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LargeInCharge Magazine - Eighth Year in Progress

 Issue#87 - June 2011

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.

 

 

Raqui-ism

Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui

From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck

 

Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander

 

The Big GB My Gastric Bypass Memoirs - Soyna Bennett

 

From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance

 

Fashion & Products with The WebGirl ~ Lucia Roth

 

Big Beautiful Hollywood ~ Jonny T

 

Fattitude - Its a Fat way of Life ~ Pat Llewellyn

 

The BIG - Beautiful Inspirational Girl  ~ Ms Suga

 

Large Ladies in the Work Place ~ Sherry Graf

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

 
Call of Help in our Community!

A Call of Help for Heather Marsh

By: Raqui

 

When disaster hits our lives there is a need for help.  There are many outreach organizations and community programs but they only scratch the surface.  When a plus sized person is the victim of a natural disaster simple things like proper clothing in the right size can be something that is hard to come by.  That is why when I heard the story of Heather Marsh through a Facebook contact I was moved to get the word out. If you can help out Heather and her son whom she protected with her own body.  Please do so anything will be greatly appreciated. 

 
From the Oklahoma BBW/BHM Admirers Social Size Acceptance Group

Oklahoma BBW BHM & Admirers is Oklahoma's only social size acceptance group. - Heather Marsh Above

One of our members and her child, Heather Marsh and son Hayden, were devastated by the Joplin Missouri tornado. They were sitting in their bathtub waiting for the tornado to pass when their home started to crumble around them. Heather quickly used her body to shield her son from the falling debris. Thanks to his mom's quick reaction, Hayden is unscathed, but Heather did receive some bumps and bruises. She is in some pain, but stated it’s worth it because her son is unharmed. From under the debris of her home Heather was able to send text messages to her ex-husband, who responded and got to them as quickly as he could. When they started to hear screams from their neighbors looking for survivors, they responded by screaming “help us," and thankfully were heard. Everyone quickly worked to free Heather and Hayden.

Once Heather's ex-husband arrived he drove them all to Heather's grandmother’s house. From there, Heather's parents picked them up and took them to their home in Grove, Oklahoma, where they are currently staying. Heather's Joplin home, which she was in the process of buying from her parents, was completely obliterated in the tornado. Worse yet, the home wasn’t insured, so it is a complete and total loss. Heather and Hayden walked away with only the clothes on their back and the Nintendo DS that her son had clutched to his body throughout the ordeal. When I spoke to Heather this morning she said that they were going to go see if there was anything salvageable from the rubble, including her car. Fortunately, Heather is employed through AT&T and they have given her some time off to deal with the traumatic event. Oklahoma BBW BHM & Admirers is asking for donations of any and every kind; clothing, undergarments, shoes, toys, personal hygiene products, household wares, kitchen wares, gift cards and/or monetary donations so that Heather and her son can start to rebuild their lives.

The following information is their clothing sizes, address, and banking information for donations. Even if you can't send a donation a nice letter of best wishes would be tremendously appreciated.

Women tops, bottoms, undergarments size 26, 44DD, shoes 8.5
Boys tops, bottoms, undergarments size 10/12, shoes 5

Heather & Hayden Marsh
65200 E. 240 Road
Grove, OK 74344

Monetary donations can be made to Arvest Bank in Joplin, MO. Phone Number: 417-627-8100

For more information e-mail marshdonations@yahoo.com


 
 

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Kimmi-K Smith

Cover Model of the Month Interview

Interview:

 

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

My name is Kim Smith, but everyone calls me “Kimmi’ or “Kimmi-K”


LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I am originally from St. Louis, MO. currently residing in Nashville, TN.


LargeInCharge.com: Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height, Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

Yes sure. I am 28 soon to be 29 years old, I am a size 18-20 in clothing, I am single, no kids, and I am African American.


LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I have always been big!! I don’t even remember ever being small, even when I was a kid I was wearing women’s clothes, and women shoe sizes.


LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up as a large child?

Growing up always being the bigger child, I hated my self. ON top of all the name calling, being verbally abused it was hurtful. I never really participated in anything at school, just b/c I feared people laughing or talking about me. I had a very sad child hood.


LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model search?

I wanted to be a part of this movement because it’s going in the right direction. It’s a positive magazine about large people. You also don’t have to be naked to show your beauty unlike some movements. So I like that, and felt like this would be a perfect fit for me.


LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

YES, and I still having a hard time proving to people that plus size men, and women can model clothes, be beautiful, and role models. It’s a never ending fight, but so worth it.


LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Yes and No. My family still tells me that I need to go on a diet, but then some people love the way I carry myself, and the confidence that I have. So I get a mixed response.


LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

There are a few things that inspire me. Mainly, what inspires me is young girls who are plus size that tell me I give them hope, and motivation to follow their dreams, and passions. I want young girls to love them selves and be happy big or small. For them to know you can be fierce, sexy, and unique all at the same time.


LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary occupation?

I work for the State of Tennessee as an Account Tech. I basically Cancel/Reissue payments if lost, or I contact banks to locate lost funds. I also work with spread sheets, and handle lots of phone calls.


LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?

I took a few accounting classes, but mainly I started out as an receptionist, and learned our system, and basically applied for the job, and had some great training and that’s how I got started. I have been at my job for 8 years and my current position for 5.


LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?

YES, I think everyone I work with knows my true passion and they support me. They always tell me they read my interviews, liked my pictures, or just keep me motivated when I get tired.


LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place for Large People in the work force?

I think that as large people including myself, we should maybe encourage each other to eat better, exercise, and focus on our self esteem.


LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized clothing?

