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 Issue #55 - October 2008

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of LIC


Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News

Guest Spot - Shelly Willer


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month

The Physiological affect of Advertising



The Physiological affect of Advertising


     DON'T BLAME THE MEDIA!!!  That is most say, which in a way is true. You cant blame the media for the way we see ourselves.  Or can you?  When it comes down to it we are all human and human's are influences by what we see, hear and smell.


     From the moment of birth we are sponges trying to find a way in this world.  If we have a stable upbringing and we are encouraged and believe in ourselves.  We can do anything we set our minds to.  But if we are treated second class, told we will amount to nothing and have no skills.  Chances are we will believe it.  Thus you wonder how does Radio, Television and Magazines influence our lives.


     Advertisers are a smart bunch,  They use sight, and psychology to make us want something.  To make us believe life will be better with this or that product.  If you do this or that then your life will be perfect.  When in reality most of us would have done just fine with out said product or activity.


    The thought that comes over my mind is how does advertising affect the mind of the plus sized person.  Image after Image telling us that we must look like this or we must not look like that.  Market targeting, do you ever notice as soon as your are online and search for something ads automatically show themselves according to your interest.   Use a public community such as MySpace, Yahoo, etc.    Notice how the moment you put the words  Big, BBW, BHM or other phrases saying you are on the plus sized side.  You will be bombarded by diet ads, bbw dating services, plus sized clothing, and straight up ads asking ARE YOU FAT?


     And while these companies have a right to advertise to us as they want to.  What type of affect does this have on the mind of a plus sized person?  Even regular advertisements can have adverse affects.  You never see a bunch of plump people having a good time together unless they are drinking a diet shake, working out to lose weight, or have a cup of crystal light in their hands.  Rarely to never do you see plus sized people among the thin in normal commercials.  Which leads some to believe only the thin are out having fun.


     What happens to the confidence of someone who is unaware?  We wonder why big people are hated so much and hate ourselves even more.  Why our children are growing up with complexes before their time.  Why depression and self loathing are on the rise.  Remember as long as advertisers can tell us what we have to be and how we should live.  We will always feel inadequate.


     Seems like there is no win or lose. Until you take control of what you think yourself.


Views from others in the Plus Sized Community: below




The Question: What do you believe is the The Physiological affect of Advertising on the Plus Sized Community?

ronirocklives: I believe that the physiological affect of advertising on the plus sized community is that everyone should be thin or the plus sized individual should consider bariatric surgies
Raqui: do you believe this for all forms of advertising or just some?
ronirocklives: just some
Raqui: which would you say affects you most as a plus sized person?
ronirocklives: how society treats the plus sized person and how their aren't enough medical advancements for the plus size person
Raqui: what would show a change in advertising to you
ronirocklives: more plus size people in advertisements and on the runways as models

K. L. Belvin,, Author, Poet, Motivational Speaker

KL FATSX: Yes.. I believe that many say it doesn't bother them but it has its effect on dress, thoughts and actions
KL FATSX: The movie Super Size me says it all about advertising and its effects on us as early as 4 or 5.
Raqui: Would you say this in general for all advertising or specific advertising?
KL FATSX: I would say specific because Food and Looks effect people differently and in the plus community we tend to allow those factors to effect us first.
Raqui: what do you feel affects you the most as a plus sized person?
KL FATSX: In general what effects me is poor choices.. The advertisements don't move me like that... However because for the choices I have made most of my life its me..

Andre Woodard: I will have to say, inside the plus size community it is very positive, cause it gives many plus size women insight of how beauty plus size women are, now outside the community, its even cause many people don't understand what they don't know or what they have been trained to think

vsmartin2003: it creates an False need for things
Raqui: do you think it causes a negative view of plus sized people?
vsmartin2003: no. I think people are not as as considerate as they should be.
Raqui: how so?
vsmartin2003: they only care about selling

iv_argent: General media is designed to be non-supportive of the Plus Size Community as it's designed to make you feel bad about your body and make you spend money on the diet industry products and cosmetic surgeries.
Some companies are trying to break the cycle by showing what they call "real women" but even then they are careful to not show women over a size 18; and they are still toned and no marks of any kind. So it still makes you feel bad about your body which over a period of time makes your psyche go down.

Nikki Buggah: That skinny is in and that there is something wrong with u if you have a little weight. Skinny is sexy, its appealing, and if u r skinny u will attract men, be popular, etc. Psychologically is lowers self esteem in plus sized people

Master R: hmm...hearing that there are more realistic sized models in the LB catalog and others now, I would say positive when it comes to clothes, though advertising/marketing like the PC/Mac to where the PC is portrayed as a fat nerdy weak stereotype, or the sista' from the Pine Sol commercials who is a stereotype as well, I would say that its not blatant offensive but sends signals that you're not to be desired upon like other advertising targets.

Symahnii J: Ur not beautiful, important, healthy, or welcome. u just don't matter.
Raqui: does that go for all advertising or are you talking about specific advertising
Symahnii J: That's most advertising. Almost all for an ssbbw. Even mainstream stores that have sizes over 28 use size 14 and 16 models
Raqui: I see so your speaking about adverting toward the larger person in your view am I correct?
Symahnii J: Most advertising. Almost all for ssbbw's. I haven't seen a show that shows us in a good light. even the plus size stores that sell 28 or larger have size 14 or 16 model.

elfcat1: That is a deep and wide question of course, a question of propaganda, of the way that images and words are systematically employed to manipulate people's desires and fears.
elfcat1: Certainly there have been indications that such things as chronic fear and learned helplessness have physical consequences for health.
elfcat1: In fact, one author interviewed on KPFA a while back said that chronic fear increases the risk of a number of health problems and even of weight gain.
elfcat1: Since many of the other problems he mentioned are classified as "obesity-related", I emailed him to mention that by his own logic, chronic fear of fat makes people both fatter and more at risk of many problems claimed to be prevalent in fat people.
elfcat1: I mentioned that this also creates a perfect feedback loop: fear of fat increases both illness and weight, which further increases fear of fat, which if continued unchecked only ends in a dead person who is both very fat and very afraid.
elfcat1: Of course, traditionally it has been attempted to arrest the weight gain on its own. But if the fear remains un-arrested, it will still raise the risk of the other illnesses.
elfcat1: Thus, the only way to truly stop the cycle is to arrest the fear of being fat.
elfcat1: Yes of course you can use anything.
elfcat1: Of course we could also get into some examination of the community's own messages. I got into this a little in a letter to the editor of Bodacious, who had an article last issue called "Being an FA ain't easy". His article concentrated a lot of the issue of helping fat women feel beautiful. I wrote back essentially asking him if he felt that was all there was, or if we are going for more than that on the battlefield.
elfcat1: What are we advertising to ourselves, to our adversaries, to allies and prospective recruits?
elfcat1: This has an effect as well of course.

