Cover Model of the Month Interview
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
Francisca but everyone calls me Franny
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current
I was born and raised in Canoga Park, Ca, home of the valley
girl and the galleria, and I now live in Gardnerville, NV
LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about
yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status,
I am 38, 39 on February 24th, I am 5'7" and weigh about 235lbs.
I am Part American and Mexican and I have been married for 14
yrs. I have one daughter and we have two boys and one
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight
later in life?
As a kid, I was stick thin. I was able to eat just about
anything and stayed thin. The thinnest I have ever been was
135lbs and wore a size 9. Now that I have had three kids, I am a
lot larger than a size 9...LOL, I am a wonderful size 18w.
LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight later in life) what
caused you to gain weight and how did you feel about it?
What caused me to gain weight was just plain laziness! I have no
excuses for putting on this much weight. For a long time I felt
depressed and hid myself because of the weight. NOW, I feel
proud, beautiful and sexy. I have learned to embrace and love me
for who I am and love me for me.
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the
LargeInCharge model search?
Why not enter? It's fun to see how different everyone looks. How
beautiful all these women and how handsome the men are. So why
LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted
for your size?
It took me a very long time to love me again. It wasn't so much
what other people thought of me, it was more of what "I" thought
of me. I have learned to dress up and not dress to hide. I have
learned to make myself pretty for me and not for others to
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and
Friends yes, family is another story. I have some family that
support me and others that tell me to give up plus size
modeling, that it's never gonna happen for me. I will never give
it up, I have become a plus size educator, a plus size mentor
and I feel that I am a wonderful roll model for others to look
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
My husband, my kids and my beautiful grand-daughter. Without
them, I am nothing.
LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary occupation?
I am an Administrative Associate for a wonderful winery in
LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?
Believe it or not but shear luck. There was this woman that came
to my door trying to sell me home owners insurance. I told her
that I hadn't worked in 2 1/2 yrs. She asked me what I had done
in the past and I told her. She then told me that she had a
friend that was looking for someone and I gave her my name and
number and her friend called me. I went for the interview and
was interviewed by 4 people at once! Was kinda fun though...LOL.
Two days later I got a call and the job!!!!
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?
Where I work yes. I get more compliment about the way I conduct
myself and the way I dress.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place
for Large People in the work force?
Look at a persons experience, NOT their size. If you have a thin
woman and a heavy woman and they both apply for the same
position, the potential employer is always going to pick the
thinner person. This needs to change now.
LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry
for big sized clothing?
I think it has come a long way. 10 years ago, the clothing was
NOT as fashionable as it is today nor was it affordable. I,
myself, have noticed how more and more clothing has gone from
moo moo's, to beautiful pieces of clothing that I would be proud
LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the
I believe that "High Fashion" designers can do much better than
they are doing right now. I want them to be a little more open
minded and see the beauty in plus size women. The only thing
they see is a heavy person and their high fashion clothing won't
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus
sized modeling for men and women were to expand?
More men and women will come out of their shells and become the
people they have always wanted to be. We will all see more "REAL
SIZE" people on the runways and in high fashion magazines.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your
I am super cheap...LOL, but I can find some great finds! I love
Wal-mart. I can honestly say that a lot of their plus size
clothing is pretty ugly but there are those times where I can
find something wonderful. I love going to Ross. I mean really, I
can get a top for as cheap as $3.99! If I was to splurge, I go
to Lane Bryant but even then, I go straight to the clearance
section :-) Beautiful clothing for super cheap prices....Come
shopping with me!
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.
I have no beauty tips. I don't was my make-up off at night, I
pick at my face all the time and I don't use any facial
LargeInCharge.com: Give us some tips on how to have a successful
Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?
1. Listen to your photographer, he/she knows what they are doing
to make you look beautiful.
2. Be yourself! Don't pretend to be someone you are not.
3. Relax and have fun!
LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago...
look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?
I see some things have gotten better and some things that have
gotten worse. It's hard to point out one for either. I think
when you are in a metropolis like L.A. or New York, things are
harder. When you are in a smaller town, like the one where I
live, things might be a little easier because everyone knows
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five
years from now with size acceptance?
For all we know it just might stay the same.
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling
and other interests.
I am still pushing myself to get out there, to be seen, to have
my name known. All I can do is the best I can to be a model,
knowing that I may never make it.
LargeInCharge.com: What have you accomplished as a Plus Sized
Public Choice Winner for Buxom Entertainment 2006
Cover Model for Me, Myself & I, April 2007
Head Shot of the Day August 2007- Sugar Loot
Uniquely Plus Size Model of the year 2007, 4th Place Winner
Model of the Moment for SprungPhoto.com March 2007
Cover Model for Large in Charge Magazine October 2007
Model of the moment for Me, Myself & I, November 2007
Cover Model for Hott Bellz 2008 Calendar
Miss February for Hott Bellz 2008 Calnder
Cover Model for Sassy Sistah, June 2008
Glamour Girl Spot Light October 2008
Cover Model Primo Plus Magazine Dec 2008
Real Women Summit Model June 2009
Real Women Have Curves Model of the month Dec 2009
Curvy Chick of the month winner December 2009
Solid Magazine, Spring Cover Model 2010
Snog Tee Shirt Contest 2010, 177th out of 2502 entries
Purple Lab modeling contest 2010 61st place out of 2518 entries
My Fabulous Body Contest winner Summer 2010
e.l.f. (Eyes, Lips, Face) modeling contest 2010, 176th place out
of 10442 entries
Hugo Boss Runway modeling contest 2010, 44th place out of 702
Tara Smith modeling contest 2010, 73rd out of 3041 entries.
LargeInCharge.com: Have you entered or won any Contests,
Pageants or Awards? What was the experience like?
