Raqui the Owner and Founder of LargeInCharge.com. Raqui's  "Tell it like it is" style of writing has brought thousands to her blogs and millions to LargeInCharge.com.  There is so much behind the woman who has brought this magazine into existence.  Being Internationally known as a wrestler/squasher lead the way to modeling, being featured in magazines and documentaries Internationally.  She has made a career out of her size and personality. Born and Raised in the Bronx NYC. This city girl is taking the world by storm.

 

     In 2004 Raqui officially moved into Size Acceptance and Empowerment and proclaimed she would become an Activist.  With the creation of LargeInCharge she took what she said to individuals to a higher level and made it public to the internet world. She is a woman who doesn't let things get to her.  Knock her down for the moment but she will rise up stronger and better.  Being a speaker on behalf of many subjects and counseling Plus Sized people online her grace and style has made people love her.  Raqui continues to set an example of a powerful woman who will not bend to the world, but find her unique place, and continue to support others.

 

     Raqui's appearances include, Uk Television, German TV, Japan, Europe and the Spanish circuit.  Her many magazines appearances have been world wide.  She has hit American Television in 2006 with Good Morning America and since has appeared in 2008 on The Cristina Show,  The Maury Show and The Tyra Banks Show.  Raqui has participated in numerous artistic ventures that have been displayed in some of the most prestigious galleries (such as the Guggenheim) across the globe.

 

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Raqui-ism - An End to 2014 saying Hello to my new Goals!

Written By: Raqui 


Inspiration

In this world we live in, it can be hard at times to see anything but the horror and insanity around us.  News Reports, Crime Shows, Newspapers, Online Sites and blogs are way more interested in what is sensational and wrong with this world, with out focusing on what is good in this world.  So this year I dedicate my comlumn to all that is inspirational, postive and helpful. 

 

Moving on to being LargeInCharge in My Life

With the end of 2014 comes the end of LargeInCharge Magazine.  The Radio show will continue, and I have other projects in mind for the future, but this part of LargeInCharge.com is closing down.  The back issues will remain, and I will always look back at the evolution from Newsletter to Online Magazine with a bit of awe.  LargeInCharge started off with 840 visitors a month, and now with the doors closing we have almost a million monthly visitors, that does not include the radio show, Itunes, youtube or facebook page.  It has been an interesting labor of love.

 

The decision was a difficult one; it feels like I am disconnecting a part of myself.  I have seen myself as a writer, and editor advance; I have seen LargeInCharge change from the simple beginnings, growing in the plus sized community.  I have seen the beginning, and end of too many plus sized organizations, businesses, events, and more.   Our community has lost people as well, some have moved on in life, and some have lost their life.  Those losses have been hard to handle but we made it through.

 

LargeInCharge was not an easy venture, it started with me, and one other person, me taking the brunt of the work, and all of the cost.  Somewhere along the way that person disappeared without a word of goodbye, and that abandonment was not easy to handle but I kept LargeInCharge going alone.  Letting people know LargeInCharge existed was not a joyful experience, as I was attacked online through almost every avenue I visited. On message boards I was berated called ignorant, stupid, uneducated and a waste of existence.  I was written some very terrible emails repeatedly; I was continuously harassed, and stalked by people in the community.  This Plus Sized Community that I was happy to find, one that was supposed to support, and encourage did not support or encourage me. The community I wanted to be a part of, and find a way to help (in my own way) didnít want me or my efforts.

 

This continued for three to four years until it finally settled down, the occasional message still coming through, but not the constant harassment as before.  I learned more and more that the plus sized community had a variety of groups, and clicks, that I didnít belong to because I had no prior affiliation or friendships among it.   I learned by reading, watching, attending events, and visiting message boards (though I didnít stay because I didnít belong).  Still I knew there had to be others like me who also didnít belong, and who needed a resource like I was trying to create.

