Announcing our Cover Model of the Year!
Having entered many modeling contests in the past and with
me getting older, I never thought it would ever happen, but
it FINALLY did!
Being named model of the month for Large In Charge Magazine
is an awesome feeling and now being named Cover Model of The
Year is a feeling of accomplishment, pride and joy!
Thank you so VERY MUCH to everyone that took the time out to
continuously vote for me.
This years competition was fierce with two ladies racking up
well over 3800 votes a piece. We here at LargeInCharge
have to give a special acknowledgment to the family,
friends, and loved ones of Sarah Cobb also known as Syrenne.
Having sent in her application early in 2010 and passing
before she got to see herself on the cover later 2011.
Sarah's supporters have show there love and admiration of
Sarah will always have a special place in our hearts and to
pay tribute we announce Sarah Cobb as our First
2012 LargeInCharge Cover Model
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HOW TO APPLY!
It has been almost Eight years since LargeInCharge opened its online
doors to the Big World. We started with 740 readers March 2004.
We have built up to over 800,000 readers a month. We have
continuously given the Big World article after article. Fashion
tips and clothing companies. Hot events and self-esteem
advice. Interesting information and cool products. We have
changed, grown and become better. Online Magazines are the big
now, doing better than physical paper magazines. Any successful
magazine must have an online presence. LargeInCharge has been
leading the way for the Plus Sized Community.
Now with our Seventh annual Cover Model Search taking place we are
beaming with pride. LargeInCharge keeps our entrance to be a cover
model free by using photographs that the person submits for our covers.
We donít ask for an entry or submission fee from our models. All
we ask for is clear good photographs that would be considered portfolio
type of pictures. At the end of the year we have a voting for the public
and name one of them
Cover Model of the Year
he or she wins prizes and possibly money from our sponsors depending on
what our sponsors give that year.
Being a LargeInCharge cover model can be a great add on to your comp
card or resume. It can also be a feather in the cap of aspiring
models. So many beautiful and handsome big men and women who are
not professional models can now be featured where they will be
appreciated. NO MORE SIZE 18 or 2XL ONLY MODELS. AGE DOESN'T
MATTER. NO MORE FETISH ONLY PICTURES. We like them professional
and in all sizes INCLUDING SUPER SIZED. There are no limits with
REAL MEN... REAL WOMEN... REAL BODIES
BE LARGE IN CHARGE... BE OUR COVER MODEL!
NOTICE - Follow the Directions carefully, if you have a question you can
email me and ask before you send in your entry. Any Entries that
are not sent in properly will be thrown out. Take the time to send in
your entry properly.
Raqui does not Guide, Help, Preview, Custom Pick Photos of any model or
submission. It is unfair to all applicants. All Males and Females are
free to enter and encouraged to submit according to guidelines. - Thank
Send In the following
- You must send at least two of each.
One or more Head shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire
One or more Full body shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling
NOTE: the more pictures you send it the better.
Type of pictures
Digital or scanned pictures only
NO WEBCAM PICTURES, FUZZY, DISCOLORED, OLD
The Picture must represent you in your Current State
Pictures must be of one person, no group shots.
Pictures of Big Males and Females only.
Pictures must be clear with no watermarks. (EXCEPTION: photographers
Pictures cannot be smaller than 300 DPI, 800 x 600 pixels
Pictures must be tasteful and fully clothed - Swimsuit and tasteful
lingerie is allowed.
Nude is not allowed unless it is artistic. No private areas shown.
If your pictures are professionally done be sure to have permission from
PICTURES WE DO NOT ACCEPT:
Cell Phone Camera Images
Pictures with distracting backgrounds - example: clutter
Pictures with Multiple people or with multiple people in the background
Poor lighting or photo shopped edited images
Images that do not meet the size requirement.
Pictures are well lit, clear and centered, background is clear and
natural, proper size.
You are free to browse our past cover models to get an idea of what we
are looking for.
- You can send in pictures for any of the below categories
Professional - done by photographer
Winter - Winter wear, coats etc. and Seasonal type of clothing, costumes
and colors. Winter backgrounds scenes
Spring - Spring wear, sweaters etc. bright, airy, wind blown. Spring
Summer - Swimsuits, wraps, summer dresses. Summer background scenes
Fall - Fall colors and sweaters. Earthy natural settings. Fall
Ethnic - Ethnic prints and colors. Ethnic combinations of fabric
and prints. Jewelry
Business - Suite and tie. City backgrounds
Sporty - Sports clothing of all types. Participating in sports. Jogging,
walking, basketball, football, skating. Etc.