Nina M: I love seeing bbw and bhm in positive advertising, i think there should be more of it.
Raqui: do you find positive advertising now?
Nina M: not so much, most of it is for losing weight

Eric from Queen: More recently seems like they making it more ok 2 be big, But if u look there aint many celebrities that are big like that especially women.

Kat: its very strong they work in unison. everyone tells you you are wrong for being fat, then you turn on tv, read anything, lose weight, be healthy. So you are wrong again, then it's oh btw we have this diet ,food, potion to fix this problem. Buy our book it all tells you you are wrong/bad/not acceptable. Then down the line they don't even have to say anything particularly negative cause they have you "drinking the Koolaid" that you hear key word and tell yourself- oh yes I am wrong, scary stuff.


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Cover Model of the Month

Diana Hottie


Interview What is your name?

Diana Hottie Where are you from and what is your current Location?

Born and raised in Grand Rapids Michigan, I am in right now Campbell Missouri! Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am 29yrs old my birthday is Feb 1st, I am 5'5 and 210 lbs. I am American Indian and Russian and well I am a lot of things a mutt really lol, but the top two are Indiana and Russian. Never married and no kids, altho I do have an amazing boyfriend who thinks I am the most beautiful girl in the world! He is a country singer named C. Michael Gray. We have been together for 2 years and 3 months. Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I was not thin or fat as a child or teen. I was so afraid of getting fat that in 6th grade I stopped eating in front of people. When I was 13 I became afraid of food. I did not eat much and I would get very sick, weak and pale. My teacher started to call home worried about me. I got better and ate better after the age of 15. But Still afraid of food. When I was 19 suddenly I started to gain weight. 10 lbs a month for 9 months. I went from a sz 13 to a sz 24 in less then a year. I could not understand what was going on. I did not eat anything more or less then I had been. I became so depressed and would not leave my house. The doctors found out from me not eating right while growing up, it made my thyroid stop working. I had hypothyroidism. Now I am a plus size model. Something that makes me feel amazing. I now love who I am. I am soft and sexy and proud. Something I should have seen from day 1. (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?

I have hypothyroidism, I felt so afraid something was wrong with me before I found out. I was afraid of being fat as a teen and then poof in less then a year I was. I felt cursed. Then to find out I did it to myself!!! I wanted to die. It took me  years to see I was still beautiful, in fact maybe even more so. I got into plus size modeling and I have not looked back! What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search? 

Because I want to help the world see, BIG is Beautiful. Always has been. I am so proud now to have this amazing curvy body, I wanted woman and men to know. I was not born like this and I was afraid to be like this all my life. TILL it happened. Now look at me. I am big and I am beautiful. Something to be proud of!!!! Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

I will say yes and no. Others did accepted me, but at first I could not. I hated seeing people I had not seen in years, they would say things like wow you got big. The nice ones would say hmmm you look different. Now when I see them and they say that I say, yes I did, don't I look amazing. And Most of the time they will smile and say YES you know what you do!!! Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

My mother and grandmother have always been big. SO they would say things like we knew you would come to our side. My little sister looks so much like me, only she is about 110 lbs. She would never say anything about my weight. I have a twin brother who is amazing also. My close friends would never say anything now that I think about. They were really amazing. What would you say inspires you most in life?

My mother, she has been through so so much. Health problems, life and family problems. She has shown me its ok to be big, respect yourself and others will follow. What is your primary job?

Because of health problems I can not work a full time job. But I plus size model and have been for 8 years. I have modeled in MI, TN, AR and MO. This would be I guess my primary job! How did you get into this line of work?

A man came to my high school doing a photograph class. He saw me and said wow, your face is really amazing, have you ever thought of plus size modeling? I had never heard of it and I was like yeah right. Sence I was 18 he asked if he could take my picture and I said yes. He came back a week later, I had forgotten about it. He showed me the pictures and I was like wow, Is that me? He was like yes, you owe it to yourself to see what you can do and be. I waited 3 years before I got the guts to really try it. Now I wonder why I waited so long!!! Do you find acceptance in the work force?

Yes and no. Its still hard sometimes to find a photographer who will take the time out to work with a plus size model. I find the ones who need new pictures for their portfolio but have never worked with a plus size model, not really knowing what to do or say. But it sure is funny laughing at them and showing them its ok to make mistakes. Being silly and making sure they have a good time so they will see, we are just as beautiful, fun and talented as any one else. What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

Bigger chairs and more respect. WE make up over 80% of this world. I love the saying there are there are 3 billion woman who don't look like supermodels and only 8 who do. Then I say. OOPS now its 7.. I ate one for breakfrest! What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

 I think wow, who skined the couch? WHAT is wrong with these people. Most of the time they want us in moo'moos, big ugly flower prints my grandmother would not even look at. I wish what ever they make in a sz 2, make it up to a SZ 30. COME on we have the right to feel sexy. We can fill it out better anyhow. What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I like to see more people like me in this world. WHY do they sell plus size clothing but show a woman that is maybe a zs 6 at best wearing them??? Really now I have to ask. What are they thinking? What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

WOW the world would be in for a big surprize ( No pun intended. ) They would see our talent, passion and drive and know they should never have waited so long. They just don't know what they are missing. The plus size youth needs to see and know how beautiful and wanted they are. Promote plus size health with out the fear of needing to be to thin. Showing the world that thin or fat you can be amazing as anyone!! Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

Torrid its amazing. But if you are in a bind  and broke and don't mind shopping used, EBAY. You look up your size and color you want and buy it now baby!!!! Thats my passion~  Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

When I pluck my eyebrows I use oral jell first to numb the skin. Have dark spots or some dark freckles? Us lemon juice on them, it will fade them to match the others or your skin tone.  Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot.  What should models be prepared for?

If this is a shot where you have your hair and makeup done for you. Go in freshly showered, no makeup. Hair back so they can see your face. If its something you have to do your own hair and makeup, make sure you know the look they are looking for before you go. Its always  good to know before hand so you don't over or under do what is needed. Take the advise of the photographers and designers, if you listen and follow directions well they will want to use you again. Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now.  What changes do you see?

I see a lot more men and woman on tv and in magazines, real size people. Clothing has more color and a sexy look for us. Keep it up world, I like where you are going. What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance? 

