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It has been almost Eight years since LargeInCharge opened its online
doors to the Big World. We started with 740 readers March 2004.
We have built up to over 800,000 readers a month. We have
continuously given the Big World article after article. Fashion
tips and clothing companies. Hot events and self-esteem
advice. Interesting information and cool products. We have
changed, grown and become better. Online Magazines are the big
now, doing better than physical paper magazines. Any successful
magazine must have an online presence. LargeInCharge has been
leading the way for the Plus Sized Community.
Now with our Seventh annual Cover Model Search taking place we are
beaming with pride. LargeInCharge keeps our entrance to be a cover
model free by using photographs that the person submits for our covers.
We donít ask for an entry or submission fee from our models. All
we ask for is clear good photographs that would be considered portfolio
type of pictures. At the end of the year we have a voting for the public
and name one of them
Cover Model of the Year
he or she wins prizes and possibly money from our sponsors depending on
what our sponsors give that year.
Being a LargeInCharge cover model can be a great add on to your comp
card or resume. It can also be a feather in the cap of aspiring
models. So many beautiful and handsome big men and women who are
not professional models can now be featured where they will be
appreciated. NO MORE SIZE 18 or 2XL ONLY MODELS. AGE DOESN'T
MATTER. NO MORE FETISH ONLY PICTURES. We like them professional
and in all sizes INCLUDING SUPER SIZED. There are no limits with
REAL MEN... REAL WOMEN... REAL BODIES
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email me and ask before you send in your entry. Any Entries that
are not sent in properly will be thrown out. Take the time to send in
your entry properly.
Raqui does not Guide, Help, Preview, Custom Pick Photos of any model or
submission. It is unfair to all applicants. All Males and Females are
free to enter and encouraged to submit according to guidelines. - Thank
Send In the following
- You must send at least two of each.
One or more Head shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire
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NOTE: the more pictures you send it the better.
Type of pictures
Digital or scanned pictures only
NO WEBCAM PICTURES, FUZZY, DISCOLORED, OLD
The Picture must represent you in your Current State
Pictures must be of one person, no group shots.
Pictures of Big Males and Females only.
Pictures must be clear with no watermarks. (EXCEPTION: photographers
Pictures cannot be smaller than 300 DPI, 800 x 600 pixels
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lingerie is allowed.
Nude is not allowed unless it is artistic. No private areas shown.
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natural, proper size.
You are free to browse our past cover models to get an idea of what we
are looking for.
- You can send in pictures for any of the below categories
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and colors. Winter backgrounds scenes
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Fall - Fall colors and sweaters. Earthy natural settings. Fall
Ethnic - Ethnic prints and colors. Ethnic combinations of fabric
and prints. Jewelry
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Sporty - Sports clothing of all types. Participating in sports. Jogging,
walking, basketball, football, skating. Etc.
Exercise - In exercise outfits, gym scene etc.
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January to - March Months. You are free to apply while the search
is active. By visiting the active part of LargeInCharge Magazine
during the above months. You cannot apply through the BACK ISSUES.
What will I receive if I am picked to be a 2012 Cover Model
You will be Showcased for the Month you appear as our Cover Model,
appear on the cover and remain in our database.
You will be entered in our Yearly Cover Model contest to win a Trophy
and Prizes at the end of the year.
For the Cover Model of the Year - you will be featured as COVER MODEL OF
THE YEAR for the New Years February edition. You will be required to
update us with pictures and a statement.
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Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
To view her Online
Raqui's New Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully
Raqui Host's Super Sized Seminar at 15th Annual Vegas Bash 2011
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Raqui-ism - Raqui Bringing them HELL in 2012!
Written By: Raqui
When I had to make a good decision for me I LEAPT IN... I JUMPED...
I CLEARED obstacles that I never thought I could. Before I CARED to
much... I LOVED to much... I CRIED too much. No one cared and when
the pot came to boil... and the water was getting low... No one
rejuvenated me... No one filled me back up... even though I filled
them up on the regular. They let my pot burn lower and lower until I
felt the heat and I wanted to DIE because I couldn't understand...
WHY did you have to be like that? Just when I thought i would lose
my mind... I knocked myself over and ran from the bleakness that was
my existence and I started A NEW!
