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Welcome to Large In Charge Magazine           

 Issue #54 - September 2008

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of LIC


Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News

Guest Spot - Shelly Willer


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month

Club Catalina

of San Diego


Kathy Hernandez

Club Catalina

     The word is that in San Diego there is a BBW Entertainment Company who is making big moves.  As see in local papers, on the net and as a Supporter of other Companies. Club Catalina is representing BBW's and Admirers with passion.


     Kathy Hernandez has been making waves and making a mark on the map as far as acceptance and unity for the BBW community.  Club Catalina parties do more than bring people of size together, they bring people of many nationalities together to have a great time.  Catering to the many needs and wants that a diverse crowd can have has been a work that Kathy takes on.


     Since November of 2007 Kathy has kept Club Catalina going and reaches out to many in the Plus Sized Community.  I know if I ever get a chance to head out to San Diego Club Catalina is on my list of places to go :)




Interview What is your name and where are you from originally?

My name is Kathy Hernandez and I grew up in Michigan and Florida but have been in San Diego County for 23 years so I definitely consider San Diego County home for me. Do you consider your self a Person of size or an admirer?

Yes I am definitely a person of size and have pretty much always been on the chunky or thick side as a child and I have been a bbw since I have been in my teen years. Tell us about your company

I own and promote Club Catalina in San Diego which is a BBW/Size Acceptance Hip Hop Night Club where everyone no matter what their size is more than welcome to come and dance with me. Who is the owner/founder of your company?

I am the sole owner and founder of Club Catalina.  The Grand Opening of Club Catalina was on November 3, 2007 and I am open on Saturdays from 9 pm til 2 am.  The cover charge is $5 from 9 pm til 10 pm and after 10 pm the cover charge is $10. How did your company get its name?

My name is Kathy and my nick name in Spanish is Catalina, my ex husband and his friends called me Catalina and I thought it was a great name for a San Diego Club also because we have Catalina Island here. How did your company begin?

I started promoting a BBW night club over 3 years ago with a partner and loved promoting size acceptance and the BBW Night Club, the people, the music and decided to start my own club in July of 2007. How long has your company been in business?

Club Catalina had our Grand Opening on November 3, 2007 so we have been open and in operation for 5 months and we are growing all the time.  I see a lot of new faces with each week Club Catalina is open. What territory do you cover?  Your state, other states?

Club Catalina is based in San Diego so we generally have people from San Diego, Inland Empire, Riverside County, San Diego also has a lot of people who come for business so I get a lot of people e mailing from out of state letting me know they will be in San Diego and would like more information about Club Catalina so they can join us while they are here in town. What type of publicity has your company received?

I have been the cover story on San Diego City Beats, an article in the Valley Center Roadrunner and an article in La Prensa newspaper.  I have also been on BBW Talk Radio and Palomar College Radio in San Marcos.  The more publicity that Club Catalina and other BBW receive the better because there are a lot of people who don't know about BBW Clubs and BBW events such as the NAAFA Annual convention and the BBW Vegas Bash. Has your company ever been featured in print, radio, news, tv?

I have been the cover story on San Diego City Beats, an article in the Valley Center Roadrunner and an article in La Prensa newspaper.  I have also been on BBW Talk Radio and Palomar College Radio in San Marcos.  The more publicity that Club Catalina and other BBW receive the better because there are a lot of people who don't know about BBW Clubs and BBW events such as the NAAFA Annual convention and the BBW Vegas Bash. How could someone with talent approach your company if they wanted to perform at an event of yours?

I have had rappers such as Tree and Jadox perform for my group at midnight and share their musical talent with us. What is the key to helping Plus Sized Entertainers achieve there dreams?

I think exposure is the main key to helping Plus Sized Entertainers and letting everyone see how talented they are. Tell us about your first event (what kind of event) and was the turn out substantial?

Club Catalina had our first event on November 3, 2008 and we had 128 people come and party with us. Do you hold events regularly, and how many people attend?

Club Catalina is open on 3 Saturdays a month for right now but I'm hoping to be open every Saturday in the summer time.  The average attendance is around 70 right now but I've had as high as 128. Do you promote other types of events other than the ones you hold now?

I primarily promote Club Catalina but I spread the word about all the other BBW Clubs in Southern California when anyone lives outside of San Diego and make sure they have the other BBW Night Clubs web addresses so they can party up North if that is where they live. Do you have any major events coming up in the near future?

I have been chosen to host the NAAFA Annual Convention in Los Angeles that is being held from July 8 to 13 so I am very excited about being chosen to represent NAAFA at the Friday night dance.  I am also excited about the exposure that Club Catalina will get on a national forum. What are your long term goals?

My Long term goals for Club Catalina are to buy my own building so I can have more control over the plus sized furniture, decor and be able to make decisions without asking the management of a facility to be able to prepare for the Club Catalina events.  I would like to eventually be open at least 2 nights a week as a BBW Hip Hop Night Club in San Diego, I would like to be open on Thursdays for karaoke or be able to have my building available to rent out for birthday parties, anniversarys or weddings on Sundays. Tell us about your location and if it is comfortable for people of size?  

