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Welcome to Large In Charge Magazine           

 Issue #57 - December 2008

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of LIC


Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month

Top 10 Plus Sized Holiday Gifts



Top 10 Plus Sized Holiday Gifts


     It's that time of year again, with the Holiday season comes so many things.  Gift giving, family visits, travel and more.  This year many people are trying to find that affordable perfect present to give and no one wants to give someone something they wont use or that will not fit. 


     This year Raqui is giving you 10 ideas for giving gifts to the Plus Sized person or friend you love.  Hope this helps you on your journey for Holiday gift giving.


Gift Idea #  1 - Clothing - One of the hardest things to do is buy a plus sized person clothing when you have no idea of their size.  Some good questions to ask is where do they buy clothes from and what size.  take a look at the clothes they own, when you have time if you can. A sure fire way to make sure you get the perfect gift is to get the person a gift certificate or credit from a reputable online clothing store.  You can check Big Clothing to the left for a list of some reputable companies.


Gift Idea #  2 - VISA CASH CARD - Don't know what to give, give cash, allow them to buy whatever they want online or offline with the VISA CASH GIFT CARD.  It is simple and always accepted ANYWHERE! - VISA CASH CARD


Gift Idea #  3 - Movie Tickets - Many people don't think about this but if you got someone who LOVES to go to the movies why not go to customer service and buy prepaid movie tickets that are good for a year. This way they can enjoy your present whenever they wish.


Gift Idea #  4 - Restaurant Certificates/Gift Card You cant lose when you treat your friend to a dinner at there favorite restaurant. They can use it whenever they are craving some good food and a night out and away from the stove.


Gift Idea #  5 - Gift Basket - There are so many different types of gift baskets out there now, Body and Bath baskets, Cookie baskets, Fruit ones, Cheese and Meat, Chocolate, the list goes on.  Sending someone a beautifully made basket can really make Holiday time special.


Gift Idea #  6 - Personalize It - Regular gifts are wonderful but do you want to make it a bit special? What would be better than buying a personalized gift?  Engraved with the name or initials of the person your getting it for. You can do a search online in any search engine and put Personalized Gifts.  You will come up with a ton of sites that can give you affordable options.


Gift Idea #  7 - Home Spa Products - great gift ideas are personal home spa products, and don't think men don't like to get in the act also.  I know many men who are starting to get into self maintenance and who love to look good. Machines that help you do your own at home, manicures, pedicure, heated wax etc.  Are cool products to give someone.  They are also easy to find online or in any Walgreen's, Rite Aide and CVS. You will find them on sale and you can never go wrong, these items should be replaced with time so out with the old and in with the new.


Gift Idea #  8 - Books - For both Male and Females books or gift cards to a online or offline book shop are a big plus. So if you have a reader or student on your hands, this is a perfect gift.


Gift Idea #  9 - Sweets for the Sweet - Know a sugar addict who cant have any? Don't leave them out of the sweetness for the holiday's. With all the options for sugar free and low sugar candy out there you will be amazed at the taste and availability.  Many companies have gift baskets with all sugar free options.


Gift Idea # 10 - For the Plus Sized by the Plus Sized - Many of us don't think about the fact that many plus sized people are trying to cater to our community. When you buy present any time of the year especially now. Why not go to the plus sized companies who are catering to us.  By helping them not only are you supporting your plus sized community but you are also giving a quality product to your friends, plus sized or not.  Look to the left and check out the Vegas Bash 2008 coverage, in these video's you will see just a few of the plus sized people who create amazing products for us.




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Cover Model Voting


Enter to be a 2009 Cover Model


Vote one of our 2008 Cover Models to be the 2009 Cover Model of the Year!


Issue #48 - Isabel Garcia

Issue #49 - Talisa Hopson

Issue #50 - Stephanie Ripa

Issue #51 - Lakia Tribie

Issue #52 - Nicole Andrews

Issue #53 - Silvia Rho

Issue #54 - Jada Vegas

Issue #55 - Diana Hottie

Issue #56 - Chiquita McKenzie

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What will our Cover Model of the Year Win?



2009 Cover Model Search


Want to be a LargeInCharge Cover Model?

     It has been almost five years LargeInCharge opened its online doors to the Big World.  We started with 740 readers March 2004.  We have built up to over 70,000 readers a month.  We have continuously given the Big World article after article.  Fashion tips and clothing companies.   Hot events and self esteem advice. Interesting information and cool products.  We have changed, grown and become better.  Online Magazine's are the big now doing better than physical paper magazines.  Any successful magazine must have an online presence.  LargeInCharge has been leading the way.


     Now with our fourth annual Cover Model Search taking place we are beaming with pride.  LargeInCharge keeps our entrance to be a cover model free by using photographs that the person submits for our covers. We don’t ask for an entry or submission fee from our models.  All we ask for is clear good photographs that would be considered portfolio type of pictures. At the end of the year we have a voting for the public and name one of them Cover Model of the Year he or she wins prizes and possibly money from our sponsors depending on what our sponsors give that year.


     Being a LargeInCharge cover model can be a great add on to your comp card or resume.  It can also be a feather in the cap of aspiring models.  So many beautiful and handsome big men and women who are not professional models can now be featured where they will be appreciated.  NO MORE SIZE 20 or 2XL ONLY MODELS.  AGE DOESN'T MATTER.  NO MORE FETISH ONLY PICTURES. We like them professional and in all sizes INCLUDING SUPER SIZED.  There are no limits with us.





Application Process

NOTICE - Follow the Directions carefully, if you have a question you can email me and ask before you send in your entry.  Any Entries that are not sent in properly will be thrown out. Last year time was wasted because people did not ready the instructions. Take the time to send in your entry properly.

Send In the following - You must send at least one of each.

  • One or more Head shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire
  • One or more Full body shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire

NOTE: the more pictures you send it the better for us.

Type of pictures

  • Digital or scanned pictures only
  • The Picture must represent you in your Current State
  • Pictures must be of one person, no group shots.
  • Pictures of Big Males and Females only.
  • Pictures must be clear with no watermarks. (EXCEPTION: photographers watermark)
  • Pictures cannot be smaller than 300 DPI, 800 x 600 pixels
  • Pictures must be tasteful and fully clothed - Swimsuit and tasteful lingerie is allowed.
  • Nude is not allowed unless it is artistic.  No private areas shown.
  • If your pictures are professionally done be sure to have permission from the photographer.



  Cell Phone Camera small and Discolored

      Picture has distracting background                 

Webcam picture Fuzzy small & discolored


 Multiple people with people in the background

Poor lighting with dark background




Pictures are well lit, clear and centered, background is clear and natural, proper size.