God willing, On the news and in the movies and tv shows. More plus size stars will be coming out of hidding. Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

My goals as far as modeling is, to show the world that big is beautiful. I want to be the look and voice of plus size woman. My goal is to be known as a fat woman who is proud to be who she is. ( It took me a long time to get here ) I am also a writer and I want to write a plus size romance novel. I know I know you have read them or heard of them but, most of them are not really plus size, or not anything like us. I want this to be real and romantic, the man to be amazingly beautiful because we can find them too. There will be magic, love, fighting, death..... REAL life. Thats my dream and what I am working on. Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

I put on a hot red bathing suit and went to the beach. My long blonde hair reaching down to my thick full back side. The men even with their skinny beautiful girlfriends in two pieces, stopped to look at ME. There are more men then you know of who like plus size woman... But most of all the emails I get from woman thanking me everyday for showing real woman in the light of the world. I got one email that I have kept for 2 years so far. It said. Today for the first time in 10 years I looked at myself in the mirror because of you. Thank you... It still makes me want to cry when I read this. Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My boyfriend. No matter if I am having a bad day and I know I look bad. He will look and me and say. My God you are beautiful. How amazing is that? What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

Don't let fear stop you or put you off, go for it. The only time you fail is if you don't try... No matter your look, someone, somewhere is looking for it. GO FIND IT....... What plus size figure do you admire?

 I Love Emma, amazing how she busted out of the cookie cutter world to show us we can do anything. Now in her 40's getting past cancer and a fuller size she is as big as ever. ( Again no pun intended :P ) Describe yourself with one word.



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Cover Model of the Month

Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Dedication to a Great Man

Written By: Raqui


     I stay here trying to figure out what this month Article would be.  It came so clearly to me, My husband (Rest His Soul). Seven Years ago my husband was Murdered October 2nd. Not in a shoot out, not because of 9-11, not because of an accident.  Because they saw a Big man 6'4 310 lbs of Dark Skinned Black Man.  He went for a normal procedure performed thousands of times a day across the country.  They left him to die and excused the noises he made for being a Big Fat Man in his sleep.  They did not monitor him correctly and he paid for it with his life. 


     The Good Die Young they say, I can say its true.  I dedicate this months edition to him. Because of his words.  He told me I would change the world.  That I could influence people and make them see things.  He told me I was amazing and I could accomplish anything.  He told me the World was waiting for me.  I hope he sees I tried to make a difference and it is because of him and his words that I have pushed forward no matter what happens in my life.  I will not quit, I will continue even when my darkest days make me want to give up.  He believed in me, Chris I hope I make you proud.


LargeInCharge Radio Show - The MURDER of Plus Sized People - CLICK HERE TO LISTEN

How many times do we hear about Fat People who are killing themselves with every cheeseburger they eat. What about the true murders of people of size. The Doctor's who ignore us, the staff who disdain us, the people who take a vow to help every human being with care. How are Plus Sized people really treated when health care comes into play? Are we treated properly what procedures are not available to us? (Raqui shares the story of the Murder of her Husband)





He Gave me Lilac Roses

October 2nd 2005 ~ Raqui

He gave me Lilac Roses

Dear Husband of mine.

He gave me Lilac Roses that were grown with time.


A lady he knew sold them

She cut them straight from the Vine

They were grown in her garden

A treasure so Divine


He bought me Lilac Roses.

It was a beautiful sunny Day.

He handed me those Roses.

In his own loving, funny way.


I smelled those Lilac Roses.

So full of fragrance and dew.

My husband held me closely

And Whispered I love you.


I think of those Lilac Roses

That he chose just for me.

Lilac Roses

I began to think, what do they mean


When a Rose is Lilac

It adds enchantment, it adds Majesty.

Living my life with you

Those are things you gave to me


Lilac Roses say

To be cautious... because of trouble.

I had no worries you see

As long as your were by my side

I didn’t fear a thing


It can mean to be transcendental

To explore, reach out

And become more.


Live your life with clearer thinking

For what maybe in store.

Do you remember how you told me

I can open any door


I loved those Lilac Roses

As I loved him

I never thought I would get Lilac Roses

Ever again.


Then yesterday in the evening

I had a lot in store.

Getting together with a group of women

Many whom I truly adore.


I spoke about him

How wonderful

How special

How amazing he truly is.


How I miss him

How I love him

How I wish him

To be here


You see today is the anniversary

Of my husband's death.

My thoughts often turn to him.

It leaves me with out rest.


But last night was a time of joy

When I got together with my group.

3 years since they had begun,

1 year since I joined the troop.


I was given gifts

and congratulations

cards and candy

And much more


Only when I reached home

Did I take the time to see.

The very special Flowers

That were given to me


Once in my room

And the unwrapping did begin

Peeling back the paper.

I took the flowers from within


I saw they were Lilac Roses

I began to cry

I looked at the clock closely

and realized the time


It was now the 2nd of October

The anniversary of his death

I looked at my Lilac Roses

and began to hold my breath.


This day

4 years ago

they took my husband

away from me.


Yet here I held

these Lilac Roses

I cried so hard

I could not see


He found a way to say he missed me

He found a way to show me love

He gave me Lilac Roses

A marvelous gift from above.


I know you maybe thinking

that it wasn’t a sign.

But I would like for you to tell me

How common are Roses of the Lilac Kind


Is it such an incident

That Lilac Roses were given to me

On the night

before the day he died

A night in which I sat by his side


A night when I begged

your body to respond

while I held your hand

and my heart did pound


How I begged how I pleaded

how I cursed how I cried

How I threw myself upon you

Wishing to lay there at your side


How I thought if I said just one more time

Please come home to me

you would open your eyes, look up and smile

the kiss me desperately


I whispered in your ear

I felt the disappearing warmth

I promised I would be a better wife

If this tragedy wouldn’t run its course.


I wiped blood from your mouth

I held your hand in mine

I glanced at your wedding band

and kissed it one more time


a night 4 years ago

when my life was turned around

From then on

I felt bolted to the ground


When I shared my hurt

When I wanted to hide.

I received Lilac Roses

and didn’t even realize


I didn’t realize it

Until it was midnight

and the day was done

and the 2nd of October had begun


I believe it is my husband

showing me the way

I may feel lost with out him

But still with me he stays


He showed me he loved me

even from the grave

He showed me I wasn’t alone

I had no reason to be afraid.


I sometimes wondered if he missed me

If he feels the Pain I feel too

So when I got these Lilac Roses

It as if he was saying yes I do


yes I miss you, and I love you.

From beginning until the end

Even though you don’t see me

I am just around the bend


Soon you will meet me

When it is time for you to pass

I will be there to lead you

You will be set with in my grasp


I imagine him waiting

Waiting at the door

Waiting for me to join him

We have eternity in store.