I am so pleased with the fashion for the plus size community. There are plus size stores, and designers I just am learning about. I am loving right now Ashley Stewarts, Torrids, and Lane Bryant’s clothes at the moment. Even Fashion Bug has came a long way with the clothes provided for the plus size community. I am very pleased.


LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I wish that we can have more plus size fashion shows where people will actually support the shows. I wish that more department stores will feature plus size models on commercials and in their print work.


LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for men and women were to expand?

I think if the plus size community expanded more people will accept the fact that they are big boned, and not be so insecure about their weight. I know growing up I always hid, if the plus size community expands, maybe some people will get out and enjoy their lives, and be more social, etc. I think it would be great for this to happen. I still say eat healthy, and work out but we would see more smiles.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

Well as I stated I shop at Ashley Stewarts, I order online from Torrid, Fashion Bug, Cato’s Lane Bryant, sometimes Dot’s. It just depends on what I am looking for.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

1 of my secret beauty tips is to keep my face clean. I’m very cautious of my face, and keeping it cleansed. , I also drink water to keep my skin free of pimples. Also, I walk everyday at least 30 minutes.


LargeInCharge.com: Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be prepared for?

A successful photo shoot for me would have a stylist, a great MUA, and a great photographer.
I usually get everything I know that I will need the night before. I have everything packed. I make sure I shower, shave, etc. the night before as well (Also shower the day of). I also get a full night of sleep. I listen to music to calm my nerves, and pray really hard that I can get some great images. It’s fairly simple in my eyes. Photo shoots are to be fun, and exciting.


LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance now. What changes do you see?

I did some research on Large in Charge and I see a huge difference, I see 1st off more graphics, I see a variety of models, and more color, and also neater. You guys have come a long way. Congrats on that!!


LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from now with size acceptance?

I think in 5 years there will be more plus size fashion shows, more plus size organizations, plus models (male and female) will be featured in more print ads, and also commercials.


LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.

My goals are I want to be happily married, I want to have a house hold name, where I am respected and have been recognized for my hard works and efforts. I want to grace many of magazines, I want to walk the runway for top designers, open a boutique and also open a center for young insecure girls to gain confidence.


LargeInCharge.com: What have you accomplished as a Plus Sized Model?

I have done so much over the last few years, I have done album covers, music videos, I have walked in many of runway shows, I have had photo shoots with some awesome photographers, and I have been featured in magazines, and several blog sites.


LargeInCharge.com: Have you entered or won any Contests, Pageants or Awards? What was the experience like?

No I haven’t.


LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that made you feel good about your size.

I have always have been large, I had a point in my life where I hated myself. I stop feeling sorry for myself, and I started to work out more. The more I started working out the more I started feeling good about myself. I started paying attention to how my favorite celebrities would dress, and how they carried them selves and that is how I basically gained control over my insecurities, and began to feel confident about being a plus size woman. It took me until I was around 22 or 23 when I finally got it together.


LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My little cousins MyMy and NeNe I love them so much, and I have 1 big cousin Delores Cox who has been there for me since day 1. I love her dearly as well.


LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

I would say learn the business. I say make sure this is something you want to do. Just because you are plus size/slim does not make you a model. Modeling is not a talent but a gift. You have to know how to sell a garment, walk, talk, etc. Stay prayed up, and have tough skin.


LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you most admire?

Toccara Jones, Mia Amber, Mia Tyler, Asia Monet, Velvet, and the list goes on.


LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.

Jazzy!!
 

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     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

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Raqui-ism - Terms I Hate: "Yo Holla at Your Boy"

Written By: Raqui 

     Now a days there are more slang terms than I remember when I was younger.  Some of them I really dislike. I participated in speaking slang with my friends as well, and some of those old slang terms are still part of my vocabulary. 

 

     I love to "Hang Out" and "Chill" with my friends.  I think that some things I see when shopping are "Fly".  When talking or chatting with others  and I "feel" what they are saying, I say "I hear ya" that means I understand.  If a buddy tells me a story sometimes I think its "Cool" or "Kool".  And I am pretty sure for the rest of my life, when someone has been kind to me or touched my heart I will tell them "Thanks for the Love".  But in general between all the little slang terms I may use on any given day.  I speak mostly understandable English.  Other than having a New York accent I am a normal person who speaks normally.

 

     Yes every generation has there own terms and new found Ebonics that are created and used.  They have their greetings and goodbyes.  The have ways to express themselves uniquely.  But some of these terms just do not sit well with me. 

 

     The Term I want to speak about today is "Yo Holla at Your Boy",  why does it bother me let me break it down.

 

Yo - Yo is a way to get someone's attention similar to Hey.  I never liked someone saying Yo to me, especially since it is often used in a loud angry/startling  voice.  Hey is slightly tolerable but in the end I prefer excuse me.

 

Holla - This term really bothers me because I don't holla. I am not an animal nor am I out of control hollering.  Why any man  would want to another person espcially a woman to holla at him is beside me.  While I know people are going to say "Oh that is not what is meant".  Really what do these words mean?

 

 

     Dictionary.com - Definition of Holla:  A cry for attention, or of encouragement ; to shout ; a very loud utterance (like the sound of an animal).

 

 

 

When I think of the term holla it reminds me Howler Monkies.  I don't know any man or woman who want to be compared to a animal, never the less a monkey whose loud annoying unbearable scream is proven the loudest noise a land animal can make.

 


 

Wikipedia: Howler Monkey Communication: As their name suggests, vocal communication forms an important part of their social behavior. They have an enlarged basihyal or hyoid bone which helps them make their loud vocalizations. Group males generally call at dawn and dusk as well as interspersed times throughout the day. The main vocals consist of loud, deep guttural growls or "howls." Howler monkeys are widely considered to be the loudest land animal. According to Guinness Book of World Records, their vocalizations can be heard clearly for 3 miles (4.8 km). It is hypothesized that the function of howling relates to intergroup spacing and territory protection, as well as possibly mate-guarding.