Picture Categories - You can send in pictures for any of the below categories

  • Professional - done by photographer
  • Winter - Winter wear, coats etc. and Seasonal type of clothing, costumes and colors.  Winter backgrounds scenes
  • Spring - Spring wear, sweaters etc. bright, airy, wind blown. Spring backgrounds scenes
  • Summer - Swimsuits, wraps, summer dresses. Summer background scenes
  • Fall - Fall colors and sweaters.  Earthy natural settings. Fall Colors.
  • Ethnic - Ethnic prints and colors.  Ethnic combinations of fabric and prints.  Jewelry
  • Business - Suite and tie. City backgrounds
  • Sporty - Sports clothing of all types. participating in sports. Jogging, walking, basketball, football, Skating. Etc
  • Exercise - In exercise outfits, gym scene etc.
  • Gothic - Gothic clothing and costumes etc.





DOWNLOAD the following text file read and complete and send along with your pictures.




What will I receive if I am picked

  • You will be interviewed for the Month you appear as our Cover Model and remain in our database.
  • You will be entered in our Yearly Cover Model contest to win Cash and or Prizes at the end of the year.



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Cover Model of the Month

Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought hundreds to her blogs and thousands to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 4 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Televesion, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Televsion in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Christina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui Appears on The Christina Show                   Raqui Appears on The Maury Show

Raqui in Swedish Documentary Genertaion Fett

Written By: Raqui 

     The Swedish Documentary Team joined me for Labor Day Weekend while we went over my work at a Size Activist and Squasher.  I personally wish more of my work at a BBW event would have came out in the Documentary but I cannot say I was dissatisfied.  Being told by the producer and crew that I was the one person of size who they really believed loved themselves was a pleasure.  They said there is something in me that they do not see with other people of size. They believed my every word and understood my fight for Acceptance as a Human being.  They told me repeatedly during the interview process (which lasted days) when they had spoken to others there was a sadness and dissatisfaction.  That they did not believe a happy person of size existed.  In me they saw truth and while that doesn't always do good for a documentary I know I changed the crews view of plus sized people.  They saw me as a person and that is what really made me happy.


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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna “Live your Life”

     Oh, my people, mi gente…The holidays are already here. I hope everyone enjoyed their Thanksgiving and are preparing for the holidays. Usually I give you some audio treats of the latest hot new single but since it’s the season to be giving I’ve decided to give you full mixtapes of the hottest Hip Hop Artists. Merry Christmas,

 Happy Hanukkah and Happy Kwanza , be safe. .

 50 cent . Pictures, Images and Photos

Mixtape:50 Cent Is President

Mixtape: Joe Buden Halfway House

Before Padded Room Joe Budden drops Halfway House
Charles Hamilton Pictures, Images and Photos

Mixtape: Charles Hamilton Sonic The Hamilton


Mixtape: Sky High: A We Got The Remix Special Edition - DJ Benzi , Plain Pat , Kanye West


And for more Audio Downloads and the latest music videos visit where the latest hip hop news and gossip live! Video Treat There Are Always Two Sides To Every Situation

 Beyonce :If I Were A Boy”

Boys II Men's Shawn Stockman “If You Were A Boy”

Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

Thanks for reading

Super Sized Sounds with Lynx


Lynx Cool Links

From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


The Ad


SWSSBBW seeks SM willing to ask her out.  Need not buy gifts, remember dates, put toilet seat down.  Video game fanatics and men who require guys’ nights out okay.  Willing to watch action movies and avoid “the talk.”  Reply to:


Candidate 3: The Ankle Breaker




Subject: December 20


Hello.  I saw your advertisement on and I thought I would write to you.  I am going to a Christmas party on the twentieth of this month that is a fundraiser for the Raising Russia Association, which supports Russian orphans.  I am very interested in Russia, as I spent several months there two years ago as a part of my foreign relations degree program.  The founder of the Raising Russia Association was Alphonse Byers, back in 1986, and the current president is Martha Gayano.  The fundraising director is Seamus McInnis.  The event is being held on December 20 and the cocktail hour starts at 7 p.m., but I would like to be there at 6:30 when the doors open.  The dinner and program start at 8 p.m. and the silent auction is over at 10 p.m. when the band starts playing, and they play until 2 a.m., but I probably won’t want to stay that late, maybe only until midnight.  I like to get to bed at a decent hour.  The name of the band is the Cue Sticks and they have been playing acoustic folk and world music together since the fall of 1979.  The people in the organization are casual, but the event is formal, so you would need to dress up.  The tickets cost $45 in advance or $50 at the door, but your ticket and mine are already taken care of because my parents donated to Raising Russia a few months back and got free tickets, which they gave to me.  Don’t worry about the value of the ticket.  I will not expect you to owe me anything.  Thank you very much and good night.  Paul Daniels.




Subject: Wow!


You really like to go into detail, don’t you?  I would love to go to the fundraiser with you.  Thanks for the invitation- I’m excited about it!  Do you think we should meet each other beforehand, so it isn’t so awkward?  It seems like this is a pretty serious event.  You could meet me after work some night and we could grab coffee and talk for a while or something, maybe.  There’s a great coffee shop right down the street from the art gallery I work at.  Sound good?




Subject: Re: Wow!


Yes, we could get together.  That might be a good idea.  I could bring the photographs I took while I was in Russia and show them to you.  They are highly interesting.  I think that you would enjoy them.  I will check with my dad to see if it is a good idea, but I think that maybe I will drive my car.  Can you tell me the address?  I will see you there.  My pictures of Russia are of many historical sites and many people of various backgrounds and I think you will find them fascinating.  I will talk to my dad about driving downtown and will let you know as soon as you tell me the address of the art gallery where you work if I will be able to drive down there.  It is not very cost effective to drive into the city sometimes and the traffic is heavy and difficult to maneuver in, but it is a possibility.  My car is a 2004 Buick LeSabre that is beige in color.  You don’t have to worry because it is very safe and reliable and I am a very careful driver.  If I wasn’t, my dad wouldn’t let me drive at all.  Thank you very much and I hope to hear from you soon.




Subject: Thursday Night


Thursday night works for me, that is if it works for you.  Love to see your pictures.  We’ll talk about the Christmas party then, too.  The address of the art gallery where I work, Mala Ning’s Dynasty, is 4589 East 114th Street.  Let me know if Thursday is okay, and if it is, I will see you then, around quarter after five if that’s okay.


            Thursday lasted forever.  Jany stuttered as she talked to customers, almost knocked one of the paintings off the wall, and lost the receipt for a shipment of prints that came in.  All she could think about was her date, if you could call it that, with Paul.  Finally, a guy who seemed intelligent and like he didn’t have any ulterior motives.   Luckily, business was slow.  Jany closed the gallery a few minutes early so she could change clothes and touch up her hair and makeup.  When she emerged, a man was walking up to the door.  Probably Paul, she decided.  He looked like a Paul, although she couldn’t have explained why.

