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Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
To view her Online
Raqui featured on Gordos.com and Glamour Plus - go to
www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section
Raqui-ism - The Courage to Compete!
Written By: Raqui
Raqui Wins first Runner Up for Ms. LBC 2011 - All of the Ms
LBC contestants for 2011 - Ms. LBC 2011 Jill
I have never been a woman fond of
competition, I suppose naturally I am a person who works with others
not one who wants to compete. I guess many would assume that a
strong minded woman such as myself who is confident wouldn't have a
problem with competition. But to me competition means one is
better than the rest. I don't see people in that manner, I
tend to think each person is unique and has something valuable to
share with the world. The choice of positive or negative is up to
So when I was asked to compete in the Chicago
Ms. LBC Pageant I was surprised yet interested. Ms. LBC is a
Pageant that was started by Linda of Linda's Big Connections who
services plus sized events in the Chicago area. Most well known for
The Chicago Boo Bash Halloween event and Mari Gras.
I figured why not I performed my spoken word
poem "I am Plus Sized Beauty... Hear me Roar". Many continued
to tell me I was going to win. Even before the competition
started. It felt good that many would consider me a winner and
someone to beat out all the others. But I felt sad inside as
well. I don't want to compete against so many ladies, I don't
want to be proclaimed as better, aren't we all basically the same at
heart? A couple of women told me with you competing why should
I enter? That made me discouraged in a way. I wanted to
come together with the ladies not feel like we were on opposite
Once I decked myself out in my KZ creation made
just for me. I went to the ballroom. I met the ladies we
talked and laughed and it wasn't like I thought it would be.
It was a relaxed atmosphere and we all got along well. In fact
some of these ladies I had already got a chance to spend time with,
and I truly felt at home with them. When it came time to walk out I
put on my Raqui smile and came out with pride.
Ten ladies in all and these ladies all
making a move toward saying. I am confident and happy with me.
The talents ranged from board breaking, singing, dancing, spoken
word, question and answer and more. It really was amazing,
I cheered on with all the other contestants in the background for
our fellow participants.
No, I didn't win but Jill did she did a really great Evolution of
Dance and since she lives in the area she would be able to do
something in the community to help LBC become more well known.
I was a close runner up by about 2 points I was told. Still I
was happy as could be. I stood up with my fellow plus sized
sisters and we celebrated being confident together not divided.
I never saw myself competing against other women for a title.
But in this case having the courage to see if this could be
different meant a lot. I didn't need a crown (I did get a cute
one though) I just needed to bond with my fellow plus sized
sisters. I had to feel like I was roaring with them and for
them. To touch others and be touched by kindness. I got
everything I needed after I performed my spoken word piece. I
cried openly and strongly and I saw others were crying with me.
We united for a moment and the many hugs I received were proof of
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the Plus Side
From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that
deal with all aspects of Plus size Life. Emily Smiltneck was
chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic
writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster
those who are Plus Sized go through.
Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan
(pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a
substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business.
Emily is currently working on several writing projects,
including a historical fiction novel and several collections of
receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below
It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive
recognition for their life's work. Join me in this Joyous
moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her
contribution and great dedication to her goals in life. Click
the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the
page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.
The Adventures of Phatgurl
by Emily Suzanne
Adventures Of Phatgurl
is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a
plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a
personals website. As she embarks on her dates, she meets many
different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.
Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more
serious and even sad.
If you have any
ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see
depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at
I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future
SWSSBBW seeks SM
who will not rape her, emotionally or otherwise. The ability to
both speak and write in complete sentences is a plus. Must not
inadvertently throw her down stairs or pretend that she is “Mama.”
Intelligent conversation, a little respect, and the lack of a
current significant other will get you far. And a well-developed
sense of humor won’t hurt, either. If you like smart chicks with
jelly bellies and thunder thighs, reply to
Looking Back ... Continued
Jany picked up her phone and watched as it slid
out of the other side of her hand.
She wiped her sweaty palm on her pants and tried again.
She dialed Haroon’s number but didn’t hit the call button.
What if he didn’t remember her?
They’d spent maybe a half hour together, and that had been
more than six months ago.
She had no idea how to describe herself to him—what was she
going to say, that she was the fat chick he saw sitting on the park
bench back in the middle of winter like a crazy lady, trying to draw
a bunch of people ice skating?
And even if he did remember her, he was probably seeing
someone by now. She
tried to list every possible thing that could go wrong when she
called him, just so she’d be prepared, so nothing could hurt, so she
could pretend she’d known what the outcome of her call was going to
Finally, she hit call, bit her bottom lip, and
waited for Haroon—or maybe his girlfriend, she reminded herself—to
answer. The phone rang
one time, two. Jany
relaxed a little, disappointed but also relieved, when the phone
finished ringing for the fourth time.
She was going to get his voicemail and not have to talk to
him at all. That would
put the ball in his court, although she didn’t know quite what she
was going to say in her message.
She hadn’t thought that far ahead.
“Hi, this is Jany.
I’m—I’m the girl—well, woman—that you met in the park while
you were watching the ice skaters back over the winter.
You took me to a coffee shop.
You probably don’t remember me.
Anyway, I just thought I’d see what you were up to.
I mean, what you’ve been doing since then, not what you’re
doing right now. I—wait
a minute, this isn’t your voicemail, is it?
Oh—oh, I—” Jany trailed
off and cringed, waiting for Haroon to hang up on her.
Instead, he laughed softly.
“No, it is not my voicemail.
I am sorry I took so long to answer.
And I do remember you.
You are the pretty girl who couldn’t draw anymore because
your fingers were freezing.
And you ordered a latte.
Vanilla, with skim.”
“I—I feel really stupid for thinking you were
your voicemail. I was
just nervous. I don’t
do this very often.
Make phone calls, I mean.
“Do not worry about it.
People do things sometimes that make them seem silly.
