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Ruben Esq. - BBW Artist
In 2008 I finally got to find out more about an
artist who I didnt know, but I knew his art. I like many others
had seen the images of Ruben Esq. BBW art. They were shared on the
internet, used by others on social networking pages. Many had been
edited and used a graphic images for various reasons.
But who was this artist who captured such a sexy
playful spirt to his artwork. His love of the larger female form
is easily scene and it is celebrated. While every piece of work
may not resemble every woman. I believe every woman can look at Ruben's
pieces and see a piece of herself.
The happiness, the joy, the freedom, the fun,
the silly, the sexy, the giddy, the gracefulness and so much more is
protrayed in these delightful expressions.
This month I would like to reintroduce you to
Ruben Esq. and his work. I know you will be as intrigued as
I was the first time I saw one of his pieces.
ORGINAL INTERVIEW BELOW: Click the magazine
cover to check it out.
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and what is your current Location?
I was born and grew up in New York City. I live in Los Angeles.
When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine?NOTE: if you donít remember exact date and issue I can look that
up for you.Put Please Look
Up as the answer.
Issue #49 - April 2008
LargeInCharge.com: Please tell us why you were featured?
I was featured for my art, which is a pin-up style, focused on large
you feel when you appeared in LargeInCharge?
I was pleased to get the recognition and the positive reaction to my
work. At the time I didnít expect to get any kind of media attention for
my work, although in the early 90s I did some pin up work for a menís
magazine and published three sketchbooks of my drawings. My publishing
career ended after a few years and I went back to where I started: doing
my pin up art for myself.
In the mid-90s (unknown to me at the time) sketches from my books were
being posted onto the net. A lot were low-resolution scans from my
sketchbooks, and a lot were bad copies or tracings of my drawings. When
I became more active on the net, I discovered that my work was popular
(I saw my drawings ďappropriatedĒ a lot), but my name was removed so no
one knew who did the work. I decided I needed to be more active in
social media to set people straight about who was responsible for the
art they enjoyed. I started out on MySpace, eventually began a blog, and
then moved on to Facebook where most of my online activity is right now.
you feel now about being included in our special Decade editions?
Iím honored that my work made such an impression that I was invited to
be featured again.
LargeInCharge.com: How has your life and endeavors changed since your
Becoming more active in social media has gained me many fans that are
engaged with my art and eager to see more.
changes have you made to advance your career/business?
I canít really call my Ruben Esq work a career or ďbusinessĒ yet. Itís
still a side project that I do when my day job allows the time. My
primary career, which I am still actively involved in, is working as an
artist in the animation industry. Iíve been producing Ruben Esq art in
varying amounts since 1989. Iíve started attending a few artist
showcases. Mostly local comic conventions in the Los Angeles area, Iím
also in the process of expanding my online store selling my art in
LargeInCharge.com: How long have you invested in your venture/career?
about some of the most exciting events/occasions, you/your business have
There hasnít been much public excitement for me. What I do is solitary
work and I havenít had many opportunities for public showings.
Displaying in Artist Alleys at comic conventions the last few years have
been it. Iím looking into making appearances at Plus Size fashion events
been featured in any press, on tv, newspapers etc?
Iíve had a few features in small magazines over the years. I havenít
sought media attention. LargeInCharge found me.
LargeInCharge.com: What changes have you seen for plus sized people
since your first appearance?
Social media has made it easier for people to meet and talk with each
other. The biggest improvement Iíve seen are big people feeling less
isolated. More people have told me my art helps them feel better about
themselves. Itís given me a sense that Iím doing something a little more
valuable than making sexy, entertaining pictures. Thereís a lot of
support thatís needed to be given for the self-images of big people,
especially women. My work isnít political. My art isnít built to carry
the weight of any kind of size acceptance movement. As Iíve recently
come to realize, I donít share my work to change peopleís minds about
how they should think. I share my work to show the people who think as I
do that theyíre not alone.
LargeInCharge.com: Are there any changes you had to make for your
Yes, but I havenít made many of them yet. I need to produce more art on
a regular basis and learn to market it more effectively.
LargeInCharge.com: What are some of the most important things you have
learned through the years?
Not to let your spirit be crushed. We live in a culture that works daily
to force everyone to submit to a narrow definition of attractiveness. It
will destroy you if you let it. Donít let it. You donít benefit by
accepting the disapproval of others, they do.
LargeInCharge.com: How is your standing in the Plus Sized Community
among the people?Good
feedback, negative feedback, learning lessons?
What feedback I have gotten is extremely good. My work has been very
well received and I look forward to creating more. So many women have
told me that my art helps them feel more attractive that I believe that
alone is a good reason for me to keep creating. It also may help others
see the large people around them a little differently.
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say inspires you most in life?
The love of my family and friends, and being able to appreciate the art
that other people make.
ventures/items/products you have planned for the future?
Iím working on having a new sketchbook published within a month. Iím
also going to test how much response I get to other items I would like
to offer like prints of my art, a series of t-shirts and possibly
limited edition sculptures made from my designs.
