Kamane' Malvo Marshall
Cover Model of the Month Interview
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name? Comedienne Queenie TT
aka Kamane' Malvo Marshall
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?
I was born and raised in the SF Bay Area but I have southern lineage on
both sides of my family, Louisiana and am very much a southern girl at
LargeInCharge.com: Were you a big child, or did you gain weight later in
I've been dealing with food and weight issues since I was eight years
old. I've lived at
different sizes of large for the majority of my life.
LargeInCharge.com: (If you were a big child) how did you feel growing up
as a large child?
It was difficult at times; however, I was very accepted amongst my peer
group because I've always had a warm, friendly, and outgoing personality
that attracted people to me.
If a new kid at school tried to pick on me, my friends would
always defend me and of course I would always have something sassy to
say. My parents raised me
to love myself no matter what the scale said.
However, in high school I moved to a predominately Caucasian
upper-middle class city and was ostracized by my peers for being a big
black female, but by the time I graduated I was the bell of the ball.
Once they got to know me, my charm won the over and to this day I
have people from high school who come to seem me at my comedy shows and
have also bought my novel, Praise Be to the Plus-Sized Sister.
LargeInCharge.com: (If you gained weight later in life) what caused you
to gain weight and how did you feel about it?
I am guilty of using food to anesthetize everything.
I am an emotional eater.
I admit it openly.
It's a constant battle for me not to binge eat.
Sometimes I win and sometimes I lose.
Right now I'm winning.
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to enter the LargeInCharge model
There are so many reason but to narrow it down; it's for exposure and
inspiration. I want to
showcase my gifts and talent to the BBW/FA community in an even greater
way. As a comedienne, I'm out there on the front lines representing
women who look like me, breaking down stereotypes, and changing
perceptions about the beauty and relevance of full-figured women.
When I look out into the audience, I want to see tables full of
big men and women celebrating right along with me!
LargeInCharge.com: Did you find it a hard journey to be accepted for
Yes, and I still do. Some
people hate fat people.
I've been discriminated against in some form or fashion all of my life.
As a triple minority: big, black, and female I face prejudice and
discrimination on three fronts.
However, it wasn't until I chose to develop myself esteem based
solely on God, self-love, serenity, and forgiveness did I not begin the
love affair I am currently having with myself.
I have forgiven the fat haters past, present, and future.
I am able to do so because I love myself and there is nothing in
this world that can defeat that.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance among your family and friends?
Yes. If you can't accept me
then I love you form a far.
There are certain family members who have a hard time seeing me
successful that I didn't have to lose weight first to get married, to be
a comedian, to write my book, to graduate from college, to enroll in
graduate school, to model in fashion shows, to be a motivational
speaker, to write my book, to inspire others....etc.
They want to keep me in a box because my success in spite of my
weight makes them uncomfortable and that is there problem not mine.
I pray for them and when the come around I'll be here.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
God, my husband, my parents, and modern-day miracles.
LargeInCharge.com: What is your primary occupation?
I am an entertainer and business own of my own entertainment company,
The Plus-Sized Sister Movement which is mainly fueled by my comedic
alter-ego Queenie TT and by my novel, Praise Be to the Plus-Sized Sister
which is available for purchase on Amazon.
LargeInCharge.com: How did you get into this line of work?
I've been performing all of my life, but stand-up comedy is my passion.
This amazing art form has been a place of healing for me. After being
diagnosed with Stage II Lymphedema Acute Hypothyroidism, the state of
California deemed me permanently disabled as there is no cure. This was
a wake up call for me all the way around. A year later I wrote and
published a novel, Praise Be to the Plus-Sized, which was a dream of
mine since graduating from college in 2002. The brash and sassy
character of Queenie TT was birthed from that endeavor. Encouraged by my
readers, I wrote a one-woman comedy show and began performing within the
gay and lesbian coffee house community in Sacramento. However, true
stand up comedy began within the Pepperbellys and Tommy T's comedy
communities. At the time I was still cane dependent and couldn't even
stand during a five minute set. Well, you should see me now. Not only
can I perform 15-30 minute sets standing up; at the end of each of my
sets I perform my signature TT dances that range from freestyle hip hop
This journey has been amazing. I'll be celebrating my year performing
stand-up comedy in February. So far I've opened up for Luenell, Tony
Roberts, BT Kingsley, and Donald Lacy. I've performed in professional
shows at Tommy T's, Laughs Unlimited, Pepperbellys, The Purple Onion,
Actor's Theatre, Celestine's, Velma's, and Kimballs Carnival. This past
year I've performed in fundraisers, at birthday and holiday parties,
belly-dance haflas, and poetry slams. In February I'll be performing
with Cocoa Brown for the ladies night Valentines show and in March, I'll
be performing at a Gospel Jam. My comedy is universal and ranges from
Bill Cosby clean to Lisa Lampanelli blue.
Ultimately, my message is about self-love, dispelling social myths about
what it means to be a big black woman in thin-obsessed, misogynistic,
racist, ageist, overtly prejudiced society. In my act, I proclaim with
sister-girl vibrato that "When I look in the mirror, I see Halle Berry
on snacks!" This line brings the house down every time. I love me some
Queenie TT because she's fearless, empowering, and inspirational.
LargeInCharge.com: Do you find acceptance in the work force?
I have for the most part.