As I look at my Lilac Roses

So beautiful so complete

I realize that soon

It will be my time to leave


Yes my love I hear you

I hear you calling out my name

I have your Lilac Roses

I love them just the same.


The thought of these Lilac Roses

I know you sent me a sign

Of a love that I cherish

Your way of showing me you’re always mine.


I sit here

and wait

Until we meet again

Until you take my hand

and together we ascend




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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





My people, mi gente…


     Supersized Sounds has been revamped. Now I am going to bring you the best of the best of free downloads of some of the hottest artists. The Unsigned Artist section is dedicated to artists who are not in the mainstream spotlight but have created their own buzz and have completed at least one album. With that said I am still accepting music to feature from unsigned artists but the artists must be willing to have their music (one or two tracks) available for free download, so if you are an artist who supports Big Beautiful people and would like to be featured please forward your music and permission to


Now enjoy the audible treats for your ears and everyone have a safe and fun Halloween. And don’t forget to vote!!



John Legend Ft Estelle “No Other Love”




Musiq Soulchild Ft Mary J Blige “If You Leave”




Leona Lewis Ft Cassidy “Nowhere Left To Go”




Estelle Ft Sean Paul “Come Over”



Ciara Ft The Dream “Lover’s Thing”


This Months Featured Unsigned Artist is


L.E.G.A.C.Y also Known as Nusaiba The Artist and this is her song “Blessed” off of her new album

Be Sure To Visit Her Myspace page at



Here is a supporter and BBW admirer Supa Nova Slom, getting his Prince on!

I miss this kind of music. Sensual and hot! Enjoy

click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna “Live your Life”
Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

Thanks for reading

Super Sized Sounds with Lynx


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From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


The Ad

SWSSBBW seeks SM willing to ask her out.  Need not buy gifts, remember dates, put toilet seat down.  Video game fanatics and men who require guys’ nights out okay.  Willing to watch action movies and avoid “the talk.”  Reply to:


Candidate 1: The Fat Fetishist




Subject: must c pics!!!





Subject: Pics- Don’t Get Scared Away!

Here are some pics for you.  A lot of people don’t know what SSBBW means.  As you will see in the pics, it means super sized big beautiful woman.  Well, I don’t know about the beautiful part.  I guess that’s in the eye of the beholder.  Anyway, I am probably saying way too much here, but that’s what I do when I’m nervous.  I ramble.  Even in print.  So yeah.  Hope you like the pics.  And if you don’t, don’t tell me.  Ha, ha, ha.  Hope to hear from you.  If you like them.  Not if you don’t.  Anyway, have a good night.  I swear I’m not this stupid normally.  I’m just nervous.  First time I’ve ever done a personal.  Lots of firsts for me, actually.  See ya!




Subject: Re: Pics- Don’t Get Scared Away!

U R HAWT!  love titties!  how big r they?  wanna get wit u.  ph #?


            Jany’s phone rang.  Her heart twisted and ducked out of her chest for a second when she looked at the screen.  Bob.  The guy from the ad.  Her first response.  Didn’t seem that smart, but he had responded, at least.  She picked up her phone and held it in her hand, unanswered, for one more ring.  Then she flipped it open.

            “Hello?”  Her voice came out very small.

            “Hello,” he answered.  His voice came out loud but low and growly, almost like he was whispering to a woman he was in bed with.  “How ya doing, sexy?”

            “Um.  Okay.  Uh.  How are you?”  Each word was higher and squeakier than the last.  He had called her sexy.

            “Not too bad.  You like black guys?”

            “Uh, sure?  I mean, I don’t really care.  I guess so.  Yes?”

            “Good.  ‘Cause I am.  And you know what they say about black men, right?”

            “Mm hmm.”  It was all Jany could say, because she did know what they said about black men, and because she couldn’t believe she was talking about what they said about black men with a black man.  Couldn’t believe she was talking about sex or male anatomy with anyone at all, actually, because it just wasn’t what she did.  He didn’t seem to find it awkward at all, though.

            “We’s a little thicker.  Ya know, down below.”

            Jany’s mouth went dry and her palms went wet.  She couldn’t think clearly enough to determine if it happened out of attraction or fear.  She emitted a strangled-sounding giggle.

            “Don’t laugh, baby.  It ain’t funny.  I wanna do you all night long.”

            And again, the strangled giggle.

            “What’s funny, hot mama?  You won’t be laughin’ when I’m done with ya.  You’ll be moanin’ instead, maybe even screamin’.”

            “Uh huh.  Well.  Yeah.  Hmm.  Hee.”

            “Oh, come on, sexy.  You know you want it.  Am I gonna get that hot, fat ass in my bed when we meet?”

            “I—I was looking for—well, see—” Jany sputtered, then trailed into silence.  A date.  That’s all the ad had asked for.  In fact, this was the kind of thing she was trying to avoid.  She’d found plenty of guys who were willing to sleep with her.  It was just that none of them were willing to take her out for dinner first, or hold her after, or even just hang out for a while.

            “You was lookin’ for me, baby.  And ya found me.  Now tell me little bit ‘bout your fantasies.  I’m a-gonna make all your dreams come true.”

            “Honest?  You really wanna hear my fantasies?  You think you can handle it?” 

“Oh, I can handle anything.  Tell daddy what you want.”

Jany’s squeaky voice was beginning to gather some power.  After all, he was just a guy, and he was on the phone.  She could hang up any time.  And now that she was beginning to see what he really wanted from her, she didn’t feel the need to impress him anymore.  In fact, she was just a little bit angry because it seemed like he was making assumptions about her just because of how she looked.

            “Okay, well, my hugest fantasy is pretty simple.  I want, more than anything else, to go out to dinner with a guy.  Nothing fancy, just maybe someplace with outdoor seating, a good burger place or something.  After dinner, we could go back to his place.  Or mine, doesn’t really matter.  And we’d watch a movie.  And we’d hold hands.”


            “And?  Oh, that’s it.  Maybe kiss at the end of the night.  You know.”

            “What kinda movie would it be?”

            “What kind?  I don’t know, it doesn’t matter.  Maybe an action movie or a comedy.   Just whatever the guy wanted.”


            “God, no!”

            “You don’t watch porn, baby?”

            “Well, no!  I mean, yeah.  Well, I have.  Once in a while.  No, not really.  I—never mind.  No!  Not porn, just a movie.  A plain old movie, any movie.”