Club Catalina is located at Padre Gold conventiently off the 163 and Genessee Avenue exit.  The club is very spacious and the chairs are comfortable because they are open so any sized person can comfortably sit in them without being uncomfortable.  The bathrooms have 3 stalls to each bathroom, We have 2 pool tables, darts, computerized games to play also. Who is your house DJ?

My house DJ is DJ Carlo and he plays a great selection of hip hop, R & B, reggae, old school, rock, 80's and salsa. Do you promote events in other states?

I don't promote events in other states but if anyone asks about another BBW Night Club or BBW Organization in their states I definitely give them their web site or have even encouraged other people who don't have a BBW Night Club in their city to start one on their own and give them suggestions on what they should do to be able to have a successful BBW Night Club. What is the response you receive from the BBW / BHM community?

The response from the BBW/BHM Community has been extremely positive and I have a large group of men and women who constantly tell people they meet anywhere they go about Club Catalina, they volunteer to help me decorate, charge cover and give me great suggestions on themes for the club. How can the readers at help support your company?

I think the readers at Large in Charge can help support Club Catalina by telling their friends, family and co workers about Club Catalina in San Diego and if they live in the area or are visiting San Diego to come and dance with us, socialize and make new friends. Do you have any other companies or entrepreneurs that you admire or collaborate with?

I have a deep amount of respect and admiration for Cher Rue, previously of Club Bounce, because she has been a great friend of mine for many years and has always been there with suggestions and shared what she knows works and doesn't work for a BBW Night Club.  I also collaborate with the other BBW Night Clubs and re post their bulletins and tell people about their clubs such as:  The Butterfly Lounge in Costa Mesa, Club Bounce in Long Beach and Club Siren in the City of Industry. What is the key to giving a successful People of Size Event?

I think the key to being successful is having a great group of people who are there to have fun, make friends and dance.  I think the people that come to the club definitely make Club Catalina what it is, without the people and the friendship than I don't think Club Catalina would be continuously growing. Tell us about your clients?

My clients are a diverse group, we have an age span that extends from 21-55 for the most part.  We are also a diverse racial group which I love, hispanic, african american, asian, caucasion, mexican, african, puerto rican, jamaican and haitian. Who are some of your business or influences that you admire?

I have a deep amount of respect and admiration for Cher Rue, previously of Club Bounce, because she has been a great friend of mine for many years and has always been there with suggestions and has shared what she knows works and doesnít work for a successful BBW Night Club.  I also collaborate with the other BBW Night Clubs and re post their bulletins and tell people about their clubs such as:  The Butterfly Lounge in Costa Mesa, Club Bounce in Long Beach and Club Siren in the City of Industry and Club Sinsations in Las Vegas and their new Los Angeles location.  Give on sentence that best describes your company?

Club Catalina is where the Sexy and Classy BBWís Party in San Diego!!


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Cover Model of the Month

Jada Vegas


Interview What is your name?

Jada Vegas Where are you from and what is your current Location?

Born and raised in Staten Island, New York Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am 29yrs old My birthday is October 18th I will have my dirty 30 god willing this year. I am 5'10, African American Engaged to my son's father Al Nazon aka BIG VEGAS. We recently set our wedding, May 23, 2009-- I am very excited for the bachelorette party LOL  just kidding sweetie. I have one son Justin Avery Nazon. And God could not have blessed us with any other.  I love them so much. Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I actually was a very skinny child. Flat chest always wanted big breast. I guess that old saying holds true be careful what you wish for. And as I got into high school I started gaining weight. I didn't really mind because it was always in the right places if you know what I mean. (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?

I actually gained a lot of weight when I was pregnant with my son. Ladies just because you are pregnant you do not have to eat for two please believe me. I lost most of the weight right after because I started to breast feed. But I stopped after two months. But just being home and not working, which was a mutual decision between Al and I, it just got crazy. I gained all the weight back that I lost and then some. I was a little depressed because I wasn't used to looking like this. What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search? 

Because since I was in my late teen early twenties I would always joke and say I could definitely be a plus size model. but you know what they say there is sometimes truth in jokes.  And after I had my son I like many other mothers I thought my life was over. You know you can't hang out anymore with your friends have alone time with yourself and just your significant other.  But I soon came back to my senses. I realized if I am going to teach my son, nieces and nephews about life I have to live it. My favorite quote" Never regret anything because at one point its what you really wanted," Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

I must say No. I can't depend on anyone to accept me. I accept myself through all my hardships and faults. No one has to live with me for the rest of my life but me. And I can only be me. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Oh yes, that's one thing I can say all of my family, my close friends which are like my family even co-workers have been so supportive and helpful, just really great. I don't have any stories like many others have had of how people have turned on them or put them down. I have been so blessed to have so many people around me  who love and support me. And I must say that everything that I do, I see that I am encouraging other women not just plus size women to just be themselves. And step out of their shells and I am just so glad that they see a little part of me in themselves and that is all I could ask for. What would you say inspires you most in life?