            She was about halfway to the door when a terrifying thought struck her.  In their e-mails, they had never once spoken about their appearances.  Jany had never thought to ask Paul what he looked like, mainly because she really didn’t care.  It was the first thing most guys asked her, though.  And Paul had never mentioned it.  Was it because he didn’t care, or had he just assumed she must be thin and at least average looking?  She should have warned him.  It was too late to do anything now, though.  She opened the door in a state of near panic. 

            “Hello,” the man said.  “My name is Paul.  Is Jany available?”

            Jany glanced back over her shoulder before she spoke.  There was no way to escape.

            “I—I’m Jany.”  She spoke softly and quickly, bracing herself for his response.

            Things went better than she expected.  Much better.  He stretched his hand out toward her.

            “Pleased to meet you.  I’m parked in half hour parking.  Are you ready to go?”

            “Uh, sure.”  Jany swung her purse over one shoulder and let the locked door swing shut behind her.  “We don’t really need to drive.  The coffee shop is just on the next block.”

            “But I need to move my car.  I only paid for a half hour.”

            “You could—do you just want to pay for more time?”

            “No.  I paid for a half hour.  I better move my car.”  Paul spoke firmly.

            “Oh.  Okay.”  There was something a little awkward, a little different, about Paul, but she couldn’t put her finger on what it was, exactly. 

            Once they were in Paul’s car, he started the engine and put the car in drive, his foot planted solidly on the brake pedal.  He carefully studied each mirror in turn.  He twisted his head around and peered intently out the back window.  Jany looked at Paul inquisitively.  At this rate, it was going to take him forever to pull out into the street. 

            “Um, hey, uh, Jany?  Can you see?” he asked finally.

            “See what?”

            “Is there anyone coming up behind me?”

            “No, I don’t think so.  Ease out slowly, though, just in case.”  Jany was beginning to see why he’d had to ask his dad if he should bring the car downtown. 

            Paul eased out at a snail’s pace and managed to move a foot or so before he stomped on the brake.  Jany’s body was held tightly in place by the seatbelt but her head snapped forward.

            “Oh!” Paul exclaimed.  “I thought the car behind me was moving.  Sorry.  Are you all right?”

            Jany looked behind them.  The car that was parked there—yes, parked—was most definitely empty. 

            “I’m fine.  You?”  If they had just walked to the coffee shop, they would have been half done already.

            “Yeah, I’m all right.  I don’t drive in the city very often and I don’t want to get in an accident.  My parents just bought me this car.”

            Finally, he drove slowly forward and they were out on the street.  As soon as they had taken their place in the lane, Paul stopped the car.  In the street.  Just stopped.

            “What—what are you doing?”

            “How do I get there?  I don’t know how to get there.”

            “You drive one block up.”


            He started driving.  Very slowly.  Jany could almost hear the people in the cars behind them grumbling and swearing.  She was so preoccupied with not meeting the eyes of the drivers around them that she didn’t realize Paul was running the red light at the intersection until they were halfway through it.

            “What—stop!” she yelled.  Paul stomped on the brake once more, but not until they were through the intersection.   Jany forced herself to speak more softly.  She was almost angry with him, except that she couldn’t quite be angry because the poor guy seemed so clueless.  “Everything okay, Paul?”

            “Yes, why?”

            “You just—you ran a red light.”

            “I did?  Oh!  I’m sorry.  You told me to drive one block up.”

            “Uh, okay.  Fair enough.  I just thought—I thought you’d be watching the light.  Sorry.”

            “It’s all right.  I forgive you.” 

            “Yeah, okay.”  He forgave her?  Because he didn’t know enough to stop at a red light?  Any other girl would have given up on him already.  Normal girls didn’t date space cadets like this.  But there was something about him that she liked, too.  Something underneath all the awkwardness.  So Jany knew she had to stick it out.  “Hey, there’s the place, right there.”

            “Where?”  Paul turned his head and looked out the passenger side window.  Jany braced herself as a car pulled out in front of them,

            “Watch out!”

            Paul hit the brakes yet again.  After the other car had safely driven out of his way, he remained stopped.  Jany tried to speak calmly.

            “Why don’t you just—you should park here.”

            Paul looked a little frazzled and it seemed dangerous for him to be driving.


            “Put your car in the spot that car just came out of.  The coffee shop is right back behind us.”

            “I can’t parallel park.”  He said it quietly and steadily.  Someone behind them honked a horn. 

            “Okay, just go up one more block, then.  Watch the light.  There’s a parking garage there.  I’ll pick up the tab for it.”

            Jany held her breath until Paul had pulled into the parking garage.  They got out of the car and walked back toward the coffee shop—almost exactly the same distance as if he would have stayed in front of the gallery. 

            Inside the coffee shop, they ordered drinks and settled at a table.  Jany made sure to lead the way so they didn’t end up at a booth she wouldn’t fit into—always embarrassing. 

            “So,” Jany began, then paused.  After all they had been through in the past—had it only been ten minutes?—she wasn’t sure exactly what to say.  But the silence between them begged interruption.  “Um.  Oh, hey, do you have those pictures you were going to show me?”

            “Oh, darn!  Yes, I do, but I left them in my car.  I’ll be right back!”  Paul stood up jerkily and nearly knocked over his coffee as he turned and shuffle-ran out the door.  Jany suspected that he didn’t even notice the near catastrophe.  He seemed like a genius type, maybe, someone who knew about a lot of different things but couldn’t remember to tie his shoelaces or put the milk back in the fridge.  Jany wrapped her hands around her coffee cup and looked around the room. 

The place was full of students hiding behind piles of books and men and women who had stopped for a dose of caffeine on the way home from work.  Jany watched them all quietly until her perusal of the room was interrupted by a beautiful man who caught her eye and smiled as he passed by.  Her heartbeat quickened. 

Her first reaction was to reach up and straighten her hair, then she brought her hands immediately back to the table when she realized two things: the man’s smile most probably hadn’t been anything other than a gesture of kindness, and she was here with another man. 

But he had smiled at her!  It wasn’t often that a man noticed her in a positive way, even if it was just in friendship or goodwill.  Jany shivered and glanced at the clock on the wall.  It didn’t seem like much time had passed at all, but it was approaching fifteen minutes since Paul had left to go to his car. 

Impatiently, Jany drummed her fingers on the table as she waited for him to return.  Then, for no reason that she could explain, her fingers stopped moving and she sat up straighter in her chair.  Threw her head back just a little, thrust out her chest.  Tipped her head to one side.  A few seconds later, her reaction became clear, although she still wasn’t sure how she had known what was coming.  The beautiful man walked into her field of vision.  He went to the pop machine again—could he really have finished his drink already, or was he just looking for an excuse to walk past her?  No, he wouldn’t have any reason to walk past her.  On the way back, though, he once again looked in Jany’s direction, tipped his head to meet her eye, smiled a broad and dimpled grin.  Winked.  He winked at her!  And then he was gone.

