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LargeInCharge Magazine -  10 Year Anniversary!

 Issue#118 - January 2014

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.

 

 

Raqui-ism

Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui

 

The Big GB Getting my Life Back after Gastric Bypass  Angie Bee

 

From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance

 

Foodie in You ~ Lucia Roth

 

The Observer - Jness

 

Curvy Styles - Amy Lucas

 

The Skinny on Big Love - Jay Hansen

 

Thinking Big - David Edmondson

 

 

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

 

10 Year Anniversary!
What a feeling!

Plus info on how to be a LargeInCharge Writer!
 

10 Year Anniversary of LargeInCharge.com

By: Raqui

 

It was ten years ago when I started LargeInCharge.com.  I had one associate who wanted to try it out with me.  It was new, an adventure, it was something that I believed in.  Even when I was left to stand alone I couldn’t falter from my dedication.  I did believe in what LargeInCharge was about, Consistent, interesting, a free publication, a more realistic view of Plus Sized people and their lives. A showcase of people who happen to be plus sized and happen to be making moves in positive directions.  People who believe weight doesn’t stop life or you from accomplishing what you want for your life.

Not a magazine for just women and women’s issues, not a magazine just for men and their issues.  It was for people, all plus sized people, all shapes, sizes, colors, creeds, orientations and locations.  People who maybe want to gain, want to lose, or those who don’t know what they want, and those who are perfectly fine the way they are.  People who couldn’t find support elsewhere, who were bullied by other people maybe plus sized maybe not.  People who just wanted someone to understand and say, you are important and no matter what you will always be important.  

LargeInCharge grew to support plus sized supporters, people who may prefer larger sized people, those who saw us all as equal whether we were large or small,  Companies (small or big) Individuals (small or big) who offered resources and more for Plus Sized people.  LargeInCharge grew even more to support and close the gap of division between the sizes, small sized, regular sized, plus sized and super-sized.  Can we not be sizes, can we be people, can we challenge you to just see people.  At our core we all are the same we all have a struggle and we all are shamed through life.  Can we learn to appreciate our differences and value the person instead of the sizes, looks, personal actions and beliefs?

I can’t tell you how many times I have thought about stopping what I do.  A labor of love, it wasn’t easy and it never was.  Always a struggle, but always rewarding,  I knew I was making a difference, I knew that people believed in what LargeInCharge was about.  A neutral ground where there is no affiliations, no sides taken, no war between beliefs systems.  Only support for those who need it so they can grow in whatever positive direction they choose to.

I saw that others believed to, with every volunteer, sponsor, writer, and supporter. I knew that the work being done was changing lives and views. They are a big part in making LargeInCharge what it is,  a safe place and I am proud of that.  Proud, and thankful, for every person who believes in LargeInCharge, who believes in acceptance and empowering people.  Who believes we all should fight for the lives we want to live.  To fight for our personal decisions and the right to be equally considered a human and respected as a human. An individual who has its own desires and needs and can control the roads they travel.

Ten Years, I wasn’t always sure we would make it to ten years.  Now all I can do is be amazed, and happy.  We made it and we are not through yet!

Thank you all for the Ten years of love and support.

Raqui

 

 

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Looking for new Writers for 2014!

About Our Writers Search:

     LargeInCharge is looking for Volunteer Writers for our Online Magazine.  We are looking for Males and Females who wants to write about issues that concern large people.  We need people who will be dedicated to writing columns/interview once a month in a timely manner.  You do not need to be a professional writer,  Good writing, typing skills, the ability to spell check, understand grammar and have your article sent in on time is what we are looking for.

 

     We want to bring the voice of the people to the people.  Give them something they can related to and enjoy on a monthly basis.

 

    LargeInCharge is a non-profit Online magazine, which is why we are asking for Volunteer's.  This is a great opportunity to brush up on your writing skills, expand your writing experience/ portfolio, or to learn different writing styles.