LargeInCharge.com: What are your future goals?
Making a second career of Ruben Esq. I want to create more and reach
more people with my art. The responses Iíve gotten are very gratifying,
but I also feel something of a responsibility to create more art and do
what I can to get my images and ideas to as many people as possible.
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you give to other people of size
who might be interested in doing something similar?
If youíre passionate about creating anything of value specifically for
large people, donít let anyone discourage you. Many will try. There is a
lot of peer pressure and resistance to force your way through.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself/ your company/org with one word.
Right to this second, no ďone wordĒ description has occurred to me, so
Iíll just skip this question.
Thank you for
Reading The LargeInCharge Feature
Cover Model of the Month
in Memory of
This Months Cover Model is especially one that tugs at my heart.
I knew Sarah Cobb McPhillips and met her a couple of times in my
travels. She passed away from Cancer before she was featured as a
cover model and before I got the chance to grow a deeper friendship
with her. I was able to reach out to her mother who gave
permission to include her in our special Cover Model of the Decade
Now we are going to share some words from
her mother and send her our love and well wishes.
Sarah and her Mom LaVonne
"Sarah McPhillips was a wonderful, vibrant
young woman.She was
very artistic and loved life.Sarah loved to travel.She loved to sing and loved to draw, especially nudes of
Sarah was a cosmetologist and truly enjoyed
her work, seeing it as an art, and enjoyed talking with her
customers.She was very
determined to educate young girls and boys about being bigger and
being happy in your own skin.Sarah was a little bit overweight as a child but put much of
her weight on as a teen.
She had a problem with PCOS, which contributed to her weight gain.However, she didn't let others opinions of her get her down.
She had many many people make horrible
comments to her about her weight but she'd just smile at them, wave,
and say "Hi! How're you doing?".Sarah made more than twenty YouTube videos, in regards to
dating, make-up, and current social issues about bigger people.She wasn't afraid to take it on, even though, at the time,
she was battling cancer.
I was told by a friend of hers, from Canada,
that Sarah had been there for her during her own cancer, even as
Sarah fought hers.She
was very much loved by nearly everyone she met.She told me that finding the BBW Bash in Las Vegas, saved
her.The people there
were so wonderful and showed Sarah a different side to life.It changed her forever.And it changed us also.
She went to bashes in Chicago, Florida, San
Diego and enjoyed the acceptance and love she received.Sarah was very dynamic and loved people, loved life and loved
would have been so thrilled to be part of LargeInCharge Magazine and
was very happy that Raqui was even considering her.She truly believed in being happy with yourself, regardless
of what anyone else had to say.
My daughter, Sarah Anne, passed away in July
of 2011, from her cancer.Thank you so much.
Her mother, LaVonne McPhillips."
Issue #89 - August 2011
Words from Raqui August 2011: Click the cover aboe for her
I met Sarah Vegas Bash 2010 when we
shared a cab from the airport to the Tuscany. Me and Sarah
had that moment. When youíre going to a big plus sized
event and you happen to see another fatty near the area and
you both look at each other with that look that says "Hey
are you going to the Bash?" She knew who I was but I
didn't know her yet.
saw her again in Chicago 2010 Boo Bash. We had already
connected on face book and I found out she had Cancer and
all the cool hair do's she had were wings. I never saw
her so beautiful than when a mutual friend of mine took a
picture of her bald. I have watched her suffer with the
effects of Cancer since then via facebook. The bruises from
needles, being cut open in her chest to implant a port for
chemo. As she said "it was supposed to go into her
collarbone but her boobs were more accommodating."
She shared herself openly and freely, I admired many things
about her and seeing her artwork was something that I
enjoyed. She was funny, sweet and a downright spitfire
at times. Sarah was a friend to so many in the BBW
Community, how could you not like this silly crazy girl who
spoke her mind.
Sarah has now joined the rest of our BBW and BHM community
in Heaven. She didn't know it but I had planned on her being
the October Cover Model for LargeInCharge. When she
submitted herself this year (2011) I was happy about it.
Since she has just passed I felt it was right to feature her
now. Sarah promised me I could rub her head this year
at Vegas. We joked and laughed about it. I know she is in a
better place, No More Pain No more Suffering. You will be
missed, get things ready for when we join you. - Raqui
INTERVIEW: submitted by Sarah's Mom
LargeInCharge.com: What is your name?
Syrenne/ Sarah Anne McPhillips (Cobb) (Cobb in previous issue.)
LargeInCharge.com: Where are you from and
what is your current Location?
Born in Heidelberg, Germany and lived in Nebraska since age 7.
LargeInCharge.com:When did you first appear in LargeInCharge Magazine
as a Model?
August of 2011.
LargeInCharge.com: What made you decide to
apply that first time?
She wanted to be part of a wonderful age of acceptance and
awareness of size.
LargeInCharge.com:How did you feel when you appeared as a LargeInCharge
She would have been so proud and thrilled.I remember she talked to me after having met Raqui
and that she was hoping to be in the magazine.So excited.....
