LargeInCharge Magazine -  Starting our 10th year!

 Issue#106 - January 2013

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.




Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui


The Big GB Getting my Life Back after Gastric Bypass - Angie Bee


From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance


FOoDiE in You ~ Lucia Roth


The B.I.G. - Beautiful Inspirational Girl  ~ Ms Suga


Dating Survival for Today's Woman

Kathy Hernandez


The Observer - Jness


Curvy Styles - Amy Lucas


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

LargeInCharge Writer's Search 
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Have your own Column in LargeInCharge Magazine APPLY NOW!

By: Raqui


Looking for new Writers for 2013



About Our Writers Search:

     LargeInCharge is looking for Volunteer Writers for our Online Magazine.  We are looking for Males and Females who wants to write about issues that concern large people.  We need people who will be dedicated to writing columns/interview once a month in a timely manner.  You do not need to be a professional writer,  Good writing, typing skills, the ability to spell check, understand grammar and have your article sent in on time is what we are looking for.


     We want to bring the voice of the people to the people.  Give them something they can related to and enjoy on a monthly basis.


    LargeInCharge is a non-profit Online magazine, which is why we are asking for Volunteer's.  This is a great opportunity to brush up on your writing skills, expand your writing experience/ portfolio, or to learn different writing styles.


NOTICE:  This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.  You must be able to hand in one article on time monthly for a period of 12 months.  You will be asked to give in three stand by articles for you column for emergency purposes.  If you wish to continue after 12 months then you may stay if your track record is good.


We are looking for writers for the following Positions.

  • A Big Man's World - a writer who will write about living life as a Big Man in this Society.

  • Make- up, Medicine and Body - External to internal make your body feel and look great!

  • All Natural - Natural Remedies that help the body be balanced. Catering to Plus Sized People

  • Loving my Big Lady - From a Man who loves big women... to the Big women of the world.

  • Inspiration - Inspirational stories, interviews and articles on loving yourself as is.

  • Plus Sized Entertainment - Interesting Plus Sized people on TV and in theater.


Would you like to be a writer? Apply following the directions below.


     Send in the information below along with a clear photograph of yourself and one complete article at least 500 words.  Please make sure your article is matching the position your applying for.  If you are a versatile writer and applying for more than one position send in one article for each position. If you have an idea for your column which doesn't fit the above categories please give details about your idea for the column along with your sample.


     Any submissions maybe be used in the magazine as a guest article or other wise if you do not receive a position.  If you are picked for a position it will be used as a back up for your column in case of emergency.


I want to Apply for a Writers Position:


My Name is:

My email address is:

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Here is my article:


I am allowing LargeInCharge to use my image and article as they see fit.  By typing my name and date I understand that I agree to the above.   NAME/DATE


Send to: raqui_bronx@yahoo.com   or you may submit via facebook if Raqui is your friend.


Thank you


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APPLY NOW to be a LargeInCharge Cover Model for 2013!






 It has been Nine years since LargeInCharge opened its online doors to the Big World.  We started with 740 readers March 2004.  We have built up to over a million readers a month.  We have continuously given the Big World article after article.  Fashion tips and clothing companies.   Hot events and self-esteem advice. Interesting information and cool products.  We have changed, grown and become better.  Online Magazines are the big now, doing better than physical paper magazines.  Any successful magazine must have an online presence.  LargeInCharge has been leading the way for the Plus Sized Community.


     Now with our Eighth annual Cover Model Search taking place we are beaming with pride.  LargeInCharge keeps our entrance to be a cover model free by using photographs that the person submits for our covers. We don’t ask for an entry or submission fee from our models.  All we ask for is clear good photographs that would be considered portfolio type of pictures. At the end of the year we have a voting for the public and name one of them Cover Model of the Year he or she wins prizes and possibly money from our sponsors.


     Being a LargeInCharge cover model can be a great add on to your comp card or resume.  It can also be a feather in the cap of aspiring models.  So many beautiful and handsome big men and women who are not professional models can now be featured where they will be appreciated.  NO MORE SIZE 12 ONLY MODELS.  AGE DOESN'T MATTER.  NO MORE FETISH ONLY PICTURES. We like them professional, and in all sizes INCLUDING SUPER SIZED.  There are no limits with us.





