Catching up with Kathy Edmonson of BBW
LargeInCharge Featured People and Companies - Where are they now?
When LargeInCharge started it was all about what
was happening on the East Coast, since I was based out of New York City.
As the years went by I learned more and more about what was happening on
the West Coast and all inbetween. This is when I starting learning
about the BBW Club Scene and Club Catalina was at the top of the list of
well organized and raved about events. That is when I started to
learn more about Kathy Hernandez (now known as Kathy Edmonson). I
was able to feature BBW Club Catalina in 2008 and was looking forward to
meeting one day.
With us both having the same last name the
Hernandez sisters was a little nick name we came up with after we met at
the BBW Vegas Bash in 2010. In my sleepy after party buzzed brain,
I called her the wrong name and she gracefully didnt mention it.
UGH RAQUI STRIKES AGAIN, I never remember anyones name and call people
by the wrong name often because I cant keep it straight. She was
not offended even though I was utterly shamed. That only happened
once though, we have kept in contact since then and we have worked
together when Kathy decided to write a column for LargeInCharge Magazine
for 2 years.
Raqui and Kathy Vegas Bash 2010
When I found out Kathy
was getting married I was so excited for her even though my Internet
Hernandez sister would have a new name. Still with a great guy
like David Edmonson who would be a good supportive partner in business
and an amazing life partner in marriage. How could I be anything
but happen and then utterly over joyed when David also began writing for
Club Catalina is expanding
into the Bash Scene with there first Halloween Boo Bash. I hope to
see Club Catalina expand and grow even more. This amazing woman
and her darling husband will continue to make marks in the BBW World.
So you better stay updated and aware. You will not want to miss a
Kathy and David Edmonson
BBW Club Catalina Halloween Boo Bash:
Check out the event infomation on how to attend. You dont want to miss
this one. view below pictures to get taste. Click each thumbnail for a
full size image.
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?
am originally from a small town in Michigan but I have lived in San
Diego County for 29 years.My husband David and I moved to Temecula California a year and a
half ago and we love it here.
LargeInCharge.com: When did you
first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine?
BBW Club Catalina first appeared as a cover story on Large In Charge
Magazine in September of 2008.BBW Club Catalina was coming up on its 2nd Anniversary
Party in November of 2008.We will be open for 7 years this coming November, 2014.
Issue #54 - September 2008
LargeInCharge.com: Please tell us why you were featured?
was featured because I had opened BBW Club Catalina for monthly parties
in San Diego and we wanted to share this information with people who
would like to join us for our club nights, game nights, pool parties,
dinners and movie nights.
you feel when you appeared inLargeInCharge?
couldn’t stop smiling when I saw the cover article on BBW Club Catalina
because it was a great source of exposure for the night club and I knew
a lot of people would really enjoy spending time with such a friendly
and outgoing group.
LargeInCharge.com: How do you feel now about being included in our
special Decade editions?
am probably more excited being include in the special Decade editions
because a lot of BBW Night Clubs come and go and BBW Club Catalina is
still having monthly night club events and other activities in San
Diego.We are also having a
3 day Halloween Boo Bash for the first time at the Crowne Plaza Hotel
with a full itinerary of fun things to do and we are also having a pre
party at our regular club location at The Consulate Hotel the Thursday
before the bash starts so it will be 4 days of meeting new people,
having fun and partying in San Diego from October 9-12, 2014.We will have 3 club nights with a special Super Heroes Versus
Super Villain Theme night on Saturday, Halloween Costume Contests, Booty
Shaking Contest, Bingo, Family Feud, a hospitality room, karaoke, meet
and greets, after parties, fashion show, raffles for great prizes,
scavenger hunt and a bash bag full of goodies!!
LargeInCharge.com: How has your life and endeavors changed since your
Club Catalina has been advertising heavily in the local newspaper and we
have a commercial coming out on July 25th in the movie
theatres.The BBW Club
Catalina Halloween Boo Bash commercial will be seen by thousands of
movie goers right before the previews start for each movie so I am so
excited about this.I have
also changed my name from Kathy Hernandez to Kathy Edmondson!! David and
I met a little over 2 and a half years ago and we were married on
December 31, 2012.We
have joint custody of David’s beautiful 9 year old daughter Safiyah who
is a joy to have in the house.We have our puppy Sochi who just turned 6 months old and we will
be purchasing our first home together in November, 2014!!
changes have you made to advance your career/business?