 

This gave LargeInCharge a unique position, with no affiliations, sponsorship, or connections. I did all the work myself (except for my volunteer writers) so my costs were lower than if I had to hire a team of people to do all that I took on.  I was able to do as I wished, and handle any topic that I chose to, and I did handle as many topics as I could that affected plus sized people in life.  Many times I have been attacked again and again over the years, because I will not leave a stone unturned, when it comes to understanding the unique struggle that Plus Sized people (and their supporters) go through. Even the taboo subjects that others wouldnít touch out of fear of the backlash that can occur.  The blessings have been those blue moon emails, messages, or conversations of fear, thanks, and relief from those who have been helped, and were courageous enough to tell me their story.

 

Slowly but surely more and more people began to see me as less of a threat, along with some television appearances and work in the community; I was accepted through different avenues.  I enjoyed traveling, creating the radio show and video channel, and meeting new people from different areas of the United States.  I was asked to make appearances, judge pageants, speak at events, and cover other news in the Plus Sized community.  I began to be known for a no nonsense type of style, a person who says what they mean, who will not be scared to talk about difficult topics, and stood up for what I believed in.  I also became known for supporting others right to give opinions even though we differ.  I didnít attack others or berate them for the difference, rather allowing them to make their points, and me making mine, then letting it go at that.  I tried my best to give a voice to everyone, because I truly believe we all have the right to be heard, even those who I totally disagree with.  I drew the line at personal attacks and I think others appreciated that.

 

The Magazine grew, the radio show was started and, LargeInCharge changed in different ways.  Soon enough I was known coast to coast, and in other countries as an upstanding person in the Plus Sized Community.  Something I never thought would happen but I was happy, and I began to feel I belonged in my own unique way.  I was given awards, featured in projects; I became a person who was recommended by many in the community. Some considered me the go to person for information, ideas and problem solving, as I was always trying to be helpful and supportive. I have help others find necessary items to make life easier, given support when feelings were hurt, helped with cases of injustice; mostly I just tried to treat others the way I wanted to be treated. I was spoken about with affection, and the connections I made were ones of trustÖ that made my heart soar.  I will always be thankful to everyone who truly understood my mission, and who saw me as a decent individual.

 

I have been blessed to have some wonderful writers along the way, some couldnít stay and some stayed for years.   To everyone who wrote for LargeInCharge Magazine, thank youÖ your voice made this unique resource possible, and I will always look back with fond memories of your time working with me on a common goal.  I especially want to thank my current LargeInCharge team for the past few years.  I have had some dedicated and timely writers.  In the past that wasnít always so and in these past few years you all have made getting the monthly editions out easier for me, since more often than not you had all of your work done with a joyful heart.  I hope that all of you have enjoyed being part of the LargeInCharge Family and found it rewarding as well.

 

LargeInCharge also got to feature many artists, comedians, business owners, authors, models, raffle and prize sponsors, organizations and more through the years.  I am happy that you decided to participate in LargeInCharge, and grateful for your contribution to society and to the LargeInCharge mission of showing Plus Sized people by example, that we can accomplish anything, even in a society that treats us unfairly.  I hope for your continued success and that you will see all your dreams recognized.

 

Now itís time for me to have a dream, personal dreams, personal goals that I have always wanted to accomplish.  Ideas I want to bring to reality, things I have wanted to work on but I didnít have the time between life and LargeInCharge.   I have a long list to put a dent in and with the closing of the Magazine Section; it means I get to open up my schedule to goals never recognized.  Working more in my real life community, helping the homeless, and elderly, working on my art, and completing paintings I have only had the time to think about.  Taking some courses, educating myself in different interests, finishing any one of the many books I have started over the years.  Arts and crafts and learning new skills, getting back into music, a hobby I loved as a child/teen, some say I had a talent for.  I could go on and on with all the things that feed my soul, things I wanted to do but couldnít participate in much for one reason or another.  Now I can be LargeInCharge in my personal life, with my personal dreams, my personal goals, itís time for me to take my own advice, and do whatever makes me happy.  Itís time to be happy, creative, to stop longing for the opportunity, but to make the opportunity. When I leave this earth I want to feel deeply that I reached inside myself, and fed the creative desires that always were there, but didnít have the chance to surface very often.

 

Saying Goodbye to LargeInCharge Magazine means saying Hello to me.  A new more satisfied version of myself, which I truly didnít think I would get the chance to advance upon in this lifetime. Time to put me first, for the first time in my life it will be about me.

 

I canít wait.

 
Raqui
 
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