 

NOTICE:  This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.  You must be able to hand in one article on time monthly for a period of 12 months.  You will be asked to give in three stand by articles for you column for emergency purposes.  If you wish to continue after 12 months then you may stay if your track record is good.

 

We are looking for writers for the following Positions.  NOTE we are open to Ideas if you have a particular column you would like to write.

  • A Big Man's Gear - Fashion for Big Men!

  • Make - up, Medicine and Body - External to internal make your body feel and look great!

  • All Natural - Natural Remedies that help the body be balanced. Catering to Plus Sized People

  • Big Excerise - Tips on Excerise routines for those with limited and non limited abilities.

  • Dating for Large Ladies /Large Men

  • Inspiration - Inspirational stories, interviews and articles on loving yourself as is.

  • Plus Sized Entertainment - Interesting Plus Sized Entertainers on TV, in theater and on stage.

 

Would you like to be a writer? Apply following the directions below.

 

     Send in the information below along with a clear photograph of yourself and one complete article at least 500 words.  Please make sure your article is matching the position your applying for.  If you are a versatile writer and applying for more than one position send in one article for each position. If you have an idea for your column which doesn't fit the above categories please give details about your idea for the column along with your sample.

 

     Any submissions maybe be used in the magazine as a guest article or other wise if you do not receive a position.  If you are picked for a position it will be used as a back up for your column in case of emergency.

 

I want to Apply for a Writers Position:

 

My Name is:

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Send to: raqui@largeincharge.com   or you may submit via facebook if Raqui is your friend.

 

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Cover Model of the Year!

 

Welcome Everyone to the LargeInCharge Voting Poll for 2014, Cover Model of the Year!
We invite you to check out our Cover Models for the year 2013, vote for your favortie model below and the model with the most votes will be our The LargeInCharge Cover Model of the Year for 2014!

All of our Models are special ladies and winners in our eyes, this is the time that the public can show there appreciation and support for these marvelous ladies.   Lots of love and good Luck

Raqui

Want to see the Magazine Covers up Close?   Just click on the Cover you want to see below and it will open up in a New Window where you can see the cover and the entire issue the Model was showcased in, including her interview.

Issue #108 - March 2013
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Issue #109 - April 2013
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Issue #110 - May 2013
Brooke Bradshaw

Issue #111 - June 2013
Jaritza Mejia

Issue #112 - July 2013
Julie Davis

Issue #113 - August 2013
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Issue #114 - September 2013
Stacie Smith

Issue #115 - October 2013
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Issue #116 - November 2013
Bretina Lynn Craft

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The LargeInCharge Cover Model of the Year will recieve a Trophy, along with gifts from our Cover Model Sponsors of the year!

 

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     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

Raqui's Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! - http://raqui-ism.blogspot.com/

go to www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section

Raqui-ism - Make 2014 a Inspirational Year

Written By: Raqui

 

 

 

 

Inspiration

In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.  News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this world, with out focusing on what is good in this world.  So this year I dedicate my comlumn to all that is inspirational, postive and helpful. 

 

This month I want to share two videos that just fill my heart up with a good feeling.  We all need more good feelings nowadays.

Videos

 

Raqui


 

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Thank you for Reading Raqui-ism

Please send thoughts and comments to

articles@largeincharge.com

 
 

   

Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in communications, promotions and planning.  She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while building businesses and her faith.

Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from 180 pounds to 360 pounds.  She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg circulation.  At the age of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.  It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric Bypass Surgery.  Sonya launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is focused on something new!

Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over a decade.  Losing the first 100 pounds was just the bonus!  She is now diabetes-free.  She has normal blood pressure.  The circulation in her legs is normal.  She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!  The joy that she feels is documented each day in her syndicated radio show, a brand new weekly  TV show documentary and each month in this article.  The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also stands for "Getting (my life) Back".  This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery on Feb 28, 2011.  This is now her life!

 

It's a New Year and a New Me!

with Angie Bee

The New Year always brings with it a new type of anticipation: some people start new work-out regiments and others begin new relationships.  Over the years, I have met people that look for new jobs and new church homes when January rolls around and still other people strive to develop a new attitude when they change their calendar.  I guess that for me, I am doing some of all of the above -- well maybe not, literally.