We are both working in real estate.David is the realtor and I am the loan officer so together we are
Team Edmondson because he handles writing the purchase agreements and
showing the homes and I am the Loan Broker.David helps me with Club Catalina to set up for the night,
security, charge cover and host the party with me also when we have our
LargeInCharge.com: How long have you invested in your venture/career?
Club Catalina will be open for 7 years in November of 2007 so we are
excited about the upcoming Anniversary party.
about some of the most exciting events/occasions, you/your business have
Club Catalina has been a bash club sponsor for many different BBW events
such as NAAFA, Las Vegas BBW Bash, San Diego BBW Bash, Well Rounded BBW
Bash, Orange County BBW Bash, LA Rock Your Curves BBW Bash, Vegas BBW
Winter Weekend and now we are doing our first BBW Bash in October for 3
days with BBW Club Catalina’s 1st Annual Halloween BBW Bash
from October 10-12, 2014.
been featured in any press, on tv, newspapers etc?
Yes I have appeared on the Dr Phil Show and ABC 10 news.Club Catalina has been in the following newspapers or magazines:Valley Center Roadrunner, La Prensa Newspaper, San Diego City
Beat, Large in Charge Magazine, Solid Woman’s Magazine, Bell Noire
Magazine, Celebration of Curves, North County Times Newspaper, Passion
for Plus Size Fashion, Thick and Luscious, Tangled Up In Lace and BBW
LargeInCharge.com: What changes have you seen for plus sized people
since your first appearance?
I think plus sized people have a better attitude about themselves and
their bodies since coming to BBW Club Catalina.They come to a size acceptance night club where they don’t have
to worry about being criticized or humiliated because of their weight.I have seen many people lose weight just because they are
happier, going out more and loving life because they aren’t as unhappy
or depressed because society is telling us that being
thin is what is in and anything
else is something to be ashamed about.
LargeInCharge.com: Are there any changes you had to make for your
I have decided to spend more money in advertising in newspapers, handing
out professional glossy flyers and I have decided that I can’t do this
on my own so when people ask me if they can help spread the word by
handing out flyers than I accept their help graciously and thank them.The more people who are out there telling people about BBW Club
Catalina than the more people that will join our group.
LargeInCharge.com: What are some of the most important things you have
learned through the years?
I have learned that you can’t make everyone happy and you have to follow
your heart and do what you think is right.I listen to what people tell me about what they want for the club
and I know that change is happening all the time so to keep going in a
business than you need to keep exploring different options and ways of
LargeInCharge.com: How is your standing in the Plus Sized Community
among the people?Good
feedback, negative feedback, learning lessons?
I have a lot of friends in the Plus Size Community and it’s a good
feeling to know when you go to other BBW events so even if I go alone
that I won’t be alone for long because over the past 10 years I have met
so many friends through these BBW Events.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
My husband David and my children inspire me the most in life.My friends and other family members also inspire me to be a good
person and put everything back into the community that I can.
ventures/items/products you have planned for the future?
I think the Halloween BBW Bash in October is going to be a great start
and I will probably do another bash in the spring every year and
continue with the Halloween Boo Bash’s every October so San Diego has
two large bashes each year in addition to our monthly themed parties.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?
David and I would like to own or rent our own location so we are able to
have the décor, furniture that is BBW Friendly and be able to have more
control over a venue so we can be open every Saturday instead of having
once a month night club parties.We could also use the venue for game nights, football parties and
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size
who might be interested in doing something similar?
I think having a BBW Night Club in every major city would be great but
the person needs to know they have a lot of hard work ahead of them and
not to give up if they have a low turn out here or there.If you keep handing out flyers, putting up ads, asking friends
and family to help you than you will be successful.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself/ your company/org with one word.
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current
Battle Creek, MI
LargeInCharge.com: When did
you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine as a Model?