My fiance, I tell everyone that really knows me, that I prayed for him? And since I met him I am not going to say that he completes. But since I met him I have become more, of who I really am. What is your primary job?

A Freelance Court Stenographer ( a court reporter) How did you get into this line of work?

A women came to my high school and did a demonstration and talked about how much money you could make and that was it.  It wasn't a dream of mine but for now a reality. Do you find acceptance in the work force?

Yes, But it is not for me. I am a people person I love to talk to people interact with people and court reporting you just can't do that for me.  I still work at he hospital part-time for the benefits. What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

They need to stop sleeping on us big people. Please anything they can do we can do better. And don't be just because I am big I can out dress them on my worst day.  LoL What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

 I think if your going to do big clothes. Do big clothes got damn it. Don't stop at 14-16 do the damn thing and go all out.  They want to joke on what we wear the floral dress and the stretch pants than do something about. That's how I feel. The plus size community has a lot of purchasing power. What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I like to see somebody like me on every channel if not me. LOL Most women are not skinty yes I meant to say s-k-i-n-t-y. They are real women with real looks real responsibilities real stress, and just trying to make it.Their the one's I see everyday not these models skinny models in Paris.  Also, our plus size sistas understanding this is first-impression- image-based business. They have to be able to sell the whole package. What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

It will be the Big Girls and Guys TAKEOVA!!! It would definitely be a movement.  They wouldn't know what to do with us. They can't keep us in this little box forever. Trust me a change is going to come. And I know I will be alive to see it.  It would also have a positive impact for the plus size youth coming to have better sense of self-worth. Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

Torrid, I love love fashion to figure they have everything the skinty girl stores have. Ashley Stewart.  Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

Have exuberant great sex  safe sex with some one you love. And oh yeah drink lots of water.  Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot.  What should models be prepared for?

Pay attention and listen to what the photographer and designers are asking of you. Different temperaments, personalities, and if you don't have your stuff together you can be asked to go home. Also, be mindful of what you eat three days prior. High sodium foods tend to cause water retention (not good!!) Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now.  What changes do you see?

I see a lot more plus size designers even if old navy doesn't want us to shop in their store anymore only online? What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance? 

God willing Bryant Park!!! Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

My goals as far as modeling. I just want to be the best I could be. Not to sound cocky or anything but I believe I am my only competition Its not fair  to me or god to be jealous of who someone else is. Its like a slap in face to god to say that he didn't know what he was doing when he made me. I strive to be better then I was yesterday, last week. last year. And I look back and say damn I made  a lot of mistakes but I will be damn if I don't learn from them. I am doing the first ever plus size on flea market  and fashion show in Staten Island.  some people say when they come to Staten island it doesn't seem like any of the other five boroughs which is true its not. but I would like for plus women here on Staten Island to see the what real women look like, and see that there is a place for us in these five boroughs to. shit Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

I really don't have just one I have many But I was really inspired at last year's Art of Curves fashion show. I never  seen so many plus size women with different types of swagger and body shapes it was great to watch. Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My son, I look at his little face and god know he drives me crazy at times. But I am like I responsible for him I can't just give up,  my life is not just my own. What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

You've got to believe in yourself you can't wait for some one else to believe in you. and just do the Damn thing. What plus size figure do you admire?

Lol I tell her this all the time Jeannie aka Ginger Her walk first of all is crazy. But she is just mad down to earth and she tell it how it is., Describe yourself with one word.



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Cover Model of the Month

Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Vegas Bash Sadness

Written By: Raqui


     If you read this months feature you can tell I was so happy to be in Vegas this year for BBWNetworks Vegas Bash.  The Biggest event for People of Size this annual event has been described as life changing. This year was lucky 13 and I hope to make it to the 14th annual next year.


     Though I was a happy time and I think of all the fun I had, I feel a lot of sadness.  I felt sadness because I met so many people who I have made a connection with.  Those who I knew of before attending The Bash and those who I just met while there.  I dreamed last night that I was at The Bash and I was seeing the friends I made and talking and laughing.  Making plans for Lunch and Dinner, hugging them and smiling.  I realized that I feel a great deal of loss now being home.  I want to see those people who with just a look in the eye we connected in some way.  Those who I shared moments with and felt like we knew each other forever.  I spent my last two days at The Bash crying on and off with happiness and sadness. 


     Most don't take me as a very emotional person, they believe I am completely upbeat.   I would say I am very passionate, and with that the feelings I had at Vegas were just compounded with the fact that at some point I had to go home.  I had to leave the people who I wanted to see more of.  I could see my life filled with them and their faces.  Hanging out and doing things together.


     But a part of me realizes that it is a gift, to have a place to go to and meet all the people who you only kinda know from online.  That fact that you have friends from all over the country is amazing because with out the internet we wouldn't know each other. I guess we call it bittersweet and I will always remember the wonderful times I had.  I hope to make it next year because I now cant imagine not going. 