Exercise - In exercise outfits, gym scene etc.
Gothic - Gothic clothing and costumes etc.
YOUR PICTURES MUST BE ATTACHED TO THE EMAIL.
NOT INSERTED IN THE BODY OF THE EMAIL.
PLEASE NOTE: Cover Model Applications are only taken during the
January to - March Months. You are free to apply while the search
is active. By visiting the active part of LargeInCharge Magazine
during the above months. You cannot apply through the BACK ISSUES.
What will I receive if I am picked to be a 2012 Cover Model
You will be Showcased for the Month you appear as our Cover Model,
appear on the cover and remain in our database.
You will be entered in our Yearly Cover Model contest to win a Trophy
and Prizes at the end of the year.
For the Cover Model of the Year - you will be featured as COVER MODEL OF
THE YEAR for the New Years February edition. You will be required to
update us with pictures and a statement.
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being
featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.
She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised
and Residing in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For the past 6 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
To view her Online
Raqui's New Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully
Raqui Host's Super Sized Seminar at 15th Annual Vegas Bash 2011
www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section
Raqui-ism - Climbing Out of the Hole - Having a Goal! -
Back by Popular Demand
Written By: Raqui
Many times in life
we feel as though nothing we do can go right. A sore spot turns
into tragedy. Sometimes we are bombarded by negativity and we
feel as though we are throwen into a deep hole. Repressed and
suffocated, we don't see the way out. We want to wallow in the
pain, wallow in the negative thinking. Feeling sorry for
yourself is addictive. Being the victim a role that is played
well because it gives you the attention you need at the moment.
It can be ok to
wallow at times but you cant allow it to be a way of life.
Difficulties in life while they are hard and unfair happen. They
happen to make you a better stronger person, if you learn your
lessons well you will be able to throw the positive up against
the negative and battle it out for your own good.
Being plus sized
often gives us multiple difficulties we have to face. Trying to
keep yourself, mentally, physically, emotionally, spiritually
sane is a task that is daunting. Especially when the whole world
is telling you "YOUR NOT GOOD ENOUGH". Societies message is
constant and loud. Happiness is a picture and you don't fit the
mold. Fat people cant be happy they say, because your fat. You
don't fit into the picture of happiness. Happiness is only for
the pretty, slim, young people. Not you, you could never be
happy because your not good enough. You dont fit the picture
that society posts on every bill board, commercial, tv show,
magazine and advertisement. Conform, change yourself on the
outside, and be like us then you will be happy.
The message is out
there and it seems that most people believe it. Even those of us
who are bigger in body. No wonder we cant see a way out of the
hole. It is so bad that even those of us who are positive cant
convince the hurt and humiliated.
I cant tell you how
many people I have met in crossing. Some plus sized and some not
who cant see there way out of the hole. Not only do they not see
the way out but they have a defeatist attitude. No matter what
you say, they refuse to try. Every excuse used to not have to
face the fact that happiness depends on them. Your happiness
depends on you and no cookie cut image will get you happiness.
You can only achieve it from the inside out.
Well this month I
am not accepting any excuses from anyone. I have heard them all,
it is time to change. It is time to make yourself feel good
about something. It is time to change your perception of
yourself. By achieving you will notice that you feel better. By
making yourself feel better you can make others feel better, and
I am here to show you a way. Size will not stop you unless you
let it. So today I am challenging you to set a goal and get out
of your hole.
I have two sites I
want to share with you:
www.43things.com - This website I found while searching and
it is really great. You register and then type in something you
want to do. It doesn't have to be big. You can share in the
goals of others. If you see something listed that you have done,
you can also click the option that says "I HAVE DONE THIS".
You can make a post
of your goal and why you want to achieve it and share your
progress with others who have the same goal. You can help each
other achieve it. One of the best features I enjoy are CHEERS.
You can click cheer and let someone know that you support there
goal and even comment to give them support. It doesn't matter if
what you want to do is big or small. A lot of these goals can be
done at home. When you have completed one of the things on your
list you click I HAVE DONE THIS and you can state if it was
worth it or not.
Some of you may
say, how does completing some little silly goals help me? It is
the feeling of accomplishment. Start with small things and
slowly you will advance to bigger things. The same way wallowing
and feeling sorry for yourself is addictive. So is feeling good.
