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Welcome to Large In Charge Magazine           

 Issue #56 - November 2008

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of LIC


Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News

Guest Spot - Shelly Willer


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month

SideShow Bennie



Side Show Bennie


SideShow Bennie has been part of the modern side show revival for nearly 15 years and has a legion of fans from border to border and coast to coast. His pain threshold is legendary and his wit is bountiful and those two attributes combine to make SideShow Bennie an entertainment extravaganza without peer.

Bennie learned his craft from many sources and had many teachers. He spent years learning the amazing feats and creating his remarkable show. SideShow Bennie's act is an intense physical experience. He does things with and to his body that the rational mind tells one they should not do. However, his act is filled with comedy and the entire performance is done with a good natured wink, letting the audience know that it is all in fun. Yes, the acts are very real and very dangerous and should not be attempted by anyone, and yet, Bennie makes them fun and entertaining.

After working as a solo performer for almost 10 years, Bennie recently added a partner to his act. The lovely and vivacious
has become a valuable asset to the act and very welcome addition to the show. Anna is no mere 'lovely assistant' but a talented performer in her own right. She brings a fresh energy to the show and has quickly become an audience favorite


From The SideShow Bennie Website


Interview What is your name (Real and name used for Artistic Expression)?

My name is Benjamin Wade and I perform professionally under the name, SideShow Bennie. Where are you originally from and where is your home now?

I was born in Muskegon, Michigan and moved with my parents to Nashville, Tennessee when I was three years old and have, more or less, been there ever since. Are you want most would consider a person of size?

I am 6' tall and weigh over 300 lbs so I would say, yes, most consider me a person of size. Have you always been a person of size, or did you grow with time?

Yes, I was always the biggest kid in my class at school. I will not say that I have 'struggled' with my weight my whole life because it hasn't been a struggle at all. I have always enjoyed being 'full figured' and my size was just a small part of who I am as a person. Your performances are unique though very well known, Please tell us what you do?

My act is an updated version of a classic American side show. In the old days (from the turn of the 20th century through WWII) a touring side show was called a 10 in 1 because you would have 10 people, each doing a unique act, in one show. I am a one man 10 in 1. I do fire eating, Bed Of Nails, The Himan Blockhead, The Human Dartboard, I do amazing feats with animal traps, meat cleavers, broken glass, glow sticks and steam irons. I am what is called a 'Torture King' because I do things with my body that are considered painful and downright crazy. What made you get into this line of work?

I have been an entertainer most of my life and, oddly enough, stumbled into this realm of show biz somewhat by accident when I discovered my high pain threshold and my ability and willingness to do acts that other people consider dangerous or just plain nuts. How long have you been performing?

I started playing music when I was 13 years old and played in rock bands all through High School. When I got out of school, I continued making music in various forms, from rock and country music to working the folk music circuit for 30 years as a dulcimer, banjo and guitar player. I maintained this as a hobby/sideline for many years until I started working as a side show act. What was your original occupation and what other things have you done over the years?

I got my first job, as a cook in a local diner, when I was 14 years old. I have worked in many fields over my many years. I have driven an ice cream truck, dug ditches, worked in a warehouse, worked as a welder and boilermaker and spent over 20 years in the printing business. What or who inspired you to get into this type of entertainment?

I am old enough to have had the privilege of seeing some of the last traveling side shows at the state fair when I was a kid. I remember the first time I saw someone driving a nail into their nose and was fascinated by the genre my entire life. I started picking up the acts here and there over the years and used them as party tricks and to win bar bets. It was when I saw the Jim Rose Circus Side Show when they opened for Nine Inch Nails in the early 90's that I thought, "I should be doing that." I started pursuing the acts and learning more and more. The biggest influence on my act and career came after I was already a performer when I met my mentor, Melvin Burkhart.

Melvin was the original Himan Blockhead. He created the act around driving a nail into your nose and was a huge influence on me as a performer. Melvin could work a room like no one I have met before or since. He died a few years ago at age 96 and had done a show the day before having a stroke. How long have you been a performing?

I started playing in bands at around 14 and have been on stage, in one form or another, ever since. I started performing this particular act in the mid 90's and have been doing it as my full time job since 2001 Tell us about your first performance and how your act has grown since then?

I had played a music festival in New Orleans at Mardi Gras and one of the other musicians and myself (and several others from the festival) went into the French Quarter on Mardi Gras Day. My friend would go into bars and tell the bartender that if they would give us beer and Jagermeister, that he would bring his friend in (me) and I would drive a nail into my head. No one turned us down all day and we got ourselves and everyone with us totally liquored up. I was relating this tale to some guerilla artist friends when I got home and they suggested that I put a show together with the weird stuff I do and do a performance art piece at their next art event.

It sounded like a good idea so I recruited a friend to help and together, we put together about 20 minutes of material. We performed it at the next art event and the audience went nuts. They thought we had been performing the act for years and that reaction made me think that I had stumbled onto something that might be worth pursuing. My friend stayed with the act for about 6 months and he left and I went predominately solo. After nearly 10 years as a solo act, I have recently added a partner to the show. She is Anna Fiametta and is one of my poly relationships in addition to being the partner in my act. The show has grown from a 20 minute "performance art" piece to an act that can run from an hour to an hour and a half. Is your act popular?

I leave audiences wincing, screaming and laughing all over the country so I would say it is rather popular. Please tell us about some of the details of your act?

