LargeInCharge Magazine -  10 Year Anniversary!

 Issue#124 - July 2014

Welcome to LargeInCharge Magazine

In this Issue of L.I.C.



Words of Wisdom from the Heart & Mind of Raqui


The Big GB - Angie Bee

Getting my Life Back after Gastric Bypass


From the Desk of NAAFA

National Association to Advance Fat Acceptance


Foodie in You ~ Lucia Roth 


The Observer - Jness 


Curvy Styles - Amy Lucas 


The Skinny on Big Love - Jay Hansen 


Thinking Big - David Edmondson 


The Sacred Fat - Freakie


LargeInChargeDating - Dating for the Large People who are going to be in Charge of their Love Lives!


LargeInCharge Friends - The Place for Big People to make Friends and maybe MUCH MORE!


Catching up with Chamein Canton
Plus Sized Author and Bridal


LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?

By: Raqui


It was December 2007 when I was given an award at the Curversity Awards in New York City.  That is when I won a gift basket that was given by Chamein Canton.  In the gift basket was a Ms. Canton's book.  When I read the book ( "Not His Type" - seen below) I was hooked and bought her other book ("The More things Change).  I also was able to look over her Plus Size Bridal book which she has been on numerous Bridal shows for.  This Plus Sized lady has a true talent for weaving a tail and for being a Brial Consultant.  I have admired her for a long time, she even took time to give me a little advice once about writing.

 In my experience she is the real deal, helpful, caring, a wonderful writer and beautiful inside and out. She has big goals and she is going to make them happen and you all want to know about it.  She is creating important resources for plus sized brides.  Every bride deserves to be pampered and have that oh so special feeling on their wedding day.  Plus Sized brides want their possible special needs taken into consideration. 

Chamein Canton

All of her books are resources for the Plus Sized Community. Ms. Canton was generous enough to donate books to our Cover Model Winner last year. Her Down that Aisle in Style book has brought her recognition with Television appearances and Radio Show interviews.  This Savvy book is a necessity for any Plus Sized Bride. In the end every woman deserves to be the Queen on her wedding day, so if your in the New York City area and your important day is coming you might want to contact Chamein Canton. 

Chamein Canton's Publications: More can be found on Amazon




LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?  

Chamein Canton

LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?

New York. Amityville, Long Island

LargeInCharge.com:   When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine?

Issue #52 - July 2008

LargeInCharge.com: Please tell us why you were featured?

As an author of curvy chick romance novels and the first wedding book for Full Figured and Curvy Brides

LargeInCharge.com:  How did you feel when you appeared in LargeInCharge?  

I was honored to appear in a publication that celebrated size and self-acceptance instead of focusing on negative images, such as you have to be thin in order to be considered beautiful and loveable.

LargeInCharge.com:  How do you feel now about being included in our special Decade editions?

I’m thrilled that Large in Charge has stood the test of time. I appreciate being included in this special decade edition. Curvy women have made so many strides in the last decade and Large in Charge has been in the forefront to lead the charge.  

LargeInCharge.com: How has your life and endeavors changed since your appearance? 

The most wonderful thing is I’m a proud aunt of two nephews. My sons graduated from college and I am continuing to write romance novels. I’ve taken the bridal aspect further with Sheri Collins, The Curvy Stylist for Down That Aisle: The Bridal Concierge. A special service to help curvy brides get the Hollywood red carpet treatment for her special day.

LargeInCharge.com:  What changes have you made to advance your career/business?

I incorporated the bridal services and hopefully will have a small salon on Long Island to provide personal consultations and service for brides in an elegant atmosphere by appointment to allow the bride to relax and enjoy being a bride to be.

LargeInCharge.com: How long have you invested in your venture/career?

 I’ve been doing this over 20 years as a professional, but I’ve been a big girl since birth.

LargeInCharge.com:  Tell us about some of the most exciting events/occasions, you/your business have held/participated in.

I’ve attended Bridal Market week as a member of the press and this coming October, we’ll be there as retailers.

LargeInCharge.com:  Have you been featured in any press, on tv, newspapers etc?

I’ve been featured in Newsday as a wedding consultant for curvy women.

LargeInCharge.com: What changes have you seen for plus sized people since your first appearance?  

I see more women embracing their bodies and learning to love their curves. Recently Jenny Packham had three curvy models on the runway for April’s Bridal Market. Things are beginning to change as we show our purchasing power with our wallets. IBS World, an industry market research company reported that demand for plus size clothing will pick up in the next five years.

LargeInCharge.com: Are there any changes you had to make for your venture/career flourish?

I’ve finished two new manuscripts and I regained all the rights to my novels. I’m working with an agent to find the right publishing house. I’ve worked hard on my author platform of still a chick lit and romances for real size women with the three b’s boobs, bellies and butts. I want to be the voice of curvy women to help them seize the day for love, romance and take chances to get the things they’ve only dreamed of, but were afraid to do.