If you can teach yourself to over come obstacles then you will
see things differently. Instead of saying "DAMN, I cant do
that!" You will begin to say "HMMMMM, I wonder how I can find a
way to do this"? BIG DIFFERENCE!
www.HelpOthers.org - This site has helped me a great deal.
The whole purpose is to give RAOK (Random Acts of Kindness). The
small things you can do for complete strangers in which you
receive nothing in return but the feeling that you did something
good for someone else. This has such a positive affect. Most
people often do Random Acts of Kindness for others with out
thinking about it. But this site helps you have a purpose. A
place to share your stories. Be inspired by others stories and
try different ways to give RAOK. The best feature is Smile
Cards. You can earn points for printed smile cards. People have
donated money to print these wonderful Smile cards that you can
use when your doing RAOK. You can also donate if you wish to
help others get printed cards that help bring joy to others.
Bringing a smile to someone can make you feel very good about
Giving RAOK gives
you power in a proper way. The power to bring joy and happiness
to others, and in return you feel so much better about yourself.
Many times we feel as though we have no control in this world.
Can you image now through a Random Act of Kindness to have a
powerful positive affect on someone's life. Something they will
remember for a long time to come. Maybe even inspiring them to
show a Random Act of Kindness to another person. Even the
smallest RAOK counts. Combat the negativity in your life by
practicing and teaching others how to give Random Acts of
Some ideas for
change into a meter that you see it is about to expire.
Send a smile
card from the site above to a random person out of the phone
Buy a extra
meal or cook an extra plate of food and give it to a
bag there groceries at the super market.
for those in need.
at a clinic, hospital, nursing home or school.
sometimes just smiling at people can make them feel better.
I hope that you all
try to achieve your goals and do for others. It will chance your
- Weekly Radio show discussing Plus Sized Issues. Friday's 7-9
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Reading Raqui's Spot
Please send thoughts and comments to
Xander brings blend of life experience and culinary twist to his
writing. From cooking on television and live demonstrations, to
writing Xander cookís like he feels. A former Chicago native
transplanted to Tennessee, His goal has been to experience the
fullness of food heritage. He believes that as a people and society,
can learn a lot from what we eat. Combining a great life lesson and
a easy recipe. They go hand-in-hand to provide a tasty
addition to your day. Xander has to confess that ingredients in a
great meal are like the ingredients in a great life are never far
Battles We Must Fight
by Xander The Food Dude
In mid-December my mother had one of two massive strokes.
These occurred about a week apart from each other.
They robbed her of her ability to use the right side
of her body and she cannot speak.
In the seven weeks since the start of this journey I
have often cursed the fates, tried to blame someone for what
had happened, and given into the feeling of hopelessness and
despair. I have
walked on the edge of giving up before this journey has even
begun. Even now
after weeks of sleeping mere feet from my mother in the many
hospital rooms, I worry if this is the night that I lose my
The night is the worst time, when very little distracts
your focus from her breathing and how shallow it can become.
You watch and wait as each little part of you wonders
ďdonít let that be the last breath, please God !!, help her.
You spend your time in prayer that God should take my
life before my motherís.
You make every deal you can in your mind with
whatever cosmic force will potentially listen to you in an
effort to keep her alive a little longer.
Finally, resignation comes in the form of asking that
she should not be in pain, you would do anything to at least
stop her pain.
If she has to die at least donít let her be in pain.
This would give you a good representation of what my last
seven weeks have been like in the late evening and early
friends have done their best to reach out to me, but I can
only isolate myself even more.
There are only two things in my universe right now,
my mother and what I have to do to help her.
The exhaustion falls into place and in those times I
finally find a few moments of rest.
I have given up the fight.
I have nothing left to do battle.
Through this all I have tried to be conscience about
a ďlessonĒ, any lesson I should be learning, but up until
now it has escaped me.
I finally got it yesterday.
days of illness and sickness, my mother is finally well
enough to be involved with her physical therapy and speech
progress has been very small, they can see some level of
the last three weeks all the nurses and therapist constantly
tell me what a sweet mother I have.
I see the way that she interacts with them, the waves
and excitement on her face when she sees them in the morning
and how they look at her when they get her into bed after
therapy or other treatment.
These folks have taken care of and even fought for
the care of my mother.
In a word, that have loved her like she was family.
For the most part my mother is a very sweet lady, good
disposition, but the folks that work with her often say she
will touch their hand, arm or shoulder in reassurance to
them and simply say the one word she can say ďGoodĒ.
