LargeInCharge Magazine -  10 Year Anniversary!

 Issue#119 - February 2014

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.



Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui


The Big GB - Angie Bee

Getting my Life Back after Gastric Bypass


From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance


Foodie in You ~ Lucia Roth 


The Observer - Jness 


Curvy Styles - Amy Lucas 


The Skinny on Big Love - Jay Hansen 


Thinking Big - David Edmondson 


The Sacred Fat - Freakie


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!


LargeInCharge Features
Where are they now?

Plus info on how to be a LargeInCharge Writer!

LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?

By: Raqui


Ten years worth of features, How do you keep track?  I have seen many people and comapies expand and grow since being in LargeInCharge.  I have seen many disappear as well.   It is the cycle of things, but amazing to watch.  To see the same people you spoke on the phone with or shared soemthing with during interviews move on to bigger and better things.  Being featured on TV or Radio, bussiness growing, becoming household names.  It is nice to sit back and watch it all go by and to have fond memories.


This year we want to check back on some of the featured people and companies.  See what they are doing, how have they grown, or what new things they are doing in their lives. 


This month we want to send a little love to the features who are no longer around.  For whatever reason they are have moved on but still we want to give them some love and respect, for trying is never a failure.  The only failure is to never have tried at all.


Lets give some love to:

Big Boi '00 Entertainment - Chicago Dance Parties for Plus Sized People

There website has changed but seems to be inactive since 2010, there yahoo group is also closed. 

If you know anything about Big Bio Ent.

Jab your Jaw Radio - Grizzly Bear Entertainment - XL-Productions.com - No active links

Club Envy Plus Sized Parties in Texas - Where did you guys go I wanted to visit you again :(

Michael of PlusIntimates.com - I hoped they would have stayed around.

Rosalee Women's Size Apparel - Custom Clothing in size 1x (18w) - 9x (50w) - Sorry to say a few years ago Rosalee passed away.  She was a nice person and I got to speak to her on the phone often. I still have a few of the clothing items she made for me. She is missed.

West Coast Rappers Plumper World Records - The fellas have divided and gone there own ways.  Each moving forward in their own dreams and making music and having their own successes along the way.

Michelle's of New York on Long Island a Plus Sized Boutique - Their website is down but maybe the location is still open.  If anyone has any word on them please contact me.

BBW Vegas Bash hosted by JoAnn and Darwin - This power couple has thrown events for well over a decade,  I was able to attend a few of these amazing week long events.  They have retired to spend more time with family and live more for new adventures.  They will never be forgotten for their contribution to our community.

The Heavy Hitters Plus Sized Softball Team of Chicago Illinos - They were beating everyone out and now I cant find any word on them.  If they are still around someone drop me a line.

Vuedis Big and Tall clothing wear just vanished into thin air.

Renee Bruce the Treasure Queen from Ohio - throwing parties for the Black BBW community, working with children and plus sized clothing as well.  I cant seem to find her but I bet she is hiding somewhere on facebook HMMMMM.

Kathy Hernandez of Club Catalina in San Diego.  While Club Catalina is no more Kathy is still active as ever.  She wrote for LargeInCharge Magazine for two years, has gotten married and her husband (David Edmondson) is now one of our writers currently.  She is still a strong figure in the Plus Sized community and is hoping to be working with NAAFA.org  in the near future.


While there are still more out there that I am trying to contact to see what is new or if they are retired.  I hope to send some respect out there to those who have come, gone and moved on to new goals.



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Looking for new Writers for 2014!

About Our Writers Search:

     LargeInCharge is looking for Volunteer Writers for our Online Magazine.  We are looking for Males and Females who wants to write about issues that concern large people.  We need people who will be dedicated to writing columns/interview once a month in a timely manner.  You do not need to be a professional writer,  Good writing, typing skills, the ability to spell check, understand grammar and have your article sent in on time is what we are looking for.


     We want to bring the voice of the people to the people.  Give them something they can related to and enjoy on a monthly basis.


    LargeInCharge is a non-profit Online magazine, which is why we are asking for Volunteer's.  This is a great opportunity to brush up on your writing skills, expand your writing experience/ portfolio, or to learn different writing styles.


NOTICE:  This is not a responsibility to be taken lightly.  You must be able to hand in one article on time monthly for a period of 12 months.  You will be asked to give in three stand by articles for you column for emergency purposes.  If you wish to continue after 12 months then you may stay if your track record is good.


We are looking for writers for the following Positions.  NOTE we are open to Ideas if you have a particular column you would like to write.