Put it this way. Amongst
the professionals in the business, those who make the big decisions and
the seasoned performers and headliners, they have opened there arms up
to me and have helped me free of charge to fine tune my comedic skills.
They accept me.
However, amongst my peers, those who I am competing against for the
limited amount of hot gigs available for new comics, I've had some
issues even a few verbal altercations.
However, the Bay Area
comedy community, especially in Oakland and San Francisco have
embraced me whole-heartedly.
In the Bay Area comedy scene; it's been incredible, amazing,
exciting, inspiration and life-changing.
I've found so much love and acceptance within that community.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you believe should take place for
Large People in the work force?
Stop the discrimination period.
We have bills to pay too!
Weight has nothing to do with intelligence and being able to
LargeInCharge.com: What do you think about the fashion industry for big
It's improving but there is still room for growth.
If I wasn't a savvy fashionista and a fierce bargain hunter, I
wouldn't have a clue where to find beautiful, figure-flattering fashion
for my size 34 dress size.
LargeInCharge.com: What do you wish to see change with the fashion
Greater selection in the areas of lingerie, including body shaping and
silhouette enhancing undergarments, especially in the areas of hosiery.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen if plus sized
modeling for men and women were to expand?
I think it would help to aid in the advancement of the size acceptance
movement. After a certain
size, the media completely disregards large people.
More positive images of large-sized people will translate into
greater society because it will demystify yet humanize the lifestyle of
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us some of the places you buy your clothing
Zaftique.com, Romans, and various sellers on Ebay that have clothes that
go up to size 36/38,
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us
one of your secret beauty tips.
Body Shapers and a Good Bra.
Always buy the correct size.
Even if you have to buy a size bigger and take it to the tailor
to have it fitted to your figure makes all the difference.
If you find something that works, buy it in every color and use
accessories to make the outfits look different.
Find a good tailor that is size friendly and knows how to fit and
tailor for extra curvy figures.
I am bottom heavy and pair shaped with a beautiful waistline.
Often times I have to buy my clothes to fit my butt, hips, and
thighs and have my tailor take in the top. The extra expense is oh so
worth it because I look fabulous.
The trick is to wait for the sales, get on every online
advertising list you can and wait for that sale or send an email to the
customer service department and ask for a discount code or free
shipping. The money you
save can be reserved to pay for your tailoring.
LargeInCharge.com: Give us
some tips on how to have a successful Photo shoot. What should models be
Go there feeling fabulous and ready for anything.
Exercise before you go to make sure your body is warmed up and
ready to move. Make love to
your spouse or partner
the morning of he shoot and you will see the afterglow in your
eyes. If you are nervous
turn on some empowering diva music and do a sexy self-love dance naked
in your full-length mirror.
If you can find confidence in that mirror, you will be fierce fully
clothed behind that camera lens!
LargeInCharge.com: Look at Size acceptance five years ago... look at
size acceptance now. What
changes do you see?
Much larger models. More
diversity meaning more models that are women of color.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you think will happen five years from
now with size acceptance?
Hopefully, the same. I'd
love to see some 4x, 5x, 6x models in more mainstream fashion media
LargeInCharge.com: Tell us about your goals as far as modeling and other
My goal is to further my entertainment career but also to be a living
and breathing example that beauty comes in all shapes and size.
Too be woman is to be beautiful!
have you accomplished as a Plus Sized Model?
Career exposure, runway work, and meeting the goals as outline in the
mission statement of my business, The Plus-Sized Sister Movement which
states the following, “The Plus-Sized Sister Movement is an
entertainment company promoting the beauty and relevance of full-figured
women through size-positive literature, motivational speaking, comedy,
and fashion. The Plus-Sized Sister Movement is dedicated to empowering
women of all shapes and sizes to fully embrace the power of faith,
self-esteem, and self-confidence. By contributing positively to the size
acceptance community, The Plus-Sized Sister Movement's goals are set on
combating prejudice and discrimination on three fronts: race, gender,
LargeInCharge.com: Have you
entered or won any Contests, Pageants or Awards?
What was the experience like?
Tommy T's Best Open Mic (Finalist) - Rancho Cordova, California
Tommy T's Crowds Choice (1st Place, 2nd Place, 3rd Place)- Rancho
SFICC Comedy Competition (Preliminary Invitation)- San Francisco,
Missouri Street Poetry Slam (1st Place)-Fairfield, California
T2's Open Mic Comedy Competition (1st Place)-Sacramento, California
All of these experiences listed above were amazing because people
accepted the total package; my size, my gender, my race, and my talent
and called it “Winner.”
LargeInCharge.com: Can you tell us about an inspirational moment in you
life that made you feel good about your size.
There is so many to name but to narrow it down; every time I take the
stage as Queenie TT, every time I read from my book, Praise Be to the
Plus-Sized Sister, every time I walk out in the world representing for
women like me, every time my husband holds has me on his arm proclaiming
to the world that he loves the big beautiful woman in his life, every
time my parents tell me how proud they are of me, every time men and
women of all shapes, sizes, and hues give me a hug after the show and
tell me how much they love my comedy and that my journey, my story
LargeInCharge.com: Is there a person in your life that makes you keep
My husband. He is my rock, my strong tower, my covering, my inspiration
and the love of my life.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size
who want to model?
Get out there and do it!
Start your own portfolio online.