LargeInCharge.com: What are some of the most important things you have learned through the years?

As a cancer survivor and someone who has lived with MS for the past 18 years, I’ve learned it’s important to live in the moment. Every day is a blessing. It’s very important to get off the bench and get in the game of your life. I’ve heard too many sentences begin with “After I lose 10 pounds, I’ll go to Jamaica. “I can’t attend my high school reunion until my body looks like it did in high school.” “Why would a guy like him go for me? I’m not exactly the type of girl he would even take a first glance at, let alone give me a second look.” “I have to lose 25 pounds before I go wedding gown shopping.”  “I stick to dark colors to look thinner.” Don’t be a spectator when it comes to your life. Get in the game. Sure you might fall every now and then, but at least you’re in there doing your best. There is nothing sadder than would have could have and should have. Life is short and precious. Embrace it.

LargeInCharge.com: How is your standing in the Plus Sized Community among the people?  Good feedback, negative feedback, learning lessons?

 I hope that it’s good. My health is an issue an occasionally causes me to miss out on things I want to do, which means a few things can slip through the cracks. It’s not done intentionally. I always tell everyone, if you haven’t heard from me within 2 days, email or call me again. I’ll do my best to be there to assist, answer questions and support my curvy sisters in their endeavors.

LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

 I am a spiritual person. I believe that with faith all things are possible. Whether you’re Christian, Jewish, Muslim or Hindu etc., the peace found in being connected to God and a higher calling gives us the strength we need to get through life, whether you’re a single mother or married with children, looking for your soul mate or trying to achieve greater things in your career, inspiration leads people to aspire to do more for themselves and others. When I think of how my great grandmother raised 8 children, many more grandchildren and great grandchildren as a widow, it’s a testament to faith, dedication and a positive attitude when life throws you lemons. She died at 106 in 2000. Her mother, whom I also remember a little bit about lived to be 105 in 1973.

LargeInCharge.com:  Any new ventures/items/products you have planned for the future?

I hope to have the bridal salon and a line of romance novels and an updated bridal guide.

LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?

 My goal is to enjoy my life. Continue writing and being involved in the curvy community. I’d love to have a show about real life brides in a less chaotic setting where viewers get to know the brides featured and how they come to the momentous decision of the dress of a lifetime. I hope to travel more. Move to Manhattan with my fiancé and get to enjoy being Auntie Mi Mi. I’m looking forward to my son, Scott getting his Masters and special education certification to teach, while my son Sean looks to get his MFA to teach Creative writing.

LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who might be interested in doing something simlar?

I know we’re making Nike a fortune but it’s true. Just do it. All it takes is one foot in front of the other and before you know it, you’ll be moving forward and no one can stop you.

LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself/ your company/org with one word.



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Cover Model of the Month









LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?  


LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?  

I’m of Norwegian/Irish descent and I’m in Los Angeles, CA

LargeInCharge.com:   When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine as a Model?  

April 2010, Cover Model Of The Year 2011

  • First Appearance

    Cover Model of the Year 2011
    Issue #73 - April 2010   Issue #83 - February 2011


    LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to apply that first time?  

    A friend suggested I do it.

    LargeInCharge.com:  How did you feel when you appeared as a LargeInCharge Cover Model?  

    It was an amazing honor, I was very excited!

    LargeInCharge.com:  Has your modeling career grown since your appearance?  


    LargeInCharge.com: Have your life and endeavors changed since your appearance? 

    No, I am still doing my music and helping victims of abuse and other injustices in the world.

    LargeInCharge.com:  What changes do you see in Plus Sized Modeling?

     I see it becoming more main stream, which is exciting.

    LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you see for Plus Sized People?  

    Acceptance, Understanding, Appreciation for being who you are, and being loved for who you are, as God intended.

    LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?

    Someone who has overcome a lot, and has chosen to become better, instead of bitter. I actually wrote a song about this very thing on my new album “Idiosyncratic” which was just released on itunes and other outlets. A person who makes themselves voluntarily vulnerable to help others is what inspires me. People who have made their mess into a message!

    LargeInCharge.com:  Any new modeling tips and tricks to share?

    Always take a bunch of photos and video footage of yourself to look at and analyze. See what angles and types of styles are the most flattering for you and use them. Do this frequently so you can improve each time. As for runway, do the same thing. Practice your walk. Film it and make improvements. Walk with confidence, not cockiness. Be who you are born to be and be a light in the world. Leave your ego at home.

    LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?

     More of the same—release more albums and have more film and TV placements. I have my Christmas album coming out in the fall and just released my new electro album. I would love to continue my work helping children and animals in the world as well, maybe segue into doing some more TV.

    LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size who want to model?

    Practice, practice, practice! Know your craft and don’t give up! Stay positive and professional! Always be kind, there is no reason EVER to have an attitude, as no one is better than another.

    LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with one word.  




    Thanks for reading about our

    Cover Model of the Month



         Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the world.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.


         For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend the world to fit her, her way.


         Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe, Sweden and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.

    To view her Online portfolio visit www.Raqui.com

    Raqui's Blog titled Raqui-ism "Soulfully Speaking! - http://raqui-ism.blogspot.com/

    go to www.Raqui.com Portfolio Section


    Raqui-ism - Make 2014 a Inspirational Year

    Written By: Raqui






    In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.  News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this world, without focusing on what is good in this world.  So this year I dedicate my column to all that is inspirational, positive and helpful.  


    Woman Sized not Plus Sized

    There is a lot of division among women, the light from the dark, the have from the have not’s, tall from short, race from race, and yes fat from skinny.  This division steams from looks alone, competition and the need to feel as though you’re more wanted, more sought after, more attractive to love interests.  The desire, to meet an impossible standard for most women.  The desire to be the “it” girl, and to be admired and looked up to. We have been so conditioned that we only allow a small number of women to actually be acceptable.  The ones who have fame, talent, look the way society says they should look.  If you don’t fit into that small number then you are someone who will not get the same services or opportunities as someone else who fits the mold.  If you were an “it” girl and gained some weight you are attacked and humiliated for everyone to see and laugh at.

    That is why this month I was inspired by two totally different situations but yet they come together to give me hope.


     I was not surprised when I read about Melissa McCarthy going to 6 high level designers and all of them refusing to dress her for the Academy Awards in 2012.  The fact that I was not surprised is a sad thing.  With all of her success in movies and on television, with her amazing talent on the screen still she was not good enough to wear a dress made by a high profile designer,  they just refused to dress her.


    Snippet from The Washington Post

    Why no one would make an Oscar dress for Melissa McCarthy,

    despite her ‘Bridesmaids’ success.

    By Soraya Nadia McDonald - June 5th, 2014
    Read more of this article at The Washington Post – Click Here

    Actress Melissa McCarthy wore Marina Rinaldi to the 2012 Academy Awards.

    (Photo by Jason Merritt/Getty Images)


    There are all sorts of micro economies that are fed or supported by Hollywood. Picture-making doesn’t just provide a living for actors and the small armies of lawyers, crew members, production and insurance companies enlisted by movie studios; it contributes to the livelihoods of hairdressers, stylists, designers, makeup artists and handlers. When you’re a star, you’re not just famous. You’re a giant, monetizable billboard. The more recognizable you are, the more stuff you get for free.


    Unless you’re Melissa McCarthy.


    Awards season is the prime opportunity for designers to showcase their most decadent wares; this year’s Oscar telecast had 43.7 million viewers. But two years ago, McCarthy couldn’t find anyone to design an Oscar dress for her.


    “When I go shopping, most of the time I’m disappointed,” McCarthy said in the July issue of Redbook. “Two Oscars ago, I couldn’t find anybody to do a dress for me. I asked five or six designers — very high-level ones who make lots of dresses for people — and they all said no.” That year McCarthy wore a dress made by Marina Rinaldi, a ready-to-wear plus line you can find in stores such as Bloomingdale’s or Saks. Bear in mind, with the Oscars in particular, most actresses are wearing borrowed dresses, shoes, and jewelry valued at more than most Americans’ mortgages.


    McCarthy, the much-loved breakout star of “Bridesmaids,” won an Emmy in 2011 for her role on CBS’s “Mike & Molly.” Her work with director Paul Feig, including “The Heat,” “Bridesmaids” and the upcoming “Spy” have made her a favorite funny lady, particularly in feminist circles. In interviews, she seems down-to-earth, approachable, and well, normal.


    Sandra Bullock and Melissa McCarthy in “The Heat.”

    (Twentieth Century Fox Film Corporation)

    And that’s because she is. Despite her success and the wealth that comes with it, McCarthy faces the same problem of millions of plus-size American women: wanting a wardrobe that’s stylish and fashion forward, and finding slim pickings, which is why she decided to develop her own plus-size clothing line. She collaborated with couture dress maker Daniella Pearl for the gown she wore to the 2011 Emmy Awards, and the two are releasing a line called Pearl. Before becoming an actress, McCarthy studied fashion design at Southern Illinois University.


    Read more of this article at The Washington Post – Click Here

    I guess these designers didn’t want to put their clothing on Mellissa because she is plus sized, for shame if their designs were worn by a person they don’t find acceptable.  Melissa is a woman plain and simple, she was going to have the night of her life being Nominated for best supporting actress in Bridesmaids.  Even with the nomination she worn an off the rack dress because these designers didn’t deem her worthy of there their frocks.

    Why must we divide the small from the large?  There is no fashion only for African Americans, Hispanics, Asian, and Caucasian.  While there might be different styles and custom for dressing in different parts of the world.  Fashion is interchangeable and you can take different pieces from separate items and create a whole new look.  Unless of course you’re fat then your limited, you can’t express your own style if no one makes your style in your size.  I know this first hand, while I am told I dress very nicely, the clothing doesn’t express my particular style because those items are not made in my size.  I take what I can get, that I think will look ok on me, so I am very happy Mellissa is going to address this with a new line of clothing.

    What I would like to is something I didn’t know if I would ever see until I happened across this ad online.

    I have to say I love this company, they have sizes that go up to 4xl. They advertise not as a plus sized company but a company for women as you can see we have three different sizes of women all unique, beautifully dressed, and accepted. Their clothes are just fabulous and not just fab for the smaller sizes the plus size clothing is amazing and nicely priced.  This is what I want to see more of, nice clothing for all sizes of, because after all we are all women, why are we treated or dressed according to size instead of according to style.





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    Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in communications, promotions and planning.  She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while building businesses and her faith.

    Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from 180 pounds to 360 pounds.  She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes, obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg circulation.  At the age of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.  It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric Bypass Surgery.  Sonya launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is focused on something new!

    Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over a decade.  Losing the first 100 pounds was just the bonus!  She is now diabetes-free.  She has normal blood pressure.  The circulation in her legs is normal.  She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!  The joy that she feels is documented each day in her syndicated radio show, a brand new weekly  TV show documentary and each month in this article.  The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also stands for "Getting (my life) Back".  This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery on Feb 28, 2011.  This is now her life!


    Recognize, Accept and Deal with your Setbacks!

    with Angie Bee

    Last month I recognized that I have gained 18 pounds from the steroids I have been on since January. I recognized it and I don't like it! Of course, when weight hits you there are times that you don't see it until you look at a Facebook picture. Other times, you don't see it until you look at your face in the mirror after a long, sleepless night. Last month I recognized that those 18 pounds have hit me straight in my face and belly!

    This month was the summer launch of our TOUR. The TOUR is a Holy Hip Hop concert and video experience that also features workshops for parents and teens. The TOUR generally comes to a city for a weekend where we have a Friday night concert, Saturday workshops and church service on that Sunday. We are a year-round evangelistic movement and the summer is our busy season at churches and community centers. I serve as lead videographer, promoter and Concert MC and there are ALWAYS audience members that want to take a picture of me. This month's pictures show off WAY MORE belly than the pictures they took 6 months ago. WAY MORE belly (smh). After seeing the pictures they took of me at the Juneteenth Family Festival in Daytona Beach, I realize I have to accept the new belly.

    Gaining 18 pounds over the course of a few months after losing nearly 200 over the course of three years may be considered a setback to some people. I had gastric bypass surgery in February 2011 and in February 2014 I rejoiced over a 197 pound weight loss. Today I am tipping the scale at 214 and I'm sure that 16 of those pounds are in my belly. How do I deal with this setback? How do YOU deal with your setbacks?

    Well, I first had to acknowledge and understand that the steroids they prescribed for me didn't pack these pounds on me by themselves. The side effects of the Prednisone include: changes in the shape or location of body fat (especially in your arms, legs, face, neck, breasts, and waist) increased appetite, gradual weight gain. (Now, I see why my old double-chin seems to be coming back... smh)

    I remember craving bread and chocolate while on steroids. I remember cleaning my husband's plate a couple of times after dinner. I remember waking up really hungry in the morning and eating a third slice of bacon on several mornings and I KNEW that it was the steroids making me hungry. I recognized it then, but I didn't know how to accept it. Now, I have a setback to deal with.

    The Bible reminded me in Deuteronomy 7-6:

    6 For the Lord your God will bless you just as He promised you; 7 The Lord did not set his affection on you and choose you because you were more numerous than other people, for you were the fewest of all people 12 The Lord will open to you His good treasure, the heavens, to give the rain to your land in its season, and to bless all the work of your hand. 14 You will be blessed more than any other people;

    Job 22 says 8 You will also declare a thing, And it will be established for you; So light will shine on your ways. 29 When they cast you down, and you say, ‘Exaltation will come!’ Then He will save the humble person.

    I recognized these aspects of God's law, and since I am reminded of these things I can deal with this setback of weight gain. I will proclaim that my weight loss will be re-established and my health will continue to improve!

    Now that the proclamation has been made, the action needs to be put in place. What does science say: "for every action, there is a reaction". My actions will stimulate a reaction. I plan to increase my liquids and veggies and increase my daily stretching and dancing (others don't call my gyrating a dance but at least I'm moving!). I'm gonna walk a bit more with my hubby this week and work on getting up on my bike too! I think that I may even remember some of those water aerobics that I learned. My goal is to motivate my body to match my mind and to get my weight loss started again. I can deal with this setback and turn it into a set-UP just to reach my goal!

