known about this company for years. I have heard from many
Plus Sized and Super Sized ladies who wonderful the clothing was.
I wasn't able to find out more until recently.
The wonderful Owner and Designer Janelle Lowe was kind helpful and
was able to fit me perfectly the first time around. Not only
that but the material was of a high quality and felt so soft next to
my skin. I can truly say that Love Your Peaches Clothing
really made me me fall in love. I am not always comfortable in
clothing my height and size are always an issue. I am
often pulling at my clothing to keep it in place. Not with
Janelle's items. I am able to walk about tall and proud
knowing that everything stays just as it should.
Believe me when I say you will see me sporting Love Your Peaches at
the Vegas Bash this year. I hope you are also :)
A few Love Your
Peaches Favorites - Click
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Love Your Peaches Favorties
36118 - The Button Back Jacket in medium weight linen. About 33" long. Shown in Willow, with cropped pants #36112. 100% Linen, machine wash / dry.
Love Your Peaches Favorties
926X - The Everything Tank Dress, 54" long in Cotton Lycra Jersey. This dress has a flattering empire cut bodice and sweeping skirt that flows beautifully as you walk. Dress it up or dress it down, this dress can go almost anywhere. Shown in Strawberry Pink. Cotton Lycra Jersey, 90% Cotton / 10% Lycra. Machine wash cold / hang to dry.
Love Your Peaches Favorties
9185A - The Erica Dress in Cotton Lycra Jersey. V-neck, with princess seams that flare out into a saucy skirt. About 53" long. Shown in Magenta. See swatches for current available colors. 90% Cotton / 10% Lycra, machine wash cold / hang to dry. Pick your sleeve length!
Love Your Peaches Favorties
T10 - String Halter with tie. Same as the T9 with a removable tie for more cleavage! Shown with Bottom B11, in White.
Love Your Peaches Favorties
T13 - The Marilyn Top. Gives plenty of coverage, while still looking sexy! Medium support. Shown with Bottom B15 in Red.
Love Your Peaches Favorties
T20 - The Classic String Bikini Top. Ties behind the neck and back. Cups are adjustable on the bottom string. Shown with Bottom B17, both in Tahiti print with Flamingo accents. See swatches for current available colors.
Love Your Peaches Favorties
49181 - The Sarah Shirt is a button-front V-neck top in Hanky Weight Washed Linen. Generous A-line cut with side slits. As Sarah says, "it shows the bits you want to show, and hides the bits you don't!". Pick your sleeve length! About 36" long. Shown in Black, with Capri Leggings #921 in Cotton Lycra Jersey, in Black. See swatches for current available colors. 100% Linen, machine wash / dry.
is your name?
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current
I was born and raised
in British Columbia, Canada. I currently live in Brewster, New York,
a small town located about 60 miles north of Manhattan.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you consider yourself a BBW or a SSBBW?
never really thought about it! I’m the perfect size for me! I’m
right in the middle I guess, by common definition. Top end of BBW,
low end of SSBBW. Which in terms of how I think about my designs, is
a good place to be, it gives me a vantage point of both size groups.
LargeInCharge.com: Who is the owner of you company?
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your company?
Love Your Peaches is a
company that specializes in clothing for women sizes 1x – 6x. Every
item is available in this size range. Styles range from the very
casual to every day and career wear, to dressy. Sometimes it will be
more one than the other, depending on my design mood, and what sort
of fabrics I’ve been able to procure. We’re also very well known for
LargeInCharge.com: How did your company begin?
From the time I started
out in the fashion industry, I always knew that at some point I
wanted to have my own company. It took awhile for me to figure out
exactly what form that would take, be it a boutique or a wholesale
clothing line, but once the internet started to take over the
business world, it became obvious that this was a way I could run a
small, successful company with minimal start up investment.
LargeInCharge.com: How did your company get its name?
Again, I started
Peaches to with the intent of it being an online business. Because
of this I wanted it to have a catchy name. I also wanted people to
smile when they heard it. At the time I was intrigued with fruit box
label art, so I had visions of some sort of fruit inspired name.
After dismissing anything to do with “melons”, I thought of my
favorite fruit, peaches, and the line from the old Steve Miller song
just popped into my head…”You’re the cutest thing that I ever did
see, really love your peaches want to shake your tree”. And that was
it, my Eureka moment!
LargeInCharge.com: Does your company have a motto or slogan; and
what does it mean?
There are a
couple, actually. “No Boundaries” and “Live with Joy”. Their
meanings intertwine. The point is to live your life with love for
yourself, exactly the way you are at this moment. Do not accept
someone else’s opinion of what is right or good for you. This
applies to everything from your career choice, your hairstyle, your
fashion choices, your religion…whatever!!! It’s your life, and in
the end, you are responsible for your own happiness, the world is
not going to hand it to you.
LargeInCharge.com: How long have you been in business?
Started in 1996 so
that’s 12 years!
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your clothing products?
Everything I sell has
been made in house. We stock the fabric, and then when an order
comes in, those items are individually cut and sewn, there is no
mass production. It is the only way that I can offer the variety of
styles and the size range that I do. Also, it means that I can offer
a level of customization to my customer. If they want the tops
longer or shorter, or with a different sleeve length, for example,
that’s no problem, all they have to do is ask! It also means that I
can keep a close eye on quality.
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to make Plus Sized clothing?
That’s simple. It’s
what I know!
LargeInCharge.com: Who designs the clothing you sell?
LargeInCharge.com: Are you currently looking for new designers?
LargeInCharge.com: What is the size range on your clothing and do
My standard size range
is 1x – 6x, which encompasses a range of 40 – 76” hips. On many of
my styles I can go larger, but not on all. Sometimes there’s an
extra charge for that, sometimes not…it really depends on the fabric
and how the pattern lays out on it. The best thing to do is just ask
if you don’t see something you want. I don’t do custom work per
se…in that I don’t design individual garments for individual people.
I can, however, customize any of my designs for a customer…longer,
shorter, lower neckline, different sleeves, things of that nature.
Also, I welcome design ideas from customers. If it’s something that
producible and saleable, I may add it to the line.
LargeInCharge.com: Does you company do Fashion shows, if so where?
LargeInCharge.com: Do you have a website and a hardcopy catalogs;
how do we obtain a hard copy catalog?
We stopped printing hard copy catalogs in 2001.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your latest fashions and any up &
I love my new Juno
style, which is an adaptation of the one shoulder style that’s
popular in small sizes. Unfortunately, it’s difficult for many of my
customers to find a strapless bra in their size, so I designed the
top in a way that you could still get the asymmetric look, and wear
a regular bra underneath. Also my new string bikini is getting a lot
of attention! I have a few new linen styles coming up in the next
week or so. Other than that, it’s hard for me to predict what I will
do in the future because it depends a lot on what fabric I can get,
what’s hot at that moment, and what my mood is at the time!
LargeInCharge.com: Overall, What are your best sellers?
That changes from time
to time, but some of the more popular items are my catsuits, the
Everything Dress, the Sexy Tank dress, the Sarah shirt, and of
course, the swimsuits.
LargeInCharge.com: Has your company or clothing ever been showcased
on Television or in Print?
Print…in Dimensions Magazine and Radiance Magazine, back when they
had print magazines.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you feel the fashion industry is doing a good
job providing quality clothing for Big Women?
I would say that it has
improved dramatically for plus sizes in the last 20 years. It is
still woefully lacking in the super size range, however. There’s
always room for improvement, of course.
LargeInCharge.com: What are the ordering options that customers
Online, via telephone
or fax, or by mail.
LargeInCharge.com: How long does it take for a purchase to be
As I said earlier, the
orders are cut to order. Generally this takes one – two weeks. If a
customer needs something quickly, all they have to do is ask. We can
almost always accommodate a rush order.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your refund options?