 

So when men ask women to Holla at them, why are they surprised when they receive a woman who is going to Holla.  Make loud unruly noise and scream in his direction until it is unbearable?

 

Boy - Last and not least boy.  If you want to call yourself a boy and degrade yourself go right ahead.  Just remember later do not expect to be treated and respected as a man.  When you yourself proclaim you like to be hollered at and that you are a boy.  You will be treated as such.

 

The only time a man will refer to himself as belonging to a female and being her boy is when he speaks of his mother.  A man will always be his mothers boy for the rest of his life.  So guys do you want to be men or are you looking for a woman who is going to play your angry mother while you remain a child?

 

This is all going to come down to preference, there are plenty of women who go for that "Yo Holla at Your Boy" thing.  But in reality most women who respect themselves and want a man they can respect as well, do not find this term attractive.  Women who understand what a man is and how he behaves, will never respect one who refers to himself as a boy and says Holla after he screams Yo to get your attention. It is usually an instant turn off.

 


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From the Plus Side

with

Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.

 

     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below

    

     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.

 

The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  

 

The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 

 

If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at emilysuzanne20@hotmail.com.  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!

 

The Ad (Part 2)

SWSSBBW seeks SM who will not rape her, emotionally or otherwise.  The ability to both speak and write in complete sentences is a plus.  Must not inadvertently throw her down stairs or pretend that she is “Mama.”  Intelligent conversation, a little respect, and the lack of a current significant other will get you far.  And a well-developed sense of humor won’t hurt, either.  If you like smart chicks with jelly bellies and thunder thighs, reply to phatgurl@personalz.com

 

Enlightened

    

 

Jany was nervous walking into the club. She tried to paste a smile on her face anyway as Selena paid the cover charge for both of them.

“Would you freakin’ relax? I feel like I’m draggin’ a corpse around with me or somethin’. Rigor mortis ain’t sexy, girl. Shake it off.”

“I don’t wanna be sexy. I’ll probably just attract another few dozen married men.”

“Oh, for Christ’s sake. It wasn’t your fault. It was his. And if it happened again, it would be that guy’s fault too. If you don’t know, you can’t do anything about it. Just live life and stop worrying about everything!”

“I’m trying.”

“Well, try harder. On the dance floor. Come on.”

Before she knew it, she was on the middle of a dance floor so crowded that she could barely move. Pretty soon, Selena was pressed up against the front her body and someone else was pressed up against the back of her body, the bass in the music was pulsing through her body from the floor up, the warm air was throbbing around her head, and the lyrics were drowning out the sounds of her own thoughts. Selena had been right. This was exactly what she needed.

They danced a few songs before Selena took Jany by the wrist and led her to the bar. She ordered two very blue drinks tha tasted, Jany thought, like summer. Summer on a tropical beach. She downed it and asked for another. After the third, Selena suggested she slow down.

“That’s not Kool-Aid, hon. I want you to have a good time, but I’m not about to try and carry your ass home.”

“It’s fine. I’m not even drunk. I swear.”

“Sober people never add ‘I swear’ to that statement. And even if, it’ll hit ya soon enough. You’re grinnin’ like an idiot, and your face is getting’ pretty pink.”

“’Cause I’m happy. Thanks, Selena.” Jany leaned over on her bar stool, placed a hand over each of Selena’s ears, and kissed her. For a very long time. Finally, she pulled back and tried to right herself on her bar stool. Even with three drinks in her, she noticed as she sat up that she’d drawn more than a little attention. Suddenly embarrassed, she tried to bury her face in her arms on the edge of the bar, to hide her nervous giggling, but she wasn’t fully on the bar stool yet. The stool swiveled and she slid to the floor.

Selena flashed everyone at the bar a quick grin before she ducked down to help.”I told you you’re drunk,” she whispered.

“Am not. I’m just clumsy. I do things like this all the time.”

“I didn’t mean because you fell. I meant because you grabbed my head and stuck your tongue down my throat in the middle of a bar, silly. I don’t mind. I’m just sayin’. Now get up before we have to start answerin’ questions about what we’re doin’ down here. And I would totally make you answer ‘em, by the way.”

Jany struggled to her feet and brushed herself off. “’Scuse me,” she said to the bartender. “Can I get another one of those? After that, I need another drink.”

“Actually, she’ll wait,” Selena chimed in. “We’re gonna go dance.” She once again dragged Jany onto the floor.

Halfway through the song, someone tapped Jany on the shoulder.

“Here we go,” Selena whispered. “It’s starting. Just remember that you’re the one who kissed me. I had nothing to do with it.”

Jany turned to look at the man who was standing behind her. She almost fell over when she saw him. It was Jacob. The man who had brought her to Club Bubbles in the first place.

“Hey, darlin’!” He hugged her. “You sure have come a long way since last time I saw you. Looks like there’ve been some changes in your life. I saw all the stuff at the bar.”

“Oh, that?” Jany giggled nervously. The warm and fuzzy feeling the blue drinks had given her was quickly fading. “My stool just twisted and I lost my balance. I’m fine.”

“Not that. The kiss. You never told me you like to play with girls. In fact, I was under the impression that you didn’t much like to play with anyone. Here I thought you were all conservative and shy.”

“Oh, boy. Yeah. Um, this is Selena. My best friend.”

“Hi, Selena. I wish I could be her best friend, with benefits like those.”

“Well, it’s not all fun and games, but I’m pretty sure she’s worth it.”

