LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?
Ten years worth
of features, How do you keep track? I have seen many people and
comapies expand and grow since being in LargeInCharge. I have seen
many disappear as well. It is the cycle of things, but
amazing to watch. To see the same people you spoke on the phone
with or shared soemthing with during interviews move on to bigger and
better things. Being featured on TV or Radio, bussiness growing,
becoming household names. It is nice to sit back and watch it all
go by and to have fond memories.
This year we want
to check back on some of the featured people and companies. See
what they are doing, how have they grown, or what new things they are
doing in their lives.
This month we
want to send a little love to the features who are no longer around.
For whatever reason they are have moved on but still we want to give
them some love and respect, for trying is never a failure. The
only failure is to never have tried at all.
Lets give some love to:
Big Boi '00
Entertainment - Chicago Dance Parties for Plus Sized People
There website has
changed but seems to be inactive since 2010, there yahoo group is also
If you know
anything about Big Bio Ent.
Jab your Jaw Radio - Grizzly Bear Entertainment - XL-Productions.com
- No active links
Club Envy Plus Sized Parties in Texas - Where did you guys go I
wanted to visit you again :(
Michael of PlusIntimates.com - I hoped they would have stayed around.
Rosalee Women's Size Apparel - Custom Clothing in
size 1x (18w) - 9x (50w) - Sorry to say a few years ago Rosalee passed
away. She was a nice person and I got to speak to her on the phone
often. I still have a few of the clothing items she made for me. She is missed.
West Coast Rappers Plumper World Records - The
fellas have divided and gone there own ways. Each moving forward in
their own dreams and making music and having their own successes along
Michelle's of New York on Long Island a Plus Sized
Boutique - Their website is down but maybe the location is still open.
If anyone has any word on them please contact me.
BBW Vegas Bash hosted by JoAnn and Darwin - This power couple has
thrown events for well over a decade, I was able to attend a few
of these amazing week long events. They have retired to spend more
time with family and live more for new adventures. They will never
be forgotten for their contribution to our community.
The Heavy Hitters Plus Sized Softball Team of Chicago Illinos - They
were beating everyone out and now I cant find any word on them. If
they are still around someone drop me a line.
Vuedis Big and Tall clothing wear just
vanished into thin air.
Renee Bruce the Treasure Queen from Ohio - throwing parties for the
Black BBW community, working with children and plus sized clothing as
well. I cant seem to find her but I bet she is hiding somewhere on
Kathy Hernandez of Club
Catalina in San Diego. While Club Catalina is no more Kathy is
still active as ever. She wrote for LargeInCharge Magazine for two
years, has gotten married and her husband (David Edmondson) is now one
of our writers currently. She is still a strong figure in the Plus
Sized community and is hoping to be working with NAAFA.org in the
While there are still more out there that I am
trying to contact to see what is new or if they are retired. I
hope to send some respect out there to those who have come, gone and
moved on to new goals.
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It is with a Happy Heart that we
have a New Cover Model of the Year for 2014.
All of our ladies have been wonderful and
the voting process was competitive.
But there can only be ONE Cover Model of the
Congratulations Chica Plus, we
wish you the best and hope you accomplish
all you set out to do.
everyone for Support our Cover Models. Raqui
A few words from Chica Plush: To be
nominated for the cover of the year was an honor. To actually win is
absolutely amazing!!! I am so overwhelmed with the amount love and
support I got from everyone that voted for me!!
I thank you
and appreciate you all so much, you have no idea how it brings such
joy to my heart! Being in the BBW & BHM/Plus-Size Community, I’ve
gained so many fans & friends that I consider as family! You all
mean a great deal to me, which strives to do more and become better.
I will continue in doing my best on promoting confidence &
beauty of being plus-sized and host BBW & BHM parties at Club Plush
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In the fantasy and science fiction adventure
FatLand (Volume I), the
weight oriented Pro-Health
Laws of the US have become
so oppressive that people
seeking freedom over their
bodies have established a
new country where life is
good and scales are
FatLand: The Early Days is both a sequel and
a prequel, revealing a
hidden history as three
archivists set out to
discover how FatLand began
and quickly become aware
that someone doesn't want
them to know.