LargeInCharge.com:What changes do you see in Plus Sized Modeling?
She foresaw regular magazines and catalogs and tv using actual
plus size modelsÖ not normal size women that they called
plus size, Young people becoming more active in acceptance
LargeInCharge.com: What changes do you see
for Plus Sized People?
Sarah wanted younger girls, who are bigger, to be more accepting
of their size and not let others put them down.She believed if you wanted to lose some weight, go
for it,But if
you didn't or couldn't, be comfortable in your own skin.Know you're beautiful.Know you're not alone.Her videos were about these things.Many girls commented to her about how she made a
difference to them.How it helped them feel not so alone or to feel more
was all about empowering girls and guys to stand up and be
LargeInCharge.com: What would you say
inspires you most in life?
Sarah said, in her was her art was a big inspiration and form of
LargeInCharge.com: What advice would you
give to other people of size who want to model?
Go for it.It can
change your life and how you view yourself and others.
LargeInCharge.com: Describe yourself with
Thanks for reading about
Cover Model of the Month
Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com, Raqui's "Tell it like it is" style of
writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to
LargeInCharge.com. There is so much behind the woman who has
brought this magazine into existence. Being Internationally
known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling for companies
and being featured in magazines and documentaries from all over the
world. She has made a career out of her size and personality.
Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by
For almost a decade Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment.
With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to
individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet
world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her. Knock her
down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.
Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized
people online her grace and style has made people love her. Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will bend
the world to fit her, her way.
Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe,
and the Spanish circuit. Her many magazines appearances have
been world wide. She has hit American Television in 2006 with
Good Morning American and since has appeared on The Cristina Show,
The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.
In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything
but the horror and insanity around us. News Reports, Crime
Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in
what is sensational and wrong with this world, without focusing on
what is good in this world.
So this year I dedicate my column to all that is inspirational,
positive and helpful.
Be a Motivator
Disabled... it is a word that is used for many reasons.
In general to be disabled is to have a physical/mental ailment that
makes living life more difficult. Whether it is a physical
problem or a mental one. To be disabled is often a blessing
and a curse. It means that you have to say, it is harder to
get around, keep a job, live in general. All your really
saying is you need a little help from time to time, but often people
want to look down on your for being disabled.
I dont think
disabled is a proper word, I like to say diffirently abled.
You may being missing an arm or leg, you may be blind or cant speak,
you may have more weight on you or have a mentel ailment that
prevents you from being able to communicate, deal with others and
making a living and holding down a job almost impossible. Still that doesnt make you a person who is unable, it
means you need some help/accomidation, or certain things are not
your strong point. Still that isnt disabled, everyone has
their strong points when they realize they are worthy, loved,
special just as they are, and ABLE to make a diffrence, to have a
purpose in life
That is why this month I wanted
to bring to you a series of videos from a man I truly admire.
His name Nick Vujicic, the man with no arms and no legs. Nicholas
James Vujicic (born on 4 December 1982) is a preacher and
motivational speaker -- born with Tetra-amelia syndrome, a rare
disorder characterized by the absence of all four limbs. He
struggled as a child, eventually came to terms with his disability
and started his own non-profit organization Life without Limbs at
age seventeen. Vujicic presents motivational speeches worldwide, on
life with a disability, hope, and finding meaning in life.
He found his purpose through his belief system and by not
allowing him self to stay down. He motivated himself and found
inspiration through his belief in a higher power. He
encourages others to do the same to find their, purose their
inspiration. His work with school children is very impressive
and that is why I featured him in LargeInCharge some years ago when
I found out about him. He is a LargeInCharge person who doesnt
see himself as disable but diffrently abled. He thought he
would never have a life, no arms, no legs, how will he work, how
will he live, thinking who would love him, how can he have a wife,
how can he take care of a wife when he cant even hold her hand.
Then he realized his real worth and has gone on to change so many
other people and make them realize they are worthy as well.
So today will you think about what motivates
you? What keeps you from being all you can be? What has
killed your joy and are you going to fight to get it back? I will
close this article with a few words from Nick.
ďIf I fail, I try again, and again, and again. If YOU
fail, are you going to try again? The human spirit can handle much
worse than we realize. It matters HOW you are going to FINISH. Are
you going to finish strong?Ē ― Nick Vujicic
Angie BEE grew-up a standard-sized young woman, educated in
communications, promotions and planning.She became a wife, mother and ministry support member while
building businesses and her faith.
Through stress, age and a poor diet and while suffering from major
depression and attempted suicide, Angie BEE's weight climbed from
180 pounds to 360 pounds.She was diagnosed with high blood pressure, diabetes,
obstructive sleep apnea, an overactive bladder and poor leg
circulation.At the age
of 40 an anxiety attack and the decline in her mental health forced
her to stop work and look at improving her declining health.It was during this time that Angie BEE became inspired by her
younger sister Sonya Bennett during her process towards Gastric
launched this column and will return occasionally to contribute to
it, but now that she is three years-post surgery... her life is
focused on something new!