SO BACK UP... BACK DOWN... Get out my way because I am Bringing them
HELL IN 2012 and I am living it, RIDING IT TILL THE DAMN WHEELS FALL
OFF and I GROW FARTHER BRIGHTER THAN THE STARS IN HEAVEN! MY MIND
CLEAR... UNCLUTTERED.. Nothing left to say... Don't ask a question
that you donít want an answer to!
100% HONESTY, UNADULTERATED RAQUI all day all Year! I'M BRINGING
THEM HELL IN 2012 will you join me?
Now some words from my Facebook Peeps:
Thoughts for 2012
can honestly say that this year changed my life. Reflecting back on
my many blessings and looking forward to new beginnings. ? Happy New
Stacey 'Ena' Williams
To see 2012 be a year we overcome animal abuse, animal fighting for
sport, the closing of kill shelters, and the end of puppy mill pups
and their sale in pet stores worldwide and in place rescue animals.
To stop inhumane slaughter and better conditions for produce only
animals whether for meat or dairy even eggs at market. My 2012 is
all about forever homes for our furry, feathered and scaly friends
and simply better conditions entirely.
Just hoping 2012 is better than 2011..
Happy New Year to everyone. I hope 2012 brings health, happiness and
peace to my family and friends. God Bless us all in the new
Leslie Brooks To be more financially responsible; enjoy spending
more time with my mom and just be more happy
?2012 here I come! Leaving 2011 in my rear view mirror, but keeping
the lessons learned in my back seat!
Gina ItsaNew-Day Carter
Happy New Year, my friends! Another year, another year of wonderful
moments! I cherish them and YOU all! I will be enjoying a quiet
celebration, but in my heart I'll be celebrating with every one of
you - beginning with my friends in Sweden, onto England, then as the
time zones cross the states - wheeeee!! 2012 gonna be a GOOD YEAR!!
Trina Biggirlsdoitbest Greene
<------------- JUST LOVING LIFE! 2012 READY OR NOT HERE I COME WITH
I am so blessed for ALL that is gifted to me... My little ones, my
Love and my health. How can I not feel guilty for having so much?
Time to soul search, conclude, accept and forgive as best as my
being will let me. I couldn't get this far without my Best Friend
and Love... I've been waiting for him for far too long.
I Love You Babe!
This year has been really unpredictable for everyone....My thoughts
for 2011 is to be more aware of whats going on in the world. Keep
your family and love ones close and forgive anyone that has ever
done anything for you! Take no grudges in 2012...
Johnny J Martin Jr. Okay...here's a few thoughts I had...
To get out there and truly live....To improve the quality of my life
through exercise (which I hate, but it must be done..) To get all
financial affairs in order, but at the same time, to not be afraid
to spend a little extra for quality when it's needed...To seek the
company of good people, so that it's easier to deal with the bad
ones, cause they always show up.
Wake up every day with a positive attitude and when the world sees
you smiling than the world will smile back at you.. you know what
they say about a smile, it's contagious and that's one thing I would
love to catch every day for the rest of my life :)
Jolene K Morgan
thoughts for 2012 are to love and laugh and live as though everyday
were my last. It is 2012 after all ;)
I am thankful for family that got me through some really rough times
in life I thankful for the friends that never turned their backs on
me I am also thankful for the new friends I made and also for
finding love again someone that accepts me for who I am and not
trying to change me to who they want me to be
- Weekly Radio show discussing Plus Sized Issues. Friday's 7-9
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Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his
writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to
writing Xander cookís like he feels. A former Chicago native
transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the
fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society,
can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and
a easy recipe. They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty
addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a
great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far
My Bag of Hope
by Xander The Food Dude
My job forces me to see the pain that others suffer through
on a daily basis.
I see it all levels.
It can be physical, emotional, intellectual, or any
other of a host of hurts.
At this time of year, even in a time of short
supplies, there are those people who involve themselves in
However, there are those who unselfishly engage in the
activity of helping others all year long.
One of these groups is one that is near and dear to
There is a local group of ladies who make duffle bags for
the children in our Department of Childrenís Services.
Each bag is filled with toys, necessities, and a
When we get children who have to come into the office and
stay for a while waiting for placement, they are given one
of these bags.
They come designed for different aged children, however the
effect is quite similar.
Picture a child having been neglected or abused being
brought in the office.