 

Yes, I have new anticipation for what 2014 will not bring to me and my family.  I anticipate that my tummy tuck healing will continue as the swelling continues to reduce and my shape begins to re-define.  The November 15th procedure was a blessing for me, in that it reduced the pulling and chronic pain in my lower back and shoulders but the subsequent complications were frightening for all that know me.  The morning after surgery I required a second, emergency surgery to clean up a hematoma (internal bleeding); I needed three units of blood while on the table during surgery.  It took nearly an hour to resuscitation me with my low blood pressure and during the four days I spent as an inpatient, I needed three MORE units of blood and plasma! 

 

God certainly had His hands on me during THAT trial, as I itched and scratched from allergic reactions to pain meds and as my mouth became infected with Thrush (a type of yeast infection of the mucus membrane lining the mouth and tongue) from being closed for so long (I thought only babies caught thrush?  Next, I may need treatment for the CROUP! LOL) I tell you it has been an adventure during the holidays trying to negotiate three drainage tubes, two compression garments, daily dressing changes with visiting nurses and a brand new husband concerned about his wife (not to be confused with a Partridge in a pear tree LOL!).  January now brings a new anticipation for me. 

 

The plastic surgeon that is helping with my reconstruction told me that he removed nearly eight pounds of "apron" skin that hung below my navel and around my hips.  I now understand why my back was in constant pain!  He also removed about two liters of fat from my hips and sides.  Imagine carrying around a two-liter of your favorite soda pop just under your arm pits and riding on your hips.  It's a wonder that some of us can stand up straight at all.  I remember a time when I couldn't stand up straight: while weighing 387 pounds, my then pastor encouraged me to deliver my trial sermon and I complied.  When I arrived at the church with swollen feet and ankles and with pain in my lower back he obliged me to sit in the chair on the pulpit; I delivered my sermon while seated.  As the weight reduced and I became stronger, that skin hanging on my midsection always pulled me down.  Now it is gone and I can't wait to see what I will be capable of throughout 2014!

 

Even my husband is excited about us starting a new "walking" regiment.  He has always been active (I sometimes need a nap just to keep up with him!): he's a runner and does push-ups and other cardio activities and now, I think I can keep up with him while walking --  I think!  Do I need a new work-out wardrobe to begin?  Hmmm... maybe I do!

 

I may not actively search for a new job or church home in 2014 like some people do, but I will search for new networking opportunities and new people to introduce to Christ.  This New Year is a milestone of sorts for me: on January 18th I will celebrate the one-year anniversary of the Moms-n-Ministry Workshop by holding a weekend retreat in Daytona Beach Shores.  This will be an exciting time as former hosts of this traveling workshop will attend and bring their congregations to help us celebrate.  Business owners that have traveled as vendors will return and the Jericho Broadcast Network will be there to shoot and broadcast the event around the world!  I pray that moms from the area will come and enjoy the testimonies from the other moms while networking and enlarging their territories with fun and information. 

 

Also on January 18th we will debut the brand new Dads-On-Duty workshop with my new hubby as the MC!  It is so exciting to be in ministry and to work with my husband; his contribution to what I do is nothing short than miraculous and I can't wait to hear from the Dads that are lined up to speak!  Now I understand that my new "job" in this ministry is to help heal families by bringing moms and dads together on the same page: heal the broken parents and you help heal the broken children, Thank you Lord for my new assignment.  This is actually my new church "home" until the Lord sees fit to move me again and I am honored to be used in His way alone.

 

My incision is itching as I conclude this article.  Itching is a sign of healing but a "lady" doesn't scratch "down there" in public (lol).  Who made up that law?  Guys scratch all the time!  They scratch and readjust and... oops I went off on a tangent right there.  Let me digress...