            “If I meet you, I’ll have to have you.  You wouldn’t stop me, right?  You’re sooo damn hot.  I just can’t control myself around fine big girls like you, with those curves in all the right places.  Can’t keep my hands off.  I wanna sink my—”

            “Ha!  Haha!  Um, yeah, I might stop you.  Yeah.”

            “How long has it been, baby?  How long since you got a good pounding?”

            Jany was almost shocked into silence.  She would have been, if that’s the kind of person she was.  Instead, she was shocked into uncontrollable words.  Words that spilled out without permission from her brain.

            “It’s been long enough—NO!  I didn’t mean to answer that.  It doesn’t matter.  This isn’t about sex.  It’s about a date, getting to know someone, having the kind of relationship I’ve always wanted, a real one that doesn’t end as soon as the dick goes down or the sun comes up!  It’s about more than that.”

            Bob laughed quietly for a second and then there was silence.  Jany held the phone away from her mouth so he couldn’t hear her raggedy breath.  She waited a full two minutes for Bob to speak again.

            “So when we gonna meet, baby?  When do I get to rock your world?”

            “I don’t think—maybe we—you still want to, even knowing?”

            “You’ll change your mind.  Meet me Saturday, ‘round 8, at the Branch.  57th Street, know the place?”

            “Yeah.”  Jany’s voice was small again.  And it was set.

            Saturday night, Jany got dressed and undressed a hundred times or so.  She ended up in the same outfit she’d started in, a black skirt and a purple tank top.  She made sure to wear comfortable shoes.  She didn’t really think he’d rape her or anything, but she wanted to be able to run, just in case.  She also stuck a butter knife in her purse.  Not that it would do much good, but it didn’t qualify as a concealed weapon, she didn’t think.  It would work well enough to gouge out an eyeball or two without getting her arrested.  She walked out of her apartment with her head held high.  This few moments of confidence, of knowing she was about to be in the presence of someone who found her attractive, was the only part she liked about first dates.  Or first meetings, anyway; she’d never really been on a date.  She was determined to make this a date and not just another random, singular coupling between strangers.  She’d had enough of that.

            She stepped onto first the train and then the bus without losing the smile.  If only she could feel like this all the time, maybe she’d have better luck.  Maybe she wouldn’t have to place ads on sleazy personals websites.

            By the time she had stepped off the bus and walked the two blocks to the restaurant, the smile was accented by a flushed face.  Shaking knees, too, but no one could see those underneath her calf-length skirt.  She looked around, not sure exactly what she was looking for.  Bob had never sent her a picture.  She had just arranged herself against the brick wall of the building so that her curves were half hidden and half displayed to best advantage when a voice behind her made her spin around and knock her shoulder into the brick.

            “Hey, hot mama.  Good to see ya.  Mmm mmm.”

            “Hi.  How—how’re you?”  Jany clutched her sore shoulder and rested against the wall again to take the pressure off her quaking knees.

            “Not as good as you’re gonna be when I getcha nekkid.”

            Jany’s only response was a giggle.

            “I told ya, it ain’t funny.  Whaddya say we skip dinner and just go back to my place?”

            “No way!” Jany said, or tried to say, but the words were swallowed by her fear and she felt her head nodding yes.

            “Good girl.”  Bob took her by the hand and led the way.  Jany felt like she was a puppet being manipulated by an evil puppeteer.  Well, not evil, maybe, but he was definitely following his own rules.  She wanted to stop him, knew she had to do it soon, before she was in his apartment, but she couldn’t.  Maybe because there was a tiny voice inside of her that kept pointing out all the people who saw them holding hands, all the people who probably thought she was his girlfriend.  That part was a good feeling, one she’d never had before.

            He led her into a crumbly brick building that housed a comic book store.  They went up a flight of stairs that left her breathless and sweaty.  She stood against the stained wallpaper across the hall from his apartment as he dug a key out of his pocket and unlocked the door.

            She had been expecting the inside of the apartment to reflect the outside, but it didn’t even come close.  There was a black suede couch in the center of the room with a glass-topped, black metal coffee table just in front of it.  A few black wooden chairs were scattered around the room, interspersed with smaller glass tables.  The carpet was immaculately white.  A fake fireplace stood against the wall across from the couch with a television on one side and a stereo on the other.  On top of the fireplace was a glass vase of red roses.  The perfect bachelor lair.  Bob was definitely a player.

            “Wanna get comfortable?” Bob asked.

            The word no somehow changed into the word yes between Jany’s brain and her mouth.  Bob kicked off his shoes, so Jany followed suit.  They settled on the couch.  Bob picked up a remote control and Jany breathed a sigh of relief.  They were going to watch TV.  The remote control turned on the fireplace rather than the TV, though.  Jany’s heart sank.  How could she get herself out of this situation when she couldn’t even manage to talk?

            Every cell of her body jumped when Bob put an arm around her, but she didn’t have time to react because his lips were almost immediately covering hers.  She found her pulse quickening and her body straining toward him even as methods of escape raced through her mind.

            Before she knew it, their clothes were scattered across the floor and she felt the softness of the suede couch against her rear.  Jany was so out of her element that it barely entered her mind to be self-conscious about her nakedness.  She was still trying to figure out how to get away, but her ideas were coming more and more slowly and were often interrupted by passionate gropings, both his and hers.

            “Come on, baby, touch me.  Talk to me.  Tell me what you wanna do.”

            Jany wanted to tell him that she wanted to get dressed and go back to the Branch for dinner, or that she just wanted to leave, or that his lips and his hands and his hardness were killing her and she wasn’t quite ready to die, but she found herself unable to speak.  The best she could do was a deep moan, which was totally misinterpreted. 

            “Yeah, baby.  That’s my girl.  Moan for daddy.”

            His hands slid down her body and it was at that moment that Jany separated from herself and started watching the whole thing from a distance.  The floating-in-the-air Jany worried that as soon as he felt her doughy fatness, he would push her away, stand up, leave the room.  The floating-in-the-air Jany also knew it would probably be best if he did.

            As his hand sunk into the warm space between her legs, the naked-on-the-couch Jany pushed toward him, scratched her nails down his chest.  The in-the-air Jany screamed silently at him that she wasn’t ready for this, that she wasn’t looking for sex.  The naked Jany, who definitely was looking for sex, lifted her legs and tilted her hips upward as Bob positioned himself over her.  Just before he lowered himself, the in-the-air Jany found a voice.

            “Condom!” she screeched. 

            Bob responded calmly in his low, sexy voice. 

            “Oh, baby, you don’t want that.  You know you don’t.  You wanna feel me, really feel me.”

