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LargeInCharge Magazine -  10 Year Anniversary!

 Issue#123 - June 2014

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.

 

Raqui-ism

Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui

 

The Big GB - Angie Bee

Getting my Life Back after Gastric Bypass

 

From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance

 

Foodie in You ~ Lucia Roth 

 

The Observer - Jness 

 

Curvy Styles - Amy Lucas 

 

The Skinny on Big Love - Jay Hansen 

 

Thinking Big - David Edmondson 

 

The Sacred Fat - Freakie

 

LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!

 

LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!

 

Catching up with Lisa Jackson
of Lisa Jackson Productions

 

LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?

By: Raqui

 

During the younger years of LargeInCharge I was able to visit Texas and network with some great people.  I began to learn more about the middle of the US, and what was going on for plus sized people.  I  started to give some love to the middle states, that are not often highlighted because they are not based in New York or Los Angeles.   I found out there were some amazing people doing big things, and Lisa Jackson was one of them.

Lisa Jackson

What I truly appreciated about Lisa Jackson was that she was serving her plus sized clients well.  She was doing many interesting things in Texas, and her production company  caught my eye.  Me and Lisa got to talk on the phone a few times about what we were trying to do for plus sized people.  Lisa was not someone who worked soely for people in the plus sized community, but she did cater to plus sized people from anywhere who wanted someone who would work hard to promote them. I was really excited about that, someone who was willing to manage and promote plus sized people in a postive light.  Whatever their talents may be she was going to get the word out about you. 

I can appreciate that because when I myself started dipping my toes into possibility of some tv, radio work,  I didnt trust anyone to represent me properly.  We dont think about who will work with us and who will be our promoter, agent, etc.  Will they be doing the best job they can for me?  Will they have my best interests at heart, will I find someone who will want to work with me. 

It can be very difficult when your a large sized person trying to get your name and talent out there,  and the prejuice against plus sized people is there and very evident.  When your plus sized there will be people who will over look you, and that often is the case when it comes to promoters and agents.  Knowing there is someone like Lisa Jackson who works hard for all her clients is a wonderful thing.

Lisa Jackson Productions:  full size images.

 

Lisa Jackson @ Breakthru Miami 

Lisa Jackson and Bun B

Lisa Jackson and The Jacksons

Lisa Jackson and Jazze

Lisa Jackson and Keith Best

Lisa Jackson, Udonis Haslem and Erik Spoelstra

 

Interview

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

My name is Lisa Jackson

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

I’m a Texas girl! Born and raised in San Antonio. I still live there.

LargeInCharge.com:   When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine?  NOTE: if you don’t remember exact date and issue I can look that up for you.  Put Please Look Up as the answer.

Issue #39 - June 2007

I was featured in the June 2007 issue

LargeInCharge.com: Please tell us why you were featured?

In 2007 I was the manager of several music acts. I was also a club promoter.  It seems I was making a name for myself in Texas. J

LargeInCharge.com:  How did you feel when you appeared in LargeInCharge?

Elated! And I’m still beaming about it today! L.I.C was the first publication to give my company promotion. I want to thank so much for that opportunity.

LargeInCharge.com:  How do you feel now about being included in our special Decade editions?

It is really and honor that you guys remembered me. Wow! It’s been 10 years of great articles and uplifting messages. I’m really proud to be part of that celebration.

LargeInCharge.com: How has your life and endeavors changed since your appearance? 

I’ve had some changes in my personal life and some changes in my business life as well. Thankfully the business changes have been better than the personal ones. (Laughing) I’m proud to say that Lisa Jackson Productions has diversified itself and has become one of the go to companies to receive outstanding Publicity services.

LargeInCharge.com:  What changes have you made to advance your career/business?

I realized that Management was not exactly where my strengths lay. By 2010 I understood that my journalist and social service background could help me in the Publicity department. It came easily to me. So I switched my focus from Management to Publicity.  I am now the Publicist for some of the biggest and not so big names in the entertainment industry. My clients are BET/MTV Award winning Video Directors, Motion Picture Directors, Grammy winners, Actors, Producers, Rappers, Models, Cosmetic companies, Authors and Sports figures.

LargeInCharge.com: How long have you invested in your venture/career?

Technically I’ve invested 8 years but when I look back at it, I realize I’ve invested my whole life! Really, I was the kid who made cheerleader, ran in every school election (and lost) participated in every talent show, spelling bee and science fair.  Shout out to the GIRL SCOUTS!! (I can still make a hell of a knot) -I was working my way into the spotlight I guess you could say.

LargeInCharge.com:  Tell us about some of the most exciting events/occasions, you/your business have held/participated in.

The first time I walked the Red Carpet at the Grammys! I was accompanying a client and I will never forget how exciting it was! All the clothes, make up and cameras, I was kindda gitty. Then there was the Billboard Awards and Vegas! You never really forget the first time you go all out in Vegas. What I’m most proud of is a film one of my clients has written and directed. It’s called The Magic City and its director R. Malcolm Jones is a MTV and BET award winner. He’s put together a great film. We’ve traveled throughout the country screening the film. Every city we go to we encourage the youth to come out and view the film. We’ve coordinated with the Boys and Girls Clubs as well as youth with judicial issues.  They get credit for seeing the film and we get to inspire them.  Gotta luv the kids J

LargeInCharge.com:  Have you been featured in any press, on tv, newspapers etc?