30 days from receipt of
order to return for a refund (less shipping). They have up to a year
to exchange an item.
LargeInCharge.com: How do you find your models?
Peaches models are
customers. I generally do not use professional models, unless
they’re also customers. I also do a lot of the modeling myself, as
I’m always available when I need me!
LargeInCharge.com: How can someone apply to be a model for your
website or catalog?
They need to mail, or
email me with their name, address, vital stats, and a couple
photos…at least one full length. They do not need to be professional
photos, but they need to be clear.
LargeInCharge.com: What qualifications do you look for when choosing
They should be
photogenic and plus size, preferably super size. And, because we’re
a small company, they need to be in the New York area.
LargeInCharge.com: Who does the photography on your website?
It’s varied over the
years. Presently I’ve taken to doing it myself, or having my
husband, Tim do it.
LargeInCharge.com: Did you construct the website with the release of
your clothing line or did it come after?
It was simultaneous. I
started the company as a web based business.
LargeInCharge.com: Was the site it an automatic success or did it
take time to kick off?
I guess that depends on
how you define success! Yes, I started getting orders right away,
but it took a couple years to really build momentum.
LargeInCharge.com: Name some designers and companies you admire?
Norma Kamali, Vera
Wang, Roberto Cavalli, the company Flax. Have to say though, I don’t
spend a lot of time researching other designers… I pick and choose
elements of design from all over the market place.
LargeInCharge.com: What are the most important elements to running a
successful Online Clothing Company...quality; comfort...what is
important/ what is not?
Customer Service is
Number One. You have to gain the confidence of your customers via
good communication, and a quality product. Also, giving as much
information as possible about your product up front. This is why I
always include a sketch of the design along with a photo. It’s
impossible to show all the elements of a garment through a photo
alone. I will also mail fabric swatches to anyone that requests
LargeInCharge.com: Do you feel clothing options for people of size
have made progress in the last 10 years, do you think the internet
is part of that progress!
Yes, clothing options
have improved, and largely because of the internet. Here’s the
thing. Not all plus size women want the same kind of clothing. Some
want revealing club wear, some want contemporary career looks, and
some like funky artsy wear. In order to establish a broad enough
customer base for any one type of look within the plus size
category, a company pretty much needs to search nationwide, if not
globally. Most local bricks and mortar stores just don’t have enough
of a customer base within a given category to support anything but
the mainstream plus size tastes. Online stores can be successful in
providing more unique looks for customers, because they draw
customers from all over the world.
LargeInCharge.com: How has the internet helped your business?
It is my whole
business. I have customers all over the world. If I had to rely
solely on my local population, I’d never make it!
LargeInCharge.com: What can the readers at LargeInCharge do to help
support your business?
a friend, post a link on your website, or buy something!
Tribie A.K.A Starlet which is my model name.
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current
I was born
and raised in Brooklyn, NY and that is where I currently live in
the East New York section.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about
yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status,
I am 33 yrs old 5'4" of pure sexiness and an abundant size 24. I
am a mom of 3 absolutely fantastic children and I am married
with a very supportive husband. I am African-American sprinkled
with a Native-American Hopi Indian with my heritage stemming
from the South...Mississippi to be exact.
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight
later in life?
Yes, I was
a big child, but there was a time in my life when I was very
thin as a very young child and was nurtured by my grandmother
and fed very often because according to her was Po'
(Mississippi slang for Poor or Skinny). She cared for me as a
very young child and I lived with her down south in the
Sip'(slang for Mississippi). But the weight began to pour on
around the age of 7 and I began to gain about 10 to 12lbs every
year needless to say it was very difficult for me.
LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child) how did you feel
growing up as a large child?
Being fat for me as a child was very shameful, mostly because of
the attitude of my family. My mom found it very difficult to
keep up with my weight and even more difficult shopping for me
because I outgrew children’s clothes at a very young age. In
spite of that I actual had very positive friends and always
maintained popularity in spite of my girth. My weight never kept
me from making friends or being social. In High School I even
took up swimming for 3 out of 4 years as my PE of choice and
never felt uncomfortable as a matter of fact I had a number of
boys hit on me regularly. I of course was the largest in my
circle but the most influential setting the fashion, hair and
LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight later in life) what
caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?
increased over the years especially after having my darling
babies and slowing down from the party scene!
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the
LargeInCharge.com model search?
I am an
aspiring model who is looking to get recognized for my
exceptional and unique style and beauty. I have read the
magazine and was very impressed by your articles and your
devotion to the Large community I knew that LargeInCharge.com
would be the place for me where I could not only get exposure
but have my type of beauty appreciated.
LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted
for your size?
No. I hope
this is not taken the wrong way but I don't see myself as fat.
Let me explain, some people become victims in life allowing
there situations and circumstance to gobble them up and they
never live a life of fullness and joy. Now I have surely had my
share of hard knocks but letting something like weight keep me
from feeling accepted, no way Jose! I have always shone my
light, sometimes it wasn’t as bright as others times but I have
just a God given gift of attraction meaning I attract people to
me and that keeps me positive, outgoing and spunky! So to sum
this all up I am soooo much more that just a Fat girl I am still
peeling back the layers of talent, creativity, beauty and spirit
God has blessed me with. Hard....? Oomph please!
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and
mother probably was the hardest on me because of my weight I
forgive her now but she made it very shameful for me to be a fat
child.... and fat teen..... And fat adult ( Mom I love you) but
it is true. You know how it is when you’re a fat child everyone
in your family has a comment or solution to your plight when all
they are really doing is making the problem worse. And heavens
forbid you should have feelings and stand-up for yourself
you would be accused of being fresh and sassy and probably have
you a#s beaten. I forgive them now and understand they weren't
trying to hurt me but was concerned about me but handled it the
only way they knew how with ridicule LOL! (Hey it is true, but I
still love them). My friends always made me feel accepted it
wasn’t something that was talked about (my weight) To them I was
Kia, period. My husband though is the one who has supported me
in cracking the shell on all this exceptional talent I possess.
He constantly cheers me on in everything I do. He reinforces
what I already know "Shorty is the Shid" LOL!
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
I will try
to intellectualize this the best I can, what inspires me is a
burning, unsettling, continuous pushing from God to be the best
and break forth into my own personal glory. It is a deep
spiritual tugging and nudges to not stop until I reach the
top. See I was born knowing I was to be something great and do
great things however, life throws us curves and stuff happen
that keep us off the path. Sometimes we even get in our own way
like I did for a long time, feeding myself on fear and
self-doubt. But God, simply put is my inspiration we have always
been tight me and the almighty. LOL, I have always been
intuitive and divinely connected He has brought me through very
LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary job?
I am an
Insurance Agent for a major insurance company.
LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?
for the position and they hired me. I have worked in this field
for 4 yrs. ironically though I hated it for the first 3...
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?
Oh yes. I have always made very good impressions on my employers
and never felt discriminated against at all because of my
weight. However my boss saw me eating M&M's one day and told me
to stop eating them using the excuse it was bad for my health. I
believe he would not have said though if I was not fat...things
that make you go hmmm?
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place
for Large People in the work force?
Large people should have better access to health insurance and
life insurance we are considered high risk and a lot of
companies do not want to provide us with adequate coverage.
LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry
for big sized clothing?
It has made
huge strides in providing larger clothing in designs that
flatter our special curves. However we are still poorly
represented in the modeling and beauty industry where fat is not
appreciated. Since I spend a huge amount of money on clothing
show me what I am going to look like in it not
some skinny chick at a ridicules size 8.
LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the
wish they made better shoes that fit our feet and didn’t hurt so
badly, the operative word here is support, support, support. And
it would be great for once to buy a boot that actually came up
my whole leg...just make it bigger damn it!
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus
sized modeling for men and women were to expand?
America will finally accept that women are really supposed
to have nice round booties and a healthy set of hips; it is the
way God meant it to be. Minority Men and Women would be rich in
this industry because we got all the sexy curves....hmmm maybe
that's why they don’t want to accept it don’t want to give them
minorities to much.....another thing to make you go ummm?
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your
I love to shop at Lane Bryant and Ashley Stewart they have very
hip stylish clothing for the sassy lady with junk in the trunk
like me ; ) But don't sleep on the lower end stores like Rainbow
shop and even Conway because you can sometimes find great pieces
and accessories in these store. I am more of a Budget
Fashionista and love sifting through the clearance racks of my
LargeInCharge.com: Tell one of your secret beauty tips.
I am a firm
believer in skin care, a good cleanser and moisturizer goes a
very long way in maintaining good skin and a youthful appearance
check out my website
and check out some of the great skin care
products. Also never leave home without some type of make-up on.
I love a full face complete with foundation, eye shadow, and
blush. If that is not your thing a clear lip gloss and
mascara is your must have, I assure you it will make the
prettiest face even prettier!
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five
years from now with size acceptance?
More large actors and actresses on TV and not as the depressed
fat chick or someone’s sidekick but leading roles and where we
are the love interest.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling
and other interests.
My modeling goals would be to get signed by a modeling agency
like Goddess based out of New York who work with Plus Models and
work as a print commercial model I have always wanted to be a
catalog model. I am also very into cosmetics and will one day
have my own line of cosmetics.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment
in you life that made you feel good about your size.
Everyday is an inspirational moment because I have inherited a
gift I saw my mom possess as a child that gift is the ability to
make grown men stop what they are doing whether it be driving,
fixing the roads or just hanging on the corner to stop and stare
at me. Now as a child I thought it was just my Mom's big butt,
but it is more than just a big rear-end it is the gift of
attraction. I draw people to me like a magnet. Now according to
the worlds standard I am supposed to be the least sexiest
because I am fat, but that has proven wrong years ago because I
am hit on, flirted with and gazed at adoringly everyday all day.
I have not had a day go by in years where someone has not told
me how beautiful I am. I am very humble by it and most grateful
LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you
The person that keeps me going is the little girl that still
lives within me. The one who dreamed of being a ballet dancer
and a beauty pageant winner. It is little Kia who used to play
in her mothers make-up and place her nightgowns over her head
pretending it was he long blonde hair.. Don’t act like ya'll
didn’t do that! Seriously I want to prove to that little girl
that it is possible to have those dreams come true and be the
women she and I knew I could be.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of
size who want to model?
Just do it! But while making your dreams happen research this
business because there are a lot of snakes in the grass, meaning
people who want to take advantage of plus sized women and
exploit them for money.
LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you admire?
I think Queen Latifah is great and I love Sherri Sheppard from
the view. The little Kia in me did and still does love Miss
Piggy she made me so proud to be fat! However there could be and
should be more I will soon add my name to the list.
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine. This
spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus
Sized Life. Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
Raqui Appears on The Christina Show
Raqui Appears on The Maury Show
Many people asked me
what made me decide to start a Radio show. Truthfully I had
been thinking about Radio for about 2-3 years. It was always
one of those things you think about and didn't do. I thought I
would have to invest mucho money into equipment and studio's.
I thought about having to do a whole website so that shows could be
heard live. I thought about the added expense that I couldn't
I then started researching Online Radio what can be done with the
new resources out there. Would I have time, It takes a
lot of dedication to run a Radio show. I knew I wanted it to
be an expansion of LargeInCharge. I wanted the public to get a
chance to voice their thoughts and opinions about life subjects that
affect plus sized people.
Finally I was able to move forward with this thought. I tried
to speak to a few people about running a radio show. But never
received any help, I knew I would have to do it all myself. So I
just took the plunge in setting up an account with Blog Talk Radio.
I set my show and got prepared. It worked naturally for me and
I was happy to have shows once a week.
Now with my 5th show under my belt I have to say I am enjoying this
whole new aspect to LargeInCharge than I thought I would.
After my Un-Authorized Co-Host, My good friend The Saint joined me
things are running so smooth because he handles everything I don't
have time to do with my hectic schedule.
I would love for all the readers to check out the radio show.
I hope you all get something from it and even join in to talk about
these important subjects :)
For more information
just go to the radio show page on LargeInCharge
- Weekly Radio show discussing Plus Sized Issues. Friday's 7-9
pm EST - Call in & Chat in our Chat Room.
Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those
who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive.
Giving recognition to the plus
sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.
Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.
Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from
Queens NYC. Lynx is an activist speaking out against size
discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events
for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers.
Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and
performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by
Big and Beautiful parties nationwide. Lynx taking her "look"
and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She
did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize
her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show
(LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of
comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all
walks of life. The response to her show was PHENOMENAL....in less
than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger
and better things.
Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK
SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE
MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track
called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx
recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM
called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the
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Artist of the
My people, mi gente… Oh the net and in the music industry is going crazy
over Lil Wayne’s comments on mix tape Dj’s, so we are going to address
that situation and (I had submissions but received them a little too
late) so no music review but you all can look out for them next month.
You Tubes of the Month
LIL Wayne Says F$%& Mixshow Dj’s
Why would a main stream artist want to have their
music reviewed by me on a magazine dedicated to empowering and uplifting
people of size? I mean, after all in main stream media’s point of view
us BBW’s (big beautiful women) and BHM’s (big handsome males) are not
marketable. I could dispute that but that is another article. One thing
no one can dispute is, people in the big community are BIG spenders (no
pun intended) and we patronize and spend major paper on items other than
food. You know like Cd’s, books, magazine’s, Ipod’s and clothing. Holla
and hand me a Hershey kiss if you hear me!
words any outlet is an important outlet. Although it may be true that
Large in Charge magazine is not (let’s say) as BIG as or as
recognized as The Source Magazine but with 60-70,000 hits a day is no
small potatoes either. So hold on a minute there French fry!- if you are
a mainstream artist or an underground artist, you should be looking at
all the avenues to get to your destination including but not limited to
Large in Charge, performing for free at community events and including
mix tape DJ’s, there should be no avenue closed off or not covered.
I absolutely must add that once you reach your
destination don’t pooh, pooh on the very heads that put you in your
Which brings me to Lil Wayne, now I am just like
everyone else; I love a track with Lil Weezy on the hook. But I have to
say that since his ranting and ravings. I do view him differently and
really do not want to support his new album. Shit on the mix tape Dj’s.
Is you crazy son! The Dj makes the superstar. It ain’t a party till the
Dj gets it popping. So they may not be main stream Dj’s on major radio
stations like Hot 97 but they make a hot mix with your shit and it gets
played across the states and now digitally. So they charge their little
$5 bucks a pop, don’t they deserve the dough for their efforts. You
certainly (the mainstream artist) are not paying for the promotion they
are giving to you. What would you pay to have your shit bumping in all
the ciphers in the Hood? Shit on the mix tape Dj’s; is you crazy son.
Leave the Sizzurp alone! , Orpheous “Justo” Faison must be turning in
his grave right now! Lil Wayne done burned some bridges.
Please check out this you tube video of a response
to Lil Wayne’s Mix Dj bashing rants by a famous Legendary Dj. Can
someone please stick a lollipop in Lil Weezy’s mouth.