Don’t be nervous.”
“I’ll try not to.
I can’t believe you remember me.
I really thought you’d have forgotten me or be with someone
else by now—am I sounding dumb again?
Are you with
someone else by now?”
“No, I am single.”
Jany smiled at this information, but wished he had kept
talking. Now that he
had told her he was single, he was expecting her to have something
to say, and she didn’t.
She’d spent so much time planning for everything that could go wrong
that she’d forgotten to think about what she might say if things
went right. And the
silence was starting to get uncomfortable.
“Cool,” she started.
Um—so—what—how’ve you been?”
“I have been fine.
How have you been?”
Not bad. I’ve
been fine.” Jany wished
she could shut her mouth off when she should instead of going on
forever. She clenched
her tongue between her teeth to stop herself from rambling and
waited to see how Haroon would respond, if he would help her make
conversation or leave her to figure it out on her own.
“Is there a reason that you called me?” he
finally asked. A wave
of nervous nausea sloshed into Jany’s stomach.
She couldn’t pretend, in this situation, that it was just a
random call, and there didn’t seem to be a good way to trick him
into asking her out so she wouldn’t have to put her pride on the
line. She had no choice
but to admit that she was calling to ask for a date.
“Actually, I—well, I had a good time with you
and I wanted—I’ve kinda wanted to call you for a long time, but I’m
scared to death to do things like that.
I never really call people.
Probably because I do dumb things like think I’m talking to
their voicemail when they answer.
And then I talk too much, like this.
Would you wanna go
out sometime?” The
abruptness of Jany’s question, after so much pointless yapping,
startled her and she almost dropped the phone as she waited for his
answer. Luckily, he
didn’t make her wait for long.
“I would like that.
When would you like to see each other?”
“Friday or Saturday would be good, but that’s
probably too soon. You
have plans, don’t you?
We can wait and do it next weekend.
Or even sometime during the week, if you want.
We can get together some day for lunch or some night for
coffee or something.
Whatever you want.”
“You talk very fast.
It makes my mind whirl in circles.”
Jany’s heart sank; he was going to turn her
down. Her terrible
phone skills were finally going to do her in.
Except, he hadn’t sounded upset; he sounded more like he was
laughing at her. In a
You make me really nervous.
You’re the first—well, never mind.
I was just super excited when you gave me your number, and
talking to you makes me all weird and jittery.
I’ll try to calm down.”
“I don’t mind.
I think you’re funny.
I would like to see you on Saturday.”
I didn’t think—okay.
How about if we meet in the coffee shop by the park, where we
went last time? Would
that be okay?”
Do you like music?
I think there is music in the park on Friday nights.
Maybe we could have coffee first and then go for a walk in
the park and listen to it for a while.”
“I’d like that.
“I will meet you there at six?”
And—thanks for—thanks for not thinking I’m weird.
Even though I am.”
“I will see you Saturday.”
Mala and Jany were eating lunch in Mala’s office and Jany was
in the middle of describing her awkward phone call with Haroon that
had somehow turned out okay when they heard the gallery door swing
open. Jany stood to
greet the customer but sat back down when Selena breezed into the
room. She kissed Jany
on the top of the head, which drew a smirk from Mala, grabbed a
handful of chips from Mala’s plate, and parked herself on Mala’s
“How’s it going today, girls?” she asked.
“Oh, it’s going.”
Mala pulled her plate closer and wrapped an arm protectively
around it. “Jany was
just telling me—”
“—that I’m really, really tired today for some reason.
I guess I didn’t sleep well.
How are you?”
“Jany was also telling me that she’s got a date on Saturday.”
Mala spoke faster this time, and louder, so that Jany’s
attempts to stop her didn’t work.
“Ah, that’s cool, Jane.
I’m in such a good mood, by the way, that nothin’ can touch
Jany looked up, surprised.
Not the reaction she had been expecting.
And Selena’s calm acceptance almost hurt.
Jany sort of liked having the power to hurt someone—not being
able to hurt someone, really, but knowing that someone cared enough
that she had the power to
hurt her. She didn’t
like that she felt that way; power trips and mind games weren’t her
thing. But it still
hurt that Selena didn’t seem upset that she was seeing Haroon.
Mala saved Jany from spending too much time wondering what
was responsible for Selena’s sudden upbeat attitude.
“What got ya so freakin’ cheerfull?”
“This girl I used to hang out with in high school?
We sorta dated a little?
Or something like that, saw each other anyway.
Anyway, she’s back in town.
Only for a few days, but we’re gonna get together Friday.
I am, like, so excited to see her again>”
“Great. I gotta
be done with that stupid mural I’m doing at the bank by Tuesday.
You’re both gonna get more action than I am this weekend, and
not even with each other.”
Jany and Selena giggled nervously without looking at each
other. Jany was
uncomfortable talking about her relationship with Selena when she
was so unsure of herself and didn’t want to make eye contact because
she didn’t want Selena to read the pain in her eyes.
She knew very well she had to right to be upset; she was the
one who had said she wasn’t ready to take the next step, the one who
wanted to see other people.
She felt betrayed, though, somehow.
She’d sort of assumed that Selena would be there waiting for
her to make a decision.
It hadn’t occurred to her, even after their ‘can’t wait forever’
conversation, that Selena might be the one to move on.
Jany felt stupid.
She was the one no
one really wanted, the one men didn’t seem interested in dating.
Selena be the one who would move on first?
Finally, Selena interrupted the pause in the conversation,
and Jany’s thoughts.
Always wantin’ to start some kind of drama.”
When that failed to get a reaction, she tried again.
“Anyway, not all of us get, like, that kind of action from
all our friends, Mala.
It is entirely possible that Jany will go on her little date
and I will see my friend again and neither of us will get any
‘action,’ weird as that might seem to you.”
This time, Jany snickered and Mala rolled her eyes.