NOTICE - Follow the Directions carefully, if you have a question you can email me and ask before you send in your entry.  Any Entries that are not sent in properly will be thrown out. Take the time to send in your entry properly.

Raqui does not Guide, Help, Preview, Custom Pick Photos of any model or submission. It is unfair to all applicants. All Males and Females are free to enter and encouraged to submit according to guidelines. - Thank you


Send In the following - You must send at least two of each.

·         Two or more Head shots Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire

·         Two or more Full body shot Black & White / Color - in your modeling attire



NOTE: the more pictures you send it the better.



Type of pictures

·         Digital/scanned pictures only


·         The Picture must represent you in your Current State

·         Pictures must be of one person, no group shots.

·         Pictures of Big Males and Females only.

·         Pictures must be clear with no watermarks. (EXCEPTION: photographers watermark)

·         Pictures cannot be smaller than 300 DPI, 800 x 600 pixels

·         Pictures must be tasteful and fully clothed - Swimsuit and tasteful lingerie is allowed.

·         Nude is not allowed unless it is artistic.  No private areas shown.

·         If your pictures are professionally done be sure to have permission from the photographer.



Cell Phone Camera Images

Pictures with distracting backgrounds  - example: clutter

Webcam pictures

Pictures with Multiple people or with multiple people in the background

Poor lighting or photo shopped edited images

Images that do not meet the size requirement.



Pictures are well lit, clear and centered, background is clear and natural, proper size.

You are free to browse our past cover models to get an idea of what we are looking for.



Applications do not appear in back issues


What will I receive if I am picked to be a 2013 Cover Model

·         You will be Showcased for the Month you appear as our Cover Model, appear on the cover and remain in our database.

·         You will be entered in our Yearly Cover Model contest to win a Trophy and Prizes at the end of the year. 

·         For the Cover Model of the Year - you will be featured as COVER MODEL OF THE YEAR for the New Years February edition. You will be required to update us with pictures and a statement.



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Cover Model of the Month



     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born, Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For the past 8 years Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

Raqui's New Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! - http://raqui-ism.blogspot.com/

go to www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section

Raqui-ism - The Begining of a Decade

Written By: Raqui

It was in 2004 that I decided LargeInCharge would be born.  I didnt know where it would go, what advancedments would be made, nor how long I would continue to  create this Monthly Newsletter turned online magazine.  Now I look back and cant beileve that we have completed our 9th year and we are in our 10th year now, soon it will be a decade since LargeInCharge opened its online doors.   A decade is coming about and I can see where the creation of LargeInCharge and maintaining the site has helped me focus on something personal inside me.  Maybe times I wanted to just stop, many times I was attacked.  Still I kept strong as with most things in my life I dont give up.  


LargeInCharge Radio is making 5 years,  how amazing is that.  I wasnt sure if I would be able to handle it all but yes I found a way.  Last thing I wish to put into place is LargeInCharge TV something I have been slowly working on and putting together for some years but still it isnt quite done yet.  


It makes me really proud to have this part of my life be present and successful.  This is one thing that is good in my life, that doesnt disappoint because you get out of it what you put in.  I put a lot of myself and others have joined me.  My wonderful volunteer writers have given their best to LargeInCharge, and I am proud of them all. 


This year not only is LargeInCharge begining our 10th year but I will be starting my own little quest toward learning, giving, and expanding my own mind by donating to a new charity every month.  I hope that you all will enjoy learning about these new charities with me.   I began to understand that most of us only donate to a charity if we have an emotional connection to the charity itself or someone who is trying to raise money for a cause.   One day when I happen to dismiss a charity that was asking for donations I realized I dont want to be that person.  I want to give because the cause is worthy and I can.  Not only because of an emotional connection.   So join me in learning about new causes and charities this year.  I will post a new one to my column every month.


CHARITY OF THE MONTH:  Red Cross Diaster Relief


We rely on the generosity of the American public to help people in need every day. Essentially, we rely on you. With your generous financial support, the Red Cross provides people in crisis with relief for today and hope for tomorrow.



LargeInCharge Radio - Weekly Radio show discussing Plus Sized Issues.  Friday's 9-11 pm EST - Call in & Chat in our Chat Room.


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Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in communications, promotions and planning.  She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while building businesses and her faith.

Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from 180 pounds to 360 pounds.  She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg circulation.  At the age of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.  It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric Bypass Surgery.  Sonya launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is focused on something new!

Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over a decade.  Losing the first 100 pounds was just the bonus!  She is now diabetes-free.  She has normal blood pressure.  The circulation in her legs is normal.  She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!  The joy that she feels is documented each day in her syndicated radio show, a brand new weekly  TV show documentary and each month in this article.  The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also stands for "Getting (my life) Back".  This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery on Feb 28, 2011.  This is now her life!


Home for the Holidays

with Angie Bee

It's that time of year again; time to go "home" for the holidays and time to eat. Time to deal with comments from relatives (you've gotten fat - you need to get married - what are you feeding that baby?) and time to deal with our individual lives being incorporated into expectations from others.

The Holiday meals are the center of attention.  Multiple meats, sides, desserts, and alcohol.  What happened to spending quality time with our relatives?  What ever happened to the joy of visiting relatives and old "stomping grounds?" Now going home for the holidays is more about obligation and avoiding guilty feelings.  Now going home for the holidays is a launch pad for overeating, under eating and self-damage.  Are we really in control when we go home for a visit or are we left in tears?

I remember the fall of 2010 when the nurse called to tell me that I had been accepted as a gastric bypass patient for February, 2011.  I remember clearly when she told me to begin my dietary changes prior to surgery and prepare for what would be an overall lifestyle change towards healthier eating.  She called me right before my grandmother and sisters were to come to my home for Thanksgiving dinner and her phone call helped me a great deal.  It was empowering to be able to cut back on my dinner servings because of her phone call.  It was great to know that I had a "reason" to not have to clean my plate and to refrain from having second helpings.  That phone call helped empower me and prepare me for the lifestyle that I live today.

I am the result of an evolution. February, 2013 is my two-year anniversary date from weight loss surgery and I am now only 20 pounds from reaching my goal weight loss.  Yes, I have hanging skin that I want to have removed, so I will probably be less than my goal weight once that has been accomplished and I am grateful for that. 'Home' for me now is where my heart is and my heart is focused on ministry and me!  I can overlook the haters and I don't run to food as a comfort.  I don't have to focus on insulin injections and prescription pills and sleeping with a mask on my face and running to the bathroom.  I can stand up and speak while on stage without my ankles swelling and I can sleep peacefully without my own snoring waking me up.  I am healthy and happy and God is sending more blessings every day.  This is the first holiday season that I can remember where I did what I wanted to do on Thanksgiving day and I plan to repeat that joyous occasion on Christmas Day:  take control of your eating, your career, your lifestyle and don't give in to those around you!  Make a resolution for YOURSELF in 2013 and enjoy your heart, your home and your mission in life.  Come home for the holidays and be in CHARGE for once and for all!

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year everyone!

Keep watching my evolution and if it is the Lord's Will...

 I will have more for you next month.

Keep reading, keep listening and get ready to see more!


BEE Blessed!




Angie BEE

Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &

The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE

Syndicated Holy Hip Hop Radio Show


Last Week I wanted to Die!




Thanks for reading

The Big GB - My Gastric Bypass Memoirs

Sonya's Links:


Sonya Bennett on Facebook

     Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.


     This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.


     This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.


This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org


APA: Stop Mocking the Fat Kids

from: NAAFA.org



APA:  Stop Mocking the Fat Kids


NAAFA is very concerned to see the cover image and read the cover story of the December 2012 issue of the APA Monitor, the official magazine of the American Psychological Association, on preventing obesity.   “It is hard to believe that the Monitor represents a scientific and professional organization whose mission is to advance knowledge and promote human dignity,” wrote Esther Rothblum, Ph.D., Professor of Women's Studies at San Diego State University and NAAFA Advisory Board Member.

The cover article entitled Big kids points out that, “In 2009, APA endorsed a resolution encouraging psychologists to challenge the disproportionate emphasis on weight reduction and instead apply more energy to helping patients adopt healthier diets and engage in more physical activity.”  And yet, contradicting the APA’s resolution, the December, 2012 cover of APA Monitor features the photograph of a very sad fat boy with “Preventing obesity” in big red letters.