            And the floating-in-the-air Jany slipped back into the naked-on-the-couch Jany.  Bob rocked back and forth on her, sliding himself deeper and deeper into her existence.  It wasn’t until he pulled away, spent and satisfied and gloating at his latest conquest, that Jany fully realized what had happened.  The date she had been looking for had turned into exactly what she wasn’t looking for, exactly what she’d always had before.  Her intellect had, once again, been destroyed by a penis.  A condomless penis.  Maybe her ad should have been more specific: Fat fetishists looking for a good time need not apply.


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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude


Full Fall Flavors

by Xander The Food Dude

I often wonder the best way to handle the October article.  I think I finally decided on making it for Halloween this year as that are many ideas for you and you children that can get your kids into the kitchen to help you make these holiday treats.  I think this is when my love and interest in cooking really took off because of the really unique ways to use everyday foods but present them in a Halloween themed fashion.  With this in mind I present my favorite ghost story based in urban legend (and truth) to show how we can get help from the other side.  You may have read this story before but it still gives me chills.  


Ghostly Kids Push Tracks

Urban Legend:

The protective ghosts of little children killed at a railway crossing push stalled cars off the tracks.

The Story:
This one is actually true. It's been talked about on many TV stations including an Los Angeles, California station by "The Earth Man" Garcia. It has to do with a school bus full of children that had stalled on some train tracks in San Antonio, Texas. A train was coming and was going too fast to stop in time to get the bus off the tracks. The bus was hit and all of the children died. It was a great tragedy.  The tracks are located on a curve in the road but the tracks are on a small up-hill grade to both sides.

If you stop your car just on the tracks and put it in neutral, it will slowly start to roll over the little hill and down the other side.

A local Los Angeles, California station sent a crew there to check it out and it was done on tape, with a San Antonio sheriff present. The cars back end was cleaned off of any finger prints before the test was done and after it was done it was dusted for prints. Several small hand prints and finger prints showed up on the bumper, showing that the small hands of the ghost children were pushing the car to get it off the tracks.

There are also claims that this is nothing more than a gravity anomaly allowing a non-moving vehicle to move over a small up-grade. But no one can explain away the hand and finger prints.

Xander's Recipe of the Month


Eyeball Potion

      8 oz Frozen whipped topping;   -thawed
      Blueberries or raisins
      1 1/2 c  Boiling water
      1 lg Pkg gelatin - any red flavor
      1 c  Cold water
      Ice cubes

Using a small ice-cream scoop, place 2 scoops whipped topping into each of 10 dessert dishes for "eyeballs." Place a blueberry or raisin in each scoop for the "pupil." Freeze 30 minutes, or until firm.

Meanwhile, stir boiling water into gelatin in large bowl at least two minutes until completely dissolved. Mix cold water and ice cubes to make 2-1/2 cups.

Add to gelatin, stirring until slightly thickened.

Remove any remaining ice. Pour about 1/2 cup gelatin around the two "eyeballs" in each dish, leaving the top of the "eyeballs" exposed.

Refrigerate 1-1/2 hours, or until firm.


Halloween Ghosts on Broomsticks

      1 lb White chocolate chips
      1/2 c  Tiny red cinnamon candies
      12    Wooden sticks

Heat 2 inches of water to simmering, not boiling, in the bottom of a double boiler.
Place the white chocolate chips in the smaller pot and set it over the pot of simmering water. Cook on low heat, stirring constantly until the chocolate is fully melted. Remove from the heat.

Cover 2 cookie sheets with waxed paper.
Arrange the wooden sticks on the waxed paper, 6 to a sheet.

Spoon ghost-shaped blobs of chocolate onto the paper, partially covering each stick. Press 2 candies into each ghost for eyes.

Freeze ghosts for 15 minutes, or until hard.


Halloween Black Cat Cookies

1 c  crunchy peanut butter

2    eggs

1/3 c  water

1 pk chocolate cake mix

M&Ms  Plain Chocolate Candy

Red hots

Beat together peanut butter, eggs, and water. Gradually add cake mix. Mix well. Form dough into 1-inch balls. Place on ungreased cookie sheet. Flatten balls with bottom of glass dipped in sugar. Pinch out 2 ears at top of cookie. Add M&M's for the eyes and red hots for the nose. Press fork into dough to form whiskers. Use a knife to carve out the mouth.

Bake at 375 degrees for 8-10 minutes.

Makes 4 1/2 dozen.


Gnarled Witches Fingers

      1 tb Veg. oil

      4    Boneless chicken breasts

      1 c  Flour

      1    Egg beaten

      1 c  Bread crumbs

      Pitted black olives Halved lengthwise

      Shredded lettuce


Grease cookie sheet with oil, set aside. Carefully cut chicken breasts part way to create five fingers (the uncut part will be the palm of the hand).

Dust in flour, dip in beaten egg and then bread crumbs.  Broil 5 minutes on each side till golden brown and cooked through.

Trim the finger tips with the halved black olives and serve on lettuce.


Thank you for Reading Good Food 4U

By Xander the Food Dude

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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!



Make A Wish

Article by: Cher Rue 


It was a spectacular night of wish making for a special young lady whose wish came true, to walk the catwalk in a stunning red carpet fashion show.  The Make A Wish Foundation of San Diego and Rhinestone Productions made the night star studded and full of smiles for the people in attendance at the Sheraton Hotel and Marina in San Diego.


After walking the red carpet with the paparazzi snapping away at the celebrities showing their support, guests were greeted by servers with delicious mouthwatering tidbits, such as beef Wellington, wrapped in a puffed pastry, shrimp, chocolate dipped strawberries and there was a table with fruit and a chocolate fountain for everyone to find their own personal favorite to dip. As I watched the small children dipping their marshmallows and fruit with big smiles and eagerness, I found it heartwarming to experience their excitement.


The fashion show had spectacular designs by Rhinestone productions with jeans and tops for guys and girls with catchy phrases and sparkling belts and pants. Li Cari commanded the runway with class, style and such a flair it was breathtaking that this young designer Jazmin Whitley seems like an old pro when it comes to fashion shows. Topped off by a few music groups and singers that had the crowd clapping hands, it was a fun night.