Hey, my people send me your thoughts and artists, mainstream or not
submit your music for review. Do the math…
must add I could easily go and purchase some album and review it for
this feature but I want to ONLY review submissions because I am not in
the business of spoiling or sweating an artist who is not on their
Grizzy (grind) Why should I feature you, cause your cute and you could
rap or sing. Shit there are 1 million of those but show me an artist
that takes an interest in his own future and takes all possible avenues
to get to
Shout out to all the artist mainstream and underground who submitted
their music for review here at Large in Charge.
mainstream Latin artist
AMIR SULAIMAN-mainstream spoken word artist
BOMBCHELLE-underground female rapper
WILL WHEATON-independent R&B singer
EARTHMAN-new age independent artist
LOLA DUTRONIC-electronica mainstream artist
XIOMARA MEDINA-independent artist
FELIX and ULTIMATE POWER- Latin gospel independent artists
JAH-Female underground artist
KYLE RIFKIN-independent R&B Hip Hop artist
L*A*W thanks for the submission –I got you next month but there is
already some conflict and controversy. I hope you are ready!
Want to send in your
Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs
spoken word? Up and Coming, already established? Contact
Lynx through her Myspace page or email
email@example.com and all information will be forwarded to
her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA)
You must be a Size
Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.
From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that
deal with all aspects of Plus size Life. Emily Smiltneck was
chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic
writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster
those who are Plus Sized go through.
Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan
(pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a
substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business.
Emily is currently working on several writing projects,
including a historical fiction novel and several collections of
receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below
It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive
recognition for their life's work. Join me in this Joyous
moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her
contribution and great dedication to her goals in life. Click
the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the
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Holy Chronicles - Part 2
by Emily Suzanne
Finally, I catch sight of Holly. She does have
another drink. Two, actually; a girly, fruity, bright-colored drink
in one hand and a bottle of beer in the other. She is drinking from
both of them, alternately, while she bends down, deep in
conversation with a man sitting alone at the edge of the dance
floor. She is standing next to him, but she has snaked her neck and
upper body around so that she is somehow staring him in the eye at
the same time. He has no choice but to give Holly his full
attention. She has taken up his entire field of vision. This would
drive me crazy, but he is, like most men, for reasons I cannot
understand, soaking it up. She is smiling and nodding and laughing
right in his face, and it’s turning him on. I can tell by the blank
look in his eyes. I can see him wanting to take her by the
shoulders and pull her down onto his lap. I can see him enjoying
her attention, completely unaware that he is not special to her, and
that although she may drag him into the bathroom for a quickie (I’ve
seen her do it before), she won’t remember his face, much less his
name, ten minutes from now. He is either drunk or stupid, or maybe
both. He must be.
Holly is holding drinks bought for her by
two different men, I am sure, and seconds away from being swept off
her feet by a third. And I am sitting at our table, invisible,
“Excuse me,” a man says, suddenly appearing at my
side. He catches me off guard and I don’t know what to say. People
never talk to me; I am invisible. I look at him silently, asking
him with my eyes what he wants. Is it possible that he’s actually
interested in talking to me, that he’s going to sit down at the
table with me, buy me a drink, make me feel like I exist?
“I was just wondering—is anyone sitting here?”
I shake my head.
“Cool. Could we grab this chair, then? We’re one
short.” He thrusts his head back and to the side and when I look
where he has indicated, I see a twelve-foot-tall blonde woman who
weighs seventeen pounds watching him with a smile. I shrug my
shoulders. He takes the chair and leaves. Now if Holly comes back,
she has no place to sit. When she returns, I should just offer her
my chair, go outside, take a walk on the beach. Get out of here and
feel human again. She’ll beg me to stay, though, because we’re
having a good time. Because we’re having a girls’ night out,
partying. But what she will really mean is that I should stay
because she needs a home base, a place to sit down between men.
That she needs me with her because the contrast between us when we
stand side by side makes her look better and me look worse, and it
makes her look like she’s kind enough to hang out with a reject for
the night. It gives her character some depth. Or the illusion of
depth, anyway. If I have nothing else, I have the knowledge that
it’s all just an illusion.
The night continues this way. I sit alone, only
spoken to when I am in someone’s way or they want to know if I have
some matches or a lighter on me. I remain invisible while Holly
dips and dashes and dances her way around the bar, hypnotizing
dozens of men with her drunken eyes and her swaying body and her
bold offers of sensual pleasures. And I strongly suspect that she
is making good on her offers, because every so often she disappears
completely and then reappears twenty minutes or a half hour later.
And when it is almost time for the bar to close,
Holly finally comes back. She has a man in tow, a man with dark
curls and tight jeans and a black leather jacket.
“This is Mark,” she tells me. “His brother is in
charge of entertainment here. I’m trying to hook Tom up with an
improv show. He says we can do it.” Tom heads up an improv comedy
troupe, of which Holly and I are both a part. I am assuming she
hasn’t mentioned that the Tom she has been speaking of is her
boyfriend, and this curly-headed man has probably been so
accommodating to her because she has made him some of her usual
promises. “We’re gonna go hang on the beach with him for a while
and talk about it.”
I nod in Mark’s direction. He nods back but doesn’t
speak to me. I understand. I’m used to it. I’m not his type. He
doesn’t know how to talk to women like me, women who think better
than they look. I gracefully duck out of their conversation and let
them carry on with their not-so-innocent flirtation. Holly asks if
there is somewhere we can stop for beer on the way to the beach.
Mark suggests we get it here so we don’t have to stop. We go to the
bar and tell the bartender what we want.
I don’t know why I am calling us we,
because I am only following and watching. I am not part of “we.”
They have forgotten that I am here.
Mark is parked in the same city parking lot we are,
so he walks us to Holly’s car. He and Holly are both too drunk to
drive, but because I am invisible, I say nothing. I get in Holly’s
car. I put on my seatbelt. Even though I am not generally a
praying person, I pray. It must work, because she seems to be
driving pretty well, but still, I am nervous.
Mark drives toward the beach and Holly follows,
because she doesn’t know the way. Mark does, I assume, but beer has
clouded the part of his brain that remembers things. I know this
because he drives past the beach road without ever slowing down. I
know where we are going because I went to school in this Lake
Superior town, but I’m not sure if I should say anything, invisible
as I am. With Mark in a completely different car, on the other
hand, I guess it’s worth a try.
“We just passed the beach road,” I say. And I must
not be invisible, because Holly responds.
“Well, where are we going?”
“Not a clue. Flash your lights at him and maybe
he’ll pull over.”
She doesn’t have to, though. Before she can figure
out where the knob that controls her headlights is, Mark pulls to
the side of the road. Holly manages to do the same and we wait
while he swings around in the perfect illegal u-turn. We follow and
soon we are driving past the road once more.
“That’s it, right there,” I tell Holly. “Pull over
and flash your lights. Then back up and turn. With any luck, he’ll
see us in his rearview.” Or with even more luck, he won’t, I
think. We’d probably be a lot better off without him, especially
since the six pack of beer is in his car. But he obviously sees us
because he makes another u-turn and is soon following us down the
road. We park, get out, walk onto the beach. Again, I have ceased
to exist. They talk, laugh, hold each others arms, partly because
they are mad to be in contact with one another and partly because
each is too drunk to stand alone. They sit on a log together. I
kick off my shoes and tie my long, flowy skirt in a knot over one
hip. I do not want to watch them from my shroud of invisibility
because I am tired of being invisible, and I am tired of being
lonely while I watch everyone around me not being lonely. And so I
go to the wet sand where the inky black water of three a.m. is
swelling gently onto the shore and I wade back and forth in the cool
This serves a few purposes. It gets me away from
Holly and Mark, who are now drinking beer and openly groping one
another. It lets me feel the water and sand on my feet, which makes
me somehow real again. And it serves to attract some attention,
because Lake Superior is notoriously cold and anyone who ventures in
generally does attract some attention. Especially on nights
like tonight when the leftover humidity in the air is turning cold
without the sun to warm it. Autumn is sneaking in.