  • A Big Man's Gear - Fashion for Big Men!

  • Make - up, Medicine and Body - External to internal make your body feel and look great!

  • All Natural - Natural Remedies that help the body be balanced. Catering to Plus Sized People

  • Big Excerise - Tips on Excerise routines for those with limited and non limited abilities.

  • Dating for Large Ladies /Large Men

  • Inspiration - Inspirational stories, interviews and articles on loving yourself as is.

  • Plus Sized Entertainment - Interesting Plus Sized Entertainers on TV, in theater and on stage.


Would you like to be a writer? Apply following the directions below.


     Send in the information below along with a clear photograph of yourself and one complete article at least 500 words.  Please make sure your article is matching the position your applying for.  If you are a versatile writer and applying for more than one position send in one article for each position. If you have an idea for your column which doesn't fit the above categories please give details about your idea for the column along with your sample.


     Any submissions maybe be used in the magazine as a guest article or other wise if you do not receive a position.  If you are picked for a position it will be used as a back up for your column in case of emergency.


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LargeInCharge Cover Model of the Year!

Chica Plush



It is with a Happy Heart that we have a New Cover Model of the Year for 2014.  All of our ladies have been wonderful and the voting process was competitive.  But there can only be ONE Cover Model of the year.

Congratulations Chica Plus, we wish you the best and hope you accomplish all you set out to do.

Thank you everyone for Support our Cover Models.
A few words from Chica Plush: To be nominated for the cover of the year was an honor. To actually win is absolutely amazing!!! I am so overwhelmed with the amount love and support I got from everyone that voted for me!!

I thank you and appreciate you all so much, you have no idea how it brings such joy to my heart! Being in the BBW & BHM/Plus-Size Community, I’ve gained so many fans & friends that I consider as family! You all mean a great deal to me, which strives to do more and become better.

I will continue in doing my best on promoting confidence & beauty of being plus-sized and host BBW & BHM parties at Club Plush Tampa.

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The LargeInCharge Cover Model of the Year will recieve a Trophy, along with gifts from our Cover Model Sponsors of the year!


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     Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


     For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

Raqui's Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! - http://raqui-ism.blogspot.com/

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Raqui-ism - Make 2014 a Inspirational Year

Written By: Raqui






In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.  News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this world, with out focusing on what is good in this world.  So this year I dedicate my comlumn to all that is inspirational, postive and helpful. 


What do Hero's Look like?

A hero or heroine refers to characters who, in the face of danger and adversity or from a position of weakness, display courage and the will for self-sacrifice.

Hero’s… what do they look like?  We might imagine someone like Superman, with incredible super natural powers.  We think about people with amazing skills or abilities that are not common.  I know that before a certain event happened in my life, I thought about heroes as very athletic, muscled, super strong warriors.  Then something happened that made me realize that real true hero’s usually do not fit those stereotypes.

I was once called a hero, though to this day I don’t believe it.  Being from New York I lived in an apartment building six stories tall with over 60 apartments in it.  One day I was going downstairs to see my mother in her apartment (same building).  I smelled the most awful smell and I saw the hallways filled with smoke. I went to my mothers apartment and told her I was calling 911 for the fire department (with my cellphone), and then I checked every floor until I found where the smoke was coming from. 

I had to cover my nose and mouth when I found an apartment on the second floor with smoke slipping out from the door.  It was heavy, dark smoke and you couldn’t breathe.  I saw no flames, I didn’t feel heat, but there was no doubt that the smoke was coming from this apartment.  I couldn’t believe that the smoke had traveled all the way up to the top floor (my floor) so fast.  It filled all the hallways and I was wondering why no one was looking around.  Then I realized it was the middle of the week during a work day, no one was around.

When the fire department came I called out to them via the staircase.

“Second Floor… it’s coming from here!”

Next thing you know firemen were busting down that door or at least trying to.

All of a sudden someone opened the door, this dark smoke billowed out and there was a child there.  The poor child was coughing and then the firemen went in to get more children.

“You have to go this smoke is not good for you to breathe.”  The fireman said to me.

I nodded and started to go upstairs to my mother’s apartment.  Another fireman came out and asked me a question.

“Do you know who lives here?”  He asked.

“No I don’t… sorry.”  I replied

“Are you the person who called?” the fireman asked me.

“Yes... I smelled the smoke up on my floor and it was filling the halls.”

“You are a Hero today Ms.… If we didn’t get here in time these kids could have died from breathing that smoke.”  “We didn’t get any other calls but yours; this could have been so much worse we could have four dead children.”