Anna and I do fire eating and the Electric Girl act. She sits in an 'Electric Chair' that courses 50,000 volts of electricity through her body and I light florescent tubes and fiery torches off her skin. I drive nails into my nose and I nail my tongue to a 2x4. I put my hands in large animal traps, we dance, barefoot, in broken glass. I have a dartboard tattooed to my shoulder and we have nightly dart tournaments, complete with a trophy to the winner. This is a small portion of the many acts we perform and they are all accompanied by my comedy ramblings. You work with many people can you tell me more about them and how you came across them, what part do they play in your act?

I work with many other acts but my act is primarily self sufficient. Since Anna joined the show about 6 months ago, she has been the only person I have literally performed with as a part of the act. She is no mere 'lovely assistant' but a real part of the act. She is learning more and adding to the show constantly and has been a valuable addition. What make your performances different than others?

When I created my act, I did so in something of a vacuum. By that I mean that there were no other acts of the type in my area that I could be influenced by. I had seen the traveling shows as a kid and had seen the Jim Rose Circus once. I knew I didn't want to steal Jim's act. He is good but absolutely not my style so I created my act as something I would enjoy seeing. I tell stories and interact with the audience. It has been described as 'stand up comedy punctuated with geek acts.' I try to make the feats flow from one to the next and let one story lead into the next. All the side show performers do basically the same amazing feats or variations of the classics but it is the presentation, the routines that we put with our version that makes them unique and no one, to my knowledge, does an act exactly like mine. Tell us what is the response you get from your audience?

Responses range from raucous laughter to nervous shrieks. My act is like a human roller coaster ride. It can be fun and scary at the same time. How does your size come into play in your performance?

I work shirtless but wearing a sequined vest. It is quite obvious that I am a fat guy so I never try to hide the fact and I do play it up in the performance. I play the part of the sexiest fat man in the world. One of the lines I use, that has kind of become a trademark line since I used it in the Discovery Channel documentary I was in is, "Is there anything in the whole world any sexier than a half nekkid fat man with a screwdriver sticking out of his face?" People roll with it and I have gotten many comments about how refreshing it is to see a larger person who is so comfortable with their size and who uses it to their benefit. Do you have other people of size who work with you in your act?

Anna would be considered a classic BBW. She is curvey and lovely and works her curves to her advantage and has been a huge hit in the show since she joined the act. Do you collaborate with other acts?

I have done performance art pieces with other artists but now, most of the acts I collaborate with are burlesque artists. I work with The Panty Raid Dames  Music City Burlesque  Big Mamma's House Of Burlesque among others Tell us about some of the press coverage you have been featured in?

I have been featured in magazines such as Tattoo Savage and Tattoo Revue. I have had feature stories in Newspapers and on local TV news stations. I have done morning television and radio around the country. How can people learn about you and possibly hire you, do you have a manager/agent?

I have a couple of agencies that I work with but they primarily book me for video projects. I do most of my show booking myself. You can find me at or on Mysapce at Are you currently on tour or attending any major functions in the near future?

Anna and I are currently in Federal Way, WA performing at a large Halloween event for a big amusement park. We will be here throughout the month of October. When this ends, we have a bit of time off before our next show with Big Mamma D's House of Burlesque in Charlotte, NC Would you say this is a form of performance art?

This is definitely a form of performance art. It is less of an artsy statement and doesn't try to solve the world's problems but it is performance art just the same. What type of emotions do you want your audience to experience?

I want the audience to have fun. I want them to see things they have never seen in their lives. I want to provide an escape. When they are watching my act, I want them to get lost in the moment and forget that the rent is due and the dog has fleas and that they hate their boss and just have a great time. What would you say to other performers who are trying to make it?

t out of this business NOW. It is hard, it is painful and I don't need the competition. LOL. Do you have a good support system from family and friends?

Yes. I have a wonderful support system. My birth family loves what I do and my poly family of choice supports me in many ways. My lovely bride of 31 years, Jeanine, keeps my books. My other poly love, Lynn has been my web mistress for years and Anna, of course, tours with me and shares the stage. What has been the response you have gotten others?
Response range from rave reviews to being told that I am Satan incarnate and responsible for bringing evil into the world. Seriously on both. Overall, the responses are very positive. Have you had any responses from the Plus Size Community?

I get other plus size folks telling me that it is nice to see fat folks represented in such a positive way. What are your future goals?

I want to keep doing what I am doing for as long as I am physically able to do it. After that, I want to write my memoirs and be an old codger that tells weird stories to the grandchildren. LOL Do you have a website, myspace page? How can the public find you or communicated with you online?

My website is  MySpace is  and I can be emailed through either of those. Emails are more than welcome. Give us one word that you can say best represents your act?

Mesmerizing How much have you evolved as an Performer since those first days?

My confidence has grown greatly. I have done things onstage that I never dreamed I would be able to do, much less get paid for doing. I have been onstage totally naked, something I would have never, in my wildest dreams, imagined me doing. And oddly enough, I am totally comfortable with that. It has given me confidence, not only on stage, but in my everyday life as well. I have grown much thanks to SideShow Bennie How can the readers at help support you?

Come see SideShow Bennie when I am performing in your area. If I am not performing in your area, find a club or event and demand they book me.


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Cover Model of the Month

Chiquita McKenzie


Interview What is your name?

My name is Chiquita L. McKenzie Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am from the Washington DC area where I was born and raise and I now reside in Capitol Heights Maryland. Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am an 35 year old African American unmarried but dating an wonderful, fun loving, and spiritual individual, I have 2 awesome boys Demond J. Gleton Jr who is 16 years old and Davon J. McKenzie who is 14 years of age. I am 5"9 in height, size 20 with curves and loving it. Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I believe I was a normal size child just taller than some kids that were my age but not overweight. (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?