    Next month when you see my pictures, you will see restoration. I proclaim it! What are you proclaiming in YOUR life today? I will be drinking more protein drinks like they taught me in support group. I will be reducing the amount of food that I put on my plate, and when I feel that I am full I will stop eating! I will chew my food 20 times before I swallow and I will resist the urge to get a bag of Reeses Minis when I drive past the store.

    Let's work on this together in ALL aspects of our lives. Recognize, Accept and Deal with your setbacks...

    Hope to see you next month!

    Angie BEE



    Angie BEE


    Author, Magazine Publisher, Producer, Promoter &

    The Host of The Hottest Home Hotspot WORLDWIDE

    Syndicated Holy Hip Hop Radio Show

    Last Week I wanted to Die!




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    The Big GB - Getting My Life back after Gastric Bypass

    with Angie Bee

         Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.


         This Column is dedicated to the tremendous work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades.  LargeInCharge wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give the public more information into issues we as plus sized people should be aware of.  The fight for equality for people of all sizes is one we support.


         This Column will include News Releases and Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.


    This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org


    End Bullying Now Campaign Running Strong in the OC

    from: NAAFA.org - by: Donna Frey


    Chapter members and volunteers have been very busy coordinating fun and exciting anti-bullying programs for kids in Orange County this spring. Through the efforts of the chapter officers and volunteers from other organizations, we have managed to engage hundreds of students in the campaign to End Bullying Now (EBN).


    On Thursday, May 22nd, the OC Chapter collaborated with the Anaheim YMCA, the Magnolia School District, Savanna Achieves Program, and the Orange County BLUES professional soccer team to host the End Bullying Now All-Star Soccer Game. Two students from 13 schools were selected to play in the game side by side with 11 OC BLUES players. The Orange team was coached by Andrew Hoxie from New York and the Blue team was coached by Stephan Okai from Ghana. Over 250 students were bussed from their schools to Salk Elementary School to watch this exciting event. The purpose of the event was to teach students the importance of fair play and encouragement toward one another rather than bullying the opposing team. All students and soccer players took the EBN pledge and prizes were given out throughout the event. The half time program was dedicated to discussing the pledge and what it means. Overall, the event was a huge success!


    On Friday, May 30th, the OC Chapter held an evening End Bullying Now Rally at Maxwell Elementary School. 110 students and 36 adult volunteers came together for this exciting and special event. We also had a surprise visit from the Power Rangers! Students spent the evening playing games, eating, dancing, face painting and coloring End Bullying Now posters. Each student and volunteer received an EBN t-shirt and backpack. The event was so successful that parents asked us if we could organize a rally, not just for students, but for the entire family! 



    Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education, advocacy, and member support.




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    From the Desk of NAAFA




    Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well… I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A. degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana University.


    I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a passion for a good tasting meal.


    Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.


    If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward with recipe and photo to




    Happiness Kitchen
    with Lucia Roth

     Happy 4th of July

    Independence Day, commonly known as the Fourth of July, is a federal holiday in the United States commemorating the adoption of the Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, declaring independence from the Kingdom of Great Britain (now officially known as the United Kingdom). Independence Day is commonly associated with fireworks, parades, barbecues, carnivals, fairs, picnics, concerts, baseball games, family reunions, and political speeches and ceremonies, in addition to various other public and private events celebrating the history, government, and traditions of the United States. Independence Day is the National Day of the United States. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Independence_Day_ (United_States)


    I know that the 4th is steep in traditions bbq chicken, hamburgers, hotdogs, and your sides: potato salad, corn on the cob, etc…. well this year I’ve decided to do something a little different. I will still do the traditional hamburgers, hotdogs, and sides’ potato salad.  However, I discovered this awesome new recipe Honey Garlic Drumsticks.  


    So, grab a few napkins, and don't forget your appetite!


    Honey Garlic Drumsticks

    What you’ll need:

        24 chicken drumsticks

        1 teaspoon salt

        1/2 teaspoon black pepper

        1 cup honey

        1/4 cup chopped garlic

        2 tablespoons hot pepper sauce


    What to Do:

        Preheat oven to 400 degrees F.


        Place drumsticks on 2 rimmed baking sheets and season with salt and pepper; bake 30 minutes.


        Meanwhile, in a medium microwaveable bowl, combine honey, garlic, and hot pepper sauce; microwave 30 seconds and mix well. Remove drumsticks from oven and carefully brush with sauce (sauce may be hot).


        Bake 20 to 25 additional minutes, or until no pink remains and juices run clear.



    You may want to make an extra batch of the honey-garlic sauce for dipping.


    Bon Appetite!





    Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus size/BBW Art.



    Bring Back Our Girls

    with Jness


    On April 14, 2014 over two hundred school girls, between the ages of 16 and 18, were abducted from a school in Nigeria by the radical Islamist group called Boko Haram. These girls were abducted in order to be sold as sex slaves and forced into marriages.