Please see answers in the above question. Winning any contest
give me more and more confidence.
LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment
in you life that made you feel good about your size.
I know this is gonna sound snobbish but oh well, every time I
see an man take a 2nd glance at me it makes me feel really good
LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you
I have my husband’s 150% support! That means more to me than
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of
size who want to model?
NEVER, EVER let anyone tell you that you can’t do it. You are a
beautiful person and if you want it bad enough, go for it! Do
anything and everything you can to make it happen.
LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you most admire?
To tell you the truth, there are so many that I can not just
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
To view her Online
Raqui featured on Gordos.com and Glamour Plus - go to
www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section
Raqui-ism - Its a Come Back - GYN isn't enough get a Sonogram!
Written By: Raqui
Why test for Ovarian Cancer in Plus Sized Ladies
received the scare of my life a few weeks ago when I went for my
yearly GYN appointment. My doctor has been my GYN doctor for
almost 10 years. After my exam She casually says, "I think you
should go for a sonogram." "A Sonogram?" I reply "Why?"
"Well I want you to get checked for Ovarian Cancer." "CANCER"
is the only word I heard.
Me Cancer, no way I mean come on. I am too healthy for
cancer. Wait I am to young for cancer. I CAN'T HAVE
CANCER! I kept calm and she gave me some paper work so that I
can get the sonogram done. But inside I was really scared.
Because in reality Cancer can hit you at any age and that last thing
I wanted to think about was that I might have something hidden in my
body that could take my life.
So I start asking all my bbw friends about this certain test but no
one knows about it. I start asking smaller women, ssbbw women,
shoot I asked strangers in the doctor's office. But no one
knows anything about it. My mother almost had a nervous break
down when I mentioned it so I decided to change the subject. I
began to ask my online friends and one woman had the test but for
different reasons. I really started to get frustrated and very
worried. Finally I got some answers and it came to a surprise,
but completely makes sense: EVERY SINGLE big woman bbw or
ssbbw should be getting this test YEARLY.
It is called a Vaginal Sonogram, It is done while your on a
regular GYN table. They put a plastic coated wand about the
size of a hot dog into your vagina. It does not go very deep.
The wand takes the sonogram through your pelvis and they are able to
get pictures of your uterus and ovaries. You don't have to
drink water and all they do is move the wand around a little
to get a better picture. It takes about 10 minutes and is
simple. It was much better than getting a Pelvic exam and was
not a big deal.
Why should all Big Ladies get this test on a yearly basis? I
talked to a friend of mine who gets these tests, and a friend
who is a Nurse and these are the reasons.
With many plus sized people during a GYN exam the uterus and
ovaries are NOT being felt properly or not being felt at all!
The Vaginal Sonogram enables the uterus and ovaries to be seen
and examined for growths, cists and tumors.
Cancer, Cists, Growths etc. do not hurt until it is too late to
do something about it.
The Vaginal sonogram allows the doctor to see what they cannot
Cancer and other problems can be detected early with this test
when the chance of recovery is good.
It is a shame that all GYN doctors are not informing Plus Sized
ladies about this during an exam. If the Doctor cannot feel
every thing they should automatically send you for this exam for
YOUR OWN GOOD. Out of all the people I talked to 80 % of
them being BBW or SSBBW. Only one person was able to tell me
more about it in detail and why we should be getting this exam every
year. That means most BBW's and SSBBW's are not being
examined correctly. Most women in general do not go for the
yearly GYN exam especially Large Ladies who are embarrassed, ashamed
or just don't want to go through the hassle.
My friend who is a nurse said that all women should get this test
from time to time but especially Bigger women should have it no less
than every other year. Large Ladies can go on for years with tumors,
cists, growths that might be cancerous or non cancerous growing and
have no idea about it. When you start getting pain the cancer
might have spread to much and you might not be able to recover.
Or they might have to take out all your reproductive organs instead
of an ovary. With out your ovaries to give you estrogen you
will have to take estrogen pills which can actually cause different
types of cancer over time. So the most important thing is to get
examined yearly and if you got a problem with regular testing and
exams problems can be detected early enough to do something about
SO WHAT SHOULD WE DO ABOUT IT:
Find a GYN doctor you like and get yearly exams.
Ask your Doctor if they are able to feel your uterus and ovaries
properly during the exam.
If they don't feel them perfectly ask to have a Vaginal
If your doctor refuses find another doctor and speak to them in
advance saying you want Vaginal sonograms at least every other
year. In reality you should have it every year.
If you feel pain at anytime go in to speak with your doctor.
Remember Early Detection is the Key, If your doctor doesn't have
your best interests at heart you need a new doctor.
We need to fight for our rights, We are paying for medical
care and if you have government assistance or insurance it is there
for a reason. So that you stay healthy. If you don't
demand the proper treatment who will? If you don't have
insurance or any way to pay for your GYN, birth control and other
treatments. Look up Planned Parent hood in your area.
At planned parent hood you can apply for a special Medicaid that
takes care of GYN, birth control and any type of medical care that
has to deal in the GYN field. You will be able to use it with
your own regular doctor you don't have to use Planned Parenthood
Stay well Ladies and remember, even though you might not like the
exam or test it is important for your health and life!
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the Plus Side
From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that
deal with all aspects of Plus size Life. Emily Smiltneck was
chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic
writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster
those who are Plus Sized go through.
Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan
(pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a
substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business.
Emily is currently working on several writing projects,
including a historical fiction novel and several collections of
receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below
It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive
recognition for their life's work. Join me in this Joyous
moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her
contribution and great dedication to her goals in life. Click
the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the
page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.
The Adventures of Phatgurl
by Emily Suzanne
Adventures Of Phatgurl
is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a
plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a
personals website. As she embarks on her dates, she meets many
different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.
Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more
serious and even sad.
If you have any
ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see
depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at
I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future
SWSSBBW seeks SM
who will not rape her, emotionally or otherwise. The ability to
both speak and write in complete sentences is a plus. Must not
inadvertently throw her down stairs or pretend that she is “Mama.”
Intelligent conversation, a little respect, and the lack of a
current significant other will get you far. And a well-developed
sense of humor won’t hurt, either. If you like smart chicks with
jelly bellies and thunder thighs, reply to
“Selena, I’m sorry. I need you. I didn’t know
who else to call. I did something bad. Really bad.”
“Jane? You’re crying. Are you okay?”
“No. Yes, I’m okay, but what I did isn’t. It’s terrible.”
“Are you—are you safe? Where are you?”
“Hold on, I’ll be right there. You didn’t answer me. Are you safe
until I get there? Do you need me to call someone?”
“It’s okay. I’m okay. I just need—someone. Something. I don’t know.”
“I’m on my way.
Jany hung up the phone and dissolved into tears again. She couldn’t
help picturing Frank’s poor wife—she was fat and barely escaped
being unattractive, in Jany’s mind—home alone, in bed, wondering
where her husband was. Wondering if he’d come home smelling like
another woman, again, and if she’d be able to ignore it, again.
Wondering why she wasn’t enough for him.
And Jany kept remembering Frank’s hands on her body, how warm they’d
felt and how on-top-of-the-world they’d made her feel. It was a
sharp contrast from the vast emptiness she felt when she forced
herself to also remember that she would never feel them again. The
emptiness made her cry, which made her feel guilty: she shouldn’t
even want to feel those two-timing hands again! And the guilt made
her cry harder.
Selena let herself in when she got there, and Jany was glad she’d
given her an emergency key. She was in no shape to get up.
“What’s wrong, hon? Tell me all about it—Jany? Honey? Are you sure
you’re okay? You’re—not wearing any clothes. Oh, my god, did you—did
“No! No, I wish that’s all it was.” In her agony, Jany had forgotten
that her clothes were still on the floor across the room, on the
floor in her bedroom, scattered across her apartment. She pointed
weakly at a blanket that was draped across the back of a chair and
Selena covered her with it.
“I swear to god, if someone forced himself on you, you better tell
me. I’ll kill the bastard!”
“No, Selena, it’s okay. It wasn’t that. I did something bad. It
wasn’t even his fault, really, I should have asked, but I didn’t
think to, I was so antsy and I needed some excitement and I was so
proud of myself and then he told me and oh, god, I can’t believe I
did what I did.” Jany started crying all over again. Selena sat down
next to her, pulled her close.
“Jane, you can’t keep just ranting like that. I don’t know what to
do. You have to tell me what happened. What you did. Did you—hurt
“Not on purpose.”
“What did you do?”
“I slept—” Jany dropped her voice to a whisper. “I slept with a
“I slept with—”
“No, I heard you, you don’t need to say it again. That’s what this
is all about? You’re this upset because you slept with a married
dude? Women do that all the time, Jane. I thought you killed someone
and I was gonna have to be your alibi!”
“I swear I didn’t know. I didn’t ask, that was my fault, but he
didn’t tell me, either, not til after we were done. I was with him
once before, and he didn’t tell me then, either. I never would have,
ever! I didn’t know and I asked him out again and we came back here
and did it and then he was getting dressed and he was all like,
‘Well, I better get home before my wife gets mad,’ like it was no
big deal. What am I gonna do?”
“You’re gonna get a grip, to start with. Sleeping with someone
else’s husband is only wrong if you know, hon, but if he didn’t tell
you, he is, like, totally the one who should feel guilty. It wasn’t
even your fault. And even if you did know, I mean, it’s not a good
thing, but it isn’t like, the same as murder or something.”
Jany let her head fall back against Selena’s chest and Selena
smoothed her hair back.
“I just keep thinking about his wife.” Jany’s voice caught on the
word “wife” and she almost started crying again, but she managed to
stop herself. “I mean, she was probably sitting home alone waiting
for him when he was in my—my—with me.”
“Or maybe she is a cold-hearted bitch who won’t touch the guy, or
maybe they just both got busy with life and don’t make time to be
together anymore, or maybe she has a lover or two on the side, too.
Hell, maybe they have an open marriage. You have no idea what the
situation is, Jany, and you didn’t know he was married anyway. I
promise you, you do not need to feel this terrible about it.”
“I guess. But I—I can’t help wishing he wasn’t—you know. I wish I
could have him. Because he’s really a nice guy, and—”
“If you feel this guilty about sleeping with a married guy, Jane,
then there’s no way you think he’s a nice guy anymore. That alone
should help you get over him.”
“Yeah. But he seemed nice. He took me out for dinner this time.”
“This time? What does that mean?”
“It was the guy that took me to the gay bar and the liquor store—”
“Holy hell, Jany! You are this upset over the guy that fucked you in
a whorehouse on your first date? Okay, remember when I said you
needed to get a grip? I take that back and double it. Triple it. He
is so not worth all this! Go take a shower and get dressed. Wash his
stench off of you and get dressed up all pretty. We’re going out and
I am going to show you how much better you can do, because you need
to get a new opinion of yourself. Now go!”
Selena stood up and dragged Jany off the couch, then pushed her into
“Are you gonna take a shower, or do I gotta give you one?”
“I think I can manage.”
“’Cause if you need me to get in the shower with you—”
Jany giggled and felt herself relax a little. Laughter was still
possible; life could go on. “That’s okay. I think I’ve had enough of
that kind of stuff for one day.”
“Sure, rub it in. I was sitting home alone tonight, and you
were—well, you know.”