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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





My people, mi genteÖ

Welcome to Supersized Sounds Music Menu where I will be hooking you all up with audible treats for your ears with the latest music downloads and youtubeís and if by some small chance an artists submits an album (I repeat an ALBUM) to review then Iíll incorporate it but for now enjoy this months hot joints


By clicking on the Div Share Bar you can download any of these tracks. :)

The Appetizer, Gloria Velez - Touch my Body

and here is some soup for the reggae soul Mashonda Ft Lady Saw ď All or NothingĒ

And here is our starter/chaser Nyoil ďGirls Wanna DanceĒ

And here is our main course I know I said I didnít feel like supporting him but what the hellÖheís whatís hot and popping! Brand New REMIX ft Lil Wayne

with some potatoes and macho nachos.. hmmm And hereís a bonus track.

Itís fire! 50 Cent ft L.L. Cool J ďFeel My HeartbeatĒ click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna ďLive your LifeĒ

click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna ďLive your LifeĒ

click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna ďLive your LifeĒ


click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna ďLive your LifeĒ and here is the cherry on top And here goes a youtube of a full figured sensation killing the mainstream scene. Viva Gorditas!! Adele ďChasing PavementsĒ

click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna ďLive your LifeĒ

Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

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From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


Confession - To a Beautiful Woman

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

            If you heard what I said about you, Iím sorry.  I was just sitting around with some friends when your name came up, and I had to speak my mind.  I didnít know you were right around the corner.

            I donít really hate you because youíre stupid.  I donít even know for sure if you are stupid, although I suspect that you might be.  But maybe not.  I wish I knew for sure that you were, to be honest.  Then I would have something that you donít.

            Like I said, Iím sorry if you heard me say I hate you, but that doesnít mean Iíll pretend I didnít say it.  And I wonít pretend I didnít mean it, either.  It hurts me to say that, probably more than it hurts you to hear it.  I know thatís a terrible clichť, but itís true.  I feel judgmental and petty and cruel.  I donít want to hate you.  I donít want to hate anyone.  I canít help it.  Maybe Iím just insecure.

            I hate you because you know how to wear high-heeled shoes.  They make you look longer and leaner and more vampish than you always do anyway.  They make men practically drool as they watch you walk across a room.  They make your hips wiggle and sway when you move, just the way a womanís hips are supposed to wiggle and sway.  My hips donít delicately wiggle and sway, they bounce and flop and galumph with every step.  Nothing I do will ever make a man look at me the way they look at you when you cross a room in heels.

            I hate you because you donít have to censor yourself into ďcoolness.Ē  You can say whatever cutesy, girly things you want to, even to men, just because they like to look at you.  The other day, you told an entire group of men exactly how many pairs of shoes you have, and why you need each pair, and they just rolled their eyes and smiled in amusement.  I laughed and said I had just as many and they sighed in disgust and looked away.  The mere mention of your new haircut or the sweater you bought last night brings them in droves to gaze upon your beauty and shower you with compliments.  When I proudly mention my new acquisitions, they dismiss me as insignificant and change the subject to cars or football.  Men are your audience, not mine.  One more reason that I hate you.

            Oh, and I hate you because you know how to wear makeup, too.  You somehow know which colors match your skin tone, accent your lips, bring out the blue in your eyes.  Your skin is clear and blemish free and perfectly decorated at all times.  When I complain to men about the fact that women have to wear makeup to impress them, they tell me Iím wrong.  They tell me they donít even notice things like hair and makeup and nail polish.  They lie.  I know this because it is women like you, smoothly made up and airbrushed to perfection, that attract men.

            Maybe itís because of all the attention you garner for yourself that you have mastered the art of flirting so completely.  A flash of your smile, a dip of your head, a few teasing words and every man within a mile turns into a blithering idiot who canít think of anything but you.  You always know exactly the right words to say so that every one of them is under the impression that you think heís the most wonderful man in the world.  I hate it when you do that, especially to men you arenít interested in.  The ones you donít want might be the same ones other women donít want, too, so I could have a chance with them.  But you pretend youíre interested even if youíre not, and what man is going to give me, plain and fat and not at all sophisticated, a shot, if he thinks he might have one with you?

            It never ceases to amaze me the way you can dance right up to the line between innocent flirtation and inappropriate sexual suggestiveness, tickle it with your toe, and then back away without every crossing that line.  Iíve studied you carefully hundreds of times and still I canít mimic your technique.  When I think Iím being outrageously flirtatious, men canít even begin to pick up on my cues.  And when I try and give it that little extra punch, I manage to dive right over that line you so expertly avoid.  You draw men toward you even as you push them back; I make them turn and run.