I started gaining my weight by giving birth to my two sons. And if someone ask me would I make the same choice again if I had the chance to, the answer would be "yes". Please tell us about the title you now hold?

The title I hold now is my second title that I have accomplished. I entered and was crowned as the new Ms. Big Beautiful Women Pageant on August 31, 2008. Were you nervous about entering a Pageant?

To ask was I nervous to enter the pageant, I would say "yes" because I am just about nervous for any pageant or Fashion show that I would or have participated in. But this is where my self assurance comes into play as well as my self determination to strive always at doing my best no matter how big or small the task will be. What made you decide to enter?

My decision on entering the pageant solely came from wanting to reach out to other parts of the country in order to enhance my modeling career as well as meet new and positive individuals that want the same goal and not tear others down trying to reach them. Tell us how did you feel during the Pageant?

During the pageant my thoughts and feelings were all over the place. I was a bit anxious and excited ready to get the show on the road. What was it like to go out on that stage?

Going out on the stage in front of many strangers for me is an adrenaline rush because I want the people or judges to know that I have arrived and I am here to stay to represent the plus size woman of today. And under no circumstance that I am going to back down, I am moving on and forward with my head held extremely high knowing that God always had this plan for me. So I am taking full advantage of all the bells and whistles. What is your Platform and Talent?

For this particular pageant there was no requirement to have a platform but for the future pageants I may enter my platform is Children that have been sexual abused. What have you done since winning your Title?

For the talent portion of the pageant I chose to do a spiritual dance off the song entitled "Never Would Have Made It" by Marvin Sapp. Have you had an media exposure?

Since winning my title have made an appearance in Philly with the Delfonics, did a couple of fashion shows and presented my crown, and appeared at a public school to show the children that goals can be achieved. I still have plenty more appearances to make before my year of reign is up just waiting on my schedule. Do you plan to enter anymore Pageants, if so which ones?

I haven't had too much media exposure but you can find a video clip and pictures of me on certain websites. Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

I definitely want to enter more pageants preferably one each year. I have been researching American Beauty, Miss Curves United States, and Miss Plus United States. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

I wouldn't say it was a hard journey to be accepted for my size, I would say it was a courageous one because I had to educate those that did not understand that everyone could not be the same size. What would you say inspires you most in life?

From the support that I have received from my family and friends from attending fashion shows, giving monetary funds, offering positive advise, or just being happy for me shows me that they are ver accepting of what I am doing and who I am.

I would say my mother Ruby Honesty has inspired me the most throughout my life, why because first my mother was born with a hereditary disease in her bones that causes her to walk with a disability that she not let stop her no matter what. Then my mother went on to become a Foster Parent for DHS assisting the upbringing of over 100 children, 3 she adopted along with having 3 biologically. And if this was not enough she still provided daycare for the neighborhood residents and some family members. So my mom, Ms. Honesty has definitely inspired me to be a strong, independent African American woman. What is your primary job?

My primary job is a Youth Curriculum Coordinator at a Social Service program located in a low income building. I offer services to the children such as after school activities where they receive help with homework or projects, come and vent about poverty, drugs and alcohol, family etc. The children are also offered different workshops to help them make better decisions that will affect their goals in the future. I try to give them hope for a better tomorrow. Do you find acceptance in the work force?

No matter what job I held I always seem to find acceptance because they saw my confident level and they way I carried myself and enjoyed it. What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

The changes that should occur for larger individuals in the workforce would be healthier snacks in vending machines, a 24hr gym to encourage being healthy, being first to be chosen to travel or take a particular position and not to be overlooked, more acceptance from co-workers and less laughing behind the person's back, and positive and encouraging words which always seem to help an individual feel better. Do you have any experience in the Modeling Industry?

I have been modeling a little over two years now, I have done numerous fashion shows, and won two titles so I would say that qualifies as having experience. But I am definitely always open to learning and enhancing my modeling skills to better my career. What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

The larger clothes in the fashion industry has come a long way but still have a lot of kinks that needs to be sorted out. The designers just needs to know what feels and fit well on a plus size woman. And the only he or she would know that is by looking in that woman's face to see if they see a transformation taken place. What did you wear during the Pageant?

For the pageant I wore a 4 piece business suit for the Introductory scene, a red and gold outfit for lingerie, white leotard and skirt for the talent portion, and haltered lavender gown with rhinestone broaches. What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I would like for more designers to take the time out to enhance the beauty of a plus size women through nice garments made from incredible materials. Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

I shop at many stores such as Ashley Stewart, Torrid, Macy's, Lane Bryant, Avenue and some internet websites. Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

One of my secret beauty tips is never eat before a fashion show or pageant because it will bloat your stomach and cause cramps. Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and Pageant.

My goals for modeling and pageants is to strive for the gold, to do my best, never back down and reach as far as I can with God's grace and mercy. Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

An inspirational moment where I felt good about my size was when I traveled to Puerto Plata and went on an excursion where I had to climb 7 difficult waterfalls where you had to be able to lift your body weight in order to get to the next level. Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

If I had to choose a person in my life that causes me to keep going I would say my youngest son Davon, he has so much belief and admiration in what I do that he brags to his friends about how beautiful his mother is and he is always there to assist me with whatever I may need. What advice would you give to other people of size who want to enter Pageants?