I was in shock, me a hero?  I didn’t do anything I just had my mom call 911.  How does that make me a hero?  If anything the firemen were heros.

It was found that the four children were left at home alone with the oldest watching over the younger kids while mom was at work.  The oldest child was cooking something for the younger children and fell asleep.  The food had all burned so badly that the smoke filled the apartment and all the hallways of the building.  These children had to be taken by ambulance to the hospital for smoke inhalation.  I never saw the kids or the woman who had that apartment; I heard she didn’t get her kids back because of the incident and moved.

I then realized that a Hero is someone who calls the alarm, who speaks for others, who shows compassion to others in a time of need, who reaches out and tries to help no matter what the circumstances.

Hero’s come in all shapes and forms, all colors, from anywhere and everywhere.  They don’t wear a hero badge on their shirt; they carry it in their heart.  You have to have the heart to help.

So this month I want to showcase people who I think are Hero’s for very different reasons, but none the less I think they are wonderful examples that anyone can be a hero.


Big Man Buffalo Bus Driver Saves Female Jumper

A bus driver is being hailed as a hero for preventing a woman from jumping off a bridge over a Buffalo highway. Darnell Barton stopped his bus over the Scajaquada Expressway when he saw the women standing on the wrong side of the guardrail. (Oct. 30)


Worlds Ugliest Woman speaks out to others asking “How do you Define Yourself?

In a time when beauty is defined by supermodels, success is defined by wealth, and fame is deified by how many followers you have on social media, Lizzie Velasquez asks the question how do you define yourself? Once labeled, "The Worlds Ugliest Woman," Lizzie decided to turn things around and create her own definitions of what she defines as beauty and happiness.


Love and Compasion and Connection with an Alzheimer’s Patient – VERY TOUCHING

The connection therapist Naomi Feil has with this 87-year-old Alzheimer's patient Gladys is astonishing. Hold on for 4:19, when Naomi sings an old spiritual song. Gladys' response touches my heart.

Naomi Feil, founder of Validation Therapy, shares a breakthrough moment of communication with Gladys Wilson, a woman who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in 2000 and is virtually non-verbal. Learn more at www.memorybridge.org





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Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in communications, promotions and planning.  She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while building businesses and her faith.

Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from 180 pounds to 360 pounds.  She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg circulation.  At the age of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.  It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric Bypass Surgery.  Sonya launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is focused on something new!

Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over a decade.  Losing the first 100 pounds was just the bonus!  She is now diabetes-free.  She has normal blood pressure.  The circulation in her legs is normal.  She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!  The joy that she feels is documented each day in her syndicated radio show, a brand new weekly  TV show documentary and each month in this article.  The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also stands for "Getting (my life) Back".  This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery on Feb 28, 2011.  This is now her life!


My Own Personal Holiday!

with Angie Bee


I know that the MLK, Jr. Holiday has come and gone along with New Years and Christmas.  Some of you have celebrated birthdays this month and others are celebrating anniversaries.  Parents have been buried and babies have been born and achievements have been made too!  I'm happy for you all... but I am MOST excited about my own personal holiday!


February 11 marks my third-year anniversary of my new lifestyle towards health and personal satisfaction. This is the anniversary of my gastric bypass surgery.  The surgery was just a tool towards eating right and taking care of myself and I strive to continue my new lifestyle every day.  


During the past three years, I have experienced many life changes that have put me towards getting my life back.  My youngest daughter graduated from high school and moved to another city... hence forcing me to learn to live alone for the first time in my life.  My syndicated radio show launched into a music concert TOUR that now travels with parenting and testimonial workshops for churches and communities and six months ago the Lord blessed me to become a wife (I didn't live alone for very long!).  It seems that any ONE of these life changes alone would have helped be fulfill my desire to "get my life back after gastric bypass" but now I realize that all three of these events are helping me to do so.


When I first considered weight loss surgery more than three years ago, I weighed in at 387 pounds.  By the time I entered the program I weighed around 350 but the high blood pressure and type II Diabetes were out of control.  The CPAP machine was blowing air through my nose, allowing me to sleep and my ankles and feet were constantly swelling.  My life consisted of pills, injections, therapy, prayer, grief and a shortened life span.  The surgery helped me to learn to evaluate everything that went into my mouth and why it was going there.  I learned to use food as fuel to strengthen my body and not as comfort for my situation and my ills.  Some people use money or sex or control for these purposes: I used food and the surgery taught me not to do that anymore.  