And then Mala defended herself to Selena and Jany backed
Selena up and pretty soon they were all friends again.
Jany felt a little better.
Selena had, after all, called her date a ‘little date,’
almost with a sneer.
That meant she was feeling a little bitter, maybe.
That she did care, after all.
Jany missed having Selena to help her get dressed on
Saturday. She was
starting to get used to having someone else’s opinion to depend on
in her wardrobe choices.
And it was weird getting dressed to see Haroon.
It almost felt like things were the way they’d been back when
she’d first started dating, when she’d been so unsure of herself.
Haroon wasn’t like the other guys she’d met.
He didn’t want her just because she was fat.
Once again, Jany had to worry about choosing clothes that
would hide her bumps and bulges instead of showing them off, just in
case. He obviously
accepted her the way she was; he’d given her his number.
But what if he’d forgotten how fat she was, or what if he
hadn’t noticed? All the
magazines Jany read talking about how men don’t notice details.
Or what if he noticed, but he’d never touched anyone Jany’s
size before—what if he put an arm around and then pulled away,
disgusted by her rolls of fat?
Jany was all about fat chick equality, but that was
completely different from having the confidence to be the first fat
chick that a guy dated.
She did her best to shrug off her worries and hurried to get ready.
If she just got dressed and left, got to the coffee shop, it
would be too late to go back.
Jany was twenty minutes early, so she was surprised to see
Haroon waiting for her at the same table they’d chosen the first
time they’d met. That
threw a wrench into things; she didn’t have time to give herself a
pep talk and prepare.
On the other hand, it also assured that she didn’t have time to get
any more nervous.
“Hi,” she said as she approached the table, glancing
uncertainly at first the chair across from Haroon and then the one
next to him. Haroon
stood up and sort of hugged her hand with both of his.
Then he pushed back the chair next to him and waited for Jany
to sit down. She did,
but his politeness was weird to her.
It made her feel less comfortable instead of more.
She was used to seeing guys whose main goal was to touch her
inappropriately, so she wasn’t sure whether to respect Haroon’s
manners or feel rejected that he hadn’t pulled her close to try and
cop a feel as soon as he saw her.
Maybe he wasn’t attracted to her after all.
Jany realized that if she spent the whole date analyzing
everything and not paying the slightest bit of attention to Haroon,
the night was going to be a disaster and it would be her fault, not
his. She forced herself
to focus on the man sitting across the table from her and ignore the
barrage of insecurities zigzagging through her mind.
“I am glad you called me,” he was saying.
“I thought of you and wanted to call you, but I didn’t think
to get your telephone number.
After a while, when you had not called, I thought that maybe
you had a boyfriend or something.
I felt a little silly for not asking when we met.”
God, no. I mean, no
one’s ever wanted to—never mind.
No, I don’t have a boyfriend.
I just have this major anxiety when it comes to calling
people. I’m always
scared I’ll interrupt them from something and they’ll get so mad
they never want to talk to me again, or that they won’t want to hear
from me and they’ll say something mean.
It doesn’t make much sense, I guess, but it’s the way I’ve
“You shouldn’t worry about such things.
I think everyone would want to talk to you.”
Jany blushed and looked away, not sure what to say.
clenched her teeth to stop herself from arguing with him.
She didn’t want to make him think she didn’t respect his
opinion, and it seemed like a bad idea to try to change his mind if
he actually liked her.
“Shall we get some drinks to go and go over to the park?
We can walk around and talk, and I am not sure where the
music is, so that will give us time to find it.”
“Yeah, that sounds good.”
They wandered around the park for an hour or so, stopping
every so often to sit on a bench and watch the people around them.
Haroon told Jany all about school—he was going to be a
chiropractor—and his job in the university book store.
He already had a degree in business, but he’d always wanted
to be a doctor and his brother was a chiropractor and loved it.
Jany told him about her dream of teaching art someday.
When Haroon took her hand as they walked, Jany waited for the
nervous chill to run through her body.
Instead, she just felt his hand, warm on hers.
It felt good.
Eventually, they found a band of Irish musicians set up on a
little stage in the corner of the park.
They settled on the grass to listen.
It was exciting to Jany, sitting there.
She was with a guy who didn’t seem embarrassed to be seen
with her. He didn’t
want to hide out in his house with her and rush her into sex and
then send her off home.
It didn’t seem like he had decided that he liked her or didn’t like
her immediately, based on her appearance
She felt just as comfortable with Selena, of course, except
that even with her there was an element of uncertainty.
Not because Jany didn’t know how Selena felt, but because she
wasn’t sure how she felt.
She wasn’t ever sure if she should encourage Selena or run
away from the whole situation before one of them got hurt.
The music ended and Jany and Haroon sat in the dark talking
about the music and the park and their plans for Sunday.
Jany made no move to get up.
As long as they were sitting there, not moving, she didn’t
have to worry about what might happen next.
She didn’t have to worry about whether she should pursue
Haroon if he didn’t pursue her, she didn’t have to worry about
unraveling her feelings toward Selena, and she didn’t have to make
any decisions about anything.
Unfortunately, it was getting late and they couldn’t stay
there all night. Haroon
stood up and Jany slowly joined him.
They approached the members of the band and talked to them
for a little while, Jany asking every question she could think of to
keep the night from ending.
And finally, they were walking back toward the coffee shop.
“I had a good night tonight,” Jany said softly.
“I had a good time, too.”
“I—well, I just want to say thank you.
This is hard to say, but I’m trying really hard not to be
afraid, and part of that is trying not to be afraid to say what’s on
my mind. I don’t get to
do this very often, have real dates, I mean.
I’ve seen a few other guys that I met from my ad—did I tell
you about my ad? I keep
forgetting that that’s not how we met.
I’ve seen a few guys, a bunch, actually, and none of them
have been as respectful and as well-intentioned as you seem.