I would say to other plus size women who want to enter pageants is to hold your head up high, and believe in yourself that you can accomplish all your dreams that your heart desires. What plus size figure do you admire?

I admire Queen Latifah the most because she has accomplish so much within her career itself. She is definitely one look up to and know that anything is possible. Describe yourself with one word.

If I would describe myself with one word it would be "Confident"


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Cover Model of the Month

Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Raqui in Mika Rottenburg's work for W Magazine

Written By: Raqui




     November 2008 was W Magazine Special Art Edition.  Mika Rottenberg was commissioned to do an Exclusive piece of work for W Magazine. In this work Mika's unique style of art is seen as a totem pole of people all working in small quarters and each in extreme conditions. The individuals are all in themselves an collections of differences. I was selected to be one of the models for this piece of work, I was also featured in the behind the scenes video, noted as the first Squasher to appear in W Magazine. I can say it was a challenge since I had a knee injury during this time, past the pain it was still something I enjoyed doing.  I found it interesting and so might you.


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Behind the Scenes Mika Rottenburg's Creation for W Magazine

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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





My people, mi gente

     Can you believe it’s November? Thanksgiving is right around the corner. Yummy, I gotta find me some soy turkey and vegan pumpkin pie! Sorry but I am going to have to indulge in some real macaroni and cheese and corn bread…no substitutes. Pura Vida! The next time you all stop by this page you we will have a new President (OBAMA) yes, yes ya’ll these are some exciting and scary times cause if Mccain wins me voy (I’m out”) Costa Rica here I come. Anyways my people, please do go out and vote and don’t forget to pray for our sister Jennifer Hudson and her family. I love you all. Have a Happy holiday and as usual I have provided the hottest downloads for you Thanksgiving Day festivities. May the Ruler of the Sun bless your paths with love and light. Enjoy

Bobby Valentino Pictures, Images and Photos Bobby Valentino “BEEP”    

 NE-YO Pictures, Images and Photos Neyo “Perfect”

not perfect - ne-yo    

     LuD@ Pictures, Images and Photos

Ludacris ft Lil Wayne “ Last of a Dying Breed”


Ashanti Pictures, Images and Photos Ashanti “Mrs. So So”    

 lil wayne Pictures, Images and Photos

Lil Wayne “Missunderstood”

Dont Get It (Misunderstood) - Lil Wayne      


BONUS TRACK: Oh Sookie, I love anything with T.I. on it. T.I. could so get it! T.I Pictures, Images and Photos

T.I. Ft Jamie Foxx “Just L:ike Me”

Click Here and here is our sister Jennifer Hudson’s video “Spotlight”  


Please support Jennifer and continue to pray and vote for her video on MTV’s TRL Countdown  

P.S. If you are in New York City and want to meet me and get your shine on Please join me as I host

Open Mic Night at Goddesses

Saturday November 8th



(btwn West Broadway and Greenwich, 2 Dj’s and 2 floors of great music

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 We will also be recording for Nancy Goddess’ Public Access Show “Goddesses”. So all you poets, singers, dancers, comedians and etc come on out and strut your stuff, you never know which celebrities I might have show up. Hope to see you there and let em know Lynx sent ya.

Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

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Super Sized Sounds with Lynx


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From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


The Ad 

SWSSBBW seeks SM willing to ask her out.  Need not buy gifts, remember dates, put toilet seat down.  Video game fanatics and men who require guys’ nights out okay.  Willing to watch action movies and avoid “the talk.”  Reply to:


Candidate 2: So Far Away




Subject: I Wish You Were Closer

I just came across your ad a few minutes ago when I was searching SSBBW stuff on the web.  I live in New Mexico and I don’t know you at all, but I had to let you know that you really don’t sell yourself well.  Too many women seem to feel like you do, that they aren’t worth much because they’re super sized.  I say if you’re bigger, you’re worth MORE!  Remember that, and carry yourself with pride.  Love to see a picture of you and give you my humble opinion, but as of right now, I strongly believe that you are probably way too willing to settle and are therefore selling yourself short.  Send me a pic?  Look forward to hearing back from you.




Subject: You Made Me Blush!

Wow.  So much encouragement from someone who’s never even met me!  Thanks!  You really made my day.  And you can write in complete sentences- most of the guys who respond to me can’t.  I am more than happy to send you a pic.  Don’t feel the need to flatter me, though.  I’m really pretty happy with who I am and how I look, except that it sort of puts the deep freeze on any sort of romance in my life.  You’re right- it’s too bad you live so far away!  Hope you enjoy the pics!




Subject: You’re Gorgeous

and can I have your phone number?  I’d love to talk to you.  A big, beautiful woman who is also intelligent and seemingly sane?  Unheard of!


            Jany backed away from her computer and stared at the screen.  Was it worth a response?  Bob certainly hadn’t been worth even a second of her time.  But this guy seemed different.  More intelligent, anyway, and infinitely more respectful.  And too far away to meet in person, at least right away.  She’d have time to feel him out.  Slowly, she leaned forward and typed her phone number.

            She was in the shower five minutes later when her cell phone started singing to her.  She dropped her shampoo bottle on her toe and howled in pain as she slid open the door and half fell out of the shower.  Jany wondered to herself when she had started getting out of the shower to answer phone calls.  Her voicemail could handle them just fine.  She knew the answer, though.  It was when guys had started answering her ad.  Okay, so Bob was the only guy who had so far, and he had never called when she was in the shower, but she knew that his first call had been the turning point.  She would never ignore another call until she was settled comfortably into dating someone.