Jacob turned back to Jany. “Can we go somewhere and talk? I wouldn’t mind catching up with you.”

“I—okay. Sure. Come on, Selena.” Selena shrugged and followed along as Jcob led them to a patio behind the building.

“You’re lookin’ good, by the way. Seems like things have changed for you. I mean, other than your sexual orientation. You’re a lot more—less skittish. More comfortable.”

“I haven’t gained any weight.”

“Oh, come on. I told you I didn’t really care about that. I just said I wouldn’t mind if you did. Are we going to fight over it again?”

“No. I’m sorry. I have changed. My sexual orientation hasn’t, though. Not completely anyway.” She laughed softly and glanced at Selena before she continued. “When I met you, I’d hardly dated at all. And I’d never dated anyone good. I didn’t know what I was doing. And I thought that all the assholes I was meeting meant that the only guys willing to go out with a fat chick were really just looking to maybe cop a feel and mostly just hurt some chicks feelings so they could feel like tough guys. Coming to a place like this, where the dudes like big girls, was sort of surreal for me. It felt like a dream. But it made me take a closer look at my faults. I figured if there really were guys out there who liked fat chicks, then there must be something else majorly wrong with me that I was only attracting dicks. It was just—well, like I told you then, it was overwhelming. But I’ve grown up a lot since then.”

“That’s cool. Really cool. Hey, it’s getting late, so—“

“Oh, I’m sorry! I didn’t mean to hijack you from whoever you were with. When I’m not too busy being shy, I’m kind of a blabbermouth.”

“It’s okay. You’re just making up for lost time. Anyway, like I was saying before you interrupted me, I was wondering if you and your friend would like to go grab some pizza or something somewhere.”

“Oh. Oh, okay. I thought you were trying to escape. Did I mention that sometimes I misinterpret—“

“Shut up, blabbermouth, and go ask your friend if she wants some pizza.”

“Go ask? Oh, she’s over there. Hold on.” Jany went to where Selena was leaning on a rail and gazing out over the empty alley behind the club. “Hey. Sorry. I didn’t even notice that you slipped away. You should’ve said something. I wasn’t trying to ditch you.”

“It’s okay. You were just pretty wrapped up in him and I didn’t want to mess with your mojo.”
“My mojo? There wasn’t any mojo to mess with. That’s actually the lawyer I told you about, the guy who brought me here the first time I came. We haven’t seen each other since then. He wants to know if we wanna go get some pizza.”

“Oh—pizza? I’m not that hungry. I’ll just go home and–“

“No, you won’t. If you go, I go. I’m here with you tonight, remember? He just wants to go out and chill for a while. And he wants both of us to come. It’s up to you. If you don’t want to, that’s cool. We’ll stay here, or take off and go home, or whatever you wanna do.”

“Don’t want to be a third wheel, Jane.”

“First of all, if anyone’s the third wheel, it’s him. I told you, I’m with you tonight. This wasn’t a man-finding mission, it was you taking me out to get me over a really bad night. Second, you could walk inside and find someone who’d love to be your date to go get pizza in about 3 seconds if you wanted to, even though I’m hoping you won’t. And third, hurry up and decide if we’re getting pizza or going home, ‘cause dinner with the asshole was hours ago and I’m starving.”

 

   
   
 

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     Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to writing Xander cook’s like he feels. A former Chicago native transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society, can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and a easy recipe.  They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far apart.

 

   

The Wolves at the Door

by Xander The Food Dude


An old Grandfather, whose grandson came to him with anger at a schoolmate who had done him an injustice, said, "Let me tell you a story. I too, at times, have felt a great hate for those that have taken so much, with no sorrow for what they do. But hate wears you down, and does not hurt your enemy. It is like taking poison and wishing your enemy would die. I have struggled with these feelings many times."

He continued, "It is as if there are two wolves inside me; one is good and does no harm. He lives in harmony with all around him and does not take offense when no offense was intended. He will only fight when it is right to do so, and in the right way."

"But the other wolf, ah! He is full of anger. The littlest thing will set him into a fit of temper. He fights everyone, all the time, for no reason. He cannot think because his anger and hate are so great. It is hard to live with these two wolves inside me, for both of them try to dominate my spirit."

The boy looked intently into his Grandfather's eye and asked, "Which one wins, Grandfather?"

The Grandfather solemnly said, "The one I feed."

I happened to come across this tale about a week ago. Ultimately it was a good illustration of how I’ve been feeling lately. Anger feeds anger, which feeds anger, which feeds anger, etc, etc. This small tale helped (is helping) me get some things into focus for which I had lost. We all have a thousand different portions of our personalities. We have to pick and choose, which portions of these personalities we feed. If we want the positive aspects to grow in our lives then we need to “feed” the positive portions of our lives, in whatever form that may take. If those positive aspects do not exist in our lives, then we have to cultivate what we can from our lives and foster its growth as we can.

I have often been remind of a quote from the Bible that says “God helps those who helps themselves”. Up to now I have always interpreted that as being, if I wasn’t willing to work for what I want, then I have no right in asking for any help. In the last couple of days I think it means that God will meet me halfway if I put in my side of the effort.

Long ago I remember another tale in which there was a terrible drought. Two farmer prayed for rain day and night for weeks in the hopes that God would grant them rain. One of the farmers did nothing to his fields electing to wait for the rain to prepare his fields. The other farmer prepared his field so that when the blessings of rain appeared his fields would be prepared to receive these blessings. Which farmer do think was successful ? In these days, while being the most difficult to have, but maybe the most necessary is the ability to take a leap of faith. Some call it the power of expectation, or having a positive attitude, but ultimately it comes down to seeing the potential and positive offer the loss and pain. “Things happen for a reason”, “every cloud has a silver lining”, dot the landscape of my mind like gnats in the yard. At times it is overwhelming and difficult to keep the “positive” alive in our minds, hearts and soul, but to do anything less would be to quit completely.