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
In this world we live in, it can be hard at
times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.
News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are
way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this
world, with out focusing on what is good in this world. So this year I dedicate my comlumn to all
that is inspirational, postive and helpful.
What do Hero's Look like?
A hero or heroine
refers to characters who, in the face of danger and adversity or
from a position of weakness, display courage and the will for
Hero’s… what do they look like?We might imagine someone like Superman, with incredible super
natural powers.We think
about people with amazing skills or abilities that are not common.I know that before a certain event happened in my life, I
thought about heroes as very athletic, muscled, super strong
happened that made me realize that real true hero’s usually do not
fit those stereotypes.
I was once called a hero, though to this day
I don’t believe it.
Being from New York I lived in an apartment building six stories
tall with over 60 apartments in it.One day I was going downstairs to see my mother in her
apartment (same building).I smelled the most awful smell and I saw the hallways filled
with smoke. I went to my
mothers apartment and told her I was calling 911 for the fire department
(with my cellphone),
and then I checked every floor until I found where the smoke was
I had to cover my nose and mouth when I
found an apartment on the second floor with smoke slipping out from
the door.It was heavy,
dark smoke and you couldn’t breathe.I saw no flames, I didn’t feel heat, but there was no doubt
that the smoke was coming from this apartment.I couldn’t believe that the smoke had traveled all the way up
to the top floor (my floor) so fast.
It filled all
the hallways and I was wondering why no one was looking around.
Then I realized it was the middle of the week during a work day, no
one was around.
When the fire department came I called out
to them via the staircase.
“Second Floor… it’s coming from here!”
Next thing you know firemen were busting
down that door or at least trying to.
All of a sudden someone opened the door, this
dark smoke billowed out and there was a child there.The poor child was coughing and then the firemen went in to
get more children.
“You have to go this smoke is not good for
you to breathe.”The
fireman said to me.
I nodded and started to go upstairs to my
Another fireman came out and asked me a question.
“Do you know who lives here?”He asked.
“No I don’t… sorry.”I replied
“Are you the person who called?” the fireman
“Yes... I smelled the smoke up on my floor
and it was filling the halls.”
“You are a Hero today Ms.… If we didn’t get
here in time these kids could have died from breathing that smoke.”“We didn’t get any other calls but yours; this could have
been so much worse we could have four dead children.”
I was in shock, me a hero?I didn’t do anything I just had my mom call 911.How does that make me a hero?
If anything the
firemen were heros.
It was found that the four children were
left at home alone with the oldest watching over the younger kids
while mom was at work.
The oldest child was cooking something for the younger children and
fell asleep.The food
had all burned so badly that the smoke filled the apartment and all
the hallways of the building.These children had to be taken by ambulance to the hospital
for smoke inhalation.I
never saw the kids or the woman who had that apartment; I heard she
didn’t get her kids back because of the incident and moved.
I then realized that a Hero is someone who
calls the alarm, who speaks for others, who shows compassion to
others in a time of need, who reaches out and tries to help no
matter what the circumstances.
Hero’s come in all shapes and forms, all
colors, from anywhere and everywhere.They don’t wear a hero badge on their shirt; they carry it in
their heart.You have to
have the heart to help.
So this month I want to showcase people who
I think are Hero’s for very different reasons, but none the less I
think they are wonderful examples that anyone can be a hero.
