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LargeInCharge Magazine - Eighth Year in Progress

 Issue#89 - August 2011

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.




Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui

From the Plus Side ~ Emily Smiltneck


Good 4 U Food  ~ Xander


The Big GB My Gastric Bypass Memoirs - Soyna Bennett


From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance


Fashion & Products with The WebGirl ~ Lucia Roth


Big Beautiful Hollywood ~ Jonny T


Fattitude - Its a Fat way of Life ~ Pat Llewellyn


The BIG - Beautiful Inspirational Girl  ~ Ms Suga


Big Girl, Small World - Gabriela Falarz


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

Fat Friendly Disney!

Fat Friendly Disney!

By: Raqui



It's a Small World after All! It's a Small World after All! It's a Small World after All! It's a Small Small World!


Who doesn't know Disney's most well known song?  Disney World is the most well know vacation spot for families, and while it may be a Small World after all, that doesn't mean the people who live in it are small as well.  Raqui has some good news for you.  During the Super Sized Seminar at Vegas 2011 information was shared that Disney is a Fat Friendly Place to go.  Not only are the staff accommodating but a good majority of the rides can fit just about anyone.  Remember we are talking about Super Sized Ladies here 350 lbs and up, who said they went to Disney and had plenty of room.  Also a Tall woman as well said she was able to fit with room to spare.  So I decided to Check out some reviews of this Fat Friendly Disney Claim.


Internet Based Research:

  • Walt Disney World at Large  - After reading many of the trip reports, on people of size, going on the rides, I decided one day to bite the bullet and just get in line. I live in Florida and go to Disney all the time, but always stay with the safe rides, the ones I know I'd fit on. I'm a size 24-26 with a large mid section. Most rides at other theme parks, like Universal, and Great Adventure , just don't fit me. LOL. But I can now say that I fit on everything at Disney. I have tried them all. - READ MORE HERE

  • Large and In Charge Walt Disney taken from the Intercot website   - Rest assured Disney has done a great job in making their theme parks user friendly for all. It doesn't matter if you are as tall as Chewbacca or have a rounder shape like the beloved Winnie the Pooh. However, these concerns can still cause angst among travelers. In order to ease those fears we have compiled tips, tidbits and advice from our INTERCOT Community. Here is what they had to say on the subject. - READ MORE HERE

  • What are the weight restrictions on rides at Disney world? -  READ MORE HERE

  • Disney world rides, for overweight people? - READ MORE HERE

  • Is Disneyland in California 'Fat Friendly' or 'Tall Friendly'? - READ MORE HERE


What this comes down to is that Yes Disney has made rides that the big and small can fit in.  This is a relief for many mothers and fathers of size out there who now know they will be able to enjoy Disney with their children.  I have collected some more tips for Our Plus Sized people and disabled people who are hesitant to invest on a trip to Disney. 


More Tips for the Plus Sized or Disabled:


  • Scooter rentals will save you pain.  If you are disabled or have an injury that affects you (knee, back, ankle, leg) walking around Disney can be intimidating.  Not to worry Scooter rentals through Disney World is $150.00 for a 3 day period.  Staying longer and want a cheaper rate? Search online and rent a scooter through another company and have it delivered to your hotel or have it waiting for you at Guest Services at Disney World.  This isn't the time to be embarrassed, this is the time to enjoy a great time with your kids.  Plus I guarantee your kids will want to take turns riding with you.

  • If you are disabled go to Guest Services. You will receive a special pass that will allow you to get into all attractions and rides through the back (exit).  You will not disturb anyone in line and you will receive help with getting into the ride.  This will allow anyone with you in as well, so you will stay together.


More great info from my Facebook Friend Gael:

I have something to add about disability and fat-friendly DisneyLAND in CA.... While there are some rides that are snug for supersized folks, ride operators are quick to bring seatbelt extensions for rides that require belting in. No muss, no fuss, no making anyone feel uncomfortable or embarrassed (including one of my 6'4", 400# pals). Even Space Mountain has a fat-friendly car or two -- you just need to let the operator know you'll need it.

Any "bar down" ride is often more tricky to gauge as to whether or not you'll need to be in one of the special cars, since it's often belly size more than the rest of ya that makes the difference. Also, you can go to one of the staff members near the front of a ride and ask about any restrictions or concerns. I've never seen or experienced anything but the utmost courtesy and willingness to help.

There are some rides that have ramps for scooters and/or wheelchairs and special cars so that you need not step down into the boats, etc. (Small World, Jungle Cruise), and in Fantasyland, all the "little" rides like Snow White, etc. have movable sections of the back that allow for easier step up into the cars. You can drive your scooter up to the back of most rides to avoid any stairs. Operators will not only escort you onto an appropriate car/whatever, but re-park your scooter (or move your wheelchair) so you can just get in and go when the ride is over. My mum needed a scooter on the last several trips we made to DL, and it was great to see how many rides were made more friendly for the not-so-able-bodied and fat folks.


So my fellow large in body buddies, relax and have fun.  From the Information I have gathered Disney World (Florida) and Disney Land (California) has been deemed Fat Friendly,  Have a great Summer





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Syrenne / Sarah Cobb

I met Sarah Cobb Vegas Bash 2010 when we shared a cab from the airport to the Tuscany. Me and Sarah had that moment.  When your going to a big plus sized event and you happen to see another fatty near the area and you both look at each other with that look that says "Hey are you going to the Bash?"  She knew who I was but I didn't know her yet.

I saw her again in Chicago 2010 Boo Bash.  We had already connected on face book and I found out she had Cancer and all the cool hair do's she had were wings.  I never saw her so beautiful than when a mutual friend of mine took a picture of her bald. I have watched her suffer with the affects of Cancer since then via facebook. The bruises from needles. Being cut open in her chest to implant a port for chemo. As she said "it was supposed to go into her collarbone but her boobs were more accommodating."

She shared herself openly and freely, I admired many things about her and seeing her artwork was something that I enjoyed.  She was funny, sweet and a downright spitfire at times.  Sarah was a friend to so many in the BBW Community, how could you not like this silly crazy girl who spoke her mind.

Sarah has now joined the rest of our BBW and BHM community in Heaven. She didn't know it but I had planned on her being the October Cover Model for LargeInCharge.  When she submitted herself this year I was happy about it.  Since she has just passed I felt it was right to feature her now.  Sarah promised me I could rub her head this year at Vegas. We joked and laughed about it. I know she is in a better place, No More Pain No more Suffering. You will be missed, get things ready for when we join you.  - Raqui

Cover Model of the Month Interview

Interview: What is your name?