“Shh. Don’t go there. I need to not think about that for a while.”
“Sorry, hon. Take your shower. I’ll find you something to wear.”
“We’re really going out? It must be like eleven already.”
“It’s only ten, on a Saturday. We are totally going out.” Selena
turned on the water and adjusted the temperature. “Night’s still
young and we’re gonna have us some fun. Now get your naked ass in
the shower and stop tempting me with it.”
When Jany got out of the shower, there was a stack of neatly folded
clothes on the bathroom counter, along with a bottle of lotion she
assumed was on loan from Selena, because she didn’t recognize it.
She smoothed it over her skin and looked at the clothes Selena had
picked out for her.
“Um, what the hell do you think you’re doing?” She opened the
bathroom door to glare at Selena, who was waiting on the couch.
“I’m sitting on your couch. Waiting.”
“I mean with these clothes! I’m not wearing them. This skirt barely
covers a half inch of my nasty thighs; I’d need leggings or
something to go under it. I only got the damn thing for Halloween
and I wore a trenchcoat over it then.”
“I don’t follow.”
“It’s spring. You don’t need leggings.”
“I’m talking about modesty, not frostbite! I don’t want my butt
hangin’ out all night.”
“Come on. We’re gonna party. Be cool.”
“Selena, how can I have a good time if I gotta worry about showin’
off my hoo hah every time I sit down?”
“Okay, fine. Hold on.”
Jany was actually happy with the results when Selena had finally
come up with an outfit they could agree on. She’d kept the short
skirt but added some black leggings Jany had forgotten she even had,
and the tall boots she’d work with the skirt on Halloween, and a
button-down shirt that was less buttoned than Jany would have liked,
but she’d compromised on that. She had to admit that Selena was good
with makeup; she’d managed to make Jany look like most women did
when they got dressed up to go out instead of like a little girl
playing dress up.
“All right, let’s get outta here,” Selena said when she was finally
satisfied with her work.
“Where are we going?”
“We’ll figure that out on the way there.”
“Selena? Thank you.”
“Any time. That’s what friends are for.”
“I mean—not just for tonight. For everything. I sort of—well, I’m
not as good a friend as I should be. I want to be. I’m just not used
to this. I’m not used to having friends.”
“It’s fine, Jane. Relax. I’m a big girl, I’ll deal, and someday
you’ll get your head screwed on straight. Or gay, which would be
fine by me. Now, can we stop with this, like, mushy shit? ‘Cause I
don’t need to be sittin’ on a bus cryin’ with mascara runnin’ down
“Sorry. I’ll try to rein it in.”
“Thank you. So I was thinking about going to that one place you told
me about, that Club Bubbles place. You down?”
“I—I don’t know. I mean, it might be fun. But there, I might—I’m not
sure if I can handle getting hit on or whatever. I might snap and
punch some poor, innocent dude in the face. I’m a little frustrated
with men right now.”
“So we’ll pretend we’re there together.”
“Selena, I’m not sure that will exactly keep us from getting hit
“No, but it might be fun anyway, and it’ll give you an easy excuse.
Dudes try like hell to get chicks to tag team ‘em, but they don’t
actually expect it to happen.”
“And I’m sort of afraid—“ Jany looked away from Selena, dropped her
voice. “What if we go there and someone starts talking to you or
whatever and—and not to me. At least if we go somewhere else, well—I
mean, it could happen, you’re a lot skinnier than I am, but even
girls your size don’t get that much attention, so—“
“Hey, now! Speak for yourself. I get plenty of attention. And so do
you, if you’d stop being so damn stubborn and just see it. Yeah,
there’s a bunch of assholes out there who say rude shit and count ya
out just ‘cause you’re fat. Lots of ‘em. But you know what? There’s
way less than you think there is, it’s just that they’re the loud
ones and the ones that hurt, so you remember ‘em. Let me ask you
this: how many men do you see—just at work, out on the street,
whatever—that don’t insult you?”
“Whoa, calm down. I didn’t mean to set that off. I don’t know, I
don’t exactly count ‘em or anything.”
“Okay, then how many do insult you in any given day?”
“Maybe one or two.”
“How many did yesterday?”
“Yesterday? None, I don’t think.”
“And the day before?”
“I—I don’t remember any.”
“And the day before that? I’m a fat girl, too. I know how exactly
you remember that kind of stuff. Come on. When was the last time it
“I guess it was when I was waiting to cross the street and this guy
opened up his car window and yelled that I should lay off the
Twinkies and drove away.”
“And when did that happen?”
“What are you, my therapist? I don’t know, maybe a couple months
ago. Last summer sometime, I think.”
“Somebody’s gotta be your therapist. Think about what you just said,
girl. One asshole insulted you—and it wasn’t even an original
insult, by the way—almost a year ago, and you’re judging all men
based on that? Why not judge them on the ten thousand or so dudes
you’ve seen since then that didn’t insult you?”
“Selena, you know what I meant.”
“Uh uh. I’m not done. Beyond that, what kind of a friend do you
think I am? Knowing what you went through tonight, if some guy hit
on me, I don’t care if he’s a fucking rock star, I’d tell him to
leave me alone ‘cause I’m hangin’ with my girl tonight. And if I did
get hit on and you didn’t, or you did and I didn’t, especially at
that Club Bounce place, that’s just the luck of the draw. It doesn’t
mean a damn thing. God, girl, sometimes it seems like you’re
getting’ your shit together and then all of a sudden I find out
you’re right back where you started from.”
“Holy hell, Selena, chill. You’re not making me feel any better,
“Sometimes ya gotta hear the truth, kiddo. So where we goin’? Club
Bubbles is my choice, but since it’s your night, you decide.”