Big Man Buffalo Bus Driver Saves Female Jumper
A bus driver is being
hailed as a hero for preventing a woman from jumping off a bridge
over a Buffalo highway. Darnell Barton stopped his bus over the
Scajaquada Expressway when he saw the women standing on the wrong
side of the guardrail. (Oct. 30)
Worlds Ugliest Woman speaks out to others asking “How do you Define
In a time when beauty
is defined by supermodels, success is defined by wealth, and fame is
deified by how many followers you have on social media, Lizzie
Velasquez asks the question how do you define yourself? Once
labeled, "The Worlds Ugliest Woman," Lizzie decided to turn things
around and create her own definitions of what she defines as beauty
Love and Compasion and Connection with an Alzheimer’s Patient – VERY
therapist Naomi Feil has with this 87-year-old Alzheimer's patient
Gladys is astonishing. Hold on for 4:19, when Naomi sings an old
spiritual song. Gladys' response touches my heart.
Naomi Feil, founder of
Validation Therapy, shares a breakthrough moment of communication
with Gladys Wilson, a woman who was diagnosed with Alzheimer's in
2000 and is virtually non-verbal. Learn more at
- Weekly Radio show discussing Plus Sized Issues. Friday's
pm EST - Call in & Chat in our Chat Room.
Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
My Own Personal Holiday!
I know that the MLK, Jr. Holiday has come
and gone along with New Years and Christmas. Some of you have
celebrated birthdays this month and others are celebrating
anniversaries. Parents have been buried and babies have been born
and achievements have been made too! I'm happy for you all... but I
am MOST excited about my own personal holiday!
February 11 marks my third-year anniversary
of my new lifestyle towards health and personal satisfaction. This
is the anniversary of my gastric bypass surgery. The surgery was
just a tool towards eating right and taking care of myself and I
strive to continue my new lifestyle every day.
During the past three years, I have
experienced many life changes that have put me towards getting my
life back. My youngest daughter graduated from high school and
moved to another city... hence forcing me to learn to live alone for
the first time in my life. My syndicated radio show launched into a
music concert TOUR that now travels with parenting and testimonial
workshops for churches and communities and six months ago the Lord
blessed me to become a wife (I didn't live alone for very long!).
It seems that any ONE of these life changes alone would have helped
be fulfill my desire to "get my life back after gastric bypass" but
now I realize that all three of these events are helping me to do
When I first considered weight loss surgery
more than three years ago, I weighed in at 387 pounds. By the time
I entered the program I weighed around 350 but the high blood
pressure and type II Diabetes were out of control. The CPAP machine
was blowing air through my nose, allowing me to sleep and my ankles
and feet were constantly swelling. My life consisted of pills,
injections, therapy, prayer, grief and a shortened life span. The
surgery helped me to learn to evaluate everything that went into my
mouth and why it was going there. I learned to use food as fuel to
strengthen my body and not as comfort for my situation and my ills.
Some people use money or sex or control for these purposes: I used
food and the surgery taught me not to do that anymore.
Today, I weigh in at 194 glorious pounds and
I am in full remission of all diseases that plagued me before.
During these past three years I realized that getting your life back
is the equivalent to finding out what your life is transitioning to
be. After my daughter's graduation, when I lived alone I had to
learn not to be "lonely". It was during that time when I learned
that God is not only my Father, but He is my best friend, too! I
learned to call on Him and hear His voice and now I am learning to
speak the works that He tells me to speak to others. While on the
music tour I learned that I had a ministry for mothers planted
inside me and that sharing and fellowship is sometimes stronger than
hearing a preached sermon to some people. How many people "told"
you to do something (push back that plate, go to school, marry that
girl!) and you just couldn't do it! Sometimes sermons feel that
way: just a strong voice and personality telling you what is best
for you and telling you what you should be doing! You can get
together with some of your friends and share stories, lessons and
opinions at times and that process can give you a greater hope for
the new direction you could go in. On January 18th we celebrated
the one-year anniversary of the Moms-n-Ministry Workshop and at the
end of the day... I was ready for year two!
Now my life is transitioning again and I am
so honored! I am learning to be a stepmom for the first time in my
life (anyone wanna give me tips on raising SONS! Oh MY!) and I
continue to stick to my dietary lifestyle with high protein and
veggie meals (when my sons come for dinner they don't complain!).