Now, celebrating her first year of a new life since having the
procedure herself, Angie BEE is healthier than she has been in over
a decade.Losing the
first 100 pounds was just the bonus!She is now diabetes-free.She has normal blood pressure.The circulation in her legs is normal.She sleeps without a c-pap machine and more!The joy that she feels is documented each day in her
syndicated radio show, a brand new weeklyTV show documentary and each month in this article.The Big GB stands for The BIG Gastric Bypass and it also
stands for "Getting (my life) Back".This article reflects how Angie BEE's life has improved... by
the grace of God and as the result of having Gastric Bypass surgery
on Feb 28, 2011.This
is now her life!
What Month Is This?
October was filled with Breast Cancer Pink Ribbon Walks and Purple
Ribbon Domestic Violence Awareness events.Communities rallied around people that were afflicted and
money and shared their survival stories while others wrote checks,
solicited others for donations and even spoke to politicians.You saw the large and the small, the "white and the colored"
(as my Bigmama used to say) and you saw men and women that had been
impacted by both, and your heart broke just a little bit for them
Well, what month is this?This is November: National "Eat All The Turkey That I Can"
Month.A month of
family gathering around food, A month where gluttony is appreciated
and anticipated, A month where competitions surround pie- baking,
cake-eating and diabetic comas running amok. A month where it
doesn't matter if the baby of the family is a little chunky; he's
gonna be a football player someday, so let him eat more!A month where more insulin in injected to offset the
additional carb and sugar intake and a month were diets fly out the
SHOULD this be?
November should be the "I'm Taking Care Of Me" month.
Think about it: last month, you brought awareness and
took care of others.
Next month it will be all about the gift list and how much to spend
on whom, by the time January rolls around and the weight loss
commercials begin airing, you will be too broke and disgusted to do
anything about it, so why not make November the month to begin
taking care of yourself?Think about it!
If on this day you dedicate to love on yourself in a few ways, how
much more peaceful and pleasant will your upcoming holidays be?
First:Spend 30 minutes
a day sitting still and meditating/praying with meditation music
playing in the background.Turn the TV off, turn the ringer off on your phone.Just spend 30 minutes a day being with you: the one that you
Second:Spend one hour
each week reflecting on your accomplishments and your goals.Write down where you have been and what you have done and
make a plan for where you want to be.Don't just let the car stock reduction commercials make you
decide to buy a new car; check out your pre-approval finance options
this month, and shop stress-free next month!
an appointment with your doctor this month and get a full blood-work
check-up!I had mine
and my A1C is beautiful, my cholesterol is beautiful, my iron and
blood pressure are beautiful so that makes ME beautiful!You should have seen the smile on my face when I strutted out
of the doctors office knowing that my insides were healthy.(The next day, I caught a cold... but oh well... I'm healthy
and beautiful inside... lol).
an appointment with your mental health counselor or your Pastor just
for a mental health checkup.Many people deal with depression and attempted suicide this
time of year.Let's
make November a "Mental Health Check Up" month and start therapy,
continue therapy, start a new prescription or wean off a
my new anti-depressant last month and I feel much stronger about
facing the stress of the holidays this month!
financial budget for where you are and where you want to be next
year.I know, some of
us are really broke and the thought of saving is a stressful option
but how are you ever going to buy that house or go on that vacation
or buy a new phone or pay for tuition if you keep waiting on that
Income Tax Refund Check?You can put away a little each time you get paid!Now, I only get paid once a month, so with this option I am
preaching to myself as well.If you tithe 10% to the church each paycheck, try tithing 10%
to your savings account.I know... I know... but look at how much you could save in
just 6 months if you do that?WOW!
I know that this may not seem like your usual article
from me.My column is
entitled "Getting My Life Back After Gastric Bypass" and this
morning I have to say that this article is exactly along that theme:I AM getting my life back after three years of losing weight
and regaining my health from having had the surgery.The Type II Diabetes and high blood pressure are now gone,
the overactive bladder is gone, the Diabetic Nerve Pain and
Obstructive Sleep Apnea are now all gone so now it's time to get
other things in order.
I am in weekly counseling with a therapist and have started
medication to manage the depression and PTSD symptoms, I am working
with my husband on getting finances, investments, savings and
spending in a budget, I am meditating at 8 am each morning and
setting goals for myself and our ministry.I continue to take my daily nutritional supplements
prescribed by my gastric bypass surgeon and I still exercise with my
TV partner from 1:00 - 1:30 with www.BeverlyExercise.com (I figure
that if THAT little old lady can exercise the way that she does, I
should be able to do it too!)
Sometimes, getting your life back means more than just
diet, exercise and loving yourself and the curves you are in.My scale still tips as 208 and some of my dresses are a 12,
other dresses are a 14; I'm ok with that!Sometimes getting your life back means giving your life over
to someone that will love you and guide you and give you peace and
forgiveness for all that you have done to yourself in the past.You donít have to clean yourself up to come to this
understanding; you can come as you are.Our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ is waiting for you to give
your life to Him.I ask
Him what I should wear and what I should say and which lipstick
looks good on me.Those
are the simple things but what do YOU ask Him for?Do you ask him to save you from Breast Cancer or that last
domestic beating or rape?Those are the simplest things in the world for Christ to save
you from... all you need to do is ask Him!