Guests of the event enjoyed a fashion show with featuring Li Cari, a Los Angeles based fashion label designed by Jazmin Whitley, live entertainment by the G-Girlz, Justine Dorsey, Runway MMC, Small Change, Jasselle and a special performance by Daechelle, a San Diego favorite, as well as the opportunity to participate in a life altering experience. Confirmed guests for the Friday night Red Carpet gala included Ford model Casey McClain, founder/owner of Rhinestone Productions; our Host, Matthew Underwood, Zoey 101; Erin Moran, Happy Days, Joanie Loves Chachi; Erin Sanders, Zoey 101;  Sterling Beaumont, Lost, Mostly Ghostly, ER; Jaime Gomez, Nash Bridges & Training Day ;Drew Seeley, High School Musical, Another Cinderella Story ;Rachel Smith, Miss Universe 2007; Michelle Stafford, The Young and the Restless; Amy Paffrath, E!; Tara Conner, Miss USA 2006, Brody Hutzler, Green Flash, Legally Blonde, Days of Our Lives ;Lu Celania Sierra, High Fashion Model, The Devil Wears Prada, Justine & Kerris Dorsey, Brothers & Sisters; Brandi Williams, KTLA & TV Guide; Katie Blair, Miss Teen USA 2006, Jillian Clare, Days of Our Lives; Brian Krause, Charmed ;Diane Tucker, Mrs. World 2007-2008; Kwesi Boakye, Men of a Certain Age, Daybreak, Happy Feet, Days of Our Lives; Kwame Boateng, The Norton Avenue All stars, Kids Choice Awards 08;Runway MMC, Vocal Group; Jasselle, Vocalist; Daechelle, Bratz,Vocalist; The G-Girlz, Vocalists; Markus Paulk, Another Cinderella Story, Moesha; Small Change,  Hip Hop Group, Another Cinderella Story Soundtrack; Brianna James, vocalist; Lil Niqo, Hip Hop Artist and more. Sponsored in part by Aktiv8 Promotional, Toxic Waste Clothing, Channel 93.3 FM, Runway Magazine, Hint Water, Inland Trucks & Cars, Fashion Career College, Image Factory West, EZ Hair, MFWF, Girls Extraordinaire, Go Girl Energy Drink, Sparkle and more.


            Media coverage was KUSI, 93.3 FM, KOGO, PRPHOTOS, GETTY, FILM Magic and I PHOTO  



            Casey McClain    



The New Meaning of ‘Bling’ is Making Wishes Come True


San Diego CA: There are many young women from all walks of life who dream of breaking into the pageantry or modeling business. For many, the dream is just that, a dream unfulfilled. But Rhinestone Productions is changing those dreams to reality by encouraging young women to step into this fascinating world, with the creation of a new program. Casey McClain, founder and owner of Rhinestone Productions, has created the opportunity for networking and education, which includes personal coaching, nutrition classes, hair & makeup and more at the new Pageant Beauty Competition and Expo was held in San Diego this September. The expo opened the doors for young women who dream of being a part of the industry by providing the opportunity for networking, education and industry exposure like nothing they have ever experienced.

McClain is known largely for her participation in pageants, national commercials, music videos, and international modeling for the past ten years. She has been a top finalist at the Miss Teen USA 2001 competition and was quickly snapped up by the top modeling agency, Ford Models. She has worked to choreograph at the national level with Miss USA/ Miss Teen USA competitions and has become a top industry expert. With her vast knowledge and experience, she felt driven to reach out to provide an opportunity for young women and founded Rhinestone Productions.



 “As I watch these young ladies come to a national competition, I am amazed at how many do not have the preparation that they need or believe they can succeed.” states Ms. McClain. “Rhinestone Productions is about creating opportunities and crowning moments. It is a business specifically designed to provide these girls with a red carpet opportunity to learn the necessary tools and techniques it takes to wear the crown and compete in the modeling industry.”

Casey McClain has lived the pageantry and entertainment industry for the last fourteen years, gaining a strong passion for the business and for the success of those who participate and work within it. Quickly snapped up by the top modeling agencies across the world by age 12, Casey spent the majority of her time growing up in front of the camera. She held the title Miss California Teen USA 2001, as well as becoming a finalist at the Miss Teen USA competition that same year. Since, she has been involved with every aspect of the entertainment industry, building amazing business relationships and notoriety over time. Casey has said goodbye to her own days of competing for a crown, by filling her days with ad campaigns and national commercials. In addition to being an international model, title holder, and highly active participant and positive contributor to the industry, Casey has enjoyed her time with Donald Trumps Miss Universe Organization as the Assistant choreographer to Scott Grossman at the Miss USA and Miss Teen USA pageants. By participating in this capacity, McClain has come closer to providing the same positive opportunities to girls looking to become successful in pageantry and modeling with the founding of her new company, Rhinestone Productions. By no surprise to those who have worked with her, at 24 years old Casey McClain has already started a company that is focused and shining bright in the spotlight changing the lives of young women with a dream.






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Hot & Heavy Entertainment


     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


Pretty Faces - The Large & Lovely Musical
Music and Lyrics by Robert Cabell

with Stephanie Baham




Back in 2005 Robert W Cabell had a fabulous idea for a musical.  Robert decided to do a musical about a beauty pageant.  A Plus Size beauty pageant! According to Robert, “what if people could see them dressed up and looking gorgeous, and get to know them as the sexy, sensual, desirable women that they are?” And so Pretty Faces was born in good ole New York NY.


With giddy anticipation I watched the trailer.  The songs were catchy, upbeat & fun.  The ladies looked great, sounded great and they were pulling some laughs from the audience.  Many of the songs were designed to let the audience get to know each unique character and the journey she’s taken through life as a big gal. 


Each character has a special style, very unique personality and goes through her own personal journey while competing in a beauty contest.  Some of the characters include The Hollywood Diva, the Southern Belle, the Sad Rich Girl, the California Girl and the Torch Singer.


Here’s a description of the show from their page:


“In PRETTY FACES, The "other girl next door" finds fame and glamour at a beauty pageant for plus-sized women in this backstage musical that takes place on and off stage at the fictitious Miss Global Glamour Beauty Pageant. There is a strong sense of camaraderie and healthy competitiveness as the contestants share the wonder and novelty of being Glamour Girls for the first time in their lives. The audience is the Antagonist! They watch and follow each contestant's Cinderella transformation, from day one of rehearsals to the crowning moment of truth. Complete with two feuding stars, a love-struck stage manager, a baton-twirling Southern belle, and a spoiled rich girl. The result is a wickedly funny, yet strikingly poignant work that will make you laugh, cry and giggle with glee as these cuddly and curvaceous divas deluxe pursue their dreams. Divine mastication, salacious sex talk, and chubby chasing heaven are just a few of the festivities that await you before the tapping and twirling begins!”


Hmm now that I think about it….that show sounds like Monique’s “Fat Chance”, which also came out in 2005, but with musical numbers.  Oh heck I’d rather see a musical!


I think the NY Post describes Pretty Faces best: You might think of "Pretty Faces" as a Size XXL 'Chorus Line."  Ah yes we all remember the angst of the characters in Chorus Line….trying to make it in the tough world of entertainment.  But none of those characters had the challenge of being plus sized in that industry.