Issue #100 July 2012
Issue #100 - July 2012
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to apply that first
It was an opportunity for me to try something new.
LargeInCharge.com:How did you feel when you appeared as a LargeInCharge
I felt very proud
your modeling career grown since your appearance?
haven’t done much modeling since this cover as I have been
working on accomplishing other things. Currently, I am the
fashion writer for Large in Charge magazine.
LargeInCharge.com: Have your life and endeavors changed
since your appearance?
It has allowed me to
reach even more people with the message that big can be
LargeInCharge.com:What changes do you see in Plus Sized Modeling?
There are a lot of women in the profession now. There are
also many different kinds of modeling opportunities
available. However, there are still some limitations such as
height, size, and location.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you see for Plus Sized
see many more people becoming happy with the person they
currently are. I am also seeing many new stores and
boutiques opening up for the plus size community which means
there will be a larger variety of clothing available to us.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in
Making a difference in someone else’s life and helping
others who need it most inspires me to do the same. Not only
do I try to do that with most everyone I know, but I am also
trying to help plus size women find clothes that make them
feel good and look good by writing for Large in Charge.
LargeInCharge.com:Any new modeling tips and tricks to share?
Elastic waist belts can do wonders at creating an hourglass
figure for those who don’t have one.
Just make sure to
wear it at the smallest part of your mid-section.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?
I am looking into starting a blog on plus size fashion and
accessories. Also, I am in the process of writing three how-
to books that will teach people how to add a little glam to
their lives. Lastly, I have been looking into starting a bbw
group around here as you have to drive quite a few hours to
get to most bbw events around here.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other
people of size who want to model?
not? What do you have to lose? Try it.
LargeInCharge.com: Give us one word that describes you.
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything
but the horror and insanity around us. News Reports, Crime
Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in
what is sensational and wrong with this world, without focusing on
what is good in this world.
So this year I dedicate my column to all that is inspirational,
positive and helpful.
Music is an acient art, used for communication, worship,
celebration and much more. It envokes feelings depending on
the beat. It can make you cry, make you feel happiness, it can
bring about a memory and it can inspire you.
You can travel time
and listen to how music has evolved. You can sing to it or
dance with abandon. No matter where you are in the world, the
people who surround you, the tradition that is present, there is a
unique feeling to the music of the country and people who you are
around. Music enables you to relate to others on a level that
language cant, a deeper level because words are not nessary.
I have many gripes
about music I hear now. Yet I enjoy so much of it, then there
is a song that seems to talk about serious issues, but is full of
feelings, and that is what I wanted to feature this month. Two
songs that I find to be Insirational and meaningful. They do
more than just please the ears, the words are truly something that
captured me. They speak of a inner struggle and a full
acceptance of who you are, and that is ok. In fact you are
perfectly wonderful just the way you are. You can love you and
who you see in the mirror. You dont have to conform to an
ideal that doesnt exsist. You dont have to "Try so Hard", you
dont have to see yourself as "Unpretty". You dont have to
change yourself for anyone and you can feel complete. If you
just love the wonder that you are. I hope you enjoy
Colbie Caillat - Try
TLC - Unpretty
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Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
Update with our former writer Sonya Bennett
Cosmetic or Corrective:
Post-Gastric Bypass Restoration
Hello, Readers!It’s my
pleasure to step in for Angie Bee this month and give her a much
worry; she’ll be back here at Large In Charge for September’s Issue.
As some long-time readers of this column may remember, I used to
write about my experiences with the “Big G.B. – My Gastric Bypass
Memoirs”.More than a
few years have passed and I have lost and kept off more than 170
recommend surgical weight loss to anyone who has health/pending
health issues or just being uncomfortable related to weight.At the age of 38, I had tried every clinical, medical and
traditional weight loss avenue that money, time and energy could
buy: the Gastric Bypass was the most viable, realistic and best
decision I’ve ever made.
No one really told me about the hanging skin.