Get involved within your local community and put on a fashion
show of your on. Talk to
your local plus-sized shops and see if they'd be willing to sponsor a
fashion show. Combine your
efforts with other entities like poets, musicians, comedians...make it a
comedy fashion show. Trust
they exist. I've been in one.
LargeInCharge.com: What plus size figure do you most admire?
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
To view her Online
Raqui's New Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully
Raqui Host's Super Sized Seminar at 15th Annual Vegas Bash 2011
www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section
Raqui-ism - STOLEN IMAGES - The trend that can victimize
Written By: Raqui
It was November 2009 when I received a message from a friend.
They sent me a link to a publication called "The London Paper".
When I followed the link I found a picture I had taken a couple
of years before at an event in Connecticut when Jadox (A
friend, supporter of the plus sized community and rap artist
came from the West Coast (LA) to the East Coast (NY) for an
finally met in person and we took a picture together for a
did The London Paper do with this photo. They took our
faces out and put Famous Actress, Singer, Performer Jennifer
Lopez over my face and her husband Actor, Spanish and English
Singer, Performer Marc Anthony,
Jadox's face. They used the title "Find out what
J-Lo would look like as a Chav."
What is a Chav you may ask? - info
from Wikipedia and Urban Dictionary.
A Chav - is a stereotype of certain people in the United
Kingdom. Also known as a charver in Yorkshire and North East
England "chavs" are said to be aggressive and arrogant teenagers
and young adults, of underclass background, who repeatedly
engage in anti-social behavior such as street drinking, drug
abuse and rowdiness, or other forms of juvenile delinquency.
Chav - Derived from Chatham in Kent, this term can be applied
loosely to every culture with a nasty, thieving element. There
are many variants of this creature but all are subject to the
Chavs are completely Amoral, having never been subjected to
right and wrong by their inattentive, uncaring and often absent
Chavs are part Mag
pie, evidentially supported by their love of
all things shiny, or as vacuous, illiterate street-slang would
Whatever their ethnic background, Chavs have a built-in affinity
to hip-hop/R&B, even if they are inherently racist (see the
Scottish). They see their life as glamorous and cool.
Chavs are for the most part, extremely stupid. However, some of
them render a form of low cunning, which can be misinterpreted
as intelligence. However this is false. A Chav has no desire to
better themself through honest means nor learn anything outside
of car modification.
Chav - Sub species of human
Commonly thought to be of inferior intellect, the Chavette
surprises us with its cunning plan to avoid taking up a
professional career and provide itself with free accommodation
supplied by tax payers by spawning multi colored mini chavs at a
early stage in life, usually mid teens.
recognizable by their distinctive tribal Burberry they
congregate in town centers and on street corners, Chavs have a
reputation of being creative with public property and motor
vehicles, building themselves Chaviots out of mechcano sets and
strip lighting, and providing us with humorous banta written on
toilet walls like ‘Shit’ and ‘Tasha woz ere’ in an attempt to
relieve our boredom while urinating.
language is a basic form of English thus avoiding any words they
cannot spell or pronounce, even to the extent of creating new
words only they know the meaning of.
In other words we here in American
would say a Chav is Ghetto Trash. I
took it as a personal offense, Anyone who knows me or has dealt
with me knows that I am far from Ghetto and I am not
Trash. I have none of the above attributes of a Chav.
They stole a picture I have sole ownership of and used it to
degrade me, Jadox, Jennifer Lopez and Marc Anthony. None
of us are Ghetto Trash/Chav's.
I know many of you are thinking why talk about
this now. Well recently a Friend of mine Erica Watson, an
amazing comedienne, actress and all around talented woman was
also the victim of this horrible pattern that is still a ever
present problem through out the Internet, TV, Magazine,
The episode shows the character Tyana (Tatyana Ali, who you’ll remember
as the little sis on “Fresh Prince of Bel Air”) and her friend, Latrell,
talking about his new gig working as a trainer. He’s not an actual
trainer, but he’s duped some people into becoming his clients by hanging
up “before and after” posters. The “after” photo is of Tyana now; the
“before” photo is my friend Erica Watson with Tatyana Ali’s head
Photoshopped onto her body. Tyana is repulsed, shrieking, “How could
Photo Credit: Charlie T.
/ ScreenShot: From The Frisky
ABOUT WHAT HAPPEN TO ERICA IN OUR FEATURE SECTION FOR THIS
story was different from mine because she got the formal
apology she deserved where I did not.
Parker another friend of mine in the fight for size acceptance
tried to help me by calling The London Paper and their Head
Corporation "News International Newspapers
Ltd." which is located in London. They would not
remove the photo because they said that The London Paper website
was not active. Though it was clearly visible online.
They would not give me a formal apology nor a phone call, email,
or letter. They basically refused to acknowledge their
illegal actions and me as a human being.
not the first time nor the last. I was also alerted that
Plenty of Fish (a Dating website) Stole my image and used it for
advertising a Dating Site. No matter how many times I
called they would not return my emails or calls. They kept
giving me the run around.
isn't enough that those in the Entertainment industry are taking
photos for there use. There are those in our community
that do the same. Jerry Gatlin a self proclaimed photographer in
the plus sized community stole a photograph that was taken for a
special art project called The Full Beauty Project, and used it to promote himself. Even
though the photograph was not taken by him and was stolen with
out permission for use of any kind neither from me or Yossi
Loloi the photographer and creator of The Full Beauty Project...