I mean, some have been good guys and stuff, but you are just
really cool. And I’m really
glad I got to go out with you.
It felt good to see a guy out in public and stuff, without
any pressure. I had
“I’m confused. I
think you asked me some questions, but I can’t remember what they
were to answer them, and I’m not sure what you mean when you talk
about your ad. Are you
nervous again? Because
you do talk a lot when you are nervous.
That’s what you said, and I can see that it is true.”
“Sorry. Yes, I’m
nervous. A lot of guys
seem like they are embarrassed to be seen with me in public, because
I’m—because I don’t look the way most people think women are
supposed to look. So
I’m nervous because I’m afraid after we see goodbye, I won’t get to
see you again, and it felt good to be with you tonight.
That’s the important part of what I was trying to say.
And I’m nervous because I don’t usually say things like this
to people. You make me
“I’m glad, because I do want to see you again.
No one else will listen to folk music with me.”
I’m glad you like listening to music with me.”
“I can be silly too, you know.
Relax. It wasn’t
just the music. I like
talking to you, and I think you are a very pretty girl.
You have the prettiest eye brows I have ever seen.”
He stopped talking and reached a hand out to run his finger
over first one of Jany’s eye brows and then the other.
“That’s the best compliment anyone’s ever given me,” Jany
said, grinning. “Very
unique. Now, as much as
I hate to, I have to get going so I don’t miss
my train. The next one
isn’t for two more hours.”
“Okay. Good bye,
Jany.” Haroon lifted
Jany’s hand and kissed it, then held it between them for a minute
before he let it go. “I
will call you tomorrow.”
Jany walked to the train in a daze.
She was completely happy, for once, as she dropped into a
seat. Then her phone
rang. It was Selena.
Jany’s heart sank, partly because she didn’t want to go back
to reality and difficult decisions just yet.
Also, though, it sank because when she’d seen Selena’s face
light up her phone, her heart had raced for just a second.
She ignored the call, wondering if she’d ever figure out what
she really wanted.
Thanks for reading
From the Plus Side with
Emily's Cool Links
Cher Rue is an actress,
writer and producer. Starting out with writing "Dear Cher" she knew
she loved helping other people. Being plus size all her life this
was where she knew her calling was.
Cher was seen on "Dr.Phil,
"Good Morning America", "Entertainment Tonight", "Russian, British,
Japanese, and Viet Vietnamese Television". Also a documentary filmed
at the Las Vegas Bash on the Travel channel, and Current TV, a
online station, with numerous radio interviews talking about size
You can also see a recurring show "Secret Lives of Women" seen on
the We channel "Women's entertainment".
Cher was recently in a
new movie "Forever Plaid" coming out soon.
Cher is now involved
with mainstream "Hollywood" and charity events showing that beauty
comes in all sizes
it is what is inside that counts.
Cher has always loved seeing others happy and helping others to find
their inner self and beauty.
Ten years ago, she found the plus size community and she knew this
is where she would focus on helping others who were like her and had
some of her experiences and pain that she went through.
Full Figure Fashion Week
This week Los Angeles experienced something new, Full Figure
Fashion week. The times are changing and for the good of the
Plus Size Community who has been forgotten in the past for
fashion week. New York’s own innovator and creator Gwendolyn
DeVoe from DeVoe Signature Events, has made a difference on how
we look at fashion for curvy women of all sizes. Gwen an amazing
woman beautiful, strong, smart and a real go getter, has been
doing Full Fashion week in New York for a few years. She has
surrounded herself with a great team to bring Los Angeles a
taste of what New York has experienced and I for one was amazed
how professional and beautiful the event was. Her assistant for
the Los Angeles event Marie Dena Leggette, Co-founder of The
Curvy Fashionista helped Gwen put on an exciting event. But a
good leader knows how to surround herself with a good team and
Gwen was on point for that, her team and volunteers were very
welcoming and helpful throughout the day’s events.
This three day event included a Pink Carpet Event and silent
auction for the affiliate of Susan G. Komen for the Cure as the
Los Angeles charity and a thousand dollars was raised from some
wonderful jewelry, gifts and designer dresses that were donated.
The setting for the three day event was held at the Hyatt
Regency Century Plaza Hotel Los Angeles, it was a beautiful
venue and gave a great ambiance to each event.
The second day included
“The PLUS Side of Business” - Featuring Successful Businesses
that cater to the Plus Size Community
The PLUS Side of Business panelists featured presentations from
a diverse group of business owners who shared their experiences
of running successful businesses that service the plus size
woman/man. The panelists shared with the attendees the resources
and information that they have used to create and maintain their
Jennene Biggins, Founder/CEO of the Voluptuous Woman
Jennene founded the Voluptuous Woman Company, Inc.® in 1997
and has worked an an advocate for the plus size community
for 13 years. The Voluptuous Woman Company’s motto is “Size
is Just a Number..Not a Limitation.® VWC serves as a
positive voice for the plus-size woman through their
informative and empowering events, plus size marketing
consulting services, plus size auction website and other
special events specifically designed to encourage plus-size
women to live life to the fullest. Jennene is also Principal
of J Biggins Consulting, LLC, an internet marketing and
social media consulting company that fuses many traditional
marketing strategies with an extensive knowledge of Search
Engine Marketing, Web 2.0 and managed E-mail Marketing
Glen L. Johnson, President, Full Figure Network, Inc.
Glen is a full time blogger making a decent living from a
medium that he did not know existed before October of 2004.
You may be wondering as a man why he would associate himself
with something that is normally viewed as an area dominated
by women. It’s simple. Glen is a plus size man married to a
plus size woman and from a plus size family, so he is very
much qualified to write about things related to the plus
size fashion industry. Full Figure Plus a blog dedicated to
plus size fashion and serves over 60,000 visitors a month.
