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Large In Charge Magazine - Five Years on the Net!

 Issue #60 - March 2009

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.


Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size

Ask Raqui - Get some advice from one Big person to another.


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month


The Club House for big people in Illinois



Written By: Raqui

Back in the days there was the Tree House. The Little Rascals had The Woman Haters Society.  Now Plus Sized people of Illinois has Club Round, a place where Plus Sized people can get together, and have fun while being educated on how to live an active fulfilling life. 

Lisa  Breisch an Amazing and knowledgeable woman has taken the bull by the horns so to speak and put her money where her mouth is, and created an amazing resource .  She has physically created a place for all people of size to come together and enjoy there lives and each other.

Lisa along with her dedicated staff (which varies in sizes) they take size acceptance to another level with there daily and weekly activities that promote love of self no matter what size or shape you are.

Interview with Lisa  Breisch of Club Round What is your name, your company, and title?

Club Round: Lisa A. Breisch, Psy.D., Licensed Clinical Psychotherapist What type of service do you provide for the Plus Sized Community?

Club Round: Club Round is a Clubhouse where people of all sizes and ages may come together in unity for fun, support, and health. Club Round Clubhouse offers activities for plus size adults, teens, and children. We are a size friendly group of people where body size is accepted and appreciated. Does your company have a slogan or motto?

Club Round: Yes, Club Round Clubhouse follows the Health At Every Size philosophy and believe that ...Every Body Is A Good Body, No matter the Shape, Size, or Weight. Where is your company based?

Club Round: A Clubhouse for Round People is located in Loves Park, IL which is a suburb of Rockford, IL at the border of Illinois and Wisconsin.

7120 Windsor Lake Parkway
Suite 202
Loves Park, IL 61111

website: Your Company is quite unique from other resources for Plus Sized People, can you tell us how that is so?

Club Round Clubhouse is Illinois' only physical location dedicated to providing size acceptance support, education, and fun to plus-size children, teens, and adults. Who works with you in making company the best out there?

Club Round: Networking with other local size acceptance venues such as Linda's Big Connections, Abundia, Chicago BBW, as well as international size acceptance groups such as NAAFA, ISAA, and Dimensions. I firmly believe that all size acceptance groups need to support and encourage each other. Tell us what made you decide to create Club Round?

Club Round: In 2001, I earned my doctorate degree in Clinical Psychology and in 2006 went into my own private practice. I am a generalist practitioner for ages 2 on up and work with families, couples, and individuals. In 1996, I wrote my Master's Thesis, "Negative Effects of Dieting and it's Etiology in Eating Disorders." I followed up in 2000 with my Doctoral Dissertation, "Size Acceptance: The New Ethical Treatment of Obese Patients in Therapy." I wanted to expand my size acceptance emphasis and created Club Round Clubhouse for that outlet. Why did you feel their was a need for a place like Club Round for people of size?

Club Round: Rockford, IL has no size acceptance resources, groups, or on-line clubs. So I wanted to go out on a limb and stretch for a physical location and make size acceptance a known entity in the Rockford, IL area. In 2007 Club Round opened its doors and in 2008 became a member of Rockford's Chamber of Commerce. Since then, we have been interviewed on local TV, have had radio advertisements, and advertisements in all of Rockford's major newspapers. Do you have any experience in running an establishment like this before?

Club Round: To share some history, I'm personally and professionally dedicated to size acceptance first of all. I'm 5'6" and weigh 360 lbs. I've been a BBW all my life. In my 20's I was introduced to size acceptance by my previous mentor, Dr. Cheri Erdman, who taught Body Image and the Larger Woman classes at the College of Dupage in IL. I then attended the Abundia Retreats, which are retreats led by size acceptance therapists for plus-size women. I became involved with NAAFA (National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance) first as Chicago NAAFA's Secretary and then on to President for five years. I also became an officer for ISAA (International Size Acceptance Association). I had then also became involved in the local BBW dances. Are your staff people of size? or do you have smaller counter parts working at Club Round?

Club Round: Club Round's staff are of all sizes. "Big Momma" which is me is the largest, then we have one therapist who is about 240 lbs, another therapist who is 150 lbs, one clinician who is about 210 lbs, and our receptionist who used to weigh 325 lbs but lost weight through illness and is now about 190 lbs. But, we are all size accepting and preach and teach size acceptance. Our ages also range from age 24 to age 76. What has been the reaction you have gotten from People of Size about Club Round?

Club Round: We've had really positive reactions from veterans of size acceptance as well as people who have never heard of the notion. We have had a few people think we did weight loss work, but when it was explained to them what we actually did....we received some silence and some comments such as, "so you accept fat?" How long has your site been active? And do you get a lot of positive feedback?

Club Round: Club Round Clubhouse opened our doors in 2007. We have a website and a yahoo e-group which is  We have received very positive feedback from those who have attended our workshops, therapy groups, game nights, dances, and movement classes. Who came up with the name of your company?

Club Round: I did. It was hard to come up with name but I wanted it to convey the notion it was mostly for big people, to be easy, simple, and to roll off the tongue easily. Tell us more about your creation of your company and the activities you provide?

Club Round: Club Round Clubhouse which means we are a central location that is open to plus size people and their supporters. The Clubhouse has the following accommodations: Dance floor, exercise area, several social common areas, a balcony for sitting outside, a private bathroom, size friendly seating (armless heavy duty chairs and comfy couch), free parking, non-smoking, and non-alcohol serving. We provide door prizes, snacks, and beverages at all our events. Does your company service the whole community or only the Plus Sized Community?

Club Round: Club Round Clubhouse is open to the entire community. You do not have to be a BBW (Big Beautiful Woman) or a BHM (Big Handsome Man) to attend events. We are open to people of any size as well as FAs (Fat Admirers) and family and friends who support their large loved ones. Do you know of any other establishments such as yours that is run by the plus sized for the Plus Sized community?

Club Round: No, not a Clubhouse. One other special feature that we have is that there is no smoking and we do not serve alcohol beverages and are not connected to a hotel. Club Round Clubhouse is an entity all it's own. What makes the services you provide better than the rest?

Club Round: I wouldn't necessarily say "better than the rest" as there are all different types of size acceptance organizations and clubs out there and people get various needs met from those. But Club Round is founded by a Clinical Psychologist and we provide both therapeutic activities as well as fun and fun only events. What were the things that concerned you when you thought of making a establishment like Club Round?

Club Round: One of the issues that concerned me at first was attendance. An individual has to be accepting of themselves enough to be associated with a size acceptance establishment. So, being that Rockford, IL did not have any resources on size acceptance I was leery at first. But, we have a large e-mail membership, VIP members, and yahoo group members. Is Club Round a membership facility or is it a walk in type of set up?

Club Round: Club Round has both VIP Memberships as well as entrance only options. Most of our events are $15.00 at max, unless they are therapy groups. We provide VIP privileges such as immediate notification of events, VIP Members Only events, a free pass to bring a friend, and discounts at all events. The cost of a VIP Membership is $25.00 for one year. What are the price ranges for your activities?

Club Round: Dances for either adults, teens, or children are $15.00. Game nights, craft, and scrapbooking events are $5.00. Our movement classes are $8.00 per class ($6.00 if registering in advance), nutrition and dietician services $65.00. BBW Book Club free (donations accepted). Redneck Bingo $15.00. Do you have a Financing program for your customers, do you accept insurance or other forms of payment?

Club Round: Yes, for our clinical services such as individual therapy or group therapy we accept insurance and also have a sliding fee scale. For our fun only events, we will discount or waive the fee due to hardship or if a person is volunteering to help us set up, etc. What is your most popular service?

Club Round: Our support groups and Redneck Bingo. Do you have any plans to expand to other areas?

Club Round: No, not at this time in terms of physical location. But we just began providing services to the large individuals of the GLBT (gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender) community. We had a meet and greet for plus-size lesbians and bisexual women. We will be expanding our services in other aspects but at the same location. When picking your location what did you keep in mind?

Club Round: Accessibility to the Rockford, IL area. Easy access from the major streets and bus lines. If someone has a problem at Club Round how do you handle the situation?

Club Round: If there was a problem of any kind, staff are always at hand...whether it is to help someone up the steps or bring in items. Luckily, we have not had any major problems such as fights, etc. I think the lack of alcohol helps to keep a more civil atmosphere. LOL I understand you service children and adults? What type of services do you have for each?

Club Round: We have dances and game nights for teens ages 13-17 that are monitored. We have dances and game nights for kids ages 8-12. We also have our movement classes that are open to any age. What are you most proud of through the creation of Club Round?

Club Round: I'm ESPECIALLY proud to see the smiles and happiness eminate from chubby kids that there is "a place for them" where they won't be teased or laughed at because of their weight. That they receive the message that all bodies are good bodies at an early age ... and that they see fat, happy, and healthy adults having a good time as well...and being non-judgmental and supportive of them, "just the weigh they are." It makes me think of myself when I was a chubby little girl and wishing I had a place to go to where I could play with other chubby kids who were just like me....without anyone thinking or saying, "you're too fat" or "you're too fat to do that, wear that, be that..." And, for the plus size teens who come and say, it is nice to be at a place where you won't hear "you have a pretty face but you need to lose weight" or "you won't get a boyfriend if you're fat." How can the readers of LargeInCharge help to support your company?

Club Round: Just spread the word, the love, and the concept of having a Clubhouse for Round People of all ages and sizes of round.

7120 Windsor Lake Parkway
Suite 201 Upstairs
Loves Park, IL 61111
815-639-0312 Phone
815-639-0303 Fax
Yahoo E-Group: 
Lisa Breisch, Director
Office Hours: Monday through Friday, 12pm-9pm.

Saturdays as Scheduled.


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Cover Model of the Month




Interview with our Cover Model of the Month What is your name?

Viviennui. Pronounced "Vivian Wee" Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am originally from the original state of sin, Nevada! But, I currently call the Bay Area my home. Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am 28 years old. A towering six feet tall. I am German and Irish. Have been married for six years to the coolest photographer/artist. I don't plan on having any children, but, I do love spending time with my friends' kids! Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I was born big and have always been a big girl. I was taller than most of the kids in my class and have always had a fuller figure. It wasn't until I got into my twenties that I really learned to appreciate myself and my amazing body. (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up as a large child?

I HATED it. Kids are so mean. They tend to pick on anyone who is different. I wasn't just chubby, but also had freckles and glasses! Boy, it was like God put a "Kick Me" sign straight into my DNA! *laughs* (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?

I've fluctuated A LOT over the years. I've been every size from 16 to 32! I've had many medical problems, since my birth, that have contributed to weight gain and lack of mobility. (I'm currently a size 24) What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

I've done a lot of photography of beautiful plus sized women... and decided, this year, to start putting myself out there more. I believe that I can inspire beautiful younger girls to accept and love themselves, at any size! Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

Well. I still have a lot of problems being accepted for my size. I get turned down A LOT for modeling opportunities. I get told, "You're so talented and beautiful! You should lose weight, and then you'll be perfect!" I've learned to shrug such things off and keep on doing my own thing. I know that as long as I have confidence in myself, eventually other people will accept and love me for everything I have to offer. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Those closest to me are absolutely supportive of everything I am. I've learned that the people I want close to me should love me for who I am, inside and out! What would you say inspires you most in life?

Being a role model! We live in a "Playboy" and "Cosmo" reality of skinny over-airbrushed women and men... which is vastly unfair to all of the beautiful girls out there who don't see how pretty they are outside of the pressure of society's harsh standards. What is your primary job?

Photographer/Artist/Makeup Artist ... I also design and make costuming (specializing in Burlesque accessories). How did you get into this line of work?

Well, it sort of found me! I started trying to model and found my way to the other side of the lens. Do you find acceptance in the work force?

Not always. I've had a lot of people suggest diets to me, over the years... or assume that I don't eat healthfully. What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

I think that size discrimination seminars and classes should be mandatory! Being "big" is one of the last acceptable prejudices. I'd like to believe that can be changed through educating people and inspiring more tolerance. What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

Oh, it's just horrible! If I am lucky enough to find something in my size, I am often not lucky enough to have it fit in length or in the bust! And, when I do find clothes that fit and look good... they are often made rather poorly and fall apart quickly! I would love to see better quality out there! What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I'd love to see MORE plus sized models in national campaigns. I'd also love it if more clothing was designed with SHAPE in mind, instead of just size. Too many plus sized retailers tend to carry clothes that fit a certain average type, instead of modifying the cut to fit different body shapes. I'd like to see more versatility to flatter all figures! What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

I think that more people would dress to flatter their bodies instead of hiding behind oversized clothes. I think that teenagers would be more confident in what they have to work with, because they would have more positive role models. Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

Torrid. Lane Bryant. Ross. Fashion Bug. And, I make my own! :) Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

I drink water. And, LOTS of it. If I want something flavorful, I have tea. Water is the best beauty secret ever! It keeps the body well hydrated which makes your skin and hair look shiny and healthy. I really stay away from sugary or high fructose corn syrup loaded drinks, because they rob your body of the vitamins and minerals it needs. For a sweet treat... I love a few slices of cucumber in a pitcher of water! Cucumber is a natural anti-inflammatory, and makes the water taste like sweet melon. Mmmm. Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?

Study your own face and body before the shoot. Practice facial expressions and poses in front of a mirror. Take practice shots. DO NOT JUST SIT THERE! Stretch a lot before a shoot, because you will have to hold poses for a while, and the BEST poses are the ones where your body is supporting itself instead of just sinking and pooling into the chair or props. Work that body! It doesn't matter if you are a size 12 or 32... anyone can be insanely attractive and model well if they know themselves and practice facial expressions and poses. Being prepared is the most important asset a model has in any shoot. Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?

I see a lot more people standing up for themselves! I think that, even five years ago, many large people would stand by and take a lot of abuse because they didn't know to stand-up for who they are. This doesn't mean being confrontational... it just means that we aren't taking the abuse as much anymore.. What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

I think that people will become more and more tolerant to every size and shape... and the standard of beauty will continue to change! I'm hoping that we'll have a size 18+ model on the cover of Cosmopolitan in the next five years! Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

I currently work with a lot of beautiful women for pin-up sites... because the pin-up is coming back into style and I believe that we plus sized pin-ups deserve our room in the movement, too. I do pin-up modeling and some fashion modeling... and really look forward to doing more artsy abstract shoots in the future. Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

Les Toil told me that I'm stunning. *dies of flattery* His pin-up work is so insanely beautiful... so, when he gave me that compliment, I felt like crying a little. Having someone so talented SEE you... is really moving and inspirational! Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My husband. He's insanely supportive of my modeling and we've grown a lot artistically together. He's the other half of my photography business and shoots me pretty regularly. What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

Believe in yourself... keep trying... keep learning and growing and expressing yourself. Nothing else matters. You MUST do it for YOU! No one else matters. Confidence is knowing yourself and feeling good about what you have to offer! Take constructive criticism, but don't let people tear you down or hurt your feelings. Stand-up for who you are and what you're sharing with the world. YOU are a gift. What plus size figure do you admire?

Mia Tyler. Good God... she's beautiful! She's also working on putting out a clothing line, this year, which I am extremely excited about... because she's looking to focus on everything the current market is lacking. She's not afraid to express herself and BE herself. I adore her. Describe yourself with one word.




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Cover Model of the Month

Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 5 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui feature on and Glamour Plus - go to Portfolio Section

Five Year of LargeInCharge

Written By: Raqui 

     This month is a very special month for me.  Five years ago I created LargeInCharge with the thought that if you give the people what they need then they will come.  And yes they have.  From 740 viewers our first month to now 2.5 million every 3 months, we have grown.  Along the way I have gained and lost many friends and writers due to LargeInCharge and the dedicated have stuck with me.


     Many do not understand why would I spend my life dedicated with out pay to people who can just as easily praise me one moment and curse me the next.  I know it is because I am not looking for praise,  I am looking to share something with my community and give them a resource they can count on.  Something more than a fly by night dream that disappears as suddenly as it came. 


     What makes me proud is that slowly a family is being built of those who know each other well and not so well.  But a unity is there and is felt down to the bone.  And it is only getting better!


     Five Years, no matter what has happened in my life and in the lives of others LargeInCharge has been kept alive.  It has stood the test of time and has show that dedication of sprit and mind can over come all obstacles.  I only see things getting better and hope you all here to see it also.


With Love Raqui


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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





click here And here is the Mocha and Praline Sundae (Raq Place photo here) T.I. Ft Rihanna “Live your Life”

My people, mi gente…

     March Madness is here. Most of us are asking ourselves will it be a long winter or will we have sunny days and get back to our mingling ways? Did the little groundhog really see his shadow and which groundhog do we believe? I tend to hibernate like a big old grizzly bear during the cold months can’t wait to be kissed by the Sun. But whatever the weather you can pump up these hot tracks in and out doors and gets your party on. I got some exclusive heat from some mainstream as well as underground artists but all worth the download.


Pura Vida Also Please Do Join me for MOMMA’S HIP HOP KITCHEN Vol 2 @ Hostos College On Sat. March 7th Free Open Event -Details Flyer Below












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Want to send in your Voice in for review? Are you a singer, rapper, or poet who performs spoken word?  Up and Coming, already established?  Contact Lynx through her Myspace page or email and all information will be forwarded to her (PUT "FOR LYNX" IN THE SUBJECT AREA) 

You must be a Size Positive Artist, or a Plus Sized Supporter.

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Super Sized Sounds with Lynx


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From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


The Ad

SW SSBBW seeks SM willing to ask her out.  Need not buy gifts, remember dates, put toilet seat down.  Video game fanatics and men who require guys’ nights out okay.  Willing to watch action movies and avoid “the talk.”  Reply to:


Candidate 6: Big Daddy Love



Subject: Your Ad

Hey, baby. I saw your ad- pretty funny.  I take it from your name your a big girl.  That's totally cool with me cause I’m a big guy and I like big girls.  I think maybe we should get together sometime.  Sound good?




Subject: Re: Your Ad

Finally, someone gets that I was trying to be funny!  Most people just think that I’m desperate and pathetic, which I probably am, but I’m funny, too!  lol  So tell me more about you—what you do for a living, what you do for fun, what you’re looking for, that kind of stuff.  Oh, yeah, and what your name is.  I work as a receptionist/housekeeper/cashier/salesperson in an art gallery, I like music and art and books, and I’m just sort of looking to see what’s out there.  If you have a job at all, you’re already ahead of most of the guys I’ve met on here.  You do have a job, right?  Hope to hear from you soon.  -Jany 

p.s. Do you have something against apostrophes?  I noticed you don’t seem to be a big fan of using them in appropriate places. ;)




Subject: Re: Re: Your Ad

Something against aposterphes?  Not sure what you mean.  But anyway, yeah, love to get to know you sometime.  I work in a factory making paper plates.  Don’t laugh.  Trust me, I get laughed at a lot for that.  But hell, its a job, and a decent one, too.  I’m into fishing and watching movies and gambling.  Thats pretty much all I do other than work.  So where do you live?  So we can figure out where we should meet and all.  Oh, yeah, and the names Dale.




Subject: Getting Together

I live right downtown, near the all the art galleries and such.    We could meet at a mall somewhere or something, maybe.  That’d work for me, anyway.  And yes, something against apostrophes.  You know, these: ’.  You’re supposed to put them in contractions, like you’re, for example.  And you didn’t.  lol  I’ll forgive you, though, since you seem to be gainfully employed.  Just let me know where you want to meet, and when.  Fridays and Saturdays are usually best for me, but I could get together just about any night after like 6:30 or so, really.  Later.




Subject: Re: Getting Together

I live about 45 minutes from downtown on the train, but I could get off by Eastshore Plaza.  Saturday afternoon sound good?  We could grab lunch and hang out for a while.  I suppose youll want to do some shopping, being a chick and all.  Then maybe catch a movie, but not one of those mushy stupid chick flicks.  Something good.  A man movie.  Meet me by the food court door at 1, woman.  I’ll be wearing a red sweatshirt with a half naked woman on it.  Look for me.




Subject: Re: Re: Getting Together

Ha!  Woman?  WOMAN?  I have a name, buddy!  lol  And I’d suggest you wear something less offensive.  Well, wear the red sweatshirt so I recognize you, but then take it off and throw it away.  Really.  See you Saturday.  Might be 1:30.  I would have been there at 1, but you seem to take some things for granted and I need to keep you on your toes.  See ya then!


            Had she really typed that message?  Had she really sent it?  This Dale guy already seemed to be bringing out the worst in her.  Or maybe it was the best.

            For some reason, she wasn’t feeling the nerves this time, not like she had before.  Maybe because leaving James’ house had been sort of a rock bottom moment for her.  Rock bottom was probably a good place to start a relationship from.  If all hope has been beaten out of you, you can give up expectations of success and just have fun.

            Jany got to the mall early on Saturday despite her threat to Dale.  She figured she’d run into the book store and grab something to read while she waited.  That way she could be there when he got there without looking like she’d been awaiting his arrival too eagerly.

            At one o’clock, there was no sign of Dale.  He had obviously taker her at her word.  At twenty after, she still didn’t see a big guy in a red sweatshirt anywhere, and by one thirty-five, she’d begun to accept the fact that she’d been stood up.  But with the protection of her new who-cares attitude, it didn’t even bother her.  Not much, anyway.  As long as she kept her nose in her book so she didn’t have to see the man and woman sitting at the table next to her with their three kids, or the teenage couple walking past and holding hands.

            It was almost two when the chair opposite Jany’s at the table scraped along the floor and someone sat down in it.  She refused to look up from her book, even though it had been several minutes since she had actually been reading it.  Every muscle in her body tense, she waited.  Maybe it wasn’t even Dale, just someone borrowing a chair for the next table or something.  She’d just wait to see if whoever it was said anything to her.  And it took a while, but he finally did.

            “Hey, Phatgurl, how’s it going?”

            Jany’s book fell to the table and her head snapped up.  She stared at the man in front of her.  He was definitely a big guy, but he wasn’t wearing a distasteful red sweatshirt.  He actually looked quite respectable, if not overly attractive.

            “Don’t look all offended.  If you don’t want people to call you that, you shouldn’t have used it as your screen name.  It’s not like I made it up on my own or something.”

            Jany intended to remind him once again that she had a name, but when her mouth opened up, those weren’t the words that came out.

            “How did you know I was me?”

            “I didn’t, really, but it seemed like a pretty sure bet.  You’re screen name is Phatgurl and you’re a pretty big girl.  You said you like to read and you’re the only one sitting in the food court of the mall reading- that sorta draws attention.  You said you work in an art gallery and you’re dressed in all black with that weird swirly thing around your shoulders that looks like something an artsy fartsy person would wear.  I figured it was worth a shot.  At best, I was right and at worst, I was wrong but still managed to start a conversation with a hot chick.”

            “Oh.”  It was all Jany could come up with to say.  She was still half offended, even though she knew she shouldn’t be.  If she was branding herself as Phatgurl, she didn’t have a right to be upset when people called her Phatgurl or mentioned her size.  And Dale actually seemed like a pretty smart guy.  James wouldn’t have been able to figure all that out, for sure.  It was fairly impressive.  And Dale had said she was hot.

            “So whatcha reading?”

            “Um, just—a book.  Presidential inaugural speeches, actually.”

            “I see.  Sounds exciting.”

            He didn’t seem like he was a scary guy.  Pretty nice, actually.  Jany could feel some of her confidence slowing filtering back into her.

            “No, it doesn’t.  Not to you.”

            “How do you know?”

            “Can you see yourself right now?  The expression on your face says it all.  And anyway, people who don’t know how to use apostrophes aren’t interested in things like presidential speeches.”

            “Are you calling me boring and dumb?  I’m hurt.”

            “Oh, whatever.”  Jany tucked her book into her purse and stood up to throw the soda she’d been drinking away.  “You ready?  I seem to remember you saying something about shopping.”

            “Yeah, yeah,” Dale grumbled, but he was grinning when he stood up.  Jany’s heart leapt at the sight.  Maybe she’d found a decent guy at last.

            They went into a few stores without buying anything, laughing and joking about various things they saw.  Jany couldn’t believe how easy it was to be with him.  She couldn’t believe it was already four thirty when Dale dragged her into a coffee shop so he could show her his favorite drink, a huge blended coffee thing with whipped cream and Oreo chunks on top.

            “After this, we should head for the theater.  The movie I wanna see starts at five.”

            “The movie you wanna see?  Like, as in, I don’t have a choice?”

            “Nope.  ‘Member, I said I’d shop with you and then we’d go see a movie I wanted to see.  I do something you wanna do and then you do everything I wanna do ‘cause that’s your job.  You gotta learn to listen better, Woman.”

“Yeah, I guess I do, Man.  I’d hate to upset you by not being an agreeable, subservient woman.”

“I knew I liked you for a reason.”

They were on their way toward the theater when Jany saw a Lane Bryant up ahead.  A wickedly delicious idea began to take shape.

“Hey, we have a few minutes.  Can we stop in Lane Bryant for a minute?”  At the same time that Dale was demanding and almost rude, she sensed that he was desperate, too, and wanted to see how far she could push things.  She was starting to see that it could be fun not caring what someone thought of you.

“Yeah, I s’pose.  But you better hurry up, ya hear me?”

“Yes, Dad.  I’ll hurry up.”

Just as she had suspected he would, he followed her in.  She stood by a rack of sweaters, fingering the soft material.  Then she glanced up at Dale coyly.

“I need to see if this sweater’ll fit.  Will you hold this for me?”  She dangled her purse off one finger as she held it out to him.  He rolled his eyes, but he took it.  She grinned and held the sweater she had no intention of buying up to herself, then replaced it.  Then she slowly made her way to the lingerie section.  He continued to follow.

“What are you doing to me, Woman?”

“Trying to humiliate you, of course.  Having fun?”

“Yup.  I love looking at bras.  Course, it’s better when they’re on a chick, ya know?”

“Well, how do you think this one would look on me?”  Jany held a lacy red bra up to herself. 

“Nice, but that one would look better.”  He pointed to one that was nearly transparent in its laciness.

“Yeah?”  She held it up to her breasts, stroking herself as she pretended to smooth it.  “I like it, too.  I never wear underwires, though.  Too poky.”  She put it back on the rack and waltzed away.

“Woman, you’re killing me.”

“Am I?  How’m I doing that?”

“You know very well how you’re doing that.  Com’on. The movie starts pretty soon.”

“Okay, okay.  Just let me look at these.”  She stopped by a bin of panties that were on clearance.  She reached in and pulled out what she could only describe as a bundle of strings.  When she shook it out and held it up by the corners, it vaguely resembled underwear.  In shape, anyway.  “Hey, should I get these?” she teased.

“Hell, yeah.  You’d be hot as hell in those.”

“Hot as hell?  I’d lose the stupid things.  All they are is strings.  I’d put ‘em on and never see ‘em again.  Have you seen my ass?”

“Not yet, but I intend to.  ‘Specially if it’s in those.”

Jany, who had never bought underwear that didn’t come three to a pack in her life, boldly walked toward the cash register.  Her cheeks flushed when she realized that she was going to have to walk up to the counter, place the panties on it, and wait for the salesgirl, who probably assumed Dale was her boyfriend, to ring them up.  All the things the salesgirl would imagine them doing when Jany was wearing bold, sexy, barely there underwear like that flashed through Jany’s mind.  She nearly panicked when she realized they were the same things Dale might imagine them doing.  Her bravado was rapidly fading.  Jany wasn’t used to being the one who set things in motion.  But it was too late.  The salesgirl had seen her coming and Dale was right behind her and there was no place to escape to.

She quickly paid for the panties and then raced out of the store.  Dale chased after her.

“Woman, where the hell are you going?  Get back here!  Woman!  Jany!”

Jany stopped and waited for him to catch up to her, heart racing.

“Man, what’s the hurry?  Take your damn purse, hey?  Wow, you’re fast.”

“Sorry.  I just—well, I wanted a good seat for the movie.”  She had been about to tell him that her boldness was uncharacteristic and it had started to scare her, but she didn’t trust him enough quite yet.

“We’ll get there.  Slow down so I can keep up.”

When they got to the theater, Dale bought a giant tub of popcorn and drinks while Jany picked their seats.  They sat in silence until the movie started.  Jany was mostly silent because her heart was still thudding and she was sure her voice would come out all shaky and weak.  She was grateful when the movie started and she had something to distract her.

They had been watching the movie for half an hour or so when Dale leaned over toward Jany.  She was bored to tear with the movie by then and half hoped he was going to suggest they leave, but no such luck.

“You should give me a blow job,” he whispered.

Jany gasped loudly enough to draw the attention of several of the people around them.

“You did NOT just say that,” she choked back to him under her breath.

“Yeah I did.”

“You’re a pig.”

He watched the movie in silence for a few minutes while Jany sat and fumed.  Another guy expecting lewd things of her right from the start.  She couldn’t totally blame him, after the whole underwear thing, but she wasn’t used to having the power to seduce a man.  The problem was that once she started things, she wasn’t sure how to handle them.  No matter what, though, he had no right to suggest something so—well, crude, not to mention illegal.

“So ya gonna do it, or what?” he whispered.

“No!  We’re in a theater!”

“I pegged you for the adventurous type.”

“Since when do you have to be a slut to be adventurous?”

“I didn’t say you had to be a slut.  I just want you to su—”

“I KNOW what you want.  And no!  God!”

People were starting to shoot them dirty looks again, so Jany held her finger up to her lips and turned to stare at the screen.  Dale didn’t take the hint.

“You want me to have to go home and tell my mom I spent the whole afternoon with you and didn’t get anything in return?”

“Yeah.  That’s exactly what I want you to do.  I’m sure she’ll be highly upset with me for not breaking the law to give in to your every whim.  She’d be so proud of your brilliant idea.”

“She would.  She knows I don’t go on dates very often.  She’d be happy for me if you did.”

“You’re sick.”

They watched the rest of the movie in silence.  Every so often, Dale leaned over toward Jany, but she scowled at him whenever he did and then he, in turn, refrained from saying anything.

When they were back out in the mall, squinting at the bright lights, Dale led Jany to a table in the food court.

“So what’s up, Woman?”

“Uh, not much.  I just went to the movies with a pervert and I have a train to catch in a half hour so I can go home and sulk about it.”

“Oh, com’on.  Get off your high horse, there, Missy.  You drag me into that damn store and make me hold your purse while I you ask me to picture you in all these bras and thongs and shit and then you get pissed off when I want a blow job?  Sheesh.”

“No, you get off your high horse.  We both know damn well someone like me isn’t gonna turn a guy on, no matter what she does.”

“If that was true, why would I have wanted a blow job?  Ever think of that?”

“SHHH!  Someone’s gonna hear you.  There’s little kids all over the place.  Keep it down to a dull roar.  And everyone knows guys want whatever they can get whenever they can get it.  Has nothing to do with me turning you on.”

“How the hell do you know?  Are you me?  Need me to prove it?”  Dale scooted his chair away from the table.

“No!  No, it’s fine.  I believe you, okay?  But I don’t do that kinda thing on a first date, ever, and especially in a theater!”  He didn’t have to know she was lying.  And the theater part was true, anyway.

“But you do take all your dates out to the mall so you can make them watch you shop for bras?”

“No.  No!  That’s ridiculous.  You’re the one who said you figured I’d wanna shop.”

“And you’re the one who asked me to picture you practically naked.”

“I did not.”

How do you think this one would look on me?  Would this one look better?”  Dale spoke in a falsetto.  “Do you normally wear your bras over your clothes?”

“Oh, come on.” 

“Answer me.”

“Obviously I don’t.”

“Well, then, you were asking me to picture you practically naked.  To a guy, that is the next best thing to an invitation to actually see you naked.  And then I make one little suggestion and you freak all out.”

“I’m sorry if I did that.  I felt a little safe with you and we were having a good time and I got a little bold and decided to take advantage of it.  I’m not usually like that and I have no idea how to handle myself once I do something like that.  This is all new to me, and I should have warned you.  I’m sorry.  But let me repeat: We.  Were.  In.  A.  Theater.  A public place.  I denied you in your own best interest.  I didn’t want either one of us to get arrested.  And here I figured if we met in the mall, there wouldn’t be any pressure.”

“Well, I had to try.  I don’t get many dates, either, you know, but instead of getting all whiny about it like girls do, I just keep trying.  And sometimes trying gets me yelled at and humiliated, but so what?  Sometimes it works.”

Jany took her book out of her purse and opened it.

“So what?   Now you’re gonna sit here and ignore me and read?”

“No,” Jany said from behind her book.  “Now I’m going to sit here with my face behind my book so you can’t see me crying.  Most guys don’t confront me about all this shit, they just get mad and walk away.  Then I can cry at home by myself.  But since you’re still here, you get the pleasure of my company.”

“What the hell are you crying about?  Woman, I don’t understand your kind.  I didn’t dump you or walk away or insult you, and even if I did, so what?  I’m just some fat guy who wanted to get to know you.  Big deal if I did.”

“It is a big deal to me.  I don’t get a lot of dates.  Well, I have lately, because of the ad, but none are nice, normal dates where we go out to dinner and maybe catch a movie and then I get a kiss at the end of the night.  They’re all with guys who practically rape me, or want me to rape them or whatever, or guys that just don’t have a clue about anything.  So every single one is a big deal to me.”

“You take things too seriously, then.  Man, dating’s supposed to be fun.”

Jany put her book down and stared at Dale.

“I take things too seriously?  That’s what this is all about.  I decided not to take things seriously and then you got pissed off because I won’t be a cheap whore.”

“Who cares if I got pissed off?  That’s the point.  Have fun for you, not for me.  Slap me, tell me to take a hike, and then get over it.”

Neither of them said anything else until Jany finally stood up.

“Well, I have to go catch my train.  I—I’m sorry everything got so weird.  I’ll think about what you said.”

“Want me to ride the train back with you?”


“Well, I mean, I have the weekend train pass.  It won’t cost me anything.  I can ride you home and then hop on another train and head home myself.  I don’t have anything better to do.  We can talk some more or whatever.”

“Okay, sure.”

As they walked to the train station, their conversation lapsed into an easy rhythm, one they maintained even once they were on the train.  There were periods of silence, but not uncomfortable ones, and neither of them felt the need to fill them.  Jany leaned her head against the cool window and smiled.  It had been a rough day, but she’d made it through, and maybe even managed to learn a few things. 

Dale interrupted her thoughts by bumping his elbow against hers.  She looked at him.  He leaned over.

“Hey, wanna give me a blow—”

They both laughed as Jany lightly smacked Dale’s cheek.  


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By: Xander - The Food Dude


As we move along in the years I often recall an old economic professors advice about beliving in the politics of fear and hope.  He often said that if you wanted to truly live a fully productive and successful life you would have your television removed from your home and stop the newspaper delivery. 


In these days I can finally see his point.  So I did.  I have unplugged all the televisions and stopped newspaper delivery.  I turn on my computer to do paperwork, but have disconnected the internet, other than to email this to our beloved publisher.  The past two weeks have been hell.  Well, in one sense of the word, its been bad.  I am a news junkie it would seem.  Its been a rough roll of withdrawal you see hearing people talking about current events and not wanting, but needed to get that next hit of current events.


On the other hand, I do seem to be happier.  Now, at first you might be thinking that ignorance is bliss.  I am not, nor have I ever advocated ignorance of situations.  What I am advocating, what my economics professor advocated was not getting caught up in the terror of the moment.  As Dr. Hyde once called it the “Chicken Little” syndrome.


You all have people in your life that never have anything good to say.  Being around them feel like the life force being drained out of you.  That’s what today’s news is all about.  It is a gut wrenching, blood spilling, life draining experience to see what’s happening in the U.S. today, much less the world.  There are a couple of things you need to keep in mind.


  1. When it comes to news the motto is “If it bleeds, it leads”.  Meaning the worst possible situation is going to get the biggest amount of face time in the news.  If it’s good news you won’t hear it or it won’t get much time. 

  2. Bad times are the perfect time for people to make terror dollars.  Meaning all politicians who are fighting are not fighting for you, but their own political lives.


I remember a line from the movie “Princess Bride” when one character said, “Life is pain.  If anyone tell you any different they’re trying to sell you something!”  These days and time are a perfect example only the sales are being made by telling you life is nothing but pain.


We each, as citizens, have a grand choice before us in the coming months and years.  Do we roll up and prepare for the end, or do we choose to live our lives abundantly.  Initially you might think this means money, but no.  I work for a state department of children’s service.  Increased stress and decreased resources is the name of the game.  Most recently, I see that our file reviews reveal that paperwork is in bad shape. 


From my perspective if we have a child that is safe that is in a home that loves them, we’ve succeeded.  But paperwork requirements are terrible.  I say this to illustrate that things are not peaches and cream for anyone.  Can I still live abundantly?  If I choose to, I can.


Living abundantly is a choice to exemplify the right and garner the strength to handle the bad.


Today I listened to thirty minutes of news.  The first thing I heard was that Former President Clinton was advocating that President Obama needs to throw more positive into his talks.  I have to say what he said next was inspiring.  Clinton said that “we all have to remember that in the past 230+ years everyone that bet against the United States survival has lost money.” 


You know something… He’s right!


The second thing I heard was about a 90 year old man who lost his life savings of $700,000 dollars to the scheming of Madoff, better know as the 50 Billion Dollar Man.

As a result of the loss, this 90 year old guy took a job at a greeter at a local supermarket.  The owner created the position just for him.  Yes, it is sad that the man, after a life of work, has to return to pay his and his wife’s bills.


But there was more to the story.  The man who lost everything only said he wouldn’t spend time thinking about it.  He was grateful for the job and said he would do the best job he could at it.  He closed the article by saying, “it’s just another job to do..”  In my opinion that is one cool guy.  Of course, kudos should go to the store owner who did something to help.


In these days and time you have to believe things will get better.  Instead of waiting for someone to make them better we each have to ask ourselves the question, “what have I done today to make things better”.  It may be as easy as getting up, going to work, and doing your job the best you can.  The point is to keep moving forward, keep taking that step in the right direction.  Help each other.


Contrary to what you may have been told, Life is NOT pain, life is opportunity, and life is hope.  That’s the way each day should be approached.


God Bless each of you and your families.

Xander's Recipe of the Month


Chocolate Pumpkin Muffins



In days like these.. cold, dark and lonley with problems abound a good comfort foods goes a long way to make you feel better.


This makes 12 servings.


  • 3/4 cup white sugar
  • 1/4 cup vegetable oil
  • 2 eggs
  • 3/4 cup canned pumpkin
  • 1/4 cup water
  • 1 1/2 cups all-purpose flour
  • 3/4 teaspoon baking powder
  • 1/2 teaspoon baking soda
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground cloves
  • 1/2 teaspoon ground cinnamon
  • 1/4 teaspoon salt
  • 1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg
  • 1/2 cup semisweet chocolate chips


  1. Preheat the oven to 400 degrees F (200 degrees C). Grease and flour muffin pan or use paper liners.
  2. Mix sugar, oil, eggs. Add pumpkin and water. In separate bowl mix together the baking flour, baking soda, baking powder, spices and salt.. Add wet mixture and stir in chocolate chips.
  3. Fill muffin cups 2/3 full with batter. Bake in preheated oven for 20 to 25 minutes.

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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America","Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese,and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!


On the Red Carpet at BODacious Nights

Article by: Cher Rue 


Bodacious Magazine Owner, Zik is a big supporter of the Plus Size community, he and a few friends created a new club in Hollywood California at a quaint venue in the heart of downtown Hollywood.

Bodacious nights had it's grand opening on Friday the 13th 2009.

A club where people can come together and ALL have a great time. Zik has personally noticed a sharp decline in the entertainment aspect of the plus size community out here in Southern California, BODacious magazine’s home base.

So after careful thought and preparation BODacious Nights was born. Zik has always wanted a night club.Even far, far back,way before BODacious Magazine was created and before he started building web sites. This was a idea for him even before he came to California; but Zik never felt the timing was right so he waited.
With the creation and huge success of BODacious Magazine, he has been able to achieve recognition, admiration and able to achieve his dream of a nightclub. It is his way to thank the community and offer a fun, safe place to party for plus size people and their admirers.

BODacious Nicole coined the slogan, and I quote, “Come and See BODacious magazine in the Flesh”. The place will have several models from the magazine on hand to take photos and dance with, so if you are a admirer now is your time to make your dreams come true and chat with these lovely ladies.

For all the plus size community bring your friends, this is a cozy, warm place to chat with new people, old friends and dance the night away. It seemed that at the opening there were so many friendly faces, with big smiles and some sexy ladies and hot men.

This is a upscale venue, so take the time to dress nice, it is always great for the opposite sex to see that you take the time and care about your appearance. I know
you will get a better respond when you look good and smile!

I had a great time at the grand opening of BODacious Nights and I look forward to going back. Thank you to Zik and Nicole for making more choices and a fun place for the BBW community to meet new people, party and have fun night.

DJ Benkay spins a awesome mix of tunes all night.

For more information on BODacious Nights
1645 Wilcox Ave., Hollywood, CA. 90078
Every Friday Night.




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     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


The Fat Suit: My Rants and Raves

with Stephanie Baham

    I'm not a fan of the Tyra Banks show.  But I watched one episode with great interest...the episode where Tyra was fitted for a "fat suit" and went out into the streets to see how she would be treated.  After her experience, she sat in tears on her stage next to her plus sized guests.  She was overwhelmed at how she had been treated as a big woman.  But the next day she was back in her own thin world and onto another topic.


     Tyra was not the first person to don a fat suit.  There are several movies and television shows who have used a little Hollywood magic to create a big person out of a small person.  I'm going to review some of those characters....which were wildly popular.


     I would like to start by ranting about the character from the Austin Powers trilogy, Fat Bastard, a henchman for Dr. Evil.  He wasn't the most positive representation of big people, was he?  But his popularity took off as he's remembered as one of Michael Myers most entertaining characters.  In my opinion, Myer's best character was Wayne from Wayne's World.  Not a Scottish villain whom everyone cringed at because of his size.  Fat Bastard was sloppy, gross and loved to eat to excess.  Thanks for the stereotype Myers....thanks a lot.

     I would like to rave about Eddie Murphy's character from The Nutty Professor, Professor Klump. The Professor was a lovable character.  He battled with a weight issue, which caused him to create a potion that would turn him skinny.  But thinness came with a huge price, as his thin persona had too much testosterone and a horrible, cocky attitude.  The moral of the story was to love who you are. 


          That's why I'm surprised Eddie Murphy went on to star in the film, Norbit.  Judging from the trailer, it appeared to be an hour & a half of fat jokes.  I refused to go see it.

     Shallow Hal was a movie starring Gwenyth Paltrow as Rosemary, girlfriend of Hal, played by Jack Black.  I remember watching this movie and having to sit through jokes about cankles.  It was at that point I decided I disliked the film.  I was hoping Hal would not get the girl in the end. But I suppose Hollywood felt that if he finally fell in love with her at the last minute, that was good enough. I would've rather have seen Rosemary say "Thanks but no thanks!"

     Now I must rant about Ben Stiller's fat suit.  He was in a fat suit at the end of the movie Dodgeball.  His character, White Goodman, was the owner of a snobby upscale gym which had been bought out by Vince Vaughn's character at the end of the movie.  It seems White Goodman's punishment for being a jerk throughout the entire story was weight gain.  There last few minutes of the film show Stiller in a fat suit surrounded by junk food.  I guess this was supposed to be his character's "bad" karma for thinking his physique made him better then everyone else.  So watch out everyone...if you are a bad person you'll get *gasp* fat! Thanks for the "warning" Stiller.

     Now I would like to rave about Martin Short's alter ego, Jiminy Glick!  Mr. Glick is a character who interviews celebrities and has no other purpose then to be outrageously funny.  He conducts an enthusiastic interview with subtle insults & catty comments.  His weight never seems to be an issue. He could do this character with or without the fat suit. Either way, I enjoy a good interview with Jiminy Glick. And is seems his interviewees do as they are usually laughing throughout the interview. This character had his own prime time talk show parody called Prime Time Glick, which aired from 2001-2003.  Martin Short won an Emmy for his portrayal as the plus sized Hollywood reporter. How many fat suits do you know have taken an actor all the way to the winner's circle at the Emmys?

I've been pondering the concept of the fat suit.  Is it just another part of movie make-up?  Or is it a tool used to portray stereotypes? I believe it can be both.  I suppose Hollywood thinks some characters need to be fat. Which is fine...but there are plenty of fat actors & actresses out there.  Maybe the fat suit has gained such popularity so celebrities can play a wider range of characters. Personally, I don't think it's necessary.  If you have a fat character, find a fat performer. 

Please enjoy this video of Martin Short's character, Jiminy Glick, interviewing CNN's Anderson Cooper.

Stephanie Baham




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Havana's Danza Voluminosa: Plus-Size Dancers Thrill
with Iolande Argent



Juan Miguel Mas - Founder and Choreographer for Cuban Danza Voluminosa    /   Danza Voluminosa


Barbara Paula Danza Volumninosa Ballerina

Barbara Paula isn’t your typical classical ballerina but when she dances, she’s definitely PRIMA. Nothing but confidence radiates from this 30 year old 275 pound hoofer. As a member of Danza Voluminosa she and her fellow dancers have become a well-established and respected touring troupe on the Cuban arts circuit. However, what this group is really doing is challenging and changing stereotypes about beauty and the arts.

The performers draw large crowds and receive great reviews, now. “The first performance was received with a lot of expectation and reservations,” says founder and choreographer Juan Miguel Mas, 42. “The house was full and some laughed; but others applauded. At the end, there was a big debate about whether it was appropriate for the stage and whether it was aesthetic or not.”

The group formed in 1996. It consists of six women ranging in weights between 200 and 300 pounds and the type of dancing they do is a sort of experimental modern; a far cry from the norm in a country where artist stick to tradition and classical entertainment. Mas produces dances that combine modern, jazz, African and Caribbean movements with basic contemporary Cuban dance styles. His shows center on plots that challenges and discrimination faced by the overweight, who – as in other countries around the world – often endure exclusion, teasing and insults from a young age.

Always entertaining the shows are sometimes whimsical parodies of things like the classic Swan Lake.

While most modern professional dance troupes are overflowing with skeletal, sometimes muscular bodies twirling about on stage, the movements of the heavy dancers are, by necessity, more earth-bound. The movements are slower, more pantomime-like with some ballet, jazz, and modern dance moves added; everything is deliberate and designed to make an intensive presentation.

Expanding from his work with the overweight dancers, Mas also runs workshops and seminars, sometimes for visiting international groups. Some of his work combines yoga and dance, and some of his seminars use dance as therapy, helping build self-esteem.

Mas says he has heard of other troupes of obese dancers in places as far as Moscow and London, but most seem to have put on a limited number of performances and none has continued for long or reached a professional status akin to what Danza Voluminosa has achieved in Cuba.

But no matter how much notoriety Mas receives and how many workshops he teaches, the Danza Voluminosa troupe remains his main focus, an unexpected success that has been accepted with enthusiasm.

"This January we shared the stage with three thin dancers in a production called Alliances," Mas said. "We looked for alliances between these types of bodies, in the end creating one body with the bodies of six dancers. It was a call for respect of our differences, not just between body types."

With more than 30 dancers trained over the past 11 years, Mas keeps his regular company at six performers and enjoys no shortage of interest from women wanting to join the group. He also has no problems scheduling performances.

"Most of our dancers are afraid to appear in public the first time, but their confidence grows when they see the audience's reactions," he said. "And while that first audience laughed at the idea, now it's different. People come now to the theater with expectations to see a serious work. It's serious and professional."

 While this troupe is hailed for being graceful and showing size-positive attitudes from its serious stance on promoting dance and the “larger” dancer, there are some side notes to keep in mind about this troupe though. The first is that the only one being paid is Mas. The group has official sanction, in Cuba, conducting practices and performances in the National Theater, and Mas receives a government salary for his work with the troupe and other activities. The six members of the troupe actually work regular jobs and squeeze in rehearsals and performances around the demands of their daily lives.

"We practice twice a week most of the year, but before a performance I lose track of how many hours we rehearse," said Paula, a homemaker. "After we perform, I feel such an excitement and happiness."

The second item is that Danza Voluminosa isn’t a fat-friendly company by any means. Whoa? What’s that? It’s true, Mr. Mas said it would be a mistake to think that his work was intended to glorify or sanctify obesity, or even to deliver a moralistic message that one should not discriminate against the overweight. Rather, he said, the troupe’s art tries to face the reality of obesity while giving larger people a chance to express themselves through dance, a chance they are denied from childhood in most dance classes.

“Although we are obese and dance, we are against obesity,” Mr. Mas explained, saying parenthetically that he admires New York City for banning artificial trans fats from restaurants. “We are always trying to lose weight.”

Well so much for promoting life-long dreams for large people interested in dancing…back to the drawing board…


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