After losing the weight that took 30+ years to accumulate in months,
exercising and toning helped with some portions of my body, but not
all.Now, at the age of
43, I have turned to what insurance and others deem as ‘cosmetic’
surgery: an abdominoplasty and
panniculectomy commonly known as stomach muscle-tightening and a
tummy tuck.The surgeon
removed 15 pounds of skin that I had been dragging around adding
pain to my back and hips.I am now three weeks out and still recovering and managing
pain, however I am happy with the results.The drainage tubes have not been fun, however, it’s one of
the prices you pay.
The question arises:
When are procedures such as this considered corrective or cosmetic?Shouldn’t one be rewarded, so-to-speak, for their diligence
and hard work after successfully losing this weight that filled up
the now-sagging skin?
Most insurance companies do not believe so.Flabby arms, a ‘waddle’ under the chin, flabby thighs and
hanging-sagging breasts are just a few of the reconstructions that
often have to be done after weight-loss surgery.Don’t get me wrong: not every person that loses a significant
amount of weight needs skin removal; however, the majority of the
surgical-weight-loss population may need these “body-lift”
anyone who is considering weight-loss surgery to consult your
insurance company about
CPT/HCPCS codes 15830and 15847
as post-op surgeries that should be considered corrective not
personally, had to pay $2,200.00 out of pocket for the stomach
muscle-tightening that is typically not covered by traditional
insurance companies since it is deemed cosmetic.
"One dress size in weight loss is the equivalent of losing 10
pounds. I have lost 15 dress sizes and still had 17 pounds of skin
sagging and pulling around my mid-section!I guess I truly need a
new wardrobe; belts and loose-hanging dresses won’t cut it anymore
lol.It has been
difficult for me to revel in my success when I was still wearing
pantie girdles and the same-size panties that I was wearing when I
was a size 30/32 and I’m now a size 12/14.I put on a pair of jeans today and they slid right down my
corrective surgery after gastric bypass or any means of significant
weight loss: for the majority of us, it is a necessity and will
fulfill/reward the work you’ve done.I met a patient whom had just had a tummy tuck two weeks
prior and was there for a breast reduction/lift after having the
gastric bypass two years ago; she was well over 60 years old.Her adult children and husband were stating that they “didn’t
understand why” she needed to have these procedures done: she’d been
married to her husband for over 30 years and he loved her just the
way she was. She had lost 116 pounds and was saying that the next
thing she wanted worked on was the skin hanging on her thighs.I asked her did she think her surgeries are becoming
addictive since she’s having them so close together; did she have a
time constraint or goal as to when she wanted to have the total
package?She smiled and
told me, “No, it’s just time”.
There is not one of us that doesn’t look in the mirror and think,
“If only I could have ______” and sometimes it’s something that is
unattainable; something that isn’t in the make-up God gave us.
SOMEtimes, though, there are doctors that can help you with that “if
only…” and my surgeon is thrilled with the results of his patients
who come to him with, “Yes, I’ve tried to restore/tighten up that
belly, those breasts, that buttocks or even those thighs, but I
can’t” and he says, “It’s not vanity, it’s necessity”.Dr. D. complimented me constantly on doing an ‘excellent job’
with my weight loss and sustaining it.Sure, there are people who would say I ‘coulda just…’
exercised/walked/joined a gym.I did all of that; for YEARS and some things just need
After an almost 200 pound weight loss and after having a child, some
skin will just be stretched out and age and gravity won’t permit it
to retract.Cosmetic or
corrective: Corrective/Reconstructive all the way and I’m not done
yet!If you are in need
of a few nips and tucks, I recommend Dr. Vincent DiNick and his
!Their patience and
attention to detail expanded beyond the hospital room even down to
the surgeon, himself, preparing me in pre-op!Not everyone believes in “voluntary” surgical procedures,
however, I thank God I’ve had some amazing medical professionals who
have changed my life.
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
A Letter to the President
Letter to President Obama re. Dr. Cosgrove
NAAFA, a civil right organization working for Equality at Every
Size, opposes the proposed appointment of Dr. Delos ‘Toby’ Cosgrove
as the Secretary of Veterans Affairs.
Our opposition is based on Dr. Cosgrove’s openly discriminatory
ideation and bias toward people based on their body size, as
exhibited by his statement in an interview with a New York Times
stated that “if it were up to him, if there weren’t legal issues, he
would not only stop hiring smokers. He would also stop hiring obese
people.” He then took a moralistic view, blaming people for their
body size. “People’s weight is a reflection of how much they eat and
how active they are.”