Boneshia Perri - Fitness Instructor and Co-Owner of
Bodacious Occasions Event Management Company
Boneshia established Bodacious Occasions, a Boutique Style
Special Events and Production Company based in Los Angeles,
Ca. as a result of her 19 years experience as an Event
Specialist designing unique and memorable events for
celebrities and government officials. Boneshia is a 7 year
Certified Spinning Instructor who teaches to sold out
classes throughout the Losa Angeles, CA area.
Tina Sanchez, CEO, MoxieManagement, LLC
Tina Sanchez is more than just CEO and Founder of
MoxieManagement, LLC. She is a widely acclaimed fashionista
with a flair for personalized fashion and a business-savvy
personality to go with it. Tina founded MoxieManagement
LLC., a premier public relations bilingual boutique
marketing agency "specializing in fashion, music, culinary
arts, entertainment, and lifestyle brands" while creating an
outlet for her to harness her ten plus years of fashion and
public relations/marketing knowledge and expertise.
Yuliya Raquel, Founder and Designer, IGIGI by Yuliya Raquel
For Yuliya Raquel, the artistic environment in which she was
raised served as the perfect backdrop for her creative
talents. Plus size clothing designer, IGIGI, is synonymous
with fashion-forward plus size dresses, career wear, bridal
gowns, and separates. Founded by designer Yuliya Raquel in
2000, IGIGI's mission is to transform the world's view of
beauty. IGIGI creates smart, stylish, and sophisticated plus
size clothing collections for fashion-loving women in sizes
12-32. IGIGI designs accentuate and celebrate the beauty of
the curvaceous female figure. IGIGI strives to provide
clothing with the highest quality fabrics and workmanship,
and all of the apparel is manufactured locally in San
Rhonda Wilkins, CEO, Diva's Unlimited, Inc. and the
Executive Director of The S.T.A.R.S. Leadership Foundation
After experiencing negative behaviors from the industry
towards plus size models is what prompted the birth of
Diva's Unlimited, Inc. Rhonda wanted to give a voice for the
Plus Community and show them that WE ARE HERE and you will
notice us in a positive light. Diva’s Unlimited, Inc. began
lending their talents to fashion and theatre productions and
has helped raise money for several charitable organizations.
In addition to their fashion production services , DUI
serves as a Business/Talent Manager for many new and
existing "talent" in the Atlanta, GA area.
New and Inspiring Models Panel and Discussion was held Friday
Learn from professionals in the plus fashion industry:
How to make it or break it as a plus sized model on ANY
Why preparation is KEY!
How to develop a "signature" runway walk.
How to stack the deck in YOUR favor.
Knowing how much money you’ll need to get started.
Getting In Where You Fit In (Other branches of modeling)
Building your skills and using your personal budget
How to PROPERLY prepare for the open call.
How to avoid being put in a box or typecast
About investing in the business of YOU.
The State of the Curvy
Community - A Panel Discussion
Perfectly timed, in the midst of current news in the media, this
panel discussion addresses the current state of the plus-size
community and the significance of Full Figured Fashion
Week(end)™, through the eyes of the industry’s leaders, bringing
different perspectives from various experiences and points of
There was an intimate panel discussion of “The State of the
Curvy Community” hosted by the Curvy Collective and moderated by
Chenese Lewis, who is a popular actress, motivational speaker,
media spokesperson, plus model and President of the Hollywood
chapter of the National Organization for Women. The Panel
included Icon’s from the Plus Size Community.
Sharon Quinn -
The Original Runway Diva
The 6 foot tall, shaved head beauty is most recently recognized
from her appearances on all three seasons of the Oxygen
Network's popular "MoNique's
F.A.T. Chance," and also starred in national television
commercials for Weight
Just My Size and frequently modeling on ABC-TV's
acclaimed morning show,
"The View" and on BET's
"Rip The Runway."
As a model, Sharon Quinn’s career featured a client list that
included The Avenue, Lane Bryant, Ashley Stewart, Bloomingdales
and Nordstroms. Currently, Sharon Quinn shares her astute
knowledge of the plus modeling industry to coach plus size
models wither column:
"The Runway Diva Says..."
Reah Norman -
and Fashion Director of
PLUS Model Magazine
Reah's education, along with over 10 years professional
experience, has refined her eye for detail, clean lines,
flattering silhouettes, and has sharpened her personal style
as a visual artist all of which she brings to the plus size
community. Her work has been featured in print ad campaigns,
company catalogs, and newspaper advertisements. Reah Norman
brings her expertise as an in demand plus size stylist and
as the Fashion Director for PLUS Model Magazine..
Heinrich Saint-Germain - of
Judgment of Paris
Heinrich Saint-Germain owns and manages the Judgment of
Paris. Online since 1998, the site features images of many
popular plus-size models, as well as an online art gallery,
illustrated essays, video clips, and a discussion forum. The
site views the shift from the traditional preference for
curves to the androgynous, contemporary standard as being
part of a century-long suppression of Classical beauty in
all of the arts. By comparing images of plus-size models
with historical depictions of femininity, the Judgment of
Paris is devoted to restoring timeless ideals of beauty.
Kelly Price - R&B Artist
Since 1998, R&B singer Kelly Price splashed onto the scene
with the release of her double-platinum debut, Soul of a
Woman, which featured the record-breaking single, "Friend of
Mine." She returned to center stage three years later with
the platinum-plus seller, Mirror, Mirror, led by her remake
of the R&B classic, "As We Lay," and followed up with the
gold-selling holiday collection, One Family: A Christmas
Album in 2001. Kelly returns with the 2010 self titled
album, Kelly; with the lead single "Tired," the song sheds
light on the social ills that not only cause her distress,
but also seem to be plaguing our world community.