Paul shuffle-ran back into the coffee shop just in time to get the full effect of Jany’s flushed and glowing face.  He stopped abruptly when he got to the table and stuttered out a series of broken sentences.

“Car locked.  Keys.  In ignition.  Can’t.  Get in.  Can’t get in.  Don’t know.  What—what—what do I do?”

“Wait a minute, slow down.  You locked your keys in your car?”  Nothing like bringing her down from her momentary high.

“Yes.  Yes.  I locked my keys in my car.  What do I do?”


Jany was still in bed Saturday morning when her phone rang.  She considered just letting it ring.  Fridays were always amazingly busy at work.  It was on Fridays that men bought gifts for their wives and businesses bought artwork for office renovations and single women decided they needed something pretty to look at over long and lonely weekends.  And so Saturday mornings often found Jany with barely enough energy to turn herself over in bed.  And on this particular Saturday, the drama of Thursday night was still weighing on her.  They had sat at the coffee shop for an hour and a half waiting for Paul’s father to arrive with an extra key, and once he was there he had insisted on buying Jany another drink to make up for it, which had led Paul to insist on showing her his photographs, photographs that were blurred and not of anything very exciting, even though all Jany wanted to do was go home to bed.  It had been nearly eleven by the time she’d finally gotten home, and midnight by the time she’d fallen into bed.

Finally, she managed to make her arm reach out and her hand grab the phone.  She could at least look at the caller ID and see if it was anyone important.  She didn’t recognize the number, at first, although it looked vaguely familiar.  Just as the call went to voicemail, she remembered.  Michael.  It was Michael. 

Michael of the gentle, resonating voice.  Michael who thought she was beautiful, intelligent, desirable.  Michael from New Mexico, so far away she’d probably never meet him and so busy he hardly ever called.  Frantically, she brought his number back up onto the caller ID screen and hit the call button.

It was only seconds before his voice flowed smoothly through the line.

“Hey, Babe.  Thought I missed you.”

“No, I’m here.  I just—couldn’t get to the phone in time.”

“Did I wake you up?”

“No!  No, I was up.  Just—reading,” Jany lied.

“Ah, I see.  Anything good?”

“Um, no.  Not really.  So how have you been?”

“Not bad.  Busy.  Any budding romances yet?”

“Ha!  Yeah, right.  Let’s see, so far there’s been the guy who practically raped me and the guy who—wow, I don’t even know quite to say about the second guy.”  Jany lapsed into a hurried account of her experiences Thursday night.  “I don’t want to be mean.  I don’t have any right to, really.  I mean, look at me.  I’m probably worse off than he is.  But everything he does is so damn awkward it’s all I can do to keep a straight face when I’m with him.”  Michael laughed heartily.

“Well, you’ve only had a couple of responses.  You’ll find someone eventually who makes for romance instead of high comedy.  At least you have something to tell your grandkids about.”

“Yeah, great stories.  Wonderful.”  She didn’t tell him that he was her hope for romance, the object of her fantasies. 

“Anyway, I just wanted to see how things were going.  I have to get going.  Talk to you soon?”

“Yeah, I’ll let you know how things go at this Christmas party thing.  Should be interesting.”

“You do that.  Bye, Sweet Thing.”

Jany hung up the phone.  Talking to Michael made her happy, in a lot of ways.  But it made her just a little sad, too, knowing that she had found someone who seemed so right for her, and who seemed to really like her, and he was spending encouraging her to seek out other men.  She stretched out and closed her eyes for a minute before she pulled herself out of bed.  It was nice to relax.  And no matter what the circumstances of their relationship were, it had been nice to be woken up by Michael’s voice.


One week later, at almost exactly the same time, Jany’s phone rang again.  This time, though, she was wide awake.  On the morning of her big date with Paul, there was no way she could sleep in.  Her nerves were on edge.  The ringing phone, in fact, had just about made her dump a bottle of red nail polish on the floor.

Again, she didn’t recognize the number on the caller ID, but this time it was a local number.

“Hello?” she said hesitantly.  No one ever called her.

“Hello, Jany.  This is Paul.  Paul Daniels.  We were planning to go to the Raising—”

“Paul, I know who you are.  It’s okay.”  Jany stifled a giggle.  She always seemed to have a hard time keeping a straight face when she talked to him.  It wasn’t that she was laughing at him, really, not in a mean way.  But the things he said and did seemed so odd.

“Oh.  All right, then.  I was just calling to make sure you were still planning on attending.”

“Yeah.  Yes, of course I am.  Just doing my nails now, in fact.”

“Well, you didn’t need to do your nails.  I don’t think they are requiring things like that, just that you dress up.”

“Uh, yeah.  I just—wanted to.”

“Okay.  Well, I just wanted to make sure.  And I wanted to make sure you had my phone number in case you needed to contact me.”  He slowly and carefully gave her a phone number.  She wrote down the first few digits, then paused and waited for him to finish.

“Paul?  That’s—”

“I’m sorry.  That’s not my phone number.  That’s your phone number.” 

Jany pulled the phone away from her mouth and laughed as quietly as she could.  She didn’t bother writing down the number he recited.  She could just look on her caller ID.  Her shoulders were shaking from unreleased laughter, which rather prevented her from writing.

“Okay, Paul.  Thank you,” she said, once he had finished. 

“All right.  Good bye, then.”

            Jany was just about to hang up the phone when she heard a voice saying her name in the distance.  She returned the phone to her ear.


            “Yes, it’s Paul.  I was just going to tell you that I can’t pick you up at your house because my dad doesn’t want me to drive in the city.”

            “Oh.  Okay.  Well, where is the fundraiser?  I can take the bus and meet you there.”  It wasn’t hard to understand his father’s concerns.  Jany was only too happy to escape another ride with Paul.

            “Are you sure?  Because you could also take the bus or a cab to my house and then I could drive from my house to the fundraiser with you and that would be fine.  It’s near my house and not in the city.”

            “Well, where is it?  We’ll see what’ll be easier.”

Paul gave Jany both his address and the address of the fundraiser.  She recognized the address where the event was being held; she’d been to a wedding there over the summer. 

“It’s all right.  I’ll just take the bus to the hall.  I went to a wedding there once and the bus stops right nearby.  That’s probably easier that trying to get to your house.”

“Are you sure?  I wouldn’t want you to feel like it’s a bad date and talk badly about me to your friends or anything.  I know that girls do that sometimes.”

“No, I wouldn’t speak badly of you.  It’s fine.”  Jany smiled as she hung up the phone.  He was so sweet and thoughtful and so just plain weird, all at the same time.