Mark’s voice reaches my ears over the swooshing of
the water on the sand.
“You crazy, girl? That water’s gotta be freezin’.”
I smile to myself. The cold water has somehow made
me visible again. I make my way back toward Mark and Holly and lay
on my stomach in the sand. My skirt is still tied at my hip and my
breasts are almost spilling out of my tank top, but I do not try to
cover myself. I will do anything to remain visible, anything to be
real. Holly is now wrapped in a blanket. Her Vicodin bottle has
somehow found its way out of her purse and is lying on the sand. It
is nearly empty and, from the way in which both of them are grinning
loosely, I guess that they have each chased at least a few of them
down with the beer, of which only one bottle remains.
Holly is apparently finding it difficult to speak at
the moment, and instead of trying she is staring vacantly into the
darkness. Mark has had a little less to drink, perhaps, and maybe
not as many Vicodin, because he is able to talk just fine. But he’s
speaking to me now, not Holly, so I can only assume that he’s almost
as far gone as she is, because sober men don’t start conversations
with me. Drunk men don’t either, for that matter, so it must be the
Vicodin that’s done it. We talk about improv and how it works and
where we’ve performed, and the possibility of Mark’s brother hiring
us. Mark talks and talks and talks, allowing me to break in only
occasionally. Holly looks as if she wants to say something from
time to time, but by the time she opens her mouth to talk, she
either forgets the words or forgets how to talk, I’m not sure which.
I am shivering now, because the water was very cold,
and the wind is very cold, and the sand is cold, too. It must be
three-thirty in the morning. I am tired. I am hungry. And I am
chilled to the bone.
“You must be freezing,” Mark says. I’m surprised
that he’s able to think about the way another person feels, because
I am pretty sure he is not feeling anything at all, himself.
“I am,” I tell him.
“Why didn’t you bring a coat?”
“I like to travel light. And if I don’t have a coat,
there’s always a chance that someone will take pity, throw an arm
around me to warm me up,” I say. The darkness, the cold, the hours
since I have slept, have made me bold. I am not hinting for him to
throw an arm around me. The fact that Holly’s fake charms have
worked their magic on him is enough to convince me that he is not
worth my time. But before I can react, he is lying on the beach
next to me, an arm over my shoulders.
This story was
told to me some odd years ago when I was in college and having a
hard time with the studies and finances. I ran across a well
written version of it in the last few months. Take a moment to read
it and ask the last question of yourself
You will never
look at a cup of coffee the same way again.
A young woman
went to her mother and told her about her life and how things were
so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and
wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It
seemed as though one problem was solved a new one arose. Her mother
took her to the kitchen.
She filled three
pots with water.
In the first, she
placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs and the last she
placed ground coffee beans.
She let them sit
and boil without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned
off the burners.
She fished the
carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and
placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it
in a bowl.
Turning to her
daughter, she asked, "Tell me what do you see?"
and coffee," she replied.
She brought her
closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that
they were soft. She then asked her to take an egg and break it.
After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard-boiled egg.
Finally, she asked her to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled, as
she tasted its rich aroma.
The daughter then
asked. "What's the point, mother?"
explained that each of these objects had faced the same
adversity--boiling water--but each reacted differently. The carrot
went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected
to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been
fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior.
But, after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became
hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique; however, after they
were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
"Which are you?"
she asked her daughter. " When adversity knocks on your door, how do
you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?"
Think of this:
Which am I?
Am I the carrot
that seems strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become
soft and lose my strength?
Am I the egg that
starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have
a fluid spirit, but after death, a breakup, a financial hardship or
some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell
look the same, but on the inside am I bitter and tough with a stiff
spirit and a hardened heart?
Or am I like the
coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very
circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it
releases the fragrance and flavor. If you are like the bean, when
things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation
When the hours
are the darkest and trials are their greatest do you elevate to
How do you handle
ARE YOU A
CARROT, AN EGG, OR A COFFEE BEAN?
The true genius of this
story lies in its ability to have us evaluate our ability to be
resilient in times of peril and danger. Do we let circumstances get
the best of us or do we make the best of circumstances? Do we allow
our conditions to make us soft and week or do we get stronger with
In the few months, most
recently last week, the loss of two of the family elders. I started
on a project for the family that has invigorated me with the
responsibility of years. In some sense I have been given the task
of re-educating the family to their own history. In the coming
months I want to share with you what I have seen come to pass in my
This story means a lot
to me. It’s one of those that enter my mind when adversity hits.
Am I allowing the sorrow of the moment to cloud my judgment or to
compromise what I know to be right from wrong?
These last couples of
weeks have been times when questions have been raised in what the
family will do how they will do it, and when they will do it. For
our family, the remaining elders are the ones who kept the
youngsters together. The fear is that the classic idea of the
family will no longer exist and each will fade off never to see each
For us the question
remains as this story ask, are we carrot, eggs, or coffee beans?
Ask yourself how you
react to stress and adversity in your lives, question whether it is
a source of strength or does it push you to your limits. Answering
that question may be the beginning of new look at how you handle
situations that scare you.
Until Next Time… May
God Bless You All… Take the time to tell you families that love
them, show them that you cherish them.
Xander's Recipe of the Month
3 cups buttermilk baking mix
1/4 cup white sugar
1/4 cup butter, melted
1/2 cup milk
1/2 cup white sugar
1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract
1 (8 ounce) package cream cheese, softened
1/4 cup strawberry, apricot or raspberry preserves
Preheat oven to 375 degrees F (190 degrees C).
To make the crust, in a medium bowl, combine the baking mix, 1/4 cup
sugar, melted butter and milk. Stir until a dough forms, then turn
the dough out onto a clean surface that has been dusted with some
baking mix. Knead for 30 turns. Pat the dough into the bottom and up
the sides of an un-greased 9 inch round cake pan. In the same bowl,
beat together the remaining 1/2 cup sugar, vanilla, eggs and cream
cheese. Pour over the dough in the pan.
Bake for 30 minutes in the preheated oven, until the edges are
golden and the filling is set. Allow the coffee cake to cool for 10
minutes, then spread the fruit preserves over the top.
Cher was born in Los
Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she
grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving
caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was
always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types,
sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.
Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who
loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you
lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just
would go up and down.
Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find
their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this
is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had
some of her experiences and pain that she went through.
Cher has been in the community working with others for size
acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning
America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and
Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las
Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station,
with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.
She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in
California, and seeing people come into the club and make new
friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.
Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to
help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and
goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity
movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now
showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides
being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab
Ruby is what she loves best!
National's Lampoon's one, two many
April 10th Thursday night was the Movie Premier Red Carpet event for
the new film National Lampoon's one,two, many starring that funny
guy from Howard Stern, Stuttering John Melendez who had perfect
speech, ok well it was a lot of profanity but a funny guy. He was
the writer/director and star, came along way from being in a studio
Screening at ArcLight Hollywood, held the event and premier of the
movie. The after party was
at Cabana Club across the street from the Arclight.This was
defiantly a "A" list crowd but they sure loved there fans and were
happy to stop and take photos with the people who asked. I was
especially impressed with Jim J Bullock who was so sweet and you
could tell he was a special person, he was awesome in the part of
the psychiatrist in the film. It was a story about...... no I think
you should find out on your own.