Moving, positively forward in a situation and purpose that is getting us closer to a positive outcome. It seems now after so long, that there may be some light coming through the clouds. Until next time, you’ll excuse me while I go and work on my fields.

 

 

Xander's Recipe of the Month

 Veggie Chili with Rice

This is a great dish, due to it being lo-cal, lo-cost, and healthy. You can vary it to your personal preference and add meat if you would like.

 

INGREDIANTS

• 1 15-1/2-ounce can red kidney beans, rinsed and drained
• 1 15-ounce can great northern beans, rinsed and drained
• 1 14-1/2-ounce can low-sodium tomatoes, un-drained and cut up
• 1 8-ounce can tomato sauce
• 1 cup water
• 3/4 cup chopped green sweet pepper
• 1/2 cup chopped onion
• 1 tablespoon chili powder
• 1 teaspoon sugar
• 1 teaspoon snipped fresh basil or 1/2 teaspoon dried basil, crushed
• 1/2 teaspoon ground cumin
• 1/4 teaspoon salt
• Dash ground red pepper
• 2 cloves garlic, minced
• 2 cups hot cooked rice


DIRECTIONS

1. In a large saucepan combine kidney beans, great northern beans, un-drained tomatoes, tomato sauce, water, green pepper, onion, chili powder, sugar, basil, cumin, salt, ground red pepper, and garlic. Bring to boiling; reduce heat. Simmer, covered, for 15 minutes, stirring occasionally.

2. Top each serving of chili with 1/2 cup hot cooked rice. Makes 4 servings.

3. Make-Ahead Tip: Prepare chili. Transfer to refrigerator container; cover and chill up to 2 days. Reheat and top with rice.

 

 

 

   
 

Thank you for Reading Good Food 4U

By Xander the Food Dude

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In 2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake.    Only a few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot.  Doctors finally diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled diabetes. 

That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her weight,  it wasn’t until this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something about my weight."  On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she made for herself.  In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one who lives it every day.
 
Life After Surgery: Chronicles from Angie Bee
with Sonya Bennett

    

 

  

 

Angie's Memoirs.....
Hello, Readers! I am now three years out from my gastric bypass surgery and have enjoyed sharing my ups and downs with you. As faithful LIC Readers know, I am following the success of my sister who recently had the gastric bypass, as well. Please read on as she shares one of her stories.....
"What do you mean, I need a headshot?"
"That's what I said, Angie BEE. You are being featured in The Spirit Magazine and we need a headshot".

Wow, a photo shoot for a magazine promotional piece. Do I even have something to wear? For the past six months, my business partner and I have been working on a gospel music tour that debuts this summer. It's called The CHOSEN Tour, and I was at peace working the tour from behind the scenes. I could be in charge. I just didn't want anyone to see me.

Now, the tour director wants a headshot, and I am almost panic stricken. When you are morbidly obese, you don't always want your face plastered everywhere. Your self esteem can be fading, and I even think I suffered from a bit of agoraphobia. I never wanted to be in public alone. Well, now was the time to prove to myself that I could blossom just a bit.

My world class photographer went to Daytona Beach for the pictures. It was fun! The ducks waddled by and the sun was on my face. The camera kept snapping and she even helped me adjust by face for the camera!

A couple of weeks later we took more pictures! This time we were inside as I needed more promo shots for the radio show that I produce. The first picture that she snapped was the one for the record-books as I looked at my picture and was amazed. "Oh my GOD! My face is SO SMALL!"

Yes, my face is small. Remember how you looked at your picture one day and realized that you had gained weight? Well now I have realized that I am losing weight. I knew that the daily vitamins were easier to consume and the constipation was better. My energy level is off the scale and I can not out-walk my daughter through the Wal-Mart. I am becoming more adept at multitasking and have even been out a bit more on my own. I KNEW that I was feeling like I was becoming more in charge of my life... but when I saw the difference in my face... I just was amazed.

This article is not as much about life after gastric bypass but my life LIVING and GROWING! Last week my endocrinologist tested by A1C - (the three-month blood test to determine how bad your diabetes really is). When I first came to her office, my A1C was 10.7. A normal range is 6.5 or below. While in her office, she told me that my A1C was 6.4. Hallelujah! I am in charge of my diabetes; it is now in remission, thank God!

Last week my syndicated radio show picked up TWO new stations... and one of them broadcasts in the United Kingdom! I would not have been able to handle this growth had I not been in better control of my obesity; had I not been in better control of the diseases that plagued me.

The magazine article is now out. Along with my new headshot. Log onto www.TheSpiritMag.com to see it. I still can't believe how regal and lovely this picture looks. Special thanks to my amazing photographer JASMINE CHESTANG for capturing me in both shots. I continue to Praise GOD for my weight loss and healing. I have talked to people that have lost 20, 30 or 50 pounds in the time frame that I am in. I have lost nearly 70 pounds, and I am feeling wonderful. I will continue to write this article each month just to let you know how I am doing...

Losing more weight, and gaining more faith everyday





Angie BEE Productions
Producing Christian entertainment enjoyed by the entire family!
Check out The BEE HIVE at www.AngieBEE.com
See our past projects at www.YouTube.com/AngieBEEpresents

Come see me on tour this summer!
Log onto www.TheChosenTour.com for details

The shows that we are currently creating include:
The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE Radio Show -
with THE BEST in Holy Hip Hop - airing weekdays from
8am - 10 am EST on www.HeatfortheStreets.com (Our first secular station!)
noon - 4 pm EST on www.MyJBN.com (returning for our 3rd year!)
6pm - 10 pm EST on www.ChicosRadio.com (Look for us on Chicos TV soon!)
11pm - 3 am EST on www.TheArkRadio.com (The BEST in Holy Hip Hop!)