 

The new me is emerging as my incision heals and as my back strengthens.  I continue to be impressed by how healthy I am since losing 200 pounds.  I still have my curves, I still have my mental faculties in place (at least I think I do!)  I spend my mornings drinking fiber and protein while chewing calcium and vitamins; a far and welcome cry from popping medications for various illnesses and waking up tired from sleep apnea symptoms.  It has been over two years since I had to awaken with a c-pap machine face mask that breathed for me when I stopped breathing.  It has been more than two years since I had to wake up to prick my finger to check my blood sugar and immediately inject myself with insulin.  It has been nearly three years since I had to elevate my swollen feet and ankles and it has been nearly three years since I had to race to find a toilet for my overactive bladder.  Next month I celebrate three years since having gastric bypass surgery and I can't believe how healthy I am since that time! I continue to get my life back after gastric bypass and I love sharing these adventurous stories with each of you.  If you plan to be in the Daytona Beach, Florida area from January 17-19, come join us for a fun weekend! 

 

Find the details on Facebook www.Facebook.com/Moms-n-Ministry and come let me give you a "non-apron hug!”  It's a New Year and certainly a New Me and I can't wait to see what happens next!

 

Now... let me go and scratch my itch!

 

More next month!

from

 Da Queen Bee, Angie BEE

 

 

 

 

Angie BEE

www.daqueenbee.com

Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &

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Thanks for reading

The Big GB - Getting My Life back after Gastric Bypass

with Angie Bee


     Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

 

     This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.

    

     This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.

 

This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org

 

Big Girl Rocks the Dance Floor!

from: NAAFA.org

Big Girl Rocks the Dance Floor!

  

NAAFA, a civil rights organization working to realize Equality at Every Size, congratulates Amber Riley and Derek Hough for taking the mirror ball trophy on Dancing with the Stars.  Kudos to Amber for not only being the winner, but also for her words at the conclusion of this season’s finale.  “I did this competition because I didn’t know if I could do it, and anything that scares me, I want to do.  So I want to let women of all sizes out there know, you can do whatever you put your mind to.  It doesn’t matter what size you are, what color you are, you can do whatever, whatever, whatever you put your mind to,” Amber said tearfully.

Amber’s hard work, stamina and determination clearly illustrate that people of large body size can be healthy and fit.   More than 12 weeks of learning, practicing and performing has been good for Amber’s over-all health but also clearly illustrates that strenuous exercise does not necessarily result in tremendous weight loss.  Amber does report feeling stronger and her energy is better.   

NAAFA is proud to see role models of large body size like Amber Riley in the spotlight on national television and in the world news.  People of all sizes should heed Amber’s words.  Whatever your dream, reach for the stars!

 

        

 

Three Teens on Amber's Win

Becca Christine 15 - Congrats to Amber Riley for winning Dancing with the Stars!! I have so much respect for her it's not even funny. This girl showed that it doesn't matter what size or color you are, you can accomplish anything. I know I’m overweight and Amber helped remind me that I’m still beautiful no matter what.  Thank you Amber!!
Adriana 16 – I am so proud of Amber. She really showed that we fat girls are winners too! I wrestle in high school and people didn’t think I could do it but I do!
Alexis Marie 19 – Wow, I knew she could do it! I voted for her every week. She is such an inspiration to all the big girls in the world. Can’t wait to see what she does next.

 

Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

 

 
 
 
 

 

Thanks for reading

From the Desk of NAAFA

Link

www.NAAFA.org

    

Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well… I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A. degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University.

 

I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a passion for a good tasting meal.

 

Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.

 

If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward with recipe and photo to

Web_girl1999@yahoo.com

 

 

 
Happiness Kitchen
with Lucia Roth
 

Happy New Year! 

Welcome to 2014 and another year to get it right. Whatever’s right for you here is your opportunity. 2014 is year of change and I’m ready to live it up with my new favorite recipe.  Can’t wait!

Yea! So now what?

Let me introduce you to a New Years’ recipe that you can do within a matter of minutes. In my perfect world I polished off this entire dish in one sitting — keep going back for seconds, and not gain a pound, “okay, okay, last time.” Yum…  I think you’ll be addicted to this too, give it a try! 