    It was very disheartening to hear this story on the news. It's unbelievable to think it even possible for such a crime to be committed that anywhere in the world. This situation in Nigeria is unacceptable! 

    When I saw the 1st Lady Michelle Obama holding up the sign that read “Bring Our Girls Back” as a show of support, I was inspired. Then I saw many celebrities, Justin Timberlake, Ludacris and many other artists holding up signs leading this campaign statement through social media. I knew as an artist I had to join the movement and do it in my way. I illustrated Plus Size Wonder Woman and Plus Size Batgirl holding up the sign and speaking up against injustice. This is a call to action for the world powers.






    Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make you feel great and be Large and In Charge. My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree in Central Office Administration.


    With that said, I have been wearing plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each store carries. 


    Out of necessity, I started looking online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help all those to find what they want in their size.


    In my career, I've helped plus size students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and help you to look even more beautiful and chic.



    22 Date Night Looks
    with Amy Lucas

    The color white is hot this season. People all over the country are having parties where you must wear white to attend sometimes called a whiteout.


    Here are some great looks for you to wear wherever you want to go.



    22 Date Night Looks  
    Number 1.  
    Number 1.  



    Tamara Ruched Dress in Black,

    sizes 14/16-34/36

    (1-6x), $59.99,








    Number 2.  





    Zebra Halter Hi-Low Dress

    in Dandelion,

    sizes 12/14- 24 (s-xl),






    Number 3.  




    Cassidy Plus Size Dress

    in Vermillion Polka Dot,

    sizes 12-30/32, $128,







    Number 4.  



    “Kasia” Colorblock Romper

    in Off White,

    sizes 14/16-22/24,




    Number 5.  

    Lady in Lace Peplum Dress in Crimson/Black,

    sizes 10/12-30/32 (0-5x),




    Number 6.  


    Ruched and Ready to Roar Top in Leopard,

    sizes xl-4x,




    Envelope Back Midi Pencil Skirt,

    sizes 0-5x,






    Number 7.  


    Seduction Wrap Dress,

    sizes 10-24,





    Number 8.  

    Mod Babe Dress by City Chic,

    sizes 14-22 (xs-xl),




    Number 9.  

    Color Block Scuba Tunic Top,

    sizes 0-5x,




    Wet Look Skinny Jean in Black by City Chic,

    sizes 14-22,




    Number 10.  


    “Mosaic” Top,

    sizes 1-3x,




    “Mosaic” Skirt,

    sizes 1-3x,



    Number 11.  

    Plus Size Bandage Dress

    in Black/Nude,

    sizes 1-3x,






    Number 12.  

    Roxanne Plunge Dress in Snake,

    sizes 14/16-34/36





    Number 13.  

    Black Halter Cutout Midi Dress

    (Z Black Label),

    sizes 14/16-22/24








    Number 14.  

    Plus Size “Tropical Mornings”

    Hi Lo Tube Top Dress,

    sizes 14/16-22/24

    (1-3x), $46,



    Number 15.  



    “Fringe” Set,

    sizes 1-3x,








    Number 16.  

    Strapless Peplum top,

    sizes 0-5x,




    Belted Sateen Short,

    sizes 14-28,





    Number 17.  

    Blue Rock Dress,

    sizes l-9x, $50,



    Number 18.  

    Geneva Plus Size Wrap Dress

    in Fuchsia/Coral,

    sizes 12-30/32,





    Number 19.  

    Anya Strapless Dress in Mint,

    sizes 14/16-34/36






    Number 20.  

    Exception Dress in Black/White,

    sizes 6-24,




    Number 21.  


    Foxy Cami in Yellow,

    sizes 0-4x,




    JIBRI Plus Size High Waist Flare Skirt Maxi Length

    in Pink,

    sizes 10/12-26/28 (0-4x),




    (This outfit looked so cute from the JIBRI site that I just wanted to let you know how you too could recreate this look.)





    Number 22.  

    Rainforest Paradise

    Plus Size Maxi Dress,

    sizes 12-30/32,







    Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group, Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.


    Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born. The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009, Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and quickly fell deeply in love.


    Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological, contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a beautiful personification of the old adage opposites attract.


    "The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance, ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.

    Oh MRI
    with Jay Hansen


    Time and time again, medical care has proven to be the largest obstacle for me and Heidi when it comes to accommodating her size. Early this year, Heidi began the long, arduous process of finding a new gynecologist, which set in motion a series of events that ultimately led to her needing to get one of the most unfriendly, unaccommodating procedures for big people - an MRI.


    MRI stands for Magnetic Resonance Imaging. In short, radiologists use MRIs to help identify diseases or medical problems by using powerful magnetic fields and radio waves to generate internal images of a patient. MRI machines are usually extremely large, often taking up an entire room, yet are ironically notorious for their limited internal space for patients that must be slid into one to undergo scanning. I’ve heard them described many times as a claustrophobic’s worst nightmare – like “being inside a white, metal coffin” for an hour or more surrounded by loud, metal clanging and whirring noises. This, on top of the added stress being told “I’m sorry, but you’re too large for this machine” can make an MRI a traumatizing experience for a plus-size person.