            I hate you because you donít know things and thatís okay.  You play the role of innocent woman in need with finesse.  I donít know how you do it, because every time Iím caught in a moment of uncertainty, I look stupid, not cute.  Instead of looking like I need a big, strong man to help me, I just look like Iíd be too much trouble for any man to deal with.  It doesnít seem fair.  My intelligence is the only thing I have going for me, and intelligence isnít something men seek in the first place.  Which means, of course, that I have to rein it in at times so I donít scare anyone away.  I envy you.  It would be nice if I could pull off the damsel in distress routine the way you can, or even just ask for help every now and then.

            Most of all, I hate you because you are loved.  I hate you because you are wanted, desired.  Because at the end of the day, you have a man waiting to hold you, caress you, just be with you.  Youíre engaged to a man who treats you like a queen, but that doesnít seem to be enough for you.  You have the undivided attention and admiration of your fiancť and of every other man youíve ever met, but you always strive for more.  Why canít you at least leave my friends alone?  Iíll let you have every other man in the world if you will just leave my male friends alone. 

            It only seems fair that I should be able to have one or two guys for myself.  I can accept that they will never be attracted to me the way they are to you, and that they will never touch me, hold me, love me.  Thatís just part of who I am.  But I have their attention when you are not around.  Then you prance into the room begging for backrubs and sitting on laps and flirting and strutting and laughing like you have somehow earned the right to be the center of every manís world, just by being beautiful.

            I hate you because you ask for these things and because you get them.  When you are around, I do not exist.  You have a man waiting at home to give you everything he has.  Please donít take away the little male attention I get.  Iím begging you.  Itís all I have, all that makes me a worthy human being.  You have everything.  Just let me have something.

            I admit that I said I hate you.  Iím sorry if you heard me.  Iím sorry if I hurt you.  But there are a thousand men lined up to comfort you, so I think youíll live.  You can handle hearing that I hate you because of how you look, because of how you are.  Maybe it will give you just a little bit of an idea what it feels like to be me.  You know the pain you feel right now, from finding out that one person in the world doesnít like you?  That pain is my whole life, and there is no one who is willing to hold me in his arms and comfort me.  When I try to explain how I feel, no matter who I may be explaining to, I am told that I should stop being insecure, that I should be bold and confident, get over it.  But it isnít that easy.  I need a little help, a little encouragement.  A little bit of what you have. 

            I know you donít understand.  You canít.  If you did, you would be perfect.  And then I would hate you even more.


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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude


Labor of Love

by Xander The Food Dude

Labor Day always came with a bittersweet taste.  That is to say it was a great time to cook out, but it also marked the ending of summer.  If find that these days I really enjoy the 6AM-9PM (or later) daylight hours.  I have taken the time to relish the spring and summer this year.  I savor each late night light hours like honey knowing that soon (all too soon) weíll be back to darkness in the middle of the afternoon.  Weíll be spending more time indoors just waiting for the long summer days again.

Since Labor Day is the last noted party time of the cook out season I wanted to send you out a truly great recipe.  Yes, there are the diehards who actually stand in the snow to cook out, but as we get older, our feet get colder and we canít stand in the snow to have another grilled steak.

Iíve include a rub recipe so that you can use it all year long.  It works well on the grill as well as in the oven.

We see the community pool emptied, kids are back in school, the lakes are dropped to a lower level, and it seems as the world around is folding up the tents until next summer.  The great thing about these recipes is that can work all year long.  If you get to longing for those summer tastes dazzle your friends with the rub treatment and traditional summer foods in the winter to tide you over until the spring comes again.

I think itís during the coldest months that we appreciate the heat of summer the most.  Itís a lot like not appreciating being healthy until you get a really bad cold.  This last part of summer, go out into the night and appreciate the spectacular world around us and breathe in the cool summer night.  Thereís something about the night air at this time of the year that brings contentment to me.  It settles me, which after and all too short spring and summer, I really need now.  Soon the leaves will turn, and October will bring the start of the holidays.  Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Yearís will pass in rapid succession on our way back to spring again.  Somewhere in the darkness and cold of the winter months, I know Iíll be longing again to fill my lungs with the air of the sweet southern summer night.  Iíll be longing for peace and contentment once again that only this time of year can bring me.

I welcome you all to the fall.

May God Bless Each of you.

Xander's Recipe of the Month


Worldís Best Rub

This rub goes great on beef, brisket, or pork, just give it try and chances are you wonít ever use another.  If youíre going to use this as a marinade, let it soak overnight to get the full impact of the flavor.


  • 1 tablespoon ground mustard
  • 1 tablespoon seafood seasoning, such as Old Bayô
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons garlic powder
  • 1 tablespoon ground white pepper
  • 1 tablespoon ground black pepper
  • 1 tablespoon red pepper flakes
  • 2 tablespoons paprika
  • 1 tablespoon kosher salt
  • 1 1/2 teaspoons ground cumin
  • 3 tablespoons white sugar
  • 3 tablespoons brown sugar



1.      Mix together mustard, seafood seasoning, garlic powder, white pepper, black pepper, red pepper flakes, paprika, salt, cumin, white sugar, and brown sugar in a bowl until evenly combined.