One night I heard a nurse tell my mother that she (my
mother) made her job a joy.
The message finally hit me.
Despite the lack of words or ability to do many things
that she once could, she still has the ability to reach out
and touch people, not just physically but on a spiritual
level as well. I
was reminded once a again that we are all more than the sum
of our parts, that we too have the full ability to ďtouchĒ
others in a positive way if we just use what God has given
us to do just that.
I can tell you that in that particular moment I was
washed in a sense of awe and shame.
The awe can from what I had forgotten about our
mission in this lifeÖto help others.
The shame was from coming close to giving up on one
person I should never give up on.. my mother.
We al have our own battles.
Sometimes we admit defeat before we even start.
But we must continue to fight the necessary battle
everyday, if not for ourselves then for someone else.
When we get week we need to seek the guidance and
counsel of those we trust the most.
In that way, no matter the outcome, we can at least
always fight the battles that need to be fought.
My mother and I have only begun the journey of her
Together we stand resolute in the eventual winning of the
day. To this end
I pledge myself, because I owe nothing less than everything
I am to my mother.
From this day forth, pledge yourself to fighting those
battles that need to be fought.
God bless each of you until next time.
of the Month
Tailgate Superbowl of Chili
2 pounds ground beef
1 pound bulk Italian
3 (15 ounce) cans
chili beans, drained
1 (15 ounce) can
chili beans in spicy sauce
2 (28 ounce) cans
diced tomatoes with juice
1 (6 ounce) can
1 large yellow
3 stalks celery,
1 green bell pepper,
seeded and chopped
1 red bell pepper,
seeded and chopped
2 green chile
peppers, seeded and chopped
1 tablespoon bacon
4 cubes beef
1/2 cup beer
1/4 cup chili powder
1 tablespoon minced
1 tablespoon dried
2 teaspoons ground
2 teaspoons hot
pepper sauce (e.g. Tabascoô)
1 teaspoon dried
1 teaspoon salt
1 teaspoon ground
1 teaspoon cayenne
1 teaspoon paprika
1 teaspoon white
1 (10.5 ounce) bag
corn chips such as Fritosģ
1 (8 ounce) package
shredded Cheddar cheese
Heat a large stock pot over medium-high heat. Crumble the
ground chuck and sausage into the hot pan, and cook until
evenly browned. Drain off excess grease.
Pour in the chili beans, spicy chili beans, diced tomatoes
and tomato paste. Add the onion, celery, green and red bell
peppers, chile peppers, bacon bits, bouillon, and beer.
Season with chili powder, Worcestershire sauce, garlic,
oregano, cumin, hot pepper sauce, basil, salt, pepper,
cayenne, paprika, and sugar. Stir to blend, then cover and
simmer over low heat for at least 2 hours, stirring
After 2 hours, taste, and adjust salt, pepper, and chili
powder if necessary. The longer the chili simmers, the
better it will taste. Remove from heat and serve, or
refrigerate, and serve the next day.
To serve, ladle into bowls, and top with corn chips and
shredded Cheddar cheese
Thank you for
Reading Good Food 4U
By Xander the Food Dude
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2007, Sonya was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes; a generational
curse that she had prayed to avoid, but didnít worry about while she
piled butter pecan ice cream on her German Chocolate Cake. Only a
few months into this diagnosis, she woke up one morning unable to
walk and in excruciating pain in her left foot. Doctors finally
diagnosed an acute tendonitis, exacerbated by uncontrolled
That was the wake-up call, She had suffered for
years with high cholesterol and sleep apnea; all associated with her
weight, it wasnít until
this happened (wheelchair bound for a month and on crutches
following that) did she tell herself "I have to do something
about my weight." On April 17, 2008, Sonya had the gastric bypass
medical weight loss procedure and it was the best decision that she
made for herself. In these upcoming writings, Sonya invites you to
learn the ups and downs of gastric bypass: through the eyes of one
who lives it every day.
Now Sharing her story Angie Bee (Sonya's Sister) is sharing
her Similar but entirely Unique Story with LargeInCharge Readers
through Sonya's Column.
Angie Bee - It Looks Good on Me!
with Sonya Bennett
& Angie Bee
WOW! That dress looks great on you!
Your hair looks good today!
What lipstick shade are you wearing? It looks nice on you!