Syrenne Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I was born in Germany but I've lived most of my life in small town Nebraska! Can you give us some information about yourself (Age, Height,
Size, Nationality, Marital Status, Children, etc.)?

I am 24 years old and American. I am 5'5" and weigh 300 lbs. I love my life, I love my body.... I don't have any children (but I have dog babies!) aaaaaand I am single. I enjoy a pretty chill life as a stylist and part time model, living and working in Nebraska. Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in life?

I started to get bigger than the other kids in about 3rd grade... just slightly at first and then I seemed to gain more around 11-13 years old. I remember I was a size 14 in the seventh grade. At that point I also had a D cup. (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up as a large

To be honest, it wasn't easy. Kids are cruel... and for me, I got the most
trouble from boys at school.... the girls were nice to each other.... understanding and
sweet. My parents were supportive but concerned and always tried to make sure I
was as healthy as possible. I still did normal things and enjoyed playing sports. What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model

I really admire Raqui and the whole size acceptance movement and I want to
be as much a part of it as I can! Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for your size?

I don't think its really an easy journey for anyone.... a lot of my peers and small minded people made me feel that it was a handicap.... I felt that it was going to be an obstacle, particularly when it came to dating and love. They make you think that fat makes you a monster.... that a person would have to be a saint to overlook something like that. They are foolish.

I found the bbw network when I was just 18. I met a lot of kind people and my eyes were opened to a whole new world of acceptance. It was something I really needed and it felt like home. I attended my first bbw bash in Vegas in 2009 and it changed my life! Since then people constantly ask me how I maintain such confidence. I owe so much to the bbw community. Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?

Yes, definitely! My friends and family love and support me at any size.... I share some of my modeling pictures with them and they think its way cool! What would you say inspires you most in life?

Art. Its what I strive to BE, what I strive to create every day of my life.... not only in myself but in others as well. What is your primary occupation?

I am a hairstylist in a small salon. I work with a great bunch of girls doing something I really enjoy: creating art EVERYDAY and making people feel beautiful and confident with their look! How did you get into this line of work?

I've always been an artist.... so after college, I needed a job that could utilize my talent. I decided to enroll in cosmetology school and the rest is history! Do you find acceptance in the work force?

Somewhat. I work with some great girls... I don't really expect special treatment because of my size.

My only complaint would be that work places expect large people to dress more
conservatively to disguise their size. Sometimes other stylists can get away with
certain styles that I'm not allowed to sport because on me, its more voluptuous.
Naturally, some cuts show more cleavage on me... my bust is more obvious. I can't
help the way I was built! What changes do you believe should take place for Large People
in the work force?

I think companies need to recognize that we are different.... a one-size-fits-all kind of
approach doesn't necessarily work all the time. What do you think about the fashion industry for big sized

I think we've come leaps and bounds! However I still can't help and be infuriated when
I see some stores, like forever 21, announce they are now carrying plus sized
clothing!... only to discover that their "plus sizes" go up to a 3x... which they say is a
size 17/18. Its disappointing. I think many stores need to see that they are missing
out on a HUGE market (no pun intended).... if they expanded their minds and their
jean sizes, they would bring in so much more money and we would have more clothing
options- everybody wins! What do you wish to see change with the fashion industry?

I would like to see more stores include a plus size section. And it needs to be fair! So
often the thin section has really great styles and the plus section is gawdy and
terrible... and I speak up about it too! I also think the actual clothing designers need
to use more common sense when it comes to large bodies. Bust lines need to be
more accommodating and what's with the stiff solid waistbands?? We are soft round
girls, we need a little GIVE! Throw some spandex in there, guys! What changes do you think will happen if plus sized modeling for
men and women were to expand?

If the modeling expands, it could start a bit of a revolution I think... complete with
better options for shoppers and boost image and self esteem for large people
everywhere! Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing from.

I live in a small community so my options are limited if I want to buy locally.... but I
really enjoy Torrid, Deb plus, and occasionally Maurices. Tell us one of your secret beauty tips.

I love lipstick.... and I really have a need for staying power! But usually I hate those
long last lipsticks because they get dry and gross looking. So I like to start with a
lipstain.... I use "just bitten" lipstain by Revlon as a base. After I apply that, I use
either a lip pencil or even lip liner (that I purchase from Sally's Beauty Supply) and
apply to the whole lip, darker on the outline. This makes for a very looooooooooooong
lasting lip color. Mine usually stays on through eating, kissing... hehe, whatever! And if
I want a little shine, I just dab on a bit of lip gloss! Give us some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot.
What should models be prepared for?

Lighting is EVERYTHING! An easy tip is to use natural light as much as possible!
Shoot outside or next to an open window. Be mindful of where your light source is....
and no matter what position your body is in, always remember your face! It is by far
the most important element of any picture! Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at size acceptance
now. What changes do you see?

I think there are a lot more young people getting involved and that is fantastic! I think
its catching on in a big way and I'm so proud of where we are and the path we are
continuing on! What changes do you think will happen five years from now with
size acceptance?

There will always be struggle..... but without some challenge, the accomplishments
wouldn't be so sweet. I foresee a boom in size acceptance particularly in the fashion
and modeling world. Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other interests.
To be honest, I model almost entirely as a hobby. I enjoy it.... I hope to inspire other
women to feel comfortable in their skin and see that beauty is not size related. I just
want to become more active in the size acceptance movement and be a part of the
great changes that are being made! What have you accomplished as a Plus Sized Model?

At this point in time, my modeling career is still very young! Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you life that
made you feel good about your size.

Not only do I model but also as a hobby I make youtube videos, often about size
related issues. I get some hate mail.... some cruel comments, but that's life. If there
wasn't hate out there, there wouldn't be a NEED for me to stand up and speak out.
But I also get a lot of messages from women who feel inspired... comfortable....
sometimes for the first time in their life. I'm especially touched when I get messages
from teenage girls telling me that I've given them a new perspective and that they feel
better about their bodies and their future. Its such a delicate time in a woman's life....
I know there are a lot of negative voices being thrown at a girl at that time. I'm just
over the moon that I can actually make a difference in someone's life in that way! Is there a person in your life that makes you keep going?