“Okay, fine, we’ll try it. But if I need to bail, can we go
Thanks for reading
From the Plus Side with
Emily's Cool Links
Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his
writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to
writing Xander cook’s like he feels. A former Chicago native
transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the
fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society,
can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and
a easy recipe. They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty
addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a
great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far
To Where It all Started and Ended
by Xander The Food Dude
I sit here tonight with a vague
impression of what I want to convey this month.
At last March has arrived and thus the dance of
Spring is on us again.
Yes, at last the cold and snow is gone for another
few months, but damn, here come the bugs and sweltering heat
of the summer.
I have spent the last couple of days
rounding up all the magazines I’ve collected over the last
few years and have torn out the articles I want to keep.
At this point, I’ve gotten rid of about 1,000 pounds
of magazines and kept about 200 pounds in articles.
Eventually I hope to scan those into the computer and
get rid of the paper version.
I ask myself quite often, that if I haven’t looked at
them in two years what do I need with them now ?
Ah, the questions that can’t be answered by a
The things that hits me the most is the
dates on the magazines.
Some of these are better than 5 to 10 years old and
I’m only now looking at them.
However, I have noticed the dates on them and for
some I can actually recall the date of purchase.
I can see myself in my mind of when and where I was
when I bought them.
One, for example was a Men’s Health I bought for an
article on losing weight from April 2000.
Another was a cooking magazine from 1996 that I
specifically recall purchasing because of the Spanish
Soufflé recipe it had in it.
I detail this to you because since April of 2000 I
haven’t lost any weight and I never did make that Spanish
As I continue through I find a magazine
on sky diving (once a serious goal, If I would only lose the
necessary weight) and a hiking magazine in which is notes
the ultimate goal of any backpacker is to lighten the load
for the journey.
AND THEN IT HITS ME….
My greatest fears have come to pass and
only reason I haven’t realized it is that I am too stupid to
For the last year I have been thinking
that through some oddity I am in the midst of a mid-life
crisis due to my turning 40 almost a year and a half ago.
Now I can honestly say its turned into a high level
I have to finally acknowledge that ultimately I have
failed at everything I have undertaken.
I have no goals that inspire me, no dreams to
achieve. I have
surrounded myself with a mountain of shit I can never hope
to use and it’s burying me.
In short, I am not happy and don’t see the hopes of
every truly being happy with my life. (If you’re thinking,
Damn, this is a major Bummer to read, think about how I feel
to actually writing it.)
THEN I DO IT….
I actually take the time to read two articles that I
just tore out.
I read the one about skydiving and hiking.
I read this knowing that the reality is that I will
never go hiking or skydiving.
I’m thinking the whole time… what the heck am I doing
wasting MORE time just throw them away
The two articles, oddly present me with
maybe a partial solution to one of my problems.
The hiking article talks about when people first
start hiking they think they have to take everything they
might need with them.
This results in a heavy load to carry and make the
hike more taxing than it needs to be and you can’t go as far
as a result of the effort.
The skydiving magazine has a primary story on being
able to recover from a snag primary chute.
The first thing your must do before you can open your
is to dispense with the failed primary chute otherwise it
will only snag your reserve chute on deployment.
They call this the act of “cutting away”.
The stories spoke to me in my
It’s time to lighten my load and cut away parts of my life
to lighten my load.
Maybe this will make the long journey ahead easier.
Maybe its my desperation that makes me look for
meaning in places that there shouldn’t be, or maybe it’s
God’s sense of humor, or God’s pity for me.
Whatever it is, some things have come closer to being
clear. One, you
can only read so many self help books before you know the
real reason you fail.
You can only ignore the problem so long before you
know what the real problem is…..
in my case.. the problem is me….. there something
wrong with me.
The reality is that its always be there and its time to fix
Over the next few months I’ll keep you
posted on the cut away process, the ups and downs.
I hope through it all we can all garner something
good from it.
Some of you may feel the same way… If so, welcome to my
boat, and no, you can’t bring that will you.
In the mean time, enjoy the recipe I’ve included for
you, it from April of 1996…
(yeah, go ahead and laugh,
Next Month… Hot Sauce…. Just in time to start grillin’ and
turn up the heat.
of the Month
The soufflé omelet is an omelet in which the eggs have been beaten
until they triple in volume, It is then started on the stove top and
finished in the oven where the eggs soufflé up yielding an omelet
with a huge WOW factor. This omelet is easy to make and the finished
product is light, airy and quite delicious.
Start by sautéing 3-4 tablespoons each of diced onion and red bell
pepper in 1 tablespoon olive oil. Saute until soft, about 5-8
minutes. Add 1/4 teaspoon salt to 3 eggs in a mixing bowl, beat with
an electric mixer until the eggs triple in volume.
Heat an eight inch oven safe skillet on the stove top on medium heat
add 1 tablespoon of olive oil and butter, when the foam subsides add
egg mixture. When edges just start to set add sautéed onion pepper
mixture, 3-4 tablespoons of your favorite salsa and 1/4 cup shredded
pepper jack cheese.
Place skillet on the middle rack of an oven preheated to 350
degrees. Bake for 4-6 minutes or until the middle is just set.
When the omelet is fully cooked remove from the oven, be careful the
handle is hot, and start to slide the omelet onto a plate. When the
omelet is half way out of the skillet use the pan to fold the last
half of the omelet over the first half so that it looks like the
Finish the plate with fresh fruit and heart-shaped scones like
above. The recipe for the dried fruit cream scones, a staple at my
restaurant The White Bear Cafe, can be found in another February
2010 blog post.