Celebrities that attended were Jay Leno, Kevin Eubanks, Robin Leach,
Ming Na, Kris Jenner,
Nancy O'Dell, Collective Soul, Kim and Chloe Kardashian, Jim J
Bullock, Kris Black, Michael Copon, Jillian Barberia, David
Faustino, Lorenzo Lamas, Lisa Cash, Phoebe Price, Deedee Bigelow,
Jamie Carson, Katie Lohman, Tanya Roberts, Fawn,Jim J Bullock, Alan
The after party was so fun, with open bar and appetizers for the
guests, the red carpet was brought to the club and more photos were
taken. It was a packed crowd and everyone was so friendly and having
a good time.
Until next time..... from the Red Carpet Hollywood!
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I am a big guy with a
big heart. My favorite thing in the world to do is to make others
laugh. It gives a sense of calm and peace to both people involved
and there is nothing better than to walk up to that person later in
th day and just see the smile on their face from the memory they
have of what you did earlier.
I am a family man as
well. I live in Montreal, Quebec with my wonderful wife Naomi and
my two adorable children Connor and Brett. They are the sun around
which I revolve and without them my life would have more tragedy
than comedy in it I guarantee.
I was raised in
Southern California, Moved to New York, Moved to Kansas and then
back to New York. Follow me so far? I have a perspective on the
entire country I think, from the surfers in Los Angeles, to the
Wheat Farmers in Kansas City to the Kodak Managers in Rochester.
I am sick and tired of
mainstream media not allowing the plus-sized person, be they man or
woman, to be represented fairly in the media. You have wonderfully
bright spots in the darkness, like our own Raqui, but the rest of
the clouds have yet to be broken through and I hope I can help in
I am a open man
who loves to talk. You want to ask me a question, go ahead. You
have an idea for something you want me to write? Go ahead. I don't
mind posting my email (firstname.lastname@example.org)
because I do not shy away from responding to people. Plus, I have a
really good spam filter.
Love and Respect to
all. James, by the way, they also call me Kaobear
I Refuse to Waste Away with
You can see it on every billboard, every commercial every movie.
Men who have the physiques of Greek gods, the diets of lab rats and
the daily exercise regimen of a Olympic athlete.
Now, while doing this is all fine and dandy, I am never going to
knock exercise of course, I refuse to sit patiently through yet
another Bowflex commercial, or some mythical Ab Fixer, Butt Shrinker,
Core Builder without feeling enraged.
Not all men are going to be, nor do they have to be these specimens
from on high.
Why can't we look the way WE feel comfortable looking? Why do I
have to go and spend $3000 on a machine that will make me look like
everyone else when I can do nothing of the sort, save myself the
money to spend on my family and be as individual as the rays of sun
that hit the earth on a daily basis?
Men, do not be made to feel guilty because of these ads. Don't
watch them and then look at yourself and hang your head in shame and
disgust. Take pride in yourself and say Bowflex be damned!
If your mind and spirit are the way you want them to be, if you feel
a peace that only you can understand, then my God friends you have
achieved everything you will ever need.
These testosterone driven megalomaniac men who think like the
machines they are so obsessed with rarely have happy lives. They
have failing marriages, they lie and cheat on their wives, they may
even abuse them if they have been partaking of the chemicals that
assist strength trainers these days.
What about us? The so called “fat men”? We are the dads who play
with their kids, the happily married men whose wives adore them, the
one who has friends that laugh at their jokes and who laughs at
theirs in return.
I assure you that I would rather be calm in my heart than a stone in
Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in
the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has
long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film,
theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a
Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre
Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.
He's cool, he's
big, and he's SuperBad! with
Jonah Hill is a 24 year old actor who left his hometown of Los
Angeles to study writing & drama at New School University in New
York. He started writing & performing in plays at the Black and
White Bar in the East Village. There he was discovered by Dustin
Hoffman’s children, Rebecca & Jake. Those two introduced Jonah to
dear old dad. Hoffman, impressed by young Jonah’s talent, got him
an audition for I Heart Huckabees. Jonah landed a role in the movie
and thus began his movie career.
Jonah has been in several hit movies since then, including Knocked
Up, Evan Almighty, 40 Year Old Virgin and Accepted. Jonah’s latest
claim to fame was playing Seth…the lead character in the hit comedy
Superbad. I would classify this young fellow as a BHM (Big Handsome
Man) who is quickly rising through the ranks of Hollywood’s comedy
elite. Some say he’s the next Chris Farley. But I beg to differ.
Although Chris was an exceptional talent, I believe Jonah has a
style all his own.
There aren’t too many big men out there getting the lead in major
motion pictures. Luckily, we’ve been blessed with a few amazing
talents who’ve had their share of lead roles, such as John Candy,
Chris Farley & Cedric The Entertainer. I’m thankful that Jonah is
keeping the tradition going.
I’m mostly thankful for the fact that their size is not what their
roles are all about. They don’t have to rely on a constant stream
of fat jokes to be funny. These gentlemen have proven to the world
that talent comes in all sizes.
I often wonder when talented men of size such as Jonah Hill will be
offered the “action hero” roles. Would he be considered for the
lead role in the next Transformers movie? Or will the movie studio
claim it’s too “physically demanding” for a person of size? How can
any movie studio show “concern” about physical demands when there
are stunt doubles standing by so the stars never have to break a
sweat? Listen up Hollywood, there are some big men out there who
have much more stamina then your pretty boy actors. Don’t
underestimate the big man!
But I digress.
Jonah Hill is a rising star and I will certainly keep my eye on
him. I would like to leave you with a quote from Jonah about living
life as a movie star:
“People think that once you're in movies your life changes in a
crazy way. It really doesn't. If you choose to have it change in a
crazy way, it will. I have my same groups of friends I was friends
with in high school. We're all a bunch of really normal guys.” –
I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written
articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines
and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have
a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the
Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through
Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split
my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.
Plus Sized Hotels Equal Big Business with
weather is changing; and the bug to travel is in the air. But where
can savvy, Plus-size people go to have a little fun in the sun?
Well thanks to the growing number
of plus-size-friendly vacation packages, heavier-set folks are
having their day in the sun.
Let’s start with Mexico's 112-room
where the motto is “Live Large, Live Free”. This lovely resort
offers services that cater to the Plus-Size crowd. Enjoy a romantic
visit to the exciting Riviera Maya. The hotel, which
caters to people of all sizes, has broad doorways, reinforced
furniture and extra large chairs. Freedom Paradise is located on a
secluded, long stretch or white sand beach, surrounded by tropical
forests and the Caribbean Sea which protects against the stares that
occur on public beaches and make things uncomfortable for Plus-size
Freedom Paradise is the first
vacation spot of its kind. It is located on the tip of Mexico’s
Yucatan Peninsula near the famous Mayan Ruins of Tulum. It’s about
90 minutes from Cancun Airport in the popular Riviera Maya. For
those of us that are eco-travelers rest assured that Freedom
Paradise combines beautiful white sand beaches, eco-archeological
parks and important cultural sight seeing spots.
And for those of us Plus-size
travelers who have lots of friends that want souvenirs there’s great
shopping at Playa del Carmen. Okay if you simply must do the
“bling-bling” thing; you can spend a day in Cancun which is just up
"It's not a hotel
just for large people. It's a size-friendly place where anyone can
enjoy a holiday," said owner Jurrian Klink, a Dutchman who thought
up the idea while observing the behavior of larger-sized guests at
his former hotel. "What we noticed was that a lot of oversized
people don't feel comfortable at resorts."
Klink pulled out all
the stops when creating the size-friendly utopia. Staff members of
all sizes were hired, psychologists were contacted and low-fat menus
were drawn up for those wanting to watch their waist. Advocates of
specialized extra-large vacations recognize that society's
prejudices often impact people's ability to feel comfortable even on
So why not visit this 5 star
romantic setting in what has proven to be one of Mexico’s best kept
secrets. They offer all inclusive packages so you’ll never need to
worry about money. It’s great fun for singles, couples or families.