Glorious Cooking -
returning for a third season on www.FaithiTV.com
350 Pounds and Closing... a Gastric Bypass Documentary
debuting exclusively this fall on The Jericho Broadcast Network
Highly Opinionated - A Teen Talk Show
debuting this fall on www.UrbaniTV.com
VIDEO NEWS - A video version of YOUR press release!
airing Friday's on www.FaithiTV.com
That's What's Up - A weekly bible study discussion hosted by Evidence 322 COMING SOON!

Come check us out on tour this year! For details, log onto www.TheChosenTour.com

Visit us online today at
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www.Facebook.com/MeAngieBEE
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Call us today at 407-914-6519
BEE Blessed!


 

   
 

Thanks for reading

The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs

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www.SonyaBennett.com

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     Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

 

     This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.

    

     This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.

 

This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org

 

Death by Discrimination... Two Teenage Girls Take Own Lives!

from: NAAFA.org

 



Just last month two teenage girls committed suicide, one as a result of being
bullied about her size (http://abcnews.go.com/US/suicide-pact-minnesota-eighth-graders-haylee-fentress-paige/story?id=13411751&sms_ss=twitter&at_xt=4daf22af346f2162%2C0). Discrimination based on
body size has to stop! The bullying of fat children and resources to stop the
bullying is one topic covered in the NAAFA Child Advocacy Toolkitsm.

We have just made available the NAAFA Child Advocacy Toolkitsm (CATK) to help educate and inform all segments of society with regard to the effects of weight discrimination on children; from negative body image and body dis-satisfaction to bullying. The CATK provides references and tools to combat these effects using a Healthy At Every Size (HAES) approach. A link to an electronic version of this premier toolkit is available on the front page of the NAAFA website at www.naafa.org.

Joanne Ikeda, MA, RD, a contributing author and NAAFA Advisory Board member, has been invited to be a panelist at the 2011 6th Biennial Childhood Obesity Conference. As a panel member, Joanne will present sections of the NAAFA Child Advocacy Toolkitsm to attendees. She has asked NAAFA to provide printed copies of the CATK for this important presentation at the nation's largest, most influential collaboration of professionals dedicated to addressing pediatric obesity.

NAAFA is an all-volunteer, grassroots organization and we look to our members
and supporters to help us spread the word of size diversity and inclusion. We
are asking you for help in achieving this goal. We are requesting contributions
toward the printing and shipping of the NAAFA Child Advocacy Toolkitsm.

To donate online, simply go to:
https://www.gifttool.com/donations/Donate?ID=1558&VER=1&LNG=EN complete the form and indicate "Donation to CATK Project" in the Additional Information box.

To send a check or money order, please make payable to NAAFA with a note that it is a donation to the CATK Project. Mail your check or money order to NAAFA, Inc., P.O. Box 4662, Foster City, CA 94404-0662.

 



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NAAFA is pleased to announce the dates for both our 2011 and 2012 Convention.

As a strategic goal, the NAAFA Board has set out to simplify and streamline all of NAAFA's activities. One of the organization's key events, our major fund raising event of the year, is our annual convention and as such it has been a major focus of our streamlining efforts. In order to help members get the most for their money and budget their time, we have been able to secure the Convention location contracts for the next two years. These contracts lock in our cost at the same levels as our 2010 convention and in some cases gives a further discount.

This year we will be returning to the Washington, DC area for our annual convention.

Thursday, August 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011!
The Westin Washington Dulles Airport
2520 Wasser Terrace
Herndon, VA 20171

In 2012 we will be having our annual convention in San Francisco.

Thursday, August 2, 2012 - Monday, August 6, 2012!
The Westin San Francisco Airport
1 Old Bayshore Highway
Millbrae, CA 94030

Make plans now to join us in August, 2011 at The Westin Washington Dulles Airport. Room rates are a super low $79 per night and can be booked for Thursday, Aug 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011! The Westin is prepared to receive your NAAFA convention reservations today at: http://www.starwoodmeeting.com/StarGroupsWeb/booking/reservation?id=1101116740&key=4FB52 

We have worked hard to keep the cost of this convention down and to get the lowest hotel prices we could. $79.00 per night for a premium hotel in the DC area is a significant deal. The Early Bird Special price is $225.00 and will be available beginning February 1 through May 31, 2011. Beginning June 1, full convention price will be $265.00.

We will have again made it easy for you to register for the convention as well as the hotel through our website at www.naafa.org. We encourage you to register for the NAAFA convention package today and look forward to seeing you in DC.

Watch our website for more exciting details as they become available.

Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

On the web: http://www.naafa.org  

 

 

 

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From the Desk of NAAFA

Link

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Our WebGirl Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A. degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music, movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos about life.


This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.

 

I just wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for largeincharge.com I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments! Please let me know if you have a favorite. Web_girl1999@yahoo.com

 

 

The WebGirl Picks of the Month

Fashion Find Product of the Month

Fashion Find by: Lucia

Fashion Type: Semi Annual SALE!