Let's make this month "I'm Taking Care of Me" month.Check your body, your mind, your finances and your salvation
this month and together we will still be large and in charge next
The Big GB - Getting My
Life back after Gastric Bypass
with Angie Bee
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit
civil rights organization dedicated to improving the quality of life
for fat people. NAAFA works to eliminate discrimination based on
body size and provide fat people with the tools for self-empowerment
through public education, advocacy, and member support.
This Column is dedicated to the tremendous
work NAAFA has been doing for over four decades. LargeInCharge
wishes to support NAAFA in spreading the word of its work, and give
the public more information into issues we as plus sized people
should be aware of. The fight for equality for people of all
sizes is one we support.
This Column will include News Releases and
Calls to Action from NAAFA Directors.
This Column has been Approved by NAAFA.org
Wolves in Sheep's Clothing
A special communication* that was published in the April, 2014 issue
of the Journal of the American Medical Association (JAMA) was
severely criticized by two so-called obesity advocacy organizations,
the Obesity Society and the Obesity Action Coalition. Why was it
criticized? Because the original writers believe that obesity is NOT
a disease and that two diet drugs currently being reviewed by the
Federal Drug Administration (FDA) should not be marketed without
more convincing evidence about the cardiovascular safety of the
Alright, letís get this straight. Two organizations that are
supposed to represent the best interests of people of larger body
sizes want fat people to be medicalized and want to allow
pharmaceutical companies to release drugs that may:
Have only up
to a 7% success rate
Advocate: a person who actively supports or
favors a cause
Lobbyist: a person who attempts to influence decisions made by
officials in the government, most often legislators or members of
you research the source of funding for the two dissenting
organizations, the Obesity Society and the Obesity Action
Coalition, it becomes apparent that they are the bestadvocatesthat
money can buy for the diet industry, drug manufacturers and
Furthermore, these are the organizations that are being enlisted by
federal agencies to represent the interests of people with larger
body sizes as stake holders. Do these organizations represent the
people or those that would profit from them?
These organizations do not represent the best interest of people
of large body size.
went so far as to run a story with the headline, "Nothing about us,
without us," the rallying call of the disability rights movement,
and proudly pointed to the fact thattwo
people who had sought weight losshad
told their stories at their meeting.
The cynical cooptation of language that activists have used to fight
stigma ("people first" language, and "nothing about us without us")
by organizations whose agenda is to smooth the way for corporate
profits is disgraceful. The "War on Obesity" is a war on obese
people, and the spoils are more bodies to widen markets. If
people want to support the health of higher-weight people, the first
step is to work closely with members of the community to understand
our lives and needs. NAAFA and ASDAH stand ready to educate and
Weight-Loss Drugs, Lorcaserin and Phentermine-Topiramate
Slim Pickings?, Woloshin and Schwartz, April 2014 JAMA
Founded in 1969, NAAFA is a non-profit human rights organization
dedicated to improving the quality of life for fat people. NAAFA
works to eliminate discrimination based on body size and provide fat
people with the tools for self-empowerment through public education,
advocacy, and member support.
Some of you make know me as web girl/Lulu from Fashion Find. WellÖ
Iíve move on to another one of my favoriteís pastime which is
cooking. To get you all up to date on whatís going on. Iím currently
pursuing a graduate degree at Ashford University I have a B.A.
degree in Organizational Communication from Southeastern Louisiana
I am most passionate about cooking. I believe with cooking you can
always growÖ I fried my first egg when I was 2 and baked my first
cake at 5. Cooking is an easy and dynamic experience if you have a
passion for a good tasting meal.
Motto: Cook with your heart not with your head.
If you have a favorite dish you would like to share please forward
with recipe and photo to
with Lucia Roth
In a few weeks, Americans will celebrate Thanksgiving Day. Yet
for many of us, the actual holiday is so full of activity that
we have little time for intentional, extended giving of thanks
to God. So, as has been my familiesí tradition for many years,
as well as grating a rounding the table and enjoying each
otherís company. My family looks for any excuse to get together
and Thanksgiving is the perfect excuse. With that being said,
one of my church members Mr. Anderson makes this mouthwatering
dishÖ Corn Pudding, STOP! Itís
not a dessert but a delicious side.
When you think of Thanksgiving, what images come to mind? Roast
turkey? Pumpkin Pie? Watching football with your family? Perhaps
the Macyís Thanksgiving Day Parade? I think of family, fun, and
enjoyable meal. So with that being said, try this Corn Pudding
with White Cheddar and Thyme. Have a wonderful Thanksgiving!
Corn Puddling with White Chedder & Thyme
4 tablespoons unsalted butter, plus more for
Preheat the oven to 350į. Butter a 9-by-13-inch
shallow ceramic baking dish. In a large skillet,
melt the butter. Add the onion and thyme and
cook over moderate heat until the onion is
softened, about 8 minutes. Remove from the heat.