As a publicist my job is to have my clients featured in the press. So I rarely get the spotlight. I think I like it that way. I stay focused on them and not me.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes have you seen for plus sized people since your first appearance?

This has really become a movement! A positive one at that, one thing I am concerned about is there are some unscrupulous people out there who are part of the movement only to make money. They don’t really love us. So be careful guys.

LargeInCharge.com: Are there any changes you had to make for your venture/career flourish?

I had to learn to walk away from things and people that were keeping me from being and doing my best. Emotional attachments are just that, attachments. Cut them off!

LargeInCharge.com: What are some of the most important things you have learned through the years?

Be kind to others. That’s the golden rule. Mostly I’ve learned time management. You’ve got to discipline yourself and make every minute count.

LargeInCharge.com: How is your standing in the Plus Sized Community among the people?  Good feedback, negative feedback, learning lessons?

I don’t know what my standing in the Plus Size community is. I’ve never checked. I’m just Lisa and when you see me you know I’m big. If that bothers you, keep it moving.

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

Everything is an inspiration. My clients inspire me mostly. See, the public only see’s the glitter and fame. As a Publicist I see the person behind the makeup and shiny clothes. They have the same problems we all do. Yet something inside of them pushes them forward. Now, Smile for the camera and make pretty.  It takes courage to do that.

LargeInCharge.com:  Any new ventures/items/products you have planned for the future?

I’m currently working with a partner as one of the Producers of a new documentary film about Jazz legend Ron Carter. Yes! I’m a Producer now! We should begin filming in June 2014.

LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?

To maintain my position as one of the top Publicist in Texas.

LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who might be interested in doing something simlar?

Go for it! Tighten up your writing skills, read EVERYTHING and start building your connections with the media.

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself/ your company/org with one word.

ORGANIZED

 
 
 

Thank you for Reading The LargeInCharge Feature

 

 

Cover Model of the Month

Molly Roxx!

 

 

 

         
 

Interview

 

LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?

 

Molly Roxx

 

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

 

I was born in NJ and now live in KY.

 

LargeInCharge.com:   When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine as a Model?

 

The first time was June, 2010

  • First Appearance


    Second Appearance


    Cover Model of the Year 2013


    Issue #75 - June 2010  


    Issue #103 - October 2012

    Issue #107 - February 2013
         

     

    LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to apply that first time?

     

    I am a fan of the magazine.

     

    LargeInCharge.com:  How did you feel when you appeared as a LargeInCharge Cover Model?

     

    I was honored.

     

    LargeInCharge.com:  Has your modeling career grown since your appearance?

     

    It has been steadily growing for some time. I think the appearances in your magazine, has helped along with my journey.

     

    LargeInCharge.com: Have your life and endeavors changed since your appearance? 

     

    My life has changed a bit do to personal circumstance situations but all and all things are pretty good.

     

    LargeInCharge.com:  What changes do you see in Plus Sized Modeling?

     

    I would like to say I have seen a lot of changes but it all seems to be the same.

     

    LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you see for Plus Sized People?

     

    I have not seen any changes; the majority of society still seems to think that the media should do their thinking for them.

     

    LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

     

    My son does. He is absolutely amazing!

     

    LargeInCharge.com:  Any new modeling tips and tricks to share?

     

    Take care of your skin and do not tan!!

     

    LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?

     

    I am the creator and found of Very Full Figured magazine and I am working to make it bigger and better with every issue. My career goals all circulate around that.

     

    LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

     

    Do it. Try it at least. If it is your passion, don't ever take no for an answer!

     

    LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.

     

    Feisty


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    Thanks for reading about our

    Cover Model of the Month

     

     

         Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

     

         For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.

     

         Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

    To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

    Raqui's Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! - http://raqui-ism.blogspot.com/

    go to www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section

     

    Raqui-ism - Make 2014 a Inspirational Year

    Written By: Raqui

     

     

     

     

    Inspiration

    In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.  News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this world, without focusing on what is good in this world.  So this year I dedicate my column to all that is inspirational, positive and helpful.  

     

    Woman Sized not Plus Sized

    There is a lot of division among women, the light from the dark, the have from the have not’s, tall from short, race from race, and yes fat from skinny.  This division steams from looks alone, competition and the need to feel as though you’re more wanted, more sought after, more attractive to love interests.  The desire, to meet an impossible standard for most women.  The desire to be the “it” girl, and to be admired and looked up to. We have been so conditioned that we only allow a small number of women to actually be acceptable.  The ones who have fame, talent, look the way society says they should look.  If you don’t fit into that small number then you are someone who will not get the same services or opportunities as someone else who fits the mold.  If you were an “it” girl and gained some weight you are attacked and humiliated for everyone to see and laugh at.

    That is why this month I was inspired by two totally different situations but yet they come together to give me hope.