My mother. She is without a doubt, the most amazing and beautiful person I know.
Every good quality I possess, I owe to her. I've had to face some very hard things in
the short time I've been an adult..... and she's never so much as left my side through
it all. I love you, Mom. What advice would you give to other people of size who want to

It takes a lot of work and a lot of confidence! That's something you can't fake.... you
have to genuinely love yourself. Its not always easy to get to that place but you have
to know you deserve that love!!! What plus size figure do you most admire?

Its really hard to choose just one!!! Certainly many of the BODacious models have
inspired me through their beauty and grace.... I admire their confidence. But the
most commanding and powerful plus size figure that I've ever met in person would
have to be Raqui. I had the pleasure of hearing her recite a poem she had written
about big beautiful women and it was absolutely moving. She cried and I cried too....
but she was strong and I felt strong in her presence. Describe yourself with one word.



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Cover Model of the Month


     Raqui the Owner and Founder of, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit

Raqui's New Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! -

 Raqui Host's Super Sized Seminar at 15th Annual Vegas Bash 2011

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Raqui-ism - 15th Annual Las Vegas Bash

Written By: Raqui


 "YEAH" "Im a Bad Ass School Girl!" "And I don't give a Fuck about my Education!"


That was my line as I attended the School Girls and Geeks Dress up party at the 2011 Vegas Bash.  I was totally a bad girl and had attitude that night.  I was in full attired with a wig, fishnet gloves and my own created safety pin choker that lead down between the boobies and around my back.  I was threatened by more than one lady that night.  That if there costume came lose they were coming to take my safety pins.  LOL



This year was more than fun for me.  I was asked to Host the Super Sized Seminar which is one of my favorite events at the Bash.  A ladies only event where we can really open up and talk about the many feelings we have about our ever changing bodies.  How to handle anything from personal problems to work place issues and vacationing.  This year I was very excited to be asked to Host this particular event since Hosting seminars and being a speaker, is something I enjoy so much. 


The Outpouring of information was immense and everyone wanted to share.  I honestly learned so much from my fellow Plus Sized Sisters and they learned from me.  More than one woman cried with strong emotion or at the relief of finding out there was a solution to a problem that plagued her.  Each one of the ladies had a strong point and weak point.  With all of us together we were strong for each other.  One of the ladies shared her story on how she escaped death only a few months prior, due to the communication she has received from the Plus Sized Community on a Health Issue her Doctors were not handling properly.  Through a well known Message Board (Dimensions) and a few well known ladies who also are Vegas Bash attendees.  She not only was able to receive proper help but was recovered enough to attend the Bash and share her story with us.


To know that it was a large possibility that I might never have met this woman.  That she might have passed on to the next world with out help and proper medical care frightens me.  I was so happy that she was their with us.  Happy that every woman there was so open, willing to share and speak out.  After going over time for more than an hour.  I left feeling fulfilled.  The many compliments I received from the ladies for days after touched my heart.  The seminar was a grand success but the success of the seminar had much to do with the ladies in attendance.  I must thank you all for being so open and caring with each other.


I got to spend time with many new people this year.  I got to reacquaint myself with those I have met at prior events and Bashes. This year seemed much more open and friendly.  I thought everyone was friendly before, but I think it took a couple of years for that affection to grow.  I felt it strongly in 2011.  I was bear hugged and kissed so many times, I made up for the rest of the year and a few years in advance.


When I finally left and made my way back across the USA, I sat in my bed and felt very strange.  I realized I had not been hugged that day.  It felt so weird,  In my normal life I am not hugged very often.  I think I can count the number of hugs I receive in a 6 month period of time.  They are so far and in-between.  After attending an event like Vegas Bash where you are constantly being hugged, kissed or touched in some manner.  I felt a big difference.


You get used to the hum of voices that is constantly going on.  Your not surprised when someone grabs you from behind or casually lays there arm around you.  You learn that your face is the place for kisses from male and female and face rubs are great.  You lean on each other and color/creed seems to fade away.  One of the fun things I did this year was take a few pictures of the Colors of Vegas.  Some of us ladies put our different shades of skin together and took pictures.  I totally love the result.   Unknowingly I think we made a statement. The fact that one of the ladies in the below picture has a strawberry heart shaped tattoo says something to me. 


Love of self and others makes us all Equal



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From the Plus Side


Emily Smiltneck

     From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that deal with all aspects of Plus size Life.  Emily Smiltneck was chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster those who are Plus Sized go through.


     Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan (pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business. Emily is currently working on several writing projects, including a historical fiction novel and several collections of poetry.

Emily Smiltneck receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below


     It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive recognition for their life's work.  Join me in this Joyous moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her contribution and great dedication to her goals in life.  Click the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.


The Adventures of Phatgurl

by Emily Suzanne Smiltneck  


The Adventures Of Phatgurl is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a personals website.  As she embarks on her dates, she meets many different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.  Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more serious and even sad. 


If you have any ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at  I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future columns.  Thanks!


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Haroon interrupted Jany’s absent-minded enjoyment of the moment.  “Who are your friends, Jane?”

            “Oh, I’m sorry!  This is Selena—you’ve heard me talk about her—and this is Jacob.”  Jany wondered if her imagination was working overtime or if Haroon looked the tiniest bit insecure as Jacob shook his hand and said, “You can call me Jake.”  Maybe she just wanted him to be insecure.  She knew she would have been.   And upon that thought, Jany’s mind immediately jumped into a pool of doubt as she considered the other women Haroon must date.  He was successful and attractive and most definitely dated women of a much higher caliber than Jany—more beautiful, better employed more creative, thinner.  She shook her head and forced her attention back to the conversation.  Right now, in this moment, Haroon was sitting next to her, not next to someone else, and Jacob, who she had also dated, was sitting across the table.  And Selena was there.  Jany would have envied anyone else who was in her position and here she was, imagining the worst instead of enjoying the best.

            “So what brings you out tonight?” Jacob was asking Haroon.

            “I was in my apartment studying and I suddenly got very hungry.  I didn’t really notice what time it had gotten to be, so it didn’t occur to me that it might be so busy here.”

            “Live nearby?” 

            “I live on the next block.  I come here a lot.  I’m not out this late very often, though.  I have many early classes.  I am studying to be a chiropractor so that I can work with my brother.”

            Jany was glad that Jacob and Selena were there.  She wasn’t very good at asking questions because she always felt like she might be too intrusive.  It was nice to get to know Haroon better.