It was refreshing to see that all the ladies in the cast were all plus sized women and not just one.  I believe in strength in numbers and if you’re going to do a show about plus size living then it’s better to have a predominately plus size cast.  This allows a show to tackle a variety of issues from several different characters’ points of view.


Please visit their MySpace page at

Or their website at


I’d like to leave you with some lyrics from the show.  This is from a song called “We’re Taking Chances.”



we're taking chances
to change some concepts
and give the world a chance
to change it's attitude
we'll use some costumes, sets & lights
to give the mood
and change the way in which
theses beauties have been viewed

what is true beauty
what's truly lovely
is the seed of pride we nourish deep inside
to be happy with ourselves and never hide
and seize the moment when it comes
to turn the tide

some how this still doesn't seem real
half the world thinks we've no sex appeal
rude remarks are the usual deal
will this show change how anyone feels

we're taking chances
to change a concept
we'd like to give the world another chance to see
other images of femininity
and seize the moment to be all that we can be

as I lay my career on the line
all my doubts and the fears undermine
all the work and the strain and the grind
can I really change any ones mind

they've all been damsels
in real distress
soon each will be a beauty in a gorgeous dress

open your hearts
open your minds

we're taking chances
to change conceptions
to show you beauty
in many different shapes
and different kinds


Thanks for reading Hot & Heavy Entertainment


National and International Plus Size News


     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.


Nintendo's Wii "Fit" game gets Condemned by Obesity Experts

after it tells 10 - year old girl she's Fat!
with Iolande Argent


Obesity experts today slammed Nintendo after its Wii Fit game told a 10-year-old girl she was fat.

They fear the game could damage children's body image and called on the company to warn parents it is not suitable for their offspring.

The £69 ($138) game, which sold out within hours when it went on sale in Britain in April, uses an electronic "balance board" to monitor a player's weight.

Once the player has entered their height, the game uses BMI, a measure of body fat based on an adult's height and weight, to calculate their level of obesity, placing them in categories such as "underweight" and "fat".

Players can then be guided through yoga exercises or play games to improve their balance.

However, a father from the South-East spoke today of the embarrassment when his stepdaughter played the game and was labeled fat.

"She is a perfectly healthy, 4ft 9in tall 10-year-old who swims, dances and weighs only six stone," said the father, who did not want to be named for fear of embarrassing the girl further.

"She is solidly built but not fat. She was devastated to be called fat and we had to work hard to convince her she isn't.

Potentially damaging: the BMI chart that appears on screen during the Ninendo Wii game

"I know it is just a game but we already have to worry about young girls starving themselves to look like magazine models and now we have a game that tells them they're fat. This to me is very worrying."

Tam Fry of the National Obesity Forum called for children to be banned from playing the game, claiming the BMI measurement was misleading.

"I'm absolutely aghast that children are being told they are fat," he said.

"BMI is far from perfect but with children it simply should not be used.

"A child's BMI can change every month and it is perfectly possible for a child to be stocky, yet still very fit.

"I would be very concerned if children were using this game and I believe it should carry a warning for parents."

Nintendo said today it would not be placing a warning on the game.

A spokesman said: "Nintendo would like to apologize to any customers offended by the in-game terminology used to classify a player's current BMI status, as part of the BMI measurement system integrated into Wii Fit.

Wii Fit is still capable of measuring the BMI for people aged between two and 20 but the resulting figures may not be entirely accurate for younger age groups due to varying levels of development."


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Time to tell it like it is!


     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.


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I realized I was meant for bigger, greater, things, That is why God gave me this body!





Now that you are single, Please pick me, I love everything about you!





I never thought I would find someone who loves me so completely.

I always thought my weight would ruin my chances.






I saw you on Tyra, Raqui... I am a small Skinny woman.

You helped me so much Thank You





I didn't know my words hurt her so much... Now it is to late to take them back.

Will you ever forgive me,  I LOVE YOU!






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Guest Writer of the Month

Fat is a Four-letter Word

Written By: Ursula Singleton


Fat is a Four-letter Word
I am convinced that fat should be a four-letter word.
While it is simply an adjective, these three letters together steal confidence, invoke shame, and perpetuate self-loathing.
Fat is one of those words that you just shouldn't use. You know what I mean. It should be one of those bad words that you would get in trouble for using when you were a child.
Fat can be defined as being substantial and impressive. That is how I choose to see myself. I have a few (okay more than a few) extra pounds. So what! I am not FAT. I am fabulous, articulate, talented.
I can be your friend, your advocate, your teacher.
But you don't see me. You look and see only fat. Fat somehow gives me the power of invisibility. Open your eyes. Perhaps you will see the big, beautiful woman I am.
Ursula Singleton
Greenville, SC




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Ask Raqui
Q:  I have Edema in the legs and feet. where can I get some stylish shoes, boots and stuff?
Raqui: Try this link I hope it helps, I used to get this catalog.

Q:  It seemed like you had fun on the scooter on your trip.  Did you feel embarrassed?

Big Booty

Raqui: No... I didn't,  It was a practical rental. Not only was my knee a big mess because I injured it.  But it was so much fun.  I was able to ride all over places that I wouldn't have walked to.  I could do everything myself with no problems.  I will not hesitate to rent another one in the future.  It really was a blast.  I was not embarrassed because I am a confident person of size and using a scooter doesn't mean I am lesser than anyone who doesn't use a scooter.

Q:  I have been enjoying your radio show and listen to the archives.  How can I put them on my MP3 player



Raqui: If you have an I-pod you can subscribe on the radio show page  you can also download from the archives page and it will pop up in Windows Media Player.  You can then go to File - Save and save the entire show and put it on your MP3 player like you would a song.



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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

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Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  Costumes - and Lingerie

Why I Like this Item: Almost every item is an original only to Big Gals Lingerie.  They have great Costumes and Lingerie available up to size 12XL.  You have to check them out.


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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

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Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product:
Earth Therapeutics Anti Stress Body Wrap

Type of Product: Spa Product

Cost of Product: $25.00

Where Product can be found: 
Beauty > Bath & Body > Spa

Soothe aches and pains with this anti-stress body wrap for hot or cold treatment. The super-soft wrap has an aromatherapy soothing comfort that can be hot to relax muscles and ease tension or cold to cool down and reduce minor swelling. Cover is removable. Microwavable.

Why I like this Product:
Perfect for the back and legs of a plus sized person.  Because it is bigger it cover more area.  At a decent affordable price this body wrap is the way to go.  Hot or Cold it helps :)



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