All you have to do is come and relax because everything is included!
Well almost everything; massage on the beach has a small nominal
extra charge around $50 for an hour.
Before you go
on your travels don’t forget to visit
www.LivingXL.com to pick up your plus-size
travel accessories. Living XL offers things from car seatbelt
extenders (in the top three car interior colors – use in your
personal car as well as your rentals), airline seatbelt extenders
(the feature them by number and show your which airline belts they
work with), to fanny/waist packs that can go around a 64” waistline.
They also feature other handy travel accessories like larger
dress/suit luggage and luggage carriers with extended arms for less
back strain when you’re pulling your gear.
As an avid traveler
and BBW I recommend the “Knee Defender” also available from Living
XL. I’m 5’10 and needless to say when you can’t get a seat without a
row in front of you; then these little devices save your legs.
Simply slip them into the reclining area of the seat in front of you
and it prevents it from coming back into your lap.
And if you are
visiting a spa; check out the Robes and Slippers area and other Bath
accessories on the site, everything for the modern-day Plus-size
The dream of a
worry-free vacation has now become a reality for those whose weight
can be an obstacle.
Let’s join the staff
of Freedom Paradise in shouting “Live Large, Live Free”.
Erin says she grew up in a rural Texas town, the small town life
atmosphere has always appealed to me and that is why I currently
reside here. I have the city life girl burrowed deep within me
though and sometimes she is able to escape to Dallas and have a good
time. I was a very awkward child, and when ADD was not even
understood, I had it, and spent a lot of time in the principals
office. I grew up very much a tomboy. Once I hit 18, I set out on
the world and started school. My major was to be journalism, then in
1999, tragedy hit me and I nearly died in a car accident. The outer
wounds healed rather quickly leaving me with the inner scars I still
deal with daily. I try to see each day as a new one and keep family
and friends really close to my heart where they belong. I enjoy
music and photography and my love for writing has stayed with me
since I was a child. Now as a 29 year old woman, I spend most days
still day dreaming and working hard to make them come true. I am
currently in school full time and will complete my journalism degree
with a minor in music. Pink is my absolute favorite color! I write
poetry and am currently working on my first book about my life.
Erin was chosen because
of her flair with words and her ability to find real day to day
instances in which Plus Sized people say WHY, Oh, WHY.
with Erin Thompson
“Your sense of style is
your sense of mind. And my mind always says, ‘I’m sexy.’” – Mo’Nique
Being overweight is something physical, right? So why oh why can
more women not embrace this physical thing and let their souls and
personalities soar? These ladies must start feeling and looking sexy
even with the bodies they are in.
I often find myself calling myself “fat” way more than I should. I
want to banish that word from my vocabulary and make sense and
positively of the word sexy! I was in a shoe store the other day and
a woman overheard me say to my mom, “Why can they not make cuter
shoes for fat people?” She made her way into my presence and said –
“I don’t know you, but girl, don’t call yourself fat, you are sexy!”
She was overweight herself, but her confidence was different than
mine and I wanted what she had.
We talked for a few moments and I realized something, I too, can be
that confident and that “sexy” even if I am not up to the standards
that society has set for the sexy woman today. Why can I not just
accept the body I am in and make the best of it? Most of you already
know the answer to that. It is because we allow other people to tell
us what is acceptable instead of looking into ourselves or listening
to the people around us who really love and care for us. They are in
our lives for some reason. They saw something in us that stands
alone and they stay by our sides because we are damn sexy! So stand
up girls and say it, SAY: I AM SEXY and NO ONE WILL TELL ME
This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or
let everyone know something that you feel. Every Month we will
post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be
inspired to make your own.
You can send in a picture, You can make a graphic, You
can just send in your written words. You can do it anonymously
and get something off your chest. You can let everyone know
who you are and liberate yourself.
Hope you enjoy Confession! Send in your own check the bottom
of this page!
I sometimes see my
ex who put me down all the time, He has a new skinny woman and I
feel like screaming at him
"YOUR A LIAR.....
SHE SHOULD KNOW YOUR FUCKING FAT CHICKS ON THE SIDE!!!
I tell everyone I
am a confident BBW, But I don't think I am beautiful!
SORRY LADIES!!! not
every big woman is beautiful.
Many of you have
treated me so badly that I think I am better off with skinny girls.
Dear Raqui, this was my
Confession last month.
The girl who I was
talking about found out that I sent this to you.
She then asked me out.
But I rejected her. I am going to find me the right one!!!
I had a friend who
always said for years she will date any man big or small who meets
all the requirements.
I have a good job, VERY
GOOD, I am more than financially stable. I am not lazy,
I have no children, I love children.
I volunteer in my
community 8 hours a week. I have never been to jail.
I am educated but am
still in touch with where I came from.
I am told often how
handsome I am, I am a big man but I like to be active and take part
I am kind and generous
to those who are kind to me. I took care of my mother until
I will take care for my
woman and my children. I believe in quality time and romance.
I want to make love as
often as she does and will work my hardest to please her.
I love women and
I am open to going to
church even though I am not affiliated with any religion right now.
I like to cook though I
could use some help in the kitchen.
I am not stuck up and I
don't like to argue.
I own a home with land
and want to get married in my own backyard
where I can build a
gazebo for me and my wife
to sit under in our old
age and remember when we got married.
When I asked my friend
to date me she said NO!!!!
I asked her why and she
couldn't come up with any reason.
She finally confessed
it was because I was a Big Man.
Raqui she said YES!!!!! - We are going to get married. THANK YOU!!!
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Written By: Venicia
When I was a little girl, I was always friendly as hell to whoever
was in my presence. I honestly never met a stranger and I did not
see race, color, class, or creed when trying to get to know people.
Age meant nothing to me either.
One summer my great-grandmother took me with her to a funeral. I met
many senior citizens that day. In my mind, they were all my friends.
All they had to say was hello. My great-grandmother was impressed
and concerned at the same time. When she returned me to my mother
she said, "Venicia is the friendliest child I have ever met." "She
will talk to anyone, and she has no fear." Let me remind you all, at
this time, the nation was not plagued with pedophile phobia. So it
was no problem for people to allow their children to roam the
streets and the neighborhoods and talk to strangers without
reservation. At least where I was from. Well as I got older, nothing
changed. I am still that same "people loving" little girl. Anyone
who knows me can attest to this-- I love meeting new people.
Unfortunately, this is not always a positive thing and I have had
much trauma from meeting strangers, but it has not stopped me.
Getting to the nature of this article. I was recently
reminded of one of those times when a stranger was really a
"STRANGER," and my friendliness got me in trouble.
I was going to the NCO Club on the base
here in Montgomery. That night I thought I was bringing sexy back. I
had on, I am embarrassed to say, a pair of tights with a flair
bottom jacket--and nothing else. The jacket stopped at my knees so
if I bent over, that's right, nothing but ASS in your face (and
y'all know I have PLENTY of it). I don't remember exactly how old I
was but I would guess about 21, maybe younger. Well, I went to the
club with my girlfriend April and a few other girls. We were dancing
our asses off. I know I was dancing like I was trying to pay some
rent. LOL. I, of course, noticed a gentleman watching me.
Ohhh honey...I really started doing it then. I was dropping it as
low as I could get it, and when it wouldn't get any lower, yes
y'all, I did a split and started bouncing with it (it was the early
to mid '90s so give me a break). But shit, what was I thinking? So,
I sat down after almost damaging my pelvic bone for life, and the
gentleman made his way to my table. He introduced himself, and I
will refer to him as Mr. K. I then introduced myself. I could tell
he was older than I was, and I am sure he thought I was older. I
recall him offering to buy me a drink, and I accepted, trying to be
a big girl, even though I knew I was not a drinker.