While on the road with the TOUR, I have learned to avoid fast food
drive thrus and I pack protein drinks, nuts and protein bars to keep
my energy level up. I can still tear through a bag of popcorn every
now and then, but I'm not so quick to grab a chocolate bar. Yes, my
tummy (pouch) can hold more now than it first did ( I can eat an
entire Nestle Crunch bar now!) but now I can eat it slower and enjoy
the flavor rather than wolfing it down in one bite. I have greater
control over my cravings and now can have pride in my control. It
truly is a new day and a new life for me and I am excited about my
If you aren't my friend on Facebook, search
for MeAngieBEE in Daytona Beach, Florida. You will find upcoming
concerts and events where I will be but you will also see pictures
of me during the past three years. I don't even recognize myself in
some of the pictures. My face is so swollen and I remember being so
unhealthy... they are a great reminder to me of why I have a holiday
Give yourself a reason to celebrate today.
It doesn't have to be your weight loss surgical anniversary; it can
be the date that you decided to do something special for yourself.
The date you decided to let Jesus lead your life or the date you
decided to kill off a damaging habit. The date that you choose is
your special holiday and you don't have to justify it! Send me an
email and let me know how you are celebrating and I will be sure to
celebrate right along with you.
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
NAAFA Announces New Chapter in Nevada
The NAAFA Board of Directors has unanimously
approved the formation of a chapter in Clark County, Nevada.The new chapter application was accepted with a vote of 6:0.Said chapter will be known as NAAFA-Clark County and
NAAFA-CC Officers are:
President – Darliene Howell
Vice President/Secretary – Dawn Jett
Treasurer – Jeanne Fenton
NAAFA National Board Liaison:Peggy Howell
The Clark County Chapter will include Las Vegas, North Las Vegas and
Henderson.It is the
intent of the chapter to work on projects to support the local
size-acceptance community. Examples of this are engaging members in
working on projects such as the local End Bullying Now Campaign; the
Size Savvy Project which is a list of size-friendly businesses; a
list of size-positive healthcare providers; and other size-positive
projects and events.
This information will be made available on a Chapter website.
Promotion of the chapter,
projects and events will be through social media such as Facebook
and Twitter. The officers plan to conduct fund-raising events for
the chapter and the End Bullying Now campaign throughout the year.
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well…
I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
We all know that breakfast is the most
important meal of the day and starting off your day with a well
balance breakfast is starting our day off right. For most of us
who are busy parents mornings are a time of rushing around,
preparing lunches, and sending the husband, wife, and the kids
off with a quick inhale of a morning breakfast meal donuts, or
some other sugary substance. This often set the tone for the
Knowing February is a month for couples in
love well lets pause that and show love to the entire family by
preparing a morning breakfast that is“No-Fuss Breakfast Bake”.
This hearty all-in-one breakfast bake is a
cinch, and you'll have plenty of time to spend with your gang!
No-Fuss Breakfast Bake
What you’ll need:
1 poundhot or mild
ground pork sausage
frozen shredded hash brown potatoes (about 3
1 cup(4 ounces)
shredded sharp Cheddar cheese
6 large eggs, beaten
3/4 teaspoondry mustard
Dash of black pepper
What to Do:
Preheat oven to 350
degrees F. Coat a 9- x 13-inch baking dish with
In a large skillet,
brown sausage, stirring until it crumbles and is
no longer pink; drain. Layer potatoes, sausage,
and cheese in prepared baking dish.
In a medium bowl,
combine remaining ingredients; pour over sausage
Bake, covered, 30
minutes; uncover and bake an additional 5
minutes or until set. Let stand 10 minutes
If you prefer to get
a jump start on breakfast, this is a great
make-ahead recipe. Complete through Step 3 and
then cover and place in the refrigerator
overnight. When you ready to eat, simply follow
the directions in Step 4 and you're all
set! (Serves 6 and prep time40min)
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
Reflect - Love You, Be You
This JNESS illustration is called “Reflect”. It represents
the time one spends alone looking back on the positive
experiences and good times in their life for the purpose of
meditation and spiritual well being. It features a full figured
woman sitting in a park outdoors. I was created using alcohol
based marker, ink, and color pencils.