Today, I weigh in at 194 glorious pounds and I am in full remission of all diseases that plagued me before.  During these past three years I realized that getting your life back is the equivalent to finding out what your life is transitioning to be.  After my daughter's graduation, when I lived alone I had to learn not to be "lonely".  It was during that time when I learned that God is not only my Father, but He is my best friend, too! I learned to call on Him and hear His voice and now I am learning to speak the works that He tells me to speak to others.  While on the music tour I learned that I had a ministry for mothers planted inside me and that sharing and fellowship is sometimes stronger than hearing a preached sermon to some people.  How many people "told" you to do something (push back that plate, go to school, marry that girl!) and you just couldn't do it!  Sometimes sermons feel that way: just a strong voice and personality telling you what is best for you and telling you what you should be doing!  You can get together with some of your friends and share stories, lessons and opinions at times and that process can give you a greater hope for the new direction you could go in.  On January 18th we celebrated the one-year anniversary of the Moms-n-Ministry Workshop and at the end of the day... I was ready for year two!


Now my life is transitioning again and I am so honored!  I am learning to be a stepmom for the first time in my life (anyone wanna give me tips on raising SONS!  Oh MY!) and I continue to stick to my dietary lifestyle with high protein and veggie meals (when my sons come for dinner they don't complain!). While on the road with the TOUR, I have learned to avoid fast food drive thrus and I pack protein drinks, nuts and protein bars to keep my energy level up.  I can still tear through a bag of popcorn every now and then, but I'm not so quick to grab a chocolate bar.  Yes, my tummy (pouch) can hold more now than it first did ( I can eat an entire Nestle Crunch bar now!) but now I can eat it slower and enjoy the flavor rather than wolfing it down in one bite.  I have greater control over my cravings and now can have pride in my control.  It truly is a new day and a new life for me and I am excited about my new holiday!


If you aren't my friend on Facebook, search for  MeAngieBEE in Daytona Beach, Florida.  You will find upcoming concerts and events where I will be but you will also see pictures of me during the past three years.  I don't even recognize myself in some of the pictures.  My face is so swollen and I remember being so unhealthy... they are a great reminder to me of why I have a holiday to celebrate!


Give yourself a reason to celebrate today.  It doesn't have to be your weight loss surgical anniversary; it can be the date that you decided to do something special for yourself.  The date you decided to let Jesus lead your life or the date you decided to kill off a damaging habit.  The date that you choose is your special holiday and you don't have to justify it!  Send me an email and let me know how you are celebrating and I will be sure to celebrate right along with you.  


Congratulations on your journey and 

BEE Blessed!


Angie BEE


Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &

The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE

Syndicated Holy Hip Hop Radio Show

Last Week I wanted to Die!




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The Big GB - Getting My Life back after Gastric Bypass

with Angie Bee

     Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.


     This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.


     This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.


This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org


NAAFA Announces New Chapter in Nevada

from: NAAFA.org


The NAAFA Board of Directors has unanimously approved the formation of a chapter in Clark County, Nevada.  The new chapter application was accepted with a vote of 6:0.  Said chapter will be known as NAAFA-Clark County and NAAFA-CC. 

NAAFA-CC Officers are:

President – Darliene Howell

Vice President/Secretary – Dawn Jett

Treasurer – Jeanne Fenton

NAAFA National Board Liaison:  Peggy Howell


The Clark County Chapter will include Las Vegas, North Las Vegas and Henderson.  It is the intent of the chapter to work on projects to support the local size-acceptance community. Examples of this are engaging members in working on projects such as the local End Bullying Now Campaign; the Size Savvy Project which is a list of size-friendly businesses; a list of size-positive healthcare providers; and other size-positive projects and events.  This information will be made available on a Chapter website.  Promotion of the chapter, projects and events will be through social media such as Facebook and Twitter. The officers plan to conduct fund-raising events for the chapter and the End Bullying Now campaign throughout the year.



Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.




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From the Desk of NAAFA




Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well… I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A. degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University.


I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a passion for a good tasting meal.


Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.


If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward with recipe and photo to




Happiness Kitchen
with Lucia Roth

We all know that breakfast is the most important meal of the day and starting off your day with a well balance breakfast is starting our day off right. For most of us who are busy parents mornings are a time of rushing around, preparing lunches, and sending the husband, wife, and the kids off with a quick inhale of a morning breakfast meal donuts, or some other sugary substance. This often set the tone for the entire day.


Knowing February is a month for couples in love well lets pause that and show love to the entire family by preparing a morning breakfast that is  “No-Fuss Breakfast Bake”.