She spent the rest of the day pampering herself.  She wished she had girlfriends to help her primp and offer her advice.  That was how most girls got through first dates.  Jany pretty much kept to herself, though.  She mostly just talked to people online.  And of course there was Mala, but Mala was half loner and half socialite, and Jany didn’t fit into either part of her life.  It seemed like everyone Jany’s age was busy being in a relationship or holding a high power job or building a family.  She had nothing to offer anyone, and they had nothing to offer her, either, except for the opportunity to observe, much more publicly than she wanted to, everything she wished for and could not have.

Jany didn’t have much confidence to draw upon by the time she was on the bus to the fundraiser.  She couldn’t help worrying that she’d tip over and fall off her heeled shoes, or that the buttons would pull on the front of her dress and her fat would come bulging out.  She wrapped her coat more tightly around her as she walked from the bus to the hall. 

It didn’t take her long to find Paul once she made her way inside.  He was at the registration table asking the girl with the guest list a million questions about the foundation and hanging on her every word.  She looked up when Jany approached with a look that could possibly be described as panic, so Jany decided to rescue her.

“Hey, Paul.  I made it.  Let’s go get a drink.”  Jany smiled at the girl’s look of relief.

They wandered around after they had ordered, Paul talking with friends and strangers alike.  And talking a lot.  Jany mostly just smiled and listened, and nodded once in a while.  Even if she had been comfortable talking to complete strangers the way he was, she wouldn’t have known what to say, and if she had known, she wouldn’t have been able to get a word in edgewise anyway.

Finally, people started making their way to long rows of tables and Jany suggested that she and Paul follow suit.  He agreed, just as Jany had suspected he would.  He was a big fan of following the crowd.  Paul continued talking to everyone around them while they waited for their dinner to be served.  When he glanced in Jany’s direction, she shot him a look that was meant to warn him to go easy on people, but he must have taken it as a plea to include her.  He looked earnestly at the man and woman seated directly across from him.

“The polite thing to do is to introduce the rest of your party to anyone you have a conversation with,” he told them.  “This is my date, Jane.”

Jany’s cheeks blew up and she almost spit out the water she had been in the process of drinking.  Somehow, in all the flurry and awkwardness, she had stopped thinking about the whole thing as a date.  Besides, she wasn’t used to being described as a person’s date, and furthermore, after seeing the way Paul was boring everyone around him to tears, she wasn’t sure she wanted anyone to know she was his date.  Too late now, though.  She composed herself and smiled a bright, fake smile across the table. 

“It’s Jany,” she told them, and extended her hand.  Normally, she wouldn’t have corrected him, but she was already so flustered that she did it without thinking.  Luckily, they were interrupted then by a couple of girls who were delivering plates of salad and cups of soup.

The rest of the night dragged by.  Jany was sure there must be some interesting people in the crowd, but they weren’t the ones Paul chose to talk to, and Jany lacked the courage to approach anyone on her own.  He spoke mostly to people who were there because they felt it was their civic duty to donate, or because they truly wanted to help the cause, not the ones who were there to celebrate the holiday season or have fun.  Paul did ask Jany if she wanted to dance, but she feigned a headache.  The people who were dancing were performing a dizzying array of fancy steps that Jany knew she would be unable to mimic, especially in her semi-high-heeled shoes.  And she wasn’t exactly in the same kind of physical shape they were in, either.  It was definitely not worth the risk of looking like a fat, clumsy ox.  She was overjoyed when Paul suggested they go up to the balcony to watch the dancing from there.  It didn’t feel so much like she was disappointing him if they did something he wanted to do. 

They stood and watched the dance floor for a while before Paul suddenly glanced at his watch. 

“Oh my God!  Look, it’s tomorrow!” he exclaimed.


“Yeah!  It’s midnight!  I need to get home to bed!”

Jany was only able to refrain from laughing because she was so grateful for an excuse to leave.  She stood up carefully and they headed down from the balcony.  As they approached the top of the stairs, Paul reached out and hooked his right arm around her left elbow. 

“Wouldn’t your parents be proud to see you now?”

While Jany struggled to come up with an appropriate response, they slowly began to descend, arms tightly linked.  They were six or eight steps up from the bottom when Paul looked to the left.

“Everything looks so Christmassy.  It’s beautiful, isn’t it?”

He turned to see more of the vista.  In fact, he was so intent on taking in the beauty that instead of turning just his head, he turned his entire body.  He was still tightly gripping Jany’s arm in the bend of his elbow, and so he pulled her along with him.  Unfortunately, she was in the process of taking a step when he did.  She missed the step completely and felt intense panic for just a second as she teetered, failed to find her footing, and bounced down the last few stairs to land on the floor with her skirt just about over the top of her head and her ankle twisted at an unhealthy angle underneath her.

Paul didn’t seem to notice at first, even though his arm had disengaged with Jany’s when she fell.  Then he looked around, startled.

“Jany?  Jany?  Jany!”  He looked every which way but down.

“Uh, I’m down here,” she called weakly. 

“Oh, my God!  Are you okay?  You should be more careful!  What happened?  Are you okay, Jany?”

Jany couldn’t bring herself to tell him that she hadn’t fallen, that he had actually thrown her down the stairs.  Her ankle felt like it had snapped in two, although she was pretty sure it was just sprained.  Paul was making his way down the stairs with a look of horror on his face.

“Do you want me to help?” he asked, reaching for her arm.

It took every bit of self control Jany had to keep from screaming, “Don’t touch me!” as she pulled her dress down around her and ducked out of his reach.

Within seconds, a crowd of people had congregated.  Paul was dancing madly around her in an attempt to help.

“Oh, my goodness, darling, are you all right?” one lady asked.

“What happened?” another chimed in.

“Do you need an ambulance?” asked a man with a cell phone in his hand.

“Yeah!  An ambulance.  Do you need to go to the hospital?” Paul called out.  “I can take you.  Get in my car.  Do you need an ambulance?”

“No.  No, I’m fine,” Jany told them all.  “It’s just a sprain, I’m sure.”  The only thing that was really hurt was her pride, and that would have been fine if only Paul hadn’t yelled so loudly and drawn an audience.

A half hour later, Jany was clinging to the shoulders of two men and hobbling back to the bus stop.  Paul was following behind them with Jany’s purse cradled carefully in his arms.  The men waited with Paul and Jany for the bus and helped her aboard when it came.  Paul followed them in and sat next to her.

“Um, Paul?  Your car is here, remember?  Are you—are you getting off?”

“No.  I called my dad and he said that if something like this happens, it’s the polite thing to do to take you home.  It’s okay to stay out late.  So I am coming with you.”  He stood up suddenly and jerked toward the front of the bus.  “No, wait!  I have to go!  I only paid to park until midnight!  I have to go pay for the rest of the night!”  He leapt down the steps of the bus, calling over his shoulder for the bus driver to wait for him.  The bus driver, of course, honored his schedule and not Paul’s request.  Paul was barely ten feet from the bus when the driver pulled away from the curb.  Paul turned to stare at the bus with a look of terror on his face.  Jany smiled at him as she waved goodbye through the window, put her injured leg up on the seat, and settled back to enjoy a quiet ride home.