This omelet can be served for breakfast, brunch or dinner. How about
at midnight after you return from the theater? Also you can serve
2-3 people by doubling the ingredients and using a 10"-12" oven safe
Thank you for
Reading Good Food 4U
By Xander the Food Dude
Please send thoughts and comments to
2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational
curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she
piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake. Only a
few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to
walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot. Doctors finally
diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled
That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for
years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her
weight, it wasn’t until
this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches
following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something
about my weight." On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass
medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she
made for herself. In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to
learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one
who lives it every day.
Life After Surgery: Chronicles from Angie Bee
with Sonya Bennett
Life After Surgery: Chronicles from Angie Bee
It’s been 30 days+ since my sister, Angie had her gastric bypass!
She has chosen to share her experiences with LIC readers, on her
FaceBook and through her documentary…. Enjoy as she continues to
forecast her ups and downs of living after the surgery:
Dealing with a new "life" after having gastric bypass surgery is an
adventure in itself. Learning how to eat again and how to tolerate
your new digestive system allows you to resume a lot of control over
your life; while pointing out the bad eating habits that you once
For example: I was INFAMOUS for talking while I was eating. Over the
years, I had even learned how to hold liquid in my mouth before
swallowing without drooling all over myself. Try having a
conversation with me while we were eating together! It certainly
must not have been attractive :). Now, I am learning to pay
attention to my food and chew thoroughly to avoid complications. I
am now one step closer to being in "charge" of my life while eating.
Another example is that I am learning what a "grazer" I was. I would
eat one meal a day while working at home, but then I would eat an
after school snack with my daughter, dinner, dessert and a
before-bed snack as I lay in bed watching the 11 pm news. WOW! Now,
I am more focused on eating breakfast, lunch, an after school snack
and dinner at 6 pm verses 9pm. I am now one step closer to being in
"charge" of when I eat, and not have the call of the food to control
Yes, I have struggled with the after-effects of the surgical
procedure. Having no appetite and unrelenting constipation, however
I have realized that I have more control over those issues that I
originally thought! Eating is just like putting gas in your car. It
is a necessity. Now I focus on eating because it is time to eat and
I need the fuel. I don't wait until I am hungry to forage for food.
Now, I don't overeat! The constipation is handled by increasing my
fiber and liquid intake. Am I actually drinking 80 ounces of liquid
per day? Hmmm! I am in charge of my health and healing, and I need
to do more to remain in charge. The last thing I want to do is have
This week, my sister Sonya celebrated her third post-surgical
anniversary. I could not have been more proud of her! Three years
later, she is diabetes-free, cholesterol-light and in charge of her
health and her growing business. She is dating, she is socializing,
she is in charge of her life AND she is 151 pounds smaller than
before. Sonya is defiantly my inspiration and her renowned journey
has been documented in several episodes of "350 & closing... A
Gastric Bypass Story". Through these links you will see Sonya three
days before surgery, the morning and afternoon of her procedure and
three interview episodes with her nearly three years later. Just
yesterday she sent me a text message photo of herself with the
caption "I lost another three pounds!" Sonya is very much in charge
of her life!
Enjoy the documentary episodes and keep me in your prayers. Search
for Angie BEE on Facebook and message me with your comments about
Sonya Bennett two days before Gastric Bypass Surgery
Sonya Bennett's surgery and recovery
An interview with Sonya, nearly three years later
An interview with Sonya, part 2
An interview with Sonya, part 3
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Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Help Stop the Bullying of Fat Kids!
Help Stop the Bullying of Fat Kids!
Watch the video, read below then take action!
New "Anti-Bullying Act" Missing a Few Teeth
The current version of the Safe Schools Improvement Act (SSIA) does
not prohibit bullying and harassment based on weight and height. It
is imperative that SSIA be amended to include weight and height to
protect all our children.
NAAFA applauds Senators Bob Casey and Mark Kirk for introducing the
Safe Schools Improvement Act (SSIA), a bipartisan bill recently
introduced in the Senate to help prevent bullying in schools, but
the Act does not go far enough.
The SSIA does prohibit bullying and harassment, based on a student’s
actual or perceived race, color, national origin, sex, disability,
sexual orientation, gender identity or religion.
Why are weight and height missing
Multiple studies indicate
that fat children are the group being most bullied.
NAAFA believes leaving any group without protection will
remove protection for all and ultimately lead to the failure of the
SSIA as a whole. The bullying must end!
Some Bullying Facts:
Children who are obese are more likely to be bullied,
regardless of a number of potential socio-demographic, social, and
academic confounders. No protective factors were identified.
Effective interventions to reduce bullying of obese children need to
be identified. [Lumeng, et al, 2010]
Bullying victims are between 2 to 9 times more likely to
consider suicide than non-victims, according to studies by Yale
University (Yale University, Office of Public Affairs,
"Bullying-Suicide Link Explored in New Study by Researchers at Yale"
Teasing about body weight is consistently associated with low
body satisfaction, low self-esteem, high depressive symptoms, and
thinking about and attempting suicide. [Eisenberg, et al, 2003]
NAAFA asks that all concerned individuals write to your Senators and
urge them to see that weight and height are added to the Safe
Schools Improvement Act (SSIA).
It will take only a moment of your time and it can help
change the lives of our children. Go to:
Search the listing by State to find the names of your U.S. Senators.
Click on the link to complete an online form and ask your senators
to amend the Safe Schools Improvement Act to include weight and
height as protected classes.
This is a very important step toward protecting children of
all sizes. Thank you for making your voice heard!
Two for One Convention Announcement!
Two times the excitement! Two times the info!
NAAFA is pleased to announce the dates for both our 2011 and 2012
As a strategic goal, the NAAFA Board has set out to simplify and
streamline all of NAAFA's activities. One of the organization's key
events, our major fund raising event of the year, is our annual
convention and as such it has been a major focus of our streamlining
efforts. In order to help members get the most for their money and
budget their time, we have been able to secure the Convention
location contracts for the next two years. These contracts lock in
our cost at the same levels as our 2010 convention and in some cases
gives a further discount.