A little face with the dried path of where tears had
been are evident on a downturned face.
A little soul who should never been harmed in such a
way. Even worse
still, that mind in the child blaming themselves for having
There is no hope.
They are taken to a cubicle where the sit quietly,
scared, and alone.
Despite the abuse they have received, they only want
to go back home at this point.
Again, they blame themselves.
They repeat over and over again, Iíll be good, I
promise,Ö.. I promise.
They have no hope. They have nothing except the
clothes they are wearing.
A bag is presented to them, being told that this is theirs
to keep. The
are scared to touch it.
Older hands help open the bag revealing the first of
a few treasures in the bag.
More often then not it is a stuffed animal.
Slowly it is taken.
Then it is hugged tightly as one would hold a shield
to protect themselves from attack.
A few more toys, crayons, coloring book.
The child eyes open wider, their head raises
last the biggest item, a handmade quilt.
They take the quilt and put their face into it.
They hide from this world that had treated them so
almost seems as though they were given the opportunity, the
would stay there for and eternity, protected from all the
pain they feel.
Suddenly and slowly, the child becomes more than the pain
they feel. Even
if for a moment only they feel normal.
In that moment, if you pay attention you can almost
make out the beginning of a light in that childís eyes.
There is an ember of hope.
Of the many times I have seen this happen it always strikes
me as though a miracle had happen.
I donít mean to insinuate that the child doesnít have hard
times ahead, but in facing those they have a shield and safe
area. One bag
of items. It
doesnít seem like much but its enough to keep hope alive,
even if just from moment to moment.
I hope you holiday season is filled with hope and
to look for the miracles that happen all year long, not just
during the season.
Peace and Love to all of you.
of the Month
Holidays Ham Bone Soup
1 ham bone with some meat
1 small onion, finely chopped
1 (15 ounce) can whole peeled tomatoes with juice
1 (14 ounce) package frozen mixed vegetables, thawed
3 potatoes, peeled and diced
1 1/2 cups uncooked elbow macaroni
3/4 cup uncooked long grain rice
1 cup chopped cooked ham, or amount leftover
1 (10 ounce) can tomato sauce
1. Place the
ham bone into a large pot and fill with enough water to cover.
Bring to a boil and cook for 15 minutes. Add the onion and
tomatoes, then stir in the frozen mixed vegetables and potatoes.
Simmer for about 20 minutes, then add the macaroni, rice, and
chopped ham. Cover and simmer over medium-low heat for 1 1/2
hours. Any ham on the bone should come off easily. Stir in the
tomato sauce and let cool for about 15 minutes before serving.
Thank you for
Reading Good Food 4U
By Xander the Food Dude
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2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational
curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didnít worry about while she
piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake. Only a
few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to
walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot. Doctors finally
diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled
That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for
years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her
weight, it wasnít until
this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches
following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something
about my weight." On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass
medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she
made for herself. In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to
learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one
who lives it every day.
Now Sharing her story Angie Bee (Sonya's Sister) is sharing
her Similar but entirely Unique Story with LargeInCharge Readers
through Sonya's Column.
Angie Bee - Too Busy for Me? Not THIS Christmas!
with Sonya Bennett
& Angie Bee
I was driving to yet another Christmas event, stuck in traffic and
wishing I had slept in longer.
As an event planner and promoter it makes sense to get to the
event early in order to greet everyone.
Even if it means that I'm there all day.
"Why do I do this to myself?", I wondered.
Then, I took a look in the rear view mirror and smiled at myself.
I even whipped out my camera phone as I stopped at the red
light. "I look great
today! I SHOULD be out
enjoying the season and spending Christmas the way I WANT to spend
The holidays can sometimes make us feel as if we owe something to
the world. "I just
GOTTA get a gift for everyone on my list!" and "this person has been
good to me this year, so I gotta get them something BIG!"
Christmas is the time for giving, and we give our time
volunteering and doing more at school, church and at work (gotta
earn that Christmas Bonus!)
Christmas brings the start of the end of the year and we find
ourselves doing even more during Christmas than we have ever done
all year long! Are we
really in charge of the Christmas holiday, or is it in charge of us?
More people look at the holidays as a time to splurge.
You travel to go see family, you go into debt decorating the
house and you stay in relationships that you need to end because you
want that last gift!
Financial analysts have reported that this Christmas, credit card
spending is up; yet they anticipate a crash in February when those
loan payments become past due.
I pray this isn't true.
Is getting in debt really worth it?
One of my relatives complains all year about how hard she works.
She works one full time job during the week, another part
time job on Saturdays and even a third "seasonal" gig.
By the time Christmas comes, she is exhausted and everyone
around her feels her pain.
I feel so badly that she works so hard that I don't even WANT
to receive a gift from her at Christmas!
She is so stressed during the year that all I want from her
is to see her more in charge of her time and enjoying her life!
I raised two daughters during my lifetime.
My "baby" will be 19 years old in March.
Years ago I was faced with not spending Christmas with my
children as I shared visitation with their father.
I remember that first lonely Christmas.
I was happy that my children were being lavished with gifts
by their family and if was a nice break not to have to cook and
clean and chauffeur kids to and from school... but my greatest gift
was knowing that my family gathered around me to keep me encouraged
and to make me feel loved.
My sisters and parents and grandparents loved on me... not
with expensive gifts but with the encouragement that I needed.
They let me know then, and every year since that they will
always be there for me!
Through unemployment, disability, illness and despair I can say that
my greatest Christmas gift has been that I have always had the grace
of God and my family by my side.
Even when I was suicidal and temporarily was not in charge of
my life, I could feel goodness and mercy all around.
I know that people lavished me with gifts during my trials...
but I honestly can't remember what one of those wrapped items where.
What I do remember is the love and fellowship that every
Christmas brought my way... and I pray that YOU feel the same this
Merry Christmas and have a Safe and Happy New Year!
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Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
NAAFA Convention EARLY BIRD SPECIAL!
NAAFA Convention EARLYBIRD SPECIAL!
NAAFA is pleased to announce that we will return to the San
Francisco Bay Area for our 2012 fund-raising convention.
We have worked hard to keep the cost of this convention down
and to move quickly in making our convention package available in
time for you to give or receive a convention package for the
NAAFA is once again offering a Early Bird Special price is $199.00
from January 1 through May 31, 2012.
Beginning June 1, 2012, full convention price will be
The 2012 NAAFA Convention Package would make a great holiday gift
for you, your family and all your friends!
Canít afford a convention package?
Why not give a one year contributing NAAFA membership for
Make your reservations at the Westin San Francisco Airport Hotel.
Room rates are $89 per night!
This group rate will be available until July 10, 2012.
Westin is prepared to receive your NAAFA convention
reservations today at:
We encourage you to register for the NAAFA convention package today
and to fully participate in this life-changing event.
We made it easy for you to register for the convention as
well as the hotel through our website at www.naafa.org.
Watch our website for more exciting details as they become
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people.
NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size
and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through
public education, advocacy, and member support.
On the web:
Thanks for reading
From the Desk of NAAFA
Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A.
degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is
considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and
is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music,
movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos
This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.
wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge
magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for
largeincharge.com I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding
wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look
forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments!
Please let me know if you have a favorite. Web_girl1999@yahoo.com
Picks of the Month
Product of the Month
Fashion Find Type: AVENUE
Sale Price: 60
After The Holiday Sale! 60% off on all Tops, Sweaters,
Pants, Dress, Coats, Intimates, and Shoes. Make sure you
check out the Clearance rack.
Avenue is one of my must do list when they have
Ösee for yourself.
Iím off (((Ciao Bella)))
Product of the Month
Recommended by: Lucia
Name of Product: Castello Del Poggio Moscato D'asti 750ML
Type of Product: Wine
Where Product can be found:
Castello del Poggio Moscato d'Asti 2010 - Tasting
Notes Sweet but not at all cloying; well-balanced and with
an extremely refined fruitiness. Winemaker Notes
Fermentation is allowed to progress until the wine has
obtained 5% alcohol. Then the grape's natural sugar content
is preserved by refrigeration in order to give the wine its
unique sweet and aromatic characteristics. Food Pairings
Excellent at the end of a meal with desserts or fruit
(especially fruit salad) also delicious with ice cream or
just on its own as an accompaniment to conversation among
Pat is a forty something woman living in
Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching
literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental
science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she
works in marketing.
Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for
organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to
help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries.
Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes
with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time
Facebook Changed my Life...
with Pat Llewellyn
Facebook changed my lifeÖ
Let me explain. As most fatties do, I had struggled with my
weight all my life. I had been taught to hate my fat body and
strive to be thin at all costs. Needless to say, I failed at
loosing weight miserably. I would loose the weight and then gain
it back. In 2007 I
was a few years away from turning 40 and I was tired of hating
Like many people, my first glance into the subculture of BBWís
and FAís was the on CSI episode where they featured the Vegas
BBW Bash. I wasnít ready to do anything with that information
yet, but I kept the information filed away in my brain.
A few years later after the death of my mother and a failed
engagement I was ready to shake up my world. I didnít know what
I wanted, but I knew I wanted more. At this point I had
discovered Facebook and started to reconnect with people from my
past. One of these people had a link to a Toronto group that was
for plus size women and their admirers.
I joined the online community/bulletin board and eased my way
into the community. After 2 months of chatting and having my
interest piqued, the time to put up or shut up came. The first
BBW event since I joined the board was happening.
I had never met any of the people on the board in person
and I was nervous.
I booked a hotel room and bought a ticket and announced my
intentions to attend the event alone. Thankfully someone took
pity on my and invited me to stay in her hotel room with her. I
cancelled the room that I booked, packed up my stuff for the
night, drove to Toronto and patiently waited for my roomie @ the
hotel. I met so
many people that night and had so much fun.
Iím not going to lie and tell you that my life has been a bed of
roses since that night, but in the 3+ years since then I have
made some fabulous friends, gone to several mini bashes and I am
going to my 3rd BBW Las Vegas Bash this year. Most
importantly, I have learned to love the body I have.
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Sugaís first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
Same Shit... Different Date
with Ms Suga
So the New Years is past and gone. The ball has dropped, champagne
bottles have popped and resolutions have been set into play. Now
what? What are you going to do to stand out from the rest?
Think about it...Yeah it's the beginning of a new year but what
makes this year so special? Hell... What makes today so special?
Think about it like this "Today is the first day of the rest of your
life"... heard that before? Well it fits.
Let me ask you this: are you going to follow the 3C's and make a
choice to take a chance to get a change? Or are you gonna do the
same shit you been doing?
They say the definition of insane is doing the same thing over and
over again expecting a different outcome. So what are you gonna do?
It doesn't take a rocket scientist to see that everyone wants better
for themselves but how can one tell who is willing to do what it
takes to make a change?
Or are you gonna to continue the mundane journey of going insane?
I can only speak for myself and Ms. Suga has a few changes under her
belt that were in motion way before the holidays started. Contrary
to what some may think (and what I may tell you) Ms. Suga in all her
beautiful wonderful BIG essence isn't perfect. But donít you dare
repeat that! You may wonder why I started so "early" with my
resolutions but you must realize that change doesn't happen
overnight. One cannot
expect your mindset and routines to change just because the date
does. We all have to put in the work to see the results.
So that resolution to lose weight may not happen in the first three
weeks of the year...it will take time to accomplish your goal. But
just make sure you are doing it the right way. Incorporate life
changes to make your goals more realistic. First you have to set
minor reachable goals in order to even see the giant nearly
It's time to push those mediocre ways out the window and climb the
ladder to success. Remember the only person you have control over is
yourself. So if you have to cuss self out to get the fire lit under
your ass...DO IT!!! If you have to look in the mirror and finally
have that realization that change comes from with in...DO IT!
Now I don't encourage you to do any life changes alone. We all need
a partner to help push us and suffer with us and celebrate with us
when life begins to change. But whatever it takes to get your gears
moving make it happen. I encourage you to think differently, work
harder and work smarter. The revolution has to start somewhere it
might as well start in you.
So the New Years is past and gone. The ball has dropped, champagne
bottles have popped and resolutions have been set into play. Now
what? Are you jumping on the train of progress or are you standing
at the corner of Same shit, different date?
Gabriela Falarz lives in Toronto, Canada.
She has been up and down the scale for most of her life (mostly up),
and is proud to say that she loves herself no matter what her size,
although it has definitely been an evolution.
She blogs about size acceptance in her blog,
Celebreight Yourself (www.celebreightyourself.blogspot.com).
Gabriela discovered Large in Charge Radio about a year ago
and has been hooked ever since. She is thrilled to be writing for
Large in Charge and to be part of an organization that helps all
large people realize how beautiful, special, and amazing they are.
Ask Yourself This Question
with Gabriela Falarz
Weíve all had those feelings of emptiness that we donít want to deal
with. A lot of us get them in front of the TV at night, when the
responsibilities of the day have been dealt with and we finally get
a chance to sit quietly and relax our minds. A lot of us donít even
know we are empty. All we know is that this feeling is unpleasant
and we need to dull it or escape it somehow. Some people use
alcohol; others use drugs; some use sex; and other people (I am one
of them) use food.
I have no doubt that I am the weight I am today because of emotional
eating. If I wasnít prone to it, I know in my heart that I would not
be as heavy as I am today. I would probably be at least somewhat
chunky, because all the women in my family have large body types;
but I donít think I would be as large as I am now if it werenít due
to emotional eating.
Thankfully, I have come to the point where I donít hate myself for
my weight. I donít hate myself for my emotional eating either. I
know that my weight has nothing to do with who I am as a person, or
all the great things I am capable of. But I do know that this
propensity doesnít serve me well.
I think the feeling all emotional eaters are trying to escape is a
feeling of wanting. We
want something we canít have or something that has been denied to us
in some way. It feels like this want is so deep that it almost feels
like it will eat us up. Isnít that ironic? So we eat to fill that
A lot of us think that wants are actually needs Ö but theyíre not.
There is only one thing you really need: YOU. Certainly, other
things are important Ė our families, our jobs, our homes, for
example. But when it comes down to it Ö if all those things were
taken away from you, would you cease to exist? You might be in a lot
of pain about losing those things, but you would still be HERE.
Right here, right now Ö breathing, walking, and talking.
This might sound like metaphysical nonsense, but if you really think
about it, I think you will agree that you are all you really need.
If you want something that you donít have Ö itís okay. Itís not
wrong to want something and try to get it. But if it eludes you (and
it usually feels like itís no matter how hard you try) Ö ITíS OKAY.
It could be that you are not meant to have what you think you want
for a very good reason. Maybe your higher self is telling you that
itís really not good for you at all Ö you just donít know it yet.
Maybe it is protecting you.
The worst thing we can do when we feel pain is to dull it so that we
can ignore it. We need to feel it and experience it before it can
heal. If you are chopping vegetables in the kitchen and accidentally
cut yourself with the knife, it hurts like hell for awhile. It
throbs and aches Ö but because you are not blocking it and you know
that it will heal through its own miraculous process, the pain
starts to recede and go away. You donít even notice it anymore.
Pretty soon, it has healed. There might not even be a scar.
This is what we need to do when we feel those wants. We need to
resist reaching for something to try and dull those wants, because
itís only through feeling them that we realize weíll be okay without
Kathy is originally from a small town in Michigan but has lived in
San Diego County since she's been 18 years old. Kathy
graduated from San Diego State University with a Bachelors in
Finance in 1999.
She has a real estate brokerís license and works as a mortgage
Kathy also owns BBW Club Catalina in San Diego which has monthly
night club parties and other fun events on a frequent basis.
Kathy has been an avid supporter of NAAFA, Vegas BBW Bash and
San Diego BBW Bash and believes in size acceptance and health at
Kathy is a firm believer that people need to have a full life by
going to the movies, dinner, bowling, dancing and anything that will
make them a happier person and not wait til they are at the perfect
size to start living their life to the fullest.
Kathy is in her mid-40's and her children are grown and living
productively on their own.
In her spare time she likes trying new restaurants, dancing,
modeling, bowling and spending time with family and friends.
10 Top Reasons to go Running from Dating a Man Today!
with Kathy Hernandez
10 top reasons to go RUNNING from dating a man today
1. He's too aggressive
and wants to get your number by asking you over and over again for
your number, than finally gives you his like it's a gift from above.
These are the men who when you keep on politely saying no
thank you will turn the talk on you from oh baby you are so
beautiful, I just want to get to know you better to, you're a ugly
fat bitch when they are rejected.
2. He's looking at you
like you are carne asada fresh off the grill and you aren't the only
one he's looking at with hungry eyes.
you naked or taking off your clothes piece by piece with his eyes,
looking you up and down and taking his time when he gets to your
breasts, booty and legs.
MMMHHMMMMMM baby girl and licking his lips is disrespectful
and not the quality man you want in your life.
There's an appropriate amount of looking but there is
absolutely no right way to stare at a lady.
3. You tell him you
have a man in your life, boy friend or husband and he STILL is
asking for your number and saying he wants to get to know you...
we get some morals and keep those feet moving in any direction but
mine. This the man who
is someone else's man and is always going to be on the prowl.
4. Men who ask you for
money and you haven't been dating long.
Women have come a long way today in being educated, having
careers and making a good living for ourselves.
It's not our responsibility to give men we are dating money
and especially not for things they don't need and merely want.
Take a look at your forehead and if it doesn't say Bank of
America than let them know the sign isn't there either and they will
need to make a withdrawal elsewhere.
5. His hygiene and the
lack of concern for the way he dresses shows a lot about a guy.
This is the EFFORT he is put to looking good in his mind and
out in public so you shouldn't walk past this man and smell body
odor, bad breath and dirty clothes on his body.
Why would anyone go out trying to introduce himself to a lady
looking like he just got out of bed and hit the street?
Dress like a man with nice clothes and not like a gangster or
someone who just got out of high school where it was cool to just
wear jeans and a t shirt EVERY day.
The man who is constantly scratching and re arranging his
genitals is sending you a very loud message that says
" I am not clean, I may have a STD"
RUN girl run!!!
6. Men who want to tell
you about how great they are in bed and what they want to do to you
in bed. Why is it that these type of
men feel the need to tell you that they love giving oral when
they first meet you???
I was at a night club a few years ago and this hot guy came up to me
and started a conversation and within 3 minutes it came out.
I asked him if he danced and he responded no but I love to
eat pussy. I just
looked at him like fawking really????
There was a long period of silence and he said that's it?
you aren't talking to me any more?
I said ya I'm done here,
you have a great evening.
Also we don't need to know how well endowed you are until we
have decided we like you enough to get naked with you so save that
little mystery for later.
7. Men who talk about
how much money they make to impress you.
I don't know about you but I don't want to be bought and I
don't want to hear about how much better you think you are because
you have more money the the Average Joe does.
Word of caution ladies, these are the same men that most
times don't have two nickels to rub together but want you to THINK
that they do so you will be more attracted to them..
Honey if that is all you have going on than again start
walking in any direction but mine because I'm so turned off at this
point nothing could have me even interested in your name.
8. Men who talk about
their ex's constantly and on a daily basis.
This means a few different things to me, one is they aren't
over their ex they are not ready to move on with anyone else until
they get some intensive therapy.
There's the men who whine about their ex and than there are
the ones who say if they could get away with it they would do
something to the ex that essentially says no one would ever find the
9. Men who tell you
they think you are cheating on them, lying to them, and constantly
checking up on you when you aren't doing any of the above.
Usually this means that the man is doing all these things and
figures if he is than you are or tries to throw you off track when
you start seeing the signs that he is cheating so he tries to turn
the tables on you and says it's YOU who is cheating on ME!!
Trust and honesty is a core component to a long lasting and
successful relationship and if it's not there from the beginning it
most likely won't be there later.
10. This is for a
BBW Magazine so I wanted to add a few things to look out for when
dating men when you are a full size woman.
I have found in my past that men who don't have a type and
who will date anyone do not really like BBW's and if I'm not your
type than why would I want you to date me?
I have dated men in the past who find me attractive, like my
personality, have a great time with me but in the end have all asked
me to lose weight because they like smaller women.
I make sure before I have more than 3 dates that I ask the
man if BBW's are his type and if his response is he dates all shapes
and sizes than I take that as a no and move on to someone who looks
at big girls and drools but if he sees a thinner girl doesn't give
her a second look.
I'm sure while you have been reading this article you have been
nodding your head at most of these signs and know for the most part
that these are men to stay away from.
I also want to point out that we do subconsciously know when
something just doesn't feel right and we don't need a specific
reason to back away from any man.
Also when you are so close to something you can't see what is
really and truly in front of you, your girl friends are the ones who
are going to tell you what they are seeing and you should seriously
listen to them because they are there for you always.
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