            “Hey, you guys?” Selena broke in.  “Has anyone else noticed that we’ve been done with our pizza for, like, a half hour?  And that the place is getting empty pretty quick?  We should leave before they charge us rent.”

            “All right, then.  Let’s go.”  Jacob left a neat stack of bills on the table with the check and stood up.  The others followed him across the street to his car.

            “Hey, Haroon, why don’t you hop in, if you’re not too tired?  You girls tired yet?”

            “I’m not,” Jany said quickly.

            “I’m a little sleepy,” Selena yawned, “But if you guys wanna hang for a while, it’s cool.  I’ll catch a second wind.”

            “Okay, then, everyone hop in.  We’ll go back to my place for a nightcap.”

            “Can you really call it a nightcap at this point?” Selena asked, and they all laughed softly.

            Twenty minutes later, they were sitting on a blanket on the roof of Jacob’s building, glasses of wine in hand.  There was a tiny stripe of gray across the ink black sky on the eastern horizon and the only sound was the occasional swish of traffic on a nearby freeway.  In the air, the city lights still twinkled, but at ground level, the city was dark and quiet.  The four of them sat in silence, Jany and Haroon resting back to back as Jacob leaned on his elbows and Selena sprawled across the middle of the blanket.  Jany wished she had her paints with her; she studied the scene carefully so she could remember the details later.  It was the color that was going to be the hardest to imitate, the velvety quality of the darkened colors on the roof and the grayed pastels closer to the distant place where the sun would soon rise.  She stood and looked over the edge of the roof for a while.

            When she returned to the group, Haroon was staring absently in the direction she had come from and Jacob was gently rubbing Selena’s back.  Jany sat next to Haroon and he put an arm across her shoulders.  She rested her head on his shoulder and snuggled against him, determined to enjoy the moment.  There was nothing to be nervous about; she could handle leaning against Haroon, trust him not to hurt her.  He wasn’t Franklin.  She inhaled slowly and forced herself to relax.

            Jacob shifted positions, pulled Jany’s feet into his lap, and began to rub them softly.  Selena leaned back so that her head was on Jany’s lap and closed her eyes.  And Jany was suddenly awash in a feeling of emptiness, as empty as the hazy gray sky.  The only thing that could fill her up again was if every single moment of her life was just like this moment.  She didn’t want to move, ever.

            And none of them did move, for a very long time.  Not until the sun itself was visible and the birds had started to sing.  It was Jacob who finally broke the spell.

            “You guys are too tired to go home.  And I’m too tired to deliver you to your assorted cars and homes.  Let’s all sleep for a few hours and then we’ll go out for brunch before we disband.”  Slowly, they stood up and gathered armfuls of wine glasses and blankets.  Inside, Jacob led Selena and Jany to his bedroom.  “You girls can sleep in here.”  It was an impressive room, with a hot tub in one corner and a giant bed in the center.  One wall was entirely formed of windows that looked out over the city, all the way to the lakefront.  If Jany hadn’t been so tired, she would have stood in front of the windows forever, trying to paint the scene in her memory.  Instead, she crawled into Jacob’s bed with Selena and fell asleep so quickly and deeply that she didn’t notice when Haroon settled in on the other side of her.


            When Jany woke up, she looked groggily around the room, struggling for a few seconds to remember where she was.  Her face was pressed up against Selena’s back.  There was a hand draped just below her breast and another hand resting firmly on her hip.  Without moving—she didn’t want to wake anyone--she tried to figure out who owned which hand and finally decided that it was Haroon who was cuddled tightly against her back with a hand on her hip and that Jacob’s arm was stretched across Selena’s body so that his hand dangled onto her side.  It was an unusual scene to wake up to, at least for Jany, and she couldn’t help thinking that Mala would be proud.  She fought the urge to giggle.

            “Jane?” a voice whispered.  Carefully, she turned over to face Haroon, then wished she hadn’t, or at least that she’d checked her breath first, because her face was barely two inches from his.

            “Good morning,” she whispered back as she fought the urge to giggle again.  Of all the men she’d dated, and Selena, too, of course, this was only the second time she’d experienced the “morning after.”  And it seemed ironic that on neither of those occasions had she actually done anything more than cuddle with the person lying next to her when she woke up.

            “Where—why are we—how did this happen?  Did we—?”

            “We had wine on the roof last night, remember?  At Jacob’s?  And then we all slept here.”

            “I am sorry.  I do not drink very often and it affects me.”

            “It’s okay.  It took me a few minutes to figure it all out, too.”

            “Yes.  But have we—did we—“ Haroon lifted the blanket and glanced down before he continued, more quietly than before.  “I am not wearing my pants.”

            It was too much for Jany; this time, she did burst into giggles.  “You’re wearing your underwear, though, right?” she asked through her laughter.  “I’m pretty sure nothing happened.  We were all way too tired for that.  Besides, we’re, like, all in one bed.  I don’t think I’d—I’m sorry, I’m not laughing at you.  I’m just not used to finding myself in situations like this either, and it strikes me as very funny.”

            Haroon started laughing too, and it was only a matter of seconds before Selena and Jacob began to grimace and open their eyes.

            “Ugh.  What’s so funny, you two?” Selena gurgled.

            “It’s just—we all—Haroon’s pants—never mind,” Jany gasped.

            “I do not often wake up in a bed with three other people,” Haroon managed before he dissolved into laughter again.

            Selena pulled her pillow out from underneath her head and placed it over her face instead.  Jacob joined her underneath it as Jany and Haroon clung to one another and tried without success to quiet themselves.



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     Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to writing Xander cook’s like he feels. A former Chicago native transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society, can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and a easy recipe.  They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far apart.



Summer of Pizza

by Xander The Food Dud

Pizza, like so many other foods, did not originate in the country for which it is now famous. Unless you have researched the subject, you, like so many people, probably always thought Pizza was strictly an Italian creation.


The foundations for Pizza were originally laid by the early Greeks who first baked large, round and flat breads which they "anointed with oil, herbs, spices and Dates."

Tomatoes were not discovered at that time or, very likely, they would have used them as we do today.


Eventually the idea of flat bread found its way to Italy where, in the 18th century, the flat breads called "Pizzas", were sold on the streets and in the markets. They were not topped with anything but were enjoyed au naturel. Since they were relatively cheap to make, were tasty and filling, they were sold to the poor all over Naples by street vendors. The acceptance of the tomato by the Neapolitans and the visit of a queen contributed to the Pizza as we know and enjoy it today.