This year we will be returning to the Washington, DC area for our
Thursday, August 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011!
The Westin Washington Dulles Airport
2520 Wasser Terrace
Herndon, VA 20171
In 2012 we will be having our annual convention in San Francisco.
Thursday, August 2, 2012 - Monday, August 6, 2012!
The Westin San Francisco Airport
1 Old Bayshore Highway
Millbrae, CA 94030
Make plans now to join us in August, 2011 at The Westin Washington
Dulles Airport. Room rates are a super low $79 per night and can be
booked for Thursday, Aug 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011! The
Westin is prepared to receive your NAAFA convention reservations
We have worked hard to keep the cost of this convention down and to
get the lowest hotel prices we could. $79.00 per night for a premium
hotel in the DC area is a significant deal. The Early Bird Special
price is $225.00 and will be available beginning February 1 through
May 31, 2011. Beginning June 1, full convention price will be
We will have again made it easy for you to register for the
convention as well as the hotel through our website at
www.naafa.org. We encourage you to register for the NAAFA convention
package today and look forward to seeing you in DC.
Watch our website for more exciting details as they become
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
On the web:
Thanks for reading
From the Desk of NAAFA
Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A.
degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is
considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and
is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music,
movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos
This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.
wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge
magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for
largeincharge.com I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding
wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look
forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments!
Please let me know if you have a favorite. Web_girl1999@yahoo.com
Picks of the Month
Product of the Month
Fashion Find by: Lucia
Fashion Type: Sale
Ladies it’s Summertime I found this cute site call Plus Size
Fix. I’m in like, Did I say cute? Ok Super Cute fashions.
Size 1XL – 3XL
Product of the Month
Name of Product: Book/Video/Audio
Type of Product: Breaking Free by Beth Moore
Cost of product: Prices varies: starting at $ 37/month for 3
Where Product can be found:
search Book Title and author
Breaking Free: The Journey, The Stories
Member Book by Beth Moore
Beth Moore leads you through a study of the Scriptures to
discover the transforming power of freedom in Jesus Christ.
Themes for this study come from Isaiah, a book about the
captivity of God's children, the faithfulness of God, and
the road to freedom.
My name is Jonny T. I have been an admirer of plus-size women for many
years. As a recording artist, I have released a number of projects that
celebrate the beauty of big beautiful women.
Over the years, I have seen a lot of faces, heard a lot of
stories, and participated in a lot of bashes and clubs. I enjoy a
professional career as a recording artist, label, and executive.
I am currently the Executive Assistant for Street Scholar Music
Group (SSMG), a new label exclusively distributed by Bungalo Records and
Universal Music Group Distribution. So far, it has been a great
experience and I have gained a tremendous amount of insight from both
the standpoint of artists and decision-makers in the music industry, as
well as the entertainment industry as a whole. The goal of my articles
is to provide information about what it takes to be successful in the
mainstream entertainment industry while being a woman and/or man of
size. I look forward to making contributions to Large in Charge and
those who read the articles. Choose well, Live well!
Big Beautiful Hollywood
with Jonny T
Greetings and Salutations from Los Angeles!
The awards season is coming to close for 2011. The
Oscars have passed. The Golden Globe Awards are completed. The
People’s Choice and Teen Choice Award ceremonies have made their
impact on the industry for the year. Essentially all that
remains are the BET Awards in June and the American Music Awards
later this fall. The BET Awards recognize the top urban acts and
performances of the year relevant to that particular market.
While she may not make the nominee list for 2011, I am certainly
inclined to believe Joyce Licorice has the ability to make that
list for the 2012 nominations.
When it comes to vocal prowess, Joyce is the total
package. Her vocal range is incredible. Not only does she have
the ability to hold notes in the R&B/Soul genres, she also has a
background with performing Opera as well as live musicals like
Dreamgirls –a theatrical showcase directed by a former Fox
casting director. She has had the honor of opening for A-list
acts like 112, Chaka Khan, Babyface, The Isley Brothers and Joss
Joyce Licorice hails from Indianapolis but frequents
the New York and Los Angeles areas and all places relevant to
the promotion of her projects. I had the opportunity to catch up
with Joyce on the set of her new video in Los Angeles. When
asked what can be expected of her new project and her as an
artist, she said something special and major is on the horizon.
She is currently in negotiations with a major label and ready to
launch the F.A.T. National Anthem –a new single recording that
celebrates the strength of the large and lovely woman.
It’s nearly the wrap for her new video Big Girls Need
Love Too and she is already coordinating the next one. This plus
size beauty is ready to create the paradigm shift needed to
change the entertainment game in Hollywood and beyond. Don’t
sleep on Joyce Licorice! You can hear samples of her work and
read more about her in depth at
Pat is a forty something woman living in
Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching
literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental
science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she
works in marketing.
Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for
organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to
help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries.
Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes
with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time
Who do you Love?
with Pat Llewellyn
Everyone has one of those moments when someone says something
and you think, “What are they talking about?” or “That is not me
at all.” You just can’t see what they are saying about you as
true. Now, how many of us are willing to own up later when you
realize that what they said is true? I am ready to own up to my
moment of denial.
In December I was told I needed to put on my big girl panties
and realize that I am worthy of love and respect. I was also
told that you get back what you put out to the universe and
until I got my act together I wouldn’t get the love and respect
that I deserve.
My initial response to this was “I know I deserve to be loved,
you don’t know what you are saying!” Of course I didn’t say that
to the wise and courageous person who said those words to me,
but I thought them. Turns out I was the person who was wrong.