            The number on her phone’s caller ID was not familiar to her and the butterflies in her stomach told her it was Searching.  She sat on the edge of the tub and squeezed her knees together to stop them from shaking.


            “Hi.  Is this Jany?”

            “Yes it is.”

            “This is Michael.  From”


            There was a pause that was, for Jany, anyway, excruciatingly uncomfortable.  Finally, Michael spoke again.

            “Did I—is this a bad time?”


            Again, the silence.

            “Uh—how—how are you doing?”

            “I’m fine.”

            Silence.  Jany knew she had to talk, had to start responding to him, but she somehow couldn’t.  It was hard enough to talk to guys in general, but this guy had two additional strikes against him: he was intelligent, and he seemed to be interested in her.  His voice left Jany completely tongue-tied.

            “Am I bothering you or something?”

            “No.”  Jany paused while she stood up and rearranged herself on the toilet.  The edge of the bathtub was not the most comfortable place to sit in the best of circumstances, and most certainly not when she was trying to sound smooth and cool and like she talked to attractive, intelligent men every day.  At last, she forced herself to speak again.  “I’m sorry.  I—I’m not very good at this.  I’m really shy when I first talk to people.  I should have warned you.  About that, and that I giggle when I don’t know what else to say.”

            “All right.  I can handle that.  We’ll take it slow.  What did I pull you away from?”

            “Not much.  I was in the shower when the phone ra—”  Jany froze.  She hadn’t mean to tell him that, hadn’t meant to let him know she was so desperate for attention that she jumped out of the shower to answer her phone every time it rang.  Or that she was talking to him while she was sitting naked on the toilet.  Self-consciously, she grabbed a towel from the rack and pulled it over her, as if he could see her.

            “Shy, huh?  You don’t sound shy.”

            “I am.  Shy and nervous, which makes me talk just to fill in silences and say things I had no intention of saying.  Sorry.”

            “I can’t say I mind the visual on that.”

            “Oh.”  And then came the infamous nervous giggle.  Jany hated her giggle.  Her inexperience made her seem young and innocent enough; she didn’t need the giggle to add to it.


            “Um.  Yeah.  I mean, thanks.  Thank you.  Look, is that the right answer?  I never know what to say in these situations.  This is kind of ridiculous.  I swear to you I’m more intelligent than I sound.”

            “Yes, I know you are.  It’s okay, just relax.  I’m not gonna bite you or anything.  Even if I wanted to, I’m completely across the country from you.  Any answer you give is the right answer.  It’s not like you’re being tested or anything.”

            “Okay.  I mean, I know that.  It’s just—I’ve never had a guy to talk to before.  Not one that—that was attracted to me.  Not that I think you’re attracted to me, it’s just—you said—never mind.”

            “I am attracted to you.  I’m old enough to be your father and I live on the other side of the country, so I can’t do much about it, but I am.  Get used to it, hey?”

            Jany giggled again.  It was one of the most awkward phone conversations of her life, but she was enjoying herself, somehow.

            “Well, I just wanted to call you, hear your voice.  I have a meeting I’m expected at in a few minutes.  I’ll call you again tomorrow, okay?”

            “Yeah, ok.  And Michael?  It really was good to talk to you.”

            “You too.  Talk to you soon.”

            Jany hung up the phone, let the towel she was clutching to her chest fall, threw back her head, and laughed in glee.  He might not be willing to do anything about it, but Michael seemed to really like her.  When she finished in the shower, Jany went into her bedroom and sat down at her computer.  She was in the middle of dashing off a quick note to Michael—one she re-wrote about a thousand times so that it wouldn’t sound like she had spent any time on it at all—when a new message notification popped up on the bottom of her screen.


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Good 4 U Food

Recipes for Good... Healthy Food

By: Xander - The Food Dude


Thanks and Giving

by Xander The Food Dude


Thanksgiving is a time for family and friends to gather and share time together. It is a good time to reflect on the past and create memories for the future.


Once again it the time of year to stuff ourselves silly on nap inducing turkey.

For this month I wanted to give you some option on using the left over turkey.  For years I would give people ways to make something different for the Thanksgiving meal, but eventually it hit me that tradition wins out over innovation on this holiday.  Sometimes you just have to give in and go with the crowd so I started focusing on what to do with the turkey after you had enough turkey fritters and turkey sandwiches.  Try these slight interesting twists on your Turk-ified meals.


Thanksgiving is our season of sweet and blessed memories.  What more could you need from a holiday.  In this time of year we are told to focus on things to be thankful.  Such things like health, home, and family never seem to hit us the right way when we’re kids or teenagers, but eventually we see the value in it.  Just like how we hated to go to family reunions when we were kids and finally became the ones to organize the whole thing.


I urge each of you to hang on to these traditions.  The greatest part of any society and community is the closeness and care in which we hold the people around us.  Sadly, with life at the speed of light, this tradition is dying as is a big part of America.  The valuing and respect of the past, provides us the courage and guidance for the future.  These successes can only be achieved through a united family, which leads to a united community, which leads to a united state, which leads to a United States of America.  Our future is held together by traditions.  Stay in contact with your family, talk to the elders, listen and learn, and heed the knowledge they have. 


The first Thanksgiving was nearly four hundred years ago. Since that time, Thanksgiving has been kept by the people of our nation as the great family festival of the year. At this time children and grandchildren return to the old home, the long table is spread, and brothers and sisters, who had been separated, again seat themselves side by side.  It is a sacred time of tradition spirit and love.