Price: Varies

Link: http://www.roamans.com/Plus-Size-Clearance.aspx?DeptId=10068

Summertime is upon us and we all want the bargain. That cute dress, hot pair of shoes, and far out jewelry all for a good price…. Well ladies. Roaman’s is the place for you. Check out their clearance section and save up to 80%, next check out Shoes & Accessories - Easy spirit sales $ 10 off
Product of the Month
Recommended by: Lucia
Name of Product: virgin mobile “Samsung Intercept”
Type of Product: Cell Phone
Cost of product: 199.99
 
Where Product can be found: http://www.virginmobileusa.com/cell-phones/samsung-intercept-phone.jsp

Description: Here’s the scoop. I been seeking and searching for a phone plan
that would fit me and my budget and virgin mobile fits me. Always wanted an Android Smart Phone and now (wink) I have one. The beyond talk plan
is just awesome. Unlimited messaging, email, data & web on all plans and plans start at just $25/month. No contract.

Again starting at $ 25/mo.
300 anytime min, $40/mo. 1200 anytime min with unlimited text, email, data &
web, and $60/mo. Unlimited, and how can you beat that? You can’t. 3G, 3.2”
touch-screen, keyboard and 3.2 camera
 

 

     My name is Jonny T. I have been an admirer of plus-size women for many years. As a recording artist, I have released a number of projects that celebrate the beauty of big beautiful women.  Over the years, I have seen a lot of faces, heard a lot of stories, and participated in a lot of bashes and clubs. I enjoy a professional career as a recording artist, label, and executive.  I am currently the Executive Assistant for Street Scholar Music Group (SSMG), a new label exclusively distributed by Bungalo Records and Universal Music Group Distribution. So far, it has been a great experience and I have gained a tremendous amount of insight from both the standpoint of artists and decision-makers in the music industry, as well as the entertainment industry as a whole. The goal of my articles is to provide information about what it takes to be successful in the mainstream entertainment industry while being a woman and/or man of size. I look forward to making contributions to Large in Charge and those who read the articles. Choose well, Live well!

 

 

Big Beautiful Hollywood

with Jonny T

 

  

Once again, it is time to take a look at big beautiful women and how they make an impact in the role of mainstream entertainment. In this article, I would like to give kudos to World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE) for ushering in their first BBW Superstar Kia Michelle Stevens – in ring name Kharma.  Kharma is proof women can be plus-sized and athletic. She has had brief stints in other wrestling promotions and has held multiple titles. She has wrestled by the name of Amazing Kong and Awesome Kong. Why I would like to commend WWE is because they would not allow a moniker like Kong because it lends an avenue for the audience to associate and define the superstar by her size versus her athletic ability.

 



She began her professional wrestling career in 2002 after appearing on a reality television show. She primarily wrestled in Japan for the first five years of her career, holding numerous championships there. In 2006 she began wrestling in her native United States again, appearing on the independent circuit before appearing on national television with Hulk Hogan’s TNA Wrestling where she was a driving force in the foundation of their Knockout division.

 

 

In December, 2010, Stevens signed a contract with World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE). Since April, 2011 vignettes aired during WWE television with Stevens, whose face was concealed by shadows and her signature braids, dismembering female dolls while cackling maniacally. During the April 25 episode of Raw, Stevens' face was shown for the first time in the vignettes, and her new ring name was revealed as Kharma. Kharma made her debut on May 1 at the Extreme Rules Pay Per View where she caused chaos and mayhem.


Stevens grew up in Carson, California. Prior to becoming a professional wrestler, she was employed as a social worker. She also owned a business that put vending machines in several high schools. Stevens' family and friends helped her fund her career in wrestling, when she went to train in Japan. She is also an investor in Nu Skin Enterprises, a line of skin and nutritional products. She is the proof BBWs can make it in mainstream entertainment with diligence and hard work.


 

Pat is a forty something woman living in Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she works in marketing.

Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries. Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and respect.
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time with friends.

My Belly...

with Pat Llewellyn

 

I love myself and I love my body. That has been my mantra for the past 3+ years.

As it turns out, I’ve been lying to myself just a smidge.

I really do love myself, and I love my body except for one thing. My big, fat, round belly causes me angst. When I get compliments about its size or how it is beautiful, I cringe. As soon as someone mentions my belly, I become self-conscious and want to become invisible. Don’t get me wrong. I know my belly is big and I’m sure that people notice all the time, but don’t comment on it. I’m fine with that. I just feel mortified if someone mentions it in a complimentary way. If someone were to make a derogatory comment about it I wouldn’t take their crap, but it seems I can’t take a compliment about it either.

Once I realize I have an issue I can’t pretend I don’t know. I wish I could be the kind of person who can stick their head in the sand and pretend nothing is wrong. I can’t though. I have to fix whatever the problem is. For some people this might mean going on a severe diet to quickly drop the weight and shrink my waistline. I’ve been there, done that and gained all the weight back and then some. That leaves me with one more option. I need to learn to love my belly. I’ve thought long and hard about this, about what I need to do to come to terms with my belly.

What does a fatty do to make friends with her belly? I have an answer!

I’m declaring June, “Love Your Belly Month!”

What does one do to celebrate “Love Your Belly Month?” For me it will involve a lot of positive self-talk and numerous pictures of my belly in all of its glory. I am going to work up the courage to post those pictures on Facebook and/or on various message boards that celebrate the fat body and when someone compliments my belly I’m going to take the compliment and not cringe. If a shirt is a little tight and shows the roundness of my fat belly, I’m not going to change. I’m going to write a poem about my belly and share it with people. I may even paint a self-portrait of my belly.

My question to you is what are you going to do to celebrate your belly?
 

     Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help others.

     Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed, intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.

     Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see. Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus size community.

 

What Inspires You?

with Ms Suga

 

When asked “What inspires you?” some answer “plenty of things,” others have one specific answer and then there are those that never really pinpoint what inspires them to do whatever it is they do. During a mini survey of people I know, my number one answer was children and family. It’s interesting when asked “what” people respond with “whom”. There is no right or wrong answer, it comes from within. Several of my friends are single mothers in fact my current beau is a single father. I watch these people struggle every single day to provide for their children. I finally asked myself what inspires me and since I’m not a parent the answer was not my children but my family in general. If it wasn’t for my family I wouldn’t be the woman I am today.