My light bulb moment came when I was chatting with a guy. Even
though things didn’t feel right I kept talking to him. It took
two anxiety attacks before I drew a line and said this is what I
need from you for us to keep chatting. Even then I second
guessed myself. Looking back on past relationships and
interactions with men that I’ve been attracted to, I’ve put up
with a lot of things I shouldn’t have.
I’m a self-confident person, I like who I am and I am beautiful.
I truly believe these things. So I have to ask myself why? Why I
would put up with bad or inappropriate behavior? What could
possibly make me want to continue seeing someone who betrayed my
trust, someone who didn’t respect my beliefs when they
conflicted with theirs, someone who wouldn’t make me a priority
in their life? After all, if any of my friends were dating
someone who treated them poorly I’d be the first to say get rid
The only thing I can come up with is that some part of me thinks
that I do not deserve better, that I deserve to be marginalized.
Intellectually, I know this isn’t true. The root of the problem
could be many things. Whatever the cause is I know that I want
things to change and that I will do what I need to make those
My name is Pat and I am worthy of love.
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
I LOVES me SOME ME!
with Ms Suga
I have something to tell you all. It’s not really a secret or
something that you have to keep between us but please don’t think
I’m crazy for saying this but….I LOVES ME SOME ME! Yes I said it and
I mutha-fucking meant it!! (Trick Daddy flash back LoL). I don’t
want you to think I’m being cocky or conceited or stuck up but I do
really love myself. From the short patch of hair on the crown of my
head to the bottom of my pedicured feet; I love every scar, freckle
and dimple that is on this body to make me the woman I am today. I
love myself inside and out. If I don’t love me how can I ever expect
someone else to?
Can you say that you truly love yourself? Can you accept yourself
with all your flaws and be truly happy? Why or why not? Really sit
down and think about it. If you have a negative mindset about
yourself, you really need to get to the bottom of that feeling. Has
someone told you something that makes you doubt yourself? Do you
have low self-esteem? Well I’m no mind changer and I sure as hell am
no Dr. Laura but I can help you develop the right mindset to be able
to say “I loves me some me” & mean it.
First things first know the difference between self love and
conceitedness. The definition of conceit is an excessively favorable
opinion of one's own ability, importance, wit, etc. The definition
of love is a feeling of warm personal attachment or deep affection.
You don’t want to be excessive but you do want that deep affection
and attachment type feeling. So look at yourself in the mirror, what
do you see and how do you feel? Is there something you want to
change? Then stop sitting around hating the world and change it! Yes
it really is that simple. It may take some work but go for it.
You hate your short nappy hair? Get a weave, get some extensions,
try a new color or a cut in a style. You hate those 20 extra pounds
you gained over the past 2 years? Lose them! go walking, join an
aerobics class, stop drinking soda all day everyday and grab a
bottle of water. Take the stairs down those two flights instead of
waiting on the elevator while you eat that 2:30 bag of chips. Get
up! Get out! Do SOMETHING!!
I encourage you to think positive and be positive. If you feel that
you need to sit on the couch waiting on the world to feel sorry for
you while you spew hate and anger into the atmosphere here is a
reality check GET OVER IT! We are born, life happens and we die. You
don’t get many do-overs in life, so take what you get and make the
most out of it. “But Ms. Suga that’s easier said than done” blah
blah blah…you don’t know how hard something is until you start doing
Consider this: Is there someone that you look at and think they are
the bees knees? Is there someone that makes you think I wish I could
do what they do? Well guess what…you can! All you have to do is stay
focused and really try your hardest; your hard work will pay off in
the end. You may not reach the goal you set but you may discover
something all the more better for you.
Until next time Sweethearts!! Get inspired by someone else’s story.
Inspire someone else by your story. DO SOMETHING to show that life
really is worth living and that one person can make a difference to
Sherry Jackson Graf was
born and raised in Richlands, VA. She was raised in a musical family and
began playing bass guitar in the family's gospel group at the age of 8.
Her family toured and recorded albums until she was 15 years old. She
wanted to attend public high school and chose to go to public school
instead of continuing her education with a home tutor. She played flute,
bassoon, and percussion for Richlands High School band and was chosen
for Flag Corps during marching season. The band won numerous marching
and performing awards.
She studied Business Administration in college and moved to Nashville,
TN with her father, Larry Jackson and began working at Buddy Lee
Attractions, Inc., a booking agency on Music Row. She is currently
Executive Assistant to Donna Lee.
She continues her career in the music industry, is an actress, stage
manages theater and is looking forward to writing for large in charge.
Large Women In The Music Business
with Ms Sherry Graf
For the past one hundred years or so, large women have been a big
part of the music business. Even when women were fighting for equal
rights elsewhere, large women in the music business have always had
a leg up on their compatriots because their voices produce not only
a different register of sound than men, but also a different timbre.
Therefore, there have always been large women in the music industry.
Granted, the tradition of castrati and government policies that kept
women off the stage altogether have put a few roadblocks in the
trajectory of woman's rise in the music business, overall female
performers have always been welcome in the music industry. Around
one hundred years ago, when music distribution through phonograph
records became commercialized, women's voices were heard all over
the country. At that same time there was an increased demand for
accompaniment and female piano players were often used at a cheaper
rate than men.
Large women in the music industry have come a long way since then.
Today, there are many large female artists that are not only
performers but also songwriters and producers. An outstanding
example is Aretha Franklin. Although known for her soul recordings
and referred to as The Queen of Soul, Franklin is also adept at
jazz, blues, R&B, and gospel music. “Rolling Stone” magazine ranked
her atop its list of The Greatest Singers of All Time and the ninth
greatest artist of all time. Large women make up a large portion of
not only performers but music business professionals as well.
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