I thank you all for allowing me to spend this time with you.


May God Bless You All






Fun Gobbler Fact

What do you know about turkeys? Test your turkey knowledge with this fun trivia quiz! Click on the turkey to begin! Then read our collection of fun turkey facts.

Turkeys are able to adapt to a wide variety of habitats. However, most turkeys are found in hardwood forests with grassy areas.


The best time to see a turkey is on a warm clear day or in a light rain.


Turkeys have heart attacks. When the Air Force was conducting test runs and breaking the sound barrier, fields of turkeys would drop dead.


Turkeys can drown if they look up when it is raining.


Turkeys spend the night in trees. They fly to their roosts around sunset.


Turkeys fly to the ground at first light and feed until mid-morning. Feeding resumes in mid-afternoon.


Gobbling starts before sunrise and can continue through most of the morning.


A wild turkey has excellent vision and hearing. Their field of vision is about 270 degrees. This is the main reason they continue to elude some hunters.


A spooked turkey can run at speeds up to 20 miles per hour. They can also burst into flight approaching speeds between 50-55 mph in a matter of seconds.


Benjamin Franklin wanted the national bird to be a turkey.


This is a really good update Thanksgiving Poem.  I thought you might like it.


Thanksgiving Poem

Will and Guy have been sent this poem which reflects the positive spirit of Thanksgiving:


I am thankful

For the wife
Who says it's hot dogs tonight
Because she is home with me
And not out with someone else.

For the husband
Who is on the sofa
Being a couch potato
Because he is home with me
And not out at the bars.

For the teenager
Who is complaining about doing dishes
Because it means she is at home,
Not on the streets.

For the taxes I pay
Because it means
I am employed.

For the mess to clean after a party
Because it means I have
Been surrounded by friends

For the clothes that fit a little too snug
Because it means
I have enough to eat.

For my shadow that watches me work
Because it means
I am out in the sunshine.

For a lawn that needs mowing,
Windows that need cleaning,
And gutters that need fixing
Because it means I have a home.

For all the complaining
I hear about the government
Because it means
We have freedom of speech.

For the parking spot
I find at the far end of the parking lot
Because it means
I am capable of walking,
And I have been blessed with transportation.

For my huge heating bill
Because it means
I am warm.

For the lady behind me in church
Who sings off key
Because it means I can hear.

For the pile of laundry and ironing
Because it means
I have clothes to wear.

For weariness and aching muscles
At the end of the day
Because it means I have been
Capable of working.

For the alarm that goes off
In the early morning hours
Because it means
I am alive.

And finally, for too much e-mail
Because it means
I have friend who is thinking of me.

Xander's Recipe of the Month


Turkey Dumplings



  • 1 pound cooked, chopped turkey meat
  • 3 cups water
  • salt and pepper to taste
  • 3 tablespoons all-purpose flour
  • 1 (12 ounce) package refrigerated biscuit dough



1.       Place the turkey, water, salt and pepper in a medium saucepan and bring to a boil. Reduce heat and simmer 30 to 40 minutes, or until a broth has formed.

2.       Spread flour on a medium cutting board or other flat surface. Roll out biscuit dough and cut it into 1x2 inch pieces. Drop the pieces into the broth and cook over low heat approximately 15 minutes.




Turkey Gold Medley



  • 1/2 small onion
  • 3 celery, chopped
  • 2/3 Cup Butter
  • 1/2 cup all-purpose flour
  • 2 cups milk
  • 4 cups cooked turkey, chopped
  • 1 (4.5 ounce) can mushrooms, drained
  • 1 (4 ounce) jar pimentos (optional)
  • 1 green bell pepper, chopped
  • 1/2 (15 ounce) can peas, drained



1.       In a large saucepan over medium heat, melt butter. Slowly cook and stir onion and celery until soft.

2.       Mix flour into saucepan and stir until vegetables are evenly coated. Stir in milk and allow the mixture to thicken.

3.       Mix in the turkey, mushrooms, pimentos, bell pepper and peas. Stir and cook until thick; thin with milk if desired




Au Gratin Turkey Bake



  • 2 1/2 cups water
  • 1 (4.9 ounce) package au gratin potatoes
  • 1/2 cup chopped onion
  • 1/2 cup milk
  • 2 tablespoons butter
  • 1/2 teaspoon poultry seasoning
  • 1/4 teaspoon dried rosemary, crushed
  • 2 cups cubed cooked turkey
  • 2 cups frozen peas, thawed


1.       In a large skillet, combine the water, potatoes with contents of sauce mix, onion, milk, butter, poultry seasoning and rosemary. Bring to a boil. Reduce heat; cover and simmer for 15 minutes or until potatoes are tender. Gently stir in turkey and peas; heat through.


Turkey Tetrazzini



  • 1/2 cup butter
  • 1 (16 Ounce) package of uncooked pasta of your choice
  • 1/2 cup all-purpose flour
  • 3 cups chicken broth
  • 2 cups milk
  • 1 2/3 cups grated Parmesan cheese
  • 4 cups chopped cooked turkey


1.       Preheat oven to 350 degrees F (175 degrees C). Lightly grease a medium baking dish.

2.       Bring a large pot of lightly salted water to a boil. Add spaghetti, and cook for 8 to 10 minutes or until al dente. Drain, and place in the prepared baking dish.

3.       Melt butter in a medium saucepan over medium heat. Stir in flour. Mix in chicken broth and milk. Cook and stir until the mixture comes to a boil. Stir in about 1 1/3 cups Parmesan cheese, and remove from heat.