Judge Karen Mills-Francis - Judge Karen's Court
Judge Karen Mills-Francis is a television personality and
published author with a colorful and engaging style that is
as distinctive as her bold burgundy robe and her bright
blonde hair. As quick to aid the helpless as she is to
dismiss the harebrained, Judge Karen confidently dishes out
justice before a television audience with her nationally
syndicated courtroom series, JUDGE KAREN’S COURT. With the
same compassion and razor-sharp wit she brings to the bench,
the retired Florida State court judge has written her newly
released book, “Stay in Your Lane: Judge Karen’s Guide to
Living Your Best Life” guaranteed to inspire, delight, and
Winding up this spectacular event list was the Fashion show, and
it was truly inspirational.
The Designer Showcase Participants were Abundance Plus Size
Boutique, Chan.nel Karama, LTD, Forever 21 Plus, Hips and
Curves, Igigi By Yuliya Raquel, Jill Alexander Designs, Kiyonna,
Lane Bryant, Plush Boutique, Sassi Rebel Clothing, Sealed with a
Kiss, SONSI, Youtheary Khmer.
The Sponsors for this great event were Sonsi, Evans, Curvy
Collective, Lane Bryant, Mib Collection, Marinello, Feeling
Fabulous, City Chic, Plus The Academy, Fennimas, Heart’s Desire,
Sealed with a Kiss Designs, True Diva Designs,
NYX, Monif C., Fashion to Figure,
Cher Rue. Com, Shop it to me, and Jess.
Celebrities who attended or modeled included Kendra C. Johnson
(Monique’s Fat girlz), Alana Chandler (Dr.Phil’s Housewives)
Model Sharon Quinn, Judge Karen, Kim Cole’s (Living Single),
Johnny V. (Scott Baio is 45 and Single) and more.
I had an amazing time, but more important us big girls are not
being taken for granted anymore, we are here, we are beautiful
and we shine, so move over and share the stage the “BIG GIRLS “
are here and beauty comes in all shapes and sizes!
Thanks for reading Big
Girls on the Red Carpet
Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his
writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to
writing Xander cook’s like he feels. A former Chicago native
transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the
fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society,
can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and
a easy recipe. They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty
addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a
great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far
by Xander The Food Dude
The world of soup is incredible.
Empires have been built on it, as well as, many
But, where did it come from ?
Who invented soup? It's common knowledge that the word soup
comes from the same source as the English term "sop,"
meaning a piece of bread soaked in liquid. In common
parlance, soup replaced sop at about the same time that
people began serving the heated liquid without the
ever-present piece of bread (approximately one-hundred years
after Catherine de Medici arrived in France with her entire
kitchen in tow and proceeded to transform the world of
However, it's likely that people have been enjoying
some version of meat cooked in heated water since the days
when Prehistoric man was forced to stalk and kill his dinner
before he could even think about cooking it.
The origins of boiling are lost to history. Nonetheless, in
The History of Food, Raey Tannahill states that it's clear
man knew about boiling long before the invention of
earthenware pottery (around 6,000 BC). Ever inventive,
prehistoric man found that bamboo trees filled with clay,
reptile shells, and especially the stomachs from the animals
they had killed, all made perfect vessels in which to boil
liquid filled with fresh meat over a hot fire. When nothing
else was available, they could always resort to the more
time consuming method of filling a pit with water and
throwing in a few stones heated from the fire to bring the
water to a boil. (How they managed to transport the hot
stones from fire to water without scalding themselves in the
process remains a mystery).
Various evidence, including residue sticking to pots, tells
us man was regularly consuming soup by the Iron and Bronze
Ages. The Ancient Romans ate soup, including a type of fish
broth cooked in wine and spices. The Greeks were familiar
with soup as well, as the following quote from a play by the
Athenian satirist Aristophanes illustrates:
Dionysus: ..."Did you ever feel a sudden urge for soup?"
Heracles: " Soup? Ten thousand times so far."
Today, the world of soup is vast and sophisticated. There
are thick soups such as bouillabaisse that nearly cross the
line from soup to stew, thin clear consommés, and everything
in-between. Nearly all cultures have their own specialties:
hearty Russian borscht, garlicky Spanish gazpacho, and
Pot-au-Feu, a French clear soup made from boiled beef and
vegetables. (I say "nearly" as I can't think of a soup
native to my own country, Canada. Maritime clam chowder,
perhaps?) Soup can be a meal in itself, an appetizer, or a
dessert. And we can't forget soup's role as the ultimate
of the Month
Tempting Toscana Soup
12 links spicy pork sausage, sliced
1 tablespoon vegetable oil
3/4 cup diced onion
1 1/4 teaspoons minced garlic
2 tablespoons chicken soup base
4 cups water
2 potatoes, halved and sliced
2 cups sliced kale
1/3 cup heavy cream
Preheat oven to 300 degrees F (150 degrees C).
Place sausage links on a baking sheet and bake 25 minutes, or until
cooked through. Slice into 1/2 inch slices.
Heat oil in a large saucepan over medium heat. Saute onions until
translucent; add garlic and cook 1 minute.
Stir in broth, water and potatoes; simmer 15 minutes.
Reduce heat to low and add sausage, kale and cream; simmer until
heated through and serve.
3 tablespoons butter or margarine
2 teaspoons vegetable oil
3 cups cubed French bread
1 pound sliced bacon, diced
2 cups finely chopped celery
1 onion, finely chopped
2 tablespoons sugar
6 tablespoons all-purpose flour
5 cups chicken broth
1 (16 ounce) jar picante sauce
1 (8 ounce) can tomato sauce
1/8 teaspoon pepper
3 cups shredded lettuce
In a Dutch oven or large saucepan over medium, heat butter and oil.
Add the bread cubes; stir until crisp and golden brown. Remove and
In the same pan, cook bacon until crisp. Drain, reserving 1/4 cup
drippings; set bacon aside. Saute celery and onion in drippings
until tender. Add sugar; cook and stir for 1 minute. Stir in flour;
cook and stir for 1 minute. Add broth, picante sauce, tomato sauce
and pepper; bring to a boil. Boil and stir for 2 minutes.