February is Black History Month, and it is overshadowed
momentarily by St. Valentine’s Day, ironically it’s a holiday
set aside to celebrate love and of course romance. Love is noun
and verb that is truly worthy of celebrating. Valentine’s Day
receives mix reviews from the masses because the levels of
expectation vs. the levels of disappointment are amplified
tremendously. That’s a lot of pressure compressed into one day.
How you feel about it all depends on what’s most important to
Are you happier alone or happier with a partner and love
interest in your life? If I took a poll this question would
usher many different responses from my readers. As human beings
we have a tendency to desire what we don't have and in some
cases we consider what we have to not be enough. It’s like that
old expression – The grass is greener on the other side. It’s
all about perspective.
If you don't have someone in your life that’s no reason to
miss out on pampering yourself and enjoying the time you have
alone or with the people in life who are close to you. Take the
time to work on yourself spiritual, physically and mentally. Do
the things that promote personal growth and strengthen these
areas of your life. Life is too short to live it in the posture
of “waiting”. If the day comes when your soul mate to enters
your life, you want to be a whole person before they arrive,
with all the pieces of your puzzle complete.
The person you decide to share your life with will
compliment who you are. They shouldn’t make you feel like they
have come to deconstruct and rebuild you. They have found a
treasure in you, and they walk alongside of you, not in front of
you, not behind you. NEXT TO YOU. Till then take time to
yourself, meditate, pray, read a good book, go out with friends.
Spend sometime working on your hobby and things you enjoy. As
the expression goes, "do you". Love you, and be you.
It’s important that you be a man or woman of standards.
Don’t allow anyone to enter your life who does not bring peace
and laughter. Drama and complications are not the side effects
of love that we seek. Maintaining a relationship is complex but
there should be a balance of elements that make it worth staying
onboard. I’m not saying don’t compromise or sacrifice. Just
don’t go loosing those puzzle pieces you worked so hard to put
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
25 Intimates You Won’t Want to Miss
with Amy Lucas
For many years finding sexy
and beautiful lingerie in plus sizes was hard to find; however, now there
are all kinds of great intimates from corsets to chemises. For Valentine’s
Day why not try out one of these hot pieces to add a little variety to
your life or set up a boudoir photo shoot to show off your sexy side.
Either way, you are sure to look great wearing any of these intimates.
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
Open Hearts and Open Minds
with Jay Hansen
I've often wondered what it means to be a "good" admirer of large women.
Certainly, it depends on the circumstances, but in general there are some
things that apply to all admirer-large woman relationships. In my
experience with my plus-sized partner of three years, I've had to pick up
a lot of skills around the house and think of daily life in a whole new
way. Primarily, I do a great majority of the cleaning like vacuuming,
mopping, tidying, scrubbing, and washing because of her physical
limitations. I do the laundry, the dishes, and other regular maintenance
because she has trouble reaching into a top-loading washing machine (a
purchase I now somewhat regret for that very reason), being on her feet
for extended periods of time, and generally can't get the work done as
quickly as I can. I've also had to learn a great deal about health and
physical care in memorizing the purpose and dosage instructions for all of
her many medications and medical devices to sort and apply properly.
Helping with hygiene, mobility, access, and most of all comfort for both
my partner and our many friends of larger sizes when they visit has even
led to me completely re-thinking the layout of my home and living areas,
giving me a newfound appreciation for interior design. Much of how I've
learned to take care of myself growing up had to be re-learned when
looking at life through the lens of my plus-sized partner and friends.
What I find intriguing, though, is that every lifestyle shift I've had to
make in how I approach caring for, living with, and loving a woman of size
has been towards domesticating my roll in the family and household. While
we've made great strides in the realm of gender equality over the past few
generations, we as a society still instinctually attribute traditional
rolls to particular genders. To this day, many people don't view a family
with a working dad and a stay-at-home mom the same as they would a family
with a working mom and a stay-at-home dad, even if only subconsciously.
I've never fit in amongst mainstream gender identities anyway, but I've
discovered that treating a plus-sized woman properly almost demands a
certain degree of challenging traditional gender rolls. Being a "good"
admirer of large women means one must be capable of sympathy for both
their partner and all people of size. It requires a certain ability to see
life through the eyes of another and a willingness to make accommodations,
or even sacrifices, in one's own life accordingly. Good admirers must be
nurturing to the specialized physical and medical needs of their partners,
patient in regards to other people's hindrances, and willing to do more
work and provide more care around the house to accommodate for larger
people.That said, being a
good admirer requires becoming more domestic and even, one could argue,
more feminine as defined by mainstream society when it comes to the rolls
we play in our relationships. Being nurturing, patient, caring,
sympathetic, hospitable, accommodating, domestic, and above all else
openly and unashamedly loving of someone society does not treat properly
simply because of their weight or appearance are all traditionally
attributed to femininity much more than masculinity. So, at the very
least, being a good admirer requires an open mind about lifestyles and
day-to-day routines, which can easily lead to questions about one's own
gender rolls in their personal relationships and society. Someone who is
incapable or unwilling to be and do these things could never treat an
extra-plus-sized woman with the love and care she deserves.
Of course, a good admirer should also be respectful, honest, and faithful
to a plus-sized partner, but then again, a good person should be all of
those things to everyone.
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972.br> Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
THE PLAYOFF EDITION… Women, this is for you!
with David Edmondson
This is not an attempt to take over the
column that my wife, Kathy Edmondson, presided over the
past two years, by any stretch of the imagination.
However, in light of the big event (Super Bowl) which
will have taken place before the publication of this
month’s Large & In Charge magazine, I feel it is my
duty, as a big man, to educate and enlighten women
everywhere about an issue of importance. You women may
not believe it is important, after all, it is the man
who traditionally pursues the woman. No, this article is
not about what to look for when a man is pursuing a
woman; instead this is an article that is dedicated to
helping you keep your relationship afloat. Men, back me
up on this, there is only one common danger and it comes
in different forms, but for the purpose of this article
it occurs during the winter and it’s called………………………THE
Yes, GOD made the world in six days and on
the 7th day he told us to rest as he did.
Yes, some of us do worship HIM and some of us watch
Football. GOD gave us the gridiron in several different
varieties (NBC, CBS, FOX, ESPN and NFL NETWORK). But I’m
not saying this will occur every week and cause your
relationship to suffer. I am saying that during the
months of December thru February, on those weekends’
ladies, it matters not what you say or do, because we
men WILL NOT pay attention to you. It’s not that we
despise you nor are we willingly trying to ignore you
(Well some of you anyway)it just that it is, wait for
it…………..THE PLAYOFFS. This means nothing you could
possibly try will capture our attention during those
brief four hours. So here are a few tips for you ladies.
Do NOT attempt to force your man to choose between you
and the playoffs, if you do, you will lose badly. Think
of it as when you are arguing with your man back and
forth and you say the word “fine” to end the argument.
Only you are in fact pissed off.Well, THE PLAYOFFS are like that for us. So
please, don’t ask us to explain the game to you…..You’ve
had 20 weeks to ask that question and learn.Please don’t ask that question….”Is this game
more important than our relationship?” The answer is
something that will hurt your feelings.