2.      To use, rub the mixture on up to 5 pounds of meat and refrigerate from 2 to 12 hours before smoking or grilling.



1 whole chicken, quartered
3 cups canola oil
2 cups all-purpose flour
1 1/2 tablespoons seasoned salt
1 1/2 tablespoons garlic salt
1 tablespoon paprika
1 1/2 teaspoons black pepper
1/2 teaspoon salt

Wash pieces of chicken and place in a bowl of ice water. In a deep frying pan, heat canola oil over medium-high heat.

Pour flour into a bowl. Season flour with 1 tablespoon of the seasoned salt, 1 tablespoon of the garlic salt, and the paprika; mix well. Remove chicken from ice bath and set on plate. Sprinkle chicken with the remaining seasoned salt and garlic salt, the pepper, and the 1/2 teaspoon salt. Coat all sides of chicken pieces with seasoned flour. Pat off excess flour.

Place each piece of chicken in hot oil. Fry about 15 minutes, turning pieces occasionally until cooked thoroughly and golden brown. Remove chicken from pan. Place on plate lined with paper towels to soak up excess oil.


6 medium white potatoes, peeled and sliced
1/2 cup mayonnaise or salad dressing
1/4 cup chopped onion
1/4 cup pickle relish
2 tablespoons Dijon mustard
1 tablespoon chopped garlic
1 tablespoon dried Italian seasoning
1 teaspoon celery seeds
1 teaspoon of garlic powder
1 teaspoon onion powder
1 teaspoon paprika
1/8 teaspoon black pepper
3 hard-cooked eggs, peeled and diced

Bring a large pot of water to a boil. Add potato slices and boil just until tender but not mushy. Drain; set aside to cool.

In a large bowl combine mayonnaise, onion, relish, mustard, garlic, Italian seasoning, celery seeds, garlic powder, onion powder, paprika, and pepper; mix well. Add potato and diced eggs; stir gently to combine. Chill until ready to serve.



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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!



One for All Black Carpet Event

Article by: Cher Rue 

On May 29th a Fashion Show Benefit for ONE Campaign Partners such as CARE USA, Oxfam, and Africare produced by with a committee host headed by DIVA was held at ELEVEN Restaurant and Nightclub in Hollywood California, Instinct Magazine was the official media partner.

There was a silent auction, photo exhibit by Edwin Santiago, and a card game launch by Amanda Brown. Complimentary drinks and appetizers were served at the VIP area. More than 200 gift bags that contained a signed CD, magazines, Face Facts high-end facial products, Parke and Ronen flip-flops, certificates by Alterna Professional Hair Care, Rainbow Flowers 4 You, Massage Envy, LMG Studio, and many other interesting stuff were handed out to guests towards the end of the event.

It was a black carpet event that had David Shark, Christine Elise McCarthy of 90210, Author Amanda Brown, Bobby Trendy, Adam Thomas, Lawrence Reed, Pauly David, Cher Rue, Amanda Rushing, Johnny V, Jessica Borden, David Groener, Suzette Tomlinson, Jazz Singer Kim Yarbrough, Hector Monseratte, Jonathan Chang, many other celebrities and personalities.

The show started with an introduction of celebrity host Nathan Lee Graham by co-host Gaetano Jones. Then, it was followed by special live performances by Pop/Rock Singer Amanda Abizaid and Rockstar/Rapper Freedom Hill.

DJ Perry Twins started the fashion show with Madonna's current hit song "4 Minutes" bringing out the hot male models in summer and swimsuit attires by LASC doing a challenging runway that involved stairs. Then, the male models continued to strut on the runway with Parke and Ronen's newest line of casual wear.

Rihanna's "Please don't stop the music" had the sexy female models walking out in body hugging creations by Freedom Hill wearing stunning shoes with Swarovski crystals by Tarla. Followed by both female and male models walking the runway in Thai Nguyen Haute Couture. The show ended showcasing Hollywood hat maker, Baron Hats.


Adam Pascale
Brand B
Dragan Jovanovic
Elliot Elsner
Jacqueline Catala
Penny Drake
Monique Fierro
Pierre Cantu





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Hot & Heavy Entertainment


     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


Better Roles for Bigger People ... It's Possible
with Stephanie Baham


Sookie - Melissa McCarthcy      /     Doug - Kevin James      /     Newman - Dwayne Wright              

So who was that perky plus sized chef on Gilmore Girls?

That's the question I asked myself every time I watched Gilmore Girls.  The character of Sookie St. James was a talented chef, a big girl & a big part of that show.  I found out I was watching the delightful Melissa McCarthy, cousin of former Playboy model, Jenny McCarthy.  (Personally, I think Melissa looks lovelier).

I remember the WB was notorious for it's shows about the angst of young adults. Young skinny adults.  But when Gilmore Girls hit the airwaves, I was happy to see they actually cast a woman of size in a positive leading role.  