 




















Parmesian Crusted Chicken

Ingredients

1/2 cup Hellmann's® or Best Foods® Real Mayonnaise

1/4 cup grated Parmesan cheese

4 boneless, skinless chicken breast halves

(about 1-1/4 lbs.)

4 tsp. Italian seasoned dry bread crumbs

 

Directions

  1. Preheat oven to 425°.
  2. Combine Hellmann's® or Best Foods® Real Mayonnaise with cheese in medium bowl. Arrange chicken on baking sheet. Evenly top with Mayonnaise mixture, and then sprinkle with bread crumbs.
  3. Bake until chicken is thoroughly cooked, about 20 minutes.

(Note: a good side dish would be Macaroni Salad This healthy macaroni salad forgoes the usual mayo for olive oil, lemon juice, cherry tomatoes and cubes of smoked mozzarella.).

Ingredients

  • cup olive oil
  • ¼ cup fresh lemon juice
  • 1 tsp salt, divided
  • ½ tsp pepper, divided
  • 2 cup elbow macaroni, cooked
  • 3 scallions (white and green parts), chopped fine
  • 1 cup halved cherry tomatoes
  • 4 oz smoked mozzarella, cut into ¼-inch cubes
  • 1 tsp dried or 1 Tbsp fresh oregano

 

Directions

1.  For dressing, combine oil, lemon juice, and half the salt and pepper in a small bowl. Whisk well; set aside.

2.  In a large serving bowl, combine remaining ingredients; season with rest of salt and pepper.

3.  Toss salad with dressing. Serve either cold or at room temperature.

Lastly add cool refreshing low cal Mock Champagne to top it all off.

Mock Champagne

Ingredients

4 cups carbonated water, chilled

4 cups ginger ale

3 cup sun sweetened white grape juice

Directions

  1. Chill club soda, ginger ale and grape juice overnight.
  2. In a large pitcher combine club soda, ginger ale and grape juice. Serve immediately over ice

 

 
   
 

 

 

Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus size/BBW Art.

 

 

Overcoming Obstacles

with Jness

2013 is finally a wrap. It was certainly a year richly saturated in change for me on so many levels. I got a new job, my daughter suffered a series of seizures, and drastic behavioral changes due to autism, my dad turned 90, I walked some steps to personal growth, hit a few forks in the road, and the list goes on. The bottom line is that many hurdles have been cleared and I made it through to 2014. If you are reading this article, guess what? You survived everything that was supposed to crush you in 2013, welcome to the other side! This is something that is worthy of celebration. When you master a challenge in your life don’t forget to celebrate every accomplishment, this helps you to gain a clear understanding of how far you have come. Don’t overlook them, bookmark the moment and keep track, it helps build confidence. Confidence is what’s needed in order to go the distance.

 

One very important thing I learned this year is that we limit ourselves unconsciously. Deep feelings of doubt will prevent us from reaching our mark every time. This is a bigger obstacle than a thousand nay-sayers. This year I had the uncomfortable task of pushing myself out of my comfort zone. Did I forget to say uncomfortable? The gem is that when we stay in the thick of such a challenge, we find out how well equipped we are for the task. Often times we walk away from situations that require us to reach that Olympic level effort.

 

In this new year I challenge you all to go for that thing you haven’t really given yourself a chance to accomplish. Push, Push, and push yourself some more. You will be surprised how well you can function beyond the walls of your comfort zone! Just try it and you will see!

We secretly believe a thing is not possible and abstain from venturing out from fear of failing. Over the past year, I have had numerous conversations with friends and colleagues exploring the ramifications surrounding selling yourself short. Great points were made about MIND OVER MATTER, POSITIVE THINKING, and SPEAKING THINGS THAT ARE NOT until THEY BECOME REALITY. The results of these discussions were always the same, it seems that everything that goes wrong has the primary purpose of DISTRACTION and keeping you off your mark. There is a reason why every race starts with the words GET ON YOUR MARK! The race is not over, you have only just begun.