This hearty all-in-one breakfast bake is a cinch, and you'll have plenty of time to spend with your gang!


No-Fuss Breakfast Bake

What you’ll need:

  • 1 pound hot or mild ground pork sausage
  • 1/2 (16-ounce) package frozen shredded hash brown potatoes (about 3 cups)
  • 1 cup (4 ounces) shredded sharp Cheddar cheese
  • 6 large eggs, beaten
  • 3/4 cup milk
  • 3/4 teaspoon dry mustard
  • 1/2 teaspoon salt
  • Dash of black pepper
What to Do:
  1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Coat a 9- x 13-inch baking dish with cooking spray.
  2. In a large skillet, brown sausage, stirring until it crumbles and is no longer pink; drain. Layer potatoes, sausage, and cheese in prepared baking dish.
  3. In a medium bowl, combine remaining ingredients; pour over sausage mixture. 
  4. Bake, covered, 30 minutes; uncover and bake an additional 5 minutes or until set. Let stand 10 minutes before serving.
  • If you prefer to get a jump start on breakfast, this is a great make-ahead recipe. Complete through Step 3 and then cover and place in the refrigerator overnight. When you ready to eat, simply follow the directions in Step 4 and you're all set! (Serves 6 and prep time  40min)

Bon Appetite!




Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus size/BBW Art.



Reflect - Love You, Be You

with Jness

This JNESS illustration is called “Reflect”. It represents the time one spends alone looking back on the positive experiences and good times in their life for the purpose of meditation and spiritual well being. It features a full figured woman sitting in a park outdoors. I was created using alcohol based marker, ink, and color pencils.


February is Black History Month, and it is overshadowed momentarily by St. Valentine’s Day, ironically it’s a holiday set aside to celebrate love and of course romance. Love is noun and verb that is truly worthy of celebrating. Valentine’s Day receives mix reviews from the masses because the levels of expectation vs. the levels of disappointment are amplified tremendously. That’s a lot of pressure compressed into one day. How you feel about it all depends on what’s most important to you.


Are you happier alone or happier with a partner and love interest in your life? If I took a poll this question would usher many different responses from my readers. As human beings we have a tendency to desire what we don't have and in some cases we consider what we have to not be enough. It’s like that old expression – The grass is greener on the other side. It’s all about perspective.


If you don't have someone in your life that’s no reason to miss out on pampering yourself and enjoying the time you have alone or with the people in life who are close to you. Take the time to work on yourself spiritual, physically and mentally. Do the things that promote personal growth and strengthen these areas of your life. Life is too short to live it in the posture of “waiting”. If the day comes when your soul mate to enters your life, you want to be a whole person before they arrive, with all the pieces of your puzzle complete.


The person you decide to share your life with will compliment who you are. They shouldn’t make you feel like they have come to deconstruct and rebuild you. They have found a treasure in you, and they walk alongside of you, not in front of you, not behind you. NEXT TO YOU. Till then take time to yourself, meditate, pray, read a good book, go out with friends. Spend sometime working on your hobby and things you enjoy. As the expression goes, "do you". Love you, and be you.


It’s important that you be a man or woman of standards. Don’t allow anyone to enter your life who does not bring peace and laughter. Drama and complications are not the side effects of love that we seek. Maintaining a relationship is complex but there should be a balance of elements that make it worth staying onboard. I’m not saying don’t compromise or sacrifice. Just don’t go loosing those puzzle pieces you worked so hard to put together.





Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make you feel great and be Large and In Charge. My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree in Central Office Administration.


With that said, I have been wearing plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each store carries. 


Out of necessity, I started looking online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help all those to find what they want in their size.


In my career, I've helped plus size students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and help you to look even more beautiful and chic.



25 Intimates You Won’t Want to Miss
with Amy Lucas

For many years finding sexy and beautiful lingerie in plus sizes was hard to find; however, now there are all kinds of great intimates from corsets to chemises. For Valentine’s Day why not try out one of these hot pieces to add a little variety to your life or set up a boudoir photo shoot to show off your sexy side. Either way, you are sure to look great wearing any of these intimates.


25 Intimates You Won’t Want to Miss  
Number 1.  


Rose Lace Corset in sparkleberry,

sizes 14/16-26/28, $64.50, www.lanebryant.com


Rose Lace Thong in sparkleberry,

sizes 12-26/28, $18,





Number 2.  


Pleated Lace Plunge Bra in black,

sizes 36C-44D, $44,



Sheer Lace Tanga Panty in black,

sizes 14/16-26/28, $18, www.lanebryant.com


Number 3.  