Our veterans deserve the absolute best possible care offered. We
believe Dr. Cosgrove’s open hostility and bias against people of
larger body size will bleed into the recommendations for policies
and practices of the care of our veterans.
Studies have shown that the clear dislike and bias of healthcare
providers toward people of larger body size leads to problems in the
delivery of that much needed healthcare.
"…although weight bias may originate in the belief that
overweight individuals have weak character and could lose weight
if they simply tried, the results of the current study indicate
that weight bias goes beyond such stigmatization to clear
dislike and negativity toward the overweight, leading to support
for discrimination.” [Weight
Prejudice and Medical Policy: Support for an Ambiguously
Discriminatory Policy Is Influenced by Prejudice-Colored Glasses,
Brochu and Esses, 2009]
Higher patient BMI was associated with lower physician
Respect for Patients with Obesity, Huizinga, et al., 2009]
Research shows that providers spend less time during
appointments and provide less health education with obese
patients compared with thinner patients. Obese patients
frequently report experiences of weight bias in healthcare, and
being disrespected by providers. [The
stigma of obesity: a review and update., Puhl and Heuer,
Research from 2013 demonstrates that, in addition to poorer
mental health outcomes, weight discrimination has implications
for obesity. Rather than motivating individuals to lose weight,
weight discrimination increases risk for obesity." [Perceived
Weight Discrimination and Obesity, Sutin and Terracciano,
After having served our country, being exposed to chemicals that
result in long term health problems, loss of limb(s), physical as
well as mental trauma and so much more, our nation’s veterans
deserve the best possible healthcare as they age. People typically
gain weight as they age increasing the possibility of experiencing
bias and discrimination from their healthcare providers.
Physician bias leads to avoidance of seeing a physician when
attention is needed and can result in adverse effects and greater
numbers of hospitalizations.
We ask that Dr. Cosgrove’s name be withdrawn from consideration as
Secretary of Veterans Affairs for the good of those that have
selflessly and heroically served our country.We ask that all future potential candidates
be vetted for their attitudes toward higher weight people before
being seriously considered for appointment.
Your consideration in this matter is gratefully appreciated.
The NAAFA Board of Directors
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. Well…
I’ve move on to another one of my favorite’s pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on what’s going on. I’m currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always grow… I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
It’s a long hot summer and the last thing anyone wants to do is
cook! Who wants to be
in the kitchen when you can be enjoying the lazy days of summer.
If you’re a working parent again the last thing you have on your
mind is cooking. One of my favorite summer dishes is a huge
Make a salad as an alternative to heating up your kitchen. A
summer salad is easy and lite and can be a fun family activity
and this works well for the single person on the go also.
What you’ll Need:
1 (14-ounce) can sweetened condensed (not evaporated) milk
1 cup sour cream
1/2 cup lime juice
1 (20-ounce) can pineapple chunks, well drained
1 (11-ounce) can mandarin orange segments, well drained
1 1/2 cup grape halves
1 cup sweetened flaked coconut
1 cup mini marshmallows
1/2 cup maraschino cherry halves, well drained
What To Do:
In a large bowl, combine sweetened
condensed milk, sour cream, and lime juice; mix well. Stir
in remaining ingredients; mix until well combined.
Cover and chill for at least 3 hours before serving.
To prevent the cherries from "bleeding," I suggest stirring them
into the mixture just before serving. And for a really
refreshing dessert treat, try serving this frozen.
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
Defining Your Personal Plus Sized Fashion
Since the days when I attended the High School of Fashion
Industries and majored in Fashion Illustration under the
tutelage of my favorite teacher Ms. Sweet, I had a love for
fashion. Oddly it was never a desire to design but more of a
passion for its representation. I have always been a person who
recognizes and respects the individual’s sense of style. I
believe that your sense of style is what fits you and what feels
right to you. I know there are many licensed and registered
fashion police officers who dispute my position. But I say what
good is the implementation of fashion attributes if they don’t
help define who you say you are?