 

This year we saw the passing of South African civil rights leader Nelson Mandella, who was no stranger to challenges. He once said, “After climbing to the top of a great hill, one learns there are many more hills to climb.” The upside to this is that each hill strengthens us for the next challenges to come. We mend our wounds, rest for a few moments and prepare ourselves to get back to it with our eyes focused on victory. Giving up is not an option. Happy New Year, GET SET and GO!

JNESS

 

 

 

Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make you feel great and be Large and In Charge. My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree in Central Office Administration.

 

With that said, I have been wearing plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each store carries. 

 

Out of necessity, I started looking online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help all those to find what they want in their size.

 

In my career, I've helped plus size students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and help you to look even more beautiful and chic.

 

 

 
20 Outfits for the Holiday Season!
with Amy Lucas

The holidays are always a fun time of year since there are lots of events like holiday dinners and parties to dress up for. Luckily, there are lots of outfits right now with jewel tones, metallic colors, fur, lace, sequins, and rhinestones that will help you to dazzle the crowd no matter where you are. Of course, everyone wants to look nice on those days so make sure you check these outfits out before they are gone! 

 

Outfits for the Holiday Season  
Number 1.  

 

Magi Sculpt Track Top,

in Black/Pink,

sizes 6-26, $74.95,

www.simplybe.com

 

Magi Sculpt Vest Top

in Black/Pink,

sizes 6-26, $39.95,

www.simplybe.com

 

Skort in Soft Sport Knit

with Custom-Fit Waist in Black,

sizes s-6x, $21.99,

www.womanwithin.com

 

 

Number 2.  

 

Dolman Sweatshirt

in Grey Heather,

sizes 12/14 – 32/34, $54, www.ullapopken.com

 

Surplice Active Tank Top

by Marika Miracles®,

sizes 14/16-26/28, $52, www.lanebryant.com

 

Comfort Fit Yoga Pants

by A Big Attitude in Black,

sizes 0-6x,

www.sonsi.com

 

Sport by Cacique Front Close Sport Bra

in Black, $44,

www.lanebryant.com

Number 3.  

Black Notch Neck Hoody With Print,

sizes 14-30, $42.50, www.yoursclothing.com

 

Tek Gear® Printed Performance

Tee- Women’s Plus,

sizes 1-3x, $10.80,

www.kohls.com

 

Black Jogger With Leg Print,

sizes 14-30, $27.50, www.yoursclothing.com

 

Number 4.  

Shirred Yoga Jacket in Charcoal Grey,

sizes 14/16-30/32, $28.80, www.avenue.com

 

AirLight Sport Tank

by A Big Attitude in White,

sizes 1-4x, $19.99,

www.sonsi.com

 

Rhinestone Hem Yoga Pant

in Charcoal Grey,

sizes 14/16-30/32, $24,

www.avenue.com

 

Anita Active® Sports Bra

High Level Intensity in White,

$69,

www.onestopplus.com

 

Number 5.  

 

COC54 Honeydew Jog Bra,

sizes 0-5x, $45,

www.cultofca.com

 

CO55 Honeydew Jog Capri,

sizes 0-5x, $69,

www.cultofca.com

 

Colorblock Active Top

in Black,

sizes 14/16-30/32, $28,

www.avenue.com

Number 6.  

Body Star Yoga ¾ Sleeve Hood

in Mink, sizes 6-26, $23,

www.simplybe.com

 

Reversible Packable Vest

in Gardenia,

sizes 14/16–26/28, $79.95, www.lanebryant.com

 

Columbia Women’s Silver Ridge

Convertible Pant (extended sizes),

sizes 16-24, $70,

www.amazon.com

 

Number 7.  