Sheer Mesh Babydoll with Sequin Heart Design and Matching Thong in neon pink hearts/black mesh,

sizes 1-12x, $54,





Number 4.  

Edwardian Cotton & Lace Camisole in white, sizes 1-5x, $34.95,



Edwardian Cotton & Lace Short Bloomers

in white, sizes 1-6x, $24.95, www.hipsncurves.com


Number 5.  



Leopard Print Push-Up Plunge Bra,

sizes 38C-48DD, $48.50,



Leopard Cheekini,
sizes 0-4x, $12.50,


Number 6.  


Mesh Camisole with Garters

and Thong in black,

sizes 1/2x or 3/4x, $32.95, www.hipsncurves.com



Number 7.  


Gossard Floral Balcony Bra in pink/paradise, sizes 34C-44G, $49.95,



Gossard Floral Print Suspender in pink/paradise,

sizes L-3XL, $26.95,




Number 8.  

Lace Rhinestone Balconet Bra in black,

sizes 36D-44DDD, $59.99, www.additionelle.com


Rhinestone Lace Thong in black,

sizes 0-3x, $19.99,



Number 9.  


Velvet Corset with Black Lace Trim in red/black

(comes with matching g-string and 4 garters),

sizes 1-5x, $59.95,



Bow Top Stay-Up Stockings in black,

sizes 1/2x-5/6x, $24.95, www.hipsncurves.com


Number 10.  

Stretch Knit and Lace Trim Chemise

in leopard, sizes 1-6x, $70, www.curvygirllingerie.goodsie.com


Number 11.  

Bettina Lace Push-Up Bra

in turquoise/black lace,

sizes 38D-46G, $32.95, www.hipsncurves.com


Bettina Mesh and Lace Boyshort

 in turquoise/black lace,

sizes 1-5x, $14.95,




Number 12.  

Edwardian Style Satin Brocade Corset in blue,

sizes 40-52, $65,




Rumba Black Mesh Briefs,

sizes 0-4x, $14.50,



Number 13.  

Soft & Comfy Lace Trim Chemise in plum/black,

sizes 1-6x, $39.95,




Number 14.  

Red Damn Sexy Oversized Tee,

sizes 1/2x or 3/4x, $29.95, www.hipsncurves.com



Number 15.  

Long Satin Peignoir Set by Amoureuse® in magenta floral,

sizes m-5x (14/16-38/40), $54.99, www.onestopplus.com



Number 16.  

Mon Cheri Mesh Chemise in red,

sizes 1-5x, $39.95,




Number 17.  

Sequin Bustier in black,

sizes 1/2x or 3/4x, $37.95, www.angeliquelingerie.com


Satin & Lace Garter Skirt in black,

sizes 14/16-26/28, $44.50, www.lanebryant.com



Number 18.  

Pale Purple Satin Balcony Bra,

sizes 38C-46E, $45,



Pale Purple Satin Short Panties,

sizes 10/12-26/28, $18, www.evansusa.com


Number 19.  

Jessica Wireless Long Line Bra in scarlet red, sizes 1-4x, $68,



Jessica Retro Bikini Panty in scarlet red, sizes 1-4x, $15,



Number 20.  

Mesh and Lace Overlay Chemise with Tiered Ruffled Hem and G-String in pink/nude, sizes 1-3x, $34,




Number 21.  

Diamond Fantasy Tie Cup Marabou Babydoll in black, sizes 1-4x, $39.95, www.hipsncurves.com



Number 22.  

Splendour Underwired Plunge Bra in gold, sizes 34C-48DDD, $33.50, www.simplybe.com


Splendour Diamante Back Panties in gold, panty sizes 8-18, $16,




Number 23.  

Lace Trim Chemise with Thong in pink,

sizes 14/16-30/32, $34,



Number 24.  

Shortie Sleep Set by Amoureuse® in red heart print,

sizes m-5x (14/16-38/40), $26.99, www.onestopplus.com


Number 25.  

Pale Pink Chiffon Babydoll with Matching Bow Back Panty,

sizes 1/2x or 3/4x, $48, www.biggalslingerie.com




Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group, Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.


Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born. The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009, Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and quickly fell deeply in love.


Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological, contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a beautiful personification of the old adage opposites attract.


"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance, ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.