Just before serving, add lettuce and heat through. Garnish with the
croutons and bacon.
Buffalo Chicken Soup
6 cups milk
3 (10.75 ounce) cans condensed cream of chicken soup, undiluted
3 cups shredded cooked chicken
1 cup sour cream
1/4 cup hot pepper sauce
Combine all ingredients in a slow cooker. Cover and cook on low for
4-5 hours. How much easy does it get then that….
Thank you for
Reading Good Food 4U
By Xander the Food Dude
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2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational
curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she
piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake. Only a
few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to
walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot. Doctors finally
diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled
That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for
years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her
weight, it wasn’t until
this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches
following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something
about my weight." On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass
medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she
made for herself. In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to
learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one
who lives it every day.
Patiently Waiting: A Pending Patient - My Sister, Angela
with Sonya Bennett
*** Angela received her call October 29, 2010 that the Scheduling
Team will call her within 10 to 15 days to schedule her surgery!
2011 – A new Woman***
It’ the start of the holiday season, and this year, I am hosting
Thanksgiving in my new apartment home in Orlando.
I usually don’t stress about cooking during the holidays
because my daughter is an AMAZING cook, but this year I am stressing
about something else… how do I resist the food?!
Grandma’s famous Brunswick stew and her mouth-watering Apple
Cake (this ain’t no typo-not Apple Pie… Apple CAKE!) – Turkey, Ham,
Fried Chicken, Stuffing, Mashed Potatoes and Gravy, Collard Greens,
Corn Bread… drool, drool.
Just last week the bariatric nurse called to conduct a –pre-surgical
phone evaluation with me.
She asked me for several test results from an assortment of
painless enough! I can
call the cardiologist, the pulmonologist and the sleep study-“ologist”
and ask them to fax to her my most recent test results.
I have them all on speed-dial.
The conversation is going pleasantly well so far, and them
she asks the question that sends the entire conversation into “Why
did I answer the phone?” mode.
She asks me if I have lost any weight from the 333 pounds
that I was back in January 2010.
“Why no”, I answer.
“I now weigh 350 pounds”.
About a month or so ago, a distant friend had gastric bypass
surgery, and I called her a few hours after she was checked into her
room. She was still a
bit loopy from the pain meds, but she was lucid enough to tell me
that her liver “broke” during surgery.
This forced the surgeon to work harder and she remained under
anesthesia for longer than expected.
This story replayed in my head as the nurse informed me that
I have to “loose as much weight as possible” and that I needed to
loose no less than 13 pounds within the next three weeks.
“I have to loose weight during the holidays?
How am I gonna do this?”
Sweet potato pie… Red Velvet Cake… I don’t know how to eat in
moderation! I vividly
remember the Thanksgiving at my grandmother’s home, the year that I
turned 13. I was always
tiny, and grandma wanted me to “put on some weight”.
That year, as I was drooling over the “dessert table”… my
granddaddy pulled me to the side to show me a Sweet Potato Pie,
sitting all alone; and he told me that this pie was all mine.
“Grandma made a special pie for you this year, and you don’t have to
share it!” That pie was
DEVOURED before we left grandma’s house that night!
I was stressing about everything.
Changing the mashed potatoes to mashed cauliflower (does
anybody really eat that stuff!), not putting the food on serving
plates set on the table (who wants to walk back to the stove for
second helpings?) I
tried to keep busy cleaning the house, shopping, testing my blood
glucose and trying not to think about eating.
I tried to fast on Sunday, and thought I did a pretty good
job… until the sweats and the shakes started (my glucose dropped to
85!) As I sat down with a peanut better and jelly sandwich, with
olives on the side and thinking about the corn flakes and lime
sherbet in the freezer, I began to flip the channels on TV until I
got to Discovery Health. Dr. G – Medical Examiner was on!
YEAH! I can eat
and watch an autopsy at the same time!
Well, this episode was a re-run of a 2009 episode where a 400
pound man took a nap in his parent’s guest bedroom, and never woke
up (lemme go get a bowl of cereal before they split his ribs… that’s
the best part!). Now,
during the autopsy, Dr. G interjects with a health background on
this man. He was 400
pounds (I am only 350 pounds, but he was 6 feet tall).
He took pain meds for his knees (I take pain meds for my
knees and lower back).
He had high blood pressure (check, so do I).
He had sleep apnea (check, so do I.
My cpap machine is set on a pressure of 12).
He had asthma (check, so do I), and he had an enlarged heart
(whew! My heart is
fine!) Then, Dr. G.
mentions something that literally turns my stomach.
She said that if this man had had one more diagnosis, like
diabetes, he may not have lived for as long as he had.
OMG! This man
was only 42 years old.
I am a type II diabetic, and I am 45 years old.
I want to be here for my daughter and their daughters.
I want to play with grandchildren.
I want to travel and write stories.
I want to make more documentaries and produce more radio
shows! I want to stand
before people and show them a picture of me at 135, 180 and 350 and
I don’t want them to recognize me!
I want to have a testimony of being healed from aches and
pains… of having type II diabetes reversed and being off my cpap
machine and high blood pressure meds.
I want to go for a walk with my daughter, or stand in the
kitchen long enough to empty the dishwasher and make a pot of
coffee. I want to LIVE!
I don’t want to be hungry ALL THE TIME!
I don’t want to wake up at 4 am with a splitting headache and
a growling tummy. I
want to LIVE! Gastric
Bypass promises to help me to live.
My goal is to loose 200 pounds over the next three years.
I can do this. I
know that I can.
Thanks for reading
The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs
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Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
NAAFA is Proud to Support Dr. Regina Benjamin
from: NAAFA.org - Peggy
NAAFA would like to thank Dr. Regina Benjamin for her message of
support for Health At Every Size (HAES).
We strongly support her message that people should eat
healthy foods and participate in movement that one can enjoy on an
ongoing basis, independent of body size.