More about this in the November 2010 Issue of LargeInCharge
of these cases I never received an apology and the images were
never removed. I was never asked if my picture could be used, I
never gave permission and I was never compensated in anyway.
This happens everyday and can happen to you as well. If you post
pictures to your accounts or anywhere on the net, there is a
chance you can have your image/work stolen.
that if you have been victimized in this way you are not alone,
and you should fight for your rights even when you think that no
one will do anything about it. We must be happy when
another member of our community gets the apology that is
deserved it is a victory for us all.
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the Plus Side
From the Plus side will be column dedicated to short stories that
deal with all aspects of Plus size Life. Emily Smiltneck was
chosen for this position because of her dedication, and realistic
writing style. She captures the emotional and mental rollercoaster
those who are Plus Sized go through.
Emily Susanne Smiltneck lives in the Upper Peninsula of Michigan
(pretty much dead center in the middle of nowhere). She is a
substitute teacher, and has recently started a tutoring business.
Emily is currently working on several writing projects,
including a historical fiction novel and several collections of
receives recognition in Neighbors Daily Press - See article below
It is a great joy when our fellow Plus Sized people receive
recognition for their life's work. Join me in this Joyous
moment when one of our LargeInCharge writers is seen for her
contribution and great dedication to her goals in life. Click
the images above to read the article about our dear Emily. When the
page open click on the article to zoom in and read it.
The Adventures of Phatgurl
by Emily Suzanne
Adventures Of Phatgurl
is a serial collection of stories about the adventures of Jany, a
plus-sized young woman who, in desperation, places an ad on a
personals website. As she embarks on her dates, she meets many
different kinds of men who expect many different things from her.
Some of her adventures are wildly amusing and others are more
serious and even sad.
If you have any
ideas or experiences, funny or otherwise, that you would like to see
depicted in a future Phatgurl story, please e-mail me at
I will do my very best to incorporate all reader ideas into future
SWSSBBW seeks SM
who will not rape her, emotionally or otherwise. The ability to
both speak and write in complete sentences is a plus. Must not
inadvertently throw her down stairs or pretend that she is “Mama.”
Intelligent conversation, a little respect, and the lack of a
current significant other will get you far. And a well-developed
sense of humor won’t hurt, either. If you like smart chicks with
jelly bellies and thunder thighs, reply to
“Jany?” Haroon whispered, when he managed to stop laughing.
“I am sorry.”
“I do not usually sleep with women like this.”
“You mean with two other people in the bed, or without your
pants on?” Jany giggled.
“I mean I do not sleep with women this soon.
I know we did not make love last night, but I feel like I
should not have been sleeping with you with—with no pants.
I really like you, Jany, and I’d like to spend more time with
you. I do not want you
to think I am the sort of man who—“
“Did you seriously just say ‘make love’?”
Selena sat abruptly upright.
“Who says that anymore?
“I—why—yes, I did,” Haroon stammered.
“So you love her?
You’re saying you love her.
Because it seems like you gotta, like, love someone to
make love to them.
Otherwise, it’s just sex.”
“Selena, shut up!” Jany hissed.
“I think we all know what he meant.
As if waking up in a bed with like a million other people
isn’t awkward enough, now we’re trying to have a serious
conversation and you have to make
that awkward, too?”
“I’m not the one who decided to have a serious conversation
while I was in bed with a
million other people.
It’s not like I was trying to listen or something!”
Selena threw her arms in the air in frustration, almost
slapping Jacob in the face as he sat up.
He wrapped his hand around her wrist and brought her arm back
down to her side.
“Looks like someone woke up on the wrong side of the bed,
Selena. And Jany.
Come on, girls.
Kiss and make up.”
Selena and Jany glared at one another.
Haroon, who hadn’t said anything since Selena’s outburst, had
scooted so far back he was nearly falling out of the bed and was
“This is no time for being crabby,” Jacob continued.
“We had a great night last night, a really wonderful time,
and now Haroon and I are in bed with two beautiful women.
Let’s not ruin it by fighting.”
Jany was pretty sure she knew what the problem was.
After everything they’d been through the previous day—Jany’s
frantic call to Selena for help, their flirtations at the bar,
Jany’s insistence that Selena was her date—Selena probably hadn’t
been overly impressed by Haroon’s confession of his feelings for
Jany. And Jany felt a
little guilty, even though his confession hadn’t been her idea.
Should she say something to indicate to him that she didn’t
feel the same way? That
wouldn’t be fair; she wasn’t sure how she really did feel.
The fact that Selena was soaking up Jacob’s attention had
sort of made her forget that she’d promised that she was Selena’s
date for the night.
Jany did the only thing she could think of that might break the
tension without saying something to hurt either Selena or Haroon:
she followed Jacob’s instructions.
She reached up, grabbed Selena’s head, and pulled it toward
her. As Selena gasped
in surprise, Jany kissed her, long and hard.
Their eyes locked again, more in surprise or even horror than
in passion, and when they pulled apart, both held their breath.
Haroon, round-eyed, had risen up on one elbow to watch.
Jacob smiled broadly.
“Thank you, Jany.
Didn’t that help?”
Neither of them answered.
Instead, they continued to stare, unsure whether their
standoff was over or not.
Finally, Jany tipped her head to the side and silently
mouthed, “Come on,” at Selena.
And then, just as Haroon hesitantly whispered, “You should do
that again, Jane,” Selena leaned over and kissed Jany in return.