Open Hearts and Open Minds
with Jay Hansen


I've often wondered what it means to be a "good" admirer of large women. Certainly, it depends on the circumstances, but in general there are some things that apply to all admirer-large woman relationships. In my experience with my plus-sized partner of three years, I've had to pick up a lot of skills around the house and think of daily life in a whole new way. Primarily, I do a great majority of the cleaning like vacuuming, mopping, tidying, scrubbing, and washing because of her physical limitations. I do the laundry, the dishes, and other regular maintenance because she has trouble reaching into a top-loading washing machine (a purchase I now somewhat regret for that very reason), being on her feet for extended periods of time, and generally can't get the work done as quickly as I can. I've also had to learn a great deal about health and physical care in memorizing the purpose and dosage instructions for all of her many medications and medical devices to sort and apply properly. Helping with hygiene, mobility, access, and most of all comfort for both my partner and our many friends of larger sizes when they visit has even led to me completely re-thinking the layout of my home and living areas, giving me a newfound appreciation for interior design. Much of how I've learned to take care of myself growing up had to be re-learned when looking at life through the lens of my plus-sized partner and friends.


What I find intriguing, though, is that every lifestyle shift I've had to make in how I approach caring for, living with, and loving a woman of size has been towards domesticating my roll in the family and household. While we've made great strides in the realm of gender equality over the past few generations, we as a society still instinctually attribute traditional rolls to particular genders. To this day, many people don't view a family with a working dad and a stay-at-home mom the same as they would a family with a working mom and a stay-at-home dad, even if only subconsciously. I've never fit in amongst mainstream gender identities anyway, but I've discovered that treating a plus-sized woman properly almost demands a certain degree of challenging traditional gender rolls. Being a "good" admirer of large women means one must be capable of sympathy for both their partner and all people of size. It requires a certain ability to see life through the eyes of another and a willingness to make accommodations, or even sacrifices, in one's own life accordingly. Good admirers must be nurturing to the specialized physical and medical needs of their partners, patient in regards to other people's hindrances, and willing to do more work and provide more care around the house to accommodate for larger people.  That said, being a good admirer requires becoming more domestic and even, one could argue, more feminine as defined by mainstream society when it comes to the rolls we play in our relationships. Being nurturing, patient, caring, sympathetic, hospitable, accommodating, domestic, and above all else openly and unashamedly loving of someone society does not treat properly simply because of their weight or appearance are all traditionally attributed to femininity much more than masculinity. So, at the very least, being a good admirer requires an open mind about lifestyles and day-to-day routines, which can easily lead to questions about one's own gender rolls in their personal relationships and society. Someone who is incapable or unwilling to be and do these things could never treat an extra-plus-sized woman with the love and care she deserves.


Of course, a good admirer should also be respectful, honest, and faithful to a plus-sized partner, but then again, a good person should be all of those things to everyone.




I was born in San Diego, California on August 30, 1972.br>
Grew up in San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California. I Graduated from San Diego State University in 1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism (Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in Political Science.

I interned with U.S. Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.

I interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican National Convention.

Currently I'm a Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California

I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club in San Diego, CA.

And a newlywed, married to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.

I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men, Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin (21).

I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis, football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also design a web page for a real estate company.

THE PLAYOFF EDITION… Women, this is for you!

with David Edmondson

This is not an attempt to take over the column that my wife, Kathy Edmondson, presided over the past two years, by any stretch of the imagination. However, in light of the big event (Super Bowl) which will have taken place before the publication of this month’s Large & In Charge magazine, I feel it is my duty, as a big man, to educate and enlighten women everywhere about an issue of importance. You women may not believe it is important, after all, it is the man who traditionally pursues the woman. No, this article is not about what to look for when a man is pursuing a woman; instead this is an article that is dedicated to helping you keep your relationship afloat. Men, back me up on this, there is only one common danger and it comes in different forms, but for the purpose of this article it occurs during the winter and it’s called………………………THE PLAYOFFS.

Yes, GOD made the world in six days and on the 7th day he told us to rest as he did. Yes, some of us do worship HIM and some of us watch Football. GOD gave us the gridiron in several different varieties (NBC, CBS, FOX, ESPN and NFL NETWORK). But I’m not saying this will occur every week and cause your relationship to suffer. I am saying that during the months of December thru February, on those weekends’ ladies, it matters not what you say or do, because we men WILL NOT pay attention to you. It’s not that we despise you nor are we willingly trying to ignore you (Well some of you anyway)it just that it is, wait for it…………..THE PLAYOFFS. This means nothing you could possibly try will capture our attention during those brief four hours. So here are a few tips for you ladies.