 

Merona® Women’s Plus-Size Long-Sleeve Pullover Sweatshirt in Nantucket Blue,

sizes 1-3 plus, $24.99,

www.target.com

 

Danskin Now- Women’s Plus Dri-More Racerback Shelf-Bra Tank

in Heather Grey,

sizes 1-4x, $9,

www.walmart.com

 

Danskin Now- Women’s Plus-Size

Dri-More Workout Bermuda

in Dark Navy,

sizes 1-3x, $10,

www.walmart.com

Number 8.  

 

Ryka French Terry Snap Pullover

in Dynasty Green,

sizes 1-3x, $54.99,

www.kohls.com

 

Sport by Cacique Convertible

Underwire Sport Bra in White,

$54,

www.lanebryant.com

 

Women’s Plus Skirted Compression

Capris in Black,

sizes 1-4x, $36.94,

www.oldnavy.com

Number 9.  

 

Racer Stripe Jacket,

sizes 12-26, $19.75, www.ashleystewart.com

 

Ruched Active Tank Top

by Marika Miracles®,

sizes 14/16- 26/28, $52, www.lanebryant.com

 

Racer Stripe Activewear Pants,

sizes 12-26, $14.75, www.ashleystewart.com

Number 10.  

 

TruDry Spliced Active Jacket

in Vibrant Violet,

sizes 14/16-26/28, $69.95, www.lanebryant.com

 

Body Star Yoga

Long Length Hooded Top in Gray,

sizes 6-26, $28,

www.simplybe.com

 

Sport by Cacique Racer Back

Sport Bra in Black/Purple,

$42,

www.lanebryant.com

 

Bike Shorts in Comfy Stretch Fabric

in Black,

sizes s–5x, $15.99,

www.womanwithin.com

 
 
 

Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group, Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.

 

Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born. The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009, Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and quickly fell deeply in love.

 

Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological, contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a beautiful personification of the old adage opposites attract.

 

"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance, ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.


 
Facebook Fallout
with Jay Hansen
 

 

After seeing her Facebook newsfeed fill up with people telling others they look great simply because they lost weight, Heidi decided to take a stand on the social media site and post about how the quality of one's appearance is not dictated by weight. A long, vociferous, and revealing conversation ensued, with posts and comments ranging from praising agreement, micro-conversations about the relationship between weight and health, and unexpected confessions and personal stories. After keeping up with the thread and discussing it with Heidi, we came to our own conclusions about the complex, powerful dichotomy of weight, health, and happiness.

 

First and foremost, as Heidi's initial post pointed out, weight holds little to no hold on the quality of one's physical appearance. No matter what our weight, we all look bad when we first wake up in the morning, un-showered and unkempt, and we all look better when we've cleaned ourselves up, put on a nice suit, and practice basic manners. While these factors may still fall under physical appearance, they are not in the same category as the shallower basis of judgment as weight, height, shape, size, and other genetic, largely unchangeable parts of our bodies. Keeping up appearances with proper hygiene and dress are exponentially more important than any physical expression of our genetic makeup because taking care of oneself is an indicator of self-respect, which reflects more in terms of inner beauty than outer, and is a much better indicator of one's character than their weight ever could be. Our physical presentation should be measured by that which we have control over, not the inner genetic makeup we were assigned at birth.

 

I can already hear the devil's advocates of the world crying out that not all people who are overweight have a genetic predisposition to it. To them, my response is simply, so what? You can't tell who has what genes or what physical dispositions by looking at them, and more importantly it's none of your business. If you make a judgment of someone based on their weight, you are making a blind assumption about their genetics, and the conclusion you reach thereupon would be no more reliable than your initial assumption about one's DNA based on nothing more than the state of their body. If there is any logic to judging other people, would it not make more sense to assume the current state of a body, be it small or large, skinny or fat, is its natural, genetically predisposed state?