Even though there have been great advances in the area of
plus-size fashion there is still a size range that is left
greatly unattended. Many women in larger sizes know what it is
to go to a plus size boutique and discover the popular styles
become limited and unavailable once you get to 4X and up. You
end up shopping online or having things made custom fit by a
seamstress. Very frustrating I’m sure. So as you develop your
own sense of style while working around these limitations, let
your confidence blossom, be secure in who you are and in the
style you have developed. You define who you are, remember that
the opinions of others are just that. It’s what they think based
on their own experience. Your position is defined by your
thoughts and your experience. What you think and say about you
is what’s important. Take positive suggestions into
consideration but you have the last say so.
This month’s illustration was inspired by a woman I’ve known
online for years. She is a true advocate for size acceptance.
She is a wife and a mother, and a shining example of living
womanhood to its fullest. She is a great light to young women of
size. Her voice speaks in volumes on behalf of the campaign for
being who you are and refusing the negative voice of others
defines you by their venomous words. Her name is Mikel.
The illustration I submit this month is entitled, “Bigger
Fashion”. This piece started as a pencil sketch loosely
referencing a photo of her. Once the sketch was complete, I
inked the lines using a medium Paper Mate Flair felt tip marker.
This marker gives me a clean line with a thickness that allows
for nice clean scanning.
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a master’s degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
21 Unique Skirts
with Amy Lucas
Everyone has that plain black skirt in their wardrobe they rarely wear,
but would you wear a skirt more if it was something unique? There are
plenty of plus size skirts that are unusual either because of their style,
fabric, print, or color. Here are just some of the fun and special skirts
out there to add to your wardrobe.
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelor’s in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
Four Years of Loving Large
with Jay Hansen
August is a very special month for me and Heidi. Our anniversary is the
twelfth, and this year we will be celebrating four years of a very happy
romantic relationship. Most people reading this already know our story,
but probably not to this detail. Those that do know it only
think they know it, because
for the sake of brevity, we normally just tell others that we meet in
Oklahoma BBW, but that's not
quite the full truth (though we did meet because of Oklahoma BBW).
So to celebrate this year, here is the story of Jay and Heidi.
It all started in 2005. I had just turned 18, and my entire life I had
always known I was very attracted to very large women, so I was eager to
join as many online communities for size acceptance, fat admiration, and
big, beautiful women as I could. Upon discovering just how big the online
community was I was blinded with excitement and basically just clicked
"apply" or "join" on as many Yahoo! Groups that I could find that were
even remotely related to the community. At the same time, Heidi had just
become owner of Oklahoma BBW, and the group was primarily based out of
Yahoo. She frequently visited other pages in the community to recruit new
members from Oklahoma or the surrounding area to her own, and really, in
my exuberant discovery of this new world and Heidi's recruitment efforts,
we just eventually bumped into each other (which I have since learned just
causes me to bounce right off her).
Heidi was the first to make contact via e-mail. She introduced and added
me to the Oklahoma group even though I was still too young to attend the
parties (alcohol is present, so members must be at least 21, and I was
still 18). So for several years, Heidi and I were mostly just online
friends. Being the gorgeous and indescribably attractive big, beautiful
woman that she is, Heidi was used to significant attention from men online
back then, as she is now. A large majority of that attention, of course,
was hardly desirable or warranted, but Heidi once told me that from the
very beginning I was different. She said nothing I ever said or did was
even remotely sexual; from what she could tell, I actually was a guy
interested in just a friendship, which she had almost never seen before
from a fat admirer online. We would just talk about things like work, my
college, family, and other ordinary topics. She also talked about her
tattoos, and sometimes showed them off, while one of the most memorable
conversations we had was about family lineage when I was doing a genealogy
essay for a class. Still, it was going to be a long three years before I
was 21 and old enough to go to parties. We even tried to get me
established as a security guard when I was only 19 so that I could attend
(security isn't allowed to drink), but it sadly ended up not working out.
Over time, our conversations became less frequent, and our friendship
Eventually I found a girlfriend, while Heidi continued her own
relationship pursuits and busy life. We still chatted from time to time,
and always considered each other friends, but rarely did we communicate.
That is, until one day in March 2010. I was trying to track down a very
specific digital camera and had to go all the way to Midwest City to
purchase it, the town where Heidi lived. Afterward, I got to have lunch at
an excellent Midwest City restaurant called Golden Palace. It just so
happened that Heidi was there for lunch as well. I saw her from across the
restaurant, and with a crinkle of my forehead thought
"wait, is that...?" while
apparently Heidi thought the exact same thing when she looked back at me.
We later bumped into each other at the buffet line (no, this was not when
I learned that I bounce off her) and were both super excited to finally
meet face-to-face. We hugged, exchanged new contact information, and were
very happy, but it was just a tiny taste of the happiness that was to
To this day Golden Palace is our favorite restaurant.
Three months later both me and Heidi were single. By this point I was 23,
and Oklahoma BBW was about to have their annual Luau. Finally free to
attend, I managed to hitch a ride there and hung out for a few hours (I
had to be up for work the next morning). I met and chatted with many
people that I now consider friends, but most of all I got time to sit and
chat face-to-face with Heidi for the first time. I don't remember all we
discussed, but I do remember her smiling and saying
"I can't believe you're actually
here." We had so much fun being together again we decided to start
hanging out more regularly, starting with a dinner at Golden Palace
(though a separate location from the one we met at). At the time we had no
idea that this dinner would be "our first date."
So much had happened to both of us; I had graduated college and was trying
to figure out what to do with my life, while Heidi had renounced dating
and romance altogether after being cheated on for the umpteenth time and
contracting HPV from said cheating scumbag. We shared personal stories and
information as if we had known each other our whole lives, almost without
a second thought. By time we were done with dinner, we still weren't done
talking and just wanted to be around each other. That's when I suggested
we go see the movie Inception,
which was still in theaters. Heidi hadn't seen it yet, and you don't have
to be around her long to know she loves badass action movies.
After the movie, it was late, and we were standing in a nearly vacant
parking lot right outside the theater. In the silence, something she had
said at dinner kept rattling around in my head. She had told me she was
disappointed we didn't get to kiss goodbye at the Luau. So, I kissed her.
And never stopped kissing her.
The funny thing was, less than a week later we met up again with what we
thought were cooler heads. We both agreed we were moving way too fast and
neither of us were interested in a serious relationship at the time on
account of her HPV and me having just ended a three year relationship.
Plus, we had to discuss the elephant in the room that was our age. I was
so young and inexperienced about relationships, yet this one would
essentially be my first as an emotionally mature adult. Heidi made it a
point to say she genuinely didn't know how she would respond if her own
son, who is just two years younger than me, dated someone her age. We made
up all sorts of excuses to not pursue a relationship, but by the end of
that night the deal was sealed.I don't even recall exactly what we did that evening, only where we
ended up. By the end of the night we were just sitting in her car,
chatting, as we had been for hours, getting closer and closer to each
other both emotionally and physically with each sentence. Eventually, we
were so close I was almost in her lap. I put my head on her shoulder and
told her that I'd never been this close to anyone before.
And it was done. Age didn't matter, experience didn't matter, size didn't
matter, our personal life circumstances didn't matter, the fact that I'm a
colossal dork and she's a heavy metal girl didn't matter. We were in love.
Normally, I like to take pages at a time to explain myself and the meaning
behind my words, but lately my free time has been very short, so I'm going
to go spend what precious little of it I do have with my wonderful wife of
four fantastic years. Take from this story what you will.
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972. Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
Domestic Violence is NOT a Sport
with David Edmondson
Let’s face it, we as men use sports to escape the
stresses that life gives us. Whether we choose to play
them in a recreational sense or whether we live
vicariously through other athletes, chances are ESPN or
Fox Sports have become a staple in your home. Yet the
key word, which should not be underscored, is ESCAPE.When life imitates art or when sports starts to
paint a picture that is cruel and demeaning, it is up to
us as men, to take notice and act responsibility. I am
speaking about the recent rash of domestic violence,
involving athletes, that have been for the most part
swept under the rug, especially in the past year and
sadly, one can look no further than the National
Football League, this nation’s perennial favorite sport
as an example.