     

     I was not surprised when I read about Melissa McCarthy going to 6 high level designers and all of them refusing to dress her for the Academy Awards in 2012.  The fact that I was not surprised is a sad thing.  With all of her success in movies and on television, with her amazing talent on the screen still she was not good enough to wear a dress made by a high profile designer,  they just refused to dress her.

     

    Snippet from The Washington Post

    Why no one would make an Oscar dress for Melissa McCarthy,

    despite her ‘Bridesmaids’ success.

    By Soraya Nadia McDonald - June 5th, 2014
    Read more of this article at The Washington Post – Click Here


    Actress Melissa McCarthy wore Marina Rinaldi to the 2012 Academy Awards.

    (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)

     

    There are all sorts of micro economies that are fed or supported by Hollywood. Picture-making doesn’t just provide a living for actors and the small armies of lawyers, crew members, production and insurance companies enlisted by movie studios; it contributes to the livelihoods of hairdressers, stylists, designers, makeup artists and handlers. When you’re a star, you’re not just famous. You’re a giant, monetizable billboard. The more recognizable you are, the more stuff you get for free.

     

    Unless you’re Melissa McCarthy.

     

    Awards season is the prime opportunity for designers to showcase their most decadent wares; this year’s Oscar telecast had 43.7 million viewers. But two years ago, McCarthy couldn’t find anyone to design an Oscar dress for her.

     

    “When I go shopping, most of the time I’m disappointed,” McCarthy said in the July issue of Redbook. “Two Oscars ago, I couldn’t find anybody to do a dress for me. I asked five or six designers — very high-level ones who make lots of dresses for people — and they all said no.” That year McCarthy wore a dress made by Marina Rinaldi, a ready-to-wear plus line you can find in stores such as Bloomingdale’s or Saks. Bear in mind, with the Oscars in particular, most actresses are wearing borrowed dresses, shoes, and jewelry valued at more than most Americans’ mortgages.

     

    McCarthy, the much-loved breakout star of “Bridesmaids,” won an Emmy in 2011 for her role on CBS’s “Mike & Molly.” Her work with director Paul Feig, including “The Heat,” “Bridesmaids” and the upcoming “Spy” have made her a favorite funny lady, particularly in feminist circles. In interviews, she seems down-to-earth, approachable, and well, normal.

     

    Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy in “The Heat.”

    (Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation)

    And that’s because she is. Despite her success and the wealth that comes with it, McCarthy faces the same problem of millions of plus-size American women: wanting a wardrobe that’s stylish and fashion forward, and finding slim pickings, which is why she decided to develop her own plus-size clothing line. She collaborated with couture dress maker Daniella Pearl for the gown she wore to the 2011 Emmy Awards, and the two are releasing a line called Pearl. Before becoming an actress, McCarthy studied fashion design at Southern Illinois University.

     

    Read more of this article at The Washington Post – Click Here

    I guess these designers didn’t want to put their clothing on Mellissa because she is plus sized, for shame if their designs were worn by a person they don’t find acceptable.  Melissa is a woman plain and simple, she was going to have the night of her life being Nominated for best supporting actress in Bridesmaids.  Even with the nomination she worn an off the rack dress because these designers didn’t deem her worthy of there their frocks.

    Why must we divide the small from the large?  There is no fashion only for African Americans, Hispanics, Asian, and Caucasian.  While there might be different styles and custom for dressing in different parts of the world.  Fashion is interchangeable and you can take different pieces from separate items and create a whole new look.  Unless of course you’re fat then your limited, you can’t express your own style if no one makes your style in your size.  I know this first hand, while I am told I dress very nicely, the clothing doesn’t express my particular style because those items are not made in my size.  I take what I can get, that I think will look ok on me, so I am very happy Mellissa is going to address this with a new line of clothing.

    What I would like to is something I didn’t know if I would ever see until I happened across this ad online.

    I have to say I love this company, they have sizes that go up to 4xl. They advertise not as a plus sized company but a company for women as you can see we have three different sizes of women all unique, beautifully dressed, and accepted. Their clothes are just fabulous and not just fab for the smaller sizes the plus size clothing is amazing and nicely priced.  This is what I want to see more of, nice clothing for all sizes of, because after all we are all women, why are we treated or dressed according to size instead of according to style.

    http://www.modcloth.com/

     

    Raqui


     
     
     

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    Thank you for Reading Raqui-ism

    Please send thoughts and comments to

    articles@largeincharge.com

     
     

       

    Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in communications, promotions and planning.  She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while building businesses and her faith.

    Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from 180 pounds to 360 pounds.  She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg circulation.  At the age of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.  It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric Bypass Surgery.  Sonya launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is focused on something new!

    Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over a decade.  Losing the first 100 pounds was just the bonus!  She is now diabetes-free.  She has normal blood pressure.  The circulation in her legs is normal.  She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!  The joy that she feels is documented each day in her syndicated radio show, a brand new weekly  TV show documentary and each month in this article.  The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also stands for "Getting (my life) Back".  This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery on Feb 28, 2011.  This is now her life!