 

Outside of appearance, though, there's the ever-constant criticism of health and weight. These two measurements of a person are not one and the same, as any who isn't ignorant or a prejudice jerk could tell you. The current Surgeon General of the United States is Dr. Regina Benjamin, and she herself is a plus-sized woman. One of her main goals as Surgeon General has been to promote the message that Americans can be "healthy and fit at any size, or any weight." She puts the focus on the quality of our foods, daily diets, and regular physical activity instead of simple weight loss. The primary numbers we should focus on for health are those of blood sugar, pressure, and cholesterol among others, not pounds or kilos on a scale. Focusing on just the weight can not only cause unhealthy obsession that hinders the pursuit of a healthy life, but it can actually be detrimental to health should that focus develop into yoyo-dieting or eating disorders.

 

I'm not saying you should never pay someone a compliment, only that you should make sure you're complimenting something that is truly amiable and not a misguided endeavor. Complementing someone's physical appearance simply for losing weight perpetuates the stigma that fat is unattractive and can even reinforce unhealthy behaviors and mindsets. If you wish to compliment someone for their struggle to get healthier, then say as much. Tell them they've done a great job lowering their sugar intake, getting their cholesterol down, or just being more physically active. Are these not efforts worth complimenting? More than that, the specificity of complimenting these accomplishments are more honest and heartfelt than some generic, hollow, disingenuous "you look nice." These tiny, seemingly insignificant shifts in our day-to-day conversations and small talk will steadily begin to change the national attitude towards weight, health, and happiness, and foster a society that actually lives by the moral never judge a book by its cover.

 

 

I was born in San Diego, California on August 30, 1972.br>
Grew up in San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California. I Graduated from San Diego State University in 1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism (Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in Political Science.

I interned with U.S. Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.

I interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican National Convention.

Currently I'm a Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California

I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club in San Diego, CA.

And a newlywed, married to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.

I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men, Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin (21).

I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis, football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also design a web page for a real estate company.
 

Karma does Comeback

with David Edmondson

 I thought a lot about what I would say to start the 2014 year. I could talk about New Year’s Resolutions, but let’s face it; don’t we end up regretting those resolutions and regressing within a month? I also thought about mentioning the amount of cutthroat television aimed at people of size this season; but why begin 2014 on such a depressing topic? Then a funny thing happened while spending time with my wife Kathy and Safiyah. We watched past clips of my wife debating a fitness fanatic by the name of Michael Karolchyk, founder of the Anti-Gym, whose sole aim was to intimidate people of size (First in Denver, Co; then in San Diego, CA) by throwing bananas and Twinkies at them in order to get them to work off the pounds. This debate even made it to “The Dr. Phil Show” where again my wife debated him with grace even after he stated; “If you stay your size, you will never get married.” Well, here it is 2014, and not only Kathy Edmondson (former columnist of Dating Survival for Today’s Women) happily married, but Michael Karolchyk is no longer in business. As I was told at an early age, karma does come back to you.

 I could talk about having thick skin and ignoring what negative people say, but let’s face it, words do hurt and though you may not bring up the topic, others will. Those people look for a negative reaction or to see if they can get you to weaken and sometimes we do……..were only human. I compare it to the bully in elementary school, whom talks loud, draws a crowd and gets laughs only to wilt under the challenge, once it is brought back to the surface. In the end, no one is going to remember what they did as much as they remember how you responded to them. Yelling back at those haters only justifies them, while handling the situation with class stands out. Those people always lose in the end as Karma does  come back.

I am the type of person who gets angry easily and had I been in my wife’s shoes I do not believe I could have handled the situation the way she did. I am reminded of another incident that took place in 2012 at the Well Rounded Bash in Las Vegas. Many of us had gathered poolside to beat the 100 degree heat and of course, we were pointed at by those of smaller size. One lady in particular seemed offended that people of size would gather in mass. Her husband started to take pictures, perhaps to use them to attack us in Instagram, Twitter, Facebook or other social media sites. They were of course discouraged from taking any pictures to be used for propaganda. The point of that was a group, banned together, taking a stand against those who chose to attack a group, because their life or lack of life, was affecting their lifestyle. The point is, the way you handle yourself says a lot about who you are as a person. Never let any hater dictate how you live your life or get you to act in a way that is un becoming, because after all…..Karma does come back.

 

 
 

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