4.       Mix chicken broth mixture and turkey with spaghetti. Top with remaining cheese. Bake 1 hour in the preheated oven, until surface is lightly browned.



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By Xander the Food Dude

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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!


Jesse Hart Red Carpet Event

Article by: Cher Rue 



Those of you who can remember David Cassidy will be able to relate to this. The new teen idol on the scene is Jesse Hart. An all American kid with blond hair and a big smile.

Jesse is so friendly and loves his fans so much; he really caters to them and loves feedback on his music. Jesse had his new CD release party at Geisha House in Hollywood California October 21st . With some special celebrity guests who came to support him and cheer his live show on. The venue had the best sushi in town with so many friendly people having a good time dancing and listening as Jesse Captivated the room. The Red Carpet event was sponsored by Ed Hardy watches and they gave away some in a raffle, and Lucky 7 media and Kewl magazine, Kewl has so many great teens in it with some from Hanna Montana. Jesse will be in next months issue.

It is so great to see someone so happy to sing for others and see the smiles around the room. Paparazzi was snapping photos all night and the room was packed.

Some Celebrities attending were Romi (Hanna Montana), Diem Brown (Real World),

Lisa Cash (Party of five), Paul Vandervort (JDM), Chandler Maness (JDM), Daniel DiCriscio (actor) Fawn (singer songwriter), Ariel Winter (Ghost Whisperer, Horton hears a who, criminal minds, all of us), Simon Curtis ( actor recording artist), Chelsea Makela (Zoey 101) Victoria Justice (Spectacular, Gilmore girls, zoey 101), Najarra Townsend (Cupid’s arrow, the telling) Q’orianka Kilcher (The new world, How the grinch stole Christmas), Kathryn Newton (All my Children), Tammy Reese ( Desperate Housewives, Twisted), Michael Peterson (Jake in progress), Tyler Chase (Magician) Brett Delbuono (The Cleaner, Balls of Fury, The winner), Jillian Clare ( the winner, Days of our lives), Kaylee Dodson (Leverage, tropic thunder, smoke, bubbles),  Kendra and Marsha Warren ( Sunset Tan), RC Miller (Comedian) and  Amanda Rushing (singer songwriter).






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Hot & Heavy Entertainment


     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


Where are they Now?

with Stephanie Baham




Where are they now?
What has happened to some of our beloved plus size entertainers of back-in-the-day television? Well let’s find out shall we? Here are a few updates on some of my favorites:
Heavy D: Born Dwight Errington Myers, Heavy D became a hip-hop star in the late 80s with songs such as “Overweight Lovers in the House” and “Is It Good For You.” Since then he’s starred in TV shows such as Living Single, Boston Public and The Tracy Morgan Show. Dwight has also recorded songs for many TV & movie soundtracks. His latest appearances have been in 3 episodes of the action-drama series “Bones”.
Mindy Cohn: You take the good, you take the bad, you take em’ both & there ya have…the Facts Of Life! Yes you remember Mindy, she played the loveable plus sixe teenager, Natalie. She always had a jovial disposition and was best friend to Tootie, the roller skating schoolgirl. She appeared in the Facts Of Life from 1979-1988. After the show, she made random appearances on television.
Around 2003 she joined the world of animation…lending her voice to such cartoons as Kim Possible and Scooby-Doo. Her latest work includes lending her voice to the wildly popular Family Guy.
Wendie Jo Sperber: Remember Wendy Jo? She gained stardom by playing Amy on Bosom Buddies opposite Tom Hanks and Peter Scolari from 1980-1982. Since then, she’s appeared on dozens of TV shows such as Who’s The Boss, Married With Children, Murphy Brown and Touched By An Angel. Her most recent work includes appearing in 4 episodes of 8 Simple Rules For Dating My Teenage Daughter and lending her voice to 2 episodes of the animated show American Dad.
Delta Burke: Delta gained stardom by playing Suzanne Sugarbaker on the hit series Designing Women from 1986-1991. Since designing with the women, Delta has appeared in many TV shows such as Touched By An Angel and Popular. Delta also started a line of plus size lingerie. Her latest work in TV includes appearances in 5 episodes of Boston Legal opposite William Shatner & James Spader. Delta is currently working on a new TV series due to be released in 2009 called Southern Baptist Sissies, which chronicles the days in the lives of 4 gay men living in a southern Baptist community.
I scanned lists of TV shows from the 70s, 80s and 90s and didn’t find too many plus sized actors in major roles. That didn’t surprise me….as the size acceptance movement didn’t have the momentum it did today. Now we have plus size entertainers in lead roles on both TV and film…and we’ve got the large & lovely ladies walking the fashion runway during Milan’s fashion week. We’ve come a long way, baby!


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National and International Plus Size News


     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.


Miss England's First Plus-Sized Finalist
with Iolande Argent

America may have its own version of “Plus-size” pageants; but they are independent of the mainstream Miss America and Miss USA and it’s not likely they’ll be having plus-size entrants grace those stages anytime soon. But the same can’t be said across the pond in the United Kingdom.

If you haven’t heard, the latest stir in the UK is over Miss England Finalist Chloe Marshall. She's is the largest model ever to vie the coveted Miss England crown.

Chloe is a statuesque 5’10” beauty sporting a DD cup and tips the scales at 176 pounds. Her figure is not only flattering it’s something that hasn’t been spotted (let alone complimented as being beautiful) in over 3 decades. She is symbolic of what real women and glamour queens of the 40s, 50s and 60s embodied; gorgeous healthy curves, a smile that lights up the room, and come-hither eyes.