     

    Sometimes You Just Need To Be With Others

    with Angie Bee
     

    On May 1st we launched a weekly Surgical Weight Loss support group in Daytona Beach, Florida.  The local Salvation Army was gracious enough to grant us meeting space, promotional opportunities and beginning with our very first meeting, there were people that attended that really needed to be around others who are like-minded.

    When you think of a "support group", what comes to mind?  "Hi, my name is Frank and I have been sober now for 14 days".  There are support groups for gamblers, sex addicts, shop-a-holics and others.  Most weight loss surgeons have support groups that you can attend prior to and after you have surgery; I learned a lot from Dr. Keith Kim's support group sessions at Florida Hospital Celebration in Orlando, Florida.  I learned the good and bad, recipes and coping skills.  I also learned that sometimes, you just need to be around other people; loneliness can lead a person to overeat.

    Remember the movie The Klumps?  There was a scene where sadness and loneliness set in and a LOT of food was consumed!  Do you remember Monique in the movie Phat Girlz?  When she retreated back to her bed watching TV and overeating?  WOW!  That's a visual and that's reality!  I remember dealing with those issues during my adult life.  Overeating through difficult pregnancies, marital abandonment and abuse, illness and disease, divorces, depression, a car accident:  I remember living through EACH of these situations and comforting myself by eating.  When others were around me I didn't overeat.  When I was alone, there wasn't a piece of chocolate that survived my rampage even after I was diagnosed with Type II Diabetes.

    From the very first surgical weight loss support group meeting, all I saw were folks that wanted to be around others.  They wanted to be around other obese people.  They wanted to be around others that either had already experienced weight loss surgery or were considering having surgery.  They wanted to ask questions and share stories.  They wanted to feel accepted and see what others were going through.  They wanted fellowship.  Each session kinda reminds me of attending church.  Some people go to church to hear the choir.  Others go to hear the Word of God from a preacher.  Others go to church for the fellowship; the meet-and-greet with cookies and juice after service has ended.  I remember being a part of some congregations where the duration of the fellowship was twice the duration of the actual church service!  People long for fellowship.  Even the Bible said that it's not good for a man to be alone, so God made a helpmate suitable for him.  (Genesis 2:18) Whether the Bible refers to a man or a woman, it is just not good for a person to be alone.  especially if there is food in the house.

    In February 2011, I was blessed to have gastric bypass surgery.  As a result of the surgery I no longer have Type II Diabetes, the High Blood Pressure is reversed, the obstructive Sleep Apnea and overactive bladder are gone and the poor circulation in my legs and nerve damage are gone too.  At my heaviest, I weighed 387 pounds.  At my lowest weight loss I weighed 197.  Throughout these past three years, I was at my best when I was around other people.  It's just not good for people to be alone, especially those of us that overeat.  By taking steps to be around other people during this time, I have been able to truly get my life back after gastric bypass surgery.

    Find a good support group in your area and attend it faithfully.  Your presence may not only help another attendee but can help you too!  If you can't find a support group in your area, start one like I did!  I'm grateful for my hubby that found the Salvation Army in our area.  They have welcomed us with open arms.  I thank the Captains at the LPGA Blvd location and the PR Director Kimberly Long for helping us promote this group and for greeting me with a hug every time I enter the building.  Their fellowship is a warm oasis for all attendees! 

    I look forward to Thursdays support group where we can all share with each other.  Don't be alone when your life is going through a transition.  Food is not a comfort.  Fellowship can be!

     

    Angie BEE

    www.daqueenbee.com

    Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &

    The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE

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    Thanks for reading

    The Big GB - Getting My Life back after Gastric Bypass

    with Angie Bee


         Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

     

         This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.

        

         This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.

     

    This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org

     

    NAAFA - Returns to our Nation's Capital

    from: NAAFA.org - by: Peggy Howell

     

    NAAFA will be returning this year to the Washington, DC area for our annual meeting.

    Since many of our members have expressed that tight budgets are an issue, we are scaling back to a more casual two day conference beginning the evening of Friday, August 8 through Sunday, August 10, 2014.

    NAAFA is pleased to announce that we have made arrangements for accommodations at the beautiful Crowne Plaza Dulles Airport Hotel, 2200 Centreville Road, Herndon, VA 20170. Rates will be an amazing $84.00 per night - single occupancy and $94.00 per night - double occupancy.

    Our focus at this conference will be on networking and NAAFA’s plans for the future. Workshops will include:

    ·         Enjoyable movement classes,

    ·         Focus on health not weight,

    ·         Men’s issues,

    ·         An update on the End Bullying Now Campaign

    ·         The Size Savvy Project introduced by the Clark County Chapter in Nevada this year.

    The evenings will be filled with fun activities such as a networking party, pizza party, talent show and karaoke with a swim party to cap off every evening.

    Registration for both conference and hotel are available through the NAAFA website at www.naafa.org

     

     

    Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.

     

     
     
     

     

    Thanks for reading

    From the Desk of NAAFA

    Link

    www.NAAFA.org

        

    Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well… I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A. degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University.

     

    I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a passion for a good tasting meal.

     

    Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.

     

    If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward with recipe and photo to

    Web_girl1999@yahoo.com

     

     

     
    Happiness Kitchen
    with Lucia Roth
     

    Carrot Cake Is My Wedding Cake

     

    Last year my mother and I were having a conversation when the subject of marriage came up. She asked me what type of cake I wanted for my wedding cake. The first words that popped out of my mouth were either humming bird or carrot cake. Unlike carrot cake humming bird has bananas and walnuts and carrot cake doesn’t… I knew everything down to the last detail about my wedding day cake. 

    I found the perfect recipe for my humming bird cake and that was so mouthwatering suck the skin of your fingers good. That was it! Humming Bird was it “the wedding cake” until…..

    I found this slap you’re mama, carrot cake recipe passed down from my grandmother’s best friend’s family.  Mrs. S, made this cake for me this past holiday season and I tell you as sure as I write this… this cake will make you want to slap you’re mama. 

     




    Carrot Cake Is My Wedding Cake

    2 cups granulated sugar

     1 1/2 cups vegetable oil

     4 eggs

     2 teaspoons baking soda

     2 cups all-purpose flour

     2 teaspoons ground cinnamon

     1 teaspoon salt

     1 cup flaked coconut

     3 cups grated carrots (about 1 pound)

     1 cup chopped walnuts

     CREAM CHEESE FROSTING:

     1 (8-ounce) package cream cheese, softened

     2 sticks butter, softened

     1 teaspoon vanilla extract

     4 cups confectioners' sugar


    What to Do:

    1. Preheat oven to 350 degrees F. Coat two 8-inch round cake pans with cooking spray; lightly flour the pans.
    2. In a large bowl, with an electric mixer, combine granulated sugar, oil, eggs, baking soda, flour, cinnamon, salt, coconut, carrots, and walnuts, beating 30 seconds to 1 minute, or until a smooth, thick batter forms. DO NOT OVER-MIX! Pour batter evenly into prepared cake pans.
    3. Bake 45 to 50 minutes, or until a toothpick inserted in center comes out clean and the tops are golden. Let cool completely.
    4. In a large bowl, with an electric mixer, make frosting by combining cream cheese and butter; mix well. Add vanilla; mix well. Gradually add confectioners' sugar, continuing to mix until well combined.
    5. Place one cake layer on a serving platter and frost top of cake. Place second layer on top of frosted layer. Frost top and sides of entire cake. Serve immediately, or cover and chill until ready to serve.


    Bon Appetite!


    Note:  You can substitute regular Flour with Multipurpose Flour, Gluten Free

     

       
     

     

     

    Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus size/BBW Art.

     

     

    Plus Sized and Natural

    with Jness

     

    The month of May, the year is flying by so quickly. As expected 2014 has had its fair share of challenges.  There were some setbacks, but more importantly there have been some leaps and bounds forward. Forward is certainly the direction I am after.  Spring is the ideal time for a renewed sense of purpose and filling up the tank with fresh creative fuel. I am planning the creation of a new 7 piece collection. I will share more information soon. I just wanted you all to know that it is in the works, no sketches yet, I am still pulling references for these compositions.

     I am also excited about continuing the International Princess/Queen Collection starring the lovely Andrea Jenkins. I have also charted the course for some newsstand alone illustrations. There always needs to be a space reserved on the calendar for drawing spontaneously as inspiration strikes. So expect the expected as well as the unexpected.  Today’s art was inspired by a few sources. First of all my usual pilot light of inspiration – IllustrationFriday.com, the word of the week was “Nature”. It was also inspired by a photo I saw out there in the world of social media. So I penned a piece called, “Natural” It features a Plus Sized Beauty taking a break and taking a selfie. Her hair is not chemically processed. She has gone natural.

     

    JNESS

     

     

     

    Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make you feel great and be Large and In Charge. My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree in Central Office Administration.

     

    With that said, I have been wearing plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each store carries. 

     

    Out of necessity, I started looking online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help all those to find what they want in their size.

     

    In my career, I've helped plus size students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and help you to look even more beautiful and chic.

     

     

     
    Ready for White
    with Amy Lucas
     

    The color white is hot this season. People all over the country are having parties where you must wear white to attend sometimes called a whiteout.

     

    Here are some great looks for you to wear wherever you want to go.

     

     

    Ready for White 22 Summer Items  
    Number 1.  

     

    “Bow” Bandeau,

    sizes 1-3x,   $32,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

    Peplum Skirt in White,

    sizes 1-3x,   $59,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

     

     

     

     

     

    Number 2.  

     

     

     

    Sequin Trim Jumpsuit in White,

    sizes 12-24, $59.50,

     www.ashleystewart.com

     

     

    Number 3.  

     

     

    Hailey Eyelet Dress in white,

    sizes 1-6x, $59.90,

    www.swakdesigns.com

     

     

     

     

     

    Number 4.  

     

     

    Baroque Appliqué Corset,

    sizes 12-24, $39.50,

    www.ashleystewart.com

     

    Torrid White Label Cropped Boyfriend Jean

    in White,

    sizes 16-28, $48.50,

    www.torrid.com

     

    Number 5.  

     

     

     

    Ava Dress in White,

    sizes xl-4x, $108,

    www.pinupgirlclothing.com

     

    Number 6.  

     

     

    Jewel-Neck Peplum Dress in White,

    sizes 12-24, $59.50,

    www.ashleystewart.com

     

     

     

    Number 7.  

     

     

    Ralph Lauren Woman Full-Zip Peplum Sweater

    in White,

    sizes 1-3x, $101.40,

    www.dillards.com

     

    Cameron Studded Top,

    sizes 1-3x, $49.95,

    www.monroeandmain.com

     

    White Five Pocket Short,

    sizes 14-26, $33.60,

    www.avenue.com

     

     

     

    Number 8.  

     

     

    Bella Dress in White,
    sizes 8-26, $235,
    www.shop.shavonnedorsey.com

     

     

    Number 9.  

    “Whimsical” Embroidered Top,

    sizes 1-3x, $50,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

    “Bow” Bandeau,

    sizes 1-3x, $32,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

    “Whimsical” Embroidered Skirt,

    sizes 1-3x, $85,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

    Number 10.  


    Pearl Neckline Cutout Tunic

    in White,

    sizes 12-22/24, $39.50, www.ashleystewart.com

     

    Perforated Flare Skirt,

    sizes 1-3x, $25.50,

    www.fashiontofigure.com

    Number 11.  

     

     

     

     

    Embellished Maxi Dress by Denim 24/7®

    in White,

    sizes 12-34, $79.99,

    www.roamans.com

     

     

     

    Number 12.  

     

    Riviera Dress in White,

    sizes 12-24, $160,

    www.qristylfrazierdesigns.com

     

     

    Number 13.  

     

     

    “Pearl” Crop Top,

    sizes 1-3x, $36,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

    “White Swan” Tutu in White,

    sizes 1-3x, $80,

    www.zelieforshe.com

     

     

     

     

    Number 14.  


     

     

     

    YK High Slit Drape Gown,

    sizes 12-24

    (custom made according to your measurements)

    $198, http://www.etsy.com/shop/youthearykhmer

     

     

    Number 15.  

     

     

    All White Dress,

    sizes l-3x, $50,

    www.bghsclothing.com

     

     

     

     

    Number 16.  

     

     

     

    Short Dress in Folklore Style,

    sizes 14/16-26/28,

    $188.37 (111.90GBP),

    www.navabi.co.uk

     

     

     

    Number 17.  

    Melody Bow Top in Ivory,

    sizes 1-3x, $22.50,

    www.fashiontofigure.com

     

    Mynt 1792- The Sybille Trouser,

    sizes 12-26, $168,

    www.mynt1792.com

    Number 18.  

     

     

    Eternity Maxi Convertible in White,

    sizes 1-3x and 4-6x,

    $89.90,

    www.swakdesigns.com

     

     

    Number 19.  

    Tummy Concealing Retro Maillot Swimsuit, sizes 14-28, $109.95,

    www.lanebryant.com

     

    Mesh Cover Up in White,

    sizes 14/16-30/32, $33.60,

    www.avenue.com

     

    Number 20.  

    Trim Tank Hi-Lo Maxi Dress,

    sizes 0-5x, $68.50,

    www.torrid.com

     

    Number 21.  

     

     

    Linen Blend Capri Set in White,

    sizes 12-28, $60,

    www.jessicalondon.com

     

     

     

     

    Number 22.  

     

     

     

    Gold Tier Dress in Ivory,

    sizes 14-34, $39.99,

    www.roamans.com

     

     

     

     
     
     

    Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group, Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.

     

    Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born. The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009, Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and quickly fell deeply in love.

     

    Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological, contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a beautiful personification of the old adage opposites attract.

     

    "The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance, ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.


     
    Our "Too" True Life
    with Jay Hansen
     

     

     

    Late last year Heidi and I were presented with a unique opportunity. I had just finished filming a documentary based here in Oklahoma when a friend sent me a Facebook message about a casting call for MTV’s True Life series. They were looking for couples they described as being in “mixed weight relationships.” What they meant by that was a romantically involved couple where one partner was very fat, and the other very slim or fit. You wouldn’t have guessed that, though, had you read some of the online criticism of the casting call, and unfortunately, some of it turned out to be right. The entire project turned into a very fascinating adventure into other people’s perspectives.

     

    I’ve never been much of a TV person, or even had cable, so I had never seen the show. My first impressions of it came from Facebook comments both on the initial casting call post and other pages that shared it, and they were not positive. An overwhelming majority of the comments were extremely critical and cynical of the episode topic, series, and even the entire network for even considering this for an episode idea. One commenter pointed out that a better episode theme for a series that focuses on bizarre lifestyles would have been “I only date people the exact same weight as me,” because technically all relationships are “mixed weight” to some degree. The comments led me through a labyrinth of external links to blogs and reviews, all of them filled with scathing, often sarcastic and rude words against the show from cynics and literalists. I was a little shocked at first, but am perfectly aware of why this was the reaction of the size community. Believe me, I have little trust for tabloid-esque shows like Inside Edition or Entertainment Tonight for much the same reason I’d assume everyone does; malicious editing, twisting words and taking them out of context, and generally using someone’s own words to smear them or misrepresent them for the sake of entertaining the ignorant, low-brow masses that take great pleasure in judging other people. But like I said earlier, I had never seen True Life before and certainly didn’t want to judge it before even knowing what it was. So, I set out to do my own homework on it.