In about 1889, Queen Margherita, accompanied by her husband, Umberto I, took an inspection tour of her Italian Kingdom. During her travels around Italy she saw many people, especially the peasants, eating this large, flat bread. Curious, the queen ordered her guards to bring her one of these Pizza breads. The Queen loved the bread and would eat it every time she was out amongst the people, which caused some consternation in Court circles. It was not seemly for a Queen to dine on peasant's food.


Never the less, the queen loved the bread and decided to take matters into her own hands. Summoning Chef Rafaelle Esposito from his pizzeria to the royal palace, the queen ordered him to bake a selection of pizzas for her pleasure.

To honor the queen who was so beloved by her subjects, Rafaelle decided to make a very special pizza just for her. He baked a Pizza topped with tomatoes, Mozarella Cheese, and fresh Basil (to represent the colors of the Italian flag: Red, white, and green).


This became Queen Margherita's favorite pizza and when word got out that this was one of the queen's favorite foods, she became even more popular with the Italian people. She also started a culinary tradition, the Pizza Margherita, which lasts to this very day in Naples and has now spread throughout the world.


History has not made it clear whether Rafaelle began to sell this creation from his own pizzeria but it is known that the Pizza, in much the same form as we now know it, was thereafter enjoyed by all the Italian people. Variations began to be made in different parts of the country. In Bologna, for example, meat began to be added into the topping mix. Neapolitan Pizza became quite popular and it brought garlic and crumbly Neapolitan cheeses into the mixture as well as herbs, fresh vegetables, and other spices and flavorings.



About this time the idea of baking in special brick ovens came into existence and the bread, as


it is today, was a rather simple combination of flour, oil, salt and yeast.

Pizza spread to America, France, England and Spain, where it was little known until after World War II. While occupying Italian territories, many American and European soldiers tasted Pizza for the first time. It was love at first taste! Italian immigrants had been selling Pizzas in their American stores for some time, but it was the returning soldiers with a lust for the saucy delight that drew the Pizzas out of the quiet Italian neighborhoods into the main stream of city life all over the continent. In fact, the square "Sicilian Pizza" which is so popular and was the forerunner of the now well-promoted "Party Pizza" is an American invention. Real Sicilian Pizza has no cheese or anchovies.

Today we celebrate Pizza. February 9 is International Pizza Day and the Guinness Book of Records states that the largest Pizza ever made and eaten was created in Havana, Florida and was 100 feet and 1 inch across!


American and Canadian citizens will eat an average 23 pounds of Pizza, per person, per year. Pepperoni and Cheese is the favorite combination, especially with the younger set, and is second only to the hamburger as this continent's favorite food.

Pizzas can be made either healthy or fatty, depending upon what you use for the toppings. They come in many forms such as Calzones (half the dough is topped then the other half folded over to form a large half-moon shaped Pizza Pocket, which is then baked). It also comes in various forms such as breads, rolls, pan pizza, stuffed crust pizza, thin crust


Pizza and thick crust pizza, whole wheat crust, and bagel crust.

The concept has also taken many forms such as Mexican Pizza (a pizza dough topped with chili or taco filling, shredded Cheddar, chopped onions, tomatoes and Jalapeno peppers), Ice Cream Pizza, Candy Pizza and even Pizza cake as well as Pizza flavored items such as Potato Chips and Tortilla Snacks!


So, next time you eat a Pizza, stop and think of Queen Margherita and Chef Rafaelle and be grateful that a Queen would dare stoop to eat peasant bread.


About the name: The word "pie" does not refer to the crust, nor even to the shape or position of the crust. The Oxford English, the Webster's unabridged, and lexicographer Charles Earl Funk, all agree that the elemental word "pie" relates to the Magpie, a bird with feathers splotched in two colors, a bird called "Pica" by the Romans, whence the English "Pie" and the alteration of "Pica" to "Pizza". The name relates to the bird's double color and its habit of gathering odds and ends as does a Pizza, or Pie, gather, and consist of, varied ingredients




Xander's Recipe of the Month


 Grillin the Pizza Pie




3 1/2 cups all-purpose flour, or as needed

1 envelope Fleischmann's® Pizza Crust Yeast

1 tablespoon sugar

1 1/2 teaspoons salt

1 1/3 cups very warm water (120 degrees to 130 degrees F)*

1/3 cup oil

Additional flour for rolling

Additional oil for grilling

Pizza sauce

Other toppings as desired

Shredded mozzarella cheese



Start charcoal fire or preheat gas grill to medium-high heat.

Combine 2 cups flour, un-dissolved yeast, sugar and salt in a large bowl. Add very warm water and oil; mix until well blended, about 1 minute. Gradually add enough flour to make a soft dough. Dough should form a ball and will be slightly sticky. Knead** on a floured surface, adding additional flour if necessary, until smooth and elastic but not sticky, about 5 minutes.

Divide dough into 8 portions. Pat or roll dough on a well-floured counter to about 8-inch circles; they do not need to be perfect.

Brush both sides of crust with additional oil. Using hands, lift each crust carefully and place on grill. Cook for 3 to 4 minutes until bottom is lightly browned and top looks set. Using long handled tongs, remove crust from grill, grilled side up, to a platter or baking sheet.

Lightly add sauce and top the grilled side of each pizza crust. Excess sauce or toppings makes the pizza hard to handle. Repeat with remaining pizzas.

Carefully slide each pizza onto the grill. Cook an additional 3 to 4 minutes until bottom of crust is browned and cheese is melted. Remove from grill and serve immediately.


*If you don't have a thermometer, water should feel very warm to the touch.

**To knead the dough, add just enough flour to the dough and your hand to keep the dough from sticking. Flatten dough and fold it toward you. Using the heels of your hands, push the dough away with a rolling motion. Rotate dough a quarter turn and repeat the ‘fold, push and turn' steps. Keep kneading dough until becomes smooth and elastic. Use a little more floor if dough becomes too sticky, always working the flour into the ball of dough.

Make Ahead: Dough (but NOT individual crusts) may be made up to 24 hours in advance and stored covered in the refrigerator. Punch down and roll out just before grilling.





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In 2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake.    Only a few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot.  Doctors finally diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled diabetes. 