Add the corn and cornmeal and toss to combine.
Season with salt and pepper and let cool.
In a large bowl, whisk the eggs with the
half-and-half. In a blender or food processor,
combine 1 cup of the custard with 1 cup of the
corn mixture and puree until smooth. Whisk the
puree into the custard. Then stir in the corn
mixture, cheese, 2 teaspoons of salt and 1/2
teaspoon of pepper until well blended.
Spread the mixture in the prepared baking dish
and bake for about 40 minutes, until the pudding
is slightly puffed and just starting to brown.
Let stand for 10 minutes before serving.
Make Ahead The pudding can be prepared through Step
2 and refrigerated overnight. Bring to room
temperature before proceeding.
Celebrating almost two decades as a Graphic Designer/Published
Illustrator, Jean Nerestant Jr (Jness) got his start as a graphic
artist in 1994, Still working as a graphic designer by day/ Jness
devotes time to his hip hop Culture, comic book art and Plus
Plus Sized Health Movement
time flies by I turn my focus to the topic of health. I have
often started an exercise regiment in the past just to
eventually get off track. The latest break between exercise
commitments has run way too long. Biking has been my favorite
form of physical fitness because it is practical and enables me
to getaway and take time to myself. Peace of mind has to come
with the good health package. I have noticed a recent increase
in plus size people doing Yoga on Instagram. This new leg of
plus size health inspired me to do the artwork featured this
month. I will create more pieces along this look and feel in the
near future to celebrate this new health option. I think I will
invest in a mat and get some Yoga lessons, the new year is
approaching and I want to start the new year right.
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Jean JNESS Nerestant Large In Charge
Hello there all my fashion loving friends. My name is Amy Lucas and
in this column I hope to bring you some new outfits that will make
you feel great and be Large and In Charge.
My whole life has not been devoted to fashion as my background is in
teaching Spanish, Math, and Science. I also have a masterís degree
in Central Office Administration.
With that said, I have been wearing
plus sizes for as long as I can remember so I do know the struggles we all
face to find cute clothes. I come from a smaller town in Michigan, which
means I have an even harder time finding plus size clothing in my area
since the choices are so limited; as well as, the sizes and styles each
Out of necessity, I started looking
online instead of just settling for the places here and have found that
other women could use the help too. I run a fashion group on Facebook
called BBW Fashion where I post something fabulous each day hoping to help
all those to find what they want in their size.
In my career, I've helped plus size
students and their parents to find fashion in their sizes that would help
them with their self-esteem and make them feel good about themselves. I
have also dabbled in fashion before this modeling for three different
stores, winning a cover model spot in July of 2012 in Large in Charge
magazine, and I was Ms. LBC 2008 for Linda's Big Connections in Chicago. I
look forward to showing you what is available in plus size fashion and
help you to look even more beautiful and chic.
19 Hot Halloween Looks
with Amy Lucas
Halloween is that time of year where you
want to find that perfect costume to wear on Halloween or to the numerous
BBW parties going on. There are many options out there but I have put
together twenty looks for you to masquerade in. If you find that any
costumes or accessories are sold out make sure to check other costume
sites as many of these are offered on other sites as well.
School Yard Babe Patent Mary Jane Heel in
black patent, sizes 6-14, $37.95,
Jay Hansen and Heidi Davis are size-acceptance advocates from Oklahoma and
co-own Oklahoma's only social size-acceptance group,
Oklahoma BBW, BHM, and their
Admirers. Heidi was born in 1969 and has been a large woman her whole
life, just as Jay has been an admirer of such plus-sized women all of his.
Heidi graduated High School in 1987, which is the same year Jay was born.
The two met online in 2005 and quickly developed a friendship. In 2009,
Jay graduated the University of Central Oklahoma with a Bachelorís in
English Education, and the following year he and Heidi started dating and
quickly fell deeply in love.
Heidi is experienced, blunt, pragmatic, down-to-earth, and strong in every
sense of the word, while Jay is intellectual, articulate, ideological,
contemplative, and gentle. Heidi is eighteen years Jay's senior and nearly
three times his weight, while Jay is 140 pounds soaking wet with a brick
in his pocket. He's a king amongst nerds and all things geeky; she's a
tattooed, rough-and-tumble, hard rocker to her core. Together, they are a
beautiful personification of the old adage
"The Skinny on Big Love with Jay Hansen" was started in 2013 with Jay as
the primary writer and Heidi as his muse and endless source of ideas and
inspiration. Together, the two hope to provide people with a new frame of
mind on love and relationships, promote open-mindedness and acceptance,
ask intriguing questions, foster conversations, and prove to the world
that titles such as weight and age, amongst countless others, should never
stand in the way of one's pursuit of happiness.
The Necessity of Give and Take
with Jay Hansen
When I first set out to write this column in late 2012, I wanted it to
be about how a relationship with two people of vastly different sizes
help take care of one another in a world that makes uncalled for,
nonsensical judgments about larger people. Itís because of this lens
through which I write about and you see our relationship that it is
almost entirely about tending to Heidiís special needs as a woman of
size. For once, Iíd like to turn that lens around and write about one of
the many ways Heidi actually takes care of me and my special needs.