Compliments can really make us feel good. Some compliments are
constructive (don't you think those pants are a little too tight?)
and some compliments are flattering (You smell so good! What
perfume are you wearing?) People deliver compliments freely
sometimes and in most cases without remorse, but when was the last
time you gave YOURSELF a compliment? When was the last time you
took charge of your own endorphins and gave yourself a boost of
On February 28th I celebrate the one year anniversary of my weight
loss surgery. During this past year I have received numerous
compliments from those close to me and from those meeting me for the
first time. The comments that I have received have just been too
kind, but what I am most proud of are the compliments I am now able
to give to myself.
"Wow! I walked the entire 1.5 miles of this shopping mall!"
"Wow! I did 15 laps in the swimming pool"
"Wow! my blood sugars are STILL normal"
It feels good to look in the mirror and to enjoy the face that is
looking back at me! It is a thrill to go to a doctor's visit and
not receive a "gloom and doom" medical report! (your high blood
pressure... your sleep apnea... your diabetes... yadda, yadda, doom
and gloom) It feels good to go shopping with your daughter and it
feels good to be ME!
"Are you sure this dress isn't too tight?", I asked my daughter as I
pulled the dress down over my head. "Mom, you have got to stop
swimming in your clothes! Everything you wear is too big!" she
replied. "But, the tag on this dress can't be right! It says
14/16. Go get a larger size!" - Then, the dress smoothed out over
my hips and I looked at myself in the mirror. All I could do was
smile. "It looks good on ME!" I just couldn't believe it! I know
that I am a good-looking woman... but now I am a good-looking,
excited, healthy and FABULOUS woman!
During this past year, I have launched a new concert tour and a
brand new magazine for teens and young adults (www.PureMag.org).
My syndicated radio show added a new network and timeslot and I
prayed while my daughter finished high school. This past year I
came off of 13 different daily prescriptions medications including
injections and I saved my insurance company $1200 per month in
prescription costs. This past year I lost over 100 pounds and went
from a size 26/28 to a 14/16 (I still think that tag on that dress
was wrong... lol) - During this past year I received compliments
and I gave compliments. I fell in love with a man that adores me
and I am now completely off all depression and anxiety medication
(Praise GOD!) This past year I spoke at a funeral and rejoiced over
a wedding. This past year, I realized that I LOOK GOOD ON ME!
What's coming up this next year? Only God knows for sure, but I
have a pretty good idea. I look forward to traveling with the tour
that Angie BEE Presents (www.AngieBEEpresents.com)
and I look forward to my daughter's graduation and the birth of my
first niece. This year I look forward to losing another 70 pounds
and I am enjoying swimming at the YMCA. This year I look forward to
visiting with my family and taking pictures with each of them and I
look forward to promoting my new book and speaking on how God saved
me from three suicide attempts. This year, I look forward to
walking more and talking less (lol) and I look forward to coming
back each month to offer updates to each one of you.
Happy anniversary to all of you on your perspective dates of joy and
celebration. Keep me in your prayers this month and don't forget to
complement one another.
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The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs
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Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Obama Being Bullied! -
NAAFA Convention EARLY BIRD SPECIAL!
Obama Being Bullied!
As the civil rights organization working to end
discrimination based on body size, NAAFA would like to remind our
nation's right wing political leaders that hateful slurs and
disparaging remarks about First Lady, Michelle Obama's body is
One of our nation's lawmakers made a remark about the size
of the posterior of the First Lady of the United States of America
in a public place where it could be overheard and reported.
A former presidential hopeful, once a fat person himself,
called the First Lady "Mooochelle" on public radio.
Taunting is a form of bullying.
Our nation is spending millions of taxpayer dollars on
campaigns to end bullying in our schools while the leaders of our
country openly and publicly bully our First Lady.
This has to stop!
If these individuals cannot set good examples for the children of
our nation, they do not deserve to be leaders!
NAAFA calls upon these individuals to grow up.
Act like adults.
Apologize to First Lady, Michelle Obama, and to the people of this
nation. Tell our
children NOT to follow your example but to learn to accept one
another and treat everyone with respect and dignity without regard
to body size or shape.
NAAFA Convention EARLYBIRD SPECIAL!
NAAFA is pleased to announce that we will return to the San
Francisco Bay Area for our 2012 fund-raising convention.
We have worked hard to keep the cost of this convention down
and to move quickly in making our convention package available in
time for you to give or receive a convention package for the
NAAFA is once again offering a Early Bird Special price is $199.00
from January 1 through May 31, 2012.