Everything was okay.
“This is very, very different from how I thought my Sunday
morning would be,” Haroon said.
“I thought I would wake up by myself, very early, and drink
some coffee, and then I would spend the day studying.
Instead, I slept with other people and now—well, this is
interesting, isn’t it?”
Jacob laughed heartily.
“I thought that maybe you two were the kissin’ kind.
After all, I was there in the bar last night.
To be honest, that was part of what motivated me to bring you
all back here last night.”
“Pervert!” Selena spat, but she was smiling now.
“We’re not—well, I’m not—I mean, I like guys too.
So does she.
Really, I mainly like guys.
I just—well, Selena’s the only—I--we’ve—oh, God, never mind.”
Jany flushed bright red.
“No need to explain.
I think Haroon over there is glad to hear ya like boys.
He probably wouldn’t complain if ya kissed her again, though.
With less clothes on.”
“She was right.
You really are a pervert.
And I’m not sure that’s really what Haroon wants..”
“I do,” Haroon sighed.
“So you felt funny waking up next to me without pants on
because you thought I might get the wrong idea about what kind of
guy you are, but you have no problem with me getting naked right in
front of you? With
another girl? How’s
that for a double standard?”
“I—I just mean that I would not think badly of you.
You are both beautiful.
I would like to see that.”
Even Haroon’s skin wasn’t dark enough to hide the fact that
he was blushing.
“Let’s not fight again, girls.
We’re all here together, now, and we may as well enjoy
ourselves,” Jacob said gently.
“Jany? I think
they’re totally trying to talk us into an orgy,” Selena whispered.
“I heard that, and no, we’re not.
I don’t like that word.
Haroon isn’t trying to talk you into anything; he can barely
talk at all, in fact.
And I was merely suggesting that the two of you should enjoy
yourselves, here, in my bed, and that if the mood strikes us, Haroon
and I may enjoy you as well.”
“Well, now this is all just weird.
I don’t usually get naked and start making out on command,”
Jany said, lying down and hiding her face in a pillow.
It’s only natural.
Just relax and do what you’d do if you were alone.”
“Oh, you mean start talking about how much men suck?
‘Cause that’s how it usually starts.
Let me out. I
gotta pee.” Selena
shoved Jacob’s legs to the side and climbed out of the bed.
Selena left an uncomfortable silence behind her when she
exited the room. Jacob
shrugged, then threw back the blankets and wandered out after her.
“May as well get up, I guess,” he mumbled.
Haroon got up and followed him.
Jany, not sure exactly what she should do, stayed in the
bedroom, but she got out of bed, too, and walked over to the window.
The view was almost as pretty as it had been at dawn.
The sun and the sky were amazingly bright and clear, and the
two together seemed to magnify the colors of everything that existed
Jany turned around to see Selena hiding behind the half-closed door.
“They’re out in the kitchen.
We should—you know.
We should do what they wanted us to do.”
“You mean get naked and make out?”
“Why, Selena? I
mean, they’re not even in here.
It would just be us.”
“I’m kinda in the mood now, though.
I mean, after everything—and they’re not here to make us feel
weird about it.”
“Are you just doing this to try and make me forget about
Haroon? I know it
probably wasn’t that cool for you to hear the stuff he was saying
before, but don’t worry about it.
I don’t even know him that well—“
“Jane, shut up.
I just wanna kiss you.
Nothing to do with either of them, ‘kay?
I just wanna, like, mess around.
We were pretty hot an’ heavy last night ourselves, you know.
At the bar?
Jacob even noticed.”
Jany giggled nervously and glanced toward the kitchen.
Jacob and Haroon seemed to be keeping themselves busy.
“Yeah, we kinda were.
I just—“ Selena walked across the room and stopped her from
talking by kissing her.
Then she led Jany across the room and gently pushed her onto the
“Let’s get naked.”
“What if they come back in?”
“You really think they’re gonna mind?”
In answer, Jany slowly stretched her arms into the air.
Selena took the hint and slid Jany’s shirt up and over her
arms, then removed her own top.
She pressed breasts against Jany’s breasts and pressed her
lips against Jany’s lips.
Jany wanted to stop her, wanted to say that she just wasn’t
sure, that she was afraid of what might happen if Haroon and Jacob
came back, but when she opened her mouth, she moaned softly instead.
Without her permission, her legs parted and made room for one
of Selena’s legs to find a place between them.
And then, in the distance, she heard Jacob’s voice trying to
speak quietly but failing.
“Now this is what
I was waiting for!”
Thanks for reading
From the Plus Side with
Emily's Cool Links
Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his
writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to
writing Xander cook’s like he feels. A former Chicago native
transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the
fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society,
can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and
a easy recipe. They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty
addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a
great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far
by Xander The Food Dude
I have a very special friend named Paul, and in just a few
days, the grownups in his life will be celebrating his first
birthday. Plenty of my friends have children, but this is
the first time in my adult life that I’ve been so intimate
with the day-to-day, inch-by-inch development of a human
tadpole. In the few months that my friend’s diet has
expanded beyond the bottled facsimile of breast milk, I’ve
had the privilege of observing his experiences with this
thing called food, a front-row seat at the high-chair
theater, complete with bowl tossing, high-pitched screams
and other primal expressions of gustatory joy.
One night, I cooked a small pot of red lentils, suggesting
to his mother that it’s baby food as Mother Nature had
intended, self-pureeing in about 25 minutes. She agrees to
the experiment, eager for variety beyond sweet potatoes and
applesauce, but me, I’ve got bigger aspirations. I’m
secretly hoping that on some level the kid will intuitively
understand that his uncle is trying to expose him to the
world, that lentils just aren’t lentils; they’re culture and
history and nutrition and agriculture. (I also plan to
introduce him to the sounds of Miles Davis before his second
I wait for his reaction. At first, he grimaces, a sign of
cranky uncertainty, but he forges ahead, masticating like a
champ. He sings that “num, num, num” song and the chubby
legs begin to swing in excitement beneath the counter. He
grins wide, with all four teeth, and readily receives a
second helping. Folks, I think we’ve got a winner.
I thought a lot about
Paul and the purity of his experience with food. It’s free
of judgment and filled with wonder, joy and openness, a
sensory interaction of the highest order. And now his taste
knows lentils, something I didn’t experience until I was in
Paul may grow up to hate lentils -- and all the other
things I’ve got planned for him to taste. But taste is all
you can do in this life. My mother was insistent that we try
everything at least once before deciding we didn’t like
something on our plates, and I think that’s a good rule of
thumb for many aspects of life. Try everything once. Be open
to the flavors, textures and aromas that life presents you,
both smooth and velvety as well as sharp and bitter. Open
your mouth and taste something new everyday -- or something
familiar in a different way. When was the last time you bit
into a radish? Really tasted mustard from a spoon? Listened
to the crunch of a potato chip? Smelled the perfume of
sautéed onions? Life is delicious, every minute of every
day. Life is also precious. So let’s get busy.
Keep the spirit of cooking alive!
of the Month
1 onion, chopped
1/4 cup olive oil
2 carrots, diced
2 stalks celery, chopped
2 cloves garlic, minced
1 teaspoon dried oregano
1 bay leaf 1 teaspoon dried basil
1 (14.5 ounce) can crushed tomatoes
2 cups dry lentils
8 cups water
1/2 cup spinach, rinsed and thinly sliced
2 tablespoons vinegar salt to taste
ground black pepper to taste
In a large soup pot, heat oil over medium heat. Add
onions, carrots, and celery; cook and stir until onion is
tender. Stir in garlic, bay leaf, oregano, and basil; cook for 2
Stir in lentils, and add water and tomatoes. Bring to a
boil. Reduce heat, and simmer for at least 1 hour. When ready to
serve stir in spinach, and cook until it wilts. Stir in vinegar,
and season to taste with salt and pepper, and more vinegar if
2 tablespoons vegetable oil
1 onion, chopped
4 cloves garlic, minced
1 cup dry lentils
1 cup dry bulgur wheat
3 cups low fat, low sodium chicken broth
2 cups canned whole tomatoes, chopped
2 tablespoons chili powder
1 tablespoon ground cumin
salt and pepper to taste
In a large pot over medium high heat, combine the oil,
onion and garlic and sauté for 5 minutes. Stir in the lentils
and bulgur wheat. Add the broth, tomatoes, chili powder, cumin
and salt and pepper to taste. Bring to a boil, reduce heat to
low and simmer for 30 minutes, or until lentils are tender.
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By Xander the Food Dude
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2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational
curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didn’t worry about while she
piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake. Only a
few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to
walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot. Doctors finally
diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled
That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for
years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her
weight, it wasn’t until
this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches
following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something
about my weight." On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass
medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she
made for herself. In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to
learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one
who lives it every day.
Now Sharing her story Angie Bee (Sonya's Sister) is sharing
her Similar but entirely Unique Story with LargeInCharge Readers
through Sonya's Column.
Angie Bee - It's Time for Reflection
with Sonya Bennett
& Angie Bee
Well, it's that time of year again:
It's November; time to Meet, Greet and EAT!
I'm entering this month knowing that this is the season for eating.
Thanksgiving leads to Christmas and Christmas leads to
drinking (New Year's celebration with wine and cheese!).
Entering this time of year after having gastric bypass
surgery is something that dreams are NOT made of.
A year ago this month, I was a pending gastric bypass patient.
I distinctly remember getting the phone call from the
scheduling nurse, providing instructions for me to scale back my
food consumption just before embarking upon the biggest eating
holiday of the year. It
was required to lose as much weight as I could before the holidays.
I couldn't believe it!
My family was coming to my home for Thanksgiving Dinner and NOW you
want me to scale back my eating?!
My daughters were BOTH cooking turkeys and my grandmother was
bringing her famous Apple Cake recipe!
I was hoping that Thanksgiving would be my "Last Hoorah" of
overindulgence... but then again, I need to learn control.
What better way to do that than during the Thanksgiving
Holiday?! I spent the
holiday with my family in quiet reflection of the joy of having them
in my home rather than the greed of overeating.
I marveled at my 80+ year old grandmother flying alone from
Michigan to Florida in order to join us around the dinner table.
I beamed with pride over having both of my daughters and my
son-in-law with us for dinner and I giggled with joy watching my
younger sisters "switchin' in the kitchen".
My mother was there in Spirit and her hand was on my shoulder
to guide me as I turned away from second helpings and I was happy
with myself as I took control over my appetite.
As Thanksgiving 2011 approaches, I am thankful that I have reached
many milestones! I have
lost over 70 pounds since my gastric bypass surgery on February 28,
2011. I am off insulin
injections and diabetic prescriptions.