That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her weight,  it wasn’t until this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something about my weight."  On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she made for herself.  In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one who lives it every day.
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Now, It’s My Turn To Lead

A couple of weeks ago, I was honored to deliver a word from God to an audience in Lake Butler, Florida. Hosted by Pastor Stoutamire and New Birth COGIC, this event presented several ministers delivering sermons as well as a gospel concert and netted me the first opportunity since weight loss surgery to minister; and I did it.

Earlier this year I was ordained as a Deaconess by my Pastor. I remember that day with excruciating displeasure. Yes, it was honorable to be elevated in service through this ceremony but the displeasure came from remembering how much pain I was in standing before my congregation. With high blood pressure, Peripheral Artery Disease (P.A.D.) and elevated blood sugar levels from Type II Diabetes, standing up for any length of time was painful. Now, I reflect upon how I stood before this workshop audience and shared with them a word that only God could have given to me. This word came directly from my new book entitled “Last Week, I Wanted To Die” and I read nearly 20 of the 30 pages from it. My story captured the audience and afterwards, several ministers congratulated me for sharing my testimony of attempted suicide and depression. I was honored that my message fell upon receptive ears, but I was more excited that I was able to stand before them to deliver this message!

I am 70 pounds smaller since the gastric bypass surgery of five months ago, I am honored to be used by God through ministering to others through my testimony and to even serve as MC of the gospel concert later that night! Yes, if my diabetes was uncontrolled I would not have been able to provide “double-duty” at this event. I introduced groups and artists before they hit the stage and I told jokes and was entertaining! God’s presence was felt during this event and I was just proud to be in HIS presence. Ministry is sweeter now without worrying about insulin, hunger, thirst and swollen ankles and feet. Ministry is where I feel confident that I can be!

Now, I sit at the dining room table in the home of my dear friend Dorie. I actually have been here with Dorie and her family all weekend as she has just been discharged from the hospital Three days ago, Dorie had gastric bypass surgery and now she and I are sitting and “burping” together.

“Angie! I don’t think I can drink all eight ounces of this protein shake!”
“Angie! What am I gonna do with all this gas?”
“Angie! How do I swallow this huge potassium supplement”
“Dorie, you don’t need to eat that applesauce right now”
“Dorie, if the discomfort feels differently, it may be time for you to drink something”
“Dorie, I love you and I am proud of you. Happy Birthday, Dorie!”

Yes, this was my friend’s birthday weekend and we celebrated it by helping her deal with post-surgery gas and soreness and pureed foods. We shared “fat” stories of oversized and over-priced bras. We marveled about how my diabetes reversed immediately after the procedure. We talked about how excited we are about sharing this life experience together and we praised God together for fellowship. Yeah, I probably got on her nerves a bit telling her to “get up and walk around the house”, but I did it with love just like my family did for me.

Ministry doesn’t mean standing before an audience and preaching from the Bible. Ministry doesn’t even mean going to a foreign country to feed starving babies. Sometimes, ministry can be a short drive from your own home to go and be with a dear friend. I remember that my family was there for me before and after my surgery. My sister Sonya called me just before they wheeled me to the operating room and prayed for me. My daughter Jasmine and her Godmother Esther drove me to the hospital, stayed with me after recovery, visited me in the hospital every day and even went on walks with me during my first week home. My Facebook friends left encouraging messages and loved me through my time. Now, it’s my turn to lead.

The Gastric Bypass has made me feel like I can have my life back again. On the way to visit Dorie's, I was rummaging through my closet to find something to wear and I ran across this dress that I could have SWORN was my daughter’s dress. “What is this doing in my closet” I thought to myself. I held the dress up to myself, looking in the mirror and thought, “Well, let’s see what happens”. As the dress fell gently over my head and flowed across my hips I smiled at myself when I looked in the mirror. A perfect fit. Glory be to God! I think I tried to sleep in that dress, I was so excited to wear it!

So many others have benefited from weight loss surgery and I encourage others to consider it, as well. I know, you probably think that you are sexy with your curves and that men love you at that size. I am not disputing this, but what about the side effects of obesity? The difficulty breathing when walking and the extra cost associated with purchasing new clothes? How much medicine SHOULD you be taking if you could afford to buy your prescriptions? Wouldn’t you prefer to at least TRY a healthier lifestyle? If you don’t want to live a healthier lifestyle for your sake; do it for the sake of your loved ones. Someone in your life is affected by your excess weight. Maybe they haven’t admitted it, but it DOES worry them because they love you and they want you to be around.

This article may not be for everyone. Many of you are anti-weight loss surgery and others feel like the bad habits that added to the weight gain will return, and so will the weight. Whatever you believe, I am going to keep on testifying that by having gastric bypass surgery I am now able to minister to others more effectively. I am able to lead by example and stand as an encouraging force. I am able to say that I delivered a word to audiences and even now – I am able to sing “Happy Birthday” to my friend without running out of breath. I pray that during this effort I am able to lead some souls to Christ. I pray that I can help another woman and mother understand that her family needs her to live. I look forward to losing more weight and reaching more goals. I am excited about accepting my turn to lead. Thank you, for coming along for the ride.....

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     Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.


     This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.


     This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.


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On Open Letter to Living XL




What’s Up with This, Living XL?


In 2008 NAAFA was excited and proud to have Living XL sponsor our fabulous fashion show at our annual fund raising convention in Los Angeles, CA.  We were pleased to introduce Living XL to our members and encourage them to spend their hard earned dollars on their needs with a company that carries products designed especially for us.


We are sad to report that we have received some complaints about products purchased through Living XL.  What’s up with that?  Your advertising leads us to believe that your products have been tested and we are assured of their durability.  Well, take a look at these reports:


Subject:  Office Chair Recommendations


Eleanor reports:  “…whatever you do, do not, do not, DO NOT use Living XL.  I got a chair from them that was rated to hold 100 lbs. more than I weigh.  It was very comfortable -- until it fell apart a year after I started using it.”


Carol reports: ”I thought it was just me.  I bought one from Living XL rated for about double my weight and two wheels broke within 5 months.  And it was used on a floor mat on a hardwood floor, so there was no carpet drag.  I bought one for less than 1/2 the price from Office Depot and I've had it for over 6 months with no problem.”


NAAFA challenges Living XL to take a closer look at the products you are selling to people of size.  Demand that your suppliers provide you with a quality product that will last.  When we pay premium prices, we expect and deserve premium quality and service!


NAAFA invites Living XL to send a representative to our upcoming convention in Washington, DC, August 4-8, 2011 at the Westin Washington Dulles Airport Hotel near Washington, DC to address this issue!




NAAFA is pleased to announce the dates for both our 2011 and 2012 Convention.

As a strategic goal, the NAAFA Board has set out to simplify and streamline all of NAAFA's activities. One of the organization's key events, our major fund raising event of the year, is our annual convention and as such it has been a major focus of our streamlining efforts. In order to help members get the most for their money and budget their time, we have been able to secure the Convention location contracts for the next two years. These contracts lock in our cost at the same levels as our 2010 convention and in some cases gives a further discount.

This year we will be returning to the Washington, DC area for our annual convention.

Thursday, August 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011!
The Westin Washington Dulles Airport
2520 Wasser Terrace
Herndon, VA 20171

In 2012 we will be having our annual convention in San Francisco.

Thursday, August 2, 2012 - Monday, August 6, 2012!
The Westin San Francisco Airport
1 Old Bayshore Highway
Millbrae, CA 94030

Make plans now to join us in August, 2011 at The Westin Washington Dulles Airport. Room rates are a super low $79 per night and can be booked for Thursday, Aug 4, 2011 - Monday, August 8, 2011! The Westin is prepared to receive your NAAFA convention reservations today at: 

We have worked hard to keep the cost of this convention down and to get the lowest hotel prices we could. $79.00 per night for a premium hotel in the DC area is a significant deal. The Early Bird Special price is $225.00 and will be available beginning February 1 through May 31, 2011. Beginning June 1, full convention price will be $265.00.

We will have again made it easy for you to register for the convention as well as the hotel through our website at We encourage you to register for the NAAFA convention package today and look forward to seeing you in DC.

Watch our website for more exciting details as they become available.

Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

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Our WebGirl Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A. degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music, movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos about life.

This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.


I just wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments! Please let me know if you have a favorite.



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Description: I’m an devoted Carols Daughter buyer and when you’re on a budget like me, I like to take advantage of what’s best for my pockets and that’s why I purchase Carols Daughter value sets… from manicure set, skin care, hand &foot care. Prices can vary! However, it’s worth it.


     My name is Jonny T. I have been an admirer of plus-size women for many years. As a recording artist, I have released a number of projects that celebrate the beauty of big beautiful women.  Over the years, I have seen a lot of faces, heard a lot of stories, and participated in a lot of bashes and clubs. I enjoy a professional career as a recording artist, label, and executive.  I am currently the Executive Assistant for Street Scholar Music Group (SSMG), a new label exclusively distributed by Bungalo Records and Universal Music Group Distribution. So far, it has been a great experience and I have gained a tremendous amount of insight from both the standpoint of artists and decision-makers in the music industry, as well as the entertainment industry as a whole. The goal of my articles is to provide information about what it takes to be successful in the mainstream entertainment industry while being a woman and/or man of size. I look forward to making contributions to Large in Charge and those who read the articles. Choose well, Live well!



Big Beautiful Hollywood

with Jonny T



Once again, it is time to take a look at big beautiful women and how they make an impact in the role of mainstream entertainment. In this article, I would like to give kudos to World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE) for ushering in their first BBW Superstar Kia Michelle Stevens – in ring name Kharma.  Kharma is proof women can be plus-sized and athletic. She has had brief stints in other wrestling promotions and has held multiple titles. She has wrestled by the name of Amazing Kong and Awesome Kong. Why I would like to commend WWE is because they would not allow a moniker like Kong because it lends an avenue for the audience to associate and define the superstar by her size versus her athletic ability.


She began her professional wrestling career in 2002 after appearing on a reality television show. She primarily wrestled in Japan for the first five years of her career, holding numerous championships there. In 2006 she began wrestling in her native United States again, appearing on the independent circuit before appearing on national television with Hulk Hogan’s TNA Wrestling where she was a driving force in the foundation of their Knockout division.



In December, 2010, Stevens signed a contract with World Wrestling Entertainment (WWE). Since April, 2011 vignettes aired during WWE television with Stevens, whose face was concealed by shadows and her signature braids, dismembering female dolls while cackling maniacally. During the April 25 episode of Raw, Stevens' face was shown for the first time in the vignettes, and her new ring name was revealed as Kharma. Kharma made her debut on May 1 at the Extreme Rules Pay Per View where she caused chaos and mayhem.

Stevens grew up in Carson, California. Prior to becoming a professional wrestler, she was employed as a social worker. She also owned a business that put vending machines in several high schools. Stevens' family and friends helped her fund her career in wrestling, when she went to train in Japan. She is also an investor in Nu Skin Enterprises, a line of skin and nutritional products. She is the proof BBWs can make it in mainstream entertainment with diligence and hard work.


Pat is a forty something woman living in Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she works in marketing.

Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries. Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and respect.
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time with friends.

I am Fat...

with Pat Llewellyn


I am fat…


I am fat.  You don’t need to stare and point at me on the street; I think most people can see my fatness. You don’t need to come up to me and tell me that I should lose weight. You definitely do not need to shame me because I don’t fit the conventional look most people ascribe to be (thin.)


I am fat. I have been fat for most of my life. There have been a few times where I have lost weight, but maintaining it has been impossible and I end up gaining more weight than I lost. I am tired of the constant rollercoaster of emotions when I lose and gain weight. I am fed up with the pitying looks and lectures that start with “if you lost weight…”


I am fat. I will no longer diet. I will not strive to attain the weight standards that society has ascertained to be “beautiful and healthy”.  I will not deny myself food so that I can lose a pound or ten to get into that dress. I will not go another day with the barrage of inner dialogue telling me that I’m not good enough because I am not a size 3. I will not let a single person talk to me in a disrespectful way because I am fat.


I am fat. I will try to eat healthy every day. I will demand to be treated with dignity and respect. I will rejoice with every fat roll and fat dimple because, I am beautiful. I will be a positive role model for my niece, because I love her and I do not want her to hate her body. I will be happy because I love my mind, my body and my soul.


Pat (A.K.A. Lulu)


     Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help others.

     Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed, intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.

     Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see. Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus size community.


     Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help others.

     Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed, intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.

     Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see. Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus size community.


Bag of Essentials

with Ms Suga


Ok so in my purse I have this little black bag. In it I always have a toothbrush, toothpaste, mouthwash, lotion, shower gel, deodorant, and condoms. This bag goes everywhere I go because I never know what’s going to happen when I leave my house in the morning. I have so affectionately named it my B.O.E. Or my Bag of Essentials!  I feel that these items are essential to my everyday life and they have me prepared for whatever may come my way.


It's my opinion that we all should carry a B.O.E. Not necessarily a physical bag but an emotional bag of essentials that has us prepared for life's obstacles.


“Ms. Suga you told us what's in your physical B.O.E. But what should we put in our emotional B.O.E.?"


To be honest this emotional B.O.E. should consist of your goals and dreams, life lessons and your positive and negative personality traits. The emotional B.O.E. should help you to have an inspirational, successful, and happy life. Yes it seems like a lot but when we break it down these items do not require such a large sack.


B.O.E. Item #1: Goals and Dreams. Everyone has a goal in life be it something common such as graduating college or something like being a good parent or becoming a professional athlete. Whatever path you chose to follow, your everyday life should reflect your progress to achieving that goal.


Example: My goal in life is to be a successful writer. My accomplishments to attain this goal: receiving a degree in Journalism, blogging, actually becoming a writer for Large In Charge Magazine. I'm not where I want to be but my life displays my progress and motivates me to continue on.


B.O.E. Item #2: Life Lessons. My grandmother's favorite saying was "Just keep living." we used to just ignore her but now it makes perfect sense! With life come trials and tribulations, heartaches and pains and lessons learned.  I've learned not to regret my past because that won't change what happened. Plus if I had never made that dumb ass decision I would not have learned that valuable lesson to never make that dumb ass decision again. So with that life lessons are necessary in your B.O.E. It's a constant reminder not to screw up again seeing as you remember what happened the last time.


B.O.E. Item #3: Positive & Negative personality Traits. Yes I sad positive AND negative traits because both make you who you are. We are all made up of our own special ingredients that make us unique from everyone else. Those same ingredients attract us to the people we consider friends and connect us to the people we know as family. 


Example: My close friend Toya is a determined, head strong person. She never leaves a project incomplete and she has this drive to motivate those around her to complete their projects as well. My mind always wonders, I'm always thinking about what to do next regardless of what my current project is. It has to be well thought out before I can complete a task. When we have the chance to work together it usually results in positivity. We work well together because she provides the motivation to keep going, while I provide the level minded thoughts. Both of which allow us to complete the project so we are both pleased. Our positive and negative personality traits lead us to success in business as well as friendship.


With all this being said I hope you can effectively pack your B.O.E. with items that will lead you to an inspiring and successful life. As always live, laugh and love!!!


~Ms. Suga~


Gabriela Falarz lives in Toronto, Canada. She has been up and down the scale for most of her life (mostly up), and is proud to say that she loves herself no matter what her size, although it has definitely been an evolution.


She blogs about size acceptance in her blog, Celebreight Yourself (  Gabriela discovered Large in Charge Radio about a year ago and has been hooked ever since. She is thrilled to be writing for Large in Charge and to be part of an organization that helps all large people realize how beautiful, special, and amazing they are.


Hello Everybody 

with Gabriela Falarz


 Hello, Large in Charge readers! My name is Gabriela and I’m thrilled to be writing this column. I thought I’d write my first column as an introduction and tell you a bit about myself. I live in Toronto, Canada, and I’ve been large for most of my life. I was a chubby kid, a plump teenager, and I’ve been varying sizes of large as a woman. It’s only been in about the last ten years (I’m 46 now) that I finally decided to embrace who I am and start focusing more on the inner me than the outer me.


We large people are constantly being told that we’re not good enough the way we are … that we need to lose weight in order to look the way other people want us to look. Some people are brazen enough to say this to our faces, but the majority of the messages we receive are usually more subtle. However, those so-called subtle messages are no less offensive than the overt ones … if anything, they’re even more hurtful, because they’re usually disguised as helpful suggestions or concerns about our health.


My column is going to be about everything plus-sized, but especially about the things that frustrate me as a large woman … the prejudice, the hypocrisy, and the misinformation. These are all realities that we have to deal with on a regular basis, and if I can help anyone deal with these stresses, this column will serve its purpose.


It’s funny how things happen in life. Little things that you would least expect can end up making a huge difference. I truly believe that no matter how nonsensical and crazy life sometimes feels, underneath all the chaos, a larger purpose is being served. A perfect example is how I discovered Large in Charge radio. Last Christmas, my family and I attended a book sale in search of Christmas gifts. As we were leaving, I noticed a ballot box for a contest. First prize was an iPod Touch, so me, my husband, and my daughter each filled out ballots and dropped them in the box. I totally forgot about it until 3 months later, when I received a phone call informing me that I’d won the iPod Touch. My daughter had her own iPod, so I took her old one and gave her the newer one. I went into the podcast section on iTunes, and that’s where I discovered Raqui’s radio show. If I hadn’t won that iPod, I might never have found it, and all these months spent listening to the show and getting to know the callers would never have happened, which would have been a huge loss for me.


It’s strange, but as a large girl in my teens, and as a large woman, I’ve had very few large friends. I was always the biggest girl in the group. Most of my friends in high school were very slim. I always felt like the odd one out, and spent a lot of time watching everyone else experience love and life from the sidelines. It would have been great if I’d had another large girl to talk to and share insights with, but I never had that opportunity. When I discovered Large in Charge radio, however, I felt like I was making up for lost time. Listening to Raqui, Trixxster, Lulu, Jello, Moe, and all the other callers made me feel so elated … FINALLY, people were talking about the things that mattered to ME, and people like me! Finally, I felt heard and understood.


I hope that those of you who read my column will feel the same way when you read the thoughts I share with you. I believe that everyone is special. Everyone has something to offer, no matter what their size. And maybe I’m a little biased, but I believe that we large people are especially special. We have a very unique way of looking at the world due to the injustices we’ve experienced because of our size, and in a strange way, it’s kind of a blessing. I remember hearing someone say that being fat is like having a built-in asshole detector, and I totally agree. We can spot superficiality a mile off. We instinctively know when someone is genuinely nice, or just pretending. We know what it’s like to feel like outsiders, to be ostracized and ridiculed, disrespected and disregarded. For that reason, we have very special insights to share, and the ability to reach out and educate people about injustice and discrimination.


We still have a lot of work to do in that regard. Society is starting to listen to us, and things are slowly changing. And thanks to Raqui and other size acceptance activists, we’re well on our way. Until next time … always remember to be proud of who you are. Talk to you soon!

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