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Just Be Happy – Times Ahead Will Test Us

by Xander The Food Dude

As a man thinketh in his heart, so is he."
Proverbs 23:7

Just be happy. Sounds too simplistic, doesn't it? But, in actuality, we can have much more happiness if we choose to consider things from a positive perspective.

Everyone experiences the ups and downs of life, however, we can make a decision to dwell on the negative or practice what the old saying says to do: "When life give you lemons, make lemonade!"

It really boils down to your attitude and you have the ability to mold your attitude into any shape you like.

Here are some tips:

Ignore those who tell you that life is too difficult to be happy. What do they know?
When you awaken each morning, be thankful for another day, even if it's raining.
Smile at those you meet, even if they don't return the favor.
Don't borrow trouble. Each day has enough of it's own.
Don't allow trouble to bury you in its gray mire of sorrow.
Don't give in to negative thinking.
Be positive even when others are not.
Refuse to give up on anything worth having or doing.
Do something you enjoy each day, even if it's just a walk in your neighborhood.
Whistle as you go through the day.
Work at being happy because it's worth it.
You're human, like everyone else, and from time to time you need a little pick-me-up in your decision to be happy. When you reach that stage, find someone else who has decided to be happy. Join forces with him or her and march forward in your decision to be a happy person.

Simply speaking, a happy person is not a person in a certain set of circumstances but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes.

Choose today to just be happy - as much as it depends on you!

Until next year, I wish you all the greatest of gifts granted us, I hope for all of you and your families, Love and Peace in this Holiday Season. I thank you all for another wonderful year of opportunities.




Xander's Recipe of the Month


Pecan Tarts

Guaranteed to Make Santa Smile

1/2 cup white sugar

2 egg yolks

1/2 cup margarine
1 teaspoon almond extract

2 cups sifted all-purpose flour

1/2 cup margarine

1/2 cup corn syrup

1 cup confectioners' sugar

1 cup chopped pecans

1. Preheat oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C).

2. In a large bowl, mix 1/2 cup margarine (NOT butter) and 1/2 cup sugar. Stir in egg yolks, almond extract, and sifted flour.

3. Spray tiny muffin cups with non-stick spray. Press mixture evenly into tiny muffin cups. Bake for 8 to 10 minutes.

4. To make Filling: Bring to a boil 1/2 cup margarine, corn syrup, and confectioner's sugar. Stir in chopped pecans.

5. Spoon into shells no more than 1/2 way. Top with pecan halves. Bake in a 350 degrees F (180 degrees C) oven for 5 minutes.


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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!


Miss Plus Top Models

Article by: Cher Rue 



This years Awards show was spectacular. A fantastic list of celebrity Judges including,
Comedian Luenell, Johnny Venokur (Johnny V, Scott Baio is 46 & pregnant), Cher Rue (Plus size actress/model/spokesperson) Fawn (Singer songwriter) Daniel DiCriscio (Hairdresser to the stars, actor and Personality) Chandler Maness (Janice Dickenson Model) Timmy T. (Fashion Overdose). Faye Bernard (Casting Director).


This year’s show included thirteen amazing plus size girls who took control of the walk way strutting their stuff. Each girl wanting to receive the gold ring at the end. Telling the crowd why they are “HOT”, which they all had so many great answers to add to their confidence. Speaking to the girls before the pageant, they expressed how much they enjoyed the whole process and how it made them feel good about being themselves in their own skin no matter what size they were they were beautiful. They were so happy making new friends and learning about each others lives. The girls each had their hair
And make up down by Fabiulus 1, and the girls felt like stars. The girls took many photos
On the Red Carpet which added to the amazing night.

The show had three different clothing changes with the first outfits by designer “Tamechi” in sexy red tops that sparkled. The second outfits were by “Fashion Overdose” one of the sponsors with playful outfits that brought out the spunk in

In the girls walk as they made their way down the runway. The last outfit change was
By designer “KOFFA” were dresses with a flair of unique flowers placed in different
Spots on each of the girls dresses.

Just as the runway was steaming it was time for a jumping performance by “Vintage”
Featuring “Miss Tammy” a plus size girl herself who was owning the stage, they
sang a song about big girls and had the whole place rocking out along with them.

The bright lights, the music the crowd cheering for their favorites and it was time to
Count up the votes, and the results are in “Queanna” for the new Miss Plus Top Model
For 2008. She was so surprised and as she walked the catwalk with a smile bursting she
Had a few tears of joy. So to all you girls sitting at home wondering what it would be like
To model, make your wishes come true and enter a contest in your hometown, show the world that you too can shine!

For more information  or
Sponsors for the evening were Creative Family, and B & B Hardware and Fashion

This years contestants were Tara, Alexandria, Allison, LaVonte, Melissa, Natasha, Norva, Queanna, Samantha, Sereena, Sheena, Teresa, Tiasha, and Yolanda.

MISS PLUS TOP MODELS is a models workshop that hosts shows and gatherings from time to time.
It consists of about 100 plus size ladies from all walks of life. The workshops have now turned more into events since there were not many shows around for the curvy crew. The producer Miss Juliette Hagerman worked for years training models at several different modeling schools, Barbizon and John Robert Powers.

Juliette is the owner of Miss Plus Top Models, Miss Teen Top Models, Miss Silverbird USA and also co- produces shows overseas, such as, The Most Beautiful Girl in Nigeria (held in West Africa) and Silverbird Female Model. She has taught modeling and produced fashion shows and pageants in the US and overseas for over 15 years.

Our latest show THE MISS PLUS TOP MODEL AWARDS, is where fashion and music come together to make the ultimate fashion extravaganza in Hollywood California. The show is "America's Next Top Model done in a big way.

Miss Plus Top Model is not only about fashion shows and pageants but confidence building workshops and women coming together, making new friends and sharing ideas. We started our first free models seminar and workshop after 911 in 2001 and started "The fabulous Plus Catwalk Models."
In 2005 we started our first annual ''MISS PLUS TOP MODEL AWARDS." Our models are from all around California and some from out of state. The age range is from 16 to 40's , they are of all nationalities and they are high school and college students. We also have a lot of housewives and business owners. Every chance our business owners get they share with the others their road to success.

The models from past and present shows from time to time come together for celebrations or just to shop.




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     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


Have you Met Ruby?

with Stephanie Baham




Have you met Ruby?


Ruby is a new show on the Style Network, which follows a 477-pound lady named Ruby on her "weight loss journey".  When I first heard of this show...I had mixed feelings about it.  I wondered how they were going to portray this woman. Were they going to show her as hopeless case lingering at death's door?  Were they going to show a woman with serious body issues and low self-esteem?  I also wondered if I was going to hear the "lose weight or die" mantra that the media loves so much.