DO NOT plan things to substitute the playoffs. This is
not the time to try and take us to the mall, Costco and
or Wal-Mart. And let’s be honest, we NEVER really want
to go shopping with you. No offense but it’s boring and
drives us to drink. Now back in the 70s, 80s and even
the 90s, this was acceptable, because and only because,
each of these places had live television. Men back then
would crowd around these televisions in order to watch,
wait for it……………..THE PLAYOFFS. I can remember watching
Super Bowl XVI at Montgomery Wards. Today, it’s not
possible, as these stores have pre-recorded loops on
their televisions, which means we cannot see THE
DO NOT underestimate the importance of THE PLAYOFFS.
This is not the regular season, where we can catch
highlights on ESPN. This is win or go home time. Yes
ladies, THE PLAYOFFS actually mean there is a conclusion
to this madness. It is not to be trivialized or taken
lightly. We don’t care about anything, not even getting
the big piece of chicken, as much as we do about seeing
the overall Champion.
Now this extends to every nation. In
February it will be the Winter Olympics. In March, it’s
called March Madness for the NCAA Basketball Tournament.
In May & June, it’s the NBA PLAYOFFS and in July, it
will be the World Cup. If you want peace and tranquility
in your relationship ladies, understand…..this is your
man’s time. We don’t ask for much. We want food (and
some of you can’t and don’t cook) and our PLAYOFFS.
That’s it. If you can indulge us these two months, you
can have us all to yourselves the other 10 months of the
year. THANK YOU, on behalf of men everywhere.
Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for
over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with
her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided
in California and New York. Besides advocating for
Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child
advocate and is a strong believer in Size
Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling
the world and being an ambassador for the fat
community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS
Why Are You So Fat?
If you are a fat person there is a very good
chance that somebody has asked you that question.I was asked in the midst of a party, sitting in a
hallway with a male co-worker with whom I had a history
of antagonistic banter.We were pretty buzzed, hence the in-depth convo
sitting on a hallway floor in someone else’s house.I had just finished verbally running down his
relationship with his girlfriend, whom I had never met,
when he said, “Wow.That is exactly what my dad said.”I flippantly responded with, “Your dad is a smart
guy!”, and he said, “My dad is a psychiatrist”.So when he asked me why I was so fat, it wasn’t
him trying to be an asshole.He really wanted to know my take on it and that
was the beginning of me really thinking about it.
Personally, I use food for emotional
didn’t start out fat.It took the combination of puberty, extreme
insecurity & anxiety, loneliness, and separation from my
from the life of a happy, carefree, active kid in
California to shell-shocked, lonely, and sedentary kid
in Washington.Food was the only source of comfort available to
faced a lot of verbal abuse at the dinner table on an
almost daily basis.I was/am an extremely picky eater and this did
not fly at the table of my Norwegian grandparents.Gone were the days of my mother setting aside a
bit of whatever before she added onions to it so that I
would eat it; Instead I was going to get served what
everyone else got served and I was going to eat it.
You are talking about a kid who, at four,
was forced to eat a Brussels sprout and puked all over
the dining room table.When I refused to eat what my grandmother served
I was berated and forced to sit at the table for up to
an hour after everyone else had finished and have
insults hurled at me.All I could do was sit there with my head hanging
down and cry.Eventually I would get to leave the table hungry,
distressed, and defeated.It got to the point that, every day after school,
I would start filling up on milk and toast because I
knew there was a good chance that we were having
something I couldn’t eat for dinner.On the rare occasions we had something I really
liked I would gorge.When I started babysitting every dime I made went
toward food bought at 7-11 or the local corner grocery.I babysat a lot and, at twelve, started working
at a bakery.
The writing was on the wall.
Some people are born fat.I know it is in my DNA too, but not to this
it important to know why one is fat?I think it is.The more you know about yourself and how you
make decisions the better.If you are fat and want to change it then you had
better know how you got there and how it is working for
You don’t owe anyone else an explanation, but don’t be
afraid to work it out for yourself.We are so used to being battered and belittled
that sometimes it is hard to take a look at what we see
as our flaws and be okay with them.We are supposed to be “flawed”.Flawed is just another way of saying different,
and everyone is different.I am a fat chick, and I rule.