Beginning June 1, 2012, full convention price will be
The 2012 NAAFA Convention Package would make a great holiday gift
for you, your family and all your friends!
Canít afford a convention package?
Why not give a one year contributing NAAFA membership for
Make your reservations at the Westin San Francisco Airport Hotel.
Room rates are $89 per night!
This group rate will be available until July 10, 2012.
Westin is prepared to receive your NAAFA convention
reservations today at:
We encourage you to register for the NAAFA convention package today
and to fully participate in this life-changing event.
We made it easy for you to register for the convention as
well as the hotel through our website at www.naafa.org.
Watch our website for more exciting details as they become
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people.
NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size
and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through
public education, advocacy, and member support.
On the web:
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From the Desk of NAAFA
Lucia Roth, was born in New Orleans, Louisiana. Graduated with a B. A.
degree in Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University and is
considering going back for her Masters degree. Lucia a people person and
is always willing to help out a friend in need. She enjoys music,
movies, poetry, and good book on a rainy day. Lucia has several mottos
This is one: Knowledge talks, wisdom listens.
wanted to re- introduce myself, since I just joined Large In Charge
magazine last year. My name is Lulu, and I am a fashion writer for
largeincharge.com I am a fashion junkie:) I look forward to finding
wonderful fashion find and product of the month for you. I also look
forward to chatting with you all an reading some good fashion comments!
Please let me know if you have a favorite. Web_girl1999@yahoo.com
Picks of the Month
Product of the Month
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Itís that time again! Valentinesí Day, and what is the best
way to show that special someone how you feel about them?
Pat is a forty something woman living in
Southern Ontario, Canada. She has a varied past and has worked teaching
literacy and English as a second language to adults, as an environmental
science technician and in the health and safety field. Currently she
works in marketing.
Pat fiercely believes in human rights for all and has volunteered for
organizations that raise funds and develop and implement programs to
help impoverished people and educate women in third world countries.
Although relatively new to the size acceptance movement, Pat believes
with all her heart that people of size deserve equal treatment and
In her spare time she likes to read fiction, go to bashes and spend time
Will you be my Valentine?
with Pat Llewellyn
Valentineís Day is one of the holidayís that
single people dread.
I know so many women, who are smart, beautiful and who have
great lives, get depressed at the thought of being alone on Feb
14th. I donít get it. Itís only a day. They are
single the rest of the year and they are perfectly fine with it.
Why does it take a manufactured holiday to send them into a
Most couples I know actually donít celebrate
Valentineís Day and the few that do make sure itís low key.
My 16 year old niece was complaining to me
that she didnít have a boyfriend and sheíd be alone on
Valentineís Day. I tried to explain to her that it didnít really
matter and that she shouldnít worried about it.
Itís frustrating to see kids indoctrinated into this line
of thinking. We
really need to stop basing our self-worth on our datability or
We need to focus on our lives as a whole and
start appreciating the things we have (a home, a job, etcÖ) the
people we have in our lives and our positive qualities. These
are the things that will bring us joy.
Donít get me wrong, being in a relationship
can enrich our lives. Sadly, many people are afraid of being
alone, so they negate their own self-worth and date people who
treat them poorly and stay in relationships that are unhealthy.
I challenge all of you single people out
there to take control and realize that being single isnít a bad
thing. Valentineís Day is the perfect time to do it. Iíve told
me niece that she and I will hang out on Valentineís Day. You
can do it tooÖ Buy yourself flowers or chocolates. Find a single
friend and hang out with them on the day. Have an
anti-valentineís day party and invite singles and couples. Take
yourself out to dinner or order in. To those of you, who are in
unhealthy relationships, break free.
Decide that you are worth more and that you can and have
it all. Make the choice to have people who love and support you
in your life and to let go of those who cause pain and drain
You really donít have to fear Feb, 14th.
It is just a dayÖ
Lots of love
P.S. I know the past few months my post had
become very somber. Iím happy to report that my depression is
lifting and Iím feeling better every day.
Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She
is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in
Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life
she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where
she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has
also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those
around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help
Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go
to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or
support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed,
intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.
Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a
little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her
life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Sugaís first
opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see.
Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her
future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus
Be True to Yourself
with Ms Suga
Now that the New Year hype is over. it's time we get back
to a topic that I canít help but stress over and over again...
self-love. If you don't love yourself how can you expect anyone else
to love you too? When I say I love myself, i mean i love and accept
me for the person that i am. I love every strand of hair, every mole
and every flaw; I love every imperfection that puzzles together to
make an imperfect me. But I didn't get this way over night. I have
had many experiences that make me the woman i am today. Experiences
can be heartbreak, death of a loved one, an accident, an illness, a
screw up and a bad decision. All these things make me into the
person I love...
So consider your
experiences as a whole both positive and negative...What life
lessons came from those experiences? Did you truly take away the
good the bad and the ugly? Or did you choose to ignore the lesson
Cicely Tyson said during an interview with Oprah Winfrey
"I am the sum total
of my whole life's experience. I think i have profited more from the
negative. I relish more and treasure the negative more because if i
have been able to survive it and reach another level that has given
me more growth, more strength, more confidence. It has enriched my
life more... If you have a negative experience which you think will
bring you to your knees and it doesn't and you survived that. You're
that much stronger, you're richer, youíre fuller. You're more in
touch with what God wants you to be."
Mrs Tyson's words bring me to my current mindset...Be true
to yourself. Live your life the way you chose and open your mind and
your heart to the lessons you receive. Every person you encounter
and every problem you face is a blessing. Regardless how you handle
them always know that the people and problems you encounter are put
in your life for a reason. Some for a lifetime and others for just a
season. I suggest we all take into account Mrs. Tyson's words and
try applying them to our lives.
Take for instance that person who stole something from
you, instead of hating them with everything in you. Forgive them and
then take that lesson of trusting people too quickly and allow
yourself to be more conscious of those in your inner circle. I'm not
saying in anyway be a pushover however don't let one person ruin
Gabriela Falarz lives in Toronto, Canada.
She has been up and down the scale for most of her life (mostly up),
and is proud to say that she loves herself no matter what her size,
although it has definitely been an evolution.
She blogs about size acceptance in her blog,
Celebreight Yourself (www.celebreightyourself.blogspot.com).
Gabriela discovered Large in Charge Radio about a year ago
and has been hooked ever since. She is thrilled to be writing for
Large in Charge and to be part of an organization that helps all
large people realize how beautiful, special, and amazing they are.
Baby... You are So Beautiful!
with Gabriela Falarz
I saw this question the other day, and I thought it was a great one:
Is it possible for a woman to have a satisfying sex life if she has
a terrible body image?
Really think about that. Suppose you had a body like Marilyn Monroe,
but for whatever reason, every time you looked at yourself, you
thought you were hideous. How do you think that would affect your
sex life? Itís pretty much a no-brainer Ö no matter how great you
looked, you wouldnít enjoy sex. Youíd always be anxious, always be
wondering if your partner was thinking youíre too
On the other hand Ö if you have a less-than-perfect body (by
societyís standards) but think you are the sexiest, hottest mama
alive Ö do you think youíll have a great sex life? Honey Ö you know
the answer to that question!
Sex is important. Itís a vital part of life. However, people regard
sex in as many different ways as you can imagine. I know people who
think it isnít important at all. I know other people who think itís
the only pleasure worth having. There are people who think that sex
is sacred and others who think itís meaninglessóa mere physical
interaction. There are as many different attitudes toward sex as
there are people in the world. One truth is universal though: you
will never truly enjoy sex unless you enjoy your body.
It doesnít matter if your partner thinks you are a god or goddess:
if you donít think so, he or she might as well be speaking a foreign
language to you. I was with a guy once who was totally crazy about
me, in every way. He told me repeatedly:
You are so beautiful. You are
so gorgeous. You are so sexy. Not only that, youíre smart. You have
beauty and brains. I canít believe how lucky I am. I have never been
with a woman as beautiful as you. Every time I see you, you get more
It was nice. Really nice. I would smile and look away, and he would
look at me and say: You know
this about yourself, right? You know that what Iím saying is true?
And I would say yes, but there was something Ö and he could see it.
He said: You donít give
yourself enough credit. Why?
He was right. When he would say those wonderful things, I started
thinking: Well, itís great that he thinks so. But would most people
agree with him? Probably not. Theyíd probably say he was nuts.
Theyíd probably say he was just saying that to get laid.
All those negative thoughts started creeping in and overshadowing
the wonderful things he said to me and I realized Ö I was giving
more credence to what other people thought than the person I was
with. How crazy was that? I wasnít going to bed with the majority! I
was with him! He thought I was amazing Ö so why was I letting what
other people thought intrude and interfere with what could have been
an incredibly satisfying, romantic, intimate experience?