    In the case of Heidi, we even called ahead to make sure the MRI our hospital uses would be size friendly – a precaution anyone of size should take when getting a medical exam, procedure, or visiting a new doctor. She was assured that she would fit in the machine; the technician she spoke with on the phone said, and I quote, “Oh, we have one of the large ones, don’t worry.” So, she made an appointment, and just a few days later we went in for the procedure.


    Can you guess what happened? Yeah, the machine was so small Heidi knew she wouldn't fit just by looking at it. This, despite assurances to the contrary when we phoned ahead. Nonetheless, her male technician begrudgingly insisted she would. After squeezing Heidi into the MRI feet first, though, there was no physically possible way they'd be able to make it past her chest. So, we had to completely reschedule for what’s called an Open MRI, which uses a much larger machine, at a completely separate location. Re-scheduling is not easy for people with as busy of schedules as me and Heidi, not to mention the obvious waste of our time (and theirs) and gas to travel out to the hospital only to turn around and go back home.


    But our troubles didn’t end there. When the day for the Open MRI arrived, Heidi had fallen ill and had significant mucus drainage issues, leading to respiratory problems. Like a normal MRI, an Open MRI requires the patient to lay flat on their back while the images are being taken. In this position, Heidi's breasts will slide upward into her throat, restricting her breathing further. Normally I hold her breasts out of the way when she has to lay down for medical procedures, but I could not put my hands inside the MRI far enough to prevent them from sliding up to her neck. I’m sure there are plenty of other large women out there - particularly other top-heavy ones like Heidi - that know how difficult it can be to lay flat on their backs for a prolonged period of time on good day, let alone one where they're sick and can barely breath. We knew going in that this would be an added layer of difficulty on top of everything else that’s happened, but we still didn’t even have any idea of what was about to unfold.


    The supposedly larger Open MRI was hardly that; Heidi literally had maybe an inch of room between her abdomen and the top of the machine. This prevented her from being able to take a deep breath, which meant she had to try not to cough while she had a cold. When she did inevitably cough, causing her abdomen to expand, the metal edges inside the machine dug into her ribs very painfully to the point where her eyes watered. In addition, the technicians failed to tell us how long the MRI would take. For Heidi, it was going to be over an hour and a half of laying there, drowning on mucus, and being strangled by her own boobs. To make matters worse, it was hardly a comfortable temperature inside the MRI room from the get-go; inside the “white, metal coffin” Heidi’s big girl furnace kicked on and left her drenched in sweat.


    I tried to fan her the best I could from where I was standing. First I tried a magazine, but that wasn’t doing any good, so I took one of the large, rectangular, flexible, plastic plates the technician used to center the imager and used it as a fan. It helped, but it was obvious that Heidi was still suffering. which only made me more agitated and left me feeling helpless and useless since I could not keep her cool, hold her chest out of the way, or do anything to help her. At one point I even had to pound on the door to the MRI room (which was locked from the outside) to get the technician to turn the machine off for a few minutes because Heidi literally could not breath.


    Keep in mind that even though Heidi and I take precautions like picking size-friendly doctors and calling ahead to check for the size-friendliness of their facilities, we still ran into these problems that could have been prevented had people simply been more knowledgeable and sensitive about the special needs of the plus-sized. Had the receptionist we spoke with known what constitutes a size-friendly MRI machine we wouldn’t have needed to re-schedule and Heidi could have done the procedure before getting sick. Had the first technician been more sensitive to Heidi's concerns (especially a male technician) there wouldn't have been a need to embarrassingly cram her into an obviously too-tiny MRI machine. Had the second technician known how difficult it is for such a large woman to lay flat on her back for so long we could have scheduled frequent breaks during the long MRI scan for Heidi to sit up, breath, and cool off. It just goes to show you that no matter how cautious you are, how many preventative measures you take, people of size still run into challenges every day because of other people’s ignorance and biases. The only person you can always count on to make accommodations for your size is yourself, so always be prepared to combat size discrimination whenever and however you can. That’s pretty much why I started writing for this magazine in the first place. Hopefully someday, in a world where people are more sensitive to the special needs of others, these problems will be a thing of the past, along with size discrimination.




    I was born in San Diego, California on August 30, 1972.
    Grew up in San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California. I Graduated from San Diego State University in 1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism (Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in Political Science.

    I interned with U.S. Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.

    I interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican National Convention.

    Currently I'm a Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California

    I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club in San Diego, CA.

    And a newlywed, married to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.

    I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men, Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin (21).

    I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis, football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also design a web page for a real estate company.

    How to Deal With the Ratchet Ex

    with David Edmondson

    First and foremost, I would like to thank my wife Kathy for getting me to laugh about this very subject. Lord knows, I’ve pulled out so much of my hair, when dealing with the ex-wife, that I’m now bald. Sometimes, you go through a bitter divorce and no matter which side you were on, it’s too personal to let go of the past. However, if you are in the same position as I am, it’s an absolute necessity that you put the past behind you and move forward. You may have children involved or you may find it impossible to find someone else while dwelling on your ex and ways to get even. But I learned an important lesson from way back in my childhood which applies to this very topic, when my grandparents told me (and stop me if you’ve heard this before); kill them with kindness.

    In terms of my ex-wife “She doesn’t have an enemy in the world. Only her friends hate her.” That was a line from the movie “Inherit the Wind” which may or may not apply to your ex and yes, when you first break up, it can be bitter. They will no doubt try everything to get under your skin and let’s face it; they have an advantage, having been with you so long. The only effective weapon to use in this case is the path of non-violence. Why? If they see they are not able to crawl under your skin, they will eventually go away. However, if you respond, the war continues, which could lead you to an ending that will not sit well with you.

     It is especially difficult when children are involved as your ex may use your kids to get to you. This includes but is not limited to, giving little or no access to your kids. This allows your ex to use propaganda against you by putting in your child’s ear that you are unworthy. While parenting classes encourage keeping lines of communication open and friendly between you and your ex, for the sake of your child, this will not always happen. Maybe you wish for them to suffer because you suffered. Maybe they see you with a new love and want to ruin it for you. In these cases you have to be firm yet fair. Keep your ex at arm’s length. Let your ex know that any attempts to ruin your new relationship will be met with a swift response. Yet, you must never make this personal, because your child may see this and turn against you. They aren’t going to care about the many times; mom may have done you wrong. All they are going to remember was, my father was a jerk to mom. Let it go. I know it hurts your pride but let it go. Why? To not let it go, you run the risk of your child isolating themselves from you. Besides, chances are the ratchet behavior of your ex will continue and your child will see for themselves the clear picture.

     Relationships are such that not many ex’s are going to wind up being your friend in the end. They can be harsh, bitter and cruel. However, they don’t have to stay that way, even if you are still bound by a child. The more you live in the past, the more bitter you become and the more you suffer. The more you are able to put the past behind you, the less stress you will receive, the better the relationship with your ex and the benefit for your child and loved ones increases. So take that power for yourself and enjoy life. After all, life is too short to let someone else run it.




    Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided in California and New York. Besides advocating for Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child advocate and is a strong believer in Size Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling the world and being an ambassador for the fat community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS RULE!”


    The Word Fat

    with Freakie


    It took me over thirty years to understand that the word fat is not a bad word. Someone would call me fat and I would be so hurt and devastated.  Being fat was shameful, wrong, and a one-way trip to Loserville.  I vividly remember being 11 years old and my aunt coming to visit from Norway.  I was so excited to see her; it had been at least four years.  When she arrived at the house I waited for her at the top of the stairs with my arms open and a big smile on my face.  She came up the stairs, leaned down to hug me and whispered in my ear, “You are too fat”, with a smile on her face.  I was devastated and my relationship with her was never the same after that.

    Now I know that fat is just…fat.  It’s just a description, like tall, short, skinny, etc.  It’s a state of being that has nothing to do with my worth as a person.  Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of people in the world who would like us all to believe that your body weight should determine your worth.  Those types of people are controlled by insecurity and self-doubt and want the rest of us to feel the same way.  We all know misery loves company.  Think about it, if a perfect stranger publically insults you or ridicules you for being fat they are actually demonstrating a fight-or-flight reaction to you.  They are like scared dogs who are deciding whether to bite or bark.  Why they are scared is not your problem, it’s theirs!

    The truth is that nobody can make you feel bad about yourself unless allow it. Once you learn to love and accept yourself where you are at negative people lose their power over you.  What matters is how YOU feel about your body.  If you are fat, be fat and move on to more important things in life.  If you want to makes changes, inside or outside, make sure you are doing it for yourself and then do it.  If you feel hurt when someone remarks on your weight then you need to ask yourself why you are giving that person so much power in your life.  Just because someone is trying to hurt your feelings doesn’t mean you have to buy into it.  Other people are not responsible for your feelings, you are.  Especially when to comes to hurt feelings; your emotional response belongs to you and you alone.  That is a hard thing to take ownership of but it is life changing when you do


    Life is short.  We don’t have time to sit around feeling bad about ourselves!  If you want to change something about yourself, and have the power to do so, then do it!  It’s also okay to look at yourself in the mirror and like what you see, whatever you see.  Maybe you need to start with just accepting what you see and then working towards liking it.  We all have to start somewhere.  That goes for every person on the planet.  We are all different and we have to stop trying to box each other in and just enjoy the diversity of life.  Take the first step and learn to see your own beauty.  It’s there.



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