The series begins with a doctor telling Ruby "lose weight or die"!  Then her friends & family picked up the mantra as well.  So Ruby, with the help of friends, a physician, a psychologist, a nutritionist and a personal trainer, decides to change her life so she can lose her weight.


What makes this show great is Ruby herself.  Ruby lives in Savannah, GA and she's a beautiful, vivacious lady with a wonderful southern charm.  Ruby is an absolute sweetheart! It's obvious she does love herself...but there's a part of her that's very afraid to be large.  She refers to her weight as "the beast".  


The show mostly shows Ruby at home with her friends or out at her wellness appointments.  And like with any reality show, there are video diaries, sidebars & dramatic music.  What I do like is that her friends show her a very deep love and have nothing to say but wonderful things about her.  My favorite is Jim, her 19-year-old nephew.  He's cute as a button & just as sweet!


Ruby had painful break-up six years ago.  She was in love with her boyfriend, and he left her because she was big.  In one episode, he came back to see her.  I was on the edge of my seat with this one...I did not want to see Ruby take him back!  He looked like he wanted to get back into her life again.  Near the end of the episode she told him that she couldn’t lose weight (or make any other changes for that matter) for him.  What she does now has to be for her.  I'm really glad she did that because he looked like one cocky mofo.  And her friends didn’t like him very much either! But I digress...


Overall, I believe Ruby has a very positive outlook.  Here's an excerpt from her blog on the Style Network website:


"I have my moments in darkness. But I have been in the light more than the dark. I have been happy more than sad, and I have laughed out loud for a lifetime. I will always laugh. I am addicted to laughing and life. Even though my life has been limited by my obesity, the life I have lived has been very happy and fulfilled." - Ruby


It saddens me that Ruby still sells herself short in a way by mentioning being held back by obesity.  However, I am glad to see that most of her focus is going toward what's moving her forward, not holding her back. 


I do hope that whatever changes Ruby decides to make, she is happy and fulfilled.


Be sure to check out her show Sunday nights on the Style Network.  You can watch footage of the show and meet Ruby online at

The message boards on the website have turned into a very loving community of well wishers.  I was glad to see so many people reaching out to her with such kind words.  I wish the entire world would reach out to each other in such a loving, supportive manner.  The video below is a beautiful response from Ruby to the people on her message boards that are having a hard time dealing with their own size.


Ruby is a show well worth watching and I'm sure you'll find Ruby just as addictive as I do.





Ruby Facing Reality - video:


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     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.


Who is Beth Ditto and Why Should We Know Her?
with Iolande Argent

Beth Ditto is the kind of woman that makes news. You know the type; they walk into a crowded room and everyone turns to look or they step to a podium and the room goes silent in anticipation of her verbal soliloquy. Beth Ditto is such a woman. But what exactly makes her so special?

Ditto describes herself as a "fat, feminist lesbian from Arkansas." That sums it up in a nutshell. Beth Ditto, 27, is a little more than 5ft tall, weighs a cool 210 lbs. (95 kg or 15 stone in the UK), she’s a lesbian, she’s a very outspoken advocate of gay rights, and she’s in an intimate relationship with a transgender man.

See a newsmaker; but those aren’t the only reasons (even though they are good ones). Ms. Ditto gained international attention by being named #1 on NME’s (New Musical Express) “Cool List” in November 2006 who cited her “non-conformity” as the reason she was chosen. She appeared on the cover nude, in all her curvaceous glory. Ditto was also nominated for Sexiest Woman of the Year at the NME Awards 2007 but she lost the award to Kate Moss, (the former poster child for “super skinny heroine chic” the media standard by which all women are physically judged, who is herself an advocate of size-acceptance and a good friend of Beth Ditto-talk about irony).  

Non-conformity is definitely one-way to describe this gritty lead singer of the of Indie band Gossip. Ditto’s powerful voice has been compared to female greats such as Etta James, Janis Joplin and Tina Turner. Her lyrics are outspoken and a fiery blend of disco/punk/blues/soul generally attacking the Republicans' attitude toward gay marriage in the US.

The queer politics is also a big thing,” as she puts it. And she's not afraid to stand up and shout about it.

Ditto generated hostile headlines by telling an interviewer that the rashes of high-school shootings in the US came as no surprise because depressed teenagers didn't get the help they needed from the authorities.

Politics isn’t all she speaks out openly against. Despite her size, Ditto is also described as a style icon. "She's glamorous and sexy, and is completely obsessed by clothes. Ditto's interest in fashion, and growing status as a style icon, is about to be cemented with a book, So Crazy. "It's a style guide," she says. "All the usual fashion don'ts will be fashion dos. Like horizontal stripes on big bodies, and chin-length hair. Fat people look fab in Miu Miu. They just do."

Recently she has refused to play in-store at Topshop; a chain of clothing stores situated throughout the United Kingdom, Republic of Ireland and over 30 other countries including the US that offers a number of celebrity and designer collections, including one by former supermodel Kate Moss, whose collection was released on May 1, 2007. Ditto cited her dissatisfaction with their clothes range not available in her size. She went as far as to offer to design clothes for them saying, "Give me the job. I want to design. I want you to make clothes for big girls - big boys. I want you to make big sizes."

"I think Beth Ditto is a fantastic role model, not just for lesbians, but for all women," adds Sarah Jane. "She's honest, intelligent, witty, outspoken, fiery, and incredibly charismatic.

"She's also a self-confessed fat-femme who is proud of who she is and how she looks. In a music industry populated by thin, airbrushed singers, that's incredibly refreshing."

Other fans are taken by Ditto's energetic presence on stage, which frequently sees her strip down to her underwear.

Ditto has also posed nude for On Our Backs, a women-run lesbian erotica magazine. "It was a big moment in my life," she told Curve magazine. "It was kind of a radical thing to do. I’m a fat person, and I’m a femme. It felt really good."

Ditto currently writes an advice column for British newspaper The Guardian, appearing in its 'G2' section on Fridays, entitled "What Would Beth Ditto Do?"


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Time to tell it like it is!


     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.


     You can send in a picture,  You can make a graphic,  You can just send in your written words.  You can do it anonymously and get something off your chest.  You can let everyone know who you are and liberate yourself.


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I have some big confidence problems, some would say I'm a big guy but because I am muscular.

My best friend is a big guy who is fat and I always make fun of him and he takes it.

I want to say sorry I make fun of you.

I do it because I want to be happy like you are and even though I have a body others envy.

I cant love myself.






The hardest thing for me to realize is that you said you loved me just as I am.

But yet you broke up with me because your ashamed of my size.

I will never forgive you for that.





I was having lunch today and the skinny bitches laughed at me or eating a salad.

When they got there short ribs I went over and stuck my fingers in them and said.

