.  Just ask anyone woman that attends Vegas Bash.  almost everyone is wearing Love Your Peaches by the pool side.

 

Love Your Peaches - www.loveyourpeaches.com

 

 

   

Send in your Fashion Furious Picture and Details to

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Large In Charge

Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies

 

    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to articles@largeincharge.com

Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product: EZ Access Threshold 4"


Type of Product: Wheelchair Ramp

Cost of Product: $139.99

Where Product can be found: www.sears.com 

Health & Wellness > Wheelchairs, Scooters & Accessories



Description:

The threshold ramp is lightweight yet durable modular ramp designed for doorways, sliding glass doors, and raised landings. These ramps may be used either one by itself or two combined to make entry and or exit convenient and safe. Constructed of extruded, anodized aluminum that will not rust or corrode. Features a durable non-skid driving surface. Easy installation with a weight capacity 600 lbs.


Why I like this Product:
This product is good for anyone who has a wheelchair for obvious reasons.

 

 

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