The conversation progressed, and to be very honest I was slightly
impressed. Though I remember the conversation not being about shit,
he was beautiful. My goodness was he beautiful! You know how our
common sense leaves us when eye candy is present. I don't know what
I was saying, I was just there taking all of his fineness in. I felt
real "top notch" bitch like. LOL. At any rate, to progress the
story, he asked me if I had a man, where I lived, what my occupation
was-- all of that surface bullshit. I answered-- probably 50% of it
true-- but the conversation continued. As the night progressed, I
danced a little more; mingled a little more; flirted a little more,
all of the while catching him watching me. Sure that he had caught
the "Big Kahuna" for the night, he settled at the table, cognac in
hand, and did not approach or talk to any other women for the rest
of the night. He was certain he had secured him a piece of ass for
the evening and wanted to be sure to send the message to me that I
was "his choice." WHATEVER! It worked. LOL.
As the night began to come to an end, I made sure I left out of the
club before he could see me, so that I could see if he would be
looking for me when he got out. Sure enough, he came out and subtly
tried to scan the parking lot for traces of me. I watched him look
for me for awhile and finally when my ego was full to the brim, I
made my way close enough to him so that he would see me talking to
my girls, and think it was a coincidence that he came across me
again. Damn, the games we play. Anyway, he made his way to me and
said, "I thought you left." I said, "Really...now why would I do
that?" He smiled. He then made more small talk and asked me how I
was getting home. I said, "I am the one with the I.D. card and the
sticker on my car to get on the base, so I usually end up driving."
He said, "Well that's too bad because I wanted to take you home." We
talked a little while longer and as the crowd started to die down,
he asked if I would go to his place once I took my girls home. At
first, I was not budging. The conversation was simple but his
patience was beginning to turn me on like his appearance had. I then
decided to let my girl drive my car so that I could go with him.
"April, I am going with this nigga, so drive my car back to the
house and I will get the keys later." She looked at me like I was
crazy, which I was, and said, "Are you crazy?" "Aaaaalright, that
nigga fuck yo shit up, don't call me." What was interesting about
this was, I was not sexually active and my friends knew this, so
they could not understand why I would put myself in these
Well, as I stated earlier, I love meeting new people and I will give
them the benefit of the doubt until they give me a reason to think
otherwise. I love good conversation and it is always interesting for
me to find a person that matches wits with me. Mr. K was no
exception to this rule. I gave him the benefit of the doubt. Moving
on, we get to his car and I remember it was yellow...as HELL, and
the windows were darkly tinted. I think I felt a little apprehensive
then. Who in the hell drives a canary yellow car? Strange. Well, I
got in anyway. He put on some mellow music and we began to drive
off. Now, as many of you know, you have to drive a certain speed
limit while on any military installation. He slowly pulled out of
the parking lot and not soon after we turned the first corner, he
was talking about what he wanted to do to me once he got me to his
place. He reached over and put his hand on my leg. I said, "Wait a
minute, I am not going with you to have sex with you." He looked at
me as if to say, that's what you think.
There were more advances and as he began to slide his hand up my leg
which was only clothed with tights, I said, "You know what, I think
you should take me back." I moved his hand and he sped up. I began
to get uncomfortable and nervous. I again asked him to take me back
because I felt that I had made a mistake. He said. "No, you will be
alright once we get there." As the car started moving faster, I
opened up the door and he started yelling at me to close it. I said,
"I will close it if you will turn around." Not only did he not turn
around, he grabbed my wrist and started driving even faster. The
next thing I knew he started cursing and slowing down. I felt that
it was my opportunity to escape. Yes, escape because I had
officially been kidnapped. NO BULLSHIT! So as he continued cursing
and slowing down, I snatched out of the grip he had on me and
proceeded to get ready to make the great "get-away." Just as I got
my foot outside of the car, I heard the sirens. I got out of the car
and the police told me not to move. I was so busy trying to keep his
hands from under my dress that I did not see the flashing blue
lights. Mr. K said to me, "Look at what you have done." Once the
police approached the car, they asked me what I was doing. I told
them I just wanted to go back to the club where my car was. They
attempted to question me and I said that I left with him, did not
really know him and that I wanted to go back. I had no desire to get
him in any more trouble than what he was already in for speeding on
the base, so I said nothing more than, "I just want to walk back." I
could tell the officer knew something was not right. He looked at me
dead in my eyes and without saying a word, I could feel him tell me,
"I bet you won't do that shit anymore." I felt the chastisement that
he was giving me through his eye contact and body language. He said,
"Wait, I will take you back." I replied, "No, I'm fine, I will
walk." Staring through my soul, he replied, "Are you sure you are
okay?" "Yes, I will be fine," I said. I was mortified. I felt so
stupid. What a horrible decision. All I could do was turn around and
I called myself every idiot I could think of. I think I would have
slapped the shit out of myself if I wasn't in public. Here I was,
limping back to the club with a jacket and some tights on. My hair
frizzled, my soul frazzled. The officer was fine as hell, wrist was
sore and my pelvic bone was still throbbing from that stupid ass
split. "Why me Lord?" I could not understand why I kept doing that
to myself. Well, I would love to say that in conclusion, I learned
this great lesson, but that would be a lie. It is now ten or so
years later and that has happened to me at least 5 times again since
that incident. I will give you the details later.
The moral of the story is, yes you can be too friendly, and there is
nothing wrong with that. The problem comes in when you get in the
car and leave....LOLOL
Unfortunately this is a true story.
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I am scared about traveling
to Vegas for the bash. I don't know anyone there!
Many people feel the
same way but remember that the Vegas bash is a place to
meet lots of new people. I don't know many in
Vegas either. I am sure you will make many new friends
and you can always come hang with me. Go to the
message boards on
www.bbwnetwork.com and see if you can make
some new friends in the meantime.
We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the
surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion. But I have
found out that many clothing stores and online companies are
beginning to take up the slack. Creative BBW, SSBBW and
BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding
basic everyday wear and night club wear.
Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your
wonderful finds here. If your a regular shopper, sew your
own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by
submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.
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Swim wear and Cover Ups and Clothing
This wonderful site has been around for years and still
provides some of the best in Plus Sized Clothing.
Custom made if necessary and high quality. It is
worth the money when you have a item that is long
lasting and perfect in its fit. Just ask anyone
woman that attends Vegas Bash. almost everyone is
wearing Love Your Peaches by the pool side.
A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge. Find out what is
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and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves
smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life. What kind of
products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids
to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc. anything that can help a
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Name of Product:Active Mobility (Website)
Type of Product:
Sales and Rentals of Mobility Products
offers sales and rentals of mobility
products, including wheelchairs, scooters, walkers, and
crutches. We are an owner-operated business and have been
serving Las Vegas and the surrounding area for five
years. We offer a large selection of mobility products for
disabled and handicapped people with great pricing and the
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Why I like this Product: I like this company because they understand a big person's needs. I
recently injured my knee and I thought all would be ok until
I twisted it again. Now with the Vegas Bash coming up
and knowing I will have to walk a lot I figured I better get
a scooter. The last thing I wanted was to go all the
way to Vegas and be unable to get around because of my knee.
I could imagine myself sitting in bed all day while everyone
else is getting around on scooters. My knee a mess.
So I took the plunge and said SCOOTER IT IS!!!
If you know you will be at a location in which you will have
to do a lot of walking you might want to rent a scooter.
Rentals are quite affordable. This company also helps
you own your scooter or other item if you so wish :)