Ah, that takes you back to shades of the sexy size 14/16 Marilyn Monroe, the sultry svelte size 16 of Jane Russell or even the dynamic diva Ms. Lena Horne at a size 12. All of these women were stylish, curvy and they flaunted it with pride and reverence. And that’s what Miss Chloe has and is doing.

According to her agent, Model Plus's Stevie Walters, Chloe's success has less to do with her size than with her personality. "She is extremely confident," says Walters. "What's great is that Chloe's a very good ambassador for teenagers who otherwise feel that fashion is dictating to them."

"I think this is happening now because people are sick and tired of skinny models," says Walters. "Women aren't that size. So bigger, plus-size girls are coming into the spotlight."

The England Pageant deserves recognition for its stand on what is “TRULY” representative of the women in today’s world. The Miss England pageant is a welcoming platform for plus-size girls because the winner is chosen in part by the public.

"We don't deal with catwalk models, and we always encourage them to eat correctly and not to lose weight," Angie Beasley, Miss England Pageant Director, tells ABC News. "They are judged also on personality, confidence, beauty, and they also have to be photogenic."

"And Chloe won because of the way she spoke about her cause, as well as the way she photographs," Beasley states.

"They have to be good spokeswomen for what they believe in," says Beasley. Most important of all, the contestants must have a cause. And Chloe Marshall's cause of bringing beauty back to big girls, rings truer with the crowds, than, the over-used fallback of, “world peace” routine that you hear all pageant finalist spout off about.

And spokeswoman is what Chloe Marshall is turning out to be. She’s already held her own in TV appearances and indulged in a confrontational debate on body image that was televised in the UK. Miss Marshall is showing that she’s got the right stuff and she’s not afraid to use it.

Chloe wants to pursue a career as a plus-size model. And if you don’t think she’s got what it takes just check out some of her photos.

Justin Timberlake may be bringing ‘sexy back’; but Miss Chloe Marshall is taking it to a whole other level and bringing real women as sexy back.

We here in the states wish you luck and success. 


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Time to tell it like it is!


     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.


     You can send in a picture,  You can make a graphic,  You can just send in your written words.  You can do it anonymously and get something off your chest.  You can let everyone know who you are and liberate yourself.


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I had a date tonight and I didn't have sex with him.  I always felt like the only reason I was worth dating was because I gave it up.  This is the first time ever I didn't have sex and he treated me so nice.






I broke up with my girlfriend because of my parents, they didn't like her size. They told me I can get better.

I started dating someone else, I wish I never broke up with my girl.





I'm not a big woman, but I admire you so much.





I want to be Large and in charge.  But I cant seem to get there.





I talked to my mother about how to treated me as a child.

 About how she always made me feel bad about being bigger that my other sisters.

She made it seem like it was nothing.

At least I told her how I felt.





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Guest Writer of the Month

Fat is a Four-letter Word

Written By: Ursula Singleton


Fat is a Four-letter Word
I am convinced that fat should be a four-letter word.
While it is simply an adjective, these three letters together steal confidence, invoke shame, and perpetuate self-loathing.
Fat is one of those words that you just shouldn't use. You know what I mean. It should be one of those bad words that you would get in trouble for using when you were a child.
Fat can be defined as being substantial and impressive. That is how I choose to see myself. I have a few (okay more than a few) extra pounds. So what! I am not FAT. I am fabulous, articulate, talented.
I can be your friend, your advocate, your teacher.
But you don't see me. You look and see only fat. Fat somehow gives me the power of invisibility. Open your eyes. Perhaps you will see the big, beautiful woman I am.
Ursula Singleton
Greenville, SC




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Q:  I have a problem estimating my size when ordering clothes.  I know I don't fit most clothes in the stores. What should I do about ordering from catalogs?


Raqui: This was the same reason why I didn't order clothing from companies some years ago.  First check about the return policy for whatever website you want to order from.  Many will take returns at no cost or will charge you a flat rate of $5.95 to return.   Some you will have to pull money out of your pocket to return the item and if you are returning many things it might be costly.


     I would start with a company that lets you return for free or a flat rate no matter how much you return.  To judge how a certain companies clothes fit get the clothing in 3 sizes.  Many times according to the measurements the item doesn't seem like it would fit me but then when I get the item it does.  Always get 3 sizes and see which fits you best, and return the rest.  Remember clothes that are not stretchy will fit different than those that do.


     If you want a little help you can email me personally and I will try to judge by your picture around what size you are from my knowledge, that will give you a good start.  E-mail me at


Q:  What ever happened to the Adult Show?



Raqui: I am still working on finding a place to host my adult show where it will not be pulled down. I would rather host on my website so that I don't have to worry about censorship.  My Friday Night Show is still going though.  



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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:

Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  Knit Top

Why I Like this Item: This top goes up to a size 5X, what I like the most is that you can dress it up or down easily. This style will look good on those with a full bust line or small bust line.  The drape will compliment most figures.


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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to

Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product: Spin Spa

Type of Product: Spa Product

Cost of Product: $14.99

Where Product can be found: 
Health Care

Body Scrub machine - 3 AAA (not included). Nothing to install. Use any soap or body wash. Comes with mesh bag to store attachments.

Why I like this Product:
Perfect for the back and legs of a plus sized person.  Reach all the places you want to and let this handle machine do all the scrubbing :)



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