But then I began to wait to THAT story know...THAT story line where they decide to "tackle" her "weight issue."  I was waiting for the fat axe to fall.  I saw story lines about her character's career, marriage, friendships....but no "fat" story line!  Had I been spared the same old "oh my gosh she's having an issue with her weight" episode?  Well, at least I hope so. I didn't see every single episode of Gilmore Girls, but I saw a lot and I don't remember a "omg I'm fat" episode. 

Another thing I noticed about Melissa's character on Gilmore Girls was her sense of style.  Sookie St. James wore some of the cutest outfits with fun colors and styles.  It was the first time I noticed a plus sized character was given a sense of fashion.  Usually the big girls are wearing sweaters and the big guys are wearing Hawaiian shirts.  But Sookie had outfits that would rival Carrie Bradshaw from Sex And The City.  Take that Manhattan!

Even her character's hair had it's own personality.  It wasn't pulled down around her face as if they needed to hide the fullness of her beautiful cheeks.....Sookie St. James was usually sporting her pigtails and bandanna.

It appeared to me that the WB actually took time to cultivate this character and make her beautiful on more then one level.  Her character was likable, entertaining, stylish and living a "normal life" without some obsessive weight issue.  This is the type of thing that I really look for in a plus sized character.  It's not enough to me to just see a big girl on the screen.  My hope is that big girls (and guys) continue to get leading roles that are quality...not just "the fat chick" or "the fat guy."

Fortunately, I think Hollywood is slowly coming around.  We've got great characters on tv such as Doug from Queen of Kings played by Kevin James.  Or Newman from Seinfeld played by Dwayne Wright.  Newman might not be the most likable....but he's a great character!  It's not enough for me to turn on the tv and say "Hey look there's a big girl/guy on this show! That's great!"  It will only be great if the character is great.

There are some movies/tv shows that do tackle the "weight issue".  And that's fine, that's a part of life.  But it's not the only part.  And it shouldn't be the only thing that Hollywood chooses to put on the screen. 

About 15 years ago I was a young aspiring actress in the Theatre Department of California State University, Long Beach. And in every audition I went into, I always had that little voice saying "what if you're too fat?" No director ever told me that...but it always stuck in my mind.  Pretty soon I began to get roles that I thought would have been reserved for skinny people. And that tells me there are some directors out there who weren't just looking for skinny.

When I got the bug for dancing, I was sure I was going too deep into skinny people territory.  But soon I got some dance roles that were more than just doing the hokey pokey and turning myself around. My crowing glory was getting the role of Cha-Cha in a production of Grease.  I was 22 years old and a size 18.  The guy that played Danny was a 16 year old who was 6' tall and skinny as a pole.  This kid must've had a 20" waist! And the choreographer was a size 4. I was surrounded by the skinniest people in the cast! But the choreographer believed in my skills more then I did.  She didn't doubt me for a second. And with her guidance we had a great number and I'll never forget how to do the Hand Jive as long as I live.

That's when I realized that in some places, people don't see size.  They see talent. Maybe one day the entire entertainment industry will be like that. As a matter of fact, I'm sure of it.  All we need is time, passion and we need to live large!



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National and International Plus Size News


     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.


British News Personality Scolded

by overweight job centre worker who posed for Lucian Freud after calling her 'Fat Sue'
with Iolande Argent



British News Personality scolded by overweight   job centre worker who posed for Lucian Freud after calling her 'Fat Sue'

UK news reporter Katie Derham infuriated an overweight job centre worker who posed naked for Lucian Freud live on TV yesterday by referring to her as Fat Sue.

ITV1 newsreader Katie, 37, upset 51-year-old Sue Tilley who posed for the life-size painting - that fetched a record £17million ($34M) at auction - after she thought Fat Sue was her nickname.

Katie introduced the segment: "When a job centre worker posed naked for a life-size painting for renowned artist Lucian Freud, Fat Sue, as she's affectionately known, said he got value for money because there was a lot of flesh.

"Sue Tilley, so gloriously painted now joins us from her home in central London."

"Sue, thanks ever so much for talking to us. You're a record breaker, how does that feel?"

"Yes, it is rather nice. But I'm not really happy when you call me Fat Sue, because that is not my name. And I'd appreciate it if you didn't call me that thank you" she fumed.

Blushing Katie groveled: "I absolutely apologize unreservedly - we thought it was an affectionate nickname given by you. But if not then you absolutely have the right to pick us up."

Sue replied: "No it wasn't."

An ITV source said: "Katie looked like she wanted the ground to swallow her up. It's every presenter's nightmare to make a gaffe like that on live broadcast.

"Katie didn't intend to be mean - she's always been regarded as nice."

The painting broke the world auction record for a work by a living artist in the Christie's sale at New York's Rockefeller Centre.

Tilley corrected Derham live on air forcing the newsreader to apologize.

Benefits Supervisor Sleeping beat the previous world auction record for a work by a living artist, held by Jeff Koons' Hanging Heart (Magenta/Gold), which fetched £11.3 million ($22.5M) last year.