     

    I watched several episodes of the series, and honestly, it didn’t seem that bad. It was actually quite insightful, and apparently has won several awards for the quality of its documentaries. I asked everyone I know, both inside the size community and out, for their opinion of the show and how honest they felt it was. I even consulted with our illustrious leader here at Large in Charge Magazine, Raqui, for her opinion. Like most people I asked from within the community, she was dubious and advised caution, but also didn’t directly discourage us from doing it. From those outside of the community, I got a very different reaction. My co-workers, for example, mostly had praise for the show, with one going as far as to say “if the show is fake, they must have some of the best actors in the world because it seems really genuine.”

     

    All in all, it really didn’t seem as bad as the internet made it out to be, so I decided to write the show's producer and submit an application for me and Heidi to be their “mixed weight relationship” despite mass online protests of it. After all, if we aren’t a good example of a mixed weight relationship, who is? And more importantly, we wanted to do the show in hopes of breaking stereotypes about both weight and age when it comes to love and relationships, and to promote size acceptance. If we didn't do the show, just what kind of couple would, and could we really leave representation of the size community up to fate and some faceless people of unknown maturity levels?

     

    Not one day later I got a phone call directly from the producer all the way up in New York. Apparently our relationship had caught his attention and he was very interested in our story. Unfortunately, our application was declined on the grounds that Heidi and I, ironically, were "too enlightened." What he meant by that was True Life, in his own words, is not really a documentary series; it’s a “docu-drama,” and the purpose of every episode is to enlighten their audience to... well, certain truths about life that may defy stereotypes or social norms. In the case of this episode, they wanted to enlighten people to the fact that size shouldn't be a contributing factor in determining relational compatibility, and that it's wrong to make assumptions about others based on their weight. That was exactly what I had hoped for in submitting an application, but the problem was how they go about enlightening their audience. According to the producer, they enlighten their audience through the participants in the documentary, meaning that the characters in the episode must undergo the same enlightening process they want the audience to experience, hence is why Heidi and I were "too enlightened" for the show; they needed there to be some sort of conflict between the two of us as partners to resolve in the episode. We're active members of the size community that promote acceptance, and we're deeply in love. We're very understanding of each other's limitations and complete each other by filling in each other's shortcomings. Most importantly, we do so happily without drama or complaint. This is sadly and ironically why we ended up being wrong for the show.

     

    But then, funnily enough, about a week later I get another phone call. It was the producer again, and he was just so utterly taken with me and Heidi that he wanted to completely re-structure the entire theme of the episode to be able to include us. Since there was no drama between me and Heidi, he wanted to change the theme to me and Heidi "versus the world." Instead of being between us as partners, he thought the conflict could be between us as a couple and someone else important in our life like a friend or family member that doesn't understand why we're together, be it because of the difference in our age, weight, or both. He felt that we would be excellent candidates to "enlighten" others on the issue of size discrimination in documentary form because of our relationship, activism within the size community, and prior experience with documentaries.

     

    There was just one problem; we didn't have anyone like that in our lives. Heidi has always been amazing at not allowing negativity into her life, which is one of the many reasons I love her. That is why any time someone tries to start drama or cause conflict in her life, especially because of her weight, and they are unwilling to reason or calm down, she just severs ties with them. She's not afraid to let go of those people that try to weigh her down, and wouldn't you know it, getting rid of negative people in your life improves the quality of it. You'd think that's some big mystery with the number of people that don't grasp the concept in today's society.

     

     

    So sadly, in the end, we were not chosen for True Life, first because we were too enlightened, and second because we were too happy and too drama-free. If you're to consider any online commentary of this show, let it be this one, and interpret it as you will. Hopefully, Heidi and I will someday get the opportunity to share our story on a larger stage to promote love and acceptance of others and prove that numbers like weight and age really are just numbers.

     

     

    I was born in San Diego, California on August 30, 1972.
    Grew up in San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California. I Graduated from San Diego State University in 1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism (Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in Political Science.

    I interned with U.S. Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.

    I interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican National Convention.

    Currently I'm a Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California

    I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club in San Diego, CA.

    And a newlywed, married to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.

    I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men, Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin (21).

    I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis, football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also design a web page for a real estate company.
     

    #BringBackOurGirlsProtector

    with David Edmondson

    It was once said that most important responsibility a father has is to keep his daughter off the stripper pole. While that line delivered a few laughs for Chris Rock back in the day, if you have a little girl, you may find that line hitting close to home. I know for myself, I want my daughter to take self defense classes (of the UFC) variety, boxing, karate, judo, you name it.  The fact of the matter is it’s hard for dads; because we can’t be with our daughter’s 24/7 and 365. Therefore, it’s up to us to teach our daughter’s what a real man is supposed to be like; how they conduct themselves; what their roles and responsibilities are. Yes, unless you are one of the ones who run away, only to be caught on Maury, Steve Wilkos, Bill Cunningham or Jerry Springer, responsibility starts from the moment of conception and with the birth of a little girl, that responsibility will never go away.