My parents have been married for 30 years and together they have made a wonderful life for them and for me. They always expected the best of me. In school I got good grades and applied myself to make them proud. As an adult I did my best in everything from college, to working, to staying out of trouble and taking care of myself to keep them proud of me. My parents are my best friends, even though we don’t get along all the time
.
As a little girl my parents made it their business to teach me about my heritage, it was black history month all year long. They taught me about our ancestors that worked the fields as slaves and they taught me about their lives during the civil rights movement. I learned about my mother’s fight will her weight and realized that it isn’t much different from mine; and how my father grew up in a broken home full of kids. My parents showed me that two people can grow up from being dirt poor to being financially sound and able to enjoy a life of retirement.

My family’s history tells me of strong willed individuals that worked hard and never allowed their flaws to prevent success. This motivates me, as a plus size African-American woman to walk with my head held high. I am proud of who I am and my family inspires me to keep moving forward. They motivate me to write these articles, and reach out to help others in need. My family inspires me to work hard and follow my dreams and with that I can see a future of pure happiness. Every day I look in the mirror and I see this BIG BEAUTIFUL WOMAN and I smile.

What do you see when you look at yourself? Ask yourself “What inspires you?” and see where that inspiration leads you. Does it lead you to do work in our community? Does it lead you to be someone’s friend or to aid them when they need it? Always remember that size does not make the person and those pounds are simply numbers. We are all put on this earth for a purpose and it’s up to us to figure it out before it’s too late. Go as far as you can see and then you’ll see how far you can go.


~Ms Suga~

 

Sherry Jackson Graf was born and raised in Richlands, VA. She was raised in a musical family and began playing bass guitar in the family's gospel group at the age of 8. Her family toured and recorded albums until she was 15 years old. She wanted to attend public high school and chose to go to public school instead of continuing her education with a home tutor. She played flute, bassoon, and percussion for Richlands High School band and was chosen for Flag Corps during marching season. The band won numerous marching and performing awards.

She studied Business Administration in college and moved to Nashville, TN with her father, Larry Jackson and began working at Buddy Lee Attractions, Inc., a booking agency on Music Row. She is currently Executive Assistant to Donna Lee.

She continues her career in the music industry, is an actress, stage manages theater and is looking forward to writing for large in charge.

 

 

You Can Reach Your Ideal Weight by Purchasing Photoshop

with Ms Sherry Graf

 

Last year, SELF magazine found that 65 percent of women between the ages of 25-45 have an eating disorder and 75 percent of all American women have unhealthy thoughts, feelings and /or behaviors related to food or their bodies. And apparently Photo-shopping your cover model has absolutely nothing to do with this.

SELF Editor Lucy Danziger, boasts of the magazine’s manipulation of imagery with the titled “Total Body Confidence” September edition cover model Kelly Clarkson. How about digitally downsizing Miss Kelly Clarkson from a size 12 to a size 4?

 

Self Editor Danzig, says that the article was “meant to inspire women to want to be their best,” and that she has done it herself. One eating disorder group said: “Thin, sexualised and digitally enhanced images of women are linked with women’s experiences of poor body image, depression and anxiety and eating disorders. The images contribute to self-harming behaviors and not performing well academically.”
Danziger defends Self: We altered Kelly’s appearance? Only to make her look her personal best. Did we publish an act of fiction? No. Not unless you think all photos are that. But in the sense that Kelly is the picture of confidence, and she truly is, then I think this photo is the truest we have ever put out there on the newsstand… She is happy in her own skin, and she is confident in her music, her writing, her singing, her performing. That is what we all relate to. Whether she is up or down in pounds is irrelevant (and to set the record straight, she works out and does boot-camp-style training, so she is as fit as anyone else we have featured in SELF). Kelly says she doesn’t care what people think of her weight. So we say: That is the role model for the rest of us.

According to SELF’s Editor, “personal best” = thin And while Kelly says she doesn’t care what people think of her weight, SELF sure does. It’s not Kelly’s weight that’s “irrelevant” here; it’s her talent. The irrational hypocrisy of presenting the weight-carefree Kelly as a “role model for the rest of us” when obviously her talent and accomplishments aren’t good enough for her to make SELF’s cover in her own skin only gets even more neurotic.

SELF’s Editor declares, “A cover’s job is to sell the magazine, and we do that, every month, thanks to our readers. So thank you.”

Your job: Think about your photographs and what you want them to convey. And go ahead and be confident in every shot, in every moment. The truest beauty is the kind that comes from within.

You got that, folks? Feeling inspired? True beauty comes from within… so long as the outside is thin. And go ahead and be confident in every shot because, hey, there’s always Photoshop to shave off your big ass. It’s in SELF’s Editor’s line about magazines selling covers that we get the only real flash of non-spinned honesty here, because let’s face it: There’s a reason SELF readers buy the magazine and it isn’t for its articles on body acceptance. Every edition offers a plethora of weight-loss tips and new diet plans designed to give readers the hope and often times illusory promise of thinness. SELF photoshopped Kelly Clarkson because its readers have given them reason to believe that a thinner Kelly would sell more covers than a slightly-flawed, fuller-figured Kelly. It’s the same reason Elle magazine Photoshopped Kelly and why a digitally-downsized Kelly also appears on the cover of her album.

Even more ironically, right below Kelly’s digitally-downsized physique is a teaser reading, “Want to Reach Your Dream Weight? Find the Motivation Secrets That Will Work for You.“ Or, perhaps, a half-decent Photoshop artist.



Sherry Graf



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