Ray Rice, running back and Super bowl Champion for the
Baltimore Ravens, was caught hitting his then fiancée
Janel Palmer, with an open fist on camera, in a hotel
elevator. When the couple emerged from the elevator, Ray
Rice was seen dragging Palmer’s body across the floor.
Even more troubling, Palmer not only married Rice the
next day, but during their press conference, held at
team headquarters two weeks later, Palmer apologized for
her role in the scandal, but there was no public apology
given by Rice to Palmer. The NFL’s response was…….wait
for it, two game suspensions for Rice. If you or I had
done something like this, we would be put under the
jail. Two games is virtually no punishment at all. Yet,
it doesn’t stop in the NFL.
Consider the case of former New York Knick now Dallas
Mavericks guard Raymond Felton. His soon to be ex-wife,
had threatened to leave him for his adultery. Felton’s
response was to buy a gun and threaten his wife with her
life. Should we be thankful he didn’t pistol whip her?
He was able to plead to a misdemeanor and face no jail
time, without missing a beat in his career. Hopefully,
the NBA will act with more force and issue a suspension
that is more meaningful than the one Rice received from
I’m not trying
to point the blame on athletes here. Men in general
should NEVER (let me repeat myself) NEVER EVER, put
their hands on a woman. I don’t care if she is
threatening you. You need to be man enough to walk away.
It’s not about being arrested if you hit her, it’s not
about maintaining your reputation or pride;It’s all about respecting yourself and the sex
whom provided you with life and or the lives of your
Just because we may idolize athletes, doesn’t mean we
should imitate them. Real men are confident within
themselves and certainly do not act like children by
putting their hands on women.
Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for
over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with
her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided
in California and New York. Besides advocating for
Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child
advocate and is a strong believer in Size
Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling
the world and being an ambassador for the fat
community. Her personal motto is, “FAT CHICKS
The Word Fat
It took me over thirty years to understand that the word
fat is not a bad word. Someone would call me fat and I
would be so hurt and devastated.Being fat was shameful, wrong, and a one-way trip
to Loserville.I vividly remember being 11 years old and my aunt
coming to visit from Norway.I was so excited to see her; it had been at least
When she arrived at the house I waited for her at the
top of the stairs with my arms open and a big smile on
She came up the stairs, leaned down to hug me and
whispered in my ear, “You are too fat”, with a smile on
was devastated and my relationship with her was never
the same after that.
Now I know that fat is just…fat.It’s just a description, like tall, short,
skinny, etc.It’s a state of being that has nothing to do with
my worth as a person.Don’t get me wrong, there are plenty of people in
the world who would like us all to believe that your
body weight should determine your worth.Those types of people are controlled by
insecurity and self-doubt and want the rest of us to
feel the same way.We all know misery loves company.Think about it, if a perfect stranger publically
insults you or ridicules you for being fat they are
actually demonstrating a fight-or-flight reaction to
are like scared dogs who are deciding whether to bite or
they are scared is not your problem, it’s theirs!
The truth is that nobody can make you feel bad about
yourself unless allow it. Once you learn to love and
accept yourself where you are at negative people lose
their power over you.What matters is how YOU feel about your body.If you are fat, be fat and move on to more
important things in life.If you want to makes changes, inside or outside,
make sure you are doing it for yourself and then do it.If you feel hurt when someone remarks on your
weight then you need to ask yourself why you are giving
that person so much power in your life.Just because someone is trying to hurt your
feelings doesn’t mean you have to buy into it.Other people are not responsible for your
feelings, you are.Especially when to comes to hurt feelings; your
emotional response belongs to you and you alone.That is a hard thing to take ownership of but it
is life changing when you do
Life is short.We don’t have time to sit around feeling bad
about ourselves!If you want to change something about yourself,
and have the power to do so, then do it!It’s also okay to look at yourself in the mirror
and like what you see, whatever you see.Maybe you need to start with just accepting what
you see and then working towards liking it.We all have to start somewhere.That goes for every person on the planet.We are all different and we have to stop trying
to box each other in and just enjoy the diversity of
the first step and learn to see your own beauty.It’s there.