Just imagine Ö if I had been as crazy about myself as he was about
me Ö how would that have translated in the bedroom? Do you think
that if I would have been as in love with my body as he was that I
would have fully enjoyed every kiss and caress? Believe me Ö I know
I would have!
Itís certainly important to have a partner who truly loves and
respects you so that you can feel safe enough to open up with them
and share yourself Ö but thatís only half the equation. Letís face
itómost women know how to fake orgasms. Itís pretty easy to fake
your way through a sexual encounter and make your lover think you
had a great time. But if you didnít, what are you proving? Are you
going to keep faking it through the whole relationship? Donít you
think that sooner or later your partner will be able to figure it
We really need to start falling in love with our bodies. We need to
appreciate them, respect them, and value them. So what if we donít
look like the ideal? If there is even one person out there who
thinks we are incredible, isnít that enough?
If itís not, the problem might not only be a sexual one. It might
have more to do with your ego than anything else.
Kathy is originally from a small town in Michigan but has lived in
San Diego County since she's been 18 years old. Kathy
graduated from San Diego State University with a Bachelors in
Finance in 1999.
She has a real estate brokerís license and works as a mortgage
Kathy also owns BBW Club Catalina in San Diego which has monthly
night club parties and other fun events on a frequent basis.
Kathy has been an avid supporter of NAAFA, Vegas BBW Bash and
San Diego BBW Bash and believes in size acceptance and health at
Kathy is a firm believer that people need to have a full life by
going to the movies, dinner, bowling, dancing and anything that will
make them a happier person and not wait til they are at the perfect
size to start living their life to the fullest.
Kathy is in her mid-40's and her children are grown and living
productively on their own.
In her spare time she likes trying new restaurants, dancing,
modeling, bowling and spending time with family and friends.
Are you Dating a Sociopath and how to tell the Warning Signs
with Kathy Hernandez
Have you dated the charming, handsome man who turned out
to be a sociopath and it took you awhile to figure out that is who
he was and discover that a sociopath just can't be changed?
I'm not talking about a psychopath but a sociopath and the
main difference is that the psychopath will physically hurt you and
possibly kill you and the sociopath will most likely stick to
emotionally hurting you.
What are the signs of a sociopath?
Sociopaths have superficial charm and they will tell you
everything they think you want to hear so they sounds so romantic
and caring, but it's all just a very well orchestrated act to get
Sociopaths and manipulative and very cunning, they will make you
think that everything they think is the only way to think and the
way that you should think also.
They use this to dominate and humiliate you to make you
submissive to them.
Sociopaths are pathological liars and can convince you that their
lies are the truth and make up dramatic and extensive lies to make
you think what they are telling you is the truth.
I have found that these pathological liars can't remember
what they told who and this is when you will catch them in their
They have a grand sense of self and feel like they deserve
anything and everything they want or see.
The true sociopath will have absolutely no remorse, guilt or
shame in anything they do, you are not a person to the sociopath but
a target and an opportunity to control you as long as your reactions
are fun and interesting to the sociopath.
Sociopaths have shallow emotions and usually have never been
in love because this is an emotion that they are incapable of.
They are very capable of lust but love is something that has
always eluded them in their life.
They are typically very promiscuous, like living on the edge
and doing dangerous things.
They lack empathy and can't feel sorry for what you are
going through in your life but they try to emulate empathy but they
won't do a good job of it.
Sociopaths are known to fits of rage and then they will be
there to lend a sympathetic ear and tell you what a great person you
are, tell you how beautiful you are than the next minute they will
bring you crashing down by insulting and belittling you.
This helps keep you exactly where they want you at which is
wanting to earn their approval.
Sociopaths tend to move around a lot and have a poor work
ethic and don't have many goals of a productive career.
Sociopaths will change their appearance to avoid criminal
persecution and changes their story about their lives when they move
from city to city.
The sociopath is oblivious to the problems they will cause you and
how they wreck the lives of the people they come into contact with
and they don't care even if it's pointed out to them.
I found this medical definition of a sociopath:
Antisocial personality disorder is a psychiatric condition
in which a person manipulates, exploits, or violates the rights of
others. This behavior is often criminal.
I feel I have dated two men whom I think are sociopaths
and if I had known the warning signs than I wouldn't have dated them
nearly as long as I did.
I think I have learned important things in every relationship
I have been in whether it has been a good or bad relationship but I
will pass on dating any more men who are sociopaths and look for the
loving, caring man who can truly love me with his whole heart versus
faking what he thinks love is.
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