The phrase ďspecial needsĒ is all too often being used as a synonym for
ďdisabledĒ these days. In reality, each and every one of us have some
sort of special needs, and a vast majority of them have no connection to
a "disability" in the traditional meaning of the word. It does so happen
that many of Heidiís special needs could be considered disabilities, but
certainly not all of them. Despite her invincible,
woman-of-diamond strength and
general confidence (I say diamond instead of steel because diamonds are
both stronger and prettier than steel) that I deeply admire, respect,
and love, Heidi is still a woman of size in a discriminatory world and
does have moments of self-consciousness and a deeply-seeded paranoia.
These psychological traits are among her special needs that fall well
outside of a "disability." My own special needs are cut from a similar
cloth; they tend to be much more about my mentality than physicality.
Chiefly among these needs of mine are that I am an introvert.
There are many stereotypes about introverts out there, and I don't want
to dwell too long on busting them or explaining what an introvert is,
but here's a very brief abstract. Extroverts, the opposite of
introverts, are people who gain energy through social interaction.
Introverts spend energy through social interaction. On that alone I've
already busted one of the most common myths about introverts; that
they're non-social, anti-social, shy, have some sort of social anxiety
disorder, or just don't enjoy being social. As I wrote about last year
after the Well Rounded Vegas Bash of 2013, since introverts spend energy
through social interaction, we choose when and where to spend it wisely
and only do on worthwhile socializing. I'm not much of a small talker
because small talk is often shallow, but at the same time it's not
exactly common to dive straight into meaningful conversation with an
absolute stranger either. This can make meeting new people a challenge.
I don't have many people I consider close friends, and I like it that
way. Those that are among my close friends are extremely close and
important to me, and when I want to "hang out" with them we don't feel
the need to go to a movie or out to eat. Quite often, I just invite a
friend over and we just sit and talk for hours and hours. So contrary to
popular belief, introverts can find great joy in socializing, but it has
to be on their terms, with meaning, not forced, and in an environment
where they feel safe to be themselves.
That is where Heidi's care and understanding comes in.
Heidi understands that socializing is extremely physically tolling on
me. I feel exhausted after just having half a dozen of her friends over
to the house. She doesn't force me to chat or make friends with people I
don't know. She even lets me excuse myself if I just become "socialed
out" and have to recharge with some "me" time, of which she gives me
plenty whenever I need it to write, work on a personal project, or just
be alone with my thoughts, even if she desperately wants my attention or
she has company over. I'm thankful for Heidi's understanding on this
need of mine instead of her thinking me rude or annoyed by her friends;
I can only hope they are equally understanding.
The only exception to times like these are party dates for our Oklahoma
BBW group. I'm usually well-rested and excited for them when they come,
but it's the micro-interactions that take place during the evening that
can stress me out. I'm generally capable of interacting with people I
already know to a healthy degree, but approaching someone new to
initiate socializing is still
difficult for me as an introvert and can cause significant anxiety.
Heidi is with me as much as possible when meeting new people, but she
can't all the time because of her limited mobility. In these rare
moments our special needs somewhat collide, because someone has to greet
new people and take photos of our events. Even though it's difficult for
me, I step up in these times because for me it just means a few seconds
of heart-exploding anxiety to walk up to someone, start a conversation,
take a picture, and walk away. For Heidi it means significantly more
stress on her knees, legs, feet, and back, which can cause permanent
damage. It may not seem like much at the time, but going and taking
pictures for her, getting her a drink from the kitchen, fetching
something from her purse three rooms over, and so on, all mean one less
time she has to get up, and all the less stress her body has to endure.
Then again, it may also not seem like much to give your partner needed
alone time, not force them to hang out with your friends, or respect
their very human need for privacy. This give-and-take is necessary for
any relationship, and in it we address each other's special needs.
Heidi takes care of all my needs, as I do hers, and introversion is just
a single example of mine. I still don't have my driver's license, I have
strict limits on how often I feel comfortable going out to eat each
week, I have a very non-conventional gender identity, I extremely obsess
over our house's cleanliness and organization at random, unpredictable
times, and I even have unique intimacy needs due certain physical
limitations of my own. I could go on and on, but my point is that we all
have special needs. You don't have to be using a mobility aid to have
them, and I know many people that are borderline immobile from medical
conditions or "disabilities" that have fewer special needs than some of
the most mainstream looking people I've ever met. So, as the ancient
Greek philosopher Plato said it:
I was born in San Diego,
California on August 30, 1972. Grew up in
San Jose, San Francisco, and San Diego California.
I Graduated from San Diego State University in
1996 with a Bachelors Degree in Journalism
(Radio-TV News) and a Bachelors Degree in
I interned with U.S.
Senator Dianne Feinstein from 1995-1996.
interned with CBS News during the 1996 Republican
Currently I'm a
Licensed Sales Representative with Pacific Shores
Real Estate, Inc. in Solana Beach, California
I'm Co-Owner of Club Catalina BBW Night Club
in San Diego, CA.