The article also features a photograph of four fat boys in swim suits and caps posed in positions that hide their face or belly or entire front side with looks of shame and sadness on their faces:  http://www.apamonitor-digital.org/apamonitor/201212/#pg64 

NAAFA challenges the APA Monitor to produce an article or series of articles that focuses on health, not body size, and celebrates the achievements and accomplishments of children and adults of all body sizes.   Stereotypes are constantly being reinforced by the way in which marginalized people are represented in television, movies, print publications and online.  These constant portrayals continue to have a negative impact and create misconceptions resulting in discrimination.    The APA needs to stop contributing to weight bias, stigma and discrimination.

There is a critical need to create environments in which children and adolescents do not feel shame or guilt about their bodies, but are motivated to enjoy healthful eating and active living habits regardless of their body size or shape.  NAAFA supports the evidence-based Health at Every Size (HAES) tenets which state that healthy habits are good for EVERYONE, independent of their size. Eat healthy, nutritious foods and enjoy occasional treats. Pay attention to your natural hunger and satiety cues. Move your body in ways that feel good and love yourself just the way you are!


NAAFA has created a tool, the NAAFA Child Advocacy Toolkit, for people who are parents of, work with and care for children of large body size.  The toolkit will help kids, parents and caregivers take the focus off weight and direct it to healthy behaviors. It addresses bullying, building positive self-esteem an eliminating the stigmatization of large children. This toolkit is available to view and download from NAAFA's homepage: www.naafa.org






Thanks for reading

From the Desk of NAAFA




Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well… I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A. degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University. span>


I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a passion for a good tasting meal.


Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.


If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward with recipe and photo to




Happy New Year
with Lucia Roth

HAPPY New Year!

I'm a Foodie! Are you? I enjoy sitting on my sofa over the weekend and just watch the food channel. One of my biggest addictions in CHOPpED with Ted Allen and my next addiction CUPcAKe WaRs yummeeeee! I enjoy the creativity that each person brings to the Stove or Table (LOL). I hope to challenge your creative cooking side and bring out the FOoDiE in You.


I have some easy recipes that are healthy, yummy, and downright sinful. So are you ready for some slap your mama or your daddy, yes and even yourself recipes? Being that this is the New Year many people even me are looking to take off the holiday pounds and I have the perfect breakfast recipe for you and it takes only minutes to make and if you’re like me your time is valuable. So take a walk with me into the kitchen and let’s start this New Year off right.


Perfect Morning Shake


Number 1


1 to 2 scoops of protein power Vanilla (Lean One, Whey Protein, Gladiator Meal Replacement etc…) the higher the protein the better.

8 oz cup of almond, coconut milk or water (if you prefer low fat or skin that is good too).

1 banana or pineapple, blueberries, any fruit that you prefer.

6 to 8 Ice cubes (or crushed ice)

.Another Shake you may want to try is:

Protein-Carb Almond Blast

Number 2


2 scoops of vanilla Whey or other protein

10-12 oz of skim milk

1/2 cup of dry oatmeal

1/2 cup of raisins

12 shredded almonds

1 tbsp of peanut butter




     Ms Suga is a plus size woman hailing from Sunny South Florida. She is a 24 year old recent recipient of a Bachelor in Arts degree in Communication Studies. Being plus size for the majority of her life she has overcome many obstacles to finally come to the point where she is fully content with herself and her life. This self love has also allowed Ms Suga the privilege of sharing her love with those around her. She is very passionate about life and loves to help others.

     Ms Suga likes to see herself as the one everyone can go to for positive, inspirational and truthful words of advice and/or support. She is the Beautiful Inspirational Girl that is blessed, intellectual, trustworthy, caring and hardworking.

     Ms Suga has had a passion for writing since she was a little girl when she used to think of short stories about what her life would be like as she got older. This is Ms Suga’s first opportunity for her thoughts to be public for the world to see. Excited about this column Ms Suga is also very optimistic of her future in writing and promoting self love and acceptance in the plus size community.


Focus on your Success...

with Ms Suga



Oh my gosh! 2013 is here already?!?! It's the beginning of another year and we are at it again. Did you do everything you wanted to do this year? Or did you miss out on some opportunities?? This is the time of year that people are once again coming up with a their random lists of New Year’s resolutions that they either won't start or won't complete. Honestly, I think the idea is kinda overrated. We spend all this time waiting for the beginning of the year so we can "change" when we all know it won’t work out anyway. When you are ready to change...I mean really ready to change it's an immediate action. Setting a start date days or weeks in advance only gives you time to come up with excuses. At the same time I cannot knock those who choose to make resolutions. They are showing that they are making a choice to take a chance in order to change. So hey to each is own and all that good stuff; I respect anyone who tries to better themselves. Any who.