I am off the high blood pressure medicine.
My daughter tells me that I am no longer snoring and now I
need my CPAP machine adjusted (actually, I think my sleep apnea is
gone but I will wait for the actual diagnosis to determine that!)
At my last checkup in July, I had lost over 70 pounds.
My next checkup is next week.
I am standing now.
I am walking farther.
I am physically able to DO so much more than before!
I am not focused on food as my everything, just as a
necessity of life. I am
actually skipping many meals simply because I forget to eat; this is
not recommended as skipping meals can slow your weight loss.
I recently got my FIRST passport and when I compare that
picture with my driver’s license picture there is a measurable
difference in my facial appearance!
I attended a Christian rap concert and took photos with one
of the groups that performed.
I slapped that picture up on Facebook and got comments like
"you look so skinny" and "looking great!" - WOW!
When I reflect on where I was one year ago compared to today, I
can't believe how much my health has improved!
Remember, this time last year I was a PENDING patient!
God is good and His mercy is everlasting, and I pray that
this improvement in my health serves as a testimony for others.
I AM IN CHARGE OF MY LIFE!
I am in charge of my improving health and I am in charge of
Enjoy your Thanksgiving and rejoice with the time that you are
planning to spend with your families.
I will keep you all in my prayers and if it is the Lord's
Will... I will see you on the next day, and the day after that.
Happy Thanksgiving, Fam!
Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &
The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE
Syndicated Holy Hip Hop Radio Show
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The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs
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Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Healthcare Provider Guidelines Minus the Fat Bias
In the midst of our nation’s frenzy to fight fat, there is an
alarming increase in bias against fat patients among healthcare
providers. NAAFA is working to change that discriminatory
attitude by introducing our 2011 Guidelines for healthcare
providers who treat fat patients.
NAAFA has stepped up to provide education for healthcare providers
to help them better understand and treat fat patients. We
believe that the information included in NAAFA’s
Guidelines for healthcare providers who treat fat patients
will help them create a safer more welcoming environment for their
patient’s office visits as well as a more understanding attitude
which can lead to more open conversation about best health choices.
NAAFA believes in equality at every size.
Guidelines for healthcare providers who treat fat patients
is available as a free download from of our website at
Look for the link under “Quicklinks”.
Thanks for reading
From the Desk of NAAFA
Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A.
degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is
considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and
is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music,
movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos
This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.
wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge
magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for
largeincharge.com I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding
wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look
forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments!
Please let me know if you have a favorite. Web_girl1999@yahoo.com
Picks of the Month
Product of the Month
Fashion Find Type: Avenue
Sale Price: $ various
Hey Ladies, it that times again. End of summer sales and
if you’re a Fashionista! You should check out what I have
for you in store. That right!
Sale for the Fashionista in you!
Sizes 14-32 so ladies bring out the sexy in which you
Product of the Month
Recommended by: Lucia
Name of Product:
My Life by Mary J. Blige
Type of Product: Perfume
Where Product can be found:
If you’re hook on perfume like me… you’re going to
Love “My Life” by Mary J. Blige the sent is rich and warm.
Full body aroma that will have your man swooning and
ladies asking what are you wearing? Because it smell so
Go and try it for yourself I did and mmm….
Never leave the house without it.
Pat is a forty something woman living in
Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching
literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental
science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she
works in marketing.
Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for
organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to
help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries.
Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes
with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time
Fat and Fabulous
with Pat Llewellyn
I’m tired of all of the supposed well-meaning
articles/inspirational posts telling me how I should feel about
my body and how I should dress my body. I’m not talking about
posts that say love your curves, but the notes, comments, quotes
that shame you for not loving your body.
Seriously, people just need to stop and mind their own
business. Where I am in my personal journey is not going to be
the same place someone else is and we shouldn’t shame those who
aren’t as advanced as others. I know I share much of myself
here, but ultimately it is what I chose to share and I make no
apologies for how I feel.
In an ideal world
we would all love everything about ourselves. We don’t live in
an ideal world and we all have things we dislike about
ourselves. I have
issues with my belly. I make no bones about this. I’m trying to
love it, but I’m not there yet.
I also abhor the endless articles on how to dress my body
to minimize how big I look. Seriously? I’m over 300lbs, nothing
is going to make me look slim. NOTHING.I also think a lot of the
rules are just stupid. Who decided that fat people, shouldn’t
wear stripes, animal print, miniskirts, form fitting clothes and
should always keep their arms covered?
You know what? I DON’T CARE about the rules. I’m going to
wear what I like and what feels good to me.
Don’t like it? Don’t look at me.
I’m fat and fabulous, don’t you forget it.
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
I am who I am! Like me Love me Hate me... F*** You!
with Ms Suga
So somehow or another I have gotten hooked on Oprah's new
show called Oprah's Lifeclass
on her station OWN. If you haven't come across it yet I do recommend
you check out at least one episode. I'm sure you will get some
positive inspiration from it.
Any who, I was catching up on the episodes I missed and it
so happened one episode is about accepting and loving your true
self. In this episode the lesson said, "If
you are keeping a secret or pretending to be something you're not,
you will never become all you were meant to be." The main focus
was the episode of Oprah’s talk show about Ellen DeGeneres "coming
out" and how much of a stink the public made about gay and lesbian
relationships. The show
also showed how much happier Ellen, just like everyone else that
came out before her, was with herself once she came out to the world
and freed herself of her painful secret. This show got me to
thinking and you know what...I am who I am! Like me Love me Hate
As a plus size woman I have been subjected to all types of
opinions and criticisms. My mother has always hounded me about
losing weight...it never worked but that never stopped her from
nagging me about it. I've been told you are so pretty for a big girl
(like there’s some rule that you can't be fat AND pretty). Been told
that if I sleep with a guy he'll love me, and other bullshit
opinions that others felt I should live my life by. Well after 25
years of listening to bullshit let me tell you how I feel about
everyone else's opinions and criticisms...I am who I am! Like me
Love me Hate me...F* You!!
It's about time that we learn to love ourselves as God has
created us to be and accept the things we cannot change. Large In
Charge is a company that supports Size acceptance and now I think we
should take it a step further. I challenge you to support SELF
acceptance. If you don't like something about yourself change it, do
what you need to do so you can live a happier, healthier life. But
do it for YOU!!
In case you didn't know Ms. Suga is here for a reason and
I refuse to let someone else interfere with the blessings I am to
receive or the blessings I've been chosen to deliver. So I say F*
the world! F* the bully that picked on you as a child.
F* the person that broke your
heart and left you bitter and angry.
F* that negative person who always told you that you will
never be good enough. (Don't get it twisted were still positive and
inspirational… F = FORGIVE!!) Forgive
all those the world has against you and support accepting yourSELF.
And when that person steps to you again spewing ignorance
and negativity tell them “Ms. Suga said to tell you. I am who I am!
You can like me, you can love me, you can hate me, and I forgive you
because I still am who I am!"
Gabriela Falarz lives in Toronto, Canada.
She has been up and down the scale for most of her life (mostly up),
and is proud to say that she loves herself no matter what her size,
although it has definitely been an evolution.
She blogs about size acceptance in her blog,
Celebreight Yourself (www.celebreightyourself.blogspot.com).
Gabriela discovered Large in Charge Radio about a year ago
and has been hooked ever since. She is thrilled to be writing for
Large in Charge and to be part of an organization that helps all
large people realize how beautiful, special, and amazing they are.
Fairweather Fat Girls
with Gabriela Falarz
Have you ever noticed that some of the most annoying and
prejudicial people are former fat people? They are usually the
stereotypical fat girls who grew up fat, excluded, teased, and
marginalized. Then, suddenly -- they see the light! They realized
that they were being left out, teased, and marginalized for a very
good reason: they deserved it for being too goddam fat! So they go
on some temporary “miracle” diet or undergo bariatric surgery, and,
once they lose a significant amount of weight, feel they have earned
the right to be one of the beautiful people and new leaders in the
fight against fat.
I have nothing against anyone who wants to lose weight. If
that is your choice, go for it, and I wish you well. What bothers me
is when someone goes to great lengths to pretend that they love
themselves when they don’t. These people always show their true
colors eventually, and reveal how much they really hated themselves
and others like them.
Classic examples are the celebrity diet hawkers. Let’s
start with Jennifer Hudson. When she appeared in the movie
“Dreamgirls”, she was too large to be cast in the starring role, but
gained undeniable acclaim (and even won a best supporting actress
Oscar) in a lesser role. She seemed to be a great role model for
other large women -- the quintessential proud, beautiful, confident
woman. A few years later, she is shilling for Weight Watchers,
sporting a very svelte body. She proudly tells everyone she works
out on a daily basis, in what must be a frantic effort to maintain
that newly svelte body.
What about Oprah, whose fight with fat was such a public
spectacle? Do you remember when she went on that Optifast diet all
those years ago and came out hauling that wagon of fat in her
skintight jeans? Somehow, after Oprah lost the weight (even though
she kept going up and down the scale over the years), she seemed to
lose a fundamental part of herself far more significant than the
weight. She lost that soft, open, easy likeability that made her so
popular, and she began to let streaks of incredible vanity and body
hatred peep through.
The latest hypocrite on the fat-loving train is Jess
Weiner, who recently did an interview with Glamour magazine. This is
a woman who made a career out of being a “self-esteem expert”, the
author of a book titled “Do I Look Fat in This? Life Doesn’t Begin
Five Pounds From Now”. She had been an advocate of plus-sized women
loving their bodies for 17 years. After a visit to her doctor --
where she supposedly discovered she was “pre-diabetic” -- she
concluded that her body love was killing her, and decided to go on a
diet and start exercising rigorously. The last I heard – get this! –
she is now promoting a diet program. How’s that for irony?
How about those diet commercials, where everyday women are
shown alongside their fat pictures? Most of the women in these
commercials aren’t even significantly overweight. They just have a
slight belly or thick thighs, or some miniscule body imperfection.
They’re usually standing in bikinis or skintight dresses to
emphasize how much better they look than the pictures of their
former fat selves. They’re smiling from ear to ear, and happily
telling us how glad they are to be rid of their former bodies. Now
they can live! Thank you Weight Watchers, Jenny Craig, NutriSystem!
I remember seeing a diet commercial where a young
woman gleefully ripped an old picture of herself in half and happily
threw it away, saying “Never again!” It made me feel incredibly sad
to think that this person hated herself so much that she actually
enjoyed ripping a picture of herself in half. I’ve got news for you,
lady: That old you is still there. She always
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