1.    Do NOT attempt to force your man to choose between you and the playoffs, if you do, you will lose badly. Think of it as when you are arguing with your man back and forth and you say the word “fine” to end the argument. Only you are in fact pissed off.  Well, THE PLAYOFFS are like that for us. So please, don’t ask us to explain the game to you…..You’ve had 20 weeks to ask that question and learn.  Please don’t ask that question….”Is this game more important than our relationship?” The answer is something that will hurt your feelings.

2.    DO NOT plan things to substitute the playoffs. This is not the time to try and take us to the mall, Costco and or Wal-Mart. And let’s be honest, we NEVER really want to go shopping with you. No offense but it’s boring and drives us to drink. Now back in the 70s, 80s and even the 90s, this was acceptable, because and only because, each of these places had live television. Men back then would crowd around these televisions in order to watch, wait for it……………..THE PLAYOFFS. I can remember watching Super Bowl XVI at Montgomery Wards. Today, it’s not possible, as these stores have pre-recorded loops on their televisions, which means we cannot see THE PLAYOFFS.

3.    DO NOT underestimate the importance of THE PLAYOFFS. This is not the regular season, where we can catch highlights on ESPN. This is win or go home time. Yes ladies, THE PLAYOFFS actually mean there is a conclusion to this madness. It is not to be trivialized or taken lightly. We don’t care about anything, not even getting the big piece of chicken, as much as we do about seeing the overall Champion. 

Now this extends to every nation. In February it will be the Winter Olympics. In March, it’s called March Madness for the NCAA Basketball Tournament. In May & June, it’s the NBA PLAYOFFS and in July, it will be the World Cup. If you want peace and tranquility in your relationship ladies, understand…..this is your man’s time. We don’t ask for much. We want food (and some of you can’t and don’t cook) and our PLAYOFFS. That’s it. If you can indulge us these two months, you can have us all to yourselves the other 10 months of the year. THANK YOU, on behalf of men everywhere.




Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided in California and New York. Besides advocating for Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child advocate and is a strong believer in Size Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling the world and being an ambassador for the fat community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS RULE!”


Why Are You So Fat?

with Freakie

If you are a fat person there is a very good chance that somebody has asked you that question.  I was asked in the midst of a party, sitting in a hallway with a male co-worker with whom I had a history of antagonistic banter.  We were pretty buzzed, hence the in-depth convo sitting on a hallway floor in someone else’s house.  I had just finished verbally running down his relationship with his girlfriend, whom I had never met, when he said, “Wow.  That is exactly what my dad said.”  I flippantly responded with, “Your dad is a smart guy!”, and he said, “My dad is a psychiatrist”.  So when he asked me why I was so fat, it wasn’t him trying to be an asshole.  He really wanted to know my take on it and that was the beginning of me really thinking about it.

Personally, I use food for emotional comfort.  I didn’t start out fat.  It took the combination of puberty, extreme insecurity & anxiety, loneliness, and separation from my dad.  I went from the life of a happy, carefree, active kid in California to shell-shocked, lonely, and sedentary kid in Washington.  Food was the only source of comfort available to me.  I also faced a lot of verbal abuse at the dinner table on an almost daily basis.  I was/am an extremely picky eater and this did not fly at the table of my Norwegian grandparents.  Gone were the days of my mother setting aside a bit of whatever before she added onions to it so that I would eat it; Instead I was going to get served what everyone else got served and I was going to eat it. 

You are talking about a kid who, at four, was forced to eat a Brussels sprout and puked all over the dining room table.  When I refused to eat what my grandmother served I was berated and forced to sit at the table for up to an hour after everyone else had finished and have insults hurled at me.  All I could do was sit there with my head hanging down and cry.  Eventually I would get to leave the table hungry, distressed, and defeated.  It got to the point that, every day after school, I would start filling up on milk and toast because I knew there was a good chance that we were having something I couldn’t eat for dinner.  On the rare occasions we had something I really liked I would gorge.  When I started babysitting every dime I made went toward food bought at 7-11 or the local corner grocery.  I babysat a lot and, at twelve, started working at a bakery.  The writing was on the wall.

Some people are born fat.  I know it is in my DNA too, but not to this extent.  Is it important to know why one is fat?  I think it is.   The more you know about yourself and how you make decisions the better.  If you are fat and want to change it then you had better know how you got there and how it is working for you.   You don’t owe anyone else an explanation, but don’t be afraid to work it out for yourself.  We are so used to being battered and belittled that sometimes it is hard to take a look at what we see as our flaws and be okay with them.  We are supposed to be “flawed”.  Flawed is just another way of saying different, and everyone is different.  I am a fat chick, and I rule.

Why are you so fat?



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