Do you choose to set New Year’s Resolutions? If so what will they be? If not what are something’s you have considered changing? Now I don't do resolutions per-say but my friend and I have started a tradition of our own. The point of it is basically to not dwell on major and immediate change but to focus on the success you've already accomplished and to move forward one minute change at a time. So here are the basics, as always you can take it or leave it. Find a couple sheets of paper and a nice quiet space and let's have at it

Step one: Sit and meditate for a few minutes. Clear your mind of all thoughts and just focus on you. Focus on the person you are today, the man/woman that you are at this day, this very moment.

Step two: Make a list of every good thing that has happened to you in the past year. I don't care how big or how small it may be write it down.

Step three: Based on your list of achievements, make a list of short term goals. It's good if the short term goals branch off from your previous achievements but if not the outcome will still be the same.

Step four: Consider the list of achievements and make a note of one thing you did to meet that goal.

Step five: Consider the list of goals and make note of what you need to do to achieve that goal.

Step six: Challenge yourself to meet one requirement of your goal list and focus on accomplishing it.

See that was painless right, Six easy steps. Now I like to do this on New Year's Eve before heading out. I feel like it gives me some sort of comfort in knowing that baby steps really do make a difference. I wish you all a happy, joyful and prosperous new year and I hope you enjoyed reading this. Until next time

Many Blessings
Ms. Suga

Living, Laughing Loving and Simply Blessed



Kathy is originally from a small town in Michigan but has lived in San Diego County since she's been 18 years old.  Kathy graduated from San Diego State University with a Bachelors in Finance in 1999.   She has a real estate broker’s license and works as a mortgage banker.  


Kathy also owns BBW Club Catalina in San Diego which has monthly night club parties and other fun events on a frequent basis.  Kathy has been an avid supporter of NAAFA, Vegas BBW Bash and San Diego BBW Bash and believes in size acceptance and health at every size.  


Kathy is a firm believer that people need to have a full life by going to the movies, dinner, bowling, dancing and anything that will make them a happier person and not wait till they are at the perfect size to start living their life to the fullest. 


Kathy is in her mid-40's and her children are grown and living productively on their own.   In her spare time she likes trying new restaurants, dancing, modeling, bowling and spending time with family and friends.



Making Healthy Personal Life Choices not New Year's Resolutions

 with Kathy Hernandez


This is the time of year that everyone thinks they are required to make their New Year's Resolutions but I decided to stop making New Year's Resolutions years ago because it seemed like I was setting myself up for failure because the resolutions that I was making weren't things I really wanted to stop doing or start doing.   I decided that I was doing myself more harm than good by making New Year's Resolutions like losing weight, keeping a cleaner and more organized house, making financial goals that were just too hard to keep.   My solution to this was to make healthy personal life choices that were attainable and things that I wanted to do or change about my life.    I think this works better for me because I am thinking about my goals on a weekly or a monthly basis instead of putting a lot of pressure on New Year's and this way I was able to make small goals and not put off what I wanted to do until the following year.    What is a New Year's Resolution any ways?   A New Year's resolution is a commitment that a person makes to one or more personal goals, projects, or the reforming of a habit. A key element to a New Year's Resolution that sets it apart from other resolutions is that it is made in anticipation of the New Year and new beginnings. People committing themselves to a New Year's resolution generally plan to do so for the whole following year. This lifestyle change is generally interpreted as advantageous.  This description is from Wikipedia and I think it pretty much sums up what a New Year's Resolution should be but what percentage of New Year's Resolutions are actually accomplished?  Among the top New Year’s resolutions are resolutions about weight loss, exercise, and stopping to smoke.  Also popular are resolutions dealing with better money management and debt reduction.


The following shows how many of these resolutions are maintained as time

goes on:


Past the first week:  75%

Past 2 weeks: 71%

After one month:  64%

After 6 months:  46%


Based on this data provided by Proactivechange.com that after just the first week only 75% of us who made a New Year's Resolution actually stick with our goals.     The best way to keep any goal you want to accomplish is to aim for a specific goal and use creative visualization which is thinking about how you will feel when you accomplish the goal you have set.    I think any goal you have in mind should have a plan written down detailing how you plan on accomplishing the goal and the steps you need to take to get there. I think the best thing to remember when making any changes or goals in your life is to make sure they are what you want for yourself and not something that somebody else is telling you that you need to do.   You know what they say... you can bring a horse to the water but you can't make him drink.    How about making a Healthy Personal Life Choice to love yourself every day and tell yourself what a fantastic person you are!


Let's make every day count and remember if we make a detour in our life goals that each day we can start over again and each day is a new beginning!!





Celebrating almost 2 decades as a Graphic Designer/Published Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus size/BBW Art.



Fat Girls

with Jness


As many continue to celebrate the New Year and prepare to jump start their list of resolutions, I sit here late at night reflecting on the year gone by. I am thankful for those who stuck with me during this maiden flight and I am excited about the year to come. I wonder how many people were encouraged by my art and by the words of my column. I continue to search the web for new ideas and bits of information to inspire me. Recently, an article caught my attention, it was very upsetting and I think it was notably one of the most offensive examples of size discrimination reported in the news for 2012.


How many times have you gone out for an enjoyable evening with friends to your favorite restaurant? Dining out is supposed to be a simple American pastime that is meant to be enjoyed by all. Unfortunately one night in December a pleasant dining experience took a bad turn when Christine Duran, Christina Huerta and Isabel Robles received the receipt for their meal. It clearly stated “fatgirls” as the identification for table 1. The women were in disbelief as they looked at the bill and questioned the waiter. He denied having any part in it and pointed out that another waiter in the restaurant named “Jeff” was responsible. Jeff denied committing the wrongful deed as he seemed to hold back laughter. The management staff at Chilly D's Sports Lounge in Stockton, California made a statement apologizing to the women and stating that “Jeff” has been suspended pending further investigation of the event. 


I think this was a good opportunity to point out the need for more awareness about size discrimination. I applaud these three women, because they could have just felt humiliated, taken the easy way out and said nothing. Instead these brave women chose to stand up and be heard. They took the story to the press, shining a proper light on the situation. I hope they seek legal council and sue for the damages of pain and suffering. People are entitled to being treated with respect. Businesses that serve in the area of hospitality are especially responsible to make sure the staff they hire and have in place be well equip on how to deal with the consumers that patronize their establishments. After all it is the dollars spent by these customers of all denominations shapes and sizes that pay their salaries and keep the restaurant doors open.


Situations like these are all too often swept under the rug. This is not an exaggerated response to an isolated event. These things happen every day, fortunately, (unlike other situations) this has received some national coverage. It’s time for people to be thoughtful of how things we do and say make people feel. My heart goes out to Christine, Christina and Isabel, because what they experienced was horrible unprofessional and unacceptable. Stay strong ladies. Continue to make your voices heard and don’t accept this type of treatment from anyone.




Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make you feel great and be Large and In Charge. My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree in Central Office Administration.


With that said, I have been wearing plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each store carries. 


Out of necessity, I started looking online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help all those to find what they want in their size.


In my career, I've helped plus size students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and help you to look even more beautiful and chic.



New Year, New Start, New Job?
with Amy Lucas

New Year, New Start, New Job?

It’s the time of year where many people start looking to create a change by finding a new career path and what better to have in your closet than a classic black suit you can wear to any interview. You can easily add or change items to update or add a pop of color to a black suit by adding a different top, scarf, or jewelry. This cross front top is sophisticated and yet conceals any tummy one might be concerned about. Since hound’s-tooth is a very popular pattern right now adding booties and a coat in this print makes this suit look modern and chic. Lastly, add a cute purse and earrings and you will be well put together and be dressed for success.


Nassau Notched Collar Jacket, sizes 12-32, $70,


Cross Front Top, sizes 12-32, $39.99, www.jessicalondon.com

Nassau Bootcut Pants, sizes 12-32, $54.99,


Houndstooth Check Coat, sizes 14-34, $149.99,


Quilted Colorblock Satchel, $45, www.avenue.com

Bebe Lexington Bootie, $104.95, www.dsw.com

Triangle Stone Facet Earrings, $12, www.avenue.com


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