LAUGH AT THAT!!! and left.





I let him touch my belly it felt nice and I want him to do it again.






Send in your own Confession,  Use the email to the Right and send in a your confession, weather it is a graphic you made (NO BIGGER THAN 5x7 92 DPI) or a picture you saw.  You can also just send in text words.  Your Confession can be Anonymous or you can tell everyone who you are.

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Large In Charge Guest Spot

We want to hear and see your talents!


One of our favorite parts of the Magazine.  The Guest Spot is for our readers to submit there talents to be viewed.  We want to see all you wonderful supporters making moves of your own.  If you write poetry, short stories, commentaries, or just thoughts in general, please submit them to us.  If your a designer we want to see pictures of your clothing.   We would love to include your talents in our newsletter.  We hope you take an active part in the L.I.C. newsletter. Send in your article, poetry, comments to -

NOTE: The Opinion of the writer is not always the opinion of The Large in Charge Staff.  We support the Right to all views.  We do not Condemn or Approve writing based on our personal thoughts.  We approve writing based on if the subject is a concern for the BBW / SSBBW / BHM Community.  Thank you for your writing and please send in those articles!  - The Large in Charge Staff

Writers Search


Looking for new Writers for 2009



About Our Writers Search:

     LargeInCharge is looking for Volunteer Writers for our Online Magazine.  We are looking for Males and Females who wants to write about issues that concern large people.  We need people who will be dedicated to writing columns or doing an interview once a month in a timely manner.  You do not need to be a professional writer,  Good writing, and typing skills, the ability to spell check, understand grammar and have your article sent in on time is what we are looking for.


     We want to bring the voice of the people to the people.  Give them something they can related to and enjoy on a monthly basis.


    LargeInCharge is a non-profit Online magazine which is why we are asking for Volunteer's.  This is a great opportunity to brush up on your writing skills and learn different writing styles.


NOTICE:  This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.  You must be able to hand in one article on time monthly for a period of at least 12 months.  If you wish to continue after 12 months then you may stay if your track record is good.


We are looking for writers for the following Positions.

  • A Big Man's World - a writer who will write about living life as a Big Man in this Society.

  • Product Review - A writer to search for and find products that are beneficial for plus sized people.

  • Make- up, Medicine and Body - External to internal make your body feel and look great!

  • Inspiration - Inspirational stories, interviews and articles on loving yourself as is.

  • My Life Before and After Gastric bypass - we are looking for a writer who will document there life before and after this controversial surgery.  Positive and Negative experiences are welcome.

  • The Erotic Phatty - Erotic stories and poetry for the Full Figured form.


Would you like to be a writer?  If you have an idea for a column let me know.





Interested in applying for a writers position?


     Send in the information below along with a clear photograph of yourself and one complete article at least 300 words.  Please make sure your article is matching the position your applying for.  If you are a versatile writer and applying for more than one position send in one article for each position.


     Any submissions maybe be used in the magazine as a guest article or other wise if you do not receive a position.  If you are picked for a position it will be used as a back up for your column in case of emergency.


I want to Apply for a Writers Position:


My Name is:

My email address is:

My Phone Number is:

My location/address is:

The position I am applying for is:


Here is my article:


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Send in your Work to Appear in LargeInCharge

We love our guest writers, they help us to make LargeInCharge more personal and reader friendly place.  We bring the people words from there own peers.  If you always wanted to write but never knew what to do with your thoughts and opinions.  Send them in to us we love to feature you in our guest spot.


What type of entries do we accept?

  • Original Articles that have not been placed in publication.

  • Size Empowerment Stories

  • Discovery of Size Acceptance

  • Romance of Large Size

  • Poetry - at least 25 lines in length

  • Complaints about Society

  • Complaints about what is provided for Big People

  • Complaints about Health Care

  • Weight Loss Surgery Experiences

  • Dealing with Doctors

  • The Joy of being Big

  • Learning to Love yourself

  • etc.

How to Submit my Article for review?

  • Check your article for spelling and correct format, We do not edit articles.
  • Attach your article either in Word, Text Format, or in the Body of your email.
  • In your email send your Real Name, E-mail and Address (state, location).
  • Under your Name and Address include date, and the line. "I give and there owners, permission to use my written article. I am submitting it for there use at their discretion."
  • Include a picture if you so wish in .jpg or .gif format and a brief description of yourself.

Send in your stories, poems, etc. to



Ask Raqui

Ask your Questions and We will answer!

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NOTE: The Opinion of Raqui  is just that. I do not claim to be professional or to solve your problems.  I can however give you a real answer that may help you out.

Ask Raqui
Q:  I ordered an item from a new online store for Plus Sized People... I never received my order or my money back.  It has been about 6 months what should I do. They dont answer any of my emails or phone calls.
Raqui: I have heard of this problem before with a friend of mine. We continued to call and to email until there was a response but still a year and a half later she never received her over 100.00 order or a refund.  I suggest you blog about it and also contact the Better Business Bureau for there area if you can.  At the very least be very persistent and warn as many other plus sized people as possible about your experience. Maybe then the company will take notice.

Q:  I have a problem estimating my size when ordering clothes.  I know I don't fit most clothes in the stores. What should I do about ordering from catalogs?


Raqui: This was the same reason why I didn't order clothing from companies some years ago.  First check about the return policy for whatever website you want to order from.  Many will take returns at no cost or will charge you a flat rate of $5.95 to return.   Some you will have to pull money out of your pocket to return the item and if you are returning many things it might be costly.


     I would start with a company that lets you return for free or a flat rate no matter how much you return.  To judge how a certain companies clothes fit get the clothing in 3 sizes.  Many times according to the measurements the item doesn't seem like it would fit me but then when I get the item it does.  Always get 3 sizes and see which fits you best, and return the rest.  Remember clothes that are not stretchy will fit different than those that do.


     If you want a little help you can email me personally and I will try to judge by your picture around what size you are from my knowledge, that will give you a good start.  E-mail me at


Q:  I just heard the radio show how can I suggest a topic



Raqui: I All you have to do is send an email to and describe the topic and why it is benifical for plus sized people. I all reply to email.  



Thank you for Reading Ask Raqui

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:

Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  Knit Top

Why I Like this Item: This top goes up to a size 5X, what I like the most is that you can dress it up or down easily. This style will look good on those with a full bust line or small bust line.  The drape will compliment most figures.

I think the one in Ruby would look great while your kissing under the mistletoe :)


Roman's -




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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to

Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product: Spin Spa

Type of Product: Spa Product

Cost of Product: $14.99

Where Product can be found: 
Health Care

Body Scrub machine - 3 AAA (not included). Nothing to install. Use any soap or body wash. Comes with mesh bag to store attachments.

Why I like this Product:
Perfect for the back and legs of a plus sized person.  Reach all the places you want to and let this handle machine do all the scrubbing :)



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