     In an ideal world, I would have my daughter’s 6’5” brother; just kick the crap out of any boy that tried to date her; while I, the kind father, politely escort them back to their car. Unfortunately, it didn’t work out that way. I often thought of other methods of protection such as: a Stun gun, numb chucks, shotguns, crossbows and swords but then realized, it would leave a trail.  I even thought of having my daughter placed in a school with nuns. The truth is, you won’t have to go through these extremes, if you teach your daughter the following rules.

    1.    Teach your daughter to know her worth.

     This means you cannot go back to the stone ages where men tried to dominate women. This means actually (stop me if you heard this before) treating the woman you are already with, as an equal. It’s not about your pride or ego being hurt, it’s about your daughter watching you by example, so that she knows in the future, what she should expect from a man, so that in the future, she is not a domestic violence statistic.

    2.    Give up the Player Handbook

     Yes, a lot of us are angry with Steve Harvey, for giving up the secrets of bachelor’s to women but guess what; as a responsible dad, you will be doing the same thing. It’s for your daughter’s own protection and it could mean the difference between: teenage pregnancy, her marrying a low life; bouncing around from guy to guy or actually marrying the type of man you can approve of.

    3.    Let your daughter explore new things while being there.

     Our girls are far behind when it comes to math and science and unfortunately, we seem to glamorize video vixens, reality television stars and entertainers more than we do doctors, lawyers and teachers. Some of our daughters have ambitions being President or CEOs, but what are we doing as father’s to encourage that? When you participate in take your daughter to work day are you actually speaking to her to find out what her hopes, ambitions and dreams are? This may require actual work on your part as you will need to be a parent. Encourage your daughter and give them the access for the opportunity to expand their horizons. More times than not, they will amaze you with what they can accomplish.

     I’m not saying you can turn into a feminist overnight, but you can be all that your daughter needs you to be: Her protector, her teacher and her mentor. Statistics have shown that the more active a father is in his daughter’s life, the more she succeeds. The better opinion she will have about men. Otherwise, don’t get mad at the next man, who shows up at the strip club, with a pocket full of ones, to give to your daughter, during her routine. It will be your fault.

     

     
     

    Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided in California and New York. Besides advocating for Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child advocate and is a strong believer in Size Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling the world and being an ambassador for the fat community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS RULE!”

     

    You Set the Path

    with Freakie
     

     There was a time in my life when insecurity ruled me.  Every new situation was scary and I tried to find security in trying to control.  Controlling my environment, controlling who could have power over my feelings (by not letting anyone get truly close to me), etc.  I couldn’t enjoy anything because I was too worried about “what if”.  What of someone gets hurt?  What if things don’t go as planned?  What of someone is mean to me?  What if I don’t know what to do?  I completely lost sight of the purpose of life, which is to enjoy the journey as best you can, come what may.

    There are so many things I didn’t enjoy, didn’t try, and didn’t aspire to because I was afraid.  I was in a constant state of worry, wondering where the next emotional hit was going to come from.  A wise person finally explained to me what a waste it is to worry about things you can’t control.  If heartache is going to come it will happen whether or not you were worried about it.  So why waste those moments with worry when you could be seeking or instigating happiness?  It was a real epiphany for me.

     

    Of course my life didn’t change in an instant; it has taken many years to get where I am today.  I am a much better judge of what I have control over and what I don’t.  I also understand that if I can’t control a situation that makes me unhappy or uncomfortable I can always control my response to that situation.  I think the hardest part has been truly understanding that other people are not responsible for my feelings.  If someone says something to me make that causes me emotional pain, that pain is my issue to deal with.  I have to understand why it hurts and what I need to do in response to it.  Is it about me?  Is it about my relationship with that person?  Is this a relationship I need to step away from or is it just a sensitivity in myself that I need to acknowledge and learn from?

    Whenever I catch myself saying, “You made me feel…” I have to put on the brakes and take ownership of what I am feeling.  Nobody can make me feel anything.  Those are my feelings and I need to figure out what they mean.  Once I learned that, it really changed the dynamics of some of my relationships, especially within my family.  All the negative cycles that I used to take part in no longer worked when I stopped participating.  And it stopped without drama or confrontation.  It just didn’t happen anymore because I took responsibility for my role in it.

    Once you stop blaming others for how you feel and take ownership of your personal happiness it becomes a lot easier to actually be happy.  If you are walking around constantly trying to make others responsible for your feelings you create a no-win situation.  You have to be your own advocate.  We experience physical and emotional pain for a reason.  Pain tells us there is a problem that we need to address.  It is important to stop hiding from pain and deal with it as it comes.  Experience it, acknowledge it, and learn from it.  If we allow ourselves to do those things, that pain makes a much shorter visit to our lives.  Sometimes it is easy to forget all of these things, but I just keep trying and life just gets better and all of my relationships become healthier.  I’ll take that over fretting and blaming any day!

     

     

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