And a newlywed, married
to Kathy Edmondson as of December 31, 2012.
I am the father of one daughter - Safiyah
Edmondson (8) and stepfather to two young men,
Alexander Hernandez (22) and John Rhakman Macklin
I enjoy bowling, basketball, tennis,
football. I play 12 musical instruments. I also
design a web page for a real estate company.
Thirsty - How to quench your thirst without looking parched
with David Edmondson
Last month, Club Catalina of San Diego, CA, celebrated
its Annual Halloween Boo Bash. Judging from the 4
million plus views of The Booty Shaking Contest on
Facebook alone, it was more than successful. Pardon the
shameless plug, but we will be doing it again next year,
from October 23rd thru the 25th,
at the Crowne Plaza Hotel, in San Diego. Having the
benefit of being married to the owner, I got to see
firsthand, what itís like for a woman to have to endure
some of the seedy, shameless, thoughtless, perverted and
downright sad pickup lines that get thrown their way.I remember being in that half not more than three
years ago and fortunately for me, my wife Kathy somehow
chose me anyway.
I have to acknowledge that times have changed in the
dating game and the practice of pickup lines and tawdry
photos has advanced to the internet and cell phones
alike. First, I am not a relationship expert by any
means and if I ever say that I am, please strike me
down. I cannot tell you what will work for most women
1. Each and every woman is different
2. Iím not in the practice of helping you fill up your
phonebook as you should be trying to win one woman, not
sleep with 30.
Having said this, I can offer advice on what NOT to do
when trying to capture a woman. You would not believe
some of the things Iíve seen.
First, you wonít win any points with a woman by sending
lewd photos of yourself. If a woman wants to get to know
the real you, then sending those types of photos are not
going to win her over. Chances are those photos will
make the rounds to her friends, whom will tell their
friends and so on and so on and (you get the idea). This
will forever label you the creepy guyÖÖ.a label that you
will not be able to shake.
Second, repeated emails, text messages and phone calls,
every hour on the hour WILL NOT convince a woman that
you are in to her. They will only convince her that you
are in fact THIRSTY, DESPERATE and NEEDY along with
every other adjective in that category. No woman wants a
man fitting that description. This includes calling a
woman at ungodly hours of the night. If you have it that
bad there are venues and other outlets for that type of
Third, arrogance does not exude confidence and can be a
big turn off. A woman doesnít need you for money or
stature as she can get that on her own. Just as you may
feel she is lucky to have you, you must also remember
you are lucky to have her. Itís certainly alright to
brag about yourself but you need not make it a one sided
conversation as that will get you left at the
It all boils down to using your common sense. If it
feels wrong then chances are it is wrong. Women are
better at using their intuition because they actually
USE their intuition. There is a certain level of decorum
that should be applied when approaching a woman. Again,
I canít tell you what makes a particular woman tick,
because each of us as human beings, have our own quirks.
However, if you can avoids these errors in judgment, she
just may open the door and who knows, you may just end
up watching the dating games from the sideline like I
Freakie has been a member of the BBW community for
over 20 years. She lives in Washington State with
her two cats Boo Boo & Maxie, and has also resided
in California and New York. Besides advocating for
Big Beautiful Women she is a lifelong child
advocate and is a strong believer in Size
Acceptance (ALL sizes). She dreams of travelling
the world and being an ambassador for the fat
community. Her personal motto is, ďFAT CHICKS
I recently saw a Facebook post about a little girl named
Kyssi Andrews.She is fighting cancer and dreams of one day
being a law enforcement officer.She had already been made an Honorary Houston
Police Officer and was now being made a Texas State
Trooper; miniature uniform and all.
Normally I would applaud and enjoy a story like
this; that is my kind of ďReality TVĒ.Unfortunately it resembled ďrealityĒ television
programming too much; the whole thing was so
manufactured and staged that it took too much away from
her actual experience.It was all about the news coverage rather than
all about Kyssi.Itís
too bad that the people who made this happen didn't
approach it in a way that would have made it a lot more
comfortable and fun for Kyssi.They should have had an officer befriend her
beforehand, spend a little time with her, and then taken
her on a pre-planned "ride along" making her believe she
was that officer's partner for the day.Forget the media coverage.In this day and age you can get PLENTY coverage
from a few hidden cameras.I hate the "dream come true" shows that are more
about the ďSPLASH!Ē and less about getting as close to
the dream as possible for the recipient.It is not hard to make a six year old believe
Doesnít she deserve a little escape from reality, to
make forget her struggles and smile all day long?Shouldnít that be the focus of the day?
Iím looking for a job and I would be more than
happy to be a consultant on the next attempt to make a
childís dream come true.Iíll do it for free.I guarantee it will be a thousand times better,
and a lot closer, to what Kyssi Andrews deserves.What all of the Kyssi Andrews out there deserve.
Christmas is coming and we can do better.Sign me up.
To support Kyssi in her struggles you can donate here: