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Large In Charge Magazine - Five Years on the Net!

 Issue #63 - June 2009

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.



Raqui's Spot -  with our Founder Raqui


Big Girls on the Red Carpet  ~ Cher Rue


From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


DID YOU KNOW?  ~ Iolande Argent

National & International Plus Sized News


Hot & Heavy Entertainment ~ Stephanie Baham


The Big GB My Gastric Bypass Memoirs - Soyna Bennett


CONFESSIONS - Let It Go and Confess!

Fashion Furious - Fashion Finds with Plus Size style.

Product of the Month - Products for People of Size


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Feature of the Month


Class at all Sizes!



Written by: Raqui


     I met Jennifer Davis at the 2008 Vegas Bash event.  I loved the clothing, quality and the material of her many items.  You just can help but smile because of her presence is filled with a knowing.  Knowing that all she needs to do is get you in one of her styles to make you feel like a woman.


     Yes I had a challenge for her.  Fit me right off the rack.  Pick a design not custom make one for me and lets see if it fits me to a tee and wraps my body the way a man should LOL!!!


     Not only was our conversation tempered with with information and friendship.  But all she had to do was look at my body and grab something off her rack and say.  TRY THIS!!!


     It fit like a glove and I was elated!  As you will see in the video.  I don't wear dresses but I would wear one from Astarte!



Interview with Jennifer Davis What is your name? Who is the owner of you company?
Jennifer Davis, designer/owner, Astarte/woman by design, original designs for sizes 14 plus. Where are you from and what is your current Location?
I was raised in Torrance, California, and currently live and  have my business in the Long Beach, California area.
                                                                        Do you consider yourself a BBW or a SSBBW?
BBW Tell us about your company?
Astarte/woman by design offers everything from bathing suits to ball gowns for women size 14 plus.  Astarte is all about celebrating the sensuality of curvy women with a sexy, romantic, and sophisticated look using fabrics that have amazing movement and texture.  I wanted to create clothing that looks good not just from the front, where we all see ourselves in the mirror…but also walking away!  I achieve that by carefully thinking through every dart, line and cut and how it will fall and move on the curvy figure.  Without the right fit to flatter the curves (and not just drape them with fabric) the fashion aspect is meaningless.  Unfortunately, for a very long time, it is what plus-size women had to accept: fashion that somewhat resembled what the smaller women were wearing, but gapped and clung in exactly the wrong places.  Astarte designs are created to specifically address unique challenges faced by plus-size women, delivered in a classically timeless yet entrance-making (glamorous and exciting) way. How did your company begin/What made you decide to make Plus Sized clothing?
The concept for Astárte was born in the typical way: out of necessity.  In early 1991, I wanted to find a sexy glamorous outfit for an industry banquet I was going to attend and found no such thing existed in my size (28 at that time).  So I started experimenting (as I did as a teenager, cutting up my clothes, much to my mother’s horror) and came up with a new design based on a quasi-acceptable duster and dress that I bought off the rack.  My sister, Nanette, and I cut and sewed the first Astárte pieces over July 4th weekend in 1991, and the first Astárte outfit sold within an hour of being placed in a Torrance boutique.  I have had no design training but I have had years of being frustrated with the lack of sexy, feminine clothes in plus sizes. I began experimenting with patterns to find ways to accommodate curves and my flair for drama and color led me to lay the foundation for what is now Astarte’s signature line of clothing.  Astarte’s first boutique opened in December of 1991, moved to larger quarters in 1994, and closed in October of 1996, when someone threw a brick through the window and stole all of the brand-new fall/holiday design samples in the two minutes it took for the police to arrive.  Astárte went home with me and became strictly web/mail order for six years; Astarte has never wholesaled to other stores, but the website is still an avenue for curvy women all over the world to purchase Astarte designs.  From 2002 through 2008, Astarte operated a showroom and design center in Signal Hill, and moved to the new boutique and production space in December of 2008. How did your company get its name?
The name “Astárte” was found in a book called The Source.  We wanted a name that evoked feminine power, so we took the name Astárte in honor of the Phoenician Great Mother goddess, “a figure of pride in feminine being, a celebration of the abundance that comes from a woman in touch with herself and her body.”  The images of the goddess Astárte depict a voluptuous being with full hips, which is a common representation of fertility goddesses.  Our full legal name is Astárte/woman by design.  The “woman by design” was added to clarify what we do. Does your company have a motto or slogan; and what does it mean?
Astarte has used two tag lines throughout our 17-plus years in business.  The first is “Are You Woman Enough?” and we love the double meaning – size and attitude.  Astarte designs transform a woman from timid to confident because confidence increases when you know you look great and you get the compliments to prove it! The other tag line is “For the woman who’s not afraid to make an entrance.”  We have heard from so many customers that when they enter the room at their special event wearing an Astarte design, that they get a lot of positive attention.  You can’t be afraid of the spotlight in an Astarte creation, but if you are, you’ll get used to it. How long have you been in business?
The very first Astarte design was created in July of 1991, so I  have been perfecting the fit for curvy women of all shapes and sizes for going on 18 years. Tell us about your clothing products/Who designs the clothing you sell?
Astárte is very small and personal – I am the sole designer, pattern maker, and sample maker!  We do have a small team of people who do the sewing, but the design responsibility is solely on my shoulders.  I typically create “collections” which are the result of two things:  1) solving personal fashion challenges in an ingeniously practical way (such as our swimsuits that can be worn with your own bra) and 2) being inspired by a certain fabric and color.  Although I’ve had  no formal design training whatsoever, my life experience, both personally as a plus-size woman, and through fitting hundreds of other curvy women over the years through pure trial and error, I have learned more about the right way to fit curves than I think is taught in design school.  I firmly believe clothing for plus-sizes must be engineered, because there are so many shape variations, unlike on a very slim person.  The greatest compliment I’ve received (aside from our customers, of course) was when a local fashion design school class asked to come and meet with me a few months ago to see how I design for plus-sizes.  The instructors were awed by my techniques; I think they learned something new! Are you currently looking for new designers?

No What is the size range on your clothing and do you custom?
In our boutique, we typically have in stock sizes from X (14/16) through 4X (30/32), although we can make our designs in any size.  We do not do “custom” in the sense of someone bringing us a pattern or fabric.  A customer may order any design in her size in any of our fabrics. Does your company do Fashion shows, if so where?
We have produced a number of large fashion shows at various locations in the Long Beach area, including two aboard the Queen Mary, and participated in many other shows. We have also done informal shows at our boutique in Long Beach. Do you have a website and a hardcopy catalogs; how do we obtain a hard copy catalog?
Astarte’s website is  We do not offer a hardcopy catalog.  Tell us about your latest fashions and any up & coming products?
One of the newest popular design is our tie wrap dress (CLICK HERE), which is also available as a tunic in our boutique.  It looks like the fabric is criss-crossed under the bust and around the back, enhancing the bust and nipping in the waist.  This is really amazing on an hourglass figure.  Last summer, we debuted a fantastic new low-priced line called Entrée, which offers simplified versions of our signature pieces as basics – shells, pants, dresses, and jackets – in solids and prints.  They have been amazingly well received, because this line makes Astarte available to everyone and is so perfect for work, since pieces start at only $45 each. Overall, What are your best sellers?
All of our Entrée line basics (particularly the pleated bodice shell, pants, bolero jackets) continue to be huge sellers because they are affordable basics for work and can be dressed up for evening.  However, our tie-front top with Juliet sleeve, which is a signature design, (CLICK HERE) is historically our hottest item. Has your company or clothing ever been showcased on Television or in Print?
Astarte has been featured in Radiance magazine, BBW magazine (when Astarte was heading a boycott of Foster Grant sunglasses for a particularly discriminatory ad campaign they ran against large women: “We wear Foster Grants to avoid making eye contact with the woman folding the incredibly large panties”), and included in pieces on Fox 11 News (Astarte hosted a clothing drive to help Katrina victims, as there were few sources of plus-size clothing available), and Good Morning, America, in conjunction with the BBW Network’s BBW Bash. Do you feel clothing options for people of size have made progress in the last 10 years, do you think the internet is part of that progress! / Do you feel the fashion industry is doing a good job providing quality clothing for Big Women?
I think there has been amazing progress made in the last 10 to 20 years for plus-size women.  When I started Astarte, it was because there was literally nothing sexy or glamorous available.  It was as if companies figured that you must be old and boring if you were plus-size.  In that respect, the industry has come a very long way.  There are a lot of sexier designs now for younger women, although the quality and fit are not as good as they could be.  Many companies still just size up, which does not accommodate the natural body changes that occur as a woman’s girth increases.  Our arms do not grow longer or our shoulders wider, yet some designs would have you think that.  At Astarte, I design based on the premise of two very basic body styles: women with a waist (hourglass or pear shaped) and women without a waist (an “H” or “O” body style).  Many mass manufacturers don’t make this distinction, which requires different patterns for best fit, which is necessarily more expensive to produce.  The best thing about the growth of plus-size clothing websites is that it has enabled small designers like me to have their work seen on potentially equal footing with larger chain stores.  Years ago, you had to wait for a NAAFA convention to see the work being done by these smaller designers, and now it’s just a mouse click away.  The more that can be done to encourage support of smaller designers, the better.  These are the companies that are truly putting their heart and soul into offering something unique for people of size. What are the ordering options that customers have?

Customers may order off our website, or call in and speak to me personally to place the order over the phone.  We do have a unique sizing system, so it is important that accurate waist and hip measurements are taken to ensure the right size.  Of course, customers in the Southern California area are encouraged to visit the Astarte boutique because there is much more variety there than on our website and, of course, there’s nothing like trying on the clothes to see exactly why Astarte is so different. How long does it take for a purchase to be received?
Unless we happen to have your exact size and color in stock in our boutique, orders placed on the website or in the store are made for you, which typically takes about a week to two to ship. What are your refund options?

We do not offer refunds; exchange only.  This is why I really enjoy giving personal assistance to every customer to help ensure she gets the right fit and will absolutely love her new design. How do you find your models?
Astarte is always looking for experienced models, and usually they are either referred by other models.  Sometimes I see a model in a fashion show and approach her to model for Astarte, but that is rare. How can someone apply to be a model for your website or catalog?
Experienced models may email me ( a headshot and full body shot, along with measurements and height, and a resume or description of modeling training and experience.  I will then ask a model under consideration to come to the boutique to show me what she can do and try some designs on her.  This is why we can only use models in the Southern California area. What qualifications do you look for when choosing a model?
We prefer trained, experienced models who have a lot of charisma and personality, beautiful smile, and can move and pose elegantly. For more information on our requirements, interested applicants should check out this page on our website: CLICK HERE Who does the photography on your website?
I’ve used a variety of photographers in trying to get the best representation of Astarte designs.  I was the photographer on the most recent photos on the website. Some things you just need to do yourself! Did you construct the website with the release of your clothing line or did it come after?
Astarte began in 1991, and our website was launched in 1996, so it was one of the very first (if not the first!) plus-size websites ever.  We geared it to more of a magazine feel at that time, with stories and photo layouts.  It was revamped in 2007 to be a more efficient way to serve our customers. Was the site an automatic success or did it take time to kick off?
The site was quite successful, as it reached customers all over the country who would otherwise never have heard of Astarte.  We still have a ways to go, though, as Astarte is exclusively available through the boutique and the website; you’ll never see our designs in a store near you, so our name recognition has built slowly, mostly through positive word of mouth. Name some designers and companies you admire?
I’m a child of the 70’s, so I loved Bob Mackie’s glamorous designs, and I really am very influenced by the sensuous glamour of the 30’s and 40’s.  I really enjoy enhancing what makes women so sexy, and that is her curves.  When we do big fashion shows, I am very excited about the opportunity to do more “over the top” pieces that are more fantasy than wearable clothing, but that’s the fun of it. What are the most important elements to running a successful Online Clothing Company...quality; comfort...what is important/ what is not?
Quality and comfort are very important, but the most important thing is how you feel when you are wearing the clothing: confident, sexy, beautiful.  What you see in the mirror and how people respond to your confidence are what it’s about.  However, it’s not all about the “look” either.  I’ve seen some trends that are completely un-wearable (too short or too tight, or you can’t sit down in it).  For me, it’s GOT to be comfortable and workable for whatever I’m doing, so I design beautiful clothes that are also amazingly comfortable. How has the internet helped your business?
The internet has helped me reach a worldwide audience for my designs.  I have customers in Europe, Australia, and Canada who would never have found me in my little boutique in Southern California if not for my website. What can the readers at LargeInCharge do to help support your business?
It is always exciting to me to show a woman new possibilities of color and shape she may never have imagined.  Astarte’s new Entrée line gives every woman a chance to build a fantastic wardrobe very affordably, and because I build color palettes from season to season, Astarte designs are amazing investments that keep paying off year after year.  I invite all LargeInCharge readers to visit the Astarte website at, and stop by the Astarte boutique if they are in the Long Beach area, to see more of what Astarte can offer them.


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Cover Model of the Month


Shelly King



Interview with our Cover Model of the Month What is your name?


Shelly King or Miss King Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am originally from New London Connecticut but I currently reside in Wilmington, North Carolina Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am a single 23 year old African American & West Indian female standing 5’9 tall. I am a size 22 with no children, I enjoy shopping, traveling, modeling and inspiring other plus size women all over the world. Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

Growing up I was a medium size child, I was never overweight until I reached high school. The troubles of my past growing up in the foster care system had really taken a toll on my life. Without a solid foundation, I taught myself how to love me and embrace the possibility of being beautiful with or without clothes. What caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?


Like I previously stated in the previous question, I grew up in the foster care system my family had been torn apart by lack of attention to mental illness and abandonment from both parents. I often ate to feed that suppressed child that needed to be loved. Food was my love! As a teen, I would sometimes be satisfied with having the weight on so that many boys wouldn’t talk to me all to find out as an adult many men love heavier women (smile) Thank God!! I have now evolved into a plus size model-and I have learned that the roller coaster ride to loving every curvy of me has been well worth it and I am grateful to be who I am with how much I weight every pound. What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

I am a larger plus size model so to have the opportunity to represent often the under represented makes me that much more motivated to be apart of something that stands for a positive cause. LargeInCharge covers allot of issues that are often swept under the rug and I love it! Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

I think a hard journey is an understatement. It’s more like a consistent battle and we still have not arrived. I want to see allot more larger people featured in film, in magazines, and in entertainment. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?


I do not get acceptance from my foster family-they are really focused on a particular self image (size skinny at all cost). My foster family has never came to a fashion show to support me I have ever been in or asked to see any of my professional pictures. I once gave my foster mother a huge picture of my college graduation and she never put it in a frame or put it up for people to see. She has indicated that I “let myself go” several times. My biological family has been to a few of my fashion shows but I still feel my size has not been accepted. What would you say inspires you most in life?


What inspires me most in my life is the fact that I have came from nothing and evolved into something. I know now that if I put my mind to it, I can do it. With persistency and determination. My struggle has inspired me to never look back at the hurt, neglect, or instability of my youth but to look forward to the future and it’s possibility. What is your primary job?


I work at the Employment Security Commission as an Consultant. How did you get into this line of work?


Following a job search, went to the Employment Security Commission Office and applied. Do you find acceptance in the work force?


Being that I work for the state, I work with a versatile group of people and size really isn’t a big topic, the economy is! What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

I believe the sizes of the desk chairs need to be extended. Like seriously I have a rump and if those desk chairs don’t accommodate I’m going to have to protest. I mean I believe the manufactures of desk supplies should reevaluate how they make those things. What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

The fashion industry has allot of work to do for plus size clothing. It has come along way though from the tent dresses. What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I want to see more models on the runway in high fashion and couture. I want to see the equal opportunity and access to clothing as do 0-9 size women. What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

If plus size modeling for men and women were to expand I think there would be more acceptance in society. I believe allot of what we see in our communities is fueled by the media and if we have more plus size modeling for men and women. Larger sizes would be more accepted. Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

I shop at in Virginia Beach,, Ross, Ashley Stewart, Catos, She’, Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

Cocoa Butter is my favorite and Biore facial cleanser wipes Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?

The week before a photo shoot eat allot of fruits and vegs! Hydrate your skin with lots of water. Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?

I see allot more plus size actors and actress, models and opportunities to reality tv shows and film but we still have a long way to go. What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

I think in the next five years society will get to the place where designers that didn’t represent plus sizes will; and with that being said larger sizes will be more accepting in society. Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

My goal is to be more on the fit modeling, print modeling, and in couture shows. I don’t have a interest in singing or musicals just plus size modeling. I hope to land a spot in LargeInCharge online Magazine as a cover model, BET’s Rip the Runway, Featured as a cover model for Plus Model Magazine and Figure Magazine. As well as traveling to different countries to model. Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

Yes, there was one day I was on my many shopping expeditions and I was trying on some 5 inch heels (they were o so cute) and another plus size women was looking at the selection of shoes I had picked up she asked me “how I could walk in the them and because of her weight she couldn’t walk in heels” I put them on a strutted my stuff for her. Her eyes lit up and it motivated her to try it so she put on some heels and realized she could walk in them after all but just avoided them because to her heels seemingly looked scary. I told her to “start from the bottom and work your way up.” I felt wonderful about my size! Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My baby brother keeps me going. What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?


Work at your craft, figure out what your niche is in the modeling. Do some test shoots, study fashion and the models that are already established in the industry. Lastly, go on casting calls and network with other aspiring models. What plus size figure do you admire?


Velvet D’Amour, Mia Amber, Christina Mendez, Tiffany and Ms. Jay of Blur Dezigns Describe yourself with one word.





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Raqui's Spot

     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge Magazine.  This spot is dedicated to her thoughts, vents, and observations of Plus Sized Life.  Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 5 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

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Runway Models the Walking Hanger

Written By: Raqui 


     Today's Model are they truly to be defined as Models? Do they truly represent us as a nation as a people?  Why are they looked up to?  What is their purpose?


     How many times do we hear that Models are supposed to be the in thing?  So many women and children look at runway models and say I want to be just like them!  Of course why wouldn't they, you see them in magazines, television, wearing interesting clothes and earning money, but what does model mean? When you look in the Dictionary the very first definition is:


MODEL:  first definition - a standard or example for imitation or comparison.


     Yet that is not what a Model is.  They are not supposed to be imitated or someone we compare ourselves too.  The fact is even with the five pound increase they have given models so they were not passing out and dying on the runway.  The sixth meaning of the word model is more along the proper line of what today runway Model is.


MODEL: sixth definition - a person employed to wear clothing or pose with a product for purposes of display and advertising.


     Basically a Runway model is a person used to showcase an item like clothing.  They are not showcasing themselves.  They are not meant to be the main focus on the runway. Fashion models are referred to (by many in the industry) as a Walking Hanger.  A Hanger is a wire item the you hang clothes on.  No one says,  Wow what an amazing Hanger.  They say what an amazing dress, outfit, or suit.  There is a purpose behind the extreme thinness that models struggle to have and keep.


     A good example is displayed in the current show Make me a Super Model on the Bravo Network.


     The Model I wish to speak of is Salome.  By most standards she is quite small and thin with just a tad of hips, butt and breasts. She is quoted as saying ""I had to put on a Small instead of an X-small". " when she competed against another model for a swimsuit shoot which she lost because she was to hippy for the bathing suit.  She is quite a beautiful woman in fact, yet because of her small curves she is not FASHION MODEL ATTRACTIVE!!!!


     As stated during evaluation in episode six, one of the judge's Perou said "I think your a very sexy curvy lady... Which is what we call girlfriend attractive but not fashion model attractive. And when your walking down this catwalk... I'm watching the horizontal... side ways... slinky movement going along, and I am enjoying it as a man... but I am not concentrating on the clothes."    - SEE BELOW



     So actually the thinness of models is used to showcase the clothing better.  The less body weight and fat the more you see clothing.  So weight and shape equal looking at the body not the material.  Yet so many women want to have a body that is considered a Walking Hanger.  Bodies that are meant to NOT capture attention.  They must have less shape so as not to detract from the clothing they are wearing. Sounds a bit backward to me.  I rather wear my clothing not have it wear me.  I want people to notice me not the material of my dress.

     I think Salome is quite amazing to look at walking in that red dress. You see her as so thin but next to other models she is considered the fat one. Notice in the below shots she is only a few lbs away from the other ladies yet she is not considered good enough.  I personally think her body is distributed the way it is because of ethnicity and structure.  She is what I would call amazingly thin but not thin enough for the Runway with out losing her assets that define her as a woman, her Butt, Hips, Breasts.


Salmone herself sees that she needs to lose weight to be a successful runway fashion model. 

Salmone's Quote from her Bravo Blog - "Runway, we girls are fire guys are ice. My dress is amazing! It hugs my body like a glove, so hot. Perou's comment is that I had a horizontal movement in my hips. I'm girlfriend sexy not model sexy. Lose some butt! I get it."

And if that is her dream, go ahead girl do it.  But the rest of us should think about what we are striving to be, are we going to be ourselves or are we trying to be a model size with out the career of a model.  I personally don't have the body to be a runway model but even if I could I don't want to be a Walking Hanger.  I don't find a thin body like that girlfriend attractive either. I don't want to bash professional models who have to keep that super slim hanger body. But it is just not the life for all people. We can look up to there determination and work ethic but not their bodies. Because they are not allowed to have bodies that capture attention.  They have no choice but to have ones that detract attention.  I don't think that is what men and women were created for.

Video check out Salmoe's Walk in the Red Dress at the 4 minute 18 second mark.



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Super Sized Sounds



     Super Sized Sounds will be a Music Column that will feature those who are in the industry or up and coming who are size positive. Giving recognition to the plus sized people who are out there and showcasing themselves.  Reviews, Interview, News and more from our new writer Super Sized Spanishfly Lynx.


      Lynx Garcia, also known as "SUPERSIZE SPANISHFLY", is a Latina BBW from Queens NYC.  Lynx is an activist speaking out against size discrimination and began performing back in 1996 at social events for big beautiful women and big handsome males and their admirers. Her special mixture of sound held true as she sang, spat, danced and performed spoken word, soon she was in demand by Big and Beautiful parties nationwide.  Lynx taking her "look" and sound mainstream was rejected because of her size. She did not let this break her spirit, hurt her confidence or minimize her drive. Instead she rose up and started a public access show (LYNX' LAIR) aired in Queens on TIME WARNER QPTV . Combination of comedy and sexy style, she showcased underground artists of all walks of life. The response to her show was less than a year she has showcased many artist, some who moved to bigger and better things.


     Currently Lynx has caught the attention of Joey Mekkah of BLACK SOLARIS ENTERTAINMENT and found herself on the Grandmaster MELLE MEL's SOLO ALBUM "MUSCLES" featured on the hot latin hip-hop track called 'DIMELO", she is the only collaboration on the album. Lynx recently has started her own radio show on EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO.COM  called Ladies Night. EXTRAVAGANGSTARADIO is #1 on the itunes network.





My people, mi gente…   I have a real special treat for our loyal readers, this month SUPERSIZE SOUNDS salutes R&B /Rap Group Trillogy’s BBW member Rita Tyler , show some love for our sister and make sure you take advantage of the free download of Trilogy’s new hit single “WARNING”. I had the opportunity to meet Rita and she is one of the most humble real sisters I have come across in this music industry.



Do you remember back in the mid to late 1990’s when great R&B singers were overwhelming the industry with soft words and meaningful lyrics? As the years have gone by, the female population has thinned to almost bare and R&B has fallen into another genre of music. What will it take to make R&B its own again? The answer is Rita Tyler.

This 21-year-old female carries the distinct voice of reason. Raised in Neptune, N.J., at a very early age Rita’s family knew she was very gifted and talented. Her love for music developed when she was old enough to understand the words to her favorite songs. At the age of two, Rita became the household entertainment by singing and performing for her family. As a result of her entertaining, they realized she could sing and carry beautiful notes sky high. Venturing out into unfamiliar territory might have an adverse effect on any average young person. However, Rita knew what she liked to hear and soon developed her own sense and style for writing music.

While most of her creativity came from life experiences, she could not forget where she acquired her gift. This gift, her love of music, she received from her mother. Her mother was her biggest support and inspiration. Suddenly she found herself without this support because unexpectedly, her mother passed away. Typically, with the passing of a parent, most adolescent children may rebel, but Rita being a unique and special individual expressed her anger and pain on paper. These feelings resulted in the creation of some of the most touching lyrics any artist has yet to explore. She believes that with each great memory that we may lose, there is another great song to be made in honor of it. Her music is real, it is honest and it is R&B. The R&B many of us have watched pass. Let us open our ears and bring these feelings of true R&B back into our lives.

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Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


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SW SSBBW seeks SM willing to ask her out.  Need not buy gifts, remember dates, put toilet seat down.  Video game fanatics and men who require guys’ nights out okay.  Willing to watch action movies and avoid “the talk.”  Reply to:


Candidate 9: The Feeder



Subject: Hello, Gorgeous!


I was browsing through the ads on here, looking for someone to go out with, maybe next weekend, when I came across yours.  Wow.  You are a beautiful woman.  I would love to take you out to dinner and buy you course after course until you were so sated that you could hardly walk anymore.  Then I’d take you back to my place and we’d cuddle on the couch until you were ready for more dessert.  Mmm.  Sound good?




Subject: Re: Hello, Gorgeous!


Um… okay, to be honest I have a few issues with your message.  Or maybe with you, I don’t know.  First of all, I just wanted to point out that there is no picture with my ad, so while you may have a picture of me in your head that makes me the most beautiful woman you have ever seen, you haven’t actually seen me yet.  I’m not going to lie; that’s a little weird.  And besides that, being so “sated” that I can hardly walk doesn’t really sound like fun.  I’ve done that a few times before.  By accident.  Didn’t enjoy it.  Just because I’m fat, there is no reason to think that I am food-obsessed.  But here is a real picture, so you can see what you really think.  I’m willing to give you another chance to impress me.




Subject: Re: Re: Hello, Gorgeous!


Sorry, m’ lady.  I was merely foreseeing the future.  You are gorgeous.  Absolutely gorgeous.  I’d tell you about all the things I’d like to do to you, but at this point you would most likely find them rather inappropriate.  Wow, you’re beautiful, though.  Have you ever considered gaining weight?




Subject: Is There Something Wrong With You?


Really?  Of course I haven’t thought about gaining weight, for several reasons:

  1. For most of my life, I have actually been trying to LOSE weight.
  2. I prefer to be healthy, and while I am now, I probably wouldn’t be if I gained weight.  Not if I gained a lot, anyway.
  3. I already have a hard time meeting men the way it is, so why would I want to gain more?
  4. I would never, ever, in a million years, lose weight just to make a man happy.  I used to think I would, but I’ve come to the conclusion that I would rather be alone than have to change into a different person for someone else.  If I decide to lose weight, it will be for me and no one else.  So why, why, WHY would I gain weight for a man?  Like me or leave me, the way that I am.  That’s it.




Subject: Re: Is There Something Wrong With You?


Let me explain a little more about myself.  I realize that I may not have approached that in the best way, and I can see why you’d be upset.


I’m a lawyer, if you didn’t figure that out from my screen name.  Low man on the totem pole at my firm, but still a lawyer.  I have a decent job, I’m not a serial killer, and I’m not a total freak.  I just have a weird sense of humor and an unusual attitude about women’s bodies.


The thing is, I like big women.  Always have, always will.  There’s just something unwomanly about a thin woman to me, or even an average woman.  In fact, the larger a woman is, the more beautiful she is to me.  Most of the women I date are in the 4-500 pound range.  And I’m a feeder.  That’s the part that gets weird to most people.  Judging by your reaction, I’m guessing you either don’t know much about that or you are a little weirded out yourself.  A feeder is someone who gets erotic pleasure from watching his or her partner eat, especially when eating leads to weight gain.  The reason why eating and gaining are such a turn on, I suppose, varies.  For me, it’s like I said.  The bigger and softer and fuller a woman is, the more beautiful and womanly she is.


That being said, no matter what you weigh or what you plan to weigh five years from now, I would love to meet you.  I’m sorry you’ve spent your life dissatisfied with your body.  Too many women, of all sizes, find themselves unable to be happy with who they are.  And I do realize that weight gain can compromise a woman’s health, and I would never want you to lose your health because of me.  It’s the one aspect of who I am that I struggle with constantly.  As for your issue with finding men, you’re probably looking for the wrong ones?  Just a guess.  There are lots like me out there.


And even though I’d love for you, assuming we met and enjoyed each other’s company, to enter into a feeder/gainer relationship with me, I am also happy to hear that you wouldn’t change for a man.  Confidence is the other thing I find extremely sexy.  If you chose to gain, I would want it to be for your pleasure, not just for mine.


I know this was really long, probably too much so, but I didn’t want to blow my chances with a beautiful woman because of my off-kilter sense of humor and a failure to explain myself.  And, I have to admit, I wanted to impress you with my intelligence and wit and empathy.  So how about a date, just to get to know each other?  Dinner and a movie, maybe, or we could go somewhere to dance.  Sound okay?







Subject: Re: Is There Something Wrong With You?


To be honest, I have no idea what to say to you.  It’s a lot to process.  I definitely find myself interested in you, but I can’t be sure whether it’s genuine interest or some weird curiosity about the taboo.  What I am feeling could equally well be excitement or my womanly instincts warning me against you.  But yes.  There, I said it.  I will go out with you.  FYI, I’m kinda nervous, though.



            “I hope this is okay.  You never really said what kind of food you like.”

            “It’s great.  Awesome.”

            They were at a quiet restaurant on a side street, one that had a small menu and an enormous wine list.  Jacob appeared to be the prototype for the storied tall, dark, and handsome man, and he was well-dressed and polite.  It was definitely the classiest date Jany had been on.  More like something out of a movie than something that would really happen, which was probably why Jany felt rather like she was playing a role.

            A waiter approached, poured water, doled out menus, verbally ran down a list of dinner features.  Jany listened carefully, then studied the menu.  There was a steak Caesar salad that sounded good, but what would Jacob think if she just ordered a salad?  Maybe she could order something else with it. 

            “Do you trust me?” Jacob asked, just when Jany was beginning to realize how ridiculous her dilemma was—how dumb to suddenly worry about not looking like a pig on a first date.. 

            “I don’t know, to be honest.  In what context?”


            “What do you want me to trust you about?”

            “Oh.  I meant, do you trust me to order for you?  I come here pretty often.”

            “I guess, sure.”  At least that took the pressure off Jany.  Jacob ordered steaks and potatoes, salad, and soup for each of them, and an appetizer sampler to start it all off.  Jany felt almost full just thinking about all the food.  She forced herself to smile anyway.

            “Thanks.  Sounds good.”

            “Great.  You really are beautiful, you know.  Thinner than most women I’ve dated, but still beautiful.”

            Jany stiffened up at his words, but tried to keep her face relaxed and friendly.  She failed.

            “Hey, did I offend you?  I’m sorry.”

            “No, it’s just—well, yeah, I guess you sort of did.  I mean, I get that you like fat chicks, and I really appreciate that.  But I still think that was a little out of line.  I mean, a guy would never get away with telling a girl she was beautiful, even if she was heavier than most of the women he dated.  Why should I react differently, just because you called me too thin instead of too fat?  That, my friend, is assuming that thin is the best way to be, whether you believe that or not.  Otherwise, you wouldn’t assume it was okay to comment about my weight just because you were positively mentioning my fatness instead of my thickness.

            “Whoa, Nellie!  I’m not even completely sure what you just said!  But I didn’t mean to insult you.”


            “You’re a feisty one, aren’t you?”

            Jany blushed and looked down at the table.

            “Actually—well, I’m not.  This is totally uncharacteristic for me.  I honestly don’t know what happened.  I just—I don’t know.”

            “Okay.  Well, how about this: I will forgive you for your little outburst if you forgive me for accidentally insulting you.”

            “I—okay.  Could we—is it possible for us to just not talk about my weight?”  Jany looked up to see the waiter approaching.  The bemused expression on his face, and his obvious effort to hide it, told her that he had overheard.  She flushed again.  The waiter set a plate of appetizers on the table and disappeared.  “This is quite possibly the most awkward date I’ve ever been on, which is saying a lot.  But for some reason, I’m still enjoying myself a little.”

            “I’m glad.”  Jacob smiled and loaded a small plate with bite-sized pieces of food from the platter.  He handed it to Jany.  “Here.  Eat.”

            Jany took a bite, but could barely chew.  She kept wondering if Jacob was watching her, and if it was turning him on.  The thought made her shudder.  Food and being turned on did not go well together in Jany’s mind.  They ate in silence.  It was the most excruciating appetizer experience Jany had ever had.

            Then their meals came and they began eating those.  With every bite, Jany felt more and more self conscious.  Was Jacob really staring at her more adoringly with every bite, or was she overanalyzing and only seeing what she imagined she might?  It was during dessert that she finally snapped.  Well, snapped again.  She’d been having trouble curtailing her emotions ever since she’d started talking to Jacob.

            “I can’t do this anymore!” she said abruptly, shoving her dish away almost violently, so that it knocked into her water glass and caused water to slosh out onto the half empty plate.  Jacob tipped his head to the side, very apparently confused.

            “Um, you okay?  Do what?”

            “This!  I can’t just sit here and eat and eat and eat just to make you happy!  I’m full, I’m self conscious, and I feel like if I stop eating, you’ll never talk to me again!”

            “Okay, wow.  Let me explain some things.  I know you’re new to this, and feeling kind of uncomfortable with it, but you don’t need to attack me every three minutes.  I didn’t do anything to you.  You knew who I was and what I was about and you agreed to go out with me anyway.  And I told you before we even met that I wanted to meet you whether or not you got into this whole thing.  So can you relax and have a good time for a little while, and maybe stop making me into a demon that needs to be slayed?”

            Jany stood up and ran toward the bathroom.  Jacob caught up with her just before she got there.  He grabbed her by the shoulders and turned her.

            “I’m sorry.  I didn’t mean to yell at you.  But it’s frustrating for me, too, you know.”

            Jany tried, without much success, not to cry.  She did, at least, manage not to burst completely into tears.  When she spoke, her voice was quiet and controlled.

            “You have no idea what my life is like.  I’ve never been able to be with a man who respected me, or even a man I was attracted to, really.  It’s terrible, and I’m lonely, and I just want my life to be different.”

            “Why don’t we get out of here?  Come on.”  They stopped by the table to get Jany’s purse and take care of the bill, then slipped silently outside.  Jacob guided Jany gently by the elbow and they settled onto the stairs of a vacant building down the street.  “Okay, now we can talk.  I’m not really sure, to be honest, what any of what you just said has to do with anything.  I don’t understand.  But I want to.”

            “I don’t know, either.  It’s just what came out.  I guess it’s just that I want, so badly, to be with someone who likes me the way I am, and respects me, and doesn’t want me to be somebody different.  I never, ever say anything to anybody about this.  I don’t know why you turn me into a shrieking, screaming freak.  It isn’t because I don’t like you or anything.”

            “Well, I’m honored to be able to bring out the freak in you.”  They both laughed softly.  “I do respect you, and I don’t want you to be someone else.  I want you to be you, so I can get to know you and we can see if we get along or not.  But I want you to be a you that has a little more confidence in herself.  You do have some, you know.  But you keep it buried so deep that when it comes out, it comes out sounding more like hatred for everyone else than respect for yourself.”

            “Give me a minute.  I don’t know what to say to that.”

            Jany watched an ant scurry by on the sidewalk, studied a crack in the sidewalk, inspected her fingernails.  He was right.  He was absolutely right.  And it scared her that someone she had known for so little time seemed to know her so well.

            “I think you’re right.  Well, I know you are,” she said.  “I just—I don’t know.  I can’t explain what’s wrong.  Not even in my own head.  I just feel—afraid.”

            “You don’t have to be afraid of me.  I will not ask you to change.  I will not hurt you if I can help it.  All I want from you is to get to know you.”

            “Good luck.  I don’t even know if I know me.”

            “Well, now I know what I’m up against.”  Jacob grinned and stood up.  “Okay, enough of this deep stuff.  It’s not typical first date fare, you know.”

            “Probably not, hey?”

            “Let’s go have some fun.  I want to take you to a club I go to a lot.”

            Soon they were standing outside of a brick building with smoked glass windows.  A small sign above the glass door said Club Bubbles mirrored lettering.  Jacob opened the door and Jany walked inside ahead of him.  A man asked to see her ID, which she provided.  He called Jacob by name.  What Jany saw when she got inside made her squinch her eyes shut, shake her head, and look again.  The place was full of men and women—dancing, sitting at small round tables, settled into black leather couches, talking, laughing.  Like any other popular night club.  Except, for the first time in her life, it was entirely possible that Jany was the thinnest woman in the room.  The women were of all shapes and heights and colors.  Some were dressed in classy business attire.  Some were dressed in jeans and t-shirts.  Some were dressed in leather and chains.  Some were barely dressed, in teeny skirts and bikini tops that didn’t do much at all to cover their vast, rolling bodies.  But almost every single one of them was a large woman.  And none of them seemed to care. 

            It wasn’t like most bars, where the larger women hid in corners and discreetly watched the men at the bar in the hopes that one of them would approach, at least until they’d had a few drinks.  These women were dancing, swaggering, swaying their enormous hips and glancing coyly at any man who caught their attention.  The men were of all shapes and sizes and colors, too; they ranged from tall and thin to short and barrel-chested, and hit on every size in between.  But Jany couldn’t take her eyes off the women.  She was completely without words.

            “What is this place?” she finally whispered to Jacob.

            “Club Bubbles,” he replied.

            “Well, yeah.  I got that.  But what is it?”

            “It’s a night club for the plus-sized.  Well, mainly plus-sized women, and men who like them.  But in general, just a size-positive club.”

            “I—wow.  I never knew there was any such thing.”

            “There are lots of them.  That’s what I tried to tell you.  I’m not the only guy like me out there. I brought you here to show you that.”

            “Wow.  Wow.  That’s all I can think of to say.  Wow.  Thank you.”





Subject: The Other Night

 I can’t even begin to tell you what it meant to me to go to a place like the club we went to.  It was amazing.  And you were amazing.  You’re a great guy.  I think that maybe I’m not ready for someone like you.  You saw everything I try hard to hide, and you called me on it.  It didn’t make me angry, or really even hurt me all that much, but it made me think.  That’s my biggest problem; I’m a thinker.  And the whole night, being with you was almost like it would have been to be with a guy who liked skinny women.  At the restaurant, I saw you watching me eat and I worried that I wasn’t eating enough.  In the club, I saw you looking at other women and worried that I wasn’t fat enough.  I never feel like I’m enough.  I think I’m just not mature enough for this whole dating thing yet.  I feel like a twelve-year-old.  I’m not sure it’s fair to you for us to see each other again, at least not until I manage to get a handle on things and grow up a little.  But you have no idea how much you changed my outlook on life.  I will always be grateful to you for that.  Keep in touch and I hope that some day we can try this again.  Jany.



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By: Xander - The Food Dude


Bring The "A" Game

by Xander The Food Dude

What can I say, it’s a weird thing.  In our lives we run the gambit from ultimate high to ultimate low in our feelings.  Recently, I’ve seen two more family members fall ill to the ravages of time.  As most of you have read me through a variety of tragedies over the last 18 or so months, it never ends to amaze me that at times like these we tend to focus on the care of those family members and the evaluation and failings in “our” lives.

Even as I right this (late again) for our web mistress, I re-write it over and over in my mind.  I think back to the other articles in the past months of suggestions for our lives that hold so much potential, and for a great number of us, that which would be an unrealized potential.

By seeing the pain in others lives and our own life causes us to re-evaluate our existance.  From the days of childhood to the point when we help to carry our loved ones caskets to the grave, we feel happiness, joy, pain and struggle.  Nothing quite puts things into perspective as loss of loved ones or seeing the impending loss coming.  We can rationalize it saying that they may be “in a better place”, or they “no longer feel pain”, but in the end it’s still a loss in our lives.

A poet once said that if we felt the loss of stranger as much as we feel the loss of loved ones then there would never be another war, no starvation, no pain that would not be overcome, because to those things to exist would be unthinkable.  And yet, those thing, and many more, do exist. 

And so again, as loss is realized, a sense of urgency arrive.  Get it all done NOW !  Don’t wait to love, don’t wait to make a difference, because what you should have always have been.  And, everyday, not just “a” day once in a while, but EVERYDAY you bring your “A” game.  Bring the “A”, not just to work, but to every part of your lives.  Redefine your dedications to all things you love and get rid of the things holding you back, because there isn’t enough time to get everything done.  Trust me on this one, it changes fast and as Ferris once said “live goes by pretty quickly, if you don’t stop and smell the roses once in a while it will be over before you know it”.

Take a day and just call in sick even if you aren’t, take the kids to the zoo, or just play basketball with them, but don’t waste one minute of time.  One minute wasted is one minute you could have had to do something great.

Take the opportunity and be everything that you want. 

Xander's Recipe of the Month


Chillin' and Grillin' Pizza


1 (.25 ounce) package active dry yeast
1 cup warm water
1 pinch white sugar
2 teaspoons kosher salt
1 tablespoon olive oil
3 1/3 cups all-purpose flour
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 tablespoon chopped fresh basil
1/2 cup olive oil
1 teaspoon minced garlic
1/4 cup tomato sauce
1 cup chopped tomatoes
1/4 cup sliced black olives
1/4 cup roasted red peppers
2 cups shredded mozzarella cheese
4 tablespoons chopped fresh basil


     1. In a bowl, dissolve yeast in warm water, and mix in sugar. Proof for ten minutes, or until frothy. Mix in the salt, olive oil, and flour until dough pulls away from the sides of the bowl. Turn onto a lightly floured surface. Knead until smooth, about 8 minutes. Place dough in a well oiled bowl, and cover with a damp cloth. Set aside to rise until doubled, about 1 hour. Punch down, and knead in garlic and basil. Set aside to rise for 1 more hour, or until doubled again.

     2. Preheat grill for high heat. Heat olive oil with garlic for 30 seconds in the microwave. Set aside. Punch down dough, and divide in half. Form each half into an oblong shape 3/8 to 1/2 inch thick.

     3. Brush grill grate with garlic flavored olive oil. Carefully place one piece of dough on hot grill. The dough will begin to puff almost immediately. When the bottom crust has lightly browned, turn the dough over using two spatulas. Working quickly, brush oil over crust, and then brush with 2 tablespoons tomato sauce. Arrange 1/2 cup chopped tomatoes, 1/8 cup sliced black olives, and 1/8 cup roasted red peppers over crust. Sprinkle with 1 cup cheese and 2 tablespoons basil. Close the lid, and cook until the cheese melts. Remove from grill, and set aside to cool for a few minutes while you prepare the second pizza.


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Big Girls on the Red Carpet


Cher was born in Los Angeles California in 1955. Being adopted by wonderful parents she grew up in the city of Encino, and was always surrounded by loving caring family and friends. Growing up with a thin mother, who was always trying to get Cher to lose weight, diets of all types, sending her to fat camp, bribing her, and
not ever having sweets in their home.

Growing up Cher never was lacking in friends and boyfriends who loved her personality and her kindness.
Guys in her life always were saying your so pretty but why don't you lose some weight. This she heard all of her life but her weight just would go up and down.

Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had some of her experiences and pain that she went through.

Cher has been in the community working with others for size acceptance. She was seen on "Dr.Phil, "Good Morning America", "Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British, Japanese, and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size acceptance.

She was a promoter for the number one BBW hip hop club in California, and seeing people come into the club and make new friends and feel good about themselves warmed her heart.

Her love for helping others to feel better about themselves and to help mainstream accept the plus size community is her focus and goal. She is Vice President of "Hollywood Cure For Pain" a celebrity movement to help those who suffer in chronic pain. She is now showing mainstream that "Big Girls can rock the Red Carpet"! Besides being a wife, mother and activist, playing with her Chocolate Lab Ruby is what she loves best!


Hollywire 'Green Scene' - Launch Party & ‘Reveal’ Burlesque Show at The Highlands in Hollywood

Article by: Cher Rue celebrated the launch of it’s “Green Scene” page, which is dedicated to reporting news about what the entertainment industry and celebrities are doing to support the green movement, as well as introducing environmentally friendly products and tips to minimizing your footprint. To help celebrate this launch, the beautiful ladies of Suzi Gunn’s “Reveal” performed their ultra-sexy burlesque show that left jaws dropping! A silent auction was held throughout the evening. The entire event will support International Green Shield Foundation.

Celebrities: Jeff Conaway, Vikki Lizzi, Claudia Jordan, Michael Copon, Vida Guerra, Sleepy Brown, Liana Mendoza, Art Hsu, Efren Ramirez, Joseph Soria, Jeff Pickel, Jennifer Braff, Chad Tulick, Jessie Lewis, Olivia Jones, Joseph Soria, Johnny V, Cher Rue, Lorielle New, Marilinda Rivera, Sham Ibrahim, Patrik Simpson, Pol' Atteu, Kaden McNeill, DJ Derek D, Yuval David, Kaylee Dodson, Austin Anderson, BooBoo & Fivel, Outkast’s Sleepy Brown, DJ Derek D, Jennifer Braff and Candy Girl Olivia Jones,Yuval, David, Daniel Dicriscio, Johnny V,Jason Seitz, BooBoo & Fivel Stewart, Austin Anderson, Kaylee Dodson and others.

About Suzi Gunn’s “Reveal”
Suzi Gunn and Another Jaw Dropping Productions presents “Reveal” burlesque show with top professional dancers who have toured across the globe, performed with Carmen Electra and been featured on ABC’s hit show 'Dancing with the Stars.'

About International Green Shield (IGS)
International Green Shield is a non-profit organization dedicated to protecting people affected by harsh climates and natural disasters through the completion of preventative construction projects that utilize green technologies. Benefits to the community include strengthened homes, schools and infrastructure with green technologies, advancement of local students in the applied sciences fields, and greater public awareness of local disasters and relief efforts.

Green Scene is dedicated to bringing you the latest in what the entertainment industry and celebrities are doing to support the green movement. We'll also be introducing cool new eco-friendly products and tips to minimizing your carbon footprint. Hollywire is serious about this… we even had an organic alcohol sponsor, 360 Vodka, and not a plastic cup in sight!
A silent auction and raffle were also held throughout the evening to support International Green Shield Foundation, which is dedicated to protecting people affected by natural disasters and harsh climates through preventative construction projects that utilize green technologies.


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     Stephanie Baham is a native of Los Angeles, CA and now resides in the San Francisco area. She's a 38 year old professional who has long enjoyed the craft of writing. Her other interests include film, theatre, yoga, dancing, literature and politics. Stephanie holds a Bachelor's degree from Cal State University, Long Beach in Theatre Arts. She is currently working towards her degree in Psychology.


What's on TV?

with Stephanie Baham


This month I bring you a list of current television shows that are helping prove the world is not only interested in watching skinny actors (check your local listing for air times).

The No. 1 Ladies' Detective Agency: As a young girl growing up in the African nation of Botswana, Precious Ramotswe (played by Jill Scott) was encouraged by her father to follow her dreams, no matter what. Now in her mid-30s, Precious is doing just that — by opening her country's first and only female-owned detective agency for the benefit of those who need help the most. You can catch the episodes on HBO On Demand.

Drop Dead Diva: Sassy blond model Deb (Brooke D'Orsay) is killed in a car accident but returns to life in the body of smart, plus-size attorney Jane Bingum (Brooke Elliott). It's a cross between Freaky Friday and Heaven Can Wait that creator Josh Berman (CSI, Bones) calls a "life-affirming" dramedy. Initially horrified at her new body, Deb finds the meaning of inner beauty as she summons the smarts to juggle legal cases, aided by her assistant (Margaret Cho), and reconnects incognito with her still-grieving boyfriend. You can catch this show on Lifetime.

The Naughty Kitchen with Chef Blythe Beck: (from Oxygen's press release, April 2009) Take one fiery young chef on a quest for total world culinary domination, mix her with distinctive and sexy American cuisine, add a cutting edge Dallas restaurant with a loud cast of characters...and you've got the recipe for "The Naughty Kitchen with Chef Blythe Beck." Blythe, a 29-year old Texas native, who is plus-sized in stature and personality, is the naughty head chef at Central 214 - a top-rated Dallas restaurant.

Man Vs. Food: Travel Channel's Man v. Food, host Adam Richman, sets out to travel the country in search of the best places to do some serious indulging. With a lengthy resume of restaurant experience and a lifelong passion for food, Adam's culinary skills coupled with his seasoned palate provide a gastronomical compass to the best spots to taste America's iconic dishes. After hunting down the can't-miss flavors that make up each region's unique culinary history, Adam will take on the city's toughest food challenge. Whether he's devouring the Sasquatch Burger in Memphis, the Atomic Hot Wings platter in Pittsburgh, or a 13-pound pizza in Atlanta, Adam digs in with zeal becoming our ambassador to all things delicious.

Ruby: This Georgia peach can be found on the Style channel in a reality show that follows her on a weight loss journey. Ruby is such a warm & classy lady and this show actually gives a good name to reality TV> Ruby was recently on Oprah and had this to say about her experience..."I am so honored and happy to have gotten the chance to be on Oprah. She is a strong, amazing woman! She made me feel like I was a guest in her home. From the moment I walked in the door of Harpo Studios, her entire staff made me feel so loved. It was an Oprah show that was the starting point of my inspiration to get my truth out there and share my weight-loss journey on television, so I had a dream come true when I actually got to talk to her about the ups and downs of my own struggles.

This list is small....but it's powerful. These shows are doing very well and I believe these types of programs are positive and progressive. If you have a show you'd like to recommend, please write me. Documentaries, plays, sitcoms, etc....let's support these ventures and spread the word.

Stephanie Baham



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National and International Plus Size News


     I am a former plus-size model and stage performer. I have written articles that have appeared in local newspapers, college magazines and I was a sports editor for my school newspaper. Currently I have a book coming out in May 08, How to Make a Living Without a Job: the Guide to Professional Temping. It will be available online through Amazon and can be ordered through Barnes & Noble or Borders. I split my time between the Bay Area, CA and Houston, TX.


Government to beat Obesity Epidemic - by PAYING fat people to Lose Weight!
with Iolande Vitt Argent

Fat people could be paid to lose weight under Government plans to tackle obesity.

Ministers said the Health Service and employers could give vouchers to the overweight to spend on healthy food in supermarkets.

They also suggested that those who manage to lose weight could be given cash prizes.

Britain is in the grip of an obesity epidemic. A quarter of all adults and one in five children are obese.

Fat people could be offered vouchers to spend on healthy food in supermarkets and even cash prizes to lose their extra pounds under plans being examined by the Government

Experts say that by 2050 at least 60 per cent of the population will be obese.

But the Government strategy risks provoking accusations of a nanny state culture because it also urges schools to appoint "lunchbox police" to check that pupils' food is healthy.

Other ideas in the 40-page report are for compulsory cookery lessons for pupils and at least five hours of school sport a week - up from the present average of two hours.

There will be a healthy food labeling scheme and ministers want councils to use planning laws to limit the number of fast food outlets near schools and parks.

But one of the most controversial parts of the report is a plan to give the overweight financial incentives to maintain a healthy lifestyle.

It said: "We will look at using financial incentives, such as payments, vouchers and other rewards, to encourage individuals to lose weight and sustain that weight loss, to eat more healthily, or to be consistently more physically active."

No firm ideas have been put forward but sources say it could include vouchers to buy healthy foods, or prizes for those who manage to cut their weight.

Ministers are looking at a range of U.S. incentive schemes, such as one run by a private health insurer which allows clients to choose from a range of prizes if they manage to keep the weight off.

And the report commends two weight loss competitions run by British employers.

One firm had a "Biggest Loser" scheme, an eight-week individual weight loss competition.

The man and woman who achieved the greater percentage weight loss received £130 in shopping vouchers, while the man and woman who lost the most weight circumference got £30 each.

Participants lost up to 6.4 per cent of their weight.

In another scheme, Cold Turkey, workers were grouped into teams.

The team with the greatest percentage weight loss every week received a fruit basket and the team with the greatest weight loss at the end of 11 weeks got a trophy.

"In the U.S., for example, there is some evidence that small financial payments, as part of broader programs to tackle obesity, have proven particularly effective in incentivising individuals to both achieve and maintain weight loss.

"However, we are a long way from understanding what kinds of incentives work, which groups might be most affected by them, and how cost-effective these incentives are."

It also raises the possibility of giving employers grants to make healthy options available in staff canteens, provide fitness facilities and invest in facilities for cyclists.

The report said: "Employers will reap the benefits in improved productivity, high staff morale and retention, and reduce sickness absence costs."

Health Secretary Alan Johnson and Schools Secretary Ed Balls yesterday launched the strategy, which promises an extra £372million to help people live healthier lives.

Mr Johnson said: "Tackling obesity is the most significant public and personal health challenge facing our society.

"The core of the problem is simple - we eat too much and we do too little exercise.

"The solution is more complex. From the nature of the food we eat, to the built environment, through to the way our children lead their lives, it is harder to avoid obesity in the modern environment.

"It is not the Government's role to hector or lecture people, but we do have a duty to support them in leading healthier lifestyles.

"This will only succeed if the problem is recognized, owned and addressed in every part of society."

Some £30million of the extra funds will be spent on the creation of "healthy towns" to promote physical activity, and £75million will go on an advertising campaign to promote a healthy diet and exercise.

The Government also reiterated its target of cutting the proportion of overweight and obese youngsters to 2000 levels by 2020.

Conservative health spokesman Andrew Lansley said Mr Johnson was "dithering" over food labeling.

He said: "Obesity takes a huge toll on people's lives and is set to cost the NHS tens of billions of pounds a year by 2050. Is this really the best the Government can come up with?

"The Government had no obesity strategy whatsoever until 2004; now half the 2004 strategy has been repackaged because it simply hasn't been delivered."

Dr Colin Waine, chairman of the National Obesity Forum, welcomed the report. But he added: "We are disappointed that the issue of food labeling still has not been resolved.

"And we would have liked to have seen legislation to end the advertising of energy dense food to children."


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The Big GB

My Gastric Bypass Memoirs

Sonya L. Bennett, (also known as “Truthfulblkwoman”) is a 38 year old, black female, single with no children living in Detroit, Michigan.  She is the youngest of a set of fraternal female twins, with a older sister.  Sonya lives with being the larger twin, and discovered people always presumed that they would look alike in SOME way... Even though fraternal twins don't necessarily look alike.  Always being the heavier of the two, people (family, associates, friends) were quick to point it out. She grew to realize an outer appearance is what people judge you on initially.  As a college-educated freelance court stenographer, it never occurred to her that size would prohibit her from receiving work.  In the legal world, the “eye candy” usually didn’t fill UP the corner.

In 2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake.    Only a few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot.  Doctors finally diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled diabetes.  That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her weight,  it wasn’t until this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something about my weight."  On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she made for herself.  In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one who lives it every day.


And So It Begins...

with Sonya Bennett.

      Fear can often grip us and keep us from receiving our blessings.  I began researching the gastric bypass in the summer of 1995.  At the time, there was a commercial that ran for ‘Bariatric Treatment Center’ which portrayed a little girl who wanted to have a tea party with her grandmother.  The grandmother, who was quite obese, sat down in a chair next to the granddaughter and replied that she used to love getting on the floor and playing with her dolls but she could not do that any longer as tears rolled down her face.  I’ll never forget that commercial as it was a defining moment in my life: realizing that there ARE limitations when you’re overweight.  Though mine did not seem severe in my mind – it was of no consequence to me that I could not keep up with friends as we walked; I just stopped walking – the limits that I placed upon myself because of my weight, at times, halted my living and since I didn’t know what I was missing, that was fine with me.   Years later, I had the pleasure of meeting the star of that commercial who, ironically, lived in Michigan!  She has since had the gastric bypass and is a success story that I brag about knowing often.

     My aunt – who refers to herself as the ‘guinea pig’ – was my role model.  I had received an informational video from BTC (as it was formerly known, now it is known as Barix Center) and researched the ups and downs of weight loss surgery, but when my aunt underwent the surgery and dropped from a whopping size 32 to a sensational size 10 in about a year, my interest grew and fear subsided.  I recall her constant urging, “So, are you ready yet?” and finally, I told her that I was.  I began a new job on January 29, 2007 that had excellent medical benefits and I learned that the gastric bypass would be a surgical procedure that would be covered at 80%; I scheduled an initial consultation with Barix Clinic.  My sister accompanied me and in this visit, I had an opportunity to tour the facility, meet and talk with several nurses who were post-surgical patients, view before and after photos and finally speak to a surgeon.  The surgeon explained the different procedures performed at Barix: the Roux-en-Y gastric bypass surgery (RNY) and the Lap Band surgeries.  I was told that medically I was a perfect candidate for surgical weight loss; being diabetic, having sleep apnea and high cholesterol, and that the RNY procedure would be my only option.  The lap band is geared more towards candidates who have a smaller amount of weight to lose; under 150 pounds.  The duodenal switch, a procedure that promises more successful, long-term weight loss, is performed by only a few surgeons in the state of Michigan.  

     During my consultation in April, I learned that my insurance company would require documentation of a current EKG, a sleep study, documentation of a minimum 12 months on a medically-supervised weight loss program within the last five (5) years and a psychological evaluation.  I also learned that patients with gall bladders may experience gallstones due to rapid weight loss and may, in the future, have to have their gall bladder removed.  In September of 2000, I had already had my gallbladder removed after pain and nausea drove me to the doctor only to find out I was full of gallstones.  I started making Saturday morning doctor appointments and within three months’ time, I had taken my EKG, had several blood tests run and taken two sleep studies to insure my oxygenation levels would be accurate from my prescribed CPAP Machine and to aide my breathing after undergoing anesthesia from the pending surgery.  I received paperwork from one of the many weight-loss programs that I had attended four years previously stating that I had only been in the program for eight months, the psychologist I saw wanted a hefty deposit before she would send the report to Barix and finally, that if I did not meet my $2,000.00 deductible that my co-pay would be over $3,000.00!  It seemed that road blocks were coming up and I became discouraged… again.

Join me right here in July, as the journey continues…. 

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The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs

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Time to tell it like it is!


     This is an experiment in Confession, you can anonymously confess, or let everyone know something that you feel.  Every Month we will post all the confessions and you can come and view them and be inspired to make your own.


     You can send in a picture,  You can make a graphic,  You can just send in your written words.  You can do it anonymously and get something off your chest.  You can let everyone know who you are and liberate yourself.


     Hope you enjoy Confession!  Send in your own check the bottom of this page!





I promise this spring is going to see a new me. Even thou im big





For the last month I have been seeing this guy and I recently found out that he has a fiancée. I see me pulling myself away from him but its something about getting caught that attracts me even more to the situation.





Suddenly I am feeling free, ever since I started to believe in myself.




I talked to my children about going to camp this summer.

I was going to send my husband to drop them off instead of me.

I was scared that the other children would tease my children.

My son put his hand on my arm and said.

I'm glad your my mom and I don't care what those kids say.

My heart skipped a beat.






Send in your own Confession,  Use the email to the Right and send in a your confession, weather it is a graphic you made (NO BIGGER THAN 5x7 92 DPI) or a picture you saw.  You can also just send in text words.  Your Confession can be Anonymous or you can tell everyone who you are.

Send in your Confession NOW!

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Large In Charge Guest Spot

We want to hear and see your talents!


One of our favorite parts of the Magazine.  The Guest Spot is for our readers to submit there talents to be viewed.  We want to see all you wonderful supporters making moves of your own.  If you write poetry, short stories, commentaries, or just thoughts in general, please submit them to us.  If your a designer we want to see pictures of your clothing.   We would love to include your talents in our newsletter.  We hope you take an active part in the L.I.C. newsletter. Send in your article, poetry, comments to -

NOTE: The Opinion of the writer is not always the opinion of The Large in Charge Staff.  We support the Right to all views.  We do not Condemn or Approve writing based on our personal thoughts.  We approve writing based on if the subject is a concern for the BBW / SSBBW / BHM Community.  Thank you for your writing and please send in those articles!  - The Large in Charge Staff

Writers Search


Looking for new Writers for 2009



About Our Writers Search:

     LargeInCharge is looking for Volunteer Writers for our Online Magazine.  We are looking for Males and Females who wants to write about issues that concern large people.  We need people who will be dedicated to writing columns or doing an interview once a month in a timely manner.  You do not need to be a professional writer,  Good writing, and typing skills, the ability to spell check, understand grammar and have your article sent in on time is what we are looking for.


     We want to bring the voice of the people to the people.  Give them something they can related to and enjoy on a monthly basis.


    LargeInCharge is a non-profit Online magazine which is why we are asking for Volunteer's.  This is a great opportunity to brush up on your writing skills and learn different writing styles.


NOTICE:  This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.  You must be able to hand in one article on time monthly for a period of at least 12 months.  If you wish to continue after 12 months then you may stay if your track record is good.


We are looking for writers for the following Positions.

  • A Big Man's World - a writer who will write about living life as a Big Man in this Society.

  • Product Review - A writer to search for and find products that are beneficial for plus sized people.

  • Make- up, Medicine and Body - External to internal make your body feel and look great!

  • Inspiration - Inspirational stories, interviews and articles on loving yourself as is.

  • My Life Before and After Gastric bypass - we are looking for a writer who will document there life before and after this controversial surgery.  Positive and Negative experiences are welcome.

  • The Erotic Phatty - Erotic stories and poetry for the Full Figured form.


Would you like to be a writer?  If you have an idea for a column let me know.





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     Send in the information below along with a clear photograph of yourself and one complete article at least 300 words.  Please make sure your article is matching the position your applying for.  If you are a versatile writer and applying for more than one position send in one article for each position.


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We love our guest writers, they help us to make LargeInCharge more personal and reader friendly place.  We bring the people words from there own peers.  If you always wanted to write but never knew what to do with your thoughts and opinions.  Send them in to us we love to feature you in our guest spot.


What type of entries do we accept?

  • Original Articles that have not been placed in publication.

  • Size Empowerment Stories

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Fashion Furious

BBW/BHM Fashion of the Month

     We all hate how the Fashion Industry is just scratching the surface when it comes to Large Sized Fashion.  But I have found out that many clothing stores and online companies are beginning to take up the slack.  Creative BBW, SSBBW and BHM's are making there own clothing or mix matching and finding basic everyday wear and night club wear. 

     Making it affordable is what can be hard so showcase your wonderful finds here.  If your a regular shopper, sew your own clothing or a designer showcase your clothing here by submitting a picture for Fashion Furious of the month.


Fashion Furious of the Month

How to send in your Fashion Find. Send a Clear Picture as an attachment

and use the Format Below to describe your Fashion Furious picture.

Email to Raqui:


Fashion Find by: Raqui

Fashion Type:  BRA SALE

Why I Like this Item: 70% off all bras what more do I need to say YEAH YEAH!!!


Woman Within -




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Product of the Month!

What is good for Big Sized Bodies


    A very important and necessary part of LargeInCharge.  Find out what is helpful for big bodies.  Keep your self straight with some of our tips and tricks. Find out what other Big Sized people use to keep themselves smelling, feeling, looking, and living a proper life.  What kind of products are allowed. Anything that deal with the body. From cleaning aids to soap, lotions, powder, healing aids etc.  anything that can help a big body!

NOTE: The Opinion of those who submit items are not professional.  They are everyday people who found something that worked for them.  We are not held responsible for there opinion - The Large in Charge Staff

Send your favorite Item to be Product of the Month - Follow format below, include a picture of product (most can be found online) and Send to

Product of the Month

About the Product

Recommender: Raqui

Name of Product:
Arch Brace for Men/Women

Type of Product: Arch - Foot Brace

Cost of Product: $14.99

Where Product can be found: 


Treat heel pain (plantar fasciitis), heel spurs and foot strain without a trip to the podiatrist with the FootSmart Arch Brace. The curved brace supports the plantar fascia, a band of connective tissue which helps maintain the arch of the foot, reducing inflammation and relieving pain. Wear anytime and especially during periods of strenuous activity.

Treat heel pain (plantar fasciitis), heel spurs and foot strain without a trip to the podiatrist with the FootSmart Arch Brace. The curved brace supports the plantar fascia, a band of connective tissue which helps maintain the arch of the foot, reducing inflammation and relieving pain. Wear anytime and especially during periods of strenuous activity.

Why I like this Product:
This month is simple. If you need extra support these items are an affordable item to try for both men and women.  And ladies if you have a bigger foot like i do buy a size smaller in men's.



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