The 1995 Freud painting depicts Sue Tilley, now 51, sleeping on a dilapidated sofa.

Ms Tilley, now a Job centre manager, said: "I'm thrilled. I still can't believe such a bizarre thing has happened to me. It hasn't sunk in properly."

Muse: Lucien Freud met Tilley in a nightclub 20 years ago and spent nine months painting her

Asked how she felt about posing nude, she said: "At first, I was a little bit embarrassed but after a while I just got used to it and it became a completely normal thing to do, like going to the doctor."

"I never weigh myself because I can't be bothered," she said.

Asked if she would ever sit for another artist, Ms Tilley said it was "hard to know where to go" as she had "started with the very best".

It was the first time Freud's Benefits Supervisor Sleeping, which was the highlight of Christie's New York Post-War and Contemporary Art Evening Sale, had appeared at auction.

The 85-year-old British artist first painted Tilley in Evening In The Studio (1993), for which she had to lie in an uncomfortable pose on a bare floor.


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Time to tell it like it is!


     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.


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There was a time that I loved you until you showed me that you couldn't love me back.





I watch her pass by me on her scooter everyday, I wave she smiles. 

I think about her at night and wonder if she thinks about me too.





I know you will be reading this.  Goodbye

It is time for me to go, I cant handle the fact that you hate my weight.





My LOVE, You have helped me to be know that I am beautiful





You have a woman, I have a man, but I think we should be together.





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Guest Writer of the Month

My Confessions

Written By: Freda McPeters


My Confessions of Being a Big Beautiful Woman


She walk real proud, Her confidence,  

has your head bowed,

Her image doesnt reside in mumu's and flower dresses,

she loves clothes that cling to her tripple D breastesses,

She's a 3 outta 3,

She don't lack,

Spiritual, Mental,

or Physical Maturity,

When you hug her,

Its deeper than a surface tap,

 her body is filled with love,

and extra cushion for you to grab,

Her smell is so sweet,

it make you wanna linger,

and her first impression,

 Will Make you a little eager,

Independant, and nothing less,

Her life stays

full of ambition and success, Yea,

She is Full and Sexy,

With plenty to feed the greedy,

 and for you skinny hatin sistahs,

 she willin to donate,

some for the needy,

 She loves a good cerebral -cortex penetration,

and opens her mind up,

to deep mental stimulation,

 By the time she finishes the conversation,

 her draws wont be the only thing your chasin,

so I advise a little discretion,

and lets not forget to mention,

her passion for the kitchen,

Puttin together creative dishes,


white rice and gerk chicken,

 wearing nothing but a thong

and six inch stilletos,

She'll have you cravin her strawberry jello,

and she got that good good,

 to make your attitude mellow,

 juicy, is only one word,

She got enough to water the earth,

body made so close,

youd think she was a virgin,

 and the spasms in your back,

will have ya doin more than splurgin,

nothin about her is uncertain,

what you see, Is what you get,

A full-figured woman,

Proud of her thickness....



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Q:  I am looking for some shoes size 20 for my son. Do you haven any information?
Raqui: Go to the Big Clothing link to the left, I have listing of shoes, up to since 24.


Q:  I really loved the video with you on the scooter racing.  It was great.


Raqui: I have to say I encourage everyone to rent one because it is alot of fun especially when you go fast. :)

Q:  I remember you telling how you had a positive air flight to Vegas. Which airline did you travel?



Raqui: I flew US Airways, I did have a positive flight and they were very respectful to me going to and coming from Vegas :)



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BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

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Fashion Type:  Summer Tunic

Why I Like this Item: I ordered this Tunic in the bright yellow after some time by the pool it will look great on against my skin tone.  These tunic are soft, comfy and easy to throw on with the same spandex leggings seen above.  You can wear it on any regular day or out for the night dress it up or down it is your choice :) and if it fits me at a 6X it will defiantly fit anyone. :)  This Tunic really makes your breast's look great and best of all it looks so much better on a fuller figure than the skinny chick above :)  for some reason on her it looks plain but with the curves it looks OUTTA SIGHT!!!!!


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Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product: Hoveround

Type of Product: Mobility Products

Cost of Product: Depends on item / they help you get your for free or at little cost

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Let Hoveround power wheelchairs make your mobility challenges a thing of the past. Our innovative design, durability and customer service have made Hoveround products America's favorite mobility products. We are the only power chair manufacturer to design, sell and service our power wheelchairs, which are all made in the U.S.A. We also offer FREE guidance through the Medicare process, the HOVEROUND CUSTOM FIT, delivery and complete training. In addition, every power chair comes with our 30-day money back and "Never Without Wheels" guarantees. Rediscover your independence with a Hoveround power chair.

Why I like this Product: I like this company because they understand a big person's needs. 
I remember these commercials for years. They help the Elderly and Disabled get a Hoveround compatible mobility chair at little or no cost. They handle everything so it is easy for you. 



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