There are many scientific studies that support the fact that
body size is not an indicator of health.
A 2005 study published in the Journal of the American Dietetic
Association found that significant improvements in overall health
can be made, regardless of weight loss, when women learn to
recognize and follow internal hunger cues and begin feeling better
about their size and shape.
Recent findings from the Mayo Clinic conclude that overweight and
obese men with moderate fitness had mortality rates similar to those
of the highly fit normal-weight reference group.
Dr. Linda Bacon stated in her book,
Health at Every Size: The
Surprising Truth About Your Weight, that "Health at Every Size
(HAES) is the new paradigm, providing a compassionate alternative to
the war on obesity. No harm comes from supporting people of all
sizes in adopting good health behaviors."
A recent study of a new school garden program in Berkeley,
California showed increased nutritional knowledge among 4th and 7th
graders who were fed a steady stream of gardening and cooking
curriculum, vegetable intake was almost one serving per day greater
and yet there were no detectable differences in academic test scores
or body mass index based on differences in their exposure.
In July of this year, NAAFA sent a letter and packet of information
stating our position and including resources on size discrimination
NAAFA is proud that we have a Surgeon General who understands that a
thin body does not equal health and a fat body does not equal
Take a moment to view the video on the website of the US Surgeon
General, Dr. Regina Benjamin:
encourage our members, supporters and others to let her know you
support her HAES message for adults and children. You may call
301-443-4000 to express your
Thanks for reading
From the Desk of NAAFA
Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A.
degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is
considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and
is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music,
movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos
This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.
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Candace Lane (C.L.) is a 24-year-old plus sized artist from Illinois,
where she was born and raised. She is a graduate of Proviso East High
School. Candace is a certified Patient Care Technician who is
experienced in the medical field.
C.L. now works in technical support for a major electronics
manufacturer. C.L. is currently pursuing a bachelorette degree in Mixed
Media Art. Her artwork has been featured in local artist competitions.
Candace considers herself a spiritual person. Being the oldest of four
siblings gave her courage to lead and the wisdom to know when to follow.
As a member of what has been labeled Generation Next, she
believes that life is a learning experience and everyone can teach you
something; you just have to be willing to learn.
In her free time, she enjoys traveling, art, music, good food and great
conversation. Presently she is single, sassy and satisfied with where
life is taking her.
The Important Things
with Candace Lane
“You yourself, as
much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your
love and affection.”-
When was the last time you treated yourself to
something nice? I don’t mean the this-cost-$50
and-it-looks-like-it-cost-$200 nice, I mean the
Yes-I-paid-$200-because-I-am-Loreal-worth-it kind of
nice. How many times a day do you think about the
wellbeing of the people around you before you stop to
think about yourself? As women, we are natural born
caregivers conditioned to fulfill that roll from birth.
Think about it, your first toy was probably a baby doll.
When we become women we are supposed to care for our
children, our parents, our husbands, our friends, the
homeless, and fight world hunger, but when do are when
are supposed to care for us? Who takes care of us when
we get sick or have a tummy ache? Who nurses us back to
health? I remember seeing my mother always make
sacrifices for my dad and her children, but I cannot
remember one single time were she took time out to
pamper and fuss over herself. I am not even sure if she
knows how to.
You do not have to have the IQ of Albert Einstein
to know that life is short. Now, figuring out the
meaning of life… well, that is another story. Sometimes
it is not the destination, but the path we drive to get
to the destination that makes the trip worthwhile.
Do you treat
yourself the way you treat others? For many of us the
answer is no. Grace Mirabella was the one who said,
name of the game is taking care of yourself, because
you're going to live long enough to wish you had.” I
think of my mother every time that statement comes to
mind. When I see tired in her face, I wonder if she had
to do it all over again, would she. I think of the
parents that work 80-hour workweeks to put their
children through school. I think of the children who
gave up school along with their childhood to take care
of ailing parents.
I do believe that you can give and give and give
to the point where you have nothing left for yourself
and don’t even think about still being able to take care
I found myself at a place where I was evaluating
my wants, dreams, goals and desires and wondering if I
would be like my mother. She is the world’s sweetest
person. She is warm, funny, beautiful, kind, patient,
loving, unselfish, gentle and a whole other list of
words that cannot begin to do her justice. My mother is
the only person in the world that I know has always had
my best interest at heart. I have never doubted the
authenticity of her love for her children. The only one
word that I question whether it accurately describes her
I am saddened when I think about that, but It
would hurt more I think, if I ever asked her about it.
What is it that makes her happy? I hope to be even a
half of the woman that she is, but my desire is happy. I
desire to know joy and to have joy be as much a part of
my life as my future children and husband. Is it
possible to find a balance between humility and
Does it make me selfish to desire the balance? I
do not know, but I do know that I am not will to
sacrifice happiness. So what exactly is it that makes me
It is okay to make sacrifices in life; everyone
sacrifices something sometime. It is important that we
take care of ourselves as much as if not more than we do
others. You cannot be someone’s rock and foundation of
you are withering and decaying away. When you get to a
point where you are too tired to be tired, it is
probably time to take a break and get some much-needed
R&R. Get a pedicure, go on a vacation, buy yourself that
sexy black dress even if you wear it just for you. Take
a nice long no technology allowed walk at the beach and
feel the sand in your toes while you listen to the ocean
sing to you. Do something that gives you pleasure and
makes you happy. We will only live a short while on this
large rock; you should be able to enjoy it at least part
of the time. When everything in your life becomes
hectic, you cannot forget to take care of number one. We
get one body, one soul, one mind and one heart.
Take care of these things; they should be your
most treasured possessions. If you cannot do that for
you, then do it for the ones that love you. You are just
as important to the people you love as they are to you.
Never forget that.
I dedicate this message to